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for their skdl and fitness level. AX skill levels welcome
f oreign Film Group meets every second and fourth
Lesbian Garden Club is a group of women who love
Sunday to screen foreign films it vinous venues, fol
gardens and gardening They exchange plants, seeds,
(503-772-1860
lowed by a group discussion Ipdxgeyf4m@yahoo. com.I
advice and encouragement while having a good time
ernes com/ncc 1127/forestpdx)
www pdxgmc org.)
Portland Lesbian Choir, led by talented artistic director
. women
Lesbians with Degrees is a social group that was start
Portland for fun, friendship and exercise
Saturday Tom 503 984-4549 )
Gay Women s Golf Group welcomes aX levels of play
D ear M s . B ehavior :
mg men to stroll m various neighborhoods around
come and |Oin the fun1 Pool parties, Scrabble and more
Ray Elliot, strives for musical excellence and making
(Lam 503-233-3557 Jan kstserv at LesbianswDegrees
fun-fiHed harmonies and is open and welcoming to all
Lulu's Pervy Playhouse is a social group for self-
Chnst. Solo and small group opportunities abound
identifying women who are into S/M Play parties are
(6:30-8:30 pm Wednesday 2941 NE Ainsworth St
held on the second Saturday of the month. (503231-3992
portlandlesbianchoir@hotmail com
dykedadi@comcast.net wwwkj/uspervypiaytiouse org.)
the
Pacific
Northwest
(Denise
0‘<t Dancing teaches dancing for same sex couples at
Men Over 40 is a small, socially supportive group that
for queers and supportive fnends of varying musical skill
OutKayaking Portland’s gay aod lesbian sea kayak group,
Duck Tavern. 19 pm-midmght. 439 NW Third Ave.
1503-790-2170
us!
tango, cha-cha, etc. Call for schedule (503-236-5129
out dancing @yahoo com home att net! - outdancing)
the first and third Friday of each month at Gail’s Dirty
include the Rose City Swing band and a marching band
Come join
start the first Friday of each month country, swing,
Night in Black Leather and The Leather Duck Club are
levels with annual fall and spring concerts. Subgroups
corps.
in
503 654-3865 Lynn 503 7772339 kelravawdrop com )
meets second and fourth Thursdays (503-777-1376)
Rose City Gay Freedom Band is a performance group
flag
activities
Ankeny Street Studio Classes for different dance styles
wwwplchoir org.)
with
ers (www turfgirlr com.)
Lesbian Equestrian Group gets together for equestrian
season begin Sept 19 at Ainsworth United Church of
503-727 3306
(10 am
subscnbe@yahoogroupscom)
Nonaudition rehearsals for the 2007-2008
explores the lakes, rivers and bays of northwest Oregon
503-224-8446 orfeatherfrat@yahoo com)
and southwest Washington (wwwoutkayakmg org.)
mfo@rcgfb.org. wwwrcgfb.orgl
Oregon Men Enjoying Naturism is a social organization
Satori Men’s Chorus welcomes new members of all
PDX Pride Bowling League is recruiting for fun
for gay male naturists/'nudists Social gathering second
ages and races, regardless of sexual orientation or musi
games
Saturday of every month, (omenpdx@omenpdx.org.
cal background, to join Wednesday rehearsals No audi
Friday
September
nights
through
April.
(info@pdxpridebowl. com.)
wwwomenpdx.org.)
tion necessary. <503 299-4454 wwwsatorichorus org.)
PDX NetRippers is Portland's queer soccer organization
POX FTM is a social group for female-to-male trans
with competitive indoor soccer, outdoor scrimmages,
men and their significant others, friends, families and
General
allies, (groups, yahoo com/group/PDX FTM )
Asian b Pacific Islander Lesbians and Gays is a non
The gay Pinochle Group meets Sundays at Hobo's.
profit community voice for gay, lesbian and bi Asian and
Come play cards and meet the gang. New players
Pacific Islanders Activities include potlucks, recreation
always welcome (6 pm
al outings and cultural events. Fnendly environment to
503-641-7224.)
meet and connect with other API
IPO Box 12661,
practices for all levels and regional tournaments. (Kyle
bendoverbeckham@gmailcom
www.myspace com/
netrippers)
4030 NE Halsey St. Mailing address. PO Box 42034,
Portland. OR 97242
Bad Girls is a social and educational leather and
out to Latinos and Latmas by organizing events and
Comcast net www.pdxbowl com.)
B/D/S/M club for self identified women with an empha
retreats and advocating HIV prevention. Meets every
sis on safety and education. Workshops, discussions,
other Monday at Outside In. (6:30pm 1030 SW 13th
events and parties. Women of all orientations can
Ave. Hugo 503-997-8615 orAudencio 503-261-5463 )
connect and ask questions during the Kinky Women's
Portland Leather Alliance is one of the largest pan
Welcoming Munch at 7 pm every second Tuesday.
sexual, nonprofit B/D/S/M, leather and fetish lifestyle
1503-972-2233. wwwpdxbadgirlsnet)
organizations in the Northwest. Regular social and
Bookwomen is a lesbian discussion group that meets
educational opportunities, including KmkFest, Leather
monthly to share stories, favorite authors, top 10 lists
Ball and Fall Vendors Fair, (www.pdxleatheralhanceorg.)
and opinions and reviews of the assigned book
Portland Leather Men meet every second Saturday for
(503-684-0305. mikkata@comcast.net.)
potluck and socializing. Meet men into a leather lifestyle
Border Riders Motorcycle Club provides social oppor
and keep abreast of leather happenings. No dues, no
tunities for gay men interested in recreational motorcy
formal organization, no officers or board, just leather
cle touring and promotes education on safe and legal
socialization for the past 21 years (360-896-6665
Portland Lesbian Book Club gathers monthly to chat
about a chosen book or to attend selected events.
Columbia.
Dinner
meetings
Portland Lesbian Network organizes brewpub visits,
golf events, hiking, kayaking, cycling, Scrabble games
or questioning Jehovah's Witnesses who are queer.
and movie nights and keeps you aware of what's going
on in the area.
Coqsure is a social group for people who were assigned
J
male, genderqueer, drag king, etc ). First Sunday meet
lesbian, bi and trans people of all abilities and interests
/Gary mfo@port/andfrontrunners org
Join the Rose City Softball Association. Oregon s largest
gay sports organization, for open and women's divisions
of slow-pitch softball Regular season games are played
throughout the summer at Gordon Faber Recreational
Complex in Hillsboro. All levels of expenence are wel
Rosetown Ramblers. Portland's gay and lesbian square
dance club, dances at mainstream and plus levels
(PO Box 5352, Portland. OR 97228-5352 www rose
Ruby Red Flippers, a group of gay and lesbian scuba
divers in the Portland area, teaches new recruits and
takes dives in Tacoma, Hood Canal and other Pacific
(PDXLesbianNetwork-subscribe@
Northwest
Portland,
.
purposes.
!
503-286-4613 or 360-693-5506
Box
She Rocks, a supportive rock climbing group for
5884,
OR
training events chosen according to skill level. Monthly
97228
■
pdxprimetimers@
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welcome. (10 am Sunday
wwwpdx-rrmc.com.)
1121
SW Stark
All levels of play welcome. First time is free, subsequent
St.
times are $7 Please join us! (8 am-noon. 503-788-8192.
teamportlandtennis@yahoo. com.)
all genders, seeks to create solidarity among femmes,
Rose City Discussion Club, the largest open pansexuaV
promote femme visibility and combat femmephobia in
orientations, fetishes and lifestyles that are safe, sane
50+ lesbian social group for women meets on the
|
FTM Pacific NW OR tr WA is a social and discus
(groups yahoo com/group/FTM PacificNW.)
Funny Ladies, a social group for nice lesbians 35 and
potlucks on the second Saturday of each month.
(flataps@Yahoo.com.)
Gay Men Who Have Lost Their Partners meets at the
West Cafe to provide an opportunity for conversation
and socializing. The death need not have occurred
(7:30 pm second Wednesday
newsletter
(503-972-1869
www.rcdc .org . )
is the only international organization specifically sup
rcdc@telepwt.com
porting young people with sexual minority parents.
(colage@lmfamily.org. wwwcolage org)
Sappho Social Club is a group of women 40 years and
Gay,
older building community through social and cultural
1201 SW
Jefferson St. 503-701-9376.)
Genealogy group forming Gather with other lesbian
researchers to trace your family tree and tackle "brick
wall' female ancestors, (famhistnw@aol.com.)
school community is valued and respected, regardless
Social OUTings is a social group for all interested in
meeting people and doing activities other than bar-
i
of sexual orientation or gender identity/expression.
(12700 SW North Dakota St, Suite 180 4129. Tigard.
hopping. (kylemportland@yahoo com)
OR 97223
Soyboys Vegetarian Men s Group is a fun, social gather
www glsenoregon. org.)
ing for gay and bi men who are interested m a healthy veg
House of MOCHA (Men of Color Healthy 6 Aware) is
503-525-1177
glsen@glsenoregon org
etanan or vegan lifestyle A variety of activities and month
a group of gay/bi/same-gender loving men of color
ly potlucks on the last Saturday (veggteguys@aol com.)
between 16 and 25 who want to engage tn activities,
Women of the Rivers, the Portland/Vancouver chapter of
socials and community events among their peers
the Women on Wheels Motorcycle Club, meets
(Kourtm 503-417-7991 www brotobropdx org)
monthly at Elmer's, sponsors riding clinics and takes
Pnde Project brings together Washington County queer
day tnps. (7:15 pm second Thursday 9848 N Whitaker
and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social
Road wwwwomenofthenvers.org.)
events Also information, referral and advocacy servic
Happy Ours Productions is a grassroots group dedicat
ed to building the visibility, community participation and
Lesbian and Straight Education Network
(GLSEN) strives to assure that each member of every
activities. (thesapphosocialclub@yahoo com.)
older as well as their friends and loved ones, holds
recently
Children of Lesbians and Gays Everywhere (COLAGE)
and consensual. Monthly meetings, workshops and
third Saturday of the month. (4-7pm. 503-642-3360 or
sion group for female-to-male trans men.
YOUTH
alternative sexuality club in the Northwest, is open to all
the community at large, (www.notsorry org/fagpdx)
971-216-1173 sutaytig@aol.com.)
Thursday 3702 SE Hawthorne Blvd wwwsherocks.
Team Tennis meets Sundays at University of Portland
Ride your bike or just come meet the group. Everyone
F.A.G. PDX (Femme Affinity Group Portland), a radical
meetings are held at Bagdad Pub. (6:30-7:30pm second
wetpaint.com.)
Rainriders Motorcycle Club meets weekly at the Roxy
welcome. (503-281-2076. btghnboy@aracnet.com.I
(rubyredflippers@yahoo.com.
lesbians 18 and older, organizes year-round climbing and
yahoo com. www geocities, com/pdxprimetimers)
month in a Portland dungeon Masters and novices always
waters,
www. rubyredfhppers. org.)
Portland Metro Prime Timers is a social group for
mature gay men and those who appreciate them,
(PO
wwwportland
frontrunners org.)
coming together for social, educational and cultural
ings are open to partners and families of any configura
tion. (503-471-1515 groups yahoo.com/group/coqsure)
activist and social group open to self identified femmes of
marathoner, Portland Frontrunners welcomes gay.
yahoogroups.com.)
a female sex at birth but identify otherwise (female-to
(groups.yahoo.com/group/PortlandGay
es in Washington County. (Austin 503-260-5792
collective leadership of lesbian women of color through
Physical Recreation
austm@pndeproiect.org.)
a wide variety of social, networking, consciousness-
Adventure Group organizes a variety of activities year
Sexual Minority Youth Resource Center (SMYRC)
raising and action-oriented activities, events and
round, including hiking, walking, cross country and down
offers support, recreation, counseling and referral to gay,
projects, (wwwhappyoursproductionscom.)
hill skiing, rafting and mountain biking. (PO Box 2201,
lesbian, bi and trans kids 23 and younger Drop in
Portland, OR 97208-2201 wwwadventuregroup org.)
computer access, pool tables and an informal place to
Imperial Sovereign Rose Court of Oregon is the old
hang out Weekly trans, leadership and art support
est gay, lesbian, bi and trans social/fund-raising
Amazon Dragons Paddling Club invites women 16 and
organization in the state of Oregon. Meetings are the
older to join Portland's only out lesbian dragon boat
first two Mondays of each month, (www rosecourt org)
team. Be part of the fun and fitness with this dynamic
Jewish Gay Men’s Group -please call for meeting
time and place. (503-246-5939 efraimlevi@aolcom.l
Keshet is a social connection group for queer Jews and
their spouses, partners, significant others and good
friends, whether Jewish or not. It meets monthly for
potluck
dinners
and
special
events.
(David
503-226-7079, ext 14, or Mike 503-331-1111.)
group (wwwamarondragons.org.)
group meetings (4-9 pm Wednesday, 4-11 pm Friday.
2100 SE Belmont St 503-872 9664 wwwsmyrcorgj
Queerzone identifies and meets the needs of queer
homeless youth by providing advocacy, safety, support,
Fits Bowling invites you to come join this fun, friendly,
alternative league at AMF Pro 300 Lanes. (7 pm Fnday
3031SE Powell Blvd 503-234-0237.)
resources, referral and a safe place for them to socialize
and get the help they need (6-8 pm Monday, New
Avenues for Youth, 812 SW 10th Ave 6 8 pm Tuesday,
The Forest Group outings are cooperative adventures
Outside In, 1132 SW 13th Ave 4-11 pm Saturday,
for women Participants are responsible for providing
Sexual Minority Youth Resource Center, 2100 SE
their own equipment and choosing outings appropriate
Belmont St.)
Just Out -s published on the first and third Friday of every month The deadline for submissions is 14
D ear M ystified :
Don’t make Ms. Behavior get all political, please. Just pick up the clue phone. It’s ringing
for you.
Some lesbians who appear to be frowning are actually smiling. Other lesbians have GERD
from eating a big lunch of Doritos and hamburgers, so they can’t give you the big warm greet
ing you deserve. Some wear heavy shoes that make them feel chronically annoyed. Others have
hairballs from living with cats or going down on their girlfriends.
Straight women don’t have to deal with these problems, so they’re pleasant all the time.
They love their gay male friends, who have way more interest in their lives than their husbands
or boyfriends do. It doesn’t mean that straight women are better; it just means that their lives
are less fraught with irritation.
Men who read hostility into the behavior of all lesbians might have a little misogyny problem.
Perhaps you should Gixigle the words “feminism” and “oppression" and see what you can learn.
townramblers.com)
www. geocities, com/casflyers.)
(acbportland@webtv. net.)
levels
Whether you're a running novice or a seasoned
portlandlesbianbookclub.)
A Common Bond is a social support network for former
Dungeon Men POX hosts a men’s S/M party every other
skill
BasketballAssociation)
(6:30 pm third Tuesday groups, yahoo com/group!
in
pdxbowl@
come (4450 NW 229th Ave wwwrosecitysoftball org.)
Cascade Flyers are gay, lesbian and bi aviators, both
British
503 722-0438
Portland Gay Basketball Association welcomes all
plm@direcway.com.)
private and professional, in Washington, Oregon and
Portland area. (503-701-7922. casflyers@yahoo.com.
—Mystified
Hollywood Bowl Drop-ms welcome anytime. (3:30pm
Poder Latino is a nonprofit social community voice
southern
Ms. Behavior
ation is in its 28th season! Meets Sundays at
group for gay, lesbian, bi and trans people that reaches
|
I am very curious and disturbed by the overt hostility
exhibited by lesbians!
I am a gay male, am active in the community and have
had multiple opportunities to interact with all manner of
people. As a gay man, I pose no threat to gay or bi women.
I have also been told by straight male friends that
lesbian hostility is the rule, not the exception. These
straight male friends are liberal, nonjudgmental, cool guys
(otherwise they wouldn’t befriend me, a gay guy).
To hate and be hostile to half of the population of our
planet makes no sense. 1 have been on the receiving end
of this anger, hostility and very overt prejudice.
BY MERYL COHN
On the other hand, the intimately close relationship
between gay men and straight women is legendary. What the hell is the problem here?
Portland Gay fr Lesbian Community Bowling Associ
120 NW Third Ave Mike
Portland, OR 97232. aplgjjdx@yahoo.com.)
machinery. (503-281-4488. brmcprer@yahoo.com.)
Dykes Hate Men
ed for degreed women, but no degree is necessary Just
Gay Men's Walking Group invites gay, bi and question
upcoming events (bnda 503 909 2002)
1503-226-2588
wwwgeo
Why are lesbians so hostile
toward half of the population?
Cal for a copy of the newsletter and information about
Portland Gay Men’s Chores is open to singers,
support members and volunteers
imnoregon@comcast net
D ear M s . B ehavior :
My ex-boyfriend of a year dumped me last March. Most of my family didn’t know about
him, which was OK until 1 needed a shoulder to cry on. Then my grandmother died. At the
same time, all the responsibilities I had taken on at school came to a head. Nohxly offered me
any real support.
After high school, I’d decided to explore my interest in guys more. It’s been an interesting
and fun five years. But recent losses in my personal life, coupled with the depressing squabbles
for equality on the state and national levels, make me yearn for a heterosexual relationship,
a “normal” relationship that 1 don’t have to worry about. I’m not afraid of dating guys; 1 just
prefer to be low-key.
My problem is, I have yet to meet a girl who I’m interested in dating. They prefer to count
me as their gay friend, although I remind them I’m not gay.
More to the point: 1 don’t want to go out and have sex. It just seems to me that all the girls
my age either have a boyfriend or only want sex.
I’m out of practice dating girls (not that I had lots of practice to begin with), and it seems
I only know how to attract guys. Yet, I know 1 like girls, even though I’m a heterosexual virgin.
1 keep thinking that if I could get a girlfriend, I could verify to everyone, including myself,
that I’m bi. Can you help me?
—Bitten and Not Smitten
D ear B itten
and
N ot S mitten :
It sounds like you’d like to be bisexual. Perhaps you’d also like to be the prime minister of
Italy or a backup dancer in Madonna’s next feature film, but it doesn’t mean you will be.
It sounds like you don’t really want to have sex with women and they don’t believe you
when you say you’re not gay. Bisexual men actually like sex with both men and women. You
don’t, or you wouldn’t still be a heterosexual virgin. (Straight or bisexual men don’t actually
mind women who “just want sex.”)
Do you really want to force yourself to be with a woman just to prove you’re bisexual? If you
haven’t had heterosexual sex yet, you’re probably permanently not in the mood.
It’s sad to hear about the lack of support you received last year after your relationship
ended, but your family might have been there for you if you hadn’t kept the relationship
a secret. How could your family have known to be there for you when you didn’t tell them
that you were heartbroken?
It’s not clear why you think dating women would make you more “normal.” If anything,
you need a big dose of self-acceptance, not some internal pressure to become someone else of
whom you think your family would approve. ©
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