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apri! 16.2004 - just out 35 ADVICE SPIRITUALITY Metro: Spirituality Ainsworth United Church of Christ is a m ulti racial, multicultural, open and affirm ing church Sunday worship is at 10 am; church school fo r children runs concurrently. (2941 NE Ainsworth St 503 284-8767 aucc@teleport com.) (7/04) Anawim Community of gay men meets weekly for Christian meditation and prayer (7 30 pm Thursday 503281 0722 7(7/04) Bridgeport United Church of Christ is a commu nity of progressive, political people explonng and cele brating the Chnstian faith We are sexual minonty and straight, multicultural and multiracial, and our children are valued members (10:30 am Sunday 621 NE 76th Ave. 503-258-0992 www bndgeportucc o rg ) (7/04) City Church Portland s "oldest gay-affirming Chnstian church, " offers a spirit-driven church for today's diverse generations. (10 am Sunday commu nion and worship service. 6 30 pm Sunday worship service 3830 SE 62nd Ave 503-775-50247 (7/04) Congregation P'nai Or (Faces of Light) is a vibrant, egalitarian. Jewish Renewal congregation in Portland Meets several times a month at Portland State University Campus Mmistnes. (PO Box 42187. Portland. OR 97242-0187 503-248 4500 www pnaiorpdx o rg ) (7/04) Eastrose Fellowship Unitarian Universalist a welcoming congregation, offers Sunday service and children's religious education. (10 30 am Sunday 1133 NE 181st Ave . Gresham 503-665-2628 eastrose&teteport com www eastrose o rg ) (7/04) Faith United Methodist Church s a welcoming com munity of Christians in Troutdale that values and encour ages all people in finding a place of belonging in the family of God. Sunday worship at 10; 15 am. Adult Education at 9 am; children and youth at 10 30 am. Wednesday Prayers 6-6:30 pm (27400 SE Stark St. 503-661-4520.H7/04) First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open and affirming liberal religious community offenng a wide range of programs to nurture spmtual growth, community and social justice. Sunday service 9 and 11 am. (1011 SW 12th Ave. 503-228-6389 wwwfirstumtananportlandorg.) (7/04) Gay and Lesbian Outreach (GALO) of St Philip Neri Catholic Church celebrates an affirm ing Mass fo l lowed by a social (7 3 0 pm Fnday Paulist Center. 2408S E 16thAve 503-231 4 9 5 5 ) (7/04) Gay Men's Labyrinth Project meets quarterly for a walking meditation and wisdom circle on the labyrinth. (www.gaylabynnth.com.) (7/04) Integrity is a group of sexual minonty Episcopalians and fnends. Vanous locations throughout Oregon (Bruce 503-286-9111 bnjcepdxonSattbi com. www.integntyusa.org.) (7/04) Interfaith Spiritual Center houses spintual direc tors from various world religious traditions, who are available for guidance, classes and retreats. (Second Floor. 3910 SE 11th Ave 503-233 2026. ext 3. www interfaithspintualcenter. com.7 (7/04) Metropolitan Community Church of Portland holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at 9 and 11 am Sunday school for children is held during the 11 am service (2400 NE Broadway 503 281-8868 mfo@mccportland com. www mccportland com 7(7/04) Nichiren Buddhist Temple of Portland >ffers several weekly gatherings Everyone welcome1 (10 am Sunday. 7 30 am Tuesday and Thursday 7 30 pm Wednesday meditation 2025 SE Yamhill St 503-232-8064 www mchiren-shu.org/portland 7 (7/04) Peace Church of the Brethren s a welcoming congregation. (11 am Sunday 12727 SE Market St 503 254-6380.7(7/04) Portland Center for Spiritual Growth is a centei for worship, growth and leadership that adheres to an all- mclusive spintual philosophy similar to 12-step, Unity and Religious Science Impromptu wedding ceremonies avail able (503-777-0727 wwwportlandcenterorg7(7/04) Portland Radical Faeries meet twice a month with potlucks and circles at the full moon and the new Want to get hitched? ultnomah County issues marriage licenses to all couples 8 am-4 45 pm weekdays in the Marriage License Unit of the M ultno mah Building. 501 SE Hawthorne Blvd., Port land. The application fee is $60 cash or certified check. Both parties must sign any marriage license, and you do not have to be an Oregon resident to obtain a license. Visit www.basicrights.org for suggested officiants (as well as up-to-the-minute info on the legality of your marriage in Oregon) Officiants may also be available at one o f the churches in the Just Out Spirituality section A list o f Multnomah County judges is available at the marriage license unit or at www.co. multnomah .or. us/dbcs/assess_tax/jud ges.pdf The fee fo r an in-chamber appointment is $25 M moon Open to all men seeking alternative spintual growth and community. Coffee hours start 9:30 am Saturdays at 3 Fnends Coffeehouse, 201 SE 12th Ave. (503-235-0826 otter@pcez.com) (7/04) Seventh-Day Adventist Kinship is a support organi zation for queer people, their families and fnends. (PO Box 7320. Laguna Niguel. CA 92607 7320 866732-5677. office@sdakmship.org. www.sdakinship.org.) (7/04) SisterSpirit offers women's spirituality celebrations, discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and classes Schedule of events available All women are welcome (Suite 102. 3430 SE Belmont St Mailing address: PO Box 9246. Portland. OR 97207. 503-736 3297 sistersp@teleport.com.)(7/04) Southminster Presbyterian Church is an active Keshet Portland is a potluck group fo r Jewish mem bers o f the sexual m inorities community and their part ners, spouses and supporters. Its purpose is to help build bndges with the larger Jewish community M onthly social, religious and cultural events (David or Laney 503-226-7079. ext 14)01/04) Koinonia Catholic Community r. a progressive, small faith community that gathers weekly to celebrate Euchanst at Bridgeport United Church of Christ A wel coming congregation, Catholic in tradition and Ecumenical in membership. (6 pm Sunday 621 NE 76th Ave 503-699-0473 w wwkomoniacommumty.org)(7/04) Longview United Methodist Church is welcom ing and reconciling (10 am Sunday 2851 30th Ave 360-425-4927.) U /0 4 ) member o f the Community of Welcoming Congregations. Sunday school and nursery care. Classes, community service activities and events for all ages and interests. (9-9 30 am Sunday chapel service. 10 am Sunday community worship service 12250 SW Denney Road, Beaverton 503-644 2073. staff@southmm com www southmm com.) (7/04) St. Andrew Catholic Church invites all to join a diverse faith community for prayer and fellowship (9 30 am Sunday 806 NE Alberta St 503-2814429.) (7/04) St. James Lutheran Church a Reconciled in Chnst congregation, welcomes all people for traditional, liturgical worship where we experience God's reconcil ing love that sets all people free. (9 and 11 am Sunday 1315 SW Park Ave 503-227-2439 www stiameslutheranportland o rg ) (7/04) Metanoia Peace Community United Methodist Church is a "house church" that bnngs gay and St. Stephen's Episcopal Church has been welcom straight together Daily morning prayer and Sunday evening worship (503-281-3697 www.tearsoupcom/metanoia) (7/04) ing aH people since 1863 (12 10 pm Wednesday and 745 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and child care at 10 am 1432 SW 13th Ave. 503 2236424 ) (7/04) YOUTH Metro: Youth Flavors, a social support group for sexual m inority youth o f color 21 and younger, meets on weekends for food and socializing. Regular events and activities Flavors is a project o f Love Makes a Family 's M ultiQueer program and is supported by Brother to Brother (Knsty 503 228 3892 multiqueer&lmfamiy org.) (7/04) The Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network (GLSEN) fights to end anti-gay bias m K-12 schools. (Suite 180. 12700 SW North Dakota St «129. Tigard. OR 97223 503-525-1177. glsenOgtsenoregon org www glsenoregon.org.) (7/04) MultiQueer a program o f Love Makes a Family, pro vides advocacy to sexual mwortty youth. O ffers re sources « id support in the communrty and the school systems, with a focus on support fo r queer and ques toning youth of color (Knsty 503-228-3892 multqueer@tmfamiiy.org.) (7/04) University Park United Methodist Church believes in giving to the community, canng for one another and making a difference one person at a time. Come celebrate God's diversity with us1 CIO am Sunday 4775 N Lombard St. The Rev Jeanme Knepper 503-289-7843) (7/04) Waverly Heights United Church of Christ is open and affirm ing with worship, children's school and child care. (10 am Sunday 3300 SE Woodward St. 503-238-1337 wwwwaverlyuccorg) (7/04) Wy'east Unitarian Universalist Congregation is an open and liberal religious community offenng inter- generational services and religious education for youth and adults We welcome gay. lesbian, bi and trans members and nurture spintual growth living by Unitarian Universalist principles. (4 pm Sunday 3915 SE Steele St. 503-777-3704 www wyeast.pnwd.uua org 7 (7/04) Zion United Church of Christ an open and affirming congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, bi, trans and heterosexual people who wish to worship in a Chnst-centered. warm, canng, m ultiage/race/cultural faith community ( I I am Sunday 2025 NE 23rd Ave , Gresham 503665-87417(7/04) Central Oregon: Spirituality United Church of Christ Congregational , an open and affirming congregation in The Dalles (9 2 0 am adult Sunday school, 10:30 am Sunday worship 111 EFifth St 541-296-2909 ucccongl@netcnct net www forministrycom/usomcofcucocc.) (7/04) Washington: Spirituality Abundant Life Center is A New Thought Com mumty for spintual awakening and transforming lives through love. A safe place where children learn to embody spiritual principles (10 am Sunday 10006 NE Ninth A v e . Vancouver The Rev Kathleen Vengm 360-573 2626 ) (7/04) East Vancouver United Methodist Church is reconciling and welcoming (10 am Sunday 5701 MacArthur Blvd 360-693 4 761.7(7/04) First Congregational Church United Church of Christ, holds services in an open and affirm ing congre gation. (10 am Sunday worship. 11:15 am adult educa tion 1220 NE 68th St.. Vancouver 360 693-1476 vanucc@aot.com.) (7/04) Metropolitan Community Church of the Gentle Shepherd in Vancouver welcomes you (10 30 am and 6 3 0 pm Sunday worship. 9 am Sunday Bible study. 2200 Broadway The Rev Hamel Barshofsky 360-695-1480) (7/04) Michael Servetus Unitarian Universalist Fellowship a Welcoming Congregation, provides a home for the liberal religious spirit (9:30 and I I 15 am Sunday 4505 E 18th S t , Vancouver 360-695-1891.) (7/04) Willamette Valley: Spirituality First Congregational Church United Church of Christ is an open and affirming congregation offenng worship and church school Child care provided and wheelchair accessible (9 3 0 am Sunday learning hour, 10 30 am worship 700 Marion St NE. Salem 503-363-3660) (7/04) Metropolitan Community Church Two Rivers is a Chnstian church with pnmary outreach in the sexual mmonties community (6 3 0 pm Sunday 1166 Oak St . Eugene.7 (7/04) Sexual Minority Youth Resource Center (SMYRC) a program of Cascade Behavioral Washington: Youth HeelthCare. offers support and recreation to gay. lesbian, tx » id trans youth 23 » id young«. Offers drop-in comput er access, pool tables and an informal place to hang out Weekly support meetings Includes Trans Youth Group » id the creative group Personal Deity Proxy. (4-8 pm Monday and Wednesday. 4 pm-midnight Friday and Saturday. 2100 SE Belmont S t 503-872-9664 TTY 503-231-9286 www smyrc.org. 7 O d e r programs include Clackamas Triple Point offers education, support and advocacy County Sexual Minority Youth Connection (COSMYO provides opportunities for que« and ques tioning youth ages 23 and young« to get together for free, fun and supportive social activities. Offers one-on- one support, referrals and mformatxxi on HIV and STD prevention and resources for adults who work with que« and questioning youth. (503-969-0060 cosmycyouth@yahoo.com 7 Pride Project bungs togeth er Washington County que« and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social events Also information, referrai and advocacy services in Washington County (Molly 503-260-5792 moSy@pndeproject org.) (7/04) Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can't qualify for the Oregon Health Pten as we8 as needle exchange sendees that include those who n je ct hor mones. Can provide transitional housing fo r youth 20 and younger as w e l as for those HIV+ and younger than 23 Needs volunteers of all ages (10 atn-6 pm Monday-Fnday. 1132 SW 13th Ave 503-535 3800 wwwoutsideln.org.) (7/0 4 ) Trinity Episcopal Cathedral i welcoming and affirm ing congregation, invites all to worship services and ongoing programs in spintual development, com munity outreach, music and arts education (8 am Sunday Rite I chapel service 10 am Sunday Rite II cathedral service 147 NW 19th Ave 503-478-1218 www tnnity-episcopal.org7 (7/04) Eastern Oregon: Youth Eastern Oregon Center for Independent Living offers support and advocacy to gay. lesbian, bi. trans and questioning youth in Eastern Oregon (541-889-3119 o r 866248-8369. eocit@eoci org. w w w eoai org. 7 (7/0 4 ) to gay, lesbian, bi, trans and questioning youth in Vancouver, Wash Meets 6-8 pm Tuesdays in the base ment o f Youth House, 1112 Columbia St. in Vancouver. (John 360-695-1325 ) 0 /0 4 ) Willamette Valley: Youth Gay, Lesbian, Bi, Transgander and Questioning Youth Group forages 13 to 18 offers support, information and fun in Eugene Free, confiden tial, adult facilitated (Drop m 4-6 pm Fnday Amazon Community Center. 2700 Htfyard St 541 684 3466 ) (7/04) Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender Youth Group for ages 25 and young« meets every Monday m Eugene. <5 pm. Komonia Center. 1414 Kincaid St 541 346 1134 7 (7/04) Out V About Youth meet every Thursday m Corvafts (7p m 1165 Monroe Ave 541-754-3906.7 (7/04) Rainbow Youth is a safe confidential support group fo r young gay men. lesbians, bisexuals, transgend«. questioning and friends (6-8 pm Wednesday Micha BtßkDnq 690 State S t. Säern www satemrambowyouth org 7 (7/04) Without the one Please love me. Please, please, please, please, please. D ear M s . B ehavior : After running into an incredibly hot “straight” friend from college at a gay bar, we began to date. I’d had a crush on rhis hoy for three years. 1 always knew this guy was nice and oh-so-hot, hut he totally surprised me with his funny, kind, sweet, thoughtful, open, mature, dedicated, sexy self. (Yes, he’s Mr. Perfect.) About three weeks ago, four months after we started dating, he ended our relationship, saying we were at different places in our lives, etc. He is still my best guy friend, and we continue to spend time together, talk every day and joke about the same things we used to. We tell each other we miss each other, and he still apologizes for end ing our relationship hut fears if we get hack into it, it will go the same direc tion it did before. Ms. Behavior, my life is empty without this guy. Not being the drama hoy so many guys in their early 20s are, I’m not about to crawl back to him crying and begging for him to take me hack; I’m stronger than that. However, 1 want him hack very badly— I don’t feel like I am ever going to want to date again because no one will compare to him. How do 1 go about getting Eack the hoy 1 lost, who still has a thing for me deep down, with out coming off as a desperate loser? — Without the One for you. If not, maybe hearing the specifics will help you accept ir and move on, rather than hanging around hoping that he’ll change his mind. D ear M s . B ehavior : Ever since 1 was a lit tle hoy, I’ve dreamed of getting married. Before I came out to myself, 1 dreamed of marrying a woman. And years before I thought gay marriage would ever he possible, I dreamed about marrying a man. With all the talk about gay mar riage this and gay marriage that, it has me wondering where my Prince Charming is. Lately, when I go on dates, I spend less time trying to figure out if this guy is fun to he with and more time trying to figure out if he’s marriage material. With gay marriage rights in sight, why waste my time any longer? Before, it was OK to mess around with relationships because, hey, it’s not like I could get married anyway. But now, the race is on, and I want to cross the finish line with a gix>d- lix)king, stable guy on my arm. Unfortunately, no guys I’ve dated seem to fit the hill. Should I keep dat ing them anyway or f(x:us my energy on searching for Mr. Right? — Marriage Minded How do I go about getting back the boy I lost, who still has a thing for me, without coming off as a desperate loser? D ear W ithout the O ne : It sounds like you didn’t know what Mr. Perfect meant when he said that you and he were at “different places” in your lives. This could mean almost any thing— from “ I’m not really queer; I just had a dick-sucking slip, and I’m going to date women now” to “ 1 have a job, and you don’t” to “You’re a great guy, hut I don’t feel that special something that makes me want to hump you” or “You have had breath; please stop breath ing in my face.” Don’t you think you need more specific information before deciding if you should try to win him back? The sad tmrh, which is perhaps unimaginable to you, is that your Mr. Perfect may not see you as his perfect match. If you feel compelled to know, ask him to tell you what he meant when he said you were at different places in your lives. If it’s something you can fix (like, say, halitosis), well then, gixxl D ear M arriage M inded : Ease up, Missy, and stop conducting your dares like job interviews. Finding the right person is no harder or easier than it was before; rhe only difference is your sense of urgency. If you apply so much pres sure to your dates, how do you expect to relax and have a gtxxd time? It sounds like the intensity of your search for “Mr. Right” would interfere with your ability to recog nize him even if he were sitting right on your face. Regardless, rake comfort in this: If you’re only kxiking for a “gtxxl- looking, stable guy,” your ixlds are better rhan those who are seeking, say, a smart, funny, wealthy, well- endowed top with a nice collection of Prada shoes. jn © Meryl Cohn 2004 MERYL C ohn is the author of Do What I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay and Lesbian Etiquette (Houghton Mifflin). Signed copies are available direedy from the author. Send questions or correspondence to msbehavior@aol. com.
