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novemtisr 19.2004 » Just SUtj 3 3 ADVICE SPIRITUALITY Metro: Spirituality Anawim Community of gay men meets weekly for Christian meditation and prayer (7 30 pm Thursday. 503-281-0722.) (7/05) Atkinson Memorial Church a Unitarian Um versalist church, provides a spiritual home for those looking for a liberal-minded, supportive and canng congregation in Oregon City. (10:30 am Sunday 710 Sixth S t 503-656-7296.) (7/05) Bridgeport United Church of Christ is a community of progressive, political people explonng and celebrating the Chnstian faith W e are sexual mmonty and straight, multicultural and multiracial, and our children are valued members. (10.30 am Sunday. 621 N E 76th Ave 503-258-0992 www bndgeportuccorg.) (7/05) Congregation P'nai Or (Faces of Light) is a vibrant, egalitarian, Jew ish Renewal congregation in Portland M eets several times a month at Portland State University Cam pus M inistnes. (PO Box 42187, Portland. O R 97242-0187 503-248-4500. www pnaiorpdx.org.) (7/05) Eastrose Fellowship Unitarian Universalist a welcoming congregation, offers Sunday service and children's religious education. (10 30 am 1133 N E 181st A v e . Gresham 503-665-2628. offkeQ eastroseorg. www.eastrose.org.) (7/05) Eckankar—Religion of the Light and Sound of God holds worship services and maintains a library of materials Learn how the Dnnne Spint works throughout your own life in today’s world. (10 am Sunday 7904 SE Milwaukie Ave. 503-233-1595 www eckankarorg.) (7/05) The Enneagram Community of Portland offers mentonng, therapy, spiritual direction, classes, workshops and retreats (enneagrampdxQaol.com wwwenneagram portlandcom .) (7/05) Faith United Methodist Church is a welcoming congregation that values and affirms the sacredness of all people W e invite and encourage everyone to find a place in the family of God. (10:15am Sunday. 27400 S E Stark St.. Troutdale 503-661-4520 7(7/05) First Congregational United Church of Christ is an open and affirming congregation in the liberal Chnstian tradition Church school and nursery care (10:25 am Sunday 1126 S W Park Ave 503-228-7219.) (7/05) First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open and affirming liberal religious community offering a wide range of programs to nurture spiritual growth, community and social justice. Sunday service 9 and 11 am. (1011 S W 12th Ave. 503-228-6389 www firstunitananportland org.) (7/05) Gay and Lesbian Outreach (GALO) of S t Philip Nen Catholic Church celebrates an affirming M ass followed by a social (7 3 0 pm Friday Paulist Center, 2408 S E 16th Ave. 503-231-4955)0/05) Integrity is a group of sexual minority Episcopalians and friends. Various locations throughout Oregon (Steven N orcross or Bruce 503 2 8 & 9 1 11. brucepdxorQcom cast.net www mtegntyusa org.) (7 /05) Nichiren Buddhist Temple of Portland offers several weekly gatherings Everyone welcom e1 (10 am Sunday. 7 3 0 am Tuesday and Thursday 73 0 pm W ednesday meditation. 2025 S E Yamhill S t 503-232-8064 www nichiren-shu org/portland) (7/05) Peace Church of the Brethren is a welcoming congregation (11 am Sunday 12727 S E M arket S t 503-254 6380 ) ( 7/05) Portland Center for Spiritual Growth is a center for worship, growth and leadership that adheres to an all-inclusive spintual philosophy similar to 12-step, Unity and Religious Science Impromptu wedding ceremonies available (503-777-0727 w w w portlandcenterorg) (7/05) Portland Radical Faeries meet twice a month with potlucks and circles at the full moon and the new moon Open to all men seeking alternative spintual growth and community. Coffee hours start 9 30 am Saturdays at 3 Friends Coffeehouse, 201 SE 12th Ave. (503-235-0826 otterQpcez.com .) (7/05) Seventh-Day Adventist Kinship is a support orga nization for former and current Adventists who are queer as well as their family and fnends (PO Box 49375. Sarasota. FL 34230-6375 866 732-5677 officeQsdakinship org www sdakinship org .)( 7/05) programs in addition to community and social action opportunities (9 and 11 am Sunday 22785 N W Birch St.. H illsboro 503-648-1720 www uuccwc o rg ) (7/05) Waveriy Heights United Church of Christ is open and affirming with worship, children's school and child care (10 am summer. 11 am school year 3300 S E Woodward S t 503-238-1337 pastorQw avedyucc org www.waverlyucc org.) (7/05) Wy'east Unitarian Universalist Congregation is an open and liberal religious community offering intergenerational services and religious education for youth and adults We welcom e gay'lesbian. bt and trans members and nurture spiritual growth living by Unitarian Universalist principles (4 pm Sunday 3915 S E Steele S t 503-777-3704 www wyeast.pnwd uua org.) (7/05) Zion United Church of Christ an open and affirming congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, bi. trans and heterosexual people who wish to worship in a Chnst-centered. warm, caring, m ultiage/race/cultural faith community. (11 am Sunday 110 30 am summer] 2025 N E 23rd A v e . Gresham 503 665 S74 7.7 (7/05) Central Oregon: Spirituality Southminster Presbyterian Church is an active member of the Community of Welcoming Congregations. Sunday school, nursery care, classes, community service activities and events for all ages and interests (9 am Sunday chapel service. 10 am Sunday main worship service 12250 S W Denney Road. Beaverton 503-644 2073 staffQsouthmm com www.southmm.com) (7/05) St. Andrew Catholic Church invites all to join a diverse faith community for prayer and fellowship (9:30 am Sunday; Noon Spanish language service. 806 N E Alberta S t 503-281 -4429.) (7/05) St. James Lutheran Church a Reconciled in Chnst congregation, welcom es all people for traditional liturgical worship where we expenence God's reconciling love that sets all people free (9 and 11 am Sunday 1315 S W Park Ave 503 227-2439 www st/ameslutheranportland org.) (7/05) United Church of Christ Congregational is an open and affirming congregation in The Dalles. (9:20 am adult Sunday school. 10 30 am worship 1930 am summer!. I l l E F ifth St. 541-296-2909 uccconglQnetcnct.net. www formimstry. com /usorucofcucocc) (7/05) Washington: Spirituality Abundant Life Center assists the community in spiritual growth. (10 am Sunday. 111 W 39th St., Vancouver The Rev Kathleen Verigin 360-573-2626 www abundant-life-center org.) (7/05) Longview United Methodist Church s welcom ing and reconciling (10 am Sunday. 2851 30th Ave., Longview 360-425-4927 )0 /0 5 ) Metropolitan Church of the Gentfe Shepherd m Vancouver welcom es you (10:30 am and 6 30 pm Sunday worship Bible study follows morning worship 2200 Broadway S t The Rev Harriet Barshofsky 360-695-1480)0/05) St. Stephen's Episcopal Church has been welcoming all people since 1863. (12:10 pm Wednesday and 7:45 and 10 am Sunday. Sunday school and child care at 10 am. 1432 S W 13th Ave 503-223-6424) (7/05) SisterSpirit offers women's spmtuality celebrations, discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and classes Schedule of events available A ll women are welcome. (Suite 102, 3430 S E Belm ont S t M ailing address PO Box 9246. Portland. O R 97207. 503-736-3297 sisterspQ teleport.com .) (7/05) Trinity Episcopal Cathedral a welcoming and affirming congregation, invites all to worship services and ongoing programs in spintual development, community outreach, music and arts education (8 am Sunday Rite I chapel service. 10 am Sunday Rite II cathedral service. 147 N W 19th Ave. 503-222-9811. www.thmty-episcopal org.) (7/05) Unitarian Universalist Community Church of Washington County is an open and affirming liberal religious community offering a variety of enrichment Michael Servitus Unitarian Universalist Fellowship a Welcoming Congregation, provides a home for the liberal religious spirit (9:30 and 11:15am Sunday. 4505 E 18th S t , Vancouver 360-695-1891.) (7/05) Willamette Valley: Spirituality First Congregational Church United Church of Christ is an open and affirming congregation offering worship and church school Child care provided and wheelchair accessible (9 30 am Sunday learning hour, 10:30 am worship 700 Marion St. NE. Salem 503-363-3660)( 7/05) Metropolitan Community Church Two Rivers is a Chnstian church with pnmary outreach in the sexual m inorities community. (6:30 pm Sunday 1 166 Oak St.. Eugene) 0 /0 5 ) Interfaith Spiritual Center houses spintual directors from various world religious traditions, who are available for guidance, classes and retreats (Second Floor, 3910 S E 11th A ve 503-233-2026. ext. 3 www m terfaithspiritualcenter.com .) (7705) Koinonia Catholic Community is a progressive, small faith community that gathers weekly to celebrate Euchanst at Bridgeport United Church of Christ A welcoming congregation. Catholic in tradition and Ecumenical in membership (6 pm Sunday. 621 N E 76th A ve 503-699-0473. www komomacommunity org.) (7/05) Metanoia Peace Community United Methodist Church is a "house church" that bnngs gay and straight together Daily morning prayer and Sunday evening worship (503-281 3697 www tearsoup.com /metanoia.) (7/05) Metropolitan Community Church of Portland holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at 9 and 11 am Sunday school for children is held dunng the 11 am service (2400 N E Broadway 503-281-8868 m foQm ccportland com. www m ccportland.com .H 7 705) The "far out" musical revue Hâve a Nie e Day takes y ou on a trip back to the Nixon era through Nov. 21 at the Chemeketa Communhy College auditorium in Salem YOUTH Metro: Youth The G a y , Le s b ia n a n d S tr a ig h t E d u c a tio n N e tw o rk j p U M MI strives to assure that each member of «very school community is valued and respected, regardless of sexual orientation or gender idendty/expression (12700 S W North Dakota S i . Suite 180 4129. Tigard. O R 97223 503525-1177 0senO gkenoregon.org w w w g fm xm g o n o rg .) (7/05) O u t r id e la operates a clinic for anyone who can't qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as w ell »9 need« exchange services that include those who inject hor mones Provide trenabonal housing for youth 20 and younger and for those H IVpositive and younger that 23. Meed volunteers of aft ages (W am -8p m Mondoy-Fnday. 11 3 2 S W 13th A ve 503-535-3600 www.outstdem org.) (7/05) b r id e P r oje c t bungs togethei W ashington County queer and questioning youth to plan and attend Washington: Youth monthly social events A lso information, referral and advocacy services m W ashington County. (M ofy 503-280-5792. m ofyQ prisieproject.org) (7/05) ( S M Y R O offers support and re cre e ta n to gay. lesbian, bi and trans youth 23 and younger Drqp-in com puter accese. p o d tables and an informal piece to hang o u t W eekly support m eetings include Trans Youth Group and the creative group Personal Deity Proxy. (4-8 pm M onday and W edn&day. 4 pm -rkd- mght Friday end Saturday. 2 1 0 Q $ E 8 elm o * t$ L 5 0 38 72 966 4. TTY 503-231 -9286 w m f.arhyit org.) (7/05) ' ’ ■ * , -vs . 4 ' • - fr ~ * Eastern Oregon: Youth trans and questioning youth m Eastern Oregon (1021 S W 5th Ave.. Ontario. 541-889-3119 or 666-248-8389 e n cM e o rJ org www n o d org.) (7/05) I H p le b e k * offers education, ¡support and advocacy to gay. ¡estw n. bt. trans and questioning youth In Vancouver M eets every Tuesday in the beeement of Youth House (8-8 pm. t U 2 Colum bia S t John 360-696 1325 > (7/05) Willamette Valley: Youth t i* i, Leebfew. BL Tranagewdar ead Q u M rim riN f « w * G ro u p for ages 13 to 10 offers support, information and fon ¡n Eugene Free, confidential, adult-facilitated (Drop m 4-6 pm Fnday Amazon Community Center. 2700 H fyard St. 5 4 1 6 $ 4 -3 4 d 6 )n /< £ l L e e k k m , G e y . i l aex e r i, The e sp e n d e r Y o u th C re e p for ages 25 and younger meets every Monday in Eugene (5 pm Koinonia Center. 1414 K ir a * / & 541 346 i t 34J (7/05) ................. ▼ ............. Monster-in-law Fiance doesn’t want his family goin’ to the chapel D ear M s . Terry thought she’d B ehavior : have a job when she My boyfriend moved here, hut her company downsized and I are planning and it didn’t work our wedding for next spring, and out. She’s depressed we’re already fight about not having ing over the guest work hut doesn’t list. seem to he looking I want to invite for a new job. She all our friends and worries about money relatives to join in and complains that our celebration. she misses her moth John doesn’t want to er and her friends. invite his mother She lies on the couch and brother, his only- and cries a lot. We’re remaining relatives. not having fun He feels that inviting them would together anymore. add “another whole layer of stress” I’m not sure what to do. I love and doesn’t think they’ll he comfort Terry, hut I’m afraid of what lies able or supportive. He’s alluded to a ahead. Terry says she’s “not usually rough childhood hut won’t talk like this.” about it. He just says that it’s “our I’m worried about getting more day” and that we should have things deeply involved with someone who the way we want them to he and i has a depressive personality. I don’t that he doesn’t want to conform to want to end up wasting years of my the heterosexual model of how to life, only to realize we can’t he have a wedding. together because of her emotional problems. Should I hail out now? I feel that we should invite his family because we’re making a public — Scared statement about our love and our D ear S cared : intentions and we should share that with them. Should 1 insist that John It’s too soon to hail out. Did Terry invites his family? Or should I just sleep with your personal trainer or honor his feelings and shut up? your mother? Did she sell your car — K for crack money? No. She’s just l depressed, at least for the moment. D ear K: Is it hard for you to understand why? Hello? She moved cross-coun Express your feelings about John’s try to he with you, and she lost her refusal to invite his mother and job, financial security and daily con brother once and then shut up. tact with her friends all at once. Interviewing John about his child hood won’t help; perhaps his mother A bout of depression shouldn’t he taken as an indication that she’s locked him in the basement and his not a wonderful person. How about brother smashed his dollhouse. Or trying a little compassion before maybe they’re both just distant and kicking her to the curb? Would you disapproving and John doesn’t want he so cavalier about ending the to include them. Either way, the relationship if she’d developed a decision should he John’s, since he’s the one who’ll he stressed hy their physical illness? Terry may need therapy or anti presence. depressants or just a job, hut in any The notion that a wedding is a case, she needs your support. She public statement about your love and probably senses that she’s on tnal, intentions is a nice one, hut it’s best which would add to her anxiety and to consider what’s truly meaningful depression and perhaps even con to you and your partner. Ultimately, you'll he happier if you assign your tribute toward immobilizing her. own private meaning to your vows, If your relationship doesn’t rather than regarding your wedding improve in another five or six as a public relations event or proof ; months, you can always break up that you love each other. But it seems only fair to both of you to give it a chance. Apparently, that When the wedding is over and was your intention when you asked the guests have all gone home, you’ll her to pack up and join you. he left with each other. Whether or not that’s good news depends a lot So, try acting supportive (even if on your ability to support (me anoth you have to pretend). It may help her out of her funk, which will make er through difficult decisions. you Kith happy. ¡D D ear M s . B ehavior : © Meryl Cohn 2004 After nine months, my wonderful long-distance girlfriend, Terry, finally M eryl C ohn is the author o f Do moved in. At first I felt thrilled in every way— 1 couldn’t believe she’d What I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay and Lesbian Etiquette actually move 2,000 miles to he with (Houghton M ifflm ). Signed copies are me! But now that she’s been here for three months, she doesn’t seem so available direedy from the author. wonderful, and I’m not sure it was Send questions or correspondence to mshehavurr@aol.com. the right decision.
