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About Just out. (Portland, OR) 1983-2013 | View Entire Issue (Oct. 21, 2005)
October 21.2005: * just OUt 33 ADVICE ▼.............. SPIRITUALITY Metro: Spirituality Ainsworth United Church of Christ is a multicultural, multiracial, open and affirming, just peace congregation (2941 NE Ainsworth St. 503 284-8767.) Anawim Community of gay men meets weekly for Chnstian meditation and prayer (7 30 pm Thursday 503281-0722) Atkinson Memorial Church a Unitarian Universalist church, provides a spiritual home for those looking for a liberal-minded, supportive and canng congregation in Oregon City (10:30 am Sunday 710 Sixth St 503-656 7296) Bridgeport United Church of Christ is a joyful community working for justice, nurturing peace and exploring and celebrating our progressive Christian faith We are queer and straight, multicultural and multiracial, and our children are valued members Good coffee, cool people, hot church! (11 am Sunday 621 NE 76th Ave 503-258-0992 www.bridgeportucc org.) Community of Welcoming Congregations an interfaith ministry of spiritual congregations in Oregon and Southwest Washington that welcome and affirm people of all sexual orientations, provides pastoral care, advocacy, education and consultation (503-665 8741. 2025 NE 23rd St.. Gresham Mailing address: PO Box 14948. Portland. OR 97293 www. welcomingcongregations org.) Congregation P'nai Or (Faces of Light) is a vibrant, egalitarian. Jewish Renewal congregation in Portland Meets several times a month at St Mark Presbyterian Church (9750 SW Terwilliger Blvd 503 248-4500 wwwpnaiorpdxorg) Eastrose Fellowship Unitarian Universalist a welcoming congregation, offers Sunday service and chil dren s religious education (10 30 am 1133 NE 181st Ave . Gresham. 503-6652628 office@eastrose.org www. east rose, org) Eckankar—Religion of the Light and Sound of God holds worship services and maintains a library of matenals. Leam how you can work daily with the Divine Spirit in your own life (10 am Sunday. 7904 SE Milwaukie Ave 503-233-1595 www eckankar.org.) Wednesday meditation 2025 SE Yamhill St. 503-232-8064 www nichiren-shu org/portland.) Open Spirit a New Thought community, welcomes you to remember our divinity, celebrate our humanity and honor our oneness (1030 am Sunday 6536 SE Duke St. 503-7880085) Peace Church of the Brethren is a welcoming congregation (11 am Sunday. 12727 SE Market St 5032546380) Portland Center for Spiritual Growth is a center for worship, growth and leadership that adheres to an all-inclusive spintual philosophy similar to 12 step, Unity and Religious Science Impromptu wedding ceremonies available (503-777-0727 www.portlandcenter.org ) Portland Radical Faeries meet twice a month with potlucks and circles at the full moon and the new moon Open to all men seeking alternative spiritual growth and community. Coffee hours start 9:30 am Saturdays at 3 Friends Coffeehouse. 201 SE 12th Ave (503 235-0826 otter@pcez com.) Rose City Park Presbyterian Church a member of the Community of Welcoming Congregations and the Covenant Network of Presbyterians, is a vibrant, inclu sive community of faith. All God's children are welcome to join in our life and worship (10 am Sunday 1907 NE 45th Ave www rosecityparkpres org.) Seventh-Day Adventist Kinship is a support organization for former and current Adventists who are queer as well as their family and friends (PO Box 49375. Sarasota. FL 34230-6375. 866-732-5677. office@sdakmship org www sdakinship. org. ) Soka Gakkai International a huge wprld peace Buddhist organization, holds monthly Rainbow Group meetings to talk about Buddhism and where queers can become familiar with a philosophy that has always had a place for everyone (1805 SE Ankeny St. 503 230-1038 sgi-usa-oregon org.) Southminster Presbyterian Church is an active member of the Community of Welcoming Congregations Sunday school, nursery care, classes, community service activities and events for all ages and interests. (9 am Sunday chapel service. 10 am Sunday main worship service. 12250 SW Denney Road. Beaverton 503-644 2073. staff@southmm.com www. southmm. com. ) Elevation a gay Christian rock band, invites you to join us for energetic, inspiring jams and powerful, spintu- al messages at Metropolitan Community Church of Portland. (6pm Sunday. 2400 NE Broadway 503-281-8868) St. Andrew Catholic Church invites all to join a diverse faith community for prayer and fellowship (9:30 am Sunday; Noon Spanish language service 806 NE Alberta St. 503-2814429.) Enneagram Community of Portland offers newly developing group connecting ancient traditions and future visions to manifest liberty, peace and justice Now meeting for discussion, study and meditation. (Sarah 503-757-7545 wwwstbrigidcac.co.nr.) mentoring, therapy, spintual direction, classes, work shops and retreats (enneagrampdx@aol.com. www enneagramportland com.) Faith United Methodist Church is a welcoming congregation that values and affirms the sacredness of all people We invite and encourage everyone to find a place in the family of God. (10:15am Sunday 27400 SEStark St.. Troutdale 503-661-4520.) First Congregational United Church of Christ is an open and affirming congregation in the liberal Christian tradition. Church school and nursery care. (10:25 am Sunday 1126 SW Park Ave. 503-228-7219 ) First Congregational United Church of Christ St. Brigid Celtic Anabaptist Community is a St. James Lutheran Church a Reconciled in Christ congregation, welcomes all people for traditional, liturgical worship where we expenence God's reconciling love that sets all people free (9 and 11 am Sunday 1315 SW Park Ave 503-227-2439 www stjameslutheranportland org. ) St. Stephen's Episcopal Church has been wel coming all people since 1863 (12:10pm Wednesday and 7 45 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and child care at 10 am. 1432 SW 13th Ave 503 223 6424 ) of Hillsboro is an open and affirming congregation SisterSpirit offers women's spirituality celebrations, explicitly welcoming everyone into its Christian commu nity. fellowship and worship Bible and book study groups. Sunday school and nursery care. (10:30 am Sunday. 494 E Mam St 503-648-4341 www.hillsboro-ucc.org.) discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and classes Schedule of events available All women are welcome (Suite 102. 3430 SE Belmont St Mailing address: PO Box 9246. Portland. OR 97207. 503-736 3297 sistersp@teleport.com) First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open and Unitarian Universalist Community Church of affirming liberal religious community offering a wide range of programs to nurture spiritual growth, community and social justice. Sunday service 9 and 11 am. (1011 SW 12th Ave. 503 2286389 www firstunitarianportland org) Washington County is an open and affirming liberal religious community offering a vanety of ennchment pro grams in addition to community and social action oppor tunities (9 and 11 am Sunday 22785 NW Birch St., Gay and Lesbian Outreach (GALO) of St Philip Neri Catholic Church celebrates an affirming Mass fol lowed by a social (7:30 pm Friday Paulist Center. 2408 SE 16th Ave 503 2314955 ) University Park United Methodist Church is a Integrity is a group of sexual minority Episcopalians Hillsboro 503-648-1720 www uuccwc org.) YOUTH and friends Vanous locations throughout Oregon (Steven Norcross or Bruce 503-286-9111. brucepdxor@comcast net www mtegntyusa org) Children of Lesbians and Gays Everywhere Interfaith Spiritual Center houses spiritual direc (COLAGE) is the only international organization tors from vanous world religious traditions, who are available for guidance, classes and retreats (Second Floor. 3910 SE 11th Ave 503-233-2026. ext 3. www interfaithspintualcenter com) Koinonia Catholic Community is a progressive small faith community that gathers weekly to celebrate Eucharist at Bridgeport United Church of Christ. A welcoming congregation, Catholic in tradition and Ecumenical in membership (6 pm Sunday 621 NE 76th Ave 503-699 0473 www koinoniacommunityorg.) Metanoia Peace Community United Methodist Church is a "house church" that brings gay and straight together Daily morning prayer and Sunday evening worship. (503-281 3697 www tearsoup com/metanoia) Metropolitan Community Church of Portland holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at 9 and 11 am Sunday school for children is held dunng the 11 am service (2400 NE Broadway 503 281 8868 mfo@mccportlandcom www mccportland com) Nichiren Buddhist Temple of Portland offers several weekly gatherings Everyone welcome1 (10 am Sunday. 7 30 am Tuesday and Thursday 730 pm Metro: Youth specifically supporting young people with sexual minori ty parents. (colage@lmfamily org www.colage.org.) small, diverse, open and progressive community of faith that extends a warm welcome to all people (10 am Sunday 4775 N Lombard St. 503-289-7843 open and affirming with worship, children's school and child care (10 am summer. 11 am school year 3300 SE Woodward St 503238-1337. pastor@waverfyucc org wwwwaverlyuccorg) Wy'east Unitarian Universalist Congregation is an open and liberal religious community offering inter- generational services and religious education for youth and adults We welcome gay. lesbian, bi and trans mem bers and nurture spiritual growth living by Unitarian Universalist principles (5 pm Sunday 3300 SE Woodward St. 503-777-3704 www. wyeast pnwd uua. org.) Zion United Church of Christ an open and affirm ing congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, bi. trans and heterosexual people who wish to worship in a Christ centered. warm, caring, multiage/race/cultural faith community (11 am Sunday 110 30 am summed 2025 NE 23rd Ave. Gresham 503 665-8741) Central Oregon: Spirituality United Church of Christ Congregational is an open and affirming congregation in The Dalles. (920 am adult Sunday school. 10:30 am worship 1930 am summed 111 E Fifth St. 541 296-2909 ucccongl@netcnct net. www formmistry. com/usorucofcucocc) Washington: Spirituality Abundant Life Center assists the community in spiritual growth. (10 am Sunday 111 W39th St.. Vancouver The Rev Kathleen Vengm 360 573-2626 www abundant-lifecenter org) First Congregational United Church of Christ has been an open and affirming congregation since 1992, extending God's extravagant welcome to all peo ple, no matter who they are or where they are on life's journey (1220 NE 68th St. Vancouver 360-693-1476. www. vancouverucc org.) Longview United Methodist Church is welcom ing and reconciling (10 am Sunday. 2851 30th Ave. Longview 360-425-4927.) Metropolitan Church of the Gentle Shepherd welcomes you Bible study follows morning worship (10 30 am and 6 30 pm Sunday 2200 Broadway St.. Vancouver. The Rev Hamet Barshofsky 360-695-1480) Michael Servitus Unitarian Universalist Fellowship a Welcoming Congregation, provides a home for the liberal religious spirit. (930 and 11:15 am Sunday 4505 E 18th St . Vancouver 360-695-1891.) St. Luke's Episcopal Church has welcomed all people since 1853 Traditional but never stuffy (English: 8 and 10 30 am Sunday Spanish: 1 pm Sunday Child care at 10:30 am. 426 E Fourth Plain Blvd. Vancouver The Rev. John Allen 360-696-0181 www stlukeschurch. info.) Willamette Valley: Spirituality First Congregational Church United Church of Christ is an^ipen and affirming congregation offering worship and church school Child care provided and wheelchair accessible. (9 30 am Sunday learning hour. 10:30 am worship 700 Manon St. NE. Salem 503-363 3660) Sweet Spirit Metropolitan Community Church holds services at the American Legion Building in Salem. (11 am Sunday 4774 Lilac Lane NE Ken Kerr 503-315 7923 salemsweetspint@aol com.) Sexual Minority Youth Resource Center (SMYRC) offers support, recreation, counseling and referral to gay. lesbian, bi and trans kids 23 and younger Drop-in computer access, pool tables and an informal place to hang out. Weekly trans, leadership and art support group meetings (4 9 pm Wednesday. 4-11 pm Friday 2100 SE Belmont St 503-872-9664 wwwsmyrc org) Eastern Oregon: Youth (GLSEN) strives to assure that each member of every Eastern Oregon Center for Independent Living offers support and advocacy to gay. lesbian, bi. trans and questioning youth in Eastern Oregon. (1021 SWFifthAve.. Ontario 541 8893119or 866 248 8369 eocil@eocll org. www eocrlorg.) www glsenoregon org) Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can't Anti-social partner complains about “constant stream of visitors” Washington: Youth qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as needle exchange services that include those who inject hor mones Provide transitional housing for youth 20 and younger and for those HIV positive and younger than 23 Need volunteers of all aqes (10 am-6 pm Monday- Friday 1132 SW 13th Ave. 503535-3800 Triple Point offers education, support and advocacy www.outsidem.org.) Willamette Valley: Youth Pride Project brings together Washington County queer and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social events Also information referral and advocacy services In Washington County (Austin 5032605792 austtn@pndeprofect org) Gay, Lesbian, Bi, Transgender and to gay. lesbian, bi. trans and questioning youth in Vancouver. Meets every Tuesday in the basement of Youth House (6-8 pm 1112 Columbia St. John 360-695-1325) Questioning Youth Group for ages 13 to 18 offers support, information and fun in Eugene Free, confiden rial, adult-facilitated. (Drop in 4-6 pm Friday Amazon Community Center. 2700 HUyard St 541-684-3466) health of your relationship. D ear M s . B ehavior : I love my extended family more than any thing: ex-girl friends, college buddies and their children, my god daughter and my adopted nephew, not to mention a whole coterie of other loved ones and dear friends. My ideal is to have them visit as often and to stay as long as possible, sometimes four or five people at a time, so that we really feel like a family. 1 especially adore having them near for the summer. The problem is that my partner, Sylvie, objects to what she stingily refers to as “my constant stream of visitors.” We just bought a new house and had a studio cottage built in the back yard for her painting. All she does is complain about how she never gets to use it. I’m nor stopping her. We only needed to use her studio for guests a few times this summer when we had a hill house; it’s not like we slept people in there every week! Still, she com plains about her personal space and her need for privacy, which makes me really resent her anti-social streak. Sometimes 1 think we are totally incompatible. How can I get Sylvie to lighten up and enjoy having company.7 —Happy Hostess Metropolitan Community Church Two Rivers is a Christian church with primary outreach in the sexual minorities community (6 30 pm Sunday. 1166 Oak St., Eugene) Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network school community is valued and respected, regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity/expressxxi (12700 SW North Dakota St. Suite 180 4129. Tigard. OR 97223 503-525-1177 glsen@gisenoregon org Be my guest www upumc net.) Waverly Heights United Church of Christ is D ear H appy H ostess : One person’s beloved guest is often another person’s flesh-eating irritant. Since you view your friends as indispensable and your girlfriend apparently views them as annoying, you must find ways to compromise on the issue. The only way Sylvie will “light en up and enjoy company” is if she gets some quiet time and privacy, too. It’s difficult to enjoy visitors if you’re not guaranteed some time without them, particularly if you’re engaged in a creative endeavor that requires solitude. If you want to keep Sylvie happy while you still get to enjoy visits from friends and family, you need to impose the same rule that airlines use to confound passengers who want to cash in their frequent flyer miles: blackout dates. You and Sylvie should arrange a sched ule that satisfies each of you. This means that visitor-free weeks and weekends should be at least equal in number to those that are guest- infested. This may seem harsh to you, but it will help protect Sylvie’s mental health and the D ear M s . B ehavior : What is the etiquette for a bachelorette party for two lesbians having a commit ment ceremony? Do you include both women.7 Do you have separate parties7 This has been a long distance relation ship from the beginning, so rhe out-of-town bride only knows peo ple here through her girlfriend (my friend). The other issue is whom to invite to the bachelorette party. It’s shaping up to be very much like a traditional straight wedding for about 50, with close friends and family. There are also a number of other friends who I know won’t be invited to the wedding. Is it in ptxir taste to invite them to a bachelor ette party if they aren’t invited to the wedding? I was never good at following those traditional wedding rules (mostly because 1 didn’t understand most of them), so I need all the help I can get. The wedding is coming up very soon. Help! —Marilyn D ear M arilyn : The ideal situation would be to host a bachelorette party in both cities, so each bride could celebrate with her own close friends. A joint party may seem practical but would more likely be a drag, since the out- of-town bride would be a stranger to most of the guests. Bride A would be stuck making sure her future wife is comfortable, defeating the purpose of a last hurrah with her friends. Bride B would be in the awkward position of meeting every one—a strange role for one’s own bachelorette party—and would like ly feel like a geek. More important ly, her presence would probably dis courage any potential lap dances, which would be a downer for Bride A and her friends. As for inviting friends who aren’t invited to the wedding, don't do it: A bachelorette party is meant to he for the bride’s closest friends, not random people who aren’t worthy of an invitation to the wedding. JR M eryl C ohn is the author of Do What I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay "and Lesbian Etiquette. Signed copies are available directly from the author. Send questions or correspondence to msbehavior@aol. com.
