APRIL 6, 2007
Rose City Gay Freedom Band is a performance
group for queers and supportive friends of varying
musical skill levels with annual fall and spring con
certs. Subgroups include the Rose City Swing band
and a marching band with flag corps Come |om us!
(503-790-2170 info@rcgfb.org wwwrcgfb org)
Lesbians with Degrees is a social group that was
started for degreed women, but no degree is
necessary Just come and join the funl Pool
parties, Scrabble and more (Lam 503-233-3557
Join listserv at LesbianswDegrees-subscnbe@
yahoogroups com.)
Satori Men's Chorus welcomes new members of
all ages and races, regardless of sexual onentation
or musical background, to join Wednesday
rehearsals. No audition necessary (503 299-4454
wwwsatonchorus org.)
Lulu's Pervy Playhouse is a social group for self
identifying women who are mto S/M Play parties
are held on the second Saturday of the month
(503-231-3992
dykedadi@comcast net
www luluspervyplayhouse org)
General
Men Over 40 is a small, socially supportive group
that meets second and fourth Thursdays
(503-777-1376)
Asian tr Pacific Islander Lesbians and Gays is
a nonprofit community voice for gay, lesbian and bi
Asian and Pacific Islanders Activities include
potlucks, recreational outings and cultural events
Friendly environment to meet and connect with
other API (PO Box 12661. Portland, OR 97232
aplg _pdx@yahoo com.)
Bad Giris is a social and educational leather and
B/D/S/M club for self-identified women with an
emphasis on safety and education Workshops,
discussions, events and parties Women of all
orientations can connect and ask questions during
the Kinky Women's Welcoming Muneh at 7 pm
every
second
Tuesday
(503-972-2233.
www pdxbadgirls net)
Border Riders Motorcycle Club provides social
opportunities for gay men interested in recreation
al motorcycle touring and promotes education on
safe and legal machinery. (503281-4488
brmcprez@yahoo com.)
Cascade Flyers are gay, lesbian and bi aviators, both
pnvate and professional, in Washington, Oregon and
southern British Columbia Dinner meetings in
Portland
area
(503-701-7922.
casflyers@
yahoo com wwwgeocitiescom/casftyers.)
A Common Bond is a social support network for
former or questioning Jehovah's Witnesses who
are queer (acbportland@webtvnet.)
Coqsure is a social group for people who were
assigned a female sex at birth but identify other
wise (female-to-male, genderqueer, drag king,
etc ). First Sunday meetings are open to partners
and families of any configuration (503-471-1515.
groups, yahoo, com/group/coqsure.)
Dungeon Men PDX hosts a men's S/M party every
other month in a Portland dungeon Masters and
novices always welcome (503-281-2076. bighn-
boy@aracnetcom.)
F.A.G. PDX (Femme Affinity Group Portland),
a radical activist and social group open to self-iden
tified femmes of all genders, seeks to create soli
darity among femmes, promote femme visibility
and combat femmephobia in the community at
large (www.notsorryorg/fagpdx.)
50+ lesbian social group for women meets on the
third Saturday of the month. (4-7 pm 503-642 3360
or 503-288-1870 sutaytig@aol.com.)
FTM Pacific NW OR it WA is a social and
discussion group for female-to male trans men.
(groups, yahoo. com/group/FTMPacificNW)
Funny Ladies, a social group for nice lesbians 35
and older as well as their friends and loved ones,
holds potlucks on the second Saturday of each
month, (flataps@yahoo.com.)
Gay Men Who Have Lost Their Partners meets
at the West Cafe to provide an opportunity for con
versation and socializing The death need not have
occurred recently (7:30 pm second Wednesday
1201 SW Jefferson St 503-701-9376 )
Genealogy group forming. Gather with other
lesbian researchers to trace your family tree and
tackle
"brickwaH"
female
ancestors
(famhistnw@aol com J
Happy Ours Productions is a grassroots group
dedicated to building the visibility, community
participation and collective leadership of lesbian
women of color through a wide variety of social,
networking, consciousness-raising and action-
onented activities, events and protects, (www hap
py oursproductions com.)
Imperial Sovereign Rose Court of Oregon is the
oldest gay, lesbian, bi and trans social/fund-raising
organization in the state of Oregon Meetings are the
first two Mondays of each month (wwwrose
court org.)
Jewish Gay Mens Group please call for
meeting time and place (503-246-5939 efraim
levi@aol.com.)
Keshet is a social connection group for queer Jews
and their spouses, partners, significant others and
good friends, whether Jewish or not. It meets
monthly for potluck dinners and special events |
(David
503 226 7079,
ext
14,
or
Mike
503-331-1111.)
Lesbian Garden Club is a group of women who
love gardens and gardening They exchange plants,
seeds, advice and encouragement while having a
good time. Call for a copy of the newsletter and
information about upcoming events
(Linda
503909 2002)
Monamorous bi group forming for women in their
40s who are single and professionally employed
(monogids06 @yahoo com)
Night in Black Leather and The Leather Duck
Club are the first and third Friday of each month at
Gail's Dirty Duck Tavern. (9 pm-midnight 439 NW
Third
Ave
503-224 8446
orleatherfrat@
yahoo.com.)
Oregon Men Enjoying Naturism is a social
organization for gay male natunsts/nudists. Social
gathering second Saturday of every month, (omen
pdx@omenpdx org www.omenpdx org.)
PDX_FTM is a social group for female-to male
trans men and their significant others, friends, fam
ilies
and
allies
(groups yahoo com/
group/PDXFTM.)
The gay Pinochle Group meets Sundays at
Hobo's Come play cards and meet the gang New
players always welcome (6 pm 120 NW Third
Ave Mike 503 641-7224.)
Poder Latino is a nonprofit social community voice
group for gay, lesbian, bi and trans people that
reaches out to Latinos and Latinas by organizing
events and retreats and advocating HIV prevention
Meets every other Monday at Outside In (630 pm.
1030 SW 13th Ave Hugo 503 997 8615 or
Audencio 503-261-5463 )
Portland Leather Alliance is one of the largest
pansexual, nonprofit B/D/S/M, leather and fetish
lifestyle organizations in the Northwest Regular
social and educational opportunities, including
KinkFest, Leather Ball and Fall Vendors Fair
(wwwpdxleatheralliance org)
Portland Leather Men meet every second Saturday
for potluck and socializing Meet men into a leather
lifestyle and keep abreast of leather happenings No
dues, no formal organization, no officers or board,
just leather socialization for the past 21 years
(360-896-6665 plm@direcway.com.)
Portland Lesbian Book Club gathers monthly
to chat about a chosen book or to attend select
ed
events.
(6:30
pm
third
Tuesday
groups yahoo com/group/portlandlesbianbookclub)
Portland Lesbian Network organizes brewpub
visits, golf events, hiking, kayaking, cycling,
Scrabble games and movie nights and keeps you
aware of what's going on in the area. (PDXLesbian
Network subscnbe@yahoogroups. com)
Portland Metro Prime rimers is a social group for
mature gay men and those who appreciate them,
coming together for social, educational and cultural
purposes (PO Box 5884, Portland. OR 97228
503-286-4613 or 360-693-5506 pdxpnmetimers@
yahoo com www geoobes com/pdxpnmebmers )
Rainriders Motorcycle Club meets weekly at the
Roxy. Ride your bike or just come meet the group
Everyone welcome. (10 am Sunday. 1121 SW
Stark St wwwpdx-rrmc.com.)
Rose City Discussion Club, the largest open
pansexuaValtemative sexuality club in the North
west, is open to all orientations, fetishes and
lifestyles that are safe, sane and consensual.
Monthly meetings, workshops and newsletter.
(503-972-1869.
rcdc@teleport com
wwwrcdc.org.)
Sappho Social Club is a group of women 40 years
and older building community through social and
cultural
activities
yahoo.com.)
(thesapphosocialclub@
Soyboys Vegetarian Men s Group is a fun, social
gathering for gay and bi men who are interested in
a healthy vegetarian or vegan lifestyle A variety of
activities and monthly potlucks on the last
Saturday. (veggieguys@aol com.)
Women of the Rivers, the Portland/Vancouver
chapter of the Women on Wheels Motorcycle
Club, meets monthly at Elmer's, sponsors riding
clinics and takes day trips. (7:15 pm second
Thursday
9848
N
Whitaker
Road
www womenofthenvers org)
Physical Recreation
Adventure Group organizes a variety of activities
year round, including hiking, walking, cross
country and downhill skiing, rafting and mountain
biking. (PO Box 2201, Portland. OR 97208 2201.
www adventuregroup org.)
Amazon Dragons Paddling Club invites women 16
and older to join Portland's only out lesbian dragon
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boat team Be part of the fun and fitness with this
dynamic group, (wwwamamndragons org.)
The Forest Group outings are cooperative
adventures for women Participants are responsi
ble for providing their own equipment and choos
ing outings appropnate for their skill and fitness
level All skill levels welcome (503-772 1860
imnoregon@comcast net
www.geocities com/
ncc 1127/forestpdx.)
Gay Men s Walking Group invites gay, bi and
questioning men to stroll in vanous neighborhoods
around Portland for fun, friendship and exercise.
(10 am Saturday Tom 503-984-4549 )
Gay Women's Golf Group welcomes all levels of
players (www turfgirlz com.)
Lesbian Equestrian Group gets together for
equestrian activities in the Pacific Northwest
(Denise 503 654 3865
Lynn 503-777 2339
[ kelrav@rdrop com.)
Net Rippers is a gay men's indoor soccer team
that's just starting up in Portland (bendoverbeck
ham@gmail com www myspace com/netrippers)
Out Dancing teaches dancing for same-sex cou
ples at Ankeny Street Studio Classes for different
dance styles start the first Friday of each month:
country, swing, tango, cha-cha, etc. Call for sched
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OutKayaking, Portland's gay and lesbian sea kayak
group, explores the lakes, nvers and bays of north
west Oregon and southwest Washington
i (wwwoutkayakmg org.)
Portland Gay b Lesbian Community Bowling
Association is in its 28th season! Meets Sundays
at Hollywood Bowl Drop-ins welcome anytime.
(3:30 pm 4030 NE Halsey St. Mailing address
PO Box 42034, Portland. OR 97242 503 722-0438.
pdxbowlMcomcast net www pdxbowl com)
Portland Gay Basketball Association practices at
Tubman Middle School All skill levels welcome!
(7 30-9 30 pm Monday 2231 N Flint Ave pdxgay
I hoops@yahoo.com.)
Whether you're a running novice or a seasoned
marathoner, Portland Frontrunners welcomes
gay, lesbian, bi and trans people of all abilities and
interests (Gary mfo@portlandlrontrunners org
www portlandfrontrunners org.)
Rosetown Ramblers, Portland's gay and lesbian
square dance club, dances at mainstream and plus
levels (PO Box 5352, Portland. OR 97228 5352
www rosetownramblers com)
Ruby Red Flippers a group of gay and lesbian scu
ba divers in the Portland area, teaches new recruits
and takes dives in Tacoma, Hood Canal and other
Pacific Northwest waters
(rubyredflippers@
yahoo com www rubyredflippers org.)
Team Tennis meets Sundays at University of
Portland. All levels of play welcome. First time is
free, subsequent times are $7 Please join usl
(8 am-noon. 503-788-8192 teamportlandtennis@
yahoo com.)
YOUTH
Children of Lesbians and Gays Everywhere
(COLAGE) is the only international organization
specifically supporting young people with sexual
minonty
parents
(colage@lmfamily.org
wwwcolage org.)
Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network
(GLSEN) strives to assure that each member of
every school community is valued and respected,
regardless of sexual orientation or gender identi -
ty/expression. (12700 SW North Dakota St.,
Suite
180
4/129,
Tigard.
OR
97223
503-525-1177.
glsen@glsenoregon.org.
www glsenoregon org.)
House of MOCHA (Men of Color Healthy 6
Aware) is a group of gay/bi/same gender-loving
men of color between 16 and 25 who want to
engage in activities, socials and community events
among their peers. (Kourtni 503-417-7991.
www brotobropdx org)
Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can't
qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as nee
dle exchange services that include those who
inject hormones. Provide transitional housing for
youth 20 and younger and for those HIV-positive
and younger than 23 Need volunteers of all ages
(10 am-6 pm Monday-Fnday. 1132 SW 13th Ave
503-535-3800 www.outsidein org.)
Pride Project bongs together Washington County
queer and questioning youth to plan and attend
monthly social events Also information, referral
and advocacy services in Washington County.
(Austin 503-260-5792 austm@pndeprofect org )
Sexual Minority Youth Resource Center
(SMYRC) offers support, recreation, counseling
and referral to gay, lesbian, bi and trans kids 23 and
younger Drop-in computer access, pool tables and
an informal place to hang out. Weekly trans, lead
ership and art support group meetings (4-9 pm
Wednesday. 4-11 pm Friday 2100 SE Belmont St.
503-872 9664 wwwsmyrc org.)
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When to Tell
Do I disclose that I don't have a dick?
D ear M s . B ehavior :
I’m transgendered, FTM, and have been living as
a man for two years. I don’t think most people can tell;
I seem to basically pass as male. I’ve had top surgery, but
my bottom surgery will have to wait until 1 can afford it.
Here’s the question: I met a woman, Jen, at the dog
park, and we had a date last weekend. I’ve been struggling
about when to tell her. I don’t want to wait until we’re
about to have sex to say, “Oh by the way, 1 used to be
female and I don’t have a dick yet.”
My friend James, who is also an FTM, says he always
tells women before he even asks them out. I’d prefer to
BY MERYL COHN
eet to know someone a bit first. But it’s unclear to me
how soon 1 need to tell. Is it a matter of ethics to tell before you even go on a date?
Ms. Behavior
—Ray
D ear R ay :
The time to tell is before your tongue is in your date’s mouth (which otherwise makes it hard
to talk). If you tell before you’re in any way sexually intimate, you’ll avoid a lot of awkwardness,
as well as the possibility of your date feeling betrayed by something that seems like a secret.
Since questions about “When to Tell” come up frequently from readers, here’s a list of
some of the other things you should tell someone before you swap spit, particularly if you’re
interested in more than a one-night stand:
1. I’m married (or in a committed relationship).
2. I’m with the circus.
3. I’m not sure if I’m gay or if this is just an experiment.
4. I’m leaving town tomorrow.
5.1 have several children.
6. I’m pregnant.
,
7.1 have a sexually communicable disease.
8. My dog likes to watch.
9. I’m a hopeless cling-on.
10. 1 have a jealous ex who tries to systematically destroy the people I date.
11. Mental illness runs in my family.
12.1 haven’t had a job since 1986.
13.1 live at home with my mother.
14. My mother is a narcissist, and 1 might be one, too.
15.1 don’t like oral sex.
16.1 can’t come unless___ . (Fill in the blank with whatever applies: a) I’m wearing my
special shoes, b) you pee on me, c) a circle of Little People call me a dirty whore, etc.)
17. My other girlfriend is waiting in the car.
D ear M s . B ehavior :
Upon finishing my tour in the Middle East, 1 came back home to my adorable boyfriend.
We’re readapting to life back together rather well, but for one thing. You see, 1 gave him
a couple of long flowing dresslike robes—you know, the kind you see some Arab men wear
in the movies. He loves them so much he insists on wearing one every night, to bed no less.
He says he loves the feel of the silky clothes on his skin.
However, 1 can’t stand that artificial barrier between his skin and mine. Not even chang
ing the bed sheets to higher thread count convinced him to get back to sleeping in the buff
again. I really miss cuddling next to my naked hubby; how can I convince him to get rid of
those awful robes? What would you say if they accidentally got shredded in a laundry mishap?
—Another Middle East Crisis
D ear A nlyther M iddle E ast C risis :
Can’t you think of a creative way to make your boyfriend strip? Try easing up on your
complaint for a while, and let your boyfriend enjoy sleeping in the Arab dresses. After a few
days or weeks, offer him a massage. He might shed the robes for a better rubdown, and if
you’re proficient enough, you might inspire him to remain naked. If that doesn't work, try
a magnificent blowjob, and suggest that he removes the robe so it doesn’t get sullied.
If both of your attempts fail to motivate him to remove the robe, don’t take it personally,
because it probably has nothing to do with you. Perhaps your boyfriend enjoys the sensual
feeling of the silk, or maybe he’s working out a childhixxl desire to wear a dress. Even if he’s
using the robe as a physical barrier to achieve distance from you, don't be threatened; it’s prob
ably a phase that will pass in a few weeks or months if you don’t make it into a big deal.
If, however, you shred your boyfriend’s robes in a laundry mishap, he’ll probably idealize
them (the way you would a person who dumped you), mourn their loss, seek to replace them
with a dozen silky dresses and never again go naked. •
M f .RYL C ohn is the author of Do What I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay and Lesbian
Etiquette. Signed copies are available directly from the author. Send questions or
correspondence to mshehavuir@aol .com.