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march 5. 2004 » ADVICE ................ ¥ ................. SPIRITUALI T Y Metro: Spirituality Ain«worth United Church of Christ is a multi University Park United Mathodiat Church Euchanst at Bridgeport United C hurch of C h n st A w elcom ing congregation. Cathokc m tradition and believes m gwm g to the community, caring for one Ecum enical m m em bership (6 pm Sunday 621 N E 76th another and m aking a difference one person at a time Ave 503-6990473 wwwkomomacommuntyorg.) C om e celebrate G o d 's dw ersity with us! (10 am (7/04) Sunday 4775 N Lombard S t The Rev Jeanne Knepper 5 0 3 2 8 9 7 8 4 3 ) (7/04) racial. multicultural, open and affirm ing church Su n day Longviaw United Mathodiat Church is w elcom w orship is at 10 am. church school for children runs ing and reconaling (10 am Sunday 2851 30th Ave Mfaverty Heights United Church of Christ is concurrently (2941 N E Ainsworth St 503 284 8767 auccQteleport com ) (7/04) 360425-4927 ) (7/04) open and affirming with w orship, children's school and child care (10 am Sunday 3300 S E Woodward St. 503-2381337 www wavedyucc org.) (7/04) Anawrim Community of gay men m eets w eekly for Motenoia Poaca Community United Mathodiat Church is a ‘ house ch u rch ' that b o n gs gay and Chnstian meditation and prayer. (7 30 pm Thursday 503-281-0722.) (7/04) straight together Daily m orning prayer and Sunday Wy'eest Unitarian Universalist Congregation evening w orship (503 281 3697 is an open and kberal rekgw us com m unity offenng inter www tearsoup.com/metanoia) 0/ 04 ) generational services and religious education for youth Metropolitan Community Church of Portland and adults. W e welcom e gay. lesbian, bi and trans m em bers and nurture spmtual growth Irving by Unitarian Bridgeport United Church of Christ is a com munity of progressive, political people exploring and celebrating the Chnstian faith W e are sexual mmonty holds ecum enical Sunday m orning w o rsh p services at and straight, multicultural and multiracial, and our cM - 9 and 11 am. Su n day school for children is held during dren are valued m em bers. (1 0 3 0 am Sunday 621 N E the 11 am service (2400 N E Broadway. 503 2 8 1 8 8 6 8 76th Ave 503-258-0992 www.bndgeportucc org.) mfoQmccportland.com www mccportbnd.com.) (7/04) (7/04) Nichiran Buddhiat Temple of Portland offers City Church. Portland's 'o ld e st gay-affirm ing several w eekly gatherings Everyone welcom e! (10 am Chnstian ch u rch ,' offers a spm t-dnven church for Sunday. 7 30 am Tuesday and Thursday 7:30 pm W ednesday meditation 2025 S E Yamhill St. 503-2328064 www mchiren-shu.org/portland) 0 /04) today's diverse generations (10 am Sunday commu nion and worship service. 6 3 0 pm Sunday worship service 3830 S E 62nd A ve 503 775-5024.) (7/04) congregation. (11 am Sunday 12727 S E Market St. egalitarian. Jew ish Renew al congregation in Portland 503 2 5 4 -6 3 8 0 )0 / 0 4 ) U niversity C am pus M inistries. (PO Box 42187, Portland. O R 97242-0187 503 248 4500 wvwv pnatorpdx org ) (7/04) Eastrose Fellowship Unitarian Universalist. a w elcom ing congregation, offers Su n d ay service and children's religious education. (10.30 am Sunday. 1133 N E 181st Ave.. Gresham. 5 0 3 6 6 5 2628 eastroseOteteport com. www.eastrose.org.)(T704) St. 503-777-3704 www w yeastpnw duuaorg .7(7/04) Zion United Church of Christ. an open and affirming congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, bi. trans and heterosexual people w ho w ish to w orship m a Chnst-centered. warm, caring, multiage/race/cuftural faith community. ( I I am Sunday 2025 N E 23rd Ave., Gresham 5 0 3 6 6 5 -8 7 4 1 ) (7/04) Peace Church of the Brethren is a w elcom ing Congregation P'nai O r (Faces of Light) is a vibrant, M e e ts several tim es a m onth at Portland State Universalist principles (4 pm Sunday 3915 S E Steele Central Oregon: Spirituality Portland Canter for Spiritual Growth is a center United Church of Christ Congregational is an for w orship, grow th and leadership that adheres to an open and affirming congregation m The D alles (9.20 am all inclusive spm tual philosophy sim ilar to 12-step. adult Sunday school. 1030 am Sunday worship 111 EFifth St 541 2 9 6 2 9 0 9 ucccoriglQnetcnct net www form nstrycom /usorucofcucocc.) (7/04) Unity and R eligious Science. (503-777-0727. w ww portlandcenter org ) ( 7/04) Portland Radical Faeriea meet twice a month with potlucks and circles at the full m oon and the new m oon O pen to all men seeking alternative spiritual grow th and community. Coffee hours start 9 30 am Washington: Spirituality Faith United Methodist Church is a w elcom ing Satu rdays at 3 Fnends Coffeehouse, 201 S E 12th A ve Abundant Ufa Canter is A N ew Thought com m unity of C h n stian s in Troutdale that values and (503-235-0826 otterQpcez com.) 0/ 04 ) Com m unity for spmtual aw akening and transform ing Seventh-Day Adventist Kinship is a support lives through love. A safe place w here children learn to organization for queer people, their fam ilies and friends em body spiritual pnncples. (10 am Sunday 10006 N E encourages all people in finding a place of belonging in the family o f G od. Su n day w orship at 10:15 am; Adult Education at 9 am; children and youth at 10:30 am W ednesday Prayers 6-6 3 0 pm. (27400 S E Stadi St. 50 3-661 -4 52 0)0 /0 4) First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open and affirming liberal religious com m unity offenng a wide range o f program s to nurture spiritual growth, com m uni ty and social |ustice Su n d ay service 9 and 11 am (1011 S W 12th Ave. 50 3228-6389 www hrstumtananportland.org.) (7/04) (PO Box 7320. Laguna Niguel. C A 92607-7320 866-732-5677 officeQsdakinshporg www sdakmship org.) 0/04) N en Catholic C hurch celebrates an affirm ing M a s s fol lowed by a social (7 3 0 pm Friday Paulist Center. reconciling and welcom ing. (10 am Sunday tions. d isc u ssio n grou ps, a drum m ing circle, w ork 5701 MacArthur Blvd. 360693-4761.HT 104) sh o p s and c la sse s. Sch e d u le of e ve n ts available All First Congregational Church. United C hurch of w om en are w elcom e (Suite 102. 3 4 3 0 S E Belmont Chnst. holds services in an open and affirming congre gation. ( 10 am Sunday worshp. 11 15 am adult educa (7/04) Southm inster Presbyterian Church is an active m em ber o f the C om m unity o f W e lcom in g 2408 S E 16th A ve 503-231-4955 )0 / 0 4 ) C o n g re g a tio n s S u n d a y sch o o l and n u rse ry care Gay M en's Labyrinth Project m eets quarterly for C la s s e s, com m unity se rv ice activities and e ve n ts for a w alking meditation and w isdom circle on the labyrinth all a g e s and in te re sts (9-9:30 am Su n d ay chapel (www gaylabynnth.com.) 0 / 0 4 ) service. 10 am Sunday com m unity worship se rvice 12250 S W D enney Road. Beaverton 503-644-2073. staffQsouthm m .com w w w southm in.com .) 0 / 0 4 ) Integrity is a group of sexual m inonty Episcopalians and friends Various locations throughout O regon (Bruce 503-286-9111. brvcepdxorQattbi com. www mtegntyusa org. ) 0 / 0 4 ) East Vancouvsr United Mathodiat Church is Siste rSp irit o ffe rs w o m e n 's spirituality celebra St. Mailing address P O Box 9246. Portland. O R 97207. 503-736-3297 sistersp Q telep ct com .) Gay and Lesbian Outreach (GALO ) of S t Philip Ninth A v e . Vancouver The Rev Kathleen Vengm 360-573 2626 ) ( 7/04) tion. 1220 N E 68th St.. Vancouver 3 6 0 6 9 3 1 4 7 6 vanuccQaol.com.) (7/04) Metropolitan Community Church of tha Gantia Shepherd in Vancouver w elcom es you (10:30 am and 6 30 pm Sunday worshp. 9 am Sunday Bible study 2200 Broadway The Rev. Harriet Barshofsky 3 6 0 6 9 5 1480) (7/04) ■ 1 1 - 1 ------- * » ----------- a | n i » > r t - n I I - 1 -------------- l i - a fsifcnflci D v fw iu s I un oan an un ivw M iifi Fellowship a Welcoming Congregatxm. provides a hom e' for the liberal refcglous spirit (9 3 0 and 11:15 am Sunday 4505 E 18th St . Vancouver 36 06 95 189 1)1 7/04) St. Andrew Catholic Church invites all to join a Interfaith Spiritual Center h o u se s spiritual direc tors from va nous w orld rekgxxis traditions, w ho are available for guidance, c la sse s and retreats (Second Floor. 3910 S E 11th Ave 503-233 2026. ext. 3. www mterfaithspmtualcenter com.) 0/ 04 ) diverse faith com m unity for prayer and fellow ship (9 30 am Sunday 806 N E Alberta St. 503 2 8 1 4 4 2 9 ) (7/04) Willamette Valley: Spirituality St. James Lutheran Church a Reconciled m Keshet Portland is a potluck group for Je w ish mem bers of the sexual m m onties com m unity and their part ners. sp o u se s and supporters Its purpose is to help build bridges with the larger Jew ish com m unity C h n st congregation, w elcom es all people for traditional, First Congregational Church. United C hurch of C hrist Is an open and affirming congregation offenng liturgical w orship w here w e experience G o d 's reconcil ing love that se ts all people free (9 and I I am Sunday w orship and church school. Chiid care provided and 1315 S W Park Ave 503-227 2439 www st/ameslutheranportland org.) ( 7/04) M onthly social, religw us and cultural events. (David or S t Stephen's Episcopal Church has been wetcom- Laney 503 226-7079. ext 14.) ( 7/04) n g all people since 1863 (12:10 pm Wednesday and Koinonia Catholic Community is a progressive, 7 45 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and child care at 10 am 1432 S W 13th Ave 503-223-6424 )0 / 0 4 ) sm al faith community that gathers weekly to celebrate (S M Y R O a program of C ascade Behavioral Metro: Youth i. s social support group for sexual minority youth of color 21 and younger, meets on weekends for food and socializing Regular events and activities Flavors Is a project of Love M akes a FamSy 's MultiQueer program and is supported by Brother to Brother. (Jaye 503-228-3892. jayeQkrim nly.org ) 07 04 ) HeeithCare. offers support and recreation to gey. les bian. bi and trans youth 23 and younger. Offers drop-in computer access, pool tables and an informal place to hang out. W eekly support meetings includes Trans Youth Group and the creative group Personal Deity Proxy. ( 4 6 pm M onday and Wednesday. 4 pm-rmdnight Friday and Saturday. 2100 S E Belmont St. 503872-9664. TTY503-231-9286isw w sm yrc.org.) Other programs indude: Cheka— a C ounty The Gay, Lesbian i 8*a«d Minority Youth Cowmctiow (COSMYC3 Mstssorfc (GLSEN) fights to end anti-gey bias si K-12 provides opportunities for queer and oueshorang youth ages 23 and younger to get together for free, fun and supportive social activities Offers one-on-one support referrals and Information on Hh/and ST D prevention and resources for adults vrfio work with queer and questioning youth (5 0 3 9 6 9 0 0 6 0 cosm ycyouthQyahoo com.) P rid e Project brings together W ashington County queer and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social events. Also Information, referral and advocacy services in W ashington County. (M o*y 50 3-2606792 moiyQpridtproject.org) (7/04) schools. (Strife 180. 12700 S W North Dakota St *129. Tigard. O R 97223. 503625-1177. glsenQglsenoregon.org. www.glsenoregon o rg ) (7/04) . a program of Lore M akes a Famiy. pro vides advocacy to sexual minonty youth Offers resources and support in the community and the school system s, with a focus on support for queer and ques tioning youth of color. (Jaye 50 3 2 2 8 3 8 9 2 . jayeQ M am ilyorg.) (7/04) Outside In operates a d ra c for anyone who can’t qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as we* as needte exchange services that include those who inject hor mones Can provide transitional housing for youth 20 and younger as we* as for those H h A and younger than 23. Needs volunteers of all ages (1 0 a m 6 p m Monday-Fnday 1132 S W 13th A ve 503535-3800. www.outsider org.H 7/04) Eastern Oregon: Youth i Oregon C in tif for Living offers support and advocacy to gay. trans and questioning youth In Eastern Oregon Send your w heelchair accessible (9 3 0 am Sunday learning hour. 10.30 am w orshp 700 Manon St. NE. Salem 503-3633660 H T /04) Metropolitan Community Church Two Rivers is a Christian church with pnm ary outreach m the sexual m m onties com m unity (6 3 0 pm Sunday 1166 Oak St., Eugene) (7/04) (541889-3119 or 866248-8369. eodQ eoci.org. w w w .ood.org.)n/04) Washington: Youth Triple Paint offers education, support and advocacy to gay. lesbian, bi. trans and questioning youth n Vancouver. W ash M eets 641 pm Tuesdays in the beae- ment of Youth House. 1112 Columbia St. In Vancouver. (John 3 8 0 6 9 5 1 3 2 5 .) (7/04) Willamette Valley: Youth Catty« Lfetbittit, 1 Youth Group for ages 13 to 18 offers support, mferm- ation and fen in Eugene. Free. confidential. adult- fadktated. (Drop n 4 6 pm Friday. Ameton Community Center. 2700 HUyard St. 54 16 84 -34 66 )0/ 04 ) Lfithliw. Catty« Bfoftxua!,____ __ __ _____ Group for ages 25 and younger meets every Monday in Eugene (5 pm. Komonia Center. 1414 Kincaid S t 5 4 1 -3 4 6 1 1 3 4 )0 / 0 4 ) Rainbow Youth is a safe, confidential support group for young gay men. lesbians, bisexuals, trensgender. questioning and friends (6 8 pm W ednesday. M icha Bwktng. 69 0 State St.. Salem www.aatemraidbowyouth.org) (7/04) outreach listings to ju s t o u t [attn Calendar) • PO Box 144( Fax submissions, to 5 0 3 -2 3 6 -1 2 5 7 e • Portland OR 97292 0400 justout@ justout.com The scarlet letter When your fag hag’s husband cheats (or when you do) D ear M s . B ehavio r : Besides, keeping your My boyfriend, Paul, “romantic detour" with and I are delighted by the David a secret would only Massachusetts gay mar put a wedge between you riage decision and have and Paul, possibly wreck been excitedly planning ing your chances for a our June wedding in happy gay marriage. Provincetown. Well-meaning friends Paul and 1 have been may advise you just to cut together for four years, off from David and not and its never entered my M s. Behavior mention anything to Paul, mind to cheat on him. with the hope of sparing by Meryl Cohn Until recently. Paul’s feelings. But the intensity of the attraction you I’d gone out to a club after work with some friends who were talking describe isn’t likely just to go away on its own. and laughing with a man named David. It was crowded, and David and Start by telling Paul the truth. I ended up sharing a barstool. There Keep in mind that while was an immediate magnetic attrac Massachusetts may allow you to marry tion, and we stayed there chatting Paul, it doesn’t mean you have to do after our friends had dispersed. it. You do, however, need to be hon est with him. Eventually we ended up in the hallway making out. I managed to P.S. In the future, if all the pull myself away somehow and went barstools are occupied, try standing home to Paul, who, thankfully, was instead of sharing. asleep. Since then David and I have e-mailed each other 50 times a day, D ear M s . B eh a vio r : and he leaves messages for me on my On a recent trip to New York, I work voice mail. was all excited to hit the bars! Before I love Paul and want to marry my suitcase touched the hotel room him, hut I’m afraid of what this sud floor, I was dressed and ready to go den romantic detour might mean. Is out and be with the hot N Y C boys. this just a reaction W ell...as soon as to being about to I walked through the declare my love door of the first bar, and fidelity to Paul I saw my friend’s in front of our hubby loitering friends and family? around looking for Is it some sort of trade! The problem innate desire to is, I am certain my have one last friend Marsha has fling” before tying no idea that her hus the knot? band is cheating on Or is this a sign her— let alone with that Paul and I the gay boys! shouldn’t he enter My friend Jasper ing into a legal told me I should tell commitment to Marsha; after all, she each other when is my No. 1 fag hag. I’m not absolutely But I’m afraid to be sure o f my feelings the bearer of hurtful for someone else? If so, I think I news. So, Ms. B, it’s on you...what should call the wedding off now. I should I do? have visions o f my wedding turning — Lost in the Sauce into some kind of tawdry B movie scene with my true love bursting in D ear L o st in the S a u ce : just as we are about to say “I do” If you’re sure that Marsha’s hus and my running down Commercial band was indeed cruising (and not Street in a wedding dress. just, say, looking for cute men to cast — I Do, Don't 1 ? in a movie or peddling methampheta- mine to underage hustlers), then you D ear I Do, D o n ’ t I?: should inform her. Whoa, boy. It’s probably no coin Yes, Marsha might he mad at you cidence that your first little extra for bringing this little secret to her marital make-out session happened attention. But she’d he way more right after you planned your wedding. pissed if she found out that you Unfortunately, you now need to do knew her husband was out sucking the most unappealing thing you can dick and that you didn’t bother to possibly imagine: Tell Paul about your mention it. j n marriage anxiety and about your feel ings for David (including the tongue © Meryl Cohn 2004 insertion). Although you’re clearly tempted MERYL C o hn is the author of Do What to sort out your feelings on your own, I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay include Paul in the process; he proba and Lesbian Etiquette (Houghton bly has some clues about what’s hap Mifflm). Signed copies are available pening between the two of you lately directly from the author. Send questions or and about what makes you feel afraid. correspondence to msbehaviaifjiaol.com I have visions o f m y wedding turning Into some kind of taw dry B movie scene with m y true love bursting In ju st as we are about to say “I d o ” 33
