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APRIL 21, 2006 COMPLETE SPIRITUALITY AND NONMETRO LISTINGS AVAILABLE ONLINE AT WWW.JUSTOUT.COM fall and spring concerts. Subgroups include the Rose City Swing band and a marching band with flag corps. Come join us! 1503-790-2170. info@rcgfb org. www.rcgfb.org.) Satori Men s Chorus welcomes new members of all ages and races, regardless of sexual orientation or musical background, to join Wednesday rehearsals. No audition necessary. 1503-299-4454 www. satorichorus org.) General Asian b Pacific Islander Lesbians and Gays is a nonprofit community voice for gay, lesbian and bi Asian and Pacific Islanders. Activities include potlucks, recreational outings and cultural events. Friendly environment to meet and connect with other API. IPO Box 12661, Portland, OR 97232. aplg jjdx@yahoo.com.) Bad Girls is a social and educational leather and B/D/S/M club for self-identified women with an emphasis on safety and education. Workshops, discussions, events and parties. Women of all orientations can connect and ask questions dur ing the Kinky Women's Welcoming Munch at 7 pm every second Tuesday. 1503-972-2233. www. pdxbadgirls. net.) Border Riders Motorcycle Club provides social opportunities for gay men interested in recre ational motorcycle touring and promotes educa tion on safe and legal machinery. 1503-281-4488 brmcprez@yahoo com.) Cascade Flyers are gay, lesbian and bi aviators, both private and professional, in Washington, Oregon and southern British Columbia. Dinner meetings in Portland area. (503-701-7922. casfly- ers@yahoo. com. www.geocities. com/casflyers.) employed. (monogirls06@yahoo. com.) Night in Black Leather and The Leather Duck Club are the first and third Friday of each month at Gail's Dirty Duck Tavern. (9 pm-midnight. 439 NW Third Ave. 503-224 8446 orleatherfrat @yahoo.com.) Oregon Men Enjoying Naturism is a social organization for gay male natunsts/nudists. Social gathering second Saturday of every month. (omenpdx@omenpdx. org www. omenpdx. org.) POX FTM is a social group for female to male trans men and their significant others, friends, families and allies, (groups.yahoo.com/group/ PDXFTM.) POX Lesbo Nerds invite interesting, intelligent women 35 and older to socialize while playing board games like Scrabble and Spades. (games.groups.yahoocom/group/PdxLesboNerds.) The gay Pinochle Group meets Sundays at Hobo’s. Come play cards and meet the gang. New players always welcome. (6 pm 120 NW Third Ave. Mike 503-641-7224.) Poder Latino is a nonprofit social community voice group for gay, lesbian, bi and trans people that reaches out to Latinos and Latinas by organizing events and retreats and advocating HIV prevention. Meets every other Monday at Outside In. (6:30 pm 1030 SW 13th Ave Hugo 503-997-8615 orAudencio 503-261-5463 ) Portland Bisexual Women is a discussion, social and support group for bi and questioning women. (503-347-5817 portlandbiwomen@comcast. net. www. portlandbiwomen. freeservers. com.) A Common Bond is a social support network for former or questioning Jehovah's Witnesses who are queer, (acbportland@webtv.net.) Portland Leather Alliance is one of the largest pansexual, nonprofit B/D/S/M, leather and fetish lifestyle organizations in the Northwest. Regular social and educational opportunities, including KinkFest, Leather Ball, kind auctions and Fall Vendors Fair, (www.pdxleatheralliance.org.) Coqsure is a social group for people who were assigned a female sex at birth but identify other wise (female-to-male, genderqueer, drag king, etc.). First Sunday meetings are open to partners and families of any configuration. (503-471-1515. groups, yahoo, com/group/coqsure.) Portland Leather Men meet every second Saturday for potluck and socializing. Meet men into a leather lifestyle and keep abreast of leather hap penings. No dues, no formal organization, no offi cers or board, just leather socialization for the past 21 years. (360-896-6665. plm@dtrecway.com.) 50+ lesbian social group for women meets on the third Saturday of the month. (4-7 pm. 503-642-3360 or 503-286-3575.) FTM Pacific NW OR ft WA is a social and dis cussion group for female-to-male trans men. (groups, yahoo. com/group/FTM PacificNW.) Portland Metro Prime Timers is a social group for mature gay men and those who appreciate them, coming together for social, educational and cultur al purposes. (PO Box 5884, Portland, OR 97228 503-286-4613 or 360-693-5506. pdxprimetimers@ yahoo, com. www. geocities, com/pdxprimetimers.) Funny Ladies, a social group for nice lesbians 35 and older as well as their friends and loved ones, holds potlucks on the second Saturday of each month. (503-639-7488 flataps@yahoo.com.) Rainriders Motorcycle Club meets weekly at the Roxy. Ride your bike or just come meet the group. Everyone welcome. (10 am Sunday. 1121 SW Stark St. wwwpdx-rrmc.com.) Genealogy group forming. Gather with other les bian researchers to trace your family tree and tackle "brickwall" female ancestors, (famhistnw @aol.com.) Rose City Discussion Club, the largest open pan sexual/alternative sexuality club in the Northwest, is open to all orientations, fetishes and lifestyles that are safe, sane and consensual. Monthly meet ings, workshops and newsletter. (503-972-1869 rcdc@teleport.com. www.rcdc.org.) Imperial Sovereign Rose Court of Oregon is the oldest gay, lesbian, bi and trans social/fund-rais- ing organization in the state of Oregon. Meetings are the first two Mondays of each month. (www. rosecourt, org.) Jewish Gay Men's Group—please call for meeting time and place. (503-246-5939. efraimlevi@aol. com.) Keshet is a social connection group for queer Jews and their spouses, partners, significant others and good friends, whether Jewish or not. It meets monthly for potluck dinners and special events. (David 503-226-7079, ext. 14, or Mike 503-331-1111.) Lesbians Enjoying Nature and Science (LENS) is a fun-loving group of women who enjoy explor ing all aspects of the environment. Activities include bird watching, nature walks, archaeology, camping, kayaking, star gazing and an occasion al "lecture * No experience necessary. (Laurie 503-977-2903. Iensnews@yahoo. com.) Lesbian Garden Club is a group of women who love gardens and gardening. They exchange plants, seeds, advice and encouragement while having a good time. Call for a copy of the newsletter and information about upcoming events. (Linda 503-909-2002.) Lesbians with Degrees is a social group for intellectual women and those who want to meet them. (Lani 503-233-3557 Join listserv at LesbianswDegrees-subscnbe(<L>yahoogroups. com.) Lulu's Pervy Playhouse is a social group for self-identifying women who are into S/M. Play parties are held on the second Saturday of the month. (503-231-3992. dykedadi@comcast.net. www. luluspervyplayhouse. org.) Men Over 40 is a small, socially supportive group that meets second and fourth Thursdays. (503-777-1376.) Monamorous bi group forming for women in their 40s who are single and professionally Soyboys Vegetarian Men's Group is a fun, social gathering for gay and bi men who are inter ested in a healthy vegetarian or vegan lifestyle. A variety of activities and monthly potlucks on the last Saturday, (veggieguys@aol.com.) Women of the Rivers, the Portland/Vancouver chapter of the Women on Wheels Motorcycle Club, meets monthly at Elmer's, sponsors riding clinics and takes day trips. (7:15 pm second Thursday 9848 N Whitaker Road www hevanet com/chama/wow.) Physical Recreation Adventure Group organizes a variety of activities year round, including hiking, walking, cross-coun- try and downhill skiing, rafting and mountain bik ing. (PO Box 2201, Portland, OR 97208-2201 www adventuregroup org.) Amazon Dragons Paddling Club invites women 16 and older to join Portland's only out lesbian drag on boat team. Be part of the fun and fitness with this dynamic group, (www amazondragons org.) The Forest Group outings are cooperative adventures for women. Participants are responsible for providing their own equipment and choosing outings appropriate for their skill and fitness level. All skill levels welcome. (503-772-1860 imnoregon@comcast.net. www geocities com/ncc 1127/forestpdx.) Gay Women’s Golf Group welcomes all levels of players, (www turfgirlz.com.) Lesbian Equestrian Group gets together for equestrian activities in the Pacific Northwest. (Denise 503-654-3865. Lynn 503-777 2339 kelrav@rdrop.com.) National Gay Basketball League is forming a chapter in Portland to represent Oregon in the 2006 Gay Games, (www.ngba.us/portland/pdx.htmj Just Out is published on the fust and thud Friday of every month The dead'me for submissions is 14 days prior to publication OutReach listings of up to 50 words are prov uled fret of charge to organizations and groups specifica:iy serving the sexua. minorities community Ai listings are suh|ect to editing and inclusion is subiect to space imitations relevance and receipt by deadline I iStmgs f spur Wi a year Im Jpiyi and sul.mssions inn‘nun'lu dat>.re(>a'rd pnti I'e ne.' si ri du td • -p i.it'i1 n;,-. l ' r gs ai> iiitpmabc a yd» .'t <i upoi Net Rippers is a gay men s indoor soccer team starting up in Portland. (bendoverbeckham@ gmail com www. myspace. com/netrippers.) Out Dancing teaches dancing for same-sex cou ples at Ankeny Street Studio. Classes for differ ent dance styles start the first Friday of each month: country, swing, tango, cha-cha, etc Call for schedule. (503-236-5129 out_dancing@ yahoo com home att.net/~outdancing.) OutKayaking, Portland's gay and lesbian sea kayak group, explores the lakes, rivers and bays of Northwest Oregon and Southwest Washington. (www. outkayaking org.) Pacific Coast Boating Club provides oppor tunities for gay and lesbian boaters to come together for fun on local rivers and promotes safe boating, (paccoastboatclub@comcast.net .) Portland Avalanche rugby team is always seek ing new players for practices Tuesdays and Thursdays through May 17 at East Delta Park. (6:30-8:30 pm. 10737 N Union Court. 503-715-3122. www. avalancherugby, org.) Portland Gay b Lesbian Community Bowling Association is in its 28th season! Meets Sundays at Hollywood Bowl. Drop-ins wel come anytime. (3:30 pm. 4030 NE Halsey St. Mailing address: PO Box 42034, Portland, OR 97242. 503-722-0438. pdxbowl@comcast net. www.pdxbowl. com.) Whether you're a running novice or a seasoned marathoner, Portland Frontrunners welcomes gay, lesbian, bi and trans people of all abilities and interests. (Gary mfo@portlandfrontrunners.org. www. portlandfrontrunners, org.) Rosetown Ramblers, Portland's gay and lesbian square dance club, dances at mainstream and plus levels. (PO Box 5352, Portland, OR 97228 5352. www. rosetownramblers, com.) Ruby Red Flippers, a group of gay and lesbian scuba divers in the Portland area, teaches new recruits and takes dives in Tacoma, Hood Canal and other Pacific Northwest waters. (rubyredflippers@yahoo. com. www. rubyredflippers. org.) Soccer players capable of participating in 2006 Gay Games July 15-22 in Chicago sought for adult league in Portland. (Carlos 503-282-4907 gaygames_soccer@myway.com.) Team Oregon, the umbrella sports group coordi nating efforts for Outgames 2006 in Montreal and Gay Games 2006 in Chicago, holds monthly meetings for those wanting to participate. (503-736-3292 www. teamoregon2006. org.) Team Tennis meets Sundays at University of Portland. All levels of play welcome. First time is free, subsequent times are $7. Please join us! (8 am-noon. 503-788-8192. teamportlandtennis@yahoo. com.) YOUTH Children of Lesbians and Gays Everywhere (COLAGE) is the only international organization specifically supporting young people with sexu al minority parents, (colage@lmfamily.org. wwwcolage org.) Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network (GLSEN) strives to assure that each member of every school community is valued and respect ed, regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity/expression. (12700 SW North Dakota St., Suite 180 7/129, Tigard. OR 97223. 503-525-1177. glsen@glsenoregon org. www. glsenoregon org.) House of MOCHA (Men of Color Healthy b Aware) is a group of gay/bi/same gender-loving men of color between 16 and 25 who want to engage in activities, socials and community events among their peers. (Kourtni 503-417-7991 www.brotobropdx org.) Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can't qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as needle exchange services that include those who inject hormones. Provide transitional housing for youth 20 and younger and for those HIV-positive and younger than 23. Need volunteers of all ages. (10 am-6 pm Monday- Friday 1132 SW 13th Ave 503 535-3800 www. outsidein org.) Pride Project brings together Washington County queer and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social events. Also information, referral and advocacy services in Washington County. (Austin 503-260-5792 austin@pridepro/ect org.) Sexual Minority Youth Resource Center (SMYRC) offers support, recreation, counseling and referral to gay, lesbian, bi and trans kids 23 and younger. Drop-in computer access, pool tables and an informal place to hang out. Weekly trans, leadership and art support group meetings. (4-9 pm Wednesday, 4-11 pm Friday. 2100 SE Belmont St. 503-872-9664 wwwsmyrc.org) expiration To ensure uninterrupted listing, please submit updated information at 'east a month prior to the expiration date Complete listings are available online at www jusfout com Send istmqsto Just Out lattn Ca'endari PO Box 14400. Portland OR 07293 0400 Fax submissions to 503 236 1257 oremai -ustout i anno! hr .K.cep’ed ovt< the phont -ustout ( om Submissions P i ast typ» yoi.i annopi’ceirien's a- d nchiih- *u i ontar * ii'fo'matior; JUStiOUt 33 Pillow Talk Should I thank the person I'm with after sex? D ear M s . B ehavior : I am a 33-year-old woman and have only recent ly started dating women. 1 have two questions about sex that I’m embarrassed to ask my friends. First, I’m a little overweight right now. If I’m making love with a woman, is it OK to put all of my weight on her, or should I support myself on my hands and knees? If there’s any rule, no one has told me (and I frankly never worried about squashing men). Second, should 1 thank the person I’m with after sex? It seems like the polite thing to do, but I worry that it makes it feel like sex is a commodity. —Maxine Ms. Behavior BY MERYL COHN D ear M axine : First, it depends what you mean when you describe yourself as “a little overweight.” Some women say that because they’ve eaten two extra com chips the previous week, and others are describing true obesity. Taking your description at face value, unless your date appears to be suf fering (gasping, turning blue or ceasing to move), it would seem unnecessary to perch on your hands and knees during lovemaking. Full body contact is far more delicious than the alternative. You can thank someone for sex if your intention is to say, “Hey, that was great, thank you," as if you were thanking someone for a nice back rub. But please be careful not to sound too grateful, as in, “Thank you, thank you, thank you, no one has fucked me in years!” or too perfunctory, as in, “Thanks for doing me, now go away.” D ear M s . B ehavior : My partner proposed to me on Christmas Eve. We are happily planning the ceremony for next year, and 1 have several questions: 1. How do we coordinate a bachelor party where my dad and brothers will attend? At my brothers’ bachelor parties we had strippers; is it appropriate for me to have male strippers at mine? 2. What is considered appropriate language for the invitation? Do we say, “You are invit ed to the wedding...” or something more watered-down so as not to offend? 3. How do I tell my colleagues at work about the wedding, as I’ll clearly need time off for the honeymoon? 4. We are also planning to have documents drawn up—medical power of attorney, etc. Should we sign these as part of the ceremony, or is that too political? 5. Is it OK to register for gifts, or is that just tacky? 6. While my family has expressed a desire to attend, they can’t travel with so many chil dren. We don’t want to get married in their home state of New Hampshire. Any suggestions? —In Love D ear I n L ove : 1. Male strippers and straight male family members don’t always mix well. If you hire strippers for the party, pick a different night to go out separately with your dad and brother. Not that there’s anything shameful about a dude in a G-string gyrating in your dad’s face, but merely so that you’ll feel free to enjoy the lap dances at your own party. 2. Are you actually worried about using the word “wedding” in a wedding invitation (even while contemplating allowing a stripper to swing his dick at your father)? The word “wedding” is inoffensive, even (or especially) if it’s two men who are getting married. If you plan to go through with this event, you’d better get used to words like “marriage,” “wedding” and “husband.” 3. It’s time for you to overcome your fear about telling your colleagues that you’re marry ing your boyfriend. Prepare in advance, if necessary: Stand in front of the mirror and say, “queer wedding.” Then say “gay marriage" and “homo honeymoon.” Wait a minute: Are you even out to these people? You don’t have to stand on your desk and announce that you’re a butt pirate, but you should at least mention that you’re marrying a man. 4. Do not draw up a power of attorney or health care proxy document at your wedding unless you want your guests to die of boredom. Take care of legal matters at your attorney’s office before the wedding. Make sure to include a prenuptial agreement, which is also boring and unromantic but helpful in protecting your assets. 5. Registering for gifts is fine, but it’s tacky to send out announcements about where you’re registered. Feel free to tell those who ask, but don’t solicit gifts or drop the name of the place you’re registered into casual conversation and then pretend it’s an accident. 6. If your relatives in New Hampshire care to attend your wedding, they can arrange for baby sitters to watch their spawn. The mountain shouldn’t come to Muhammad, and the homos shouldn’t go to the “Live Free or Die” state for the convenience of others. ® MERYL C ohn is the author of Do What I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay and Lesbian Etiquette. Signed copies are available directly from the author. Send questions or correspondence to msbehavior@aol.com.
