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About Just out. (Portland, OR) 1983-2013 | View Entire Issue (July 16, 2004)
july 16» 2004 ? ADVICE ...................▼................... SPIRITUALITY Metro: Spirituality Ainsworth United Church of Christ is a m ulti racial, m ulticultural, open and affirm ing church. Sunday w orship is at 10 am; church school fo r children runs concurrently. (2941 NE Ainsworth St 503284-8767. aucc@teleport com.) (7 /0 4 ) Anawim Community o f gay men meets w eekly for C hristian m editation and prayer. (7.30 pm Thursday 503-281-0722.) (7 /0 4 ) Bridgeport United Church of Christ is a commu nity o f progressive, political people explonng and cele brating the Chnstian faith. W e are sexual minonty and straight, m ulticultural and m ultiracial, and our children are valued members (1030 am Sunday 621 NE 76th Ave 503-258-0992. www bndgeportucc org.) (7 /0 4 ) City Church Portland's "oldest gay-affirm ing C hristian church," offers a spirit-driven church for today's diverse generations. (10 am Sunday commu nion and worship service. 6 30 pm Sunday worship service 3830 SE62nd Ave. 503-775-5024 ) (7 /0 4 ) Congregation P'nai Or (Faces of Light) is a vibrant, egalitarian, Jewish Renewal congregation in Portland Meets several times a month at Portland State University Campus M inistries (PO Box 42187. Portland. OR 97242-0187 503-248-4500 www.pnaiorpdx org.) (7/04) Eastrose Fellowship Unitarian Universalist a welcom ing congregation, offers Sunday service and children's religious education (10:30 am. 1133 NE 181st Ave., Gresham. 503-665-2628 office@ eastrose org. www.eastrose org.) (7/0 5 ) Eckankar— Religion of the Light and Sound of God holds w orship services and maintains a library of m aterials to help you leam about the Divine S pirit in today's w orld. (10 am Sunday 7904 SE Milwaukie Ave 503-233-1595 www. eckankar org .7(7/05) Faith United Methodist Church is a welcoming com munity of Chnstians in Troutdale that values and encour ages all people in finding a place of belonging in the family of God. Sunday worship at 10:15 am; Adult Education at 9 am; children and youth at 10 30 am. Wednesday Prayers 6-6:30 pm (27400 SE Stark St 503-661-4520 )0 /0 4 ) First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open and affirming liberal religious community offenng a wide range of programs to nurture spmtual growth, community and social justice. Sunday service 9 and 11 am. (1011 SW 12th Ave 503-228-6389 wwwñrstunitananpoctland org.) (7/04) Gay and Lesbian Outreach (GALO) o f S t Philip Nen C atholic Church celebrates an affirm ing M ass fo l lowed by a social (7:30 pm Friday. Paulist Center. 2408 SE 16th Ave 503-231-4955)( 7 /0 4 ) Gay Men's Labyrinth Project meets quarterly fo r a w alking m editation and wisdom circle on the labynnth (wwwgaylabyhnth.com.) (7 /0 4 ) Integrity is a group o f sexual m inonty Episcopalians and friends. Various locations throughout Oregon. (Bruce 503-286-9111. brucepdxor@attbi com. www mtegntyusa org.) (7 /0 4 ) Interfaith Spiritual Center houses spintqal direc tors from various w orld religious traditions, who are available fo r guidance, classes and retreats (Second Floor. 3910 SE 11th Ave. 503-233 2026. ext 3. wwwmterfaithspintualcenter com.) (7 /0 4 ) Keshet Portland is a potluck group fo r Jewish mem bers o f the sexual mm onties com m unity and their part ners, spouses and supporters. Its purpose is to help build bridges w ith the larger Jewish community. M onthly social, religious and cultural events. (David or Laney 503-226-7079. ext. 1 4 X 7/0 4 ) Koinonia Catholic Community is a progressive, small faith community that gathers weekly to celebrate Euchanst at Bridgeport United Church o f C hrist A wel- YOUTH Metro: Youth Flavors, a social support group fo r sexual irtn o rtty youth o f color 21 and younger, meets on weekends fa- food and socializing. Regular events and activities fla vo rs is a project o f Love Makes a Family's M ultiQ ueer program and is supported by Brother to Brother (Kristy 503-228-3892 rwltiqueei@MBtnly.oig 10/04) The Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network (GLSEN) fights to e rfi anti-gay bias in K -12 schools (Suite 180. 12700 SW North Dakota St. »129. Tigard. OR 97223 503-525-1177. g/taen@gJsenoregon org wwwQisenoreqon o rg ) (7 /0 4 ) MultiQueer a program o f Love M akes a Family, pro vides advocacy to sexual m inority youth O ffers resources snd support m the com m unity and the school system s, w ith a focus on support fo r queer and ques tiorw ig youth o f cofcx (Kristy 503-228-3892. multiqueer@fmfamily.org) (7 /0 4 ) commg congregation. Cathokc in tradition and Ecumenical m membershp (6 pm Sunday 621 NE 76th Ave 503-6990473 www komoruacommunity org.) (7/04) who seek the grace of God and desire to work for peace and justice Child care available (1030 am Longview United Methodist Church is welcom ing and reconciling. (10 am Sunday 2851 30th Ave. 360-425-4927 ) ( 7 /0 4 ) University Park United Methodist Church Metanoia Peace Community United Methodist Church is a "house church" that brings gay and straight together Daily morning prayer and Sunday evening worship (503-281-3697 www tearsoup com/metancxaXl/04) Metropolitan Community Church of Portland holds ecum enical Sunday morning w orship s e rv ic e at 9 and 11 am Sunday school for children is held dunng the 11 am service. (2400 NE Broadway 503-281-8868 info&mccportland com. www mccportland.com.) (7 /0 4 ) Nichiren Buddhist Temple of Portland offers several weekly gathenngs Everyone welcom e! (10 am Sunday , 730 am Tuesday and Thursday. 7:30 pm Wednesday meditation. 2025 SE Yamhill St. 503 232-8064 www nichiren-shu org/portland.) (7 /0 4 ) Peace Church of the Brethren is a welcom ing congregation. (11 am Sunday 12727 SE Market St. 503-254 6380X 1/04) Portland Center for Spiritual Growth is a center fo r worship, growth and leadership that adheres to an all inclusive spmtual philosophy similar to 12-step. U nity and Religious Science Impromptu wedding cerem onies avail able. (503-777-0727 wwwportlandcenter.org.) (7/04) Portland Radical Faeries meet tw ice a month w ith believes in giving to the community, canng fo r one another and making a difference one person at a tim e. Come celebrate G od's diversity w ith us! (W arn Sunday. 4775 N Lombard St. The Rev Jeanme Knepper 503-289- 7843) (7 /0 4 ) Waverfy Heights United Church of Christ s open and affirm ing w ith w orship, children's school and child care. (10 am Sunday 3300 SE Woodward St. 503-238-1337 www waveriyucc org 7 (7/04) Wy'east Unitarian Universalist Congregation is an open and liberal religious com m unity offenng inter- generational services and religious education fo r youth and adults W e welcom e gay, lesbian, bi and trans members and nurture spmtual growth living by Unitarian U niversalist pnnciples. (4 pm Sunday 3915 SE Steele St 503-777-3704 www wyeastpnwduua org.) (7 /0 4 ) Zion United Church of Christ, an open and affirm ing congregation, is open to gay, lesbian, bi. trans and heterosexual people who wish to w orship in a C hrist centered, warm, caring, m ultiage/race/cultural faith com m unity (11 am Sunday 2025 NE 23rd Ave.. Gresham 503-665-8741.) (7/0 4 ) Central Oregon: Spirituality potlucks and circles at the full moon and the new moon. Open to all men seeking alternative spiritual grow th and com m unity C offee hours start 9:30 am Saturdays at 3 Fnends C offeehouse. 201 SE 12th Ave. United Church of Christ Congregational is an open and affirm ing congregation in The Dalles. (9 20 am (503-235-0826 otter@pcez co m .X l 104) www form /m stry.com /usorucofcucoccJ (7/0 4 ) adult Sunday school. 10.30 am Sunday worship 111 EFifth St. 541-296-2909 ucccongl@netcnctnet. Seventh-Day Adventist Kinship s a support organi zation for queer people, their families and friends (PO Box 7320. Laguna Niguel. CA 92607 7320 866 732-5677. office@sdakmship.org www sdakinship org.Xl/04) SisterSpirit jffe rs women's spintuality celebrations, discussion groups, a drumming circle, w orkshops and classes Schedule o f events available A ll women are welcom e (Suite 102. 3430 SE Belmont St Mailing address: PO Box 9246. Portland. OR 97207. 503-736 3297 sistersp@teleport.com.) (7 /0 4 ) Southminster Presbyterian Church is an active member o f the Com m unity of W elcoming Congregations Sunday school and nursery care. C lasses, com m unity service activities and events fo r all ages and interests. (9-9.30 am Sunday chapel service, 10 am Sunday community worship service. 12250 SW Denney Road. Beaverton 503-644-2073. staff@southmm com. w ww southmin com .) (7 /0 4 ) St. Andrew Catholic Church invites all to jom a diverse faith community for prayer and fellowship (930 am Sunday 806 NE Alberta St 503-281-4429X1/04) St. James Lutheran Church, a Reconciled in C hrist congregation, welcom es all people fo r traditional, liturgical w orship where we experience G od's reconcil ing love that sets all people free (9 and 11 am Sunday Washington: Spirituality Abundant Life Center is A New Thought Com m unity fo r spiritual awakening and transform ing lives through love. A safe place where children learn to embody spmtual principles (10 am Sunday 10006 NE Ninth A ve . Vancouver The Rev Kathleen Verigin 360 573-2626.) (7 /0 4 ) East Vancouver United Methodist Church is reconciling and welcom ing (10 am Sunday 5701 MacArthur Blvd 360-693-4761X1/04) First Congregational Church United Church of C hnst. holds services in an open and affirm ing congre gation (W arn Sunday worship. 11 15 am adult educa tion 1220 NE 68th St.. Vancouver. 360-693 1476 vanucc@aol.com.) (7 /0 4 ) Metropolitan Community Church of the Gentle Shepherd in Vancouver welcom es you. (1030 am and 6 3 0 pm Sunday worship. 9 am Sunday Bible study 2200 Broadway The Rev Harriet Barshofsky 360695-1480.) (7 /0 4 ) 1315 SW Park Ave 503-227-2439 www stjameslutheranportland org.) (7 /0 4 ) Michael Servetus Unitarian Universalist Fellowship i Welcoming Congregation, provides a home for the liberal religious spmt. (960 and I t 15 am Sunday 4505 El8thSt.. Vancouver 3606951891X1/04) St. Stephen's Episcopal Church has been welcom mg all people since 1863 (12.10pm Wednesday and 7:45 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and child care at 10 am 1432 SW 13th Ave 503-223-6424X1/04) Willamette Valley: Spirituality Trinity Episcopal Cathedral a welcom ing and affirm ing congregation, invites all to w orship services and ongoing program s in spmtual developm ent, com m unity outreach, music and arts education. (8 am Sunday Rite I chapel service. 10 am Sunday Rite II cathedral service 147 NW 19th Ave 503-222-9811 www tnnity-episcopal org.) (7 /0 4 ) Trinity United Methodist Church is fo r all people First Congregational Church United Church of Chnst is an open and affirming congregation offenng wor ship and church school Child care provided and wheelchair accessible (9:30 am Sunday learning hour. 1030 am wor ship 700 Manon St NE. Salem 503-363-3660 H I 104) Metropolitan Community Church Two Rivers is a Chnstian church w ith pnmary outreach in the sexual mmonties community. (6 3 0 pm Sunday 1166 Oak St., Eugene) (7/0 4 ) Sexual Minority Youth Resource Center (SMYRO. a program of Cascade Behavioral Washington: Youth HeafthCara. offers support and recreation to gay. lesbian, te and trans youth 23 and younger. Offers drop-in comput er access, pod tables and an informal place to hang out W eekly support meetings includes Trans Youth Group and the creative group Personal Deity Proxy. (4 6 pm Monday Triple Point offers education, support and advocacy and Wednesday. 4 pm-midnight Friday and Saturday. 2100 SE Belmont St. 503672-9664 TTY 503-231-9286 www.smyrc org.) O ther programs include: Clackamas County Sexual Minority Youth Connection (COSMYC) provides opportunities h r queer and ques tioning youth ages 23 and younger to get together fo r free, fun and supportive 9oaal activities. O ffers one-on- one support, refenrais and inform ation on HIV and STD prevention and resources fo r adults who w otk with queer and questioning youth (503-969-0060 cosmycyouth@yahoo com.) Pride Project bnngs togeth er Washington County queer and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social events. Also inform atcn, referral and advocacy services in W ashington County. to gay, lesbian, bi, trans and questioning youth in Vancouver, W ash. M eets 6-8 pm Tuesday« in the base ment o f Youth House, 1112 Colum bia St. in Vancouver, (John 360-695- 1325X1/04) Willamette Valley: Youth Gay, Leebian, Bi, Transgender and Questioning Youth Group f a ages 13 to 18 offers support, inform ation and fun in Eugene. Free, confiden tial. adult-facilitated (Drop in 4 6 pm Friday Amazon Community Center. 2700 hUyard St. 541684 3466 ) (7 /0 4 ) (Molly 503-260-5792 mo»ydprideprojectorg.) 0 /0 4) Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender Youth Group fo r ages 25 and younger m eets every Monday m Eugene. (5 pm. Komoriia Center 1414 Kincaid S i. 541 3461134) (7 /0 4 ) Eastern Oregon: Youth O u t A b o u t Youth meet every Thursday m Corv8Bis (7pm 1165 Monroe Ave 541 754-3906.) (7 /0 4 ) Outside In operates a clrac fo r anyone who can't qualify fa the Oregon Heeith Flan as well as needle exchange services that include those who inject hormones Can pro vide transitional housing for youth 20 and younger as wefl as fa those HIV+ and younger than 23 Needs volunteers o f a8 ages. (10am 6pm Monday Friday H 32 S W I3th Sunday 3915 SE Steele St 503-777 3901X 1/04) Eastern Oregon Center for Independent Living offers support and advocacy to gay, lesbian, bi. trans and questioning youth m Eastern Oregon (541-889 .3119 or 866248-8369 eocM hoclorg www eoc4.org ) (7/04) Send your Rainbow Youth is a safe, confidential support tjroup fo r young gay men. lesbians, bisexuals, transgender questioning and friends in Salem (6 6 pm Wednesday 690 State St. www.satemnMxwyouth org > <1/04) outreach listings to: just out attn Calendar) • PO. Box 14400 • Portland. OR 97293-0400 Fax submissions to 503-236-1257 or e-mail justout@justout.com Submissions cannot be accepted over the phone • Please type your announcements and include full contact information Love stinks So sick of men, I’ve gone limp hate men, can’t orgasm Men suck. I know— unless you’re alone and I am one. I’ve had four consider dating women mid-length relationships: even though you’re gay. John, who 1 cheated on Maybe you’ll find relentlessly, having long help with a good thera term affairs while drag pist. You may also need ging him along (four to make amends to your years); Michael, who was previous boyfriends, since my match— we lied and your guilt for how you cheated on each other behaved in the past still equally— and, yes, there affects you and may pre was overlap with John vent you from having a (seven years); Carl, a successful relationship. closet case (one year); and Joey. Do something to help yourself. By the time 1 got to Joey, 1 had You deserve better, even if you don’t examined my past and seen the believe it. behavior patterns, so I stopped cheat ing and lying. I vowed to “do it D e a r M s . B e h a v io r : right” this time. 1 would become the A lesbian co-worker of mine, boyfriend 1 always wanted. Ann, told me she’s getting married O f course, 1 should have also real next month and asked that 1 be sure ized that Joey’s frequent rehab trips to "tell my sister, Jane. A nn’s lover, might continue even though he was Gretchen, has been a colleague and clean when we met. I supported Joey mentor to my sister for several years. for 5 1/2 years. The last 2 1/2 we had Gretchen organized a baby shower no sex or intimacy. for my sister when she was pregnant. He actively used for 3 1/2 years of We all work for the same company. the relationship. 1 basically decided it Given the late notice and informal was my punishment for what 1 had ity of the notice, I’m not expecting done to others. We broke up a year either myself or my sister to he invited. and a halt ago when I finally decided 1 would like to let them know, how that being alone would be better ever, that Jane and 1 wish them well. than having the life sucked out of me 1 verbally congratu by an active addict. O f lated A nn when she course, he immediately told me about her plans H ere are got clean, got a good job hut was wondering if it m y issues would he appropriate for and is now dating a pro fessional architect. my sister and me to today: Here are my issues send them flowers. If so, tcxlay: Men SU C K . I M e n S U C K when should we send don’t want one. I hate them? If not, is there I don't them. 1 can’t even orgasm some other action you with a man any longer want one. would recommend? (though I have no prob — Trying to Do the Right I hate them. lem with masturbation) Thing and have considered dat ing women. I have no desire to he D e a r T r y in g t o D o t h e R ig h t alone for the rest of my life without a T h in g : partner, hut the thought of being with Don’t he thrown by the dyke a man— with all the lying, cheating, angle, dear Well-Meaning Straight selfish behavior-— holds no appeal Person; just treat Ann and either. 1 feel lost without a solution. Gretchen’s wedding the same way I am turning 40. 1 go to the gym, you’d treat anyone else’s. Sending I make gotxl money, 1 have a career flowers to someone who’s getting and investments. But I have lost married will never he a faux pas. If faith that there is someone out there you send rhem the day before, you’re for me. What do I do? more likely to catch them at home. — Terminally Unique There is one little Sapphic secret, though. For a lesbian betrothal, you D e a r T e r m in a l l y U n iq u e : must carefully choose flowers that You poor jaded little dear. look like lahia. G o to the florist with Not all men lie and cheat and do this goal in mind, and be sure to drugs behind your hack, hut it’s all choose something pretty. Bring a you know, and you’re afraid to hope compact mirror with you in case you for anything better. You’re in a nega need to surreptitiously step out into tive relationship pattern where some the parking lot to see if the flowers one has to be the betrayer and some you’ve chosen pass rhc test. J R one has to he the victim. You say that men suck and that you don’t © Meryl Cohn 2004 want one, hut then you complain that there’s no one out there for you. M e r y l C o h n is the author of Do Frankly, you sound like a bit t>f a What I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to mess behind your good-job, gym-hody Gay and Lesbian Etiquette exterior. Maybe you need to admit it (Houghton Mifflin). Signed copies are and ask for help instead of trying to available direcdy from the author. Send pretend you’re fine. It’s clear that your questions or correspondence to emotional life isn’t working since you msbehavior@aol. com. D e a r M s . B e h a v io r : 31
