Image provided by: University of Oregon Libraries; Eugene, OR
About Just out. (Portland, OR) 1983-2013 | View Entire Issue (July 6, 2007)
JULY 6, 2007 SOCIAL Arts & Music 1 researchers to trace your family tree and tackle "brick Women of the Rivers, the PordantWancouver chapter of • wall" female ancestors (famhistnw@aol com) the Women on Wheels Motorcycle Club, meets monthly at Elmer's, sponsors ndmg clinics and takes day Happy Ours ProductioM is a grassroots group dedicat ed to building the visibiiity, community participation and collective leadership of lesbian women of color through tnps (7:15 pm second Thursday 9848 N Whitaker Four Play projects, (wwwhappyoursproductions com ) Physical Recreation Old-fashioned lesbians fret about nonmonogamous new pals Imperial Sovereign Rose Court of Oregon is the old Adventure Group organizes a variety of activities D ear M s . B ehavior : year round, including hiking, walking, cross-country a social gathering for gay men who are artists, est gay, lesbian, bi and trans social/fund-raising organ ization in the state of Oregon Meetings are the first writers or musicians or who pursue some creative activity. Noncommercial, nonjudgmental; supporting two Mondays of each month, (www rosecourt org) Confluence: The WiMemette Valley Mixed GALA Chorus rehearses Sundays at Unitarian Universalist Congregation of Salem. (4-630pm. 5090 Center St NE 503-364-2370 confluence@aol com www. confluence chorus org) Creative Connection (formerly Real Connection) is raising and action-oriented activities, events and personal creativity for novices and professionals Jewish Gay Men's Group—please call for meeting alike. Monthly potlucks on the second Friday. (7 pm. Cart 503-284-2971.) time and place. (503-246-5939 efraimlevi@aol.com.) Film discussion group forming for gay, bi and trans and their spouses, partners, significant others and men. Share your perspective regarding portrayals of good friends, whether Jewish or not. ft meets month Monthly ly for potluck dinners and special events. (David sexual minority men in current films. activities include group ffilmtalk@vemon.net) outings to see films Keshet is a social connection group for queer Jews Portland Lesbian Choir is an informal, nonaudition com munity chorus for women of all ages to sing, socialize and share songs, melodies and talents. Directed by Ray and older to join Portland's only out lesbian dragon boat team. Be part of the fun and fitness with this dynamic group (wwwamazondragons org) The Forest Group outings are cooperative adven Participants are responsible for tures for women advice and encouragement while having a good time. Call for a copy of the newsletter and information about support members and volunteers. (503-226-2588 Amazon Dragons Paddling Club invites women 16 providing their own equipment and choosing outings appropriate for their skill and fitness level. All skill gardens and gardening. They exchange plants, seeds, www.pdxgmc.org) www adventuregroup org.) Lesbian Garden Club is.a group of women who love Foreign Film Group meets every second and fourth Portland Gay Man's Chorus is open to singers, and downhill skiing, rafting and mountain biking. (P0 Box 2201, Portland. OR 97208 2201. 503 226 7079, ext. 14. or Mike 503-331-1111.) Sunday to screen foreign films at various venues, fol lowed by a group discussion. (pdxgayfHm@yahoo.com.) Road www womenofthenvers.org.) a wide variety of social, networking, consciousness levels welcome (503-772-1860. imnoregon@com cast net www geocities, com/ncc 1127/forestpdx) Gay Men's Walking Group invites gay, bi and ques upcoming events (Linda 503-909-2002.) Lesbians with Degrees is a social group that was started for degreed women, but no degree is neces sary. Just come and join the fun! Pool parties, Scrabble tioning men to stroll in vanous neighborhoods around Portland for fun, friendship and exercise. (10 am Saturday Tom 503-984-4549.) and more. (Lam 503-233-3557. Join listserv at Gay Women's GoH Group welcomes all levels of LesbianswDegrees-subscribe@Yahoogroupscom.) players, (www turfgir1z.com.) Elliot, a talented and expenenced leader New members Lulu's Pervy Playhouse is a social group for self Lesbian Equestrian Group gets together for equestrian welcome to rehearsals at Ainsworth United Church of identifying women who are into S/M. Play parties are activities Christ on an open enrollment through fall 2006. held (6:30-8:30 pm Wednesday 2941 NE Ainsworth St. 503-727-3306 portlandlesbianchoir@hotmail.com www.plchoirorg.) on the second of Saturday the month (503-231-3992. dykedadi@comcast.net www lulus pervyplayhouse org.) in the Pacific Northwest. (Denise 503-654-3865. Lynn 503 777-2339 kBkav@rdrop.com.) Net Rippers is a gay men s indoor soccer team that's just starting up in Portland (bendoverbeckham@ gmailcom www myspace.com/netnppers I Rose City Gay Freedom Band is a performance group Men Over 40 is a small, socially supportive group that meets second and fourth Thursdays. (503-777-1376.) for queers and supportive friends of varying musical Night in Black Leather and The Leather Duck Club Ankeny Street Studio Classes for different dance styles skill levels with annual fall and spring concerts. Subgroups include the Rose City Swing band and are the first and third Friday of each month at Gail's start the first Fnday of each month: country, swing, Dirty Duck Tavern. (9 pm-midmght. 439 NW Third Ave tango, cha-cha, etc Call for schedule. (503-236-5129 a marching band with flag corps. Come join us! 503-224-8446 orieatherfrat@yahoo com.) out dancmg@yahoo com home att net/ (503-790-2170. mfo@rcgfb.org wwwrcgfb.org.) Satori Men's Chorus welcomes new members of all OutKayaking Portland's gay and lesbian sea kayak for gay male naturists/nudists Social gathenng second group, explores the lakes, rivers and bays of northwest Oregon and southwest Washington. Saturday of every month musical background, to join Wednesday rehearsals www. omenpdx org.) chorus.org.) General (omenpdx@omenpdx org (www. outkayakmg. org) PDX FTM is a social group for female-to-male trans Portland Gay b Lesbian Community Bowling men and their significant others, friends, families and Association is in its 28th season! Meets Sundays at allies, (groups yahoo.com/group/PDX_FTM.) Hollywood Bowl. Drop-ins welcome anytime (3:30 pm. 4030 NE Halsey St Mailing address: The gay Pinochle Group meets Sundays at Hobo's. Asian b Pacific Islander Lesbians and Gays is a non profit community voice for gay, lesbian and bi Asian and Pacific Islanders Activities include potlucks, recreation Come play cards and meet the gang New players always welcome. (6 pm 120 NW Third Ave. Mike Poder Latino is a nonprofit social community voice meet and connect with other API. (PO Box 12661, Portland. OR 97232 aplg jxix@yahoo.com.) group for gay, lesbian, bi and trans people that reach B/D/S/M club for self-identified women with an empha sis on safety and education. Workshops, discussions, P0 Box 42034. Portland. OR 97242 503 722 0438 pdxbowl@comcast.net wwwpdxbowlcom ) Portland Gay Basketball Association practices at 503-641-7224.) al outings and cultural events. Fnendly environment to Bad Giris is a social and educational leather and outdancing) Oregon Men Enjoying Naturism is a social organization ages and races, regardless of sexual orientation or No audition necessary. (503-299-4454. wwwsatori Out Dancing teaches dancing for same sex couples at es out to Latinos and Latmas by organizing events and Tubman Middle School. All skill levels welcome! (7:30-9:30 pm Monday 2231 N Flint Ave pdxgay hoops@yahoo com.) retreats and advocating HIV prevention. Meets every other Monday at Outside In. (6:30 pm 1030 SW 13th Whether you’re a running novice or a seasoned Ave Hugo 503-997-8615 orAudencio 503-261-5463.) lesbian, bi and trans people of all abilities and events and parties. Women of all onentations can con Portland Leather Alliance is one of the largest pan marathoner, Portland Frontrunners welcomes gay, interests. (Gary mfo@portlandfrontrunners org www portlandfrontrunners org) justputlaa My partner, Sally, and I have become friends with a hip, younger couple I’ll call Miranda and Mae. Soon after we recently mutually confessed a couple-crush on them and them on us, they asked us over for dinner so they could tell us that they had a nonmonogamous relationship. In fact, at the moment Miranda is “seeing someone else.” They were nervous telling us this because they didn’t want to change the nature of our friendship; they really have enjoyed having us as new pals. Sally and I are old-fashioned, and we are not sure we can handle this kind of arrangement in BY MERYL COHN our new friends. Mostly, we are afraid that Miranda and Mae will want to have sex with us or, worse, with one of us. We are freaked out and don’t know what to do. Miranda and Mae are great and we want to stay friends, but we don’t want any funny business. Should we tell them we are not sexually interested in them? Should we cool our friendship off? Should we find new friends? —Nervous Older Couple Ms. Behavior D ear N ervous O lder C ouple : Miranda and Mae might be nonmonogamous, but don’t flatter yourself; it doesn’t mean they’re itching to pounce on you. Your assumption is cutely naive; you sound like straight women who are scared to be friends with lesbians, for fear that the lesbians will be over come with sudden uncontrollable desire to have sex with them. As if you couldn’t say no. As if you’re not sure you’d want to say no. Oh. Perhaps that’s what’s so confusing. Why are you so freaked out? If you trust your own ability to maintain gtxxl boundaries, there’s no reason to get weird or withdraw or find new friends. What’s the worst that could happen, really, even if they do find you hot? Miranda and Mae could propose a threesome or a foursome, and you would (presumably) say no. It seems unlikely that they will drug you and Sally and tie you up and perform unspeakable erotic acts on your unconscious bodies. Short of such a Sapphic ambush, you and Sally should be perfectly capable of saying, “Thanks, we’re flattered, but we only have sex with each other.” nect and ask questions during the Kinky Women's sexual, nonprofit B/D/S/M, leather and fetish lifestyle Welcoming Munch at 7 pm every second Tuesday. organizations in the Northwest. Regular social and (503-972-2233 wwwpdxbadgiris net.) educational opportunities, including KinkFest, Leather largest gay sports organization, for open and women's Ball and Fall Vendors Fair, (wwwpdxleatheralliance org.) divisions of slow-pitch softball Regular season games D ear M s . B ehavior : are played throughout the summer at Gordon Faber Recreational Complex in Hillsboro. All levels of My boyfriend, Jake, spends all his holidays and work vacations in North Carolina with his family. His father just died, and he has an aging mother who lives down there all by herself. When I first met Jake two years ago, this was a quality I most admired in him—his loyalty to his family. But he neither invites me on these frequent trips nor does he call me while he’s away. He says that his mother knows he’s gay and that it’s not that he wouldn’t want me to meet her, it’s just that he gets caught up in what he’s doing down there and likes to take the opportunity to “really be away” from his life. It occurs to me that perhaps he is living a double life of some sort and not going to North Carolina at all. Is there any way I can find out what’s really going on? And if this is just his way, should 1 protest and insist on being invited to visit the mother? —Jake's Secret Border Riders Motorcycle Club provides social oppor tunnies for gay men interested in recreational motorcycle Portland Leather Men meet every second Saturday touring and promotes education on safe and legal for potluck and socializing. Meet men into a leather machinery. (503-281-4488. brmcprez@yahoo com) lifestyle and keep abreast of leather happenings. No Cascade Flyers are gay, lesbian and bi aviators, both private and professional, in Washington, Oregon and southern British Columbia. Omner meetings in dues, no formal organization, no officers or board, just leather socialization for the past 21 years Portland area. (503-701-7922. casffyers@yahoo.com. Portland Lesbian Book Club gathers monthly to chat about a chosen book or to attend selected events. or questioning Jehovah’s Witnesses who are queer (acbportiand@webtv net.) Coqsure is a social group for people who were assigned a female sex at birth but identify otherwise (female-to male, genderqueer, drag king, etc.) First Sunday meet ings are open to partners and families of any configure tion. (503-471-1515. groups yahoo com/group/coqsure) Dungeon Men PDX hosts a men's S/M party every other month in a Portland dungeon. Masters and novices always welcome. (503-281-2076. bighnboy@aracnet. com.) FA.G. PDX (Femme Affinity Group Portland), a radical activist and social group open to seff identified femmes of all genders, seeks to create solidarity among femmes, promote femme visibility and combat femmephobia in the community at large (www notsony org/fagpdx.) 50+ lesbian social group for women meets on the third Saturday of the month. (4-7pm 503-642-3360 or 503-288-1870 sutaytig@aol com.) Portland Lesbian Network organizes brewpub visits, golf events, hiking, kayaking, cycling. Scrabble games and movie nights and keeps you aware of what's going on in the area (PDXLesbianNetwork-subscribe@ Portland Metro Prime Timers is a social group for mature gay men and those who appreciate them, com 360-693-5506 (rubyredflippers@yahoo.com Team Tennis meets Sundays at University of Portland quent times are $7. Please join us! (8 am-noon 503-788-8192 teamportiandtennis@yafx)o.com.) YOUTH pdxprimetimers@yahoo com. Children www.geocitiescom/pdxprimetimers.) of Lesbians and Gays Everywhere (COLAGE) is the only international organization specif Rainriders Motorcycle Club meets weekly at the Roxy. Ride your bike or |ust come meet the group. Everyone welcome (10 am Sunday 1121 SW Stark St. ically supporting young people with sexual minority parents (colage@lmfamilyorg wwwcolage org ) Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network wwwpdx-rrmc. com.) (GLSEN) strives to assure that each member of every Rose City Discussion Club, the largest open pansex ual/alternative sexuality club in the Northwest, is open to all orientations, fetishes and lifestyles that are side, school community is valued and respected, regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity/expression (12700 SW North Dakota St., Suite 180 ft 129, Tigard, sane and consensual. Monthly meetings, workshops Sappho Social Club is a group of women 40 years tural activities. (thesapphosocialclub@yahoo com.) Genealogy group forming Gather with other lesbian waters es. (PO Box 5884. Portland. OR 97228 503-286-4613 or and older as well as their friends and loved ones, Jefferson St. 503-701-9376 ) Northwest www rubyredflippers org.) ing together for social, educational and cultural purpos and older building community through social and cul tion and socializing The death need not have occurred recently. (7:30 pm second Wednesday 1201 SW takes dives in Tacoma, Hood Canal and other Pacific All levels of play welcome. First time is free, subse yahoogroups com.) Funny Ladies, a social group for nice lesbians 35 the West Cafe to provide an opportunity for conversa www rosetownramblers com.) Ruby Red Flippers, a group of gay and lesbian scuta www.rcdc.org.) Gay Men Who Have Lost Their Partners meets at levels. (PO Box 5352. Portland. OR 97228-5352 divers in the Portland area, teaches new recruits and group for female-to-male trans men (groups yahoo month. (flataps@yahoo com.) Rosetown Ramblers, Portland's gay and lesbian (6:30 pm third Tuesday, groups yahoo.com/group/port and newsletter (503-972-1869. rcdc@teleport.com. holds potlucks on the second Saturday of each www rosecitysoftball org) landlesbianbookclub) FTM Pacific NW OR b WA is a social and discussion com/group/FTM PacificNW I experience are welcome. (4450 NW 229th Ave. square dance club, dances at mainstream and plus (360-896-6665 plm@direcway.com.) www. geocities, com/casflyers.) A Common Bond is a social support network for former Join the Rose City Softball Association, Oregon’s Social OUTings is a social group for all interested in meeting people and doing activities other than bar hopping (kyleinportland@yahoocom.) Soyboys Vegetarian Men's Group is a fun, social gath vegetarian or vegan lifestyle A variety of activities monthly potlucks on the submissions s 14 days poor to publication OirtReach I stmqs of up to 50 words are provided tree of chatge to organ zations and groups specifically serving the sexual minorities community All listings are subject to nd ling and m Ins rm s subject to spar e I rmtations relevant n and rece pt by dead line I istmgs r >p m onr e a yeai I n Julyi and subm ssmns run fiom thè date rer e ved unt tire- neri s* 'a.duled ( xpaat ori (lati l st u(;s are automati! al’y (It-lt.lfri iipon exp ra is a group of gay/bi/same-gender-loving men of color between 16 and 25 who want to engage in activities, socials and community events among their peers (Kourtm 503-417-7991 www brotobropdx org.) Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can t quali Saturday. services that include those who inject hormones Provide transitional housing for youth 20 and younger and for those HIV positive and younger than 23 Need volunteers of all ages (10 em-6 pm Monday Fnday 1132 SW 13th Ave 503-535-3800 www. outsidein org) (veggieguys@aol.com.) Just Out is published on the first and third Friday of every month The deadline for last House of MOCHA (Men of Color Healthy b Aware) fy for the Oregon Health Plan as well as needle exchange enng for gay and bi men who are interested m a healthy and OR 97223 503-525-1177 glsen@glsenoregon org www glsenoregon org.) tron To ensure uninterrupted listing, please submit updated information at least a month poor to the expiration date Complete listings are available online at www justout com Send listings to Just Out tattn Calendarl P0 Box 1.1400 Portland OR 9/293 0400 fa* submissions to 503 236 1257 or e ma I jiistoul .■ justout com Submissions cannot he accepted over the phone Please t, R ear J ake ’ s S ecret : The possibilities for a double life are endless. Jake could have a wife and kids down South, with a different car and a straight man’s wardrobe: synthetic sweaters, Docker pants and woven slip-on loafers that he wears with argyle socks. Perhaps people in North Carolina call him Frank, and when he hangs out at the kxral pub he changes his favorite drink to something sweeter and colder than what he drinks when he’s with you. Or maybe Jake films videos for a gay pom ring, and he lives with a gang of 18-year- old rent boys who teach him about hip music and relieve him of his pocket money and his anxiety about getting older. If, however, Jake really visits his mother, it would be helpful for him to fill you in on his long-term plan. Is he happy with things as they are? Does he ever plan to include you in his visits? Would he consider having his mother come to visit you and Jake? Is there rix>m for negotiation? For example, would he he willing to have you come with him some of the time? Is Jake willing to let you call him at his mother’s house? If you really doubt that he’s visiting his mother and don’t trust him to tell you the truth, some sn<x>ping might be in order. Itemized cell phone bills are often a gtxxl place to start. © M eryl C ohn is the author of Do What I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay and Lesbian Etiquette. Signed copies are available directly from the author. Send questions or correspondence to msbehavior@aol.com.
