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_______________________________________________________________________ JULY 7, 2006 COMPLETE SPIRITUALITY AND NONMETRO LISTINGS AVAILABLE ONLINE AT WWW.JUSTOUT.COM Activities include potlucks, recreational outings and cultural events. Friendly environment to meet and connect with other API IPO Box 12661. Portland, OR 97232 aplg j>dx@yahoo com.) Bad Girls is a social and educational leather and B/D/S/M club for self-identified women with an emphasis on safety and education. Workshops, discussions, events and parties Women of all ori entations can connect and ask questions during the Kinky Women’s Welcoming Munch at 7 pm every second Tuesday. 1503-972-2233. www.pdxbadgirls net.) Border Riders Motorcycle Club provides social opportunities for gay men interested in recre ational motorcycle touring and promotes educa tion on safe and legal machinery. 1503-281-4488 brmcprei@yahoo. com) Cascade Flyers are gay, lesbian and bi aviators, both private and professional, in Washington, Oregon and southern British Columbia. Dinner meet mgs in Portland area. 1503-701-7922. casflyers (riyahoo.com wwwgeocitiescom/casflyers) A Common Bond is a social support network for former or questioning Jehovah's Witnesses who are queer. Iacbportland@webtv.net.) Coqsure is a social group for people who were assigned a female sex at birth but identify other wise (female-to-male, genderqueer, drag king, etc.). First Sunday meetings are open to partners and families of any configuration. 1503-471-1515 groups, yahoo, com/group/coqsure.) Dungeon Men PDX hosts a men’s S/M party every other month in a Portland dungeon Masters and novices always welcome 1503-281-2076 bighnboy@aracnet com) 50+ lesbian social group for women meets on the third Saturday of the month. (4-7 pm 503-642-3360 or 503-286-3575.) FTM Pacific NW OR b WA is a social and discus sion group for female-to male trans men. (groups yahoo com/group/FTM PacificNW I Funny Ladies, a social group for nice lesbians 35 and older as well as their friends and loved ones, holds potlucks on the second Saturday of each month. (503-639-7488. flataps@yahoo.com) Gay Men’s Garden Club meets at a different garden every month to enjoy the diversity of plant materials that Portland offers the avid gardener Meet others, share ideas, trade plants, show off your garden, and have some fun outdoors! (11 am 1 pm first Sunday 503-347-5477 rogermosser@ Comcast net.) Genealogy group forming Gather with other lesbian researchers to trace your family tree and tackle "backwall" female ancestors, (famhistnw @aol.com) Imperial Sovereign Rose Court of Oregon is the oldest gay, lesbian, bi and trans social/fund-raismg organization in the state of Oregon. Meetings are the first two Mondays of each month (www.rosecourt.org.) Jewish Gay Men's Group please call for meet ing time and place. (503-246-5939 efraimlevi@aol. com.) Keshet is a social connection group for queer Jews and their spouses, partners, significant oth ers and good friends, whether Jewish or not It meets monthly for potluck dinners and special events. (David 503-226-7079, ext 14, or Mike 503-331-1111J Lesbians Enjoying Nature and Science (LENS) is a fun-loving group of women who en|oy explor ing all aspects of the environment. Activities include bird watching, nature walks, archaeology, camping, kayaking, star gazing and an occasional ''lecture." No experience necessary (Vicki 971-998-6040 lensnews@yahoo.com) Lesbian Garden Club is a group of women who love gardens and gardening. They exchange plants, seeds, advice and encouragement while having a good time. Call for a copy of the news letter and information about upcoming events. (Linda 503 909-2002 ) Lesbians with Degrees is a social group for intellectual women and those who want to meet them. (Lam 503-233-3557. Join listserv at LesbianswOegrees-subscnbeCaiyahoogroupscom.) Lulu’s Pervy Playhouse is a social group for self identifying women who are into S/M Play parties are held on the second Saturday of the month. (503-231-3992. dykedadi@comcast.net. www luluspervyplayhouse org) Men Over 40 is a small, socially supportive group that meets second and fourth Thursdays. (503-777-1376.) Monamorous bi group forming for women in their 40s who are single and professionally employed (monogirls06@yahoo com.) Night in Black Leather and The Leather Duck Club are the first and third Friday of each month at Gail's Dirty Duck Tavern (9 pm-midmght 439 NW Third Ave 503-224 8446 orleatherfrat@ yahoo.com.) Oregon Men Enjoying Naturism is a social organization for gay male naturists/nudists. Social gathering second Saturday of every month (omenpdx@omenpdx. org www omenpdx org) PDXFTM is a social group for female-to-male tr ns men and their significant others, friends, families and allies, (groups.yahoo com/group/ PDXFTM.) PDX Lesbo Nerds invite interesting, intelligent women 35 and older to socialize while playing board games like Scrabble and Spades (games groups yahoo com/group/PdxLesboNerds ) The gay Pinochle Group meets Sundays at Hobo's. Come play cards and meet the gang. New players always welcome. (6 pm 120 NW Third Ave Mike 503-641-7224.) Poder Latino is a nonprofit social community voice group for gay, lesbian, bi and trans people that reaches out to Latinos and Latmas by organ izing events and retreats and advocating HIV pre vention. Meets every other Monday at Outside In (6 30 pm 1030 SW 13th Ave Hugo 503 997 8615 or Audencio 503-261-5463.) Portland Leather Alliance is one of the largest pansexual, nonprofit B/D/S/M, leather and fetish lifestyle organizations in the Northwest Regular social and educational opportunities, including KmkFest, Leather Ball and Fall Vendors Fair. (www pdxleatheralliance. org.) Portland Leather Men meet every second Saturday for potluck and socializing. Meet men into a leather lifestyle and keep abreast of leather hap penings. No dues, no formal organization, no offi cers or board, just leather socialization for the past 21 years. (360-896 6665 plm@direcwaycom) Portland Lesbian Book Club gathers monthly to chat about a chosen book or to attend selected events. 16 30 pm third Tuesday groups yahoo com/group/portlandlesbianbookclub) Portland Metro Prime Timers is a social group for mature gay men and those who appreciate them, coming together for social, educational and cultural purposes. (PO Box 5884, Portland, OR 97228 503 286 4613 or 360-693-5506 pdxprimetimers@yahoo com www geocities com/pdxpnmetimers.) Rainriders Motorcycle Club meets weekly at the Roxy. Ride your bike or just come meet the group. Everyone welcome. (10 am Sunday 1121 SW Stark St. wwwpdx-rrmccom.) Rose City Discussion Club, the largest open pan sexual/alternative sexuality club in the Northwest, is open to all orientations, fetishes and lifestyles that are safe, sane and consensual Monthly meet mgs, workshops and newsletter (503-972-1869 rcdc@teleport.com wwwrcdc org.) Soyboys Vegetarian Men's Group is a fun, social gathering for gay and bi men who are interested in a healthy vegetarian or vegan lifestyle. A variety of act vities and monthly potlucks on the last Saturday. (veggieguys@aolcom) Women of the Rivers, the Portland/Vancouver chapter of the Women on Wheels Motorcycle Club meets monthly at Elmer's, sponsors riding clinics and takes day trips. (7:15 pm second Thursday 9848 N Whitaker Road, www hevanet com/chama/wow) Physical Recreation Adventure Group organizes a variety of activities year round, including hiking, walking, cross-coun try and downhill skiing, rafting and mountain bik ing. (PO Box 2201, Portland, OR 97208-2201 www adventuregroup org) Amazon Dragons Paddhng Club invites women 16 and older to join Portland's only out lesbian dragon boat team. Be pari of the fun and fitness with this dynamic group, (www amazondragons org.) The Forest Group outings are cooperative adventures for women Participants are responsible for providing their own equipment and choosing outings appropriate for their skill and fit ness level All skill levels welcome (503-772-1860 imnoregon @comcast net www geocities com/ncc 1127/forestpdx) Gay Women's Golf Group welcomes all levels of players (wwwturfgidz com.) Lesbian Equestrian Group gets together for Just Out is published on the first and third Friday of every month The dead line for submissions is 14 days prior to publication OutReach listings ol up to 50 words are provided free of charge to organ izations and groups specifically serving the sexual minorities community All listings are suhiect Io editing, and inclusion is suhiect to space limita lions relevance and receipt by deadline listings expire once a year tin July), and submissions run from the date received until the next scheduled expiration date Listings are automatically equestrian activities in the Pacific Northwest (Denise 503 654-3865 Lynn 503 777-2339 kelrav@rdrop. com.) National Gay Basketball League practices at Chief Joseph Elementary School in preparation to represent Oregon in the 2006 Gay Games (7:15-9:30 pm Monday 2409 N Saratoga St. edmundgames@msn. com www ngba us.) Net Rippers is a gay men's indoor soccer team that's just starting up in Portland (bendoverbeck- ham@gmail com www myspace com/netrippers) Out Dancing teaches dancing for same-sex cou ples at Ankeny Street Studio Classes for different dance styles start the first Friday of each month: country, swing, tango, cha cha, etc. Call for sched ule (503-236-5129 out_dancmg@yahoo com • home att.net/~outdancmg) OutKayaking, Portland’s gay and lesbian sea kayak group, explores the lakes, rivers and bays of northwest Oregon and southwest Washington. (www outkayakmg org) Portland Gay it Lesbian Community Bowling Association is in its 28th season' Meets Sundays at Hollywood Bowl. Drop ms welcome anytime (3 30 pm 4030 Nt Halsey St. Mailing address PO Box 42034, Portland, OR 97242 503 722 0438 pdxbowl@comcast net www pdxbowl com) Whether you're a running novice or a seasoned marathoner, Portland Frontrunners welcomes gay. lesbian, bi and trans people of all abilities and interests (Gary info@portlandfrontrunners org www portlandfrontrunners org) Rosetown Ramblers. Portland's gay and lesbian square dance club, dances at mainstream and plus levels. (PO Box 5352, Portland. OR 97228 5352 wwwrosetownramblers com.) Ruby Red Flippers, a group of gay and lesbian scuba divers in the Portland area, teaches new recruits and takes dives in Tacoma, Hood Canal and other Pacific Northwest waters, (rubyredflip- pers@yahoo com www rubyredflippers org.) Soccer players capable of participating in 2006 Gay Games July 15-22 in Chicago sought for adult league in Portland (Carlos 503-282-4907 gaygames soccer@myway com.) Team Oregon, the umbrella sports group coordi» natmg efforts for Outgames 2006 in Montreal and Gay Games 2006 in Chicago, holds monthly meet ings for those wanting to participate (503-736-3292. www teamoregon2006 org.) Team Tennis meets Sundays at University of Portland All levels of play welcome First time is free, subsequent times are $7. Please join us! 18 am-noon 503-788-8192 teampcirtlandtenms @yahoo.com.) justput 37 Buyer Beware My friend is bossy, opinionated and judgmental. Can you help her find a girlfriend? P ear M s . B ehavior : My friend Nancy wants a girlfriend very badly. She’s 35, smart, cute, active and fun. However, she’s also bossy, opinionated, judgmental and never interested tn anyone who is interested in her. Operating on the “there’s a lid for every pot” theory, how can we help Nancy find that lid? I'm not sure that sharing my perceptions about her pickiness would be helpful or welcome. She reads your column, though, and would welcome any advice you could share. Thanks. —Wanting My Friend to Be I lap|ry Ms. Behavior BY MERYL COHN D ear W anting M y F riend to B e H appy : Your difficulty in helping your judgmental friend is similar to those faced every day by corporations: How can you create a marketing campaign to sell a worthwhile item (Nancy) with some serious flaws? Pharmaceutical companies are forced by fair balance laws to disclose the hideous side effects of their products along with the potential benefits. Thus a list of potential maladies ranging front baldness to diarrhea to flatulence must be revealed to the consumer, result ing in a sort of informed consent, so that the promise of lower blood pressure or a harder erection won’t be t<x> powerful to resist. If you take on the job of selling Nancy, you probably don’t have to start out hy dis closing her issues; it sounds like she’s perfectly capable of revealing them herself. (Hopefully, she doesn’t cause hair loss or gastrointestinal disorders, hut she does sound strident, which is unpleasant enough anyway.) Perhaps unfortunately, there’s nothing you can do to change Nancy’s personality. But in keeping with your cover-for-every-pot theory, Nancy might yet get lucky and find a partner. As you might have noticed, some people actually do like to be bossed around and judged. Why? Sometimes they're slightly masochistic and need to be abused in order to feel loved. Sometimes they’re still working out their family crap and haven’t figured out how to move beyond their childhood wounds. Whatever the reason, such people love to be controlled and criticized. Let’s hope that your friend Nancy finds such a person to love and control and that they live together happily ever after. D ear M s . B ehavior : YOUTH Children of Lesbians and Gays Everywhere (COLAGE) is the only international organization specifically supporting young people with sexu al minority parents. (colage@lmfamily org www.colage org.) Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network (GLSEN) strives to assure that each member of every school community is valued and respected, regardless of sexual orientation or gender identi ty/expression (12700 SW North Dakota St, Suite 180 4129. Tigard, OR 97223 503 525 1177 glsen@glsenoregon org wwwglsenoregon.org.) House of MOCHA (Men of Color Healthy b Aware) is a group of gay/bi/same-gender loving men of color between 16 and 25 who want to engage in activities, socials and community events among their peers (Kourtm 503-417-7991 www. brotobropdx. org.) Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can t qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as nee dle exchange services that include those who inject hormones. Provide transitional housing for youth 20 and younger and for those HIV-positive and younger than 23. Need volunteers of all ages. (10 am-6 pm Monday-Friday 1132 SW 13th Ave 503-535-3800 wwwoutsidem org) Pride Project brings together Washington County queer and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social events. Also information, referral and advocacy services in Washington County. (Austin 503-260-5792 austm@pndepro/ect org) Sexual Minority Youth Resource Center (SMYRC) offers support, recreatioh, counseling and referral to gay, lesbian, bi and trans kids 23 and younger Drop in computer access, pool tables and an informal place to hang out. Weekly trans, leadership and art support group meetings (4 9 pm Wednesday, 4-11 pm Friday 2100 St Belmont St. 503-872-9664 wwwsmyrc org) deleted upon expiration to ensure uninterrupted listing, please submit updat ed information at least a month prior to the expiration date Complete listings are available online at www.justoul com Send listings to Just Out iattn Calendar) P0 Box 14400, Portland, OR 97293 0400 Fax submissions, to 503 236 1257 or e ntail justout'u justdut.com Submissions cannot be accepted over the phone Please type your announcements and include full contact information My new boyfriend is considerably older than I am. He was married most of his adult life and is divorced from a woman with whom he has three grown kids. The problem is that Jack is used to living a straight life and getting gay sex on the side, so he’s not exactly the grown-up, sophisticated gay male partner I’ve been looking for all my life. Nonetheless, he is sensitive and warm and a very gixxl person, which is nothing to sneeze at. I’ve lately put my kxit down and told Jack that he has to behave more like a grown up: joining me at parties, being out in public, making a consistent plan to see each other. Otherwise, 1 think he’d just keep me on the side for sex (coming over late at night and leaving before dawn) and not include me in his regular life. He seems to be slowly coming along, but my friends think I’m wasting my time. They tell me once a closet case, always a closet case. Is that true? Do you think there’s hope? —Vincent tn Love D ear V incent in L ove : Some musty closet dwellers do come out later tn life, but they have to be motivated to do so. Such inspiration generally comes either from a lengthy proo'ss involving growth and self-acceptance or from falling in love. Jack might rise to your requests for a real relationship, or he might continue to act like a so-called straight man who finds occasional relief at a rest stop. You say he’s “slowly coming along,” but it’s unclear what that means. Is he stuck on appearing straight at all costs? Will he ever comfortably go out on dates with you and spend time with your gay friends? It seems that an evening at home together, doing facials and wearing sarongs is probably out of the question. Can you live with this? Jack might be able to change enough to have a relationship you’ll find fulfilling, but don’t count on it. He might actually prefer to socialize with his straight friends and treat you like a hustler, no matter how unevolved it might seem to you. Ultimately, you’ll probably need to ask yourself whether you can be satisfied with furtive late-night blow jobs or if you’d rather be with someone who can integrate you into his life and join you in yours. © MERYL C ohn is the author of Do What I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay and Lesbian Etiquette. Signed copies are available directly from the author. Send questions or correspondence to mshehavior@aol.com
