Gresham Outlook and Sandy Post, Tbur*. Feb 4, ,982 —9
O u td o o r cerem onies
Q u e stio n s o fte n asked
Some answers fo r the m an
Traditionally, when a wed
ding is in the o ffin g , attention
is focused on the bride.
Friends and relatives alike
g a th e r ro u n d to o ffe r s u g
gestions and advice and, for
the definitive word on any as
pect o f her approaching wed
ding, she can consult a wide
v a r ie ty o f m a g a z in e s and
b o o k s , w r itte n w ith her in
mind But. what o f the groom'*
Information gap
The plethora o f inform ation
available to the bride seems
equaled only by the scarcity of
inform ation available to him.
To help alleviate this situa
tio n . the A m erican Form al-
wear A s s o c ia tio n has c o m
piled the follow ing list o f fre
quently asked questions w ith
a n sw e rs— w ritte n w ith the
groom in mind.
Q . : W ho or what decides if
the wedding is to be fo rm a l,
semiformal or informal?
A .: Those d e cisio n s are
usually up to the bride, and are
often determined bv the choice
o f gown that she wears and the
site o f the ceremony.
I f she wears a long gown
w ith a train, the ceremony is
definitely form al. I f the bride
elects to wear only a veil w ith
her gown, the ceremony can
be c o n s id e re d to be se m i-
form al.
form al ceremony, the groom
may wear a black or white fu ll
dress (tailcoat), while the tra
ditionalist w ill wear the classic
white tie and tails.
Q . : I f th e w e d d in g is
semi-formal, what do 1 wear'.’
A .: For a traditional day
time wedding, a gray stroller
w ith striped trousers.
For a co n tem p o ra ry day
tim e w e d d in g , a tu xe d o o f
yo u r c h o ic e o r an updated
stroller
For a tra d itio n a l evening
ceremony, a black tuxedo or a
white dinner jacket. For a con
temporary evening wedding, a
tuxedo o f your choice.
Q .: What do my ushers or
groomsmen wear?
A .: In a tra d itio n a l cere
mony, the same as the groom,
w ith the e x c e p tio n o f the
b o u to n ie r r e w h ic h in the
groom ’s case should be a sprig
o f lily-o f-th e -valley from the
bride's bouquet.
In a c o n te m p o ra ry w e d
d in g , the g ro o m sm e n may
dress “ a step dow n” from the
g ro o m . I . e . , i f the g ro o m
w e a rs a t a ilc o a t ,
th e
groomsmen may wear a short
coat.
Q .: What do the fathers o f
the bride and groom wear?
A.: The same rules apply
to the fathers as to the ushers
and the groomsmen
Q .: Do I give a present to
the bride?
A .: As a rule, the g ift o f the
wedding ring is considered to
be sufficient. However, there
is no rule against offering her a
further token o f your devotion
Q .: Do I owe a g ift to any
o f the wedding members?
A .: Yes. Some sm all g ift
should be made to your ushers
or groomsmen. Dress studs,
c u ff links, pocket je w e lry or
the like is appropriate. Those
gifts serve as mementos o f the
occasion.
Q . : W ho decides on the
type, place and length o f the
honeymoon?
A .: Those decisions should
be made by agreem ent b e
tween the bride and groom .
T he a v a ila b le tim e fo r the
t r ip and its type is u su a lly
d e te r m in e d b y f in a n c ia l
capabilities.
Q . j W h o p ro v id e s th e
b rid e 's
’s bouquet?
A . : The groom buys his
bride's bouquet and also the
usher's boutonierres.
Q .: Who pays for the hon-
Q .: I f the wedding is fo r
mal, what do 1 wear?
A .: In the daytime, a cuta
way coat and striped trousers.
However, in some contempo
rary weddings the groom w ill
wear a white tailcoat, but tra
d itio n a lis ts hold out fo r the
gray cutaway.
eymoon?
A. The groom!
Q . : W h o gives the h o n
orarium to the officia tin g rev
erend or judge?
A .: The groom
Q .: W ho pays for the rental
o f the fornialwear?
A . : T he g ro o m and the
members o f the wedding each
pay for their own
Q .: Who pays for the wed
ding'*
A .: The bride s fam ily
Q .: What are the duties of
the Best Man'*
A .: The Best Man attends
the groom p rior to ceremony,
hands him the ring to place on
the b ride's fin g e r during the
ceremony, and offers the first
toast to the bride and groom at
the reception.
He also reads, to all assem
bled, any and all congratula
tory messages sent to the bride
and groom at the reception.
Q .: I f I am a member o f the
m ilita ry is it correct for me to
be m arried in uniform ?
A .: In the U .S ., one usu
ally only wears a uniform i f on
active service. In that case it is
correct to wear fu ll dress ( if
you have it) or, at least, your
Class A ’s.
no lo n g e r unusual
edding in a
A n o u tdo o r wedding
be a cha
in g way to c e le b ra te th is
m om entous, once in -a -life -
time occasion.
But, no matter how much
you planned, there is s till a
chance that the unforeseen
w ill o ccu r. The n e ig h b o r's
dog m ig h t decide to take a
stroll down the aisle w ith the
bnde; it could start raining; or
some bees might attach them
selves to the hndal bouquet.
B u t, w hatever happens the
best remedy is to remain gra-
The receiving line is an ex
cellent way for both families to
meet and it is a warm, friendly
way to start the reception off.
Usually it is formed as the
wedding guests arrive at the
r e c e p t io n , th o u g h som e
people prefer it to take place in
the church vestibule right after
the ceremony.
It's a good idea to go over
the guest list beforehand, but
even if you forget some names,
d o n 't p a n ic—ju s t sm ile and
ask. Each person should then
introduce the next person in
line.
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perfect fo r s to rin g ice, and
lig h t foods such as seafood
salads, quiches, cold soup and
fresh fruit are good choices.
A separate table should be
set'up fo r the cake and bev
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There should be an alterna
tive space available in case it
rains. I f the ground is re la
tively flat, a large tent could be
set up.
Take o ff your rings to avoid
painful handshakes, and rub a
little anti perspirant on your
palms to avoid wetness.
The traditional line-up is as
follows: m other o f the bride,
g ro o m 's m oth e r, b rid e and
groom, the maid o f honor and
then the bridesmaids.
The bride 's father and the
ushers should circulate among
the guests, and bring drinks i f
desired to the people on the re
ceiving line.
It is helpful to set up a small
refreshment table near the end
o f the line to encourage m in
gling
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