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ADVICE ▼ SPIRITUALITY Metro: Spirituality Anawim Community of gay men meet? weekly for Christian meditation and prayer (7:30 pm Thursday 503 281 0722.) Atkinson Memorial Church a Unitarian Universalist church, provides a spiritual home for those looking for a liberal-minded, supportive and caring congregation in Oregon City. (10:30 am Sunday 710 Sixth St. 503-656-7296) Bridgeport United Church of Christ is a community of progressive, political people explonng and celebrating the Christian faith. We are sexual minority and straight, multicultural and multiracial, and our children are valued members. (10:30 am Sunday 621 NE 76th Ave 503-258 0992 www bridgeportucc. org.) Congregation P'nai Or (Faces of Light) is a vibrant, egalitarian, Jewish Renewal congregation in Portland. Meets several times a month at Portland State University Campus Ministries. (PO Box 42187, Portland. OP 97242 0187. 503-248 4500 www.pnaiorpdx org.) Eastrose Fellowship Unitarian Universalist a welcoming congregation, offers Sunday service and children's religious education. (10:30 am. 1133 NE 181st Ave., Gresham 503-665-2628. office&eastroseorg www eastrose org.) Eckankar—Religion of the Light and Sound of God holds worship services and maintains a library of materials. Learn how the Divine Spirit works throughout your own life in today's world. (10 am Sunday. 7904 SE Milwaukie Ave. 503-233-1595. www eckankar org.) Enneagram Community of Portland offers mentoring, therapy, spiritual direction, classes, workshops and retreats. (enneagrampdx@aol com www. enneagramportland. com.) Faith United Methodist Church is a welcoming congregation that values and affirms the sacredness of all people We invite and encourage everyone to find a place in the family of God. (10:15am Sunday 27400 SE Stark St., Troutdale 503-661 4520 ) Seventh-Day Adventist Kinship is a support organization for former and current Adventists who are queer as well as their family and friends (PO Box 49375, Se-asota. FL 34230-6375 866 732-5677 office@sdakmship org www sdakmship org) Soul Quest -a men's group exploring soul, spirit, inner transformation and authentic living—will meet weekly starting this spring. (Lincoln 503 730-2347. info&soulquests. com.) Southminster Presbyterian Church is an active member of the Community of Welcoming Congregations. Sunday school, nursery care, classes, adult Sunday school. 10 30 am worship (930 am summer] 111 EFifth St 541 2962909 ucccongl@netcnct. net www formimstry.com/usorucofcucocc ) Washington: Spirituality Abundant Life Center assists the community in spiritual growth. (10am Sunday 111 W39th St.. Vancouver The Pev Kathleen Vengin 360-573-2626 www abundant-life-center org.) First Congregational United Church of Christ community service activities and events for all ages and interests. (9 am Sunday chapel service. 10 am Sunday mam worship service 12250 SW Denney Poad. Beaverton. 503 644-2073. staff@southmm.com www.southmin com.) ' has been an open and affirming congregation since 1992. extending God's extravagant welcome to all people, no matter who they are or where they are on life's journey. (1220 NE 68th St., Vancouver 360-693-14 76 www. vancouverucc. org.) St. Andrew Catholic Church invites all to join a diverse faith community for prayer and fellowship (9 30 am Sunday. Noon Spanish language service 806 NE Alberta St. 503281 4429.) Longview United Methodist Church is welcoming and reconciling. (10 am Sunday 2851 30th Ave. Longview 360-425-4927) St. James Lutheran Church a Reconciled in in Vancouver welcomes you. (10 30 am and 6:30 pm Sunday worship Bible study follows morning worship 2200 Broadway St The Pev Harriet Barshofsky 360-695-1480 ) Metropolitan Church of the Gentle Shepherd Christ congregation, welcomes all people for traditional, liturgical worship where we experience God's reconciling love that sets all people free (9 and 11 am Sunday 1315 SW Park Ave 503-2272439 www stjameslutheranportland org.) St. Stephen's Episcopal Church has been welcoming all people since 1863 (12:10 pm Wednesday and 7:45 and 10 am Sunday. Sunday school and child care at 10 am 1432 SW 13th Ave. 503223-6424) SisterSpirit offers women's spirituality celebrations, discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and classes. Schedule of events available. All women are welcome (Suite 102. 3430 SE Belmont St. Mailing address: PO Box 9246. Portland. OP 97207 503-736-3297 sistersp&teleport com.) Michael Servitus Unitarian Universalist Fellowship, a Welcoming Congregation, provides a home for the liberal religious spirit. (9:30 and 11:15am Sunday 4505 E 18th St.. Vancouver 360695-1891.) Willamette Valley: Spirituality First Congregational Church. United Church of Chnst is an open and affirming congregation offering worship and church school. Child care provided and wheelchair accessible (9 30 am Sunday learning hour, 10:30 am worship. 700 Marion St NE. Salem. 503 363-3660) Trinity Episcopal Cathedral a welcoming and Metropolitan Community Church Two Rivers is affirming congregation, invites all to worship services and ongoing programs in spiritual development, community outreach, music and arts education. (8 am Sunday Pite I chapel service. 10 am Sunday Rite II cathedral service. 147 NW 19th Ave 503 222 9811. www. trinity-episcopal org.) a Christian church with primary outreach in the sexual minorities community (6:30pm Sunday 1166 Oak St.. Eugene.) First Congregational United Church of Christ is an open and affirming congregation in the liberal Christian tradition. Church school and nursery care. (10 25 am Sunday. 1126 SW Park Ave. 503-228-7219 ) First Congregational United Church of Christ of Hillsboro is an open and affirming congregation explicitly welcoming everyone into its Christian community, fellowship and worship, Bible and book study groups, Sunday school and nursery care (10 30 am Sunday 494 E Main St 503-648-4341. www hHlsboro-ucc. org.) First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open and affirming liberal religious community offering a wide range of programs to nurture spiritual growth, community and social justice. Sunday service 9 and 11 am. (1011 SW 12th Ave 503-228 6389 www firstunitarianportland org.) Gay and Lesbian Outreach (GALO) of St Philip Neri Catholic Church celebrates an affirming Mass followed by a social. (7:30 pm Friday Paulist Center. 2408 SE 16th Ave. 503 2314955 ) Integrity is a group of sexual minority Episcopalians and friends. Various locations throughout Oregon. (Steven Norcross or Bruce 503-2869111. brucepdxor@comcast. net. www integrityusa org.) Interfaith Spiritual Center houses spiritual directors from various world religious traditions, who are available for guidance, classes and retreats. (Second Floor. 3910 SE 11th Ave 503 233-2026. ext 3. www interfaithspintualcenter com.) Koinonia Catholic Community is a progressive, small faith community that gathers weekly to celebrate Eucharist at Bridgeport United Church of Chnst. A welcoming congregation. Catholic in tradition and Ecumenical in membership. (6 pm Sunday 621 NE 76th Ave 503-699-0473 www komoniacommunityorg) Metanoia Peace Community United Methodist Church is a “house church’ that brings gay and straight together. Daily morning prayer and Sunday evening worship. (503 28T3697. www. tearsoup com/metanoia) Metropolitan Community Church of Portland holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at 9 and 11 am Sunday school for children is held during the 11 am service (2400 NE Broadway 503-281-8868 mfo@mccportland com. www mccportland com) Nichiren Buddhist Temple of Portland offers several weekly gathenngs Everyone welcome! (10 am Sunday, 7 30 am Tuesday and Thursday 7 30 pm Wednesday meditation 2025 SE Yamhill St 503-232-8064 www nichiren-shu org/portland) Peace Church of the Brethren is a welcoming congregation. (11 am Sunday 12727 SE Market St 503 254 6380) Portland Center for Spiritual Growth is a center for worship, growth and leadership that adheres to an all inclusive spintual philosophy similar to 12 step. Unity and Religious Science Impromptu wedding ceremonies available. (5O3-777-O727 wwwportlandcenterorg.) Portland Radical Faeries meet twice a month with potlucks and circles at the full moon and the new moon. Open to all men seeking alternative spiritual growth and community Coffee hours start 9 30 am Saturdays at 3 Friends Coffeehouse. 201 SE 12th Ave (503 235-0826 otter@pcer com ) Unitarian Universalist Community Church of Washington County is an open and affirming liberal religious community offenng a vanety of enrichment programs in addition to community and social action opportunities. (9 and 11 am Sunday 22785 NW Birch St.. Hillsboro 503-648-1720 www uuccwc.org.) University Park United Methodist Church is a small, diverse, open and progressive community of faith that extends a warm welcome to all people. (10 am Sunday 4775 N Lombard St 503289-7843 wwwupumc.net.) Waverly Heights United Church of Christ is open and affirming with worship, children’s school and child care. (10 am summer. 11 am school year 3300 SE Woodward St 503-238 1337. pastor@waveriyucc.org www waveriyucc org.) Wy'east Unitarian Universalist Congregation is an open and liberal religious community offering intergenerational services and religious education for youth and adults. We welcome gay, lesbian, bi and trans members and nurture spintual growth living by Unitarian Universalist principles. (5 pm Sunday. 3300 SE Woodward St. 503 777-3704 www wyeast pnwd uua org.) Zion United Church of Christ an open and affirming congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, bi. trans and heterosexual people who wish to worship in a Christ centered, warm, caring, multiage/race/cultural faith community. (11 am Sunday (10:30 am summed. 2025 NE 23rd Ave. Gresham. 503665-8741.) Central Oregon: Spirituality United Church of Christ Congregational is an open and affirming congregation in The Dalles (9 20 am YOUTH Metro: Youth Edie Sedgwick pays homage to Julia Roberts and other celebs April 13 at Berbati's. 4-11 pm Friday. 2100 SE Belmont St 503-872-9664 www.smyrc.org.) Eastern Oregon: Youth Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network (GLSEN) strives to assure that each member of every Eastern Oregon Center for Independent school community is valued and respected, regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity/expression (12700 SW North Dakota St . Suite 180 4129. Tigard. OP 97223. 503525-1177. glsen@glsenoregon.org. www.glsenoregon.org.) Living offers support and advocacy to gay. lesbian, bi. trans and questioning youth in Eastern Oregon (1021 SW Fifth Ave. Ontano. 541-889-3119 or 8662488369 eocil@eocil.org. www.eocil.org.) Outside In operates a clime for anyone who can't qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as needle exchange services that include those who inject hormones. Provide transitional housing for youth 20 and younger and for those HIV-positive and younger than 23. Need volunteers of all ages. (10 am-6 pm Monday-Friday. 1132SW 13th Ave 503-5353800. www outsidern.org ) Pride Project brings together Washington County queer and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social events. Also information, referral and advocacy services in Washington Cqunty. (Molly 503 260-5792 molly@prideprofect org) Washington: Youth Triple Point offers education, support and advocacy to gay. lesbian, bi. trans and questioning youth in Vancouver. Meets every Tuesday in the basement of Youth House. (6-8 pm. 1112 Columbia St John 360 695-1325) Willamette Valley: Youth Gay, Lesbian, Bi. Transgender and Questioning Youth Group for ages 13 to 18 offers Sexual Minority Youth Resource Center support, information and fun in Eugene. Free, confidential, adult faciktated (Drop in 4-6 pm Friday Amazon Community Center. 2700 Hilyard St. (SMYRC) offers support, recreation, counseling and 541 684-3466) referral to gay. lesbian, bi and trans kids 23 and younger Drop-in computer access, pool tables and an informal place to hang out Weekly trans, leadership and art support group meetings (4-9 pm Wednesday. Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender Youth Group for ages 25 and younger meets every Monday in Eugene (5 pm Koinonia Center, 1414 Kincaid St 541 346-1134) Dykes on dicks Lesbian with boyfriend tries to sort her feelings D ear M s . B ehavior : members, trip« xl.com/ I’m a 20-year-old- up_sappho _society/ female who, after idenrity.html, and read struggling with the her article, “Why I’m eternal am-I-bisexual- Still a Lesbian Despite or-leshian question the Man in My Bed.” from ages 14 to 17, finally came out as D ear M s . B ehavior : completely gay. I’d been I’ve been seeing a with guys, hut they woman for eight were screwed-up months. She’d never “relationships,” and I been with women Ms. Behavior before, but 1 ignored my was never satisfied, emotionally or fears and decided to by Meryl Cohn otherwise. “live in the moment.” Shortly before turning 18,1 met a Her family is conservative. It’s wonderful girl, and we had an hard for her not to tell them about us. incredible relationship for two years. We have a good time cooking, We’re now close friends. After we gardening, watching movies or broke up, I went on a few dates, but no hanging out with my friends. She has one caught my interest until “J.” told several friends but doesn’t -invite Problem is, “J” is a guy. He asked me to hang out with them, which me out, and I said yes for lack of hurts my feelings. She says she wants anything to do. We got along well, “alone time” with her friends. and despite few shared interests, we She has a hard time dealing with clicked. I fell in love with “J.” her emotions, doesn’t like to discuss I AM happy and I DO love “J” hard issues and is very independent. but don’t feel like I’m bisexual. In my 1 am honest, respectful and heart of hearts, 1 feel totally gay. communicate. Cheating is not an I don’t feel the emotional connection option for me. with him as I do women, but it’s a Last weekend was my birthday. g(Kxl relationship. My friends don’t She went with three friends t<*) Tahoe understand. to ski, which she didn’t mention I’m not trying to label myself so until a week before. It hurt me much as sort my feelings and figure because 1 wanted to spend my out what to do. I love “J” and am birthday with her. She said that it happy...just confused. I’d never want was a difficult choice and that she to be with another man, and even was fearful of losing me. Lately, she now, despite my happiness, I still miss doesn’t acknowledge me as she used the emotional connection, the to and wants her independence. softness...everything about women. Maybe 1 need to be with someone Is this common? What should 1 do? who wants to be in a serious, honest, —“Lesbian” with Boyfriend caring relationship. But it’s hard to think of anyone else because 1 love D ear “L esbian ” with B oyfriend : her. Am I settling? Once in a while, a real dyke falls —MT in love with a boy. So what? D ear MT: Eventually you’ll view it as a momen tary aberration, a strange part of your Do you really need to ask if you’re life, like writing with your left hand settling? This relationship will continue to hurt you because you and for a while. It happens to straight women, too; your girlfriend want different things. they unwittingly fall for cute lesbians It sucks to be with someone who is closeted. Closeted girlfriends don’t at work or on the next mat in their like to do fun things, like make out Pilates class. Usually the relationship lasts a few months, and then they on the beach or have sex in their childhtxxl bedroom in their parents’ wander back to their happy hetero house. They don’t bring you to office lives (perhaps somewhat enriched by parties or family weddings and pull the scent of a woman). you into the bathroom to kiss you. Does this mean they’re really bisexual and deluding themselves? They usually littk a certain self- Not necessarily. It means that human respect and self-acceptance, and that experience is broad and varied and problem comes through in their can’t be predicted. work, their friendships and their If you’re happy and in love with relationships. “J,” why change anything? “Happy Your girlfriend doesn’t seem and in love” is a fantastic way to feel. capable of the three things you value: Enjoy it while it lasts. If it starts to honesty, respect and communication. feel unfulfilling, you’ll move on to Lots of lesbians want w'hat you want the next right thing, probably a nice anil would appreciate you. Ms. juicy woman. (You’ll especially . Behavior advises you to throw her appreciate her breasts and her soft back into the murky waters and find lips, having missed them for so long.) a better fishing hole. JM You’re not alone; even lesbian M eryl C ohn is the author of Do sexpert and psychotherapist JoAnn Loulan—who happened to have What I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to coined the phrase “Lesbian Bed Gay and Lesbian Etiquette. Signed copies are available directly from the Death”—fell in love with a man recently. Do a Gixigle search with author. Send questions or her name, or check out correspondence to msbehavun@aal.com.
