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About Just out. (Portland, OR) 1983-2013 | View Entire Issue (April 6, 2007)
APRIL 6, 2007 Rose City Gay Freedom Band is a performance group for queers and supportive friends of varying musical skill levels with annual fall and spring con certs. Subgroups include the Rose City Swing band and a marching band with flag corps Come |om us! (503-790-2170 info@rcgfb.org wwwrcgfb org) Lesbians with Degrees is a social group that was started for degreed women, but no degree is necessary Just come and join the funl Pool parties, Scrabble and more (Lam 503-233-3557 Join listserv at LesbianswDegrees-subscnbe@ yahoogroups com.) Satori Men's Chorus welcomes new members of all ages and races, regardless of sexual onentation or musical background, to join Wednesday rehearsals. No audition necessary (503 299-4454 wwwsatonchorus org.) Lulu's Pervy Playhouse is a social group for self identifying women who are mto S/M Play parties are held on the second Saturday of the month (503-231-3992 dykedadi@comcast net www luluspervyplayhouse org) General Men Over 40 is a small, socially supportive group that meets second and fourth Thursdays (503-777-1376) Asian tr Pacific Islander Lesbians and Gays is a nonprofit community voice for gay, lesbian and bi Asian and Pacific Islanders Activities include potlucks, recreational outings and cultural events Friendly environment to meet and connect with other API (PO Box 12661. Portland, OR 97232 aplg _pdx@yahoo com.) Bad Giris is a social and educational leather and B/D/S/M club for self-identified women with an emphasis on safety and education Workshops, discussions, events and parties Women of all orientations can connect and ask questions during the Kinky Women's Welcoming Muneh at 7 pm every second Tuesday (503-972-2233. www pdxbadgirls net) Border Riders Motorcycle Club provides social opportunities for gay men interested in recreation al motorcycle touring and promotes education on safe and legal machinery. (503281-4488 brmcprez@yahoo com.) Cascade Flyers are gay, lesbian and bi aviators, both pnvate and professional, in Washington, Oregon and southern British Columbia Dinner meetings in Portland area (503-701-7922. casflyers@ yahoo com wwwgeocitiescom/casftyers.) A Common Bond is a social support network for former or questioning Jehovah's Witnesses who are queer (acbportland@webtvnet.) Coqsure is a social group for people who were assigned a female sex at birth but identify other wise (female-to-male, genderqueer, drag king, etc ). First Sunday meetings are open to partners and families of any configuration (503-471-1515. groups, yahoo, com/group/coqsure.) Dungeon Men PDX hosts a men's S/M party every other month in a Portland dungeon Masters and novices always welcome (503-281-2076. bighn- boy@aracnetcom.) F.A.G. PDX (Femme Affinity Group Portland), a radical activist and social group open to self-iden tified femmes of all genders, seeks to create soli darity among femmes, promote femme visibility and combat femmephobia in the community at large (www.notsorryorg/fagpdx.) 50+ lesbian social group for women meets on the third Saturday of the month. (4-7 pm 503-642 3360 or 503-288-1870 sutaytig@aol.com.) FTM Pacific NW OR it WA is a social and discussion group for female-to male trans men. (groups, yahoo. com/group/FTMPacificNW) Funny Ladies, a social group for nice lesbians 35 and older as well as their friends and loved ones, holds potlucks on the second Saturday of each month, (flataps@yahoo.com.) Gay Men Who Have Lost Their Partners meets at the West Cafe to provide an opportunity for con versation and socializing The death need not have occurred recently (7:30 pm second Wednesday 1201 SW Jefferson St 503-701-9376 ) Genealogy group forming. Gather with other lesbian researchers to trace your family tree and tackle "brickwaH" female ancestors (famhistnw@aol com J Happy Ours Productions is a grassroots group dedicated to building the visibility, community participation and collective leadership of lesbian women of color through a wide variety of social, networking, consciousness-raising and action- onented activities, events and protects, (www hap py oursproductions com.) Imperial Sovereign Rose Court of Oregon is the oldest gay, lesbian, bi and trans social/fund-raising organization in the state of Oregon Meetings are the first two Mondays of each month (wwwrose court org.) Jewish Gay Mens Group please call for meeting time and place (503-246-5939 efraim levi@aol.com.) Keshet is a social connection group for queer Jews and their spouses, partners, significant others and good friends, whether Jewish or not. It meets monthly for potluck dinners and special events | (David 503 226 7079, ext 14, or Mike 503-331-1111.) Lesbian Garden Club is a group of women who love gardens and gardening They exchange plants, seeds, advice and encouragement while having a good time. Call for a copy of the newsletter and information about upcoming events (Linda 503909 2002) Monamorous bi group forming for women in their 40s who are single and professionally employed (monogids06 @yahoo com) Night in Black Leather and The Leather Duck Club are the first and third Friday of each month at Gail's Dirty Duck Tavern. (9 pm-midnight 439 NW Third Ave 503-224 8446 orleatherfrat@ yahoo.com.) Oregon Men Enjoying Naturism is a social organization for gay male natunsts/nudists. Social gathering second Saturday of every month, (omen pdx@omenpdx org www.omenpdx org.) PDX_FTM is a social group for female-to male trans men and their significant others, friends, fam ilies and allies (groups yahoo com/ group/PDXFTM.) The gay Pinochle Group meets Sundays at Hobo's Come play cards and meet the gang New players always welcome (6 pm 120 NW Third Ave Mike 503 641-7224.) Poder Latino is a nonprofit social community voice group for gay, lesbian, bi and trans people that reaches out to Latinos and Latinas by organizing events and retreats and advocating HIV prevention Meets every other Monday at Outside In (630 pm. 1030 SW 13th Ave Hugo 503 997 8615 or Audencio 503-261-5463 ) Portland Leather Alliance is one of the largest pansexual, nonprofit B/D/S/M, leather and fetish lifestyle organizations in the Northwest Regular social and educational opportunities, including KinkFest, Leather Ball and Fall Vendors Fair (wwwpdxleatheralliance org) Portland Leather Men meet every second Saturday for potluck and socializing Meet men into a leather lifestyle and keep abreast of leather happenings No dues, no formal organization, no officers or board, just leather socialization for the past 21 years (360-896-6665 plm@direcway.com.) Portland Lesbian Book Club gathers monthly to chat about a chosen book or to attend select ed events. (6:30 pm third Tuesday groups yahoo com/group/portlandlesbianbookclub) Portland Lesbian Network organizes brewpub visits, golf events, hiking, kayaking, cycling, Scrabble games and movie nights and keeps you aware of what's going on in the area. (PDXLesbian Network subscnbe@yahoogroups. com) Portland Metro Prime rimers is a social group for mature gay men and those who appreciate them, coming together for social, educational and cultural purposes (PO Box 5884, Portland. OR 97228 503-286-4613 or 360-693-5506 pdxpnmetimers@ yahoo com www geoobes com/pdxpnmebmers ) Rainriders Motorcycle Club meets weekly at the Roxy. Ride your bike or just come meet the group Everyone welcome. (10 am Sunday. 1121 SW Stark St wwwpdx-rrmc.com.) Rose City Discussion Club, the largest open pansexuaValtemative sexuality club in the North west, is open to all orientations, fetishes and lifestyles that are safe, sane and consensual. Monthly meetings, workshops and newsletter. (503-972-1869. rcdc@teleport com wwwrcdc.org.) Sappho Social Club is a group of women 40 years and older building community through social and cultural activities yahoo.com.) (thesapphosocialclub@ Soyboys Vegetarian Men s Group is a fun, social gathering for gay and bi men who are interested in a healthy vegetarian or vegan lifestyle A variety of activities and monthly potlucks on the last Saturday. (veggieguys@aol com.) Women of the Rivers, the Portland/Vancouver chapter of the Women on Wheels Motorcycle Club, meets monthly at Elmer's, sponsors riding clinics and takes day trips. (7:15 pm second Thursday 9848 N Whitaker Road www womenofthenvers org) Physical Recreation Adventure Group organizes a variety of activities year round, including hiking, walking, cross country and downhill skiing, rafting and mountain biking. (PO Box 2201, Portland. OR 97208 2201. www adventuregroup org.) Amazon Dragons Paddling Club invites women 16 and older to join Portland's only out lesbian dragon Just Out s published on the first and th rd Fr day Of every month The deadline tor submissions is 14 days pr-or to publication OutReach listings of up to 50 words are provided free of charge to organizations and groups specifically serving the sexual minorities community All listings are subject to editing, and inclusion is subject to space limitations, relevance and receipt by deadline listings expire once a year (in July) and submissions run from the date received until the next scheduled expiration date Listings are automatically deleted upon boat team Be part of the fun and fitness with this dynamic group, (wwwamamndragons org.) The Forest Group outings are cooperative adventures for women Participants are responsi ble for providing their own equipment and choos ing outings appropnate for their skill and fitness level All skill levels welcome (503-772 1860 imnoregon@comcast net www.geocities com/ ncc 1127/forestpdx.) Gay Men s Walking Group invites gay, bi and questioning men to stroll in vanous neighborhoods around Portland for fun, friendship and exercise. (10 am Saturday Tom 503-984-4549 ) Gay Women's Golf Group welcomes all levels of players (www turfgirlz com.) Lesbian Equestrian Group gets together for equestrian activities in the Pacific Northwest (Denise 503 654 3865 Lynn 503-777 2339 [ kelrav@rdrop com.) Net Rippers is a gay men's indoor soccer team that's just starting up in Portland (bendoverbeck ham@gmail com www myspace com/netrippers) Out Dancing teaches dancing for same-sex cou ples at Ankeny Street Studio Classes for different dance styles start the first Friday of each month: country, swing, tango, cha-cha, etc. Call for sched ule. (503-236-5129 out_dancmg@yahoo com home att net/ -outdancing) OutKayaking, Portland's gay and lesbian sea kayak group, explores the lakes, nvers and bays of north west Oregon and southwest Washington i (wwwoutkayakmg org.) Portland Gay b Lesbian Community Bowling Association is in its 28th season! Meets Sundays at Hollywood Bowl Drop-ins welcome anytime. (3:30 pm 4030 NE Halsey St. Mailing address PO Box 42034, Portland. OR 97242 503 722-0438. pdxbowlMcomcast net www pdxbowl com) Portland Gay Basketball Association practices at Tubman Middle School All skill levels welcome! (7 30-9 30 pm Monday 2231 N Flint Ave pdxgay I hoops@yahoo.com.) Whether you're a running novice or a seasoned marathoner, Portland Frontrunners welcomes gay, lesbian, bi and trans people of all abilities and interests (Gary mfo@portlandlrontrunners org www portlandfrontrunners org.) Rosetown Ramblers, Portland's gay and lesbian square dance club, dances at mainstream and plus levels (PO Box 5352, Portland. OR 97228 5352 www rosetownramblers com) Ruby Red Flippers a group of gay and lesbian scu ba divers in the Portland area, teaches new recruits and takes dives in Tacoma, Hood Canal and other Pacific Northwest waters (rubyredflippers@ yahoo com www rubyredflippers org.) Team Tennis meets Sundays at University of Portland. All levels of play welcome. First time is free, subsequent times are $7 Please join usl (8 am-noon. 503-788-8192 teamportlandtennis@ yahoo com.) YOUTH Children of Lesbians and Gays Everywhere (COLAGE) is the only international organization specifically supporting young people with sexual minonty parents (colage@lmfamily.org wwwcolage org.) Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network (GLSEN) strives to assure that each member of every school community is valued and respected, regardless of sexual orientation or gender identi - ty/expression. (12700 SW North Dakota St., Suite 180 4/129, Tigard. OR 97223 503-525-1177. glsen@glsenoregon.org. www glsenoregon org.) House of MOCHA (Men of Color Healthy 6 Aware) is a group of gay/bi/same gender-loving men of color between 16 and 25 who want to engage in activities, socials and community events among their peers. (Kourtni 503-417-7991. www brotobropdx org) Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can't qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as nee dle exchange services that include those who inject hormones. Provide transitional housing for youth 20 and younger and for those HIV-positive and younger than 23 Need volunteers of all ages (10 am-6 pm Monday-Fnday. 1132 SW 13th Ave 503-535-3800 www.outsidein org.) Pride Project bongs together Washington County queer and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social events Also information, referral and advocacy services in Washington County. (Austin 503-260-5792 austm@pndeprofect org ) Sexual Minority Youth Resource Center (SMYRC) offers support, recreation, counseling and referral to gay, lesbian, bi and trans kids 23 and younger Drop-in computer access, pool tables and an informal place to hang out. Weekly trans, lead ership and art support group meetings (4-9 pm Wednesday. 4-11 pm Friday 2100 SE Belmont St. 503-872 9664 wwwsmyrc org.) expiration To,ensure uninterrupted listing, please submit updated information at least a month prior to the exp ration date Complete list ngs are available online at www justout com Send listings to Just Out (attn Calendar), PO Box 14400 Portland, OR 97293 0400. Fax submissions to 503 236 1257 or email justout > > juStoul com Submissions cannot he accepted over the phone Please type your announcements and include full contact information juStpütj33 When to Tell Do I disclose that I don't have a dick? D ear M s . B ehavior : I’m transgendered, FTM, and have been living as a man for two years. I don’t think most people can tell; I seem to basically pass as male. I’ve had top surgery, but my bottom surgery will have to wait until 1 can afford it. Here’s the question: I met a woman, Jen, at the dog park, and we had a date last weekend. I’ve been struggling about when to tell her. I don’t want to wait until we’re about to have sex to say, “Oh by the way, 1 used to be female and I don’t have a dick yet.” My friend James, who is also an FTM, says he always tells women before he even asks them out. I’d prefer to BY MERYL COHN eet to know someone a bit first. But it’s unclear to me how soon 1 need to tell. Is it a matter of ethics to tell before you even go on a date? Ms. Behavior —Ray D ear R ay : The time to tell is before your tongue is in your date’s mouth (which otherwise makes it hard to talk). If you tell before you’re in any way sexually intimate, you’ll avoid a lot of awkwardness, as well as the possibility of your date feeling betrayed by something that seems like a secret. Since questions about “When to Tell” come up frequently from readers, here’s a list of some of the other things you should tell someone before you swap spit, particularly if you’re interested in more than a one-night stand: 1. I’m married (or in a committed relationship). 2. I’m with the circus. 3. I’m not sure if I’m gay or if this is just an experiment. 4. I’m leaving town tomorrow. 5.1 have several children. 6. I’m pregnant. , 7.1 have a sexually communicable disease. 8. My dog likes to watch. 9. I’m a hopeless cling-on. 10. 1 have a jealous ex who tries to systematically destroy the people I date. 11. Mental illness runs in my family. 12.1 haven’t had a job since 1986. 13.1 live at home with my mother. 14. My mother is a narcissist, and 1 might be one, too. 15.1 don’t like oral sex. 16.1 can’t come unless___ . (Fill in the blank with whatever applies: a) I’m wearing my special shoes, b) you pee on me, c) a circle of Little People call me a dirty whore, etc.) 17. My other girlfriend is waiting in the car. D ear M s . B ehavior : Upon finishing my tour in the Middle East, 1 came back home to my adorable boyfriend. We’re readapting to life back together rather well, but for one thing. You see, 1 gave him a couple of long flowing dresslike robes—you know, the kind you see some Arab men wear in the movies. He loves them so much he insists on wearing one every night, to bed no less. He says he loves the feel of the silky clothes on his skin. However, 1 can’t stand that artificial barrier between his skin and mine. Not even chang ing the bed sheets to higher thread count convinced him to get back to sleeping in the buff again. I really miss cuddling next to my naked hubby; how can I convince him to get rid of those awful robes? What would you say if they accidentally got shredded in a laundry mishap? —Another Middle East Crisis D ear A nlyther M iddle E ast C risis : Can’t you think of a creative way to make your boyfriend strip? Try easing up on your complaint for a while, and let your boyfriend enjoy sleeping in the Arab dresses. After a few days or weeks, offer him a massage. He might shed the robes for a better rubdown, and if you’re proficient enough, you might inspire him to remain naked. If that doesn't work, try a magnificent blowjob, and suggest that he removes the robe so it doesn’t get sullied. If both of your attempts fail to motivate him to remove the robe, don’t take it personally, because it probably has nothing to do with you. Perhaps your boyfriend enjoys the sensual feeling of the silk, or maybe he’s working out a childhixxl desire to wear a dress. Even if he’s using the robe as a physical barrier to achieve distance from you, don't be threatened; it’s prob ably a phase that will pass in a few weeks or months if you don’t make it into a big deal. If, however, you shred your boyfriend’s robes in a laundry mishap, he’ll probably idealize them (the way you would a person who dumped you), mourn their loss, seek to replace them with a dozen silky dresses and never again go naked. • M f .RYL C ohn is the author of Do What I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay and Lesbian Etiquette. Signed copies are available directly from the author. Send questions or correspondence to mshehavuir@aol .com.
