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Gresham Outlook and Sandy Post, Tbur*. Feb 4, ,982 —9 O u td o o r cerem onies Q u e stio n s o fte n asked Some answers fo r the m an Traditionally, when a wed ding is in the o ffin g , attention is focused on the bride. Friends and relatives alike g a th e r ro u n d to o ffe r s u g gestions and advice and, for the definitive word on any as pect o f her approaching wed ding, she can consult a wide v a r ie ty o f m a g a z in e s and b o o k s , w r itte n w ith her in mind But. what o f the groom'* Information gap The plethora o f inform ation available to the bride seems equaled only by the scarcity of inform ation available to him. To help alleviate this situa tio n . the A m erican Form al- wear A s s o c ia tio n has c o m piled the follow ing list o f fre quently asked questions w ith a n sw e rs— w ritte n w ith the groom in mind. Q . : W ho or what decides if the wedding is to be fo rm a l, semiformal or informal? A .: Those d e cisio n s are usually up to the bride, and are often determined bv the choice o f gown that she wears and the site o f the ceremony. I f she wears a long gown w ith a train, the ceremony is definitely form al. I f the bride elects to wear only a veil w ith her gown, the ceremony can be c o n s id e re d to be se m i- form al. form al ceremony, the groom may wear a black or white fu ll dress (tailcoat), while the tra ditionalist w ill wear the classic white tie and tails. Q . : I f th e w e d d in g is semi-formal, what do 1 wear'.’ A .: For a traditional day time wedding, a gray stroller w ith striped trousers. For a co n tem p o ra ry day tim e w e d d in g , a tu xe d o o f yo u r c h o ic e o r an updated stroller For a tra d itio n a l evening ceremony, a black tuxedo or a white dinner jacket. For a con temporary evening wedding, a tuxedo o f your choice. Q .: What do my ushers or groomsmen wear? A .: In a tra d itio n a l cere mony, the same as the groom, w ith the e x c e p tio n o f the b o u to n ie r r e w h ic h in the groom ’s case should be a sprig o f lily-o f-th e -valley from the bride's bouquet. In a c o n te m p o ra ry w e d d in g , the g ro o m sm e n may dress “ a step dow n” from the g ro o m . I . e . , i f the g ro o m w e a rs a t a ilc o a t , th e groomsmen may wear a short coat. Q .: What do the fathers o f the bride and groom wear? A.: The same rules apply to the fathers as to the ushers and the groomsmen Q .: Do I give a present to the bride? A .: As a rule, the g ift o f the wedding ring is considered to be sufficient. However, there is no rule against offering her a further token o f your devotion Q .: Do I owe a g ift to any o f the wedding members? A .: Yes. Some sm all g ift should be made to your ushers or groomsmen. Dress studs, c u ff links, pocket je w e lry or the like is appropriate. Those gifts serve as mementos o f the occasion. Q . : W ho decides on the type, place and length o f the honeymoon? A .: Those decisions should be made by agreem ent b e tween the bride and groom . T he a v a ila b le tim e fo r the t r ip and its type is u su a lly d e te r m in e d b y f in a n c ia l capabilities. Q . j W h o p ro v id e s th e b rid e 's ’s bouquet? A . : The groom buys his bride's bouquet and also the usher's boutonierres. Q .: Who pays for the hon- Q .: I f the wedding is fo r mal, what do 1 wear? A .: In the daytime, a cuta way coat and striped trousers. However, in some contempo rary weddings the groom w ill wear a white tailcoat, but tra d itio n a lis ts hold out fo r the gray cutaway. eymoon? A. The groom! Q . : W h o gives the h o n orarium to the officia tin g rev erend or judge? A .: The groom Q .: W ho pays for the rental o f the fornialwear? A . : T he g ro o m and the members o f the wedding each pay for their own Q .: Who pays for the wed ding'* A .: The bride s fam ily Q .: What are the duties of the Best Man'* A .: The Best Man attends the groom p rior to ceremony, hands him the ring to place on the b ride's fin g e r during the ceremony, and offers the first toast to the bride and groom at the reception. He also reads, to all assem bled, any and all congratula tory messages sent to the bride and groom at the reception. Q .: I f I am a member o f the m ilita ry is it correct for me to be m arried in uniform ? A .: In the U .S ., one usu ally only wears a uniform i f on active service. In that case it is correct to wear fu ll dress ( if you have it) or, at least, your Class A ’s. no lo n g e r unusual edding in a A n o u tdo o r wedding be a cha in g way to c e le b ra te th is m om entous, once in -a -life - time occasion. But, no matter how much you planned, there is s till a chance that the unforeseen w ill o ccu r. The n e ig h b o r's dog m ig h t decide to take a stroll down the aisle w ith the bnde; it could start raining; or some bees might attach them selves to the hndal bouquet. B u t, w hatever happens the best remedy is to remain gra- The receiving line is an ex cellent way for both families to meet and it is a warm, friendly way to start the reception off. Usually it is formed as the wedding guests arrive at the r e c e p t io n , th o u g h som e people prefer it to take place in the church vestibule right after the ceremony. It's a good idea to go over the guest list beforehand, but even if you forget some names, d o n 't p a n ic—ju s t sm ile and ask. Each person should then introduce the next person in line. ('h r istituì 'Kosetti w e d d in g s Are O ur S pecially Fresh or Silk Flow ers D istinctive Bouquets W e c u s lo n i d esig n «ill flo ra l a rra n g e m e n ts to suit y o u r w e d d in g style. Y ou ca n < house fresh, s ilk or d rie d flo w e rs for y o u r Day. . 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The traditional line-up is as follows: m other o f the bride, g ro o m 's m oth e r, b rid e and groom, the maid o f honor and then the bridesmaids. The bride 's father and the ushers should circulate among the guests, and bring drinks i f desired to the people on the re ceiving line. It is helpful to set up a small refreshment table near the end o f the line to encourage m in gling Love is frfg a fkxver... theiouofattthe earth. J -s J It's your choice! For a contemporary evening ' cious and keep sm iling 667-0360 ’ if ir
