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About Eugene weekly. (Eugene, Oregon) 1993-current | View Entire Issue (Jan. 13, 2005)
See something you like? Respond to an ad! Call: 1-888-652-6385 v m A accepted or 1-900-226-2436, $1.89/min. 18 or older. To respond to a Blind Box: Mail a letter to Eugene Weekly, 1251 Lincoln St. Eugene, OR 97401. Attention the letter to the Blind Box name. GREAT OUTDOORS SWF, 40, seeks NS Christian met- rosexual, 35-50, confident, classy, good looking, can handle same in partner. Want to share the great outdoors, fine dining, movies, shopping. music. ☎ 4931 CHRISTIAN LATINA 44 yo. Latina seeking Christian boyfriend, husband. Kind and caring, like pets and movie watching. Looking for a nice, car- ing man. ☎ 4928 EXPLORER A need to feel the thunder from a man with a slow hand. Published author, spiritual trav- eler, 50 something SWF seeking fellow traveler to explore new pathways. ☎ 4911 NAMASTE My mind dreams of sun-kissed beaches while I realize uncondi- tional love all around me. Playful spirit, 19, loves life, yoga, nature and dancing to uplifting music. Seeking conscious connections. ☎ 4903 SUGAR DADDY? Single woman 36, petite, seeks short term “Sugar Daddy.” Must be Financially, emotionally sta- ble and not expecting LT, com- mitted relationship! I have very specific goals. Leave email address. ☎ 4902 BE MY VALENTINE Are you looking for your Valentine? Curvy SWF, 29, seeks SM, 27 to 34, who is smart, funny, into sports and music and who doesn’t mind loosing at Yahtzee. ☎ 4895 NEW YEAR, NEW LOVE WHO ARE YOU? LETS TALK SEEKING REAL WOMAN NICE WOMAN JOURNEY LOOKING 4 FRIEND I don’t care what you do for a living; I care that you want to hold my hand AND my heart, and that you want the same from me. I don’t care what “religion” you are; I care that you have experienced a Dark Night of the Soul and emerged with a deepened spirituality. I don’t care what degrees you’ve earned; I care that you are a student of life, learning and maturing emotionally with each new life experience. Big, beautiful SWPF, 47, Corvallis. ☎ 4907 DWF, 41. I can feel you, I’ve even walked by you one time. Stopped dead in my tracks, was so surprised, didn’t know what to do. Please call, I’m still here. ☎ 4770 I’m an independent, attractive and fun 36 yo SWF. I like hiking, biking, camping, gardening, traveling, movies, music, danc- ing, honesty, affection, intelli- gence and thoughtfulness. Call me, lets talk. ☎ 4759 Single musician, 30, looking for real relationship with 25-35 yo. female. Must be a fan of music, herb friendly, honest, and real!! Father of one child. Come on Ladies!! ☎ 4912 Active widower, 63, non smok- er, social drinker, good health. Seeks a pleasant non smoking woman that enjoys outdoor activities such as hiking, bike riding, rafting, dinner and movies. ☎ 4893 SWM, 45, long hair ISO F for life journey. NS. ☎ 4771 Hot, Bisexual Mexican Femme in search for a friend or more. Not shallow, looks not impor- tant. Hygiene very important. Me: 23, 5’7” black hair, hazel eyes. Let’s hang out, 7-Eleven anyone? ☎ 4881 LADY LOVE Let us wake to the sun’s sweet kisses and climb the moun- tains, drink tea from conscious cups and share our love of plants and life. Together we can change the world. SF, 20. ☎ 4876 LIVE TO LOVE Creative surfer goddess with an ambitious love for holistic healing and outdoor adven- ture! Well toned beauty, 19, seeks earthy, spiritually and mentally balanced soul, 20s, intuitive, who loves to laugh. ☎ 4875 HUMM Attractive, fit, passionate woman ISO similar qualities in 30-50 yo, healthy, active, romantic partner, who shares interest in spirituality and meditation and desire for fun, passion, creativity, and con- nection. ☎ 4756 Local chef and more seeks smoke friendly, HWP, 120 lb, 5”something, 30s, for inde- pendent study. Fun, artistic, music playing, and loving. Me: gentlemen, 5’8”, 150 lbs, nice. You too, please. Write me and I will contact ASAP, pics yes. Write Blind Box: “Treat Yourself.” ☎ 4910 MOUNTAIN ANGEL STAYING REALISTIC DIFFERENCE 44, petite fit professional nature lover looking to share holistic health, energy work, dancing, and fine wine in an intimate and romantic relation- ship. Spiritual and financial sovereignty a must. Namasté. ☎ 4768 Have trouble finding sock mates, much less soul mates? Now seeking fun, adventure, support, mutual interests. Friends first, more if match shows up. No static cling, please. ☎ 4747 Good speller, free thinker, wild soul, longing skin touch and deep conversation. Love rain, ocean, salmon, forest, wolves, yoga, philosophy, compassion, peace. Young, tall, fit, passion- ate, alive. Be real first. ☎ 4924 SPIRITUAL PARTNER NO SEX NEEDED Looking for a SF, 25-35, HWP, who would like to go out for coffee. Me: SWM, 30, HWP, career oriented, with daughter. ☎ 4909 FINGER THE PEANUT SWF, 43, almost HWP. I eat peanut butter out of the jar with my fingers, am overly sen- sitive, afraid of intimacy and obsessive compulsive. Want a macho 34 yo man. ☎ 4767 SNOW PARTNER LIFE’S FOR LIVING GOT SPURS? TOUGH 2BA NICE GUY Artist, teacher ISO a good con- versation that could lead somewhere. Serious and fun- loving, outdoors woman, inde- pendent thinker. Old enough to know better, young enough to take a risk. Are you? ☎ 4868 ISO the quintessential cowboy, rugged, hard working, athletic, kind, honest, content, 44 to 54. I’m attractive, fit, educated, easy going, healthy and happy. I’d enjoy sharing some good times. NS, ND. ☎ 4765 Sick of finishing last! S/WASP/M ISO 20s Waspy F for time spent appreciating each other’s com- pany. Friends, maybe more... Walk the bike path or beach, dinner and movie or pizza and DVD, no kids. ☎ 4922 A FEW GOOD MEN NO YELLING PLEASE LET’S HAVE FUN 50ish Vivacious redhead with sparkling green eyes and a devilish smile is looking for a few good men to enjoy life with. Let’s get together and see what life throws our way! ☎ 4772 Rollie pollie looking for weeble wobble that won’t fall down. 40+ year old looking for hand holder, I smoke. NO yelling, home, work most important. Are you seeing Modest Mouse this January? ☎ 4763 SWM 45 6’2’’ 200 blond, blue, stable, outdoors oriented seek- ing SWF without baggage in Eugene area for fun and travel. ☎ 4926 Date Girl BY JUDY MCGUIRE BROUGHT TO I ’ m r e ce n tl y ou t o f a fa ir l y s er io us r e la t io n - s hi p , an d st a rt in g t o m e et / d at e / sl ee p wi t h n e w p eo pl e . H er e ’ s t he q u es t i o n: W ha t ’ s a m an t o d o w he n he w a nt s t o d at e / ma t e a t hi s l e is u r e a n d s im ul ta n eo u s l y b e a d e c en t a nd e t hi c al pe rs o n ab o ut i t? A t w h at p o in t d o y o u h a ve t o st a rt t a lk - i ng e xc l u si v i ty a nd b o un da ri e s, a n d a t w h a t p oi n t a m I a n em o - fr e ak f or e v e n w o rr yi n g a b ou t i t ? An d i s t h e r e a g o o d w ay t o s ay , “ I l i ke y o u, b ut y ou ma y ve r y we ll s e e m e ou t w it h s o m eo ne e ls e? ” Sa f e se x , of c o ur s e, i s m an d at o r y. I n ee d y ou r sa g e w o rd s on na v i g at i ng t h e h ar d s t u ff . H el p a b ro t h e r o u t. O n t h e F en c e Negotiating the land mine that is the nonex- clusive dating lifestyle is an intricate dance that requires a near-impossible combination of cun- ning, daring, sensitivity, empathy, graciousness, and discretion. It should not be attempted by amateurs. Experienced daters, such as myself, know that you should never, ever expect that the lad (or lady) you just had a great date with is seeing you and only you. One must always assume that there is at least one other person lurking about 34 JANUARY 13, 2005 TREAT YOURSELF RIGHT Christ-free conversation, quilt- free sex,intimate moments. Petite middle ager wants monogamous companion for morning coffee, dinner, hikes and movies. Not looking for a knight in shining armor, just a funny guy who can dance in the kitchen. ☎ 4866 YOU BY in their bedroom. Like I said, experienced daters know this. It’s when the newbies barge in that you have a problem. You are not an “emo-freak” for won- dering about ground rules. In fact, your concerns show character and sensitivity. And the most sensitive course of action in this case is to say as little as possible. An ex-fling of mine was a total pussy hound who would’ve been much better off following my don’t-tell strategy. Instead, I’d suggest getting together, and he’d murmur something vague involving fitness or familial obligations. Turns out the fitness activities involved naked push- ups on top of some other girl, and the family stuff … well, maybe there was another lady who reminded him of his sister. Though he’d been trying to spare my feelings, I eventually forced him to admit that I was just one of approximate- ly 10,000 other women he was putting it to. Ouchie. A better tactic would have been to simply tell me that he had other plans. By not saying what those plans were, I would naturally assume he was seeing other people without having to hear him utter the actual words. Perhaps I’m thick, but I trusted that when he said he was Seeking intermediate to advanced snow riding partner for winter adventures and companionship. ☎ 4904 WHERE AM I? SWM, 29, lost in a sea of free- dom! Haven’t been single since I was 17. Looking to meet You. I’m skinny, but attractive, and not hung up on looks. ☎ 4898 ENCOUNTERS WM early 40s, in shape and attractive looking for women, any age for daytime sexual encounters. Clean and very very discreet. Write Blind Box “Encounters.” - ☎ 4894 SECRET SHARERS? Committed to your partner, family, but need more? Sigh. Me too. MWM, 42, tall, literate, attractive, passionate, kind, seeks similarly situated private friend. Can we talk, touch, love- make without disrupting our partners, marriages? ☎ 4888 LOVE IT ON TOP? Jack Sprat could eat no lean. Gentle, left, ingenuous sixties grandpa wants a big bottom mama for adventurous true love, music and dance, tantric and trance, growth and play and helping one another. I like romance, humor, walks, bikes, movies, reading and trips. I’m positive, laid back, warm, sup- portive and caring. 6’, 205, BR, BL. ☎ 4886 SWM, LATE 30S Long hair, simple values. ISO F, 25-35, petite, athletic, intellec- tual, progressive values, herb friendly for companionship, romance, love? Yoga, organic gardening, quiet lifestyle, country setting. ☎ 4769 SCUBA DIVER Handsome, athletic, SWPW, col- lege student, 39, 6’2”, 215 pounds, light brown hair seeks WHF 30 to 42, NS, ND, STD free who likes to dance, swim, hike, cycle and ski, for friendship, dating, LTR. ☎ 4762 LETS HAVE FUN DWM, 42, in search of BBW, 30 to 50 for intimate fun times. No LTR, just a lot of loving, touch- ing and squeezing. Please Write Blind Box: “Lets.” - ☎ 4732 HBO FANS UNITE Looking for some new friends who enjoy HBO. Over 40 and non prudish, please. I have HBO ONDemand, so we can watch whatever, whenever and dis- cuss it over a beer. ☎ 4877 HOT BUT SHY BUTCH Searching for Femme for more than hot fantasies. I am a poet, playwright, with love to express. Age not important. Alcohol and drug free. No games. ☎ 4864 WANT AN ASIAN Looking for kind hearted woman 40 to 50. I am 46, tall, slim build. Like hiking, beach, camping, kites, talking. Am nice, romantic guy. ISO Asian woman for LTR. ☎ 4887 A LOVE OF LIFE Youthful 51 years alive, cre- ative, communicative, attrac- tive and loving man seeks sim- ilar in an honest loving woman. Let’s share our love of dance, life, and every moment. I wel- come you. ☎ 4865 LOOKING FOR CANCER with Saggitarius rising, 1965- 1975 model. I think I am your soulmate. I am Saggitarius with many nice aspects; tested by fire and true. Let’s explore the possibilities. ☎ 4862 going to the gym, he was actually going to work out, and therefore believed he was seeing only me. Lucky for me (unlucky for him), our mutual friends are loudmouths and I learned everything the hard way. Which brings me to my next point: You’ll only be able to avoid the subject for so long, and if asked, you should never lie about it. That’s just sleazy. If you’re dating online, don’t lead anyone on by saying you’re looking for a relationship. There are plenty of dames out there just looking for a nice meal with a nice guy. (Or a hot fuck with a sizzling stud.) If a date asks you point blank if you’re see- ing anyone else, tell the truth, but with as little detail as humanly possible. Some say you should have all this clarified before you sleep together, but I say there are no rules in that department. Some women (like me) will ask. FUN TIMES AHEAD AESTHETIC ASCETIC Writer, gardener, tree-climbing dancer, reclusive, aspiring fool seeks earth and literature lover married to her own art, work, self for heart-busting honesty. laughter, uncertainty, autonomy. Drug and STD free. Write Blind Box: Aesthetic Ascetic. ☎ 4930 BIW GROUP FORMING The Bisexual Women’s Group, on going for 15 years. For all bisexual women over 21! Now meeting in Eugene. No mono- sexuals, no men, No TG/TS. ☎ 4896 SWM, 6’, 165 lbs. ISO males over 50 for some discreet, sexual, fun times. I have place to meet. Must be clean and easy going. ☎ 4917 FASCINATED I am fascinated by males. Want to touch and explore. Anyone interested? ☎ 4860 CHAMPAGNE AND SEMEN The New Year often begins with explosive liquids. Protect your- self, FREE condoms and lube available at HIV Alliance. 342- 5088. For All Gay, Bi Men, Trans folks and their partners. ☎ 4737 EBONY AND IVORY SWM seeks black male for dis- creet pleasure. ☎ 4764 Others won’t, either because they don’t want to know or they don’t really care. Just before my current (mutually established monogamous) relationship began, I was dating a very sweet guy who got himself banished from Judy’s McBooty after referring to himself as my “boyfriend” on our third (and final) date. One popular male course of action that should be avoided at all costs is assuming the woman you’re with is hell-bent on commitment. I can’t even count how many times I’ve had some presumptuous jackass give me a variation on the don’t-pin-me-down speech. Please. In most cases, the guys who delivered it weren’t even going to get laid in the first place. Assuming your date is some ring-hungry leg-humper is a one-way ticket to Smackdown Alley. Judy McGuire can be reached at dategirl@earthlink.net
