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.October 1 . 2 S M : 33 ADVICE SPIRITUALITY Metro: Spirituality Anawim Community of gay men meets w eekly for Christian meditation and prayer (7 3 0 pm Thursday 503-281 07 22 .) (7/05) Atkinson Memorial Church a Unitarian Um versalist church, provides a spiritual home for those looking for a liberal-minded, supportive and caring con gregation in Oregon C ity (1 0 3 0 am Sunday 710 Sixth S t 503-656-7296) (7/05) Bridgeport United Church of Christ is a commu Metanoia Peace Community United Methodist Church is a "house church" that brings gay and straight together Daily morning prayer and Sunday evening worship (503-281-3697 www tearsoup com/metanoia ) (7/05) Metropolitan Community Church of Portland holds ecum enical Sunday morning worship services at 9 and 11 am Sunday school for children is held during the 11 am service (2400 N E Broadway 503-281-8868 mfo@mccportland com www mccportland com ) (7/05) Nichiren Buddhist Temple of Portland offers several weekly gatherings Everyone welcom e! (10 am Sunday, 7.30 am Tuesday and Thursday 7 30 pm Wednesday meditation 2025 S E Yamhill S t 503-232-8064 www mchiren-shu org/portland.) (7/05) nity of progressive, political people explonng and cele brating the Christian faith W e are sexual minority and straight, multicultural and m ultiracial, and our children are valued members, (10:30 am Sunday 621 N E 76th A ve 503-258-0992 www.bndgeportucc.org.) (7/05) congregation (11 am Sunday 12727 S E Market S t 503-254-6380) (7/05) Congregation P’nai Or (Faces of Light) is a vibrant, egalitanan, Jew ish Renewal congregation in Portland M eets several times a month at Portland State University Campus M inistries. (PO Box 42187, Portland, O R 97242-0187 503-248-4500 www pnaiorpdx.org.) (7/05) Portland Center for Spiritual Growth s a center for worship, growth and leadership that adheres to an all-inclusive spiritual philosophy sim ilar to 12-step. Unity and Religious Science. Impromptu wedding cerem onies available. (503-777-0727. w w w portlandcenterorg) (7/05) Eastrose Fellowship Unitarian Universalist a Portland Radical Faeries meet tw ice a month with welcoming congregation, offers Sunday service and children s religious education (10 30 am 1133 N E 181st A v e . Gresham. 503-665-2628 office@ eastrose.org www eastrose org.) (7/05) potlucks and circle.s at the full moon and the new ’ moon. Open to all men seeking alternative spiritual growth and community. C offee hours start 9 30 am Saturdays at 3 Friends Coffeehouse, 201 S E 12th Ave (503-235-0826 otter@pcez com .) (7/05) Eckankar—Religion of the Light and Sound of God holds worship services Peace Church of the Brethren is a welcoming SisterSpirit ffe [s women's spintuality celebrations, discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and cla sse s. Schedule of events available All women are welcom e (Suite 102, 3430 S E Belmont S t Mailing address: PO Bo x 9246, Portland. O R 97207 503-736-3297 sistersp@ teleport com ) (7/05) Trinity Episcopal Cathedral a welcoming and affirming congregation, invites all to worship services and ongoing programs in spiritual development, com munity outreach, music and arts education (8 am Sunday Rite I chapel service. 10 am Sunday Rite II cathedral service 147 N W 19th A ve 503-222-9811. www, trinity-episcopal, o rg 7 (7 /05) Unitarian Universalist Community Church of Washington County is an open and affirming liberal religious community offering a variety of enrichment programs in addition to community and social action opportunities (9 and 11 am Sunday 22785 NW Birch S t.. Hillsboro 503-648-1720 w w w uuccwc o rg .)(7/05) Wy'east Unitarian Universalist Congregation s an open and liberal religious community offering inter- generational services and religious education for youth and adults W e welcom e gay, lesbian, bi and trans mem bers and nurture spintual growth living by Unitanan Universalist principles (4 pm Sunday. 3915 S E Steele S t 503-777-3704 www w yea stp n w d u u a o rg .)(7/05) Zion United Church of Christ in open and affirming congregation, is open to gay, lesbian, bi. trans and heterosexu al people who wish to worship in a Christ-centered, warm, canng, multi- age/race/cultural faith community (11 am Sunday 110:30 am summer). 2025 N E 23rd A v e . Gresham. 503-665-8741.) (7/05) The Enneagram Community of Portland offers mentoring, therapy, spiritual direction, cla sse s, workshops and retreats, (enneagrampdx@aol.com. www enneagramportland com .) (7/05) Faith United Methodist Church Central Oregon: is a welcom ing congregation that val ues and affirm s the sacred n ess of all people. W e invite and encourage everyone to find a place in the fam ily of God. (1 0 :1 5 a m Sunday. 2 7 4 0 0 S E Sta rk S t., Troutdale 503-661-4520.) (7 /0 5 ) Spirituality United Church of Christ Congregational s an open and affirm ing congregation in The D alles (9 20 am adult Sunday school, 10 30 am worship 19:30 am summer). 111 E Fifth St. 5 4 1 -296-2909 ucccongl@netcnct.net www formimstry. com /usorucofcucocc.7 (7/05) First Congregational United Church of Christ is an open and affirm ing congregation in the liberal Christian tra dition. Church school and nursery care. ( 10 25 am Sunday. 1126 S W Park Ave 503-228-7219) (7/05) Washington: Spirituality Belinki & Duprey Gallery celebrates Latin American art and culture Oct. 4-Nov. 10 Gay and Lesbian Outreach (GALO) of S t Philip Neri Catholic Church celebrates an affirming M ass fol lowed by a social. (7 30 pm Fnday Paulist Center, 2408 S E 16th Ave. 503-231-4955 ) (7/05) Integrity is a group of sexual mmonty Episcopalians and friends. Various locations throughout Oregon. (Steven Norcross or Bruce 503-286-9111. bmcepdxor@comcast net www integntyusa org .7 (7/05) Interfaith Spiritual Center houses spintual direc tors from various world religious traditions, who are available for guidance, cla sse s and retreats (Seco n d Floor, 3910 S E 11th A ve 503-233-2026, ext. 3 www interfaithspihtualcenter.com) (7/05) Keshet Portland is a potluck group for Jew ish mem bers of the sexual mmonties community and their part ners, spouses and supporters Its purpose is to help build bridges with the larger Jew ish community Monthly social, religious and cultural events (David 503-226-7079. ext 1 4 ) 0 / 0 5 ) Koinonia Catholic Community is a progressive, small faith community that gathers weekly to celebrate Eucharist at Bridgeport United Church of C h rist. A w el coming congregation, Catholic in tradition and Ecum enical in membership (6 pm Sunday 621 N E 76th Ave 503-699-0473 www komoniacommunity o r q ) (7/05) YOUTH Metro: Youth Network (GLSEN ) strive s to assure that each member of every school comm unity is valued and respected regardless o f sexual orientation o r gender identity/expression (12700 S W North Dakota S t.. Suite 180*12 9. Tigard. O R 97223 503-525-1177. glsen@ glsenoregon.org w w w.glsenoregon.org ) (7 /0 5) Outside In operates a clmic for anyone who can t qualify for the Oregon Health Plan a s weB as needle exchange services that include those who inject hor m ones. Provide transitiona! housing for youth 20 and younger a id for those HfV-posittve and younger than 23 Need volunteers of a# ages (10 am-6 pm Monday Fnday. 1132 S W 13th A v e 503-535-3800. www o u tsid ein o rg J (7 /0 5) Pride Project bnngs together Washington County queer and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly Seventh-Day Adventist Kinship is a support organization for former and current Adventists who are queer as well as their fam ily and friends. (PO Box 49375, Sarasota. FL 34230-6375 866-732-5677. office@sdakmship org www sdakinship org.) (7/05) Southminster Presbyterian Church s an active member of the Community of Welcoming Congregations. Sunday school, nursery care, classes, community service activities and events for all ages and interests (9 am Sunday chapel service. 10 am Sunday mam worship serv ice 12250 S W Denney Road. Beaverton 503-644-2073 staff@southmm com www southmm co m ) (7/05) St. Andrew Catholic Church invites all to join a diverse faith community for prayer and fellowship. (9 3 0 am Sunday , Noon Spanish language service 806 N E Alberta S t 503-2814429 ) 0 / 0 5 ) St. Jam es Lutheran Church a Reconciled in C hrist congregation, welcom es all people for tradition al. liturgical worship where we experience God s recon ciling love that se ts all people free. (9 and 11 am Sunday 1315 S W Park A ve 503-227-2439 www stjameslutheranportland org 7 (7 /0 5) St. Stephen's Episcopal Church has been wel coming all people since 1863 (12 10 pm Wednesday and 7 45 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and child care at 10 am 1432 S W 13th Ave 503-223-6424 ) 0/05 ) social events. Also «form ation, referral and advocacy services in W ashington County (Molly 503-260-5792 motty@prideprojectorg, 7 (7/05) Sexual Minority Youth Resource Center (SM YRC) offers support and recreation to gay. les bian, bi and tra is youth 23 and younger Drop-in com puter a cce ss, pool tables and an «form al place to hang out. W eekly support m eetings include Trans Youth Group and the creative group Personal Deity Proxy (4-8 pm Monday and Wednesday. 4 pm- mtdnrght Friday and Saturday 2 1 0 0 S E Belmont St. 503-872-9664 T T Y 5 0 3 -2 3 l-9 2 8 6 w w w sm y rc.o rg .) (7 /0 5) Eastern Oregon: Youth Eastern Oregon Center for Independent Living offers support and advocacy to gay, lesbian bi. trans and questioning youth in Eastern Oregon (1021 S W 5th A v e . Ontario 541 -8893119 or 866 248-8369 eoc4@eool.org. www eoctl org 7 (7/95) Lesbian couple fantasize about bringing a straight man into their bedroom Editor’s note: Ms. Behavior is on vacation, so we’re rerunning a [ropular column from the archives. Waverly Heights United Church of Christ s open and affirming with worship, children s school and child care. (10 am summer, 11 am school year 3300 S E Woodward S t 503-238-1337 pastor@waver1yucc org www waverlyucc.org.) (7/05) and maintains a library of materials. Learn how the Divine Spirit works throughout your own life in today's world. (10 am Sunday 7904 S E Milwaukie Ave 503-233-1595 www eckankar org. 7(7/05) First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open and affirming liberal religious communi ty offering a wide range of programs to nur ture spiritual growth, community and social justice. Sunday service 9 and 11 am (1011 SW 12th Ave. 503-228-6389 www firstumtananportland org ) (7/05) Three is a magic number Abundant Life Center assists the community in spiritual growth (10 am Sunday. I l l W 39th S t., Vancouver The Rev Kathleen Verigin 360-573-2626 www abundant-life-center, org.7(7/05) Longview United Methodist Church is welcom ing and reconciling. (10 am Sunday 2851 30th A v e . Longview 360-425-4927.) (7/05) Metropolitan Church of the Gentle Shepherd in Vancouver welcom es you. (1 0 3 0 am and 6 30 pm Sunday worship Bible study follows morning worship 2200 Broadway St. The R e v Hamet Barshofsky 36 0 -6 9 5 -1 4 8 0 )0 /0 5 ) Michael Servitus Unitarian Universalist Fellowship a Welcoming Congregation, provides a home for the liberal religious spirit (9 30 and 11:15 am Sunday 4505 E 18th St.. Vancouver 360-695-1891 7(7/05) Willamette Valley: Spirituality First Congregational Church United Church of Chnst is an open and affirming congregation offenng wor ship and church school Child care provided and wheelchair accessible (9 3 0 am Sunday learning hour. 1030 am wor ship 700 Manor S t NE, Salem 503-363-3660 )0 /0 5 ) Metropolitan Community Church Two Rivers is a Chnstian church with pnmary outreach in the sexual m inorities community (6 30 pm Sunday 1166 Oak S t., Eugene 7 (7/05) Washington: Youth Triple Point offers education, support and advocacy to gey, lesbian, bt. trans and questioning youth in Vancouver M eets every Tuesday in the basem ent of Youth House. (6-8 pm. 1112 Cokimbm S t John 360-695-1325.7(7/05 ) Willamette Valley: Youth Gay, Lesbian, Bi, Transgender and Questioning Youth Group for ages 13 to 18 offers support, information and fun tn Eugene, Free, confiden tial adult-facilitated. (Drop in 4-6 pm Friday Amazon Community Center. 2700 Hityard S t 541 -684-3466.) (7/05) Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender Youth Group for ages 25 and younger m eets every Monday m Eugene (5 pm. Koinoma Center. 1414 Kincaid St. 541-346-1134 7(7/05 ) D ear M s . B ehavior : I recently told my girlfriend, Sandra, my fantasy about inviting a man to watch us in bed. She joined in the fantasy, and we described it to each other as we made love. Our imaginary man just observed, hut we were both turned on by the idea, and our sex was very exciting. The problem is that Sandra now seems preoccupied with rhis idea and wants to make it a reality! The other night she came home and said: “Guess what? I think 1 found a man to watch us.” I said, “Excuse me, hut I thought that was just a fantasy.” Sandra has been sulking ever since. Ms. Behavior, 1 feel tom. 1 like to believe I’m adven turous; it I could get beyond my apprehension, it would he really fun. But straight men make me ner vous. We’d like one to watch hut not participate. 1 want to make my girl friend happy, hut the idea of inviting a third person— especially this guy, who lives only two blocks away— into our hedrcxjm makes me anxious. Do we need other lesbians there to make sure it doesn’t get out of hand? — Laura D ear L aura : You complain that your girlfriend is taking the fantasy too seriously, hut Ms. Behavior can’t help hut notice that your question ultimately is not “Should we do this?” hut rather “When we do this, how do we keep the straight dude— or his penis— from getting ‘out of hand’ ?” Since you’re lesbians, he sure to priKess it a lot first. Talk about what will make you feel safe and how you’ll handle it if one of you feels un comfortable or self-conscious (or throws up at the sight of a wiener). Don't involve the guy who lives nearby. Find someone (maybe a friend of a friend?) who you’ll never see again. There’s no shortage of straight men who’d happily trade their Snap-On T x d s or their moth ers for the chance to watch lesbians have sex. Your idea about having a couple of dykes there as bouncers, in case the man gets out o f control, is a good one. Then maybe you can hire a dog to hark in case the dykes are overcome by passion and try to insert themselves into your act. And if you can arrange it for a conve nient time, say, Wednesday evening between 10 and midnight, perhaps Ms. Behavior can come along to keep her eye on the dog. D ear M s . B ehavior : On a recent trip to Provincetown, 1 ran (literally) into a delicate sexual eti quette problem. While walking my dog off-leash on the beach in the evening in a cruisy area known as the “dick dock”— I’m a lesbian and wasn’t in search of dick— my dog, Charlotte, ran off and starting licking and jumping on two men engaged in a sexual act. 1 stixxl about 10 yards away, unsure what to do. I felt tcx> embar rassed to call the dog, so I just stixxl in the shadows and waited until they were done. This tcxik about 15 min utes, which 1 thought was a long time, hut 1 guess a leaping dog is a hit of a distraction. I’m a sex-positive lesbian with no judgment about public sex, hut I also don’t feel that it deserves any particu lar reverence on my part. Silently waiting until those men were finished made me feel disempowered, so 1 don’t want to do that again. I don’t intend to stop walking my dog at the beautiful m<x)nlit beach— and I don’t want to put her on a leash because she rarely gets to run free— so I need to know what to do in the future. How polite should I he when she encounters or interrupts men hav ing sex? Should I call my dog loudly and hope she feels like obeying? Or should I walk unabashedly up to the fellating men, say “Excuse me” and retrieve her? — K. D ear K.: The beach is a public place, and you don’t seem like a dyke who’d go blind at the sight of a penis, so feel free to walk right up to your leaping dog and the men who happen to he the object of her attention. Conversation probably isn’t neces sary, and you seem polite enough to not demand that others speak to you with their mouths full. You might also consider a sim ple, less interactive approach: Just stay where you are and yell, “Charlotte, com e!” Of course, yelling a demand to come while people are having sex can go either way; it could either help bring the act to completion or it could wilt their...attention. Either way, you’d probably get your dog hack quickly. J H © Meryl Cohn 2004 MERYL Q thn is the author of I\> What 1 Say: Ms. Behaviors Guide to Gay and Lesbian Etiquette (Houghton Mifflin). Signed copies are available drrecdy from the author. Send questions or correspondence to mshehavurr@aol .com.
