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January 22. 2004 • J n t M A 33 ADVICE ................ ¥ ................. Koinonia Catholic Community is a progressive, St. Stephen's Episcopal Church has been wel sm all faith com m unity that gathers w eekly to celebrate com ing a l people since 1863 (12 10 pm W ednesday Metro: Spirituality Euchanst at Bridgeport United C hurch of C h n st A w el com ing congregation. Catholic m tradition and and 7 4 5 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and child care at 10 am. 1432 S W 13th Ave 503-2236424 ) Ainsworth United Church of Christ is a multi Ecum enical m m em bership (6 pm Sunday 621 N E 76th A ve 503-699-0473. www komomacommumtyorg ) (7/04) S P I R I T U A L I T Y racial, multicultural, open and affirm ing church. Sunday w orship is at 10 am; church sch o o l for children runs (7/04) believes in giving to the community, caring for one concurrently. (2941 N E Ainsworth St 503-284-8767. Longview United Methodist Church is w elcom another and m aking a difference one person at a time. aucc0teleport co m ) (7/04) ing and reconciling. (10 am Sunday 2851 30th Ave C o m e celebrate G o d 's diversity with us! (10 am 360-425-4927) (7104) Sunday 4775 N Lombard St. The Rev Jeannie Knepper 503 289- 7 8 4 3 ) (7/04) Anawim Community of gay m en m eets w eekly for Christian m editation and prayer (7 30 pm Thursday 503-281-0722.) (7/04) Bridgeport United Church of Christ is a com m u nity of progressive, political people exploring and cele brating the Christian faith W e are sexual m inonty and straight, multicultural and multiracial, and our children are valued m em bers. (10:30 am Sunday. 621 N E 76th Ave 503-258-0992 www bndgeportucc.org ) (7/04) Ths City Church. Portland's "o ld e st gay-affirm ing Chnstian church," offers a spint-driven church for today's diverse generations (W arn Sunday commu nion and worship service, 6.30 pm Sunday worship service. 3830 S E 62nd A ve 503- 775-5024 ) (7/04) Congregation P'nai Or (Faces o f Light) is a vibrant, egalitarian, Je w ish Renew al congregation in Portland M e e ts several tim es a m onth at Portland State Meta no la Peace Community United Methodist Church is a "h o u se church" that bn n gs gay and Waveriy Heights U C C is open and affirm ing with straight together D aily m orning prayer and Sunday w orship, children's school and child care. (10 am evening w orship. (503-281-3697. www tearsoup.com/metanoia ) (7/04) Sunday 3300 S E Woodward St 503-238 1337 www wavertyucc org.) (7/04) M etropolitan Com m unity Church of Portland h o ld s ecum enical S u n d a y m orning w or is an open and liberal religious com m unity offenng mter- sh ip se rv ic e s at 9 and 11 am. S u n d a y sch o o l for chil generational se rvice s and religious education for youth dren is held during the 11 am service. (2400 N E and adults W e w elcom e gay. lesbian, bi and trans m em bers and nurture spintual growth living by Unitarian Broadw ay 503-281-8868 info0m ccportland com. w w w mccportland. com . ) (7/04) The Nichiren Buddhist Temple of Portland Wy'east Unitarian Universalist Congregation Universalist pnnciples (4 pm Sunday 3915 S E Steele St 503-777-3704 w ww wyeastpnwduua org.) (7/04) offers several w eekly gathenngs Everyone welcom e! Zion United Church of Christ, an open and (10 am Sunday. 7.30 am Tuesday and Thursday 7 3 0 pm W ednesday meditation 2025 S E Yamhill St. 503-232-8064 www nichiren shu org/portland ) (7/04) affirming congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, b*. trans U niversity C am p u s M inistries. (PO Box 42187, Northwest Two-Spirit Society of Portland wel Portland. O R 97242-0187 503-248-4500 www pnaiorpdx.org.) (7/04) com es new m em bers from the native queer (Tw o-Spint) and heterosexual people w ho w ish to w orship in a Christ-centered, warm, canng. m ultiage/race/cultural faith com m unity ( I I am Sunday 2025 N E 23rd A v e . Gresham 503 665 8 7 4 1 ) (7/04) com m unity to join our council and organize o r attend Eastrose Fellowship Unitarian U niversalis! a w elcom ing congregation, offers Su n d ay service and m onthly m eetings (Amanda 503-869-0076. thesebratdsQgo co m ) (7/04) children's religious education. (10:30 am Sunday Peace Church of the Brethren is a w elcom ing 1133 N E 181st A ve , Gresham. 503-665 2628 eastroseQteleport.com www.eastrose.org.) (7 /04) congregation. (1 1 am Sunday 12727 S E Market St. Faith United Methodist Church is a w elcom ing Portland Center for Spiritual Growth is a center com m unity of C hristians in Troutdale that values and encourages all people in finding a place of belonging in for w orship, grow th and leadership that adheres to an the family of G od. Su n d ay w orship at 10:15 am; Adult and R eligious Science. (5 03-777-0727 wwwportlandcenterorg.) (7/04) Education at 9 am; children and youth at 10:30 am W ednesday Prayers 6-6 30 pm. (27400 S E Stark St. 503-661-4520.) (7704) 503 25 4-638 0) (7/04) Central Oregon: Spirituality United Church of Christ Congregational is an open and affirming congregation m The Dalles (9 20 am adult Sunday school. 1030 am Sunday worshp H I E Fifth St. 541 29 62 90 9 ucccongl0netcnct.net. www formmstry com /usorucofcucocc ) (7/04) all-inclusive spiritual philosophy sim ilar to 12-step. Unity Portland Radical Faeries meet twice a month with Washington: Spirituality Abundant Life Center is A N ew Thought First Unitarian Church o f Portland is an open and potlucks and circles at the full m oon and the new moon. O pen to all m en seeking alternative spintual affirming liberal religious com m unity offering a wide grow th and community. C offe e hours start 9:30 am lives through love A safe place w here children learn to range of program s to nurture spm tual growth, com m uni Saturdays at 3 Fnends Coffeehouse. 201 S E 12th Ave. em body spintual principles (10 am Sunday. 10006 N E ty and social justice. Su n d ay service 9 and 11 am (503 235-0826 otter0pcet.com .)(7/04) (1 011 S W 12th Ave. 5032 28 -63 89 www.hrstunitananportland.org.) (7/04) Seventh-Day Adventist Kinship is a support Ninth A v e . Vancouver The Rev Kathleen Verigin 360-573-2626.) (7/04) Com m unity for spintual aw akening and transform ing organization for queer people, th a r fam ilies and fnends East Vancouver United Methodist Church is (P O Box 7320. Laguna Niguel. C A 92607-7320 8667 32 -56 77 office0sdakinshiporg. www sdakinship.org.) (7/04) reconciling and w elcom ing. (10 am Sunday 5701 MacArthur Bhrd. 3 6 6 6 9 3 4 7 6 1 ) (7/04) SisterSpirit offers w om en's spirituality celebrations, Christ, holds se rvice s m an open and affirming congre Gay M en's Labyrinth Project m eets quarterly for a walking m editation and w isdom circle on the labyrinth. d iscu ssio n groups, a drum m ing circle, w orksh o p s and gation (10 am Sunday worship. 11:15 am adult educa c la sse s Schedule of events available All w om en are (wwwgaylabynnthcom.) (7/04) w elcom e (Suite 102. 3430 S E Belmont St Mailing tion. 1220 N E 68th St.. Vancouver 360-693 1476. vanucc0aol co m ) (7/04) Gay M en's Spirit Group is open to all m en expen- address P O Box 9246. Portland. O R 97207 503 73 63 29 7 sistersp§teleport com.) (7/04) Gay and Lesbian Outreach (G A LO ) of S t Philip Neri Catholic C hurch celebrates an affirm ing M a s s fol lowed by a social (7 3 0 pm Friday. Pauhst Center, 2 4 0 8 S E 16th Ave. 503-23 (-4 9 5 5 7 (7 / 0 4 ) enced or interested m alternative spintual practices such a s N ew Age. sham anism , meditation, Southm inster Presbyterian Church is an active psychic/intuitive, energy w ork and healing. (503-230- 7 9 4 9 ) (7/04) m em ber o f the Com m unity of W elcom ing C on gre gation s Su n day school and nursery care Integrity is a group of sexual m inority Episcopalians and friends V arious locations throughout O regon. (Bruce 5 03 2 8 6 9 1 11 brucepdxorOatttx com. Interfaith Spiritual Center h o u se s spintual direc tors from various w orld rekgrous traditions, w ho are available for guidance, c la sse s and retreats (Second Floor. 3910 S E 11th Ave 5 0 3 2 3 3 2 0 2 6 . ext 3 wwwmterfaithspintualcenter.com.) (7/04) Keehet Portland is a potluck group for Jew ish mem bers of the sexual m inorities com m unity and their part ners. sp o u se s and supporters Its purpose is to help build bnd ges with the larger Jew ish community. M onthly social, religious and cultural events. (David or Laney 503 226 7079. ext. 14.) (7/04) Y C)L I H First Congregational Church. United C hurch of Metropolitan Community Church of the Gentle Shepherd in Vancouver w elcom es you. (10:30 am and 6 30 pm Sunday worship. 9 am Sunday Bible study 2200 Broadway The Rev Harriet Barshofsky 360 695 1480.) (7/04) Michael Servetus Unitarian Universalist Fellowship, a W elcom ing Congregation, provides a hom e for the liberal rekgw us spint. (9.30 and 11:15 am Sunday 4505 E 18th St.. Vancouver 360-6961891.) (7/04) St. Andrew Catholic Church invites all to join a diverse faith com m unity for jyayer and fellow ship (9 3 0 am Sunday 806 N E Alberta St. 503 2 8 1 4 4 2 9 ) (7/04) Willamette Valley: Spirituality St. James Lutheran Church a Reconcfed in C hnst First Congregational Church United Church of Christ is an open and affirming congregation offenng worship and church school. C M d care provided and wheelchair accessible (9 3 0 am Sunday learning hour. 10 30 am worship 700 M anor St NE. Salem 503 363 3660 ) (7/04) congregation, w elcom es a l people for traditional, kturgeal w orsh p where we experience G o d 's reconcikng love that se ts a l people free (9 and 11 am Sunday 1315 S W Park Ave 503 2 2 72 43 9 www st/ameslutheranportland org.) (7/04) of C a sc a d e a pro Behavioral HealthCare. offers sup (541-8893119 or 8662468389. eoc40eoc4.org www.eoal.org.) (7/04) port and recreation to gay. lesban. bi and trans youth 23 and younger. O ffers drop-in com puter access, pool tables and an informal place to hang out. W eekly su p , a social support group for sexual m nority youth of color 21 and younger, m eets on w eekends for food and soaakong. Regular events and aetMbee. Flavors « a protect of Love M ake s a Fam ly's MultiQueer program and la supported by Brother to (Jaye 503-2263892 pye0tmfan4y.org.) (7/04) Gay, I Network (G LSEN ) fights to end anti-gay bias in K-12 The (12700 SW North Dakota St.. Sake 180. «129. Tigard. OR 97223. 503-5261177. glsen0gl9enorBgon.org wwwglaanoregonorg) (7/04) schools. Muttf Queer a program of Love M ake s a Family, pro vides advocacy to sexual mmorfty youth O ffers resources and support In the community and the school system s, with a focus on support for queer and qu es tioning youth of color a g e s and interests. (9 -9 30 am Sunday chapel service. gram M etro: Youth Brother C la sse s, com m unity service activities and events for aH 10 am Sunday community worship service 12250 S W Denney Road. Beaverton 503-644 2073 staff0southmm com. www southmin.com.) (7/04) www integntyusaorg.) (7/04) (Jaye 503-2283892. port m eetings includes Trans Youth Group and the cre (4-8 pm Monday and weonesoay, 4 pfThfryofygnt rnoay ana omuraay. 2100 SE Belmont St 503872-9664 TTY 503-231 -9286 www.smyrc org.) Other program s ative group Personal Deity Proxy. Cte ehamue Com ity Sommi MhmHty Youth C oaaeclloo (C O S M Y O provides opportuni include: so n a i activities O ffers one-on-one support, referrals and information on r tV and S T D prevention and (10 am -6 pm Monday-Fddty 1132 SW 13th Ave 5038363800 wwwoutstdan.org.) (7/04) than 23. N eed s volunteers of a l ages. to gey, lesbian, bi, trans and questioning youth in \fencouver, W ash M eets 6-8 pm Tuesdays In the b ase ment of Ybuth House. 1112 Colum bia S t in \fencow er (John 3608961325.) (7/04) W illam ette Valley: Youth resources for adults who work with queer and question ing youth. (503-96570060 cosmycyouthOyahoo com ) Pride P roject brings together W ashington County queer and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social events. A lso information, referral and advocacy (MrAy 503-260-5792. 1 hi operates a choc for anyone *4x> can't mones. C an provide transitional housing for youth 20 and younger a s w el a s for those HfV+ and younger Triple Point offers education, support and advocacy ties for queer and questioning youth age s 23 and mo«y0pndepropct org.) (7/04) qualify for the O regon Health Plan a s wet a s needle exchange services that Include those who Inject hor W ashington: Youth younger to get together for free, fun and supportive services in W ashington County. pye0tmfan4y.orgJ (7/04) Youth G rou p for ages 13 to 18 offers support, nforma- Hon and fcn In Eugene. Free, confidential. adtA-facAtated. (Drop n 4 6 pm Friday Amazon Communty Center, 2700 hUyan) St 5418843466.) (V W — — m ■ ■ . mm m m « B lm so M o I I Tan Ol, ■ ■ » - - — .— — Group for ages 25 and younger m eets every M onday n Eugene. (5 pm Kononie Center, 1414 Kincaid St. 541-3461134.) (1/04) Eastern O regon: Youth Custom O rogon Center for ! Living offers support and advocacy to gay. lesbian, bi. trens and questioning youth in Eastern O regon Send your Tops, bottoms and formers University Parii United Methodist Church i Y o u * is a safe, confidential support group for y x r g gay men. lesbians, bisexual*, tansgander. question (68 pm Wednesday* Mkha Baking. 690 State St.. Salem www aaP mrarbemyouth.org ) (7/04) Queers telling lies and living them D M e a r s . B e h a v io r : Recently 1 met a man online, and we developed a rapport very quickly. 1 explained that 1 was a total top, to which he replied that he was a total bottom and had no interest in being any thing else. He invited me to spend a weekend with him in another city. Just as I was about to order tickets to travel, he suddenly revealed that he’s actually a top, and a leather master to boot! He then told me he wanted me to know before it went any further and asked if we could be friends! 1 asked him how he thought we could be friends when he began by outright lying to me. He acted as if 1 had an attitude problem, which 1 don’t think I do. How is it possible to have any relationship, even a friend ship, when it’s all built on lies? If he had leveled with me from the start, maybe we could have been friends— I’ve been very good friends with other tops over the years— but 1 can’t help but feel that his actions showed disrespect and dishonesty. Am I overreacting? —M orally Outraged D e a r M o r a lly O u t r a g e d : Oh, if only everyone would tell the truth online! N o one would won der if the woman who says she’s wear ing a push-up bra, French-cut bikini and heels is really a wormy man in a dirty bathrobe. Everyone would post real photos, not clippings from glam orous magazines. And a big top like you could safely meet a bottom, without worrying that he secretly wishes to do terrible things to you. If everyone would just be hon est, so many more people would meet their soul mates! But not everyone who’s looking for sex online is looking for a real connection. Some people want to dis cuss their sexual fantasies but don’t want anything more. And, yes, a top may sometimes fantasize about being a bottom and vice versa. Like it or not, the Internet also provides anonymity and lots of opportunities for games. Your faux bottom, who was proba bly just looking for entertainment, is unlikely to become your friend. You think he’s a liar, and he thinks you have an attitude problem. You should probably start over and place a per sonal ad for a sweet, earnest bottom who values honesty and always tells the truth. just out 'dttn Calendar) • P O Box 14400 • Portland O R 97293 0400 Fax submissions to 503 23 6 1257 or e mail justout@ justout.com Submissions cannot lie an epted over the phone • Please type yout announcements and include full contact information D ear M r . F oster : Thinking about a past gay act can lead to arousal and perhaps a memory of what one is missing while he clings to a hyperheterosexual facade that doesn’t fit. Is that what’s happening for you? In his letter “Formerly Gay” expressed shame about his gay past. Ms. Behavior merely suggested that the notion that being queer is just about “acting on it” is probably bound up in religious ideas about sinning. N o one suggested that “Formerly G ay” was necessarily a follower of Christianity. This may come as a surprise, but preferring sex with men is a fairly reli able sign o f homosexuality. While practice might result in greater enjoy ment, most straight men do not need to learn to like sex with women. (You make heterosexual sex sound like as much fun as learning to walk after a head injury.) You assume that a “real ex-gay” would not write a “so-called lesbian" for advice, but you apparently still read gay publications. Perhaps you fol low queer columns merely to write let ters disputing what you read with the hope of converting lost souls who can he saved from a life of “hell.” Or is it because you find the articles and pho tographs in gay magazines arousing, despite your so-called conversion? Maybe some o f your anger comes from the fact that you’re no longer having sex with men. Maybe you should come hack to the chains of the gay plantation and see if you really miss forcing yourself to date women. j n © Meryl Cohn 2004 ing and frlenda outreach listings to: though it was never men tioned nor alluded to. Secondly, any gay man who has never had an experience with a woman will say, “Sex with men was better.” OK, so let’s compare years of sex with men to a few rolls in the hay with a woman. Third, simply thinking about a past gay act does make one want to be gay. But your juvenile com ment demanded he immediately plunge back into the hell he came out of or get chained up on the gay plantation again. Fourth, a real ex-gay would not write a so-called lesbian to get advice on his now heterosexual relationship. If that occurred he wouldn’t be ex-gay, he’d be what you would call a fool. — Mr. Foster D e a r M s . B e h a v io r : Your fake “ex-gay” column was full of holes [Dec. 19J. Stevie Wonder could have seen the propaganda that it was propped up on. First, you jumped to the conclusion that "Formerly Gay” was religious, M eryl C ohn is the author of Do What 1 Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay and Lesbian Etiquette (Houghton Mifflm). Signed copies are available directly from the author. Send questions or correspondence to msbehavint@aol.com.
