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fall and spring concerts. Subgroups include the
Rose City Swing band and a marching band with
flag corps. Come join us! 1503-790-2170.
info@rcgfb org. www.rcgfb.org.)
Satori Men s Chorus welcomes new members of
all ages and races, regardless of sexual orientation
or musical background, to join Wednesday
rehearsals. No audition necessary. 1503-299-4454
www. satorichorus org.)
General
Asian b Pacific Islander Lesbians and Gays is
a nonprofit community voice for gay, lesbian and
bi Asian and Pacific Islanders. Activities include
potlucks, recreational outings and cultural events.
Friendly environment to meet and connect with
other API. IPO Box 12661, Portland, OR 97232.
aplg jjdx@yahoo.com.)
Bad Girls is a social and educational leather and
B/D/S/M club for self-identified women with an
emphasis on safety and education. Workshops,
discussions, events and parties. Women of all
orientations can connect and ask questions dur
ing the Kinky Women's Welcoming Munch at
7 pm every second Tuesday. 1503-972-2233.
www. pdxbadgirls. net.)
Border Riders Motorcycle Club provides social
opportunities for gay men interested in recre
ational motorcycle touring and promotes educa
tion on safe and legal machinery. 1503-281-4488
brmcprez@yahoo com.)
Cascade Flyers are gay, lesbian and bi aviators,
both private and professional, in Washington,
Oregon and southern British Columbia. Dinner
meetings in Portland area. (503-701-7922. casfly-
ers@yahoo. com. www.geocities. com/casflyers.)
employed. (monogirls06@yahoo. com.)
Night in Black Leather and The Leather Duck
Club are the first and third Friday of each month
at Gail's Dirty Duck Tavern. (9 pm-midnight.
439 NW Third Ave. 503-224 8446 orleatherfrat
@yahoo.com.)
Oregon Men Enjoying Naturism is a social
organization for gay male natunsts/nudists. Social
gathering second Saturday of every month.
(omenpdx@omenpdx. org www. omenpdx. org.)
POX FTM is a social group for female to male
trans men and their significant others, friends,
families and allies, (groups.yahoo.com/group/
PDXFTM.)
POX Lesbo Nerds invite interesting, intelligent
women 35 and older to socialize while playing
board games like Scrabble and Spades.
(games.groups.yahoocom/group/PdxLesboNerds.)
The gay Pinochle Group meets Sundays at
Hobo’s. Come play cards and meet the gang.
New players always welcome. (6 pm 120 NW
Third Ave. Mike 503-641-7224.)
Poder Latino is a nonprofit social community
voice group for gay, lesbian, bi and trans people
that reaches out to Latinos and Latinas by
organizing events and retreats and advocating
HIV prevention. Meets every other Monday at
Outside In. (6:30 pm 1030 SW 13th Ave Hugo
503-997-8615 orAudencio 503-261-5463 )
Portland Bisexual Women is a discussion, social
and support group for bi and questioning women.
(503-347-5817 portlandbiwomen@comcast. net.
www. portlandbiwomen. freeservers. com.)
A Common Bond is a social support network for
former or questioning Jehovah's Witnesses who
are queer, (acbportland@webtv.net.)
Portland Leather Alliance is one of the largest
pansexual, nonprofit B/D/S/M, leather and fetish
lifestyle organizations in the Northwest. Regular
social and educational opportunities, including
KinkFest, Leather Ball, kind auctions and Fall
Vendors Fair, (www.pdxleatheralliance.org.)
Coqsure is a social group for people who were
assigned a female sex at birth but identify other
wise (female-to-male, genderqueer, drag king,
etc.). First Sunday meetings are open to partners
and families of any configuration. (503-471-1515.
groups, yahoo, com/group/coqsure.)
Portland Leather Men meet every second
Saturday for potluck and socializing. Meet men into
a leather lifestyle and keep abreast of leather hap
penings. No dues, no formal organization, no offi
cers or board, just leather socialization for the past
21 years. (360-896-6665. plm@dtrecway.com.)
50+ lesbian social group for women meets on
the third Saturday of the month. (4-7 pm.
503-642-3360 or 503-286-3575.)
FTM Pacific NW OR ft WA is a social and dis
cussion group for female-to-male trans men.
(groups, yahoo. com/group/FTM PacificNW.)
Portland Metro Prime Timers is a social group for
mature gay men and those who appreciate them,
coming together for social, educational and cultur
al purposes. (PO Box 5884, Portland, OR 97228
503-286-4613 or 360-693-5506. pdxprimetimers@
yahoo, com. www. geocities, com/pdxprimetimers.)
Funny Ladies, a social group for nice lesbians 35
and older as well as their friends and loved ones,
holds potlucks on the second Saturday of each
month. (503-639-7488 flataps@yahoo.com.)
Rainriders Motorcycle Club meets weekly at
the Roxy. Ride your bike or just come meet the
group. Everyone welcome. (10 am Sunday.
1121 SW Stark St. wwwpdx-rrmc.com.)
Genealogy group forming. Gather with other les
bian researchers to trace your family tree and
tackle "brickwall" female ancestors, (famhistnw
@aol.com.)
Rose City Discussion Club, the largest open pan
sexual/alternative sexuality club in the Northwest,
is open to all orientations, fetishes and lifestyles
that are safe, sane and consensual. Monthly meet
ings, workshops and newsletter. (503-972-1869
rcdc@teleport.com. www.rcdc.org.)
Imperial Sovereign Rose Court of Oregon is the
oldest gay, lesbian, bi and trans social/fund-rais-
ing organization in the state of Oregon. Meetings
are the first two Mondays of each month.
(www. rosecourt, org.)
Jewish Gay Men's Group—please call for
meeting time and place. (503-246-5939.
efraimlevi@aol. com.)
Keshet is a social connection group for queer
Jews and their spouses, partners, significant
others and good friends, whether Jewish or not.
It meets monthly for potluck dinners and special
events. (David 503-226-7079, ext. 14, or Mike
503-331-1111.)
Lesbians Enjoying Nature and Science (LENS)
is a fun-loving group of women who enjoy explor
ing all aspects of the environment. Activities
include bird watching, nature walks, archaeology,
camping, kayaking, star gazing and an occasion
al "lecture * No experience necessary. (Laurie
503-977-2903. Iensnews@yahoo. com.)
Lesbian Garden Club is a group of women who
love gardens and gardening. They exchange
plants, seeds, advice and encouragement while
having a good time. Call for a copy of the
newsletter and information about upcoming
events. (Linda 503-909-2002.)
Lesbians with Degrees is a social group for
intellectual women and those who want to meet
them. (Lani 503-233-3557 Join listserv at
LesbianswDegrees-subscnbe(<L>yahoogroups. com.)
Lulu's Pervy Playhouse is a social group for
self-identifying women who are into S/M. Play
parties are held on the second Saturday of the
month. (503-231-3992. dykedadi@comcast.net.
www. luluspervyplayhouse. org.)
Men Over 40 is a small, socially supportive
group that meets second and fourth Thursdays.
(503-777-1376.)
Monamorous bi group forming for women in
their 40s who are single and professionally
Soyboys Vegetarian Men's Group is a fun,
social gathering for gay and bi men who are inter
ested in a healthy vegetarian or vegan lifestyle.
A variety of activities and monthly potlucks on
the last Saturday, (veggieguys@aol.com.)
Women of the Rivers, the Portland/Vancouver
chapter of the Women on Wheels Motorcycle
Club, meets monthly at Elmer's, sponsors riding
clinics and takes day trips. (7:15 pm second
Thursday 9848 N Whitaker Road www hevanet
com/chama/wow.)
Physical Recreation
Adventure Group organizes a variety of activities
year round, including hiking, walking, cross-coun-
try and downhill skiing, rafting and mountain bik
ing. (PO Box 2201, Portland, OR 97208-2201
www adventuregroup org.)
Amazon Dragons Paddling Club invites women
16 and older to join Portland's only out lesbian drag
on boat team. Be part of the fun and fitness with
this dynamic group, (www amazondragons org.)
The Forest Group outings are cooperative
adventures for women. Participants are
responsible for providing their own equipment
and choosing outings appropriate for their skill
and fitness level. All skill levels welcome.
(503-772-1860
imnoregon@comcast.net.
www geocities com/ncc 1127/forestpdx.)
Gay Women’s Golf Group welcomes all levels of
players, (www turfgirlz.com.)
Lesbian Equestrian Group gets together for
equestrian activities in the Pacific Northwest.
(Denise 503-654-3865. Lynn 503-777 2339
kelrav@rdrop.com.)
National Gay Basketball League is forming a
chapter in Portland to represent Oregon in the 2006
Gay Games, (www.ngba.us/portland/pdx.htmj
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Net Rippers is a gay men s indoor soccer team
starting up in Portland. (bendoverbeckham@
gmail com www. myspace. com/netrippers.)
Out Dancing teaches dancing for same-sex cou
ples at Ankeny Street Studio. Classes for differ
ent dance styles start the first Friday of each
month: country, swing, tango, cha-cha, etc Call
for schedule. (503-236-5129 out_dancing@
yahoo com home att.net/~outdancing.)
OutKayaking, Portland's gay and lesbian sea
kayak group, explores the lakes, rivers and bays of
Northwest Oregon and Southwest Washington.
(www. outkayaking org.)
Pacific Coast Boating Club provides oppor
tunities for gay and lesbian boaters to come
together for fun on local rivers and promotes
safe boating, (paccoastboatclub@comcast.net .)
Portland Avalanche rugby team is always seek
ing new players for practices Tuesdays and
Thursdays through May 17 at East Delta Park.
(6:30-8:30 pm.
10737 N Union Court.
503-715-3122. www. avalancherugby, org.)
Portland Gay b Lesbian Community Bowling
Association is in its 28th season! Meets
Sundays at Hollywood Bowl. Drop-ins wel
come anytime. (3:30 pm. 4030 NE Halsey St.
Mailing address: PO Box 42034, Portland, OR
97242. 503-722-0438. pdxbowl@comcast net.
www.pdxbowl. com.)
Whether you're a running novice or a seasoned
marathoner, Portland Frontrunners welcomes
gay, lesbian, bi and trans people of all abilities and
interests. (Gary mfo@portlandfrontrunners.org.
www. portlandfrontrunners, org.)
Rosetown Ramblers, Portland's gay and lesbian
square dance club, dances at mainstream and
plus levels. (PO Box 5352, Portland, OR
97228 5352. www. rosetownramblers, com.)
Ruby Red Flippers, a group of gay and lesbian
scuba divers in the Portland area, teaches new
recruits and takes dives in Tacoma, Hood
Canal and other Pacific Northwest waters.
(rubyredflippers@yahoo. com.
www. rubyredflippers. org.)
Soccer players capable of participating in 2006
Gay Games July 15-22 in Chicago sought for
adult league in Portland. (Carlos 503-282-4907
gaygames_soccer@myway.com.)
Team Oregon, the umbrella sports group coordi
nating efforts for Outgames 2006 in Montreal and
Gay Games 2006 in Chicago, holds monthly
meetings for those wanting to participate.
(503-736-3292 www. teamoregon2006. org.)
Team Tennis meets Sundays at University of
Portland. All levels of play welcome. First
time is free, subsequent times are $7. Please
join
us!
(8
am-noon.
503-788-8192.
teamportlandtennis@yahoo. com.)
YOUTH
Children of Lesbians and Gays Everywhere
(COLAGE) is the only international organization
specifically supporting young people with sexu
al minority parents, (colage@lmfamily.org.
wwwcolage org.)
Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network
(GLSEN) strives to assure that each member of
every school community is valued and respect
ed, regardless of sexual orientation or gender
identity/expression. (12700 SW North Dakota
St., Suite 180 7/129, Tigard. OR 97223.
503-525-1177.
glsen@glsenoregon org.
www. glsenoregon org.)
House of MOCHA (Men of Color Healthy b
Aware) is a group of gay/bi/same gender-loving
men of color between 16 and 25 who want to
engage in activities, socials and community
events
among
their
peers.
(Kourtni
503-417-7991 www.brotobropdx org.)
Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who
can't qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well
as needle exchange services that include those
who inject hormones. Provide transitional
housing for youth 20 and younger and for those
HIV-positive and younger than 23. Need
volunteers of all ages. (10 am-6 pm Monday-
Friday 1132 SW 13th Ave 503 535-3800
www. outsidein org.)
Pride Project brings together Washington County
queer and questioning youth to plan and attend
monthly social events. Also information, referral
and advocacy services in Washington County.
(Austin 503-260-5792 austin@pridepro/ect org.)
Sexual Minority Youth Resource Center
(SMYRC) offers support, recreation, counseling
and referral to gay, lesbian, bi and trans kids 23
and younger. Drop-in computer access, pool
tables and an informal place to hang out. Weekly
trans, leadership and art support group meetings.
(4-9 pm Wednesday, 4-11 pm Friday. 2100 SE
Belmont St. 503-872-9664 wwwsmyrc.org)
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Pillow Talk
Should I thank the person I'm with after sex?
D ear M s . B ehavior :
I am a 33-year-old woman and have only recent
ly started dating women. 1 have two questions about
sex that I’m embarrassed to ask my friends. First, I’m
a little overweight right now. If I’m making love with
a woman, is it OK to put all of my weight on her, or
should I support myself on my hands and knees? If
there’s any rule, no one has told me (and I frankly
never worried about squashing men).
Second, should 1 thank the person I’m with after
sex? It seems like the polite thing to do, but I worry
that it makes it feel like sex is a commodity.
—Maxine
Ms. Behavior
BY MERYL COHN
D ear M axine :
First, it depends what you mean when you describe yourself as “a little overweight.” Some
women say that because they’ve eaten two extra com chips the previous week, and others are
describing true obesity. Taking your description at face value, unless your date appears to be suf
fering (gasping, turning blue or ceasing to move), it would seem unnecessary to perch on your
hands and knees during lovemaking. Full body contact is far more delicious than the alternative.
You can thank someone for sex if your intention is to say, “Hey, that was great, thank you,"
as if you were thanking someone for a nice back rub. But please be careful not to sound too
grateful, as in, “Thank you, thank you, thank you, no one has fucked me in years!” or too
perfunctory, as in, “Thanks for doing me, now go away.”
D ear M s . B ehavior :
My partner proposed to me on Christmas Eve. We are happily planning the ceremony for
next year, and 1 have several questions:
1. How do we coordinate a bachelor party where my dad and brothers will attend? At my
brothers’ bachelor parties we had strippers; is it appropriate for me to have male strippers at
mine?
2. What is considered appropriate language for the invitation? Do we say, “You are invit
ed to the wedding...” or something more watered-down so as not to offend?
3. How do I tell my colleagues at work about the wedding, as I’ll clearly need time off for
the honeymoon?
4. We are also planning to have documents drawn up—medical power of attorney, etc.
Should we sign these as part of the ceremony, or is that too political?
5. Is it OK to register for gifts, or is that just tacky?
6. While my family has expressed a desire to attend, they can’t travel with so many chil
dren. We don’t want to get married in their home state of New Hampshire. Any suggestions?
—In Love
D ear I n L ove :
1. Male strippers and straight male family members don’t always mix well. If you hire
strippers for the party, pick a different night to go out separately with your dad and brother.
Not that there’s anything shameful about a dude in a G-string gyrating in your dad’s face, but
merely so that you’ll feel free to enjoy the lap dances at your own party.
2. Are you actually worried about using the word “wedding” in a wedding invitation
(even while contemplating allowing a stripper to swing his dick at your father)? The word
“wedding” is inoffensive, even (or especially) if it’s two men who are getting married. If you
plan to go through with this event, you’d better get used to words like “marriage,” “wedding”
and “husband.”
3. It’s time for you to overcome your fear about telling your colleagues that you’re marry
ing your boyfriend. Prepare in advance, if necessary: Stand in front of the mirror and say,
“queer wedding.” Then say “gay marriage" and “homo honeymoon.” Wait a minute: Are you
even out to these people? You don’t have to stand on your desk and announce that you’re a
butt pirate, but you should at least mention that you’re marrying a man.
4. Do not draw up a power of attorney or health care proxy document at your wedding
unless you want your guests to die of boredom. Take care of legal matters at your attorney’s
office before the wedding. Make sure to include a prenuptial agreement, which is also boring
and unromantic but helpful in protecting your assets.
5. Registering for gifts is fine, but it’s tacky to send out announcements about where you’re
registered. Feel free to tell those who ask, but don’t solicit gifts or drop the name of the place
you’re registered into casual conversation and then pretend it’s an accident.
6. If your relatives in New Hampshire care to attend your wedding, they can arrange for
baby sitters to watch their spawn. The mountain shouldn’t come to Muhammad, and the
homos shouldn’t go to the “Live Free or Die” state for the convenience of others. ®
MERYL C ohn is the author of Do What I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay and Lesbian
Etiquette. Signed copies are available directly from the author. Send questions or correspondence
to msbehavior@aol.com.