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GREAT OUTDOORS
SWF, 40, seeks NS Christian met-
rosexual, 35-50, confident,
classy, good looking, can handle
same in partner. Want to share
the great outdoors, fine dining,
movies, shopping. music. ☎ 4931
CHRISTIAN LATINA
44 yo. Latina seeking Christian
boyfriend, husband. Kind and
caring, like pets and movie
watching. Looking for a nice, car-
ing man. ☎ 4928
EXPLORER
A need to feel the thunder from
a man with a slow hand.
Published author, spiritual trav-
eler, 50 something SWF seeking
fellow traveler to explore new
pathways. ☎ 4911
NAMASTE
My mind dreams of sun-kissed
beaches while I realize uncondi-
tional love all around me. Playful
spirit, 19, loves life, yoga, nature
and dancing to uplifting music.
Seeking conscious connections.
☎ 4903
SUGAR DADDY?
Single woman 36, petite, seeks
short term “Sugar Daddy.” Must
be Financially, emotionally sta-
ble and not expecting LT, com-
mitted relationship! I have very
specific goals. Leave email
address. ☎ 4902
BE MY VALENTINE
Are you looking for your
Valentine? Curvy SWF, 29, seeks
SM, 27 to 34, who is smart, funny,
into sports and music and who
doesn’t mind loosing at Yahtzee.
☎ 4895
NEW YEAR, NEW LOVE
WHO ARE YOU?
LETS TALK
SEEKING REAL WOMAN
NICE WOMAN
JOURNEY
LOOKING 4 FRIEND
I don’t care what you do for a
living; I care that you want to
hold my hand AND my heart,
and that you want the same
from me. I don’t care what
“religion” you are; I care that
you have experienced a Dark
Night of the Soul and emerged
with a deepened spirituality. I
don’t care what degrees you’ve
earned; I care that you are a
student of life, learning and
maturing emotionally with
each new life experience. Big,
beautiful SWPF, 47, Corvallis. ☎
4907
DWF, 41. I can feel you, I’ve even
walked by you one time.
Stopped dead in my tracks, was
so surprised, didn’t know what
to do. Please call, I’m still here.
☎ 4770
I’m an independent, attractive
and fun 36 yo SWF. I like hiking,
biking, camping, gardening,
traveling, movies, music, danc-
ing, honesty, affection, intelli-
gence and thoughtfulness. Call
me, lets talk. ☎ 4759
Single musician, 30, looking for
real relationship with 25-35 yo.
female. Must be a fan of music,
herb friendly, honest, and real!!
Father of one child. Come on
Ladies!! ☎ 4912
Active widower, 63, non smok-
er, social drinker, good health.
Seeks a pleasant non smoking
woman that enjoys outdoor
activities such as hiking, bike
riding, rafting, dinner and
movies. ☎ 4893
SWM, 45, long hair ISO F for life
journey. NS. ☎ 4771
Hot, Bisexual Mexican Femme
in search for a friend or more.
Not shallow, looks not impor-
tant. Hygiene very important.
Me: 23, 5’7” black hair, hazel
eyes. Let’s hang out, 7-Eleven
anyone? ☎ 4881
LADY LOVE
Let us wake to the sun’s sweet
kisses and climb the moun-
tains, drink tea from conscious
cups and share our love of
plants and life. Together we
can change the world. SF, 20. ☎
4876
LIVE TO LOVE
Creative surfer goddess with
an ambitious love for holistic
healing and outdoor adven-
ture! Well toned beauty, 19,
seeks earthy, spiritually and
mentally balanced soul, 20s,
intuitive, who loves to laugh. ☎
4875
HUMM
Attractive, fit, passionate
woman ISO similar qualities in
30-50 yo, healthy, active,
romantic partner, who shares
interest in spirituality and
meditation and desire for fun,
passion, creativity, and con-
nection. ☎ 4756
Local chef and more seeks
smoke friendly, HWP, 120 lb,
5”something, 30s, for inde-
pendent study. Fun, artistic,
music playing, and loving. Me:
gentlemen, 5’8”, 150 lbs, nice.
You too, please. Write me and I
will contact ASAP, pics yes.
Write Blind Box: “Treat
Yourself.” ☎ 4910
MOUNTAIN ANGEL
STAYING REALISTIC
DIFFERENCE
44, petite fit professional
nature lover looking to share
holistic health, energy work,
dancing, and fine wine in an
intimate and romantic relation-
ship. Spiritual and financial
sovereignty a must. Namasté.
☎ 4768
Have trouble finding sock
mates, much less soul mates?
Now seeking fun, adventure,
support, mutual interests.
Friends first, more if match
shows up. No static cling,
please. ☎ 4747
Good speller, free thinker, wild
soul, longing skin touch and
deep conversation. Love rain,
ocean, salmon, forest, wolves,
yoga, philosophy, compassion,
peace. Young, tall, fit, passion-
ate, alive. Be real first. ☎ 4924
SPIRITUAL PARTNER
NO SEX NEEDED
Looking for a SF, 25-35, HWP,
who would like to go out for
coffee. Me: SWM, 30, HWP,
career oriented, with daughter.
☎ 4909
FINGER THE PEANUT
SWF, 43, almost HWP. I eat
peanut butter out of the jar
with my fingers, am overly sen-
sitive, afraid of intimacy and
obsessive compulsive. Want a
macho 34 yo man. ☎ 4767
SNOW PARTNER
LIFE’S FOR LIVING
GOT SPURS?
TOUGH 2BA NICE GUY
Artist, teacher ISO a good con-
versation that could lead
somewhere. Serious and fun-
loving, outdoors woman, inde-
pendent thinker. Old enough to
know better, young enough to
take a risk. Are you? ☎ 4868
ISO the quintessential cowboy,
rugged, hard working, athletic,
kind, honest, content, 44 to 54.
I’m attractive, fit, educated,
easy going, healthy and happy.
I’d enjoy sharing some good
times. NS, ND. ☎ 4765
Sick of finishing last! S/WASP/M
ISO 20s Waspy F for time spent
appreciating each other’s com-
pany. Friends, maybe more...
Walk the bike path or beach,
dinner and movie or pizza and
DVD, no kids. ☎ 4922
A FEW GOOD MEN
NO YELLING PLEASE
LET’S HAVE FUN
50ish Vivacious redhead with
sparkling green eyes and a
devilish smile is looking for a
few good men to enjoy life
with. Let’s get together and see
what life throws our way! ☎
4772
Rollie pollie looking for weeble
wobble that won’t fall down.
40+ year old looking for hand
holder, I smoke. NO yelling,
home, work most important.
Are you seeing Modest Mouse
this January? ☎ 4763
SWM 45 6’2’’ 200 blond, blue,
stable, outdoors oriented seek-
ing SWF without baggage in
Eugene area for fun and travel.
☎ 4926
Date Girl
BY JUDY MCGUIRE
BROUGHT
TO
I ’ m r e ce n tl y ou t o f a fa ir l y s er io us r e la t io n -
s hi p , an d st a rt in g t o m e et / d at e / sl ee p wi t h n e w
p eo pl e . H er e ’ s t he q u es t i o n: W ha t ’ s a m an t o d o
w he n he w a nt s t o d at e / ma t e a t hi s l e is u r e a n d
s im ul ta n eo u s l y b e a d e c en t a nd e t hi c al pe rs o n
ab o ut i t? A t w h at p o in t d o y o u h a ve t o st a rt t a lk -
i ng e xc l u si v i ty a nd b o un da ri e s, a n d a t w h a t p oi n t
a m I a n em o - fr e ak f or e v e n w o rr yi n g a b ou t i t ?
An d i s t h e r e a g o o d w ay t o s ay , “ I l i ke y o u, b ut
y ou ma y ve r y we ll s e e m e ou t w it h s o m eo ne
e ls e? ”
Sa f e se x , of c o ur s e, i s m an d at o r y. I n ee d y ou r
sa g e w o rd s on na v i g at i ng t h e h ar d s t u ff .
H el p a b ro t h e r o u t.
O n t h e F en c e
Negotiating the land mine that is the nonex-
clusive dating lifestyle is an intricate dance that
requires a near-impossible combination of cun-
ning, daring, sensitivity, empathy, graciousness,
and discretion. It should not be attempted by
amateurs.
Experienced daters, such as myself, know
that you should never, ever expect that the lad
(or lady) you just had a great date with is seeing
you and only you. One must always assume that
there is at least one other person lurking about
34 JANUARY 13, 2005
TREAT YOURSELF RIGHT
Christ-free conversation, quilt-
free sex,intimate moments.
Petite middle ager wants
monogamous companion for
morning coffee, dinner, hikes
and movies. Not looking for a
knight in shining armor, just a
funny guy who can dance in
the kitchen. ☎ 4866
YOU
BY
in their bedroom. Like I said, experienced daters
know this.
It’s when the newbies barge in that you have
a problem. You are not an “emo-freak” for won-
dering about ground rules. In fact, your concerns
show character and sensitivity. And the most
sensitive course of action in this case is to say
as little as possible.
An ex-fling of mine was a total pussy hound
who would’ve been much better off following my
don’t-tell strategy. Instead, I’d suggest getting
together, and he’d murmur something vague
involving fitness or familial obligations. Turns
out the fitness activities involved naked push-
ups on top of some other girl, and the family
stuff … well, maybe there was another lady who
reminded him of his sister. Though he’d been
trying to spare my feelings, I eventually forced
him to admit that I was just one of approximate-
ly 10,000 other women he was putting it to.
Ouchie.
A better tactic would have been to simply
tell me that he had other plans. By not saying
what those plans were, I would naturally assume
he was seeing other people without having to
hear him utter the actual words. Perhaps I’m
thick, but I trusted that when he said he was
Seeking intermediate to
advanced snow riding partner
for winter adventures and
companionship. ☎ 4904
WHERE AM I?
SWM, 29, lost in a sea of free-
dom! Haven’t been single since
I was 17. Looking to meet You.
I’m skinny, but attractive, and
not hung up on looks. ☎ 4898
ENCOUNTERS
WM early 40s, in shape and
attractive looking for women,
any age for daytime sexual
encounters. Clean and very
very discreet. Write Blind Box
“Encounters.” - ☎ 4894
SECRET SHARERS?
Committed to your partner,
family, but need more? Sigh.
Me too. MWM, 42, tall, literate,
attractive, passionate, kind,
seeks similarly situated private
friend. Can we talk, touch, love-
make without disrupting our
partners, marriages? ☎ 4888
LOVE IT ON TOP?
Jack Sprat could eat no lean.
Gentle, left, ingenuous sixties
grandpa wants a big bottom
mama for adventurous true
love, music and dance, tantric
and trance, growth and play
and helping one another. I like
romance, humor, walks, bikes,
movies, reading and trips. I’m
positive, laid back, warm, sup-
portive and caring. 6’, 205, BR,
BL. ☎ 4886
SWM, LATE 30S
Long hair, simple values. ISO F,
25-35, petite, athletic, intellec-
tual, progressive values, herb
friendly for companionship,
romance, love? Yoga, organic
gardening, quiet lifestyle,
country setting. ☎ 4769
SCUBA DIVER
Handsome, athletic, SWPW, col-
lege student, 39, 6’2”, 215
pounds, light brown hair seeks
WHF 30 to 42, NS, ND, STD free
who likes to dance, swim, hike,
cycle and ski, for friendship,
dating, LTR. ☎ 4762
LETS HAVE FUN
DWM, 42, in search of BBW, 30
to 50 for intimate fun times. No
LTR, just a lot of loving, touch-
ing and squeezing. Please Write
Blind Box: “Lets.” - ☎ 4732
HBO FANS UNITE
Looking for some new friends
who enjoy HBO. Over 40 and
non prudish, please. I have HBO
ONDemand, so we can watch
whatever, whenever and dis-
cuss it over a beer. ☎ 4877
HOT BUT SHY BUTCH
Searching for Femme for more
than hot fantasies. I am a poet,
playwright, with love to
express. Age not important.
Alcohol and drug free. No
games. ☎ 4864
WANT AN ASIAN
Looking for kind hearted
woman 40 to 50. I am 46, tall,
slim build. Like hiking, beach,
camping, kites, talking. Am
nice, romantic guy. ISO Asian
woman for LTR. ☎ 4887
A LOVE OF LIFE
Youthful 51 years alive, cre-
ative, communicative, attrac-
tive and loving man seeks sim-
ilar in an honest loving woman.
Let’s share our love of dance,
life, and every moment. I wel-
come you. ☎ 4865
LOOKING FOR CANCER
with Saggitarius rising, 1965-
1975 model. I think I am your
soulmate. I am Saggitarius with
many nice aspects; tested by
fire and true. Let’s explore the
possibilities. ☎ 4862
going to the gym, he was actually going to work
out, and therefore believed he was seeing only
me. Lucky for me (unlucky for him), our mutual
friends are loudmouths and I learned everything
the hard way.
Which brings me to my next point: You’ll only
be able to avoid the subject for so long, and if
asked, you should never lie about it. That’s just
sleazy. If you’re dating online, don’t lead anyone
on by saying you’re looking for a relationship.
There are plenty of dames out there just looking
for a nice meal with a nice guy. (Or a hot fuck
with a sizzling stud.)
If a date asks you point blank if you’re see-
ing anyone else, tell the truth, but with as little
detail as humanly possible. Some say you
should have all this clarified before you sleep
together, but I say there are no rules in that
department. Some women (like me) will ask.
FUN TIMES AHEAD
AESTHETIC ASCETIC
Writer, gardener, tree-climbing
dancer, reclusive, aspiring fool
seeks earth and literature
lover married to her own art,
work, self for heart-busting
honesty. laughter, uncertainty,
autonomy. Drug and STD free.
Write Blind Box: Aesthetic
Ascetic. ☎ 4930
BIW GROUP FORMING
The Bisexual Women’s Group,
on going for 15 years. For all
bisexual women over 21! Now
meeting in Eugene. No mono-
sexuals, no men, No TG/TS. ☎
4896
SWM, 6’, 165 lbs. ISO males over
50 for some discreet, sexual, fun
times. I have place to meet. Must
be clean and easy going. ☎ 4917
FASCINATED
I am fascinated by males. Want
to touch and explore. Anyone
interested? ☎ 4860
CHAMPAGNE AND SEMEN
The New Year often begins with
explosive liquids. Protect your-
self, FREE condoms and lube
available at HIV Alliance. 342-
5088. For All Gay, Bi Men, Trans
folks and their partners. ☎
4737
EBONY AND IVORY
SWM seeks black male for dis-
creet pleasure. ☎ 4764
Others won’t, either because they don’t want to
know or they don’t really care. Just before my
current (mutually established monogamous)
relationship began, I was dating a very sweet
guy who got himself banished from Judy’s
McBooty after referring to himself as my
“boyfriend” on our third (and final) date.
One popular male course of action that
should be avoided at all costs is assuming the
woman you’re with is hell-bent on commitment. I
can’t even count how many times I’ve had some
presumptuous jackass give me a variation on
the don’t-pin-me-down speech. Please. In most
cases, the guys who delivered it weren’t even
going to get laid in the first place. Assuming
your date is some ring-hungry leg-humper is a
one-way ticket to Smackdown Alley.
Judy McGuire can be reached at dategirl@earthlink.net