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About Just out. (Portland, OR) 1983-2013 | View Entire Issue (Nov. 21, 2003)
___________________________ novanta 2L.2Û03 | M t « t a 3 9 ADVICE ▼ SPIRITUALITY Sunday evening worship (503 281 3697 www tearsoup com/metanoia 7 (7/0 4 ) Metro: Spirituality M etropolitan Com m unity C hurch of P ortland holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship A insw orth United C hurch o f C h rist is a multi services at 9 and 11 am Sunday school for children is held dunng the 11 am service (2400 NE racial, multicultural, open and affirm ing church. Sunday worship is at 10 am; church school for chil dren runs concurrently (2941 NE Ainsworth St 503 284 8767 auccdteleport com ) (7/04) Ana w im Com m unity of gay men meets weekly for Chnstian meditation and prayer (7 30 pm Thursday 503 281-0722 7(7/04) The C ity C hurch Portland's "oldest gay affirm ing Chnstian church," offers a spirit driven church fo r today's diverse generations (10 am Sunday communion and worship service. 6 30 pm Sunday worship service 3830 SE 62nd Ave 503 775-5024 ) (7/0 4 ) C o n g re g a tio n P 'n a i O r (Faces of Light) is a vibrant, egalitanan. Jewish Renewal congregation in Portland M eets several times a month at Portland State University Campus Mmistnes (PO Box 42187. Portland. OR 97242 0187 503 248 4500 www pnaiorpdx org ) (7/04) Eastrose Fellow ship U nitarian U niversalist a welcoming congregation, offers Sunday service and children s religious education (10 30 am Sunday 1133 NE l8 ls tA v e . Gresham 503 665-2628 eastrose&teleport com www eastrose org ) (7/04) Faith U nited M ethodist C hurch is a welcoming community of Chnstians in Troutdale that values and encourages all people in finding a place of belonging in the family of God Sunday worship at 10:15 am, Adult Education at 9 am. children and youth at 10 30 am Wednesday Prayers 6 6 30 pm (27400 SE Stark St 503 66 f -4520 7 (7/04) F irst U nitarian C hurch of Portland is an open and affirm ing liberal religious community offenng a wide range of programs to nurture spintual growth, community and social justice Sunday service 9 and 11 am (1011 SW 12th Ave 503 228-6389 www firstunitananportlandorg ) (7/04) Gay Men's Labyrinth P roject meets quarterly for a walking meditation and wisdom circle on the labynnth (Dale 503 233 2026. ext 3 www mterfaithspintualcenter com ) (7/04) In te g rity is a group of sexual mmonty Episcopalians and friends Vanous locations throughout Oregon (Bruce 50328691 I 1 brucepdxordattbi com www.mtegntyusa.org.) (7/04) In te rfa ith S p iritu a l C enter houses spintual directors from vanous world religious traditions, who are available for guidance, classes and retreats (Second Floor. 3910 SE llth Ave 503-233 2026. ext 3 www mterfaithspmtualcenter com.) (7/04) Keshet P ortland is a potluck group for Jewish members o f the sexual m inorities com m unity and their partners, spouses and supporters Its purpose is to help build bridges with the larger Jewish com m unity M onthly social, religious and cultural events (David or Laney 503-226-7079. ext 14 ) (7 /0 4 ) Broadway 503281 8868 mfoQmccportland com www mccportland com 7 (7/04) The N ichiren Buddhist Temple of Portland offers several weekly gathenngs Everyone welcome1 (tO am Sunday. 7 30 am Tuesday and Thursday 730 pm Wednesday meditation 2025 SE Yamhill St 503-2328064 www mchiren-shu org/portland ) ( 7/04) N orthw est Tw o-S pirit S ociety o f Portland welcomes new members from the native LGBT (Two- Spints) community to pm our council and organize or attend m onthly meetings (Amanda 503 869-0076 thesebraids&go com ) (7/04) Peace C hurch o f the B rethren is a welcoming congregation ( I I am Sunday 12727 SE Market St 503 254 6380 H I /04> P ortland C enter fo r S p iritu a l G rowth is a center for worship growth and leadership that adheres to an all-inclusive spintual philosophy similar to 12-step. Unity and Religious Science (503- 777-0727 www portlandcenter org 7 (7/0 4 ) Portland Radical Faeries meet twice a month with potlucks and circles at the full moon and the new moon Open to all men seeking alternative spintual growth and community Coffee hours start 9 30 am Saturdays at 3 Fnends Coffeehouse, 201 SE 12th Ave (503 235-0826 otterdpeez com ) (7/04) Seventh-Day A dventist K inship is a support organization fo r LGBT people, their families and fnends (PO Box 7320. Laguna Niguel. CA 92607- 7320 866 732 5677 office&sdakmship org www sdakmship org ) (7/04) S iste rS p irit offers women's spmtuality celebrations, discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and classes Schedule of events available All women are welcome (Suite 102. 3430 SE Belmont St Mailing address PO Box 9246. Portland. OR 97207 503 736 3297 sisterspdleleport com ) (7/04) S outhm inster P resbyterian C hurch is an active member of the Community of Welcoming Congregations Sunday school and nursery care Classes, community service activities and events for all ages and interests (9-930 am Sunday chapel service. 10 am Sunday community worship service 12250 SW Denney Road. Beaverton 503 644-2073 staffdsouthmm com www southmm com 7 (7/04) St. Stephan's Episcopal Church has been we! coming all people since 1863 ( 12 10 pm Wednesday and 7 45 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and child care at 10 am 1432 SW 13th Ave 503-223 6424) (7/04) W y'east U nitarian U niversalist C ongregation is an open and liberal religious com mumty offenng intergenerational services and rek gious education for children, youth and adults It wel comes gay. lesbian, bi and trans members It nur tures spintual growth and promotes living by Umtanan Universalist pnnciples (4 pm Sunday. 5 pm in summer 3915 SE Steele St 503 777-3704 www wyeast pnwd uua org 7 (7/04) Zion United Church of C hrist an open and affirming congregation, is open to gay lesbian, tx. trans and heterosexual people who wish to worship in a Chnst-centered, warm, canng m ultiage/race/cul- tural faith community (11 am Sunday 2025 NE 23rd Ave . Gresham 503-665 8741.) (7/0 4 ) Washington: Spirituality Abundant Life C enter is A New Thought Community for spintual awakening and transforming lives through love A safe place where children learn to embody spintual pnnciples ( 10 am Sunday 10006 NE Ninth Ave Vancouver Rev Kathleen Vengm 360 573 2626 )(V 04) East Vancouver U nited M ethodist Church is reconciling and welcoming (10 am Sunday 5701 MacArthur Blvd 360 693 4761 7(7/04) F irst Congregational C hurch United Church of Chnst. holds services in an open and affirming con gregation (10 am Sunday worship. 11 15 am adult education 1220 NE 68th S t. Vancouver 360693 1476 vanuccdaol com.) (7/04) M etropolitan Community Church o f the Gentle Shepherd in Vancouver welcomes you (10 30 am and 630 pm Sunday worship. 9 am Sunday Bible study 2200 Broadway The Rev Harriet Barshofsky 360 695 1480 7(7/04) M ichael Servetus U nitarian U niversalist Fellow ship a Welcoming Congregation, provides a home for the liberal religious spmt (9 30 and 11 15 am Sunday 4505 E 18th St.. Vancouver 360-695-1891.)(T/04) diverse faith community for prayer and fellowship Willamette Valley: Spirituality St. James Lutheran Church a Reconciled in Chnst congregation welcomes all people lor tradi tional. liturgical worship where we expenence God s reconciling love that sets all people free (9 and 11 am Sunday 1315 SW Park Ave 503 227 2439 www st/ameslutheranportland org 7 (7/04) Lesbian C hristian Fellow ship meets for study F irst C ongregational Church United Church of Chnst is an open and affirming congregation offenng worship and church school Child care provided and wheelchair accessible (9 30 am Sunday learning hour, 1030 am worship 700 Manon St NE. Salem 503 363 3660) (7/04) Three director«, one Bertolt Brecht in The Exception and the Rule at Lightbox Studio and social outings Committed Chnstians and still unsures welcome (Barbara 503-7605791 7(7/04) Longview U nited M e th o d ist C hurch is welcom ing and reconciling (10 am Sunday 2851 30th Ave 360 425 4927) (7 /0 4 ) M etanoia Peace Community U nited M ethodist C hurch is a "house church" that bnngs gay and straight together Daily morning prayer and YOUTH Metro: Youth Flavors a social support group for sexual mnonty youth of color 21 and younger, meets on weekends for food and socializing Regular events and activities Flavors is a protect of Love Makes a Family s MuftKJueer program and is supported by Brother to Brother (Jaye 503228-3892 or ¡ayedknfam4y.org) (7/04) The Gay. Lesbian and Straight Education N a tw o rh (GLSEN) fights to end antrgay bes n K-12 schools. (12700 SW North Dakota St . Suite 180. *129 Tigard. OR 97223 5035251177 gfaendgTsenomqonorg www glsenoregon org 7 (7/04) M uM Q u a a r a proyam of Love Makes a Fandy. pro vides advocacy to sexual mmonty youth. Offers resources and support in the commurvty and the school systems, with a focus on support for LGBTQ youth of color Uaye 5 05228-3892 or fayedknfarmfy org 7 (7/04) Outs Ida In operates a d n e for anyone vdx> can't quaMy for the Oregon Health Plan as w e l as needk exchange services that include those who inject hor mones Can provide transitional housing for youth 20 and younger as w e l as fo r those H fV* and younger than 23 Needs volunteers o f a l ages (10am-6pm Monday Friday 1132 SW 13th Arm 5035353800 wwwoutstdetn.org.) (7704) Sexual Minority Youth Resource Center a program o f Cascadw Behavioral Healthcare, offers support and recreation to gay. lesbian, tx and trans youth 23 and younger O ffers drop-in computer access, pool tables and an informal place to hang out. Weekly support m eetngs «eludes Trans Youth Group and the creative group Personal Deity Proxy (4-8 pm Monday and Wednesday. 4 pm-midnght Friday and Saturday 2100 SE Belmont St. 503872-9664 TTY 503231 9286 www smyre o rg ) O ther programs «dude Clack ernes County Sexuel Minority Youth Connection (C O S M Y Q provides oppor tunities for queer and queshonmg youth ages 23 and younger to get together for free, fun and supportive social activities O ffers one-on-one support, referrals and «form ation on M V and STD prevention and resources fo r addts who work with LGBTQ youth bi. trans and questioning youth « Eastern Oregon. (5418898119 or 866-2488369 eocrldeoal.org www eoci.org. 7 (7/04) Washington: Youth Triple Point offers education, support and advo cacy to gay. lesbian, bi. trans and questioning youth in Vancouver. W ash. M eets 6-8 pm Tuesd uesdaya in the basement of Youth House. 1112 Colum bia St. « Vancouver (John 3608901325.) (7 /0 4 ) (503 969-0060 coemycyouthOyahoocom.) P ride Project brings together Washington County queer Willamette Valley: Youth and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social events Also «form ation, referral and advocacy services « Washington County. (M oty 503 2605792 motyOpndepcofect org 7 (7/04)* Gay. LeoM en, BL Transponder end Questioning Youth Group for ages 13 to 18 Eastern Oregon: Youth U vM p offers support and advocacy to gay. leabtan. Sometimes it’s a bad idea; then there are the other times Sunday 3300 SE Woodward St 503 238 1337 www wavedyucc org 7 (7/04) St. A ndrew C atholic C hurch invites all to p in a (930 am Sunday 806 NE Alberta St 503 281 4429 ) ( 7/04) Excommunicated W averiy Heights UCC is open and affirm ing with worship, children's school and child care (10 am offers support, «form ation and fun n Eugene Free, confidential adult fachteted (Drop In 4 8 pm Fndey Amazon Commurvty Center. 2700 Htyerd St. 5 4 1 8843466 7 (7/04) Leebien, Gey, M eexuel Transponder Y o u * G roup fo r ages 2S and younger meets every Monday in Eugene (5 pm Kanorva Center. 1414K fic a 4 & 5 4 1 -3 4 *IfJ 4 J (7 /0 4 ) I'te A R Ms. coming-out process. Make sure to notify your parents anytime you have a televi sion appearance. B e h a v io r : A tew years ago, 1 came out to my family about being gay. My parents are still some what furious; they call it “destroying the family D e a r M s . B e h a v io r : name." I had explained to them that, while o ff in college, I had some thing serious happen to me. I had hoped by M8ryl that they would sup port me while I was seeking therapy about being raped. O f course, they think it was a situa tion that I caused. N ow that 1 am older and made up in my mind that 1 am happy being with a guy, they refuse to talk to me. 1 was told by them not to visit when I come hack home from schix)l. I have other family members to visit, hut I would like to he able to visit my parents and my siblings when 1 come home for the holidays. W hat should I do? Respect their wishes and not visit or just say the hell with it? I need your help. — Lovable Noel I’m a long-term member o f a lesbian poetry group. W e meet twice a month to share our inspiration and our writing. Through the years a woman named Dora has Cohn shown up several times. Each time she comes, she brings a bundle o f lesbian sonnets and asks for our feedback. W e politely sit and listen and carefully critique her work. T h e pœrns are mediocre, hut that’s not the problem. Dora never recipro* cates by offering suggestions to others; she never even comes to the group unless she needs feedback on her own work. In fact, the last time Dora did this, we implemented a new rule requir ing new members to come and listen at least five times before reading their work. Dora recently allied and asked me for directions to our new loca tion, so I know she’s planning a comeback. I may he the only mem ber still in the group who knows about Dora’s past Ms. Behavior D ear L o vab le N o e l : I f they blame you for being raped and w on’t talk to you or let you visit because y o u ’r e gay, they have problems so serious that they should have their own reality T V show If saying “ the hell with it” means just showing up at your parents’ dtxir with your gtxxJ wishes and a holi day fmitcake, it dix'sn’t seem like a gixxJ idea. Your parents don’t seem ready to welcome or support you, which is quite sad and also their problem. If they blame you for being raped and won’t talk to you or let you visit because you’re gay, they have problems so serious that they should have their own reality T V show. Unfortunately, your parents are unlikely to get help for themselves, hut it’s gixxl that you’ve sought therapy, at least to deal with the trauma o f having been raped. Spend time with other family members who’d like to see you, including your siblings if they’re open to visiting with yixj away from your parents’ house. Send a holiday card letting your parents know that you care ahxit them and hope to he able to spend future holidays with them. It’s best to leave the door open to the possibility o f a reconciliation someday; some people do eventually have a spiritual awakening (or an aneurysm) that makes them real ize life is short. In the meantime, try to develop relationships with your extended family and yixir friends. And someday, when you’re in the nruxxl, write and puhlush a book about your childhixxl and your history. Should I warn everyone? Should I try to prevent D ira from once again dump ing her pxx;ms on us and then leav ing? I worry that she’ll get mad. — Fed Up D ear F ed Ur: Selfish participants in groups (like selfish lovers) need to he stopped, even if you need to shame them. If Dora shows up and expects everyone to respond to her work, let her know that her past participation led to a new mle that helped the group to better define itself. Then explain that the new mle requires each pœ t to come five times before reading her poetry. W h o cares if Dora gets mad? W h at’s she going to do? Throw a chair? Maybe she’ll think you’re mean and she’ll write a poem akxjt you. Either way, it seems better than having to sit through an evening o f kxisy lesbian sonnets. JH*1 © Meryl Cohn 2003 M eryl C oh n is the author o f D o W hat I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay and Lesbian Etiquette (Houghton Mifflm). Signed copies are available dtreedy from the author. Send questions or correspondence to msbehavxnfàaol com.
