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JANUARY 6. 2006 Complete spirituality and nonmetro listings available online at www.justout.com join Wednesday rehearsals. No audition neces sary <503 299-4454 www.satonchorus.org.) General Asian & Pacific Islander Lesbians and Gays is a nonprofit community voice for gay, lesbian and bi Asian and Pacific Islanders. Activities include potlucks, recreational outings and cultural events. Friendly environment to meet and connect with other API. IPO Box 12661. Portland. OR 97232. aplg jidx@yahoo. com.) Bad Girls is a social and educational leather and B/D/S/M club for self-identified women with an emphasis on safety and education. Workshops, discussions, events and parties. Women of all orientations can connect and ask questions dur ing the Kinky Women’s Welcoming Munch at 7 pm every second Tuesday. 1503-972-2233 www.pdxbadgirls. net.) Cascade Flyers are gay, lesbian and bi aviators, both private and professional, in Washington, Oregon and southern British Columbia. Dinner meet ings in Portland area. 1503-701-7922. casflyers @yahoo. com. www. geocities, com/casflyers.) A Common Bond is a social support network for former or questioning Jehovah's Witnesses who are queer, (acbportland@webtv.net.) Coqsure is a social group for people who were assigned a female sex at birth but identify other wise (female-to-male, genderqueer, drag king, etc.). First Sunday meetings are open to partners and families of any configuration. (503-471-1515. groups, yahoo, com/group/coqsure.) 50+ lesbian social group for women meets on the third Saturday of the month. (4-7 pm. 503 642-3360 or 503-286-3575.) Fem2fem social group forming for feminine singles between 30 and 50. (fem2fempdx@yahoo.com.) FTM Pacific NW OR ft WA is a social and dis cussion group for female-to-male trans men. (groups, yahoo. com/group/FTM PacificNW) Funny Ladies, a social group for nice lesbians 35 and older as well as their friends and loved ones, holds potlucks on the second Saturday of each month. (503-639-7488. flataps@yahoo.com.) Genealogy group forming Gather with other lesbian researchers to trace your family tree and tackle "brickwall" female ancestors. (famhistnw@aol.com.) Imperial Sovereign Rose Court of Oregon is the oldest gay, lesbian, bi and trans social/fund-rais- ing organization in the state of Oregon. Meetings are the first two Mondays of each month. (www. rosecourt, org.) Jewish Gay Men's Group please call for meet ing time and place. (503-246-5939. efraimlevi@aol. com.) Keshet is a social connection group for queer Jews and their spouses, partners, significant oth ers and good friends, whether Jewish or not. It meets monthly for potluck dinners and special events. (David 503-226-7079, ext. 14, or Mike 503-331-1111.) Leather Night and Red Hanky Social are the first and third Friday of each month at Gail's Dirty Duck Tavern. (9 pm-midnight. 439 NW Third Ave. 503-224-8446. earl@leathercigarboy.com.) Lesbians Enjoying Nature and Science (LENS) is a fun-loving group of women who enjoy explor ing all aspects of the environment. Activities include bird watching, nature walks, archaeology, camping, kayaking, star gazing and an occasional "lecture." No experience necessary. (6:45-8:30 pm second Thursday planning meeting. Laurie 503-977-2903 lensnews@yahoo.com.) Lesbian Garden Club is a group of women who love gardens and gardening. They exchange plants, seeds, advice and encouragement while having a good time. Call for a copy of the newsletter and information about upcoming events. (Linda 503-909-2002) Lesbians with Degrees is a social group for intellectual women and those who want to meet them. (Lam 503-233-3557 Join listserv at LesbianswDegrees subscribe@yahoogroups com.) Lulu’s Pervy Playhouse is a social group for self-identifying women who are into S/M. Play parties are held on the second Saturday of the month. (503-231 -3992 dykedadi@comcast.net. www. luluspervyplayhouse. org.) Men Over 40 is a small, socially supportive group that meets second and fourth Thursdays. (503-777-1376.) Oregon Men Enjoying Naturism is a social organization for gay male naturists/nudists. Social gathering second Saturday of every month. (omenpdx@omenpdx org www. omenpdx org.) PDXFTM is a social group for female-to-male trans men and their significant others, friends, families and allies, (groups, yahoo com/group/PDX FTM.) PDX Lesbo Nerds invite interesting, intelligent women 35 and older to socialize while playing board games like Scrabble and Spades. (gamps groups yahoo com/group/PdxLesboNerds) The gay Pinochle Group meets Sundays at Hobo's. Come play cards and meet the gang. New players always welcome. (6 pm 120 NW Third Ave Mike 503-641-7224.) come anytime. (3:30 pm 4030 NE Halsey St. Mailing address: PO Box 42034, Portland, OR 97242. 503-722-0438 pdxbowl@comcast net. www. pdxbowl. com.) Poder Latino is a nonprofit social community voice group for gay, lesbian, bi and trans people that reaches out to Latinos and Latinas by organizing events and retreats and advocating HIV prevention. Meets every other Monday at Outside In. (6:30 pm. 1030 SW 13th Ave Hugo 503-997-8615 or Audencio 503-261-5463 ) Whether you're a running novice or a seasoned marathoner, Portland Frontrunners welcomes gay, lesbian, bi and trans people of all abilities and interests. (Gary info@portlandfrontrunners.org. www.portlandfrontrunners.org.) Portland Bisexual Women is a discussion, social and support group for bi and questioning women. (503-347-5817 portlandbiwomen@comcast.net. www. portlandbiwomen. free servers com.) Portland Leather Alliance is one of the largest pansexual, nonprofit B/D/S/M, leather and fetish lifestyle organisations in the Northwest. Regular social and educational opportunities, including KinkFest, Leather Ball, kind auctions and Fall Vendors Fair, (www.pdxleatheralliance.org.) Portland Leather Men meet every second Saturday for potluck and socializing. Meet men into a leather lifestyle and keep abreast of leather hap penings. No dues, no formal organization, no offi cers or board, just leather socialization for the past 21 years. (360-896-6665. plm@direcway.com.) Portland Metro Prime Timers is a social group for mature gay men and those who appreciate them, coming together for social, educational and cultural purposes. (PO Box 5884, Portland, OR 97228 503-286-4613 or 360-693-5506. pdxprimetimers@yahoo.com. www.geocities, com/pdxprimetimers.) Rainriders Motorcycle Club meets weekly at the Roxy. Ride your bike dt just come meet the group. Everyone welcome. (10 am Sunday. 1121 SW Stark St. www.pdx-rrmc.com.) Rose City Discussion Club, the largest open pan sexual/altemative sexuality club in the Northwest, is open to all orientations, fetishes and lifestyles that are safe, sane and consensual. Monthly meet ings, workshops and newsletter. (503-972-1869. rcdc@teleport.com. www.rcdc org.) Soyboys Vegetarian Men's Group is a fun, social gathering for gay and bi men who are inter ested in a healthy vegetarian or vegan lifestyle. A variety of activities and monthly potlucks on the last Friday, (veggieguys@aol.com.) Women of the Rivers, the Portland/Vancouver chapter of the Women on Wheels Motorcycle Club, meets monthly at Elmer's, sponsors riding clinics and takes day trips. (7:15 pm second Thursday. 9848 N Whitaker Road, www. hevanet. com/chama/wow.) Physical Recreation Adventure Group organizes a variety of activities year round, including hiking, walking, cross country and downhill skiing, rafting and mountain biking. (PO Box 2201, Portland, OR 97208-2201 www. adventuregroup. org.) Amazon Dragons Paddling Club invites women 16 and older to join Portland's only out lesbian dragon boat team. Be part of the fun and fitness with this dynamic group. (www. amatondragons. org) The Forest Group outings are cooperative adventures for women. Participants are respon sible for providing their own equipment and choosing outings appropriate for their skill and fitness level. All skill levels welcome. (Dawn and Tami 503-659-2782. ncc1127@yahoo.com. www.geocities.com/ncc 1127/forestpdx.) The Gay Women's Golf Group welcomes all levels of players. (turfgirlt@yahoogroups.com.) Lesbian Equestrian Group gets together for equestrian activities in the Pacific Northwest. (Denise 503 654-3865 Lynn 503-777-2339. kelrav@rdrop. com) National Gay Basketball League is forming a chapter in Portland to represent Oregon in the 2006 Gay Games, (wwwngba.us/portland/pdx.htm.) Out Dancing teaches dancing for same sex couples at Ankeny Strbet Studio. Classes for different dance styles start the first Friday of each month: country, swing, tango, cha-cha, etc. Call for schedule. (503-236-5129 out_dancing@yahoo.com home.att.net/~outdancing.) , OutKayaking, Portland's gay and lesbian sea kayak group, explores the lakes, rivers and bays of Northwest Oregon and Southwest Washington, (www.outkayaking.org.) Pacific Coast Boating Club provides opportunities for gay and lesbian boaters to come together for fun on local rivers and promotes safe boating. (paccoastboatclub@comcast net) Portland Avalanche rugby team is always seeking new players for practices Mondays and Wednesdays Aug. 29 Nov. 12 at East Delta Park. (6:30-8:30 pm. 10737 N Union Court 503-715-3122 www avalancherugby org.) Portland Gay & Lesbian Community Bowling Association is in its 28th season! Meets Sundays at Hollywood Bowl. Drop-ins wel Energizer Bunny Insatiable girlfriend exhausts older butch D ear M s . B ehavior : I'm feeling some tension in my relationship with my new girlfriend, Liz. She’s younger than me and quite feisty. We’ve been together six months, and she Rosetown Ramblers, Portland’s gay and lesbian square dance club, dances at mainstream and plus levels. (PO Box 5352, Portland, OR 97228-5352 www.rosetownramblers.com.) continues to want to have sex every night. However, Ruby Red Flippers a group of gay and lesbian scuba divers in the Portland area, teaches new recruits and takes dives in Tacoma, Hood Canal and other Pacific Northwest waters, (rubyredflippers@yahoo.com. www. rubyredflippers. org) revving up. Team Oregon the umbrella sports group coordi nating efforts for Outgames 2006 in Montreal and Gay Games 2006 in Chicago, holds monthly meetings for those wanting to participate. (503-736-3292 www. teamoregon2006. org.) Team Tennis meets Sundays at University of Portland. All levels of play welcome. First time is free, subsequent times are $7. Please join us! (8 am-noon. 503-788-8192. teamportlandtennis@yahoo. com) YOUTH Children of Lesbians and Gays Everywhere (COLAGE) is the only international organization specifically supporting young people with sexual minority parents. (colage@lmfamily.org. www.colage.org.) Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network (GLSEN) strives to assure that each member of every school community is valued and respected, regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity/expression. (12700 SW North Dakota St., Suite 180 if 129, Tigard, OR 97223. 503-525-1177 glsen@glsenoregon.org. www. glsenoregon. org.) Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can't qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as needle exchange services that include those who inject hormones. Provide transitional housing for youth 20 and younger and for those HIV-positive and younger than 23. Need volunteers of all ages. (10am-6 pm Monday-Friday 1132 SW 13th Ave. 503-535-3800. www outsidein. org.) Pride Project brings together Washington County queer and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social events Also infor mation, referral and advocacy services in Washington County. (Austin 503-260-5792 austm@prideproiect. org.) Sexual Minority Youth Resource Center (SMYRC) offers support, recreation, counseling and referral to gay, lesbian, bi and trans kids 23 and younger. Drop-in computer access, pool tables and an informal place to hang out. Weekly trans, leadership and art support group meetings (4-9 pm Wednesday, 4-11 pm Friday. 2100 SE Belmont St. 503-872-9664 www.smyrc.org.) JUStOUt 33 I work a lot, have a ton of family responsibilities and am often exhausted by 10 p.m., when she is just I love having sex with Liz, though I must admit that being the butch, I’m the one who expends all the energy. Whenever I turn her down (which is rare), we fight and she tells me to quit drinking coffee, eat more protein and exercise more so that I’ll have more stamina for her evening desires. How normal it is to want to do anything every single night? Ms. Behavior BY MERYL COHN —Servicing Butch D ear S ervicing B utch : Daily sex is fantastic if you want it but turns into a chore if you don’t. There's nothing wrong with Liz’s desire for sex every night unless the intensity of her need comes from something oth er than sexual desire. A few years ago, Ms. Behavior probably would have taken Liz’s side and implied that you were a fool to turn down this younger woman who wanted you so desperately and consistently. She would have advised you to get to the gym and eat protein and veggies so that you could give Liz exactly what she wanted every night. But now the older and perhaps wiser (and less nutritionally inclined) Ms. Behavior has a different idea: You should exercise and eat well and not have sex with Liz more than you want to. Your fitness regime will make you feel strong and clear-headed. Once you feel more attrac tive, neither of you will blame your occasional lack of desire on your age or lack of stamina. This will help your relationship feel more balanced. Ms. Behavior has never conducted a double blind study (although volunteers are welcome to contact her), but she believes that frequently the very women who feel compelled to have sex every day—when the compulsion stems from something other than actual sexual desire—are the ones who end up plagued by Lesbian Bed Death a few short years later. There’s nothing wrong with letting Liz want you more often than she can have you. Let her feel her desire. Let it well up inside her. Let her rub herself against the mattress for relief as she watches you sleep. Allowing her to long for you will not hurt your relationship, but having half hearted sex with her might. D ear Ms. B ehavior : My friend Al conies to town every few months on business. He sleeps on my pullout, eats my food, drinks my wine and coffee, and makes himself al home. That’s fine, actually. We used to be lovers, and we re pretty comfortable with one another. just out is published on the first and third Friday of every month. The deadline for submissions is 14 days prior to publication. The thing is, when we go out to dinner, he never offers to take me out. I was always taught cour teous guest behavior: If you don't bring a gift for your host, you should at least pay for one meal. Is that a true etiquette rule? If so, should I mention it? I could sav, “Well, I was reading Ms. Behavior the other day, and guess what she thinks....” Or does etiquette fly out the window when the guest is an ex? My current boyfriend thinks Al’s behavior is outrageous. outreach listings of up to 50 words are provided free of charge to organizations and groups specifically serving the sexual minorities community. All listings are subject to editing, and inclusion is subject to space limitations, relevance and receipt by deadline. Listings expire once a year (in July), and submissions run from the date received until the next scheduled expiration date. Listings are automatically deleted upon expiration. To ensure uninterrupted listing, please submit updated information at least a month prior to the expiration date. Complete listings are available online at www.justout.com. Send listings to: Just Out (attn: Calendar), R0. Box 14400, Portland, OR 97293-0400 Fax submissions to 503-236-1257 or e-mail justout@justout.com. —Jerry D ear J erry : In the realm of etiquette, you both suck. Al is a freeloader who doesn't know enough to reciprocate your generosity. He should indeed offer to pay for a meal or at least bring a small gift as a token of appreciation for your hospitality. You, on the other hand, appear to be a generous host, but in fact you're keeping score and harboring resentments. It makes you seem small, which probably isn't how you view yourself. If you look back over your life, you'll most likely see that in some relationships you received more than you gave. Maybe at some point you were young and didn't have a decent kitchen and some of your older friends cooked you meals when you w eren 't able to reciprocate. Maybe you went through a period of being out of work and your friends treated you. That's just how life is. In the big picture, there's probably balance, even if it doesn’t feel bal anced within each particular relationship. You can say something to Al, but the risk is that it will make you both feel uncomfortable. On the other hand, not saying anything may result in a growing resentment that will interfere with your friendship. So go for it, but be prepared for a period of time where your pullout remains unoccupied. © Submissions cannot be accepted over the phone. Please type your announcements and include full contact information. M eryi . C ohn is the author q/ Do What I Say: Ms. Behavior s Guide to Gay and Irsbian Etiquette. Signed copies are available directly from the author. Send questions or correspondence to mshebaitior@aol.com.
