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DECEMBER 21, 2007 JUStlOUt 133 for their skdl and fitness level. AX skill levels welcome f oreign Film Group meets every second and fourth Lesbian Garden Club is a group of women who love Sunday to screen foreign films it vinous venues, fol gardens and gardening They exchange plants, seeds, (503-772-1860 lowed by a group discussion Ipdxgeyf4m@yahoo. com.I advice and encouragement while having a good time ernes com/ncc 1127/forestpdx) www pdxgmc org.) Portland Lesbian Choir, led by talented artistic director . women Lesbians with Degrees is a social group that was start Portland for fun, friendship and exercise Saturday Tom 503 984-4549 ) Gay Women s Golf Group welcomes aX levels of play D ear M s . B ehavior : mg men to stroll m various neighborhoods around come and |Oin the fun1 Pool parties, Scrabble and more Ray Elliot, strives for musical excellence and making (Lam 503-233-3557 Jan kstserv at LesbianswDegrees fun-fiHed harmonies and is open and welcoming to all Lulu's Pervy Playhouse is a social group for self- Chnst. Solo and small group opportunities abound identifying women who are into S/M Play parties are (6:30-8:30 pm Wednesday 2941 NE Ainsworth St held on the second Saturday of the month. (503231-3992 portlandlesbianchoir@hotmail com dykedadi@comcast.net wwwkj/uspervypiaytiouse org.) the Pacific Northwest (Denise 0‘<t Dancing teaches dancing for same sex couples at Men Over 40 is a small, socially supportive group that for queers and supportive fnends of varying musical skill OutKayaking Portland’s gay aod lesbian sea kayak group, Duck Tavern. 19 pm-midmght. 439 NW Third Ave. 1503-790-2170 us! tango, cha-cha, etc. Call for schedule (503-236-5129 out dancing @yahoo com home att net! - outdancing) the first and third Friday of each month at Gail’s Dirty include the Rose City Swing band and a marching band Come join start the first Friday of each month country, swing, Night in Black Leather and The Leather Duck Club are levels with annual fall and spring concerts. Subgroups corps. in 503 654-3865 Lynn 503 7772339 kelravawdrop com ) meets second and fourth Thursdays (503-777-1376) Rose City Gay Freedom Band is a performance group flag activities Ankeny Street Studio Classes for different dance styles wwwplchoir org.) with ers (www turfgirlr com.) Lesbian Equestrian Group gets together for equestrian season begin Sept 19 at Ainsworth United Church of 503-727 3306 (10 am subscnbe@yahoogroupscom) Nonaudition rehearsals for the 2007-2008 explores the lakes, rivers and bays of northwest Oregon 503-224-8446 orfeatherfrat@yahoo com) and southwest Washington (wwwoutkayakmg org.) mfo@rcgfb.org. wwwrcgfb.orgl Oregon Men Enjoying Naturism is a social organization Satori Men’s Chorus welcomes new members of all PDX Pride Bowling League is recruiting for fun for gay male naturists/'nudists Social gathering second ages and races, regardless of sexual orientation or musi games Saturday of every month, (omenpdx@omenpdx.org. cal background, to join Wednesday rehearsals No audi Friday September nights through April. (info@pdxpridebowl. com.) wwwomenpdx.org.) tion necessary. <503 299-4454 wwwsatorichorus org.) PDX NetRippers is Portland's queer soccer organization POX FTM is a social group for female-to-male trans with competitive indoor soccer, outdoor scrimmages, men and their significant others, friends, families and General allies, (groups, yahoo com/group/PDX FTM ) Asian b Pacific Islander Lesbians and Gays is a non The gay Pinochle Group meets Sundays at Hobo's. profit community voice for gay, lesbian and bi Asian and Come play cards and meet the gang. New players Pacific Islanders Activities include potlucks, recreation always welcome (6 pm al outings and cultural events. Fnendly environment to 503-641-7224.) meet and connect with other API IPO Box 12661, practices for all levels and regional tournaments. (Kyle bendoverbeckham@gmailcom www.myspace com/ netrippers) 4030 NE Halsey St. Mailing address. PO Box 42034, Portland. OR 97242 Bad Girls is a social and educational leather and out to Latinos and Latmas by organizing events and Comcast net www.pdxbowl com.) B/D/S/M club for self identified women with an empha retreats and advocating HIV prevention. Meets every sis on safety and education. Workshops, discussions, other Monday at Outside In. (6:30pm 1030 SW 13th events and parties. Women of all orientations can Ave. Hugo 503-997-8615 orAudencio 503-261-5463 ) connect and ask questions during the Kinky Women's Portland Leather Alliance is one of the largest pan Welcoming Munch at 7 pm every second Tuesday. sexual, nonprofit B/D/S/M, leather and fetish lifestyle 1503-972-2233. wwwpdxbadgirlsnet) organizations in the Northwest. Regular social and Bookwomen is a lesbian discussion group that meets educational opportunities, including KmkFest, Leather monthly to share stories, favorite authors, top 10 lists Ball and Fall Vendors Fair, (www.pdxleatheralhanceorg.) and opinions and reviews of the assigned book Portland Leather Men meet every second Saturday for (503-684-0305. mikkata@comcast.net.) potluck and socializing. Meet men into a leather lifestyle Border Riders Motorcycle Club provides social oppor and keep abreast of leather happenings. No dues, no tunities for gay men interested in recreational motorcy formal organization, no officers or board, just leather cle touring and promotes education on safe and legal socialization for the past 21 years (360-896-6665 Portland Lesbian Book Club gathers monthly to chat about a chosen book or to attend selected events. Columbia. Dinner meetings Portland Lesbian Network organizes brewpub visits, golf events, hiking, kayaking, cycling, Scrabble games or questioning Jehovah's Witnesses who are queer. and movie nights and keeps you aware of what's going on in the area. Coqsure is a social group for people who were assigned J male, genderqueer, drag king, etc ). First Sunday meet lesbian, bi and trans people of all abilities and interests /Gary mfo@port/andfrontrunners org Join the Rose City Softball Association. Oregon s largest gay sports organization, for open and women's divisions of slow-pitch softball Regular season games are played throughout the summer at Gordon Faber Recreational Complex in Hillsboro. All levels of expenence are wel Rosetown Ramblers. Portland's gay and lesbian square dance club, dances at mainstream and plus levels (PO Box 5352, Portland. OR 97228-5352 www rose Ruby Red Flippers, a group of gay and lesbian scuba divers in the Portland area, teaches new recruits and takes dives in Tacoma, Hood Canal and other Pacific (PDXLesbianNetwork-subscribe@ Northwest Portland, . purposes. ! 503-286-4613 or 360-693-5506 Box She Rocks, a supportive rock climbing group for 5884, OR training events chosen according to skill level. Monthly 97228 ■ pdxprimetimers@ | welcome. (10 am Sunday wwwpdx-rrmc.com.) 1121 SW Stark All levels of play welcome. First time is free, subsequent St. times are $7 Please join us! (8 am-noon. 503-788-8192. teamportlandtennis@yahoo. com.) all genders, seeks to create solidarity among femmes, Rose City Discussion Club, the largest open pansexuaV promote femme visibility and combat femmephobia in orientations, fetishes and lifestyles that are safe, sane 50+ lesbian social group for women meets on the | FTM Pacific NW OR tr WA is a social and discus (groups yahoo com/group/FTM PacificNW.) Funny Ladies, a social group for nice lesbians 35 and potlucks on the second Saturday of each month. (flataps@Yahoo.com.) Gay Men Who Have Lost Their Partners meets at the West Cafe to provide an opportunity for conversation and socializing. The death need not have occurred (7:30 pm second Wednesday newsletter (503-972-1869 www.rcdc .org . ) is the only international organization specifically sup rcdc@telepwt.com porting young people with sexual minority parents. (colage@lmfamily.org. wwwcolage org) Sappho Social Club is a group of women 40 years and Gay, older building community through social and cultural 1201 SW Jefferson St. 503-701-9376.) Genealogy group forming Gather with other lesbian researchers to trace your family tree and tackle "brick wall' female ancestors, (famhistnw@aol.com.) school community is valued and respected, regardless Social OUTings is a social group for all interested in meeting people and doing activities other than bar- i of sexual orientation or gender identity/expression. (12700 SW North Dakota St, Suite 180 4129. Tigard. hopping. (kylemportland@yahoo com) OR 97223 Soyboys Vegetarian Men s Group is a fun, social gather www glsenoregon. org.) ing for gay and bi men who are interested m a healthy veg House of MOCHA (Men of Color Healthy 6 Aware) is 503-525-1177 glsen@glsenoregon org etanan or vegan lifestyle A variety of activities and month a group of gay/bi/same-gender loving men of color ly potlucks on the last Saturday (veggteguys@aol com.) between 16 and 25 who want to engage tn activities, Women of the Rivers, the Portland/Vancouver chapter of socials and community events among their peers the Women on Wheels Motorcycle Club, meets (Kourtm 503-417-7991 www brotobropdx org) monthly at Elmer's, sponsors riding clinics and takes Pnde Project brings together Washington County queer day tnps. (7:15 pm second Thursday 9848 N Whitaker and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social Road wwwwomenofthenvers.org.) events Also information, referral and advocacy servic Happy Ours Productions is a grassroots group dedicat ed to building the visibility, community participation and Lesbian and Straight Education Network (GLSEN) strives to assure that each member of every activities. (thesapphosocialclub@yahoo com.) older as well as their friends and loved ones, holds recently Children of Lesbians and Gays Everywhere (COLAGE) and consensual. Monthly meetings, workshops and third Saturday of the month. (4-7pm. 503-642-3360 or sion group for female-to-male trans men. YOUTH alternative sexuality club in the Northwest, is open to all the community at large, (www.notsorry org/fagpdx) 971-216-1173 sutaytig@aol.com.) Thursday 3702 SE Hawthorne Blvd wwwsherocks. Team Tennis meets Sundays at University of Portland Ride your bike or just come meet the group. Everyone F.A.G. PDX (Femme Affinity Group Portland), a radical meetings are held at Bagdad Pub. (6:30-7:30pm second wetpaint.com.) Rainriders Motorcycle Club meets weekly at the Roxy welcome. (503-281-2076. btghnboy@aracnet.com.I (rubyredflippers@yahoo.com. lesbians 18 and older, organizes year-round climbing and yahoo com. www geocities, com/pdxprimetimers) month in a Portland dungeon Masters and novices always waters, www. rubyredfhppers. org.) Portland Metro Prime Timers is a social group for mature gay men and those who appreciate them, (PO wwwportland frontrunners org.) coming together for social, educational and cultural ings are open to partners and families of any configura tion. (503-471-1515 groups yahoo.com/group/coqsure) activist and social group open to self identified femmes of marathoner, Portland Frontrunners welcomes gay. yahoogroups.com.) a female sex at birth but identify otherwise (female-to (groups.yahoo.com/group/PortlandGay es in Washington County. (Austin 503-260-5792 collective leadership of lesbian women of color through Physical Recreation austm@pndeproiect.org.) a wide variety of social, networking, consciousness- Adventure Group organizes a variety of activities year Sexual Minority Youth Resource Center (SMYRC) raising and action-oriented activities, events and round, including hiking, walking, cross country and down offers support, recreation, counseling and referral to gay, projects, (wwwhappyoursproductionscom.) hill skiing, rafting and mountain biking. (PO Box 2201, lesbian, bi and trans kids 23 and younger Drop in Portland, OR 97208-2201 wwwadventuregroup org.) computer access, pool tables and an informal place to Imperial Sovereign Rose Court of Oregon is the old hang out Weekly trans, leadership and art support est gay, lesbian, bi and trans social/fund-raising Amazon Dragons Paddling Club invites women 16 and organization in the state of Oregon. Meetings are the older to join Portland's only out lesbian dragon boat first two Mondays of each month, (www rosecourt org) team. Be part of the fun and fitness with this dynamic Jewish Gay Men’s Group -please call for meeting time and place. (503-246-5939 efraimlevi@aolcom.l Keshet is a social connection group for queer Jews and their spouses, partners, significant others and good friends, whether Jewish or not. It meets monthly for potluck dinners and special events. (David 503-226-7079, ext 14, or Mike 503-331-1111.) group (wwwamarondragons.org.) group meetings (4-9 pm Wednesday, 4-11 pm Friday. 2100 SE Belmont St 503-872 9664 wwwsmyrcorgj Queerzone identifies and meets the needs of queer homeless youth by providing advocacy, safety, support, Fits Bowling invites you to come join this fun, friendly, alternative league at AMF Pro 300 Lanes. (7 pm Fnday 3031SE Powell Blvd 503-234-0237.) resources, referral and a safe place for them to socialize and get the help they need (6-8 pm Monday, New Avenues for Youth, 812 SW 10th Ave 6 8 pm Tuesday, The Forest Group outings are cooperative adventures Outside In, 1132 SW 13th Ave 4-11 pm Saturday, for women Participants are responsible for providing Sexual Minority Youth Resource Center, 2100 SE their own equipment and choosing outings appropriate Belmont St.) Just Out -s published on the first and third Friday of every month The deadline for submissions is 14 D ear M ystified : Don’t make Ms. Behavior get all political, please. Just pick up the clue phone. It’s ringing for you. Some lesbians who appear to be frowning are actually smiling. Other lesbians have GERD from eating a big lunch of Doritos and hamburgers, so they can’t give you the big warm greet ing you deserve. Some wear heavy shoes that make them feel chronically annoyed. Others have hairballs from living with cats or going down on their girlfriends. Straight women don’t have to deal with these problems, so they’re pleasant all the time. They love their gay male friends, who have way more interest in their lives than their husbands or boyfriends do. It doesn’t mean that straight women are better; it just means that their lives are less fraught with irritation. Men who read hostility into the behavior of all lesbians might have a little misogyny problem. Perhaps you should Gixigle the words “feminism” and “oppression" and see what you can learn. townramblers.com) www. geocities, com/casflyers.) (acbportland@webtv. net.) levels Whether you're a running novice or a seasoned portlandlesbianbookclub.) A Common Bond is a social support network for former Dungeon Men POX hosts a men’s S/M party every other skill BasketballAssociation) (6:30 pm third Tuesday groups, yahoo com/group! in pdxbowl@ come (4450 NW 229th Ave wwwrosecitysoftball org.) Cascade Flyers are gay, lesbian and bi aviators, both British 503 722-0438 Portland Gay Basketball Association welcomes all plm@direcway.com.) private and professional, in Washington, Oregon and Portland area. (503-701-7922. casflyers@yahoo.com. —Mystified Hollywood Bowl Drop-ms welcome anytime. (3:30pm Poder Latino is a nonprofit social community voice southern Ms. Behavior ation is in its 28th season! Meets Sundays at group for gay, lesbian, bi and trans people that reaches | I am very curious and disturbed by the overt hostility exhibited by lesbians! I am a gay male, am active in the community and have had multiple opportunities to interact with all manner of people. As a gay man, I pose no threat to gay or bi women. I have also been told by straight male friends that lesbian hostility is the rule, not the exception. These straight male friends are liberal, nonjudgmental, cool guys (otherwise they wouldn’t befriend me, a gay guy). To hate and be hostile to half of the population of our planet makes no sense. 1 have been on the receiving end of this anger, hostility and very overt prejudice. BY MERYL COHN On the other hand, the intimately close relationship between gay men and straight women is legendary. What the hell is the problem here? Portland Gay fr Lesbian Community Bowling Associ 120 NW Third Ave Mike Portland, OR 97232. aplgjjdx@yahoo.com.) machinery. (503-281-4488. brmcprer@yahoo.com.) Dykes Hate Men ed for degreed women, but no degree is necessary Just Gay Men's Walking Group invites gay, bi and question upcoming events (bnda 503 909 2002) 1503-226-2588 wwwgeo Why are lesbians so hostile toward half of the population? Cal for a copy of the newsletter and information about Portland Gay Men’s Chores is open to singers, support members and volunteers imnoregon@comcast net D ear M s . B ehavior : My ex-boyfriend of a year dumped me last March. Most of my family didn’t know about him, which was OK until 1 needed a shoulder to cry on. Then my grandmother died. At the same time, all the responsibilities I had taken on at school came to a head. Nohxly offered me any real support. After high school, I’d decided to explore my interest in guys more. It’s been an interesting and fun five years. But recent losses in my personal life, coupled with the depressing squabbles for equality on the state and national levels, make me yearn for a heterosexual relationship, a “normal” relationship that 1 don’t have to worry about. I’m not afraid of dating guys; 1 just prefer to be low-key. My problem is, I have yet to meet a girl who I’m interested in dating. They prefer to count me as their gay friend, although I remind them I’m not gay. More to the point: 1 don’t want to go out and have sex. It just seems to me that all the girls my age either have a boyfriend or only want sex. I’m out of practice dating girls (not that I had lots of practice to begin with), and it seems I only know how to attract guys. Yet, I know 1 like girls, even though I’m a heterosexual virgin. 1 keep thinking that if I could get a girlfriend, I could verify to everyone, including myself, that I’m bi. Can you help me? —Bitten and Not Smitten D ear B itten and N ot S mitten : It sounds like you’d like to be bisexual. Perhaps you’d also like to be the prime minister of Italy or a backup dancer in Madonna’s next feature film, but it doesn’t mean you will be. It sounds like you don’t really want to have sex with women and they don’t believe you when you say you’re not gay. Bisexual men actually like sex with both men and women. You don’t, or you wouldn’t still be a heterosexual virgin. (Straight or bisexual men don’t actually mind women who “just want sex.”) Do you really want to force yourself to be with a woman just to prove you’re bisexual? If you haven’t had heterosexual sex yet, you’re probably permanently not in the mood. It’s sad to hear about the lack of support you received last year after your relationship ended, but your family might have been there for you if you hadn’t kept the relationship a secret. How could your family have known to be there for you when you didn’t tell them that you were heartbroken? It’s not clear why you think dating women would make you more “normal.” If anything, you need a big dose of self-acceptance, not some internal pressure to become someone else of whom you think your family would approve. © tiled expiration date listings are automatically deleted upon expiration To ensure uninterrupted list days prior to publication ing, please submit updated information at least a month prior to the expiration date Complete list OutReach listings of up to 50 words are provided free of charge to organizations and groups specif mgs are available online at www justout com ically serving the sexual mmonties community All listings are stib.ect to editing, and inclusion is sub Send listings to Just Out (attn Calendar!, P0. Box 14400. Portland, OR 9/293 0400 Fax submissions ject to space limitations, relevance and receipt by deadline to 503-236-1257 or e mail justout . ¡ustout com. Submissions cannot be accepted over the phone Listings expire once a year |in July), and submissions run from the date received until the next sched Please type your announcements and include full contact information. MtRYL C ohn is the author of Do What I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay and Lesbian Etiquette. Signed copies are available directly from the author. Send questions or correspondence to mshehavittr@aol.com.
