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October 17.2003 ADVICE SPIRITUALITY Metro: Spirituality A insw orth U nited C hurch o f C h rist is a multiracial, m ulticultural, open and affirm ing church Sunday vnorship is at 10 am; church school for children runs concurrently (2941 NE Ainsworth St 503-284 8767 auccQteieport com) (7/0 4 ) Anawim Com m unity of gay men meets weekly for Chnstian meditation and prayer (7 30 pm Thursday 503-281 0722 ) (7/03) A tkinson M em orial C hurch is a Umtanan Uroversakst welcoming congregation in Oregon C ity (710 Sixth St 503 656-7296 w w w atkm- sonchurch com. 7(7/03) B ridgeport U nited C hurch o f C h rist is a community of progressive, political people explor mg and celebrating the Chnstian faith We are sexual mmonty and straight, m ulticultural and multi racial, and our children are valued members. (1030 am Sunday 621 NE 76th Ave 503 2580992 www bndgeportucc org.) (7/0 3 ) The C ity Church Portland's "oldest gay-affirming Chnstian church." offers a spint-dnven church for today s diverse generations (10 am Sunday commu nion and worship service. 630 pm Sunday worship service. 3830 SE 62nd Ave 503 775-5024.) (7/04) Congregation Neveh Shalom an open and progressive Conservative Jewish synagogue, extends a warm welcome to all sexual m inorities Shabbat services 8 :15 pm Friday and 9 am Saturday (2900 SW Peaceful Lane 503 246 8831.) (7/03) Congregation P'nai O r (Faces of Light) is a vibrant, egalitarian. Jewish Flenewal congregation in Portland Meets several times a month m various locations (PO Box 42187. Portland. OB 97242-0187. 503-248-4500 www pnaxxpdx org ) (7/03) D ignity P ortland meets for Mass on Sundays (503-262-6947 7 (7/03) Eastroee Fellowship U nitarian U niversalist a welcommg congregation, offers Sunday service and chkdren s rekgxxis education. (1030 am Sunday 1133 NE 181st Ave . Gresham 503665-2628 eastroseúteleporl com www eastrose org 7 (7/04) Faith U nited M ethodist C hurch is a welcom ing community of Chnstians m Troutdale that val ues and encourages all people in finding a place of belonging in the family of God Sunday worship at 10:15 am; Adult Education at 9 am: children and youth at 10 30 am Wednesday Prayers 6-6:30 pm (27400 SE Stark St 503 661-4520 ) (7/0 3 ) are available for guidance, classes and retreats St. Andrew C atholic Church invites a* to join (Second Floor 3910 SE 11th Ave 503233-2026. ext 3 www mterfaithspintualcenter com. 7 (7/04) a diverse faith community for prayer and fellowship K sshst P ortland is a group for Jewish members of the sexual mmonties community and their part ners. spouses and supporters M onthly social rek gtous and cultural events (David or Laney 503 226 7079. ext 14 7(7/03) Koinonia C atholic Com m unity is a progres sive. small faith community that gathers weekly to celebrate Euchanst at Bridgeport United Church of Chnst A welcoming congregation. Catholic in tradi tion and Ecumenical in membership (6 pm Sunday 621 NE 76th Ave 503-699-0473 www komoniacommunity org ) (7/03) Lasbian C hristian Fellowship meets for study and social outings Committed Chnstians and still unsures welcome (Barbara 503 760-5791 7(7/04) Longview United M ethodist C hurch is wel coming and reconciling (10 am Sunday 2851 30th Ave 36(7-425 4927 7(7/03) Meta no ia Peace Community United M ethodist Church is a ‘ house church" that bnngs gay and straight together Daily morning prayer and Sunday evening worship (503281 3697 www tearsoup com/metanoia ) (7/04) M etropolitan Community Church of Portland holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at 9 and 11 am Sunday school for children is held dunng the 11 am worship service (2400 NE Broadway 503-281-8868 mfo&mccportland com ) (7/03) The N ichiren B uddhist Temple o f Portland offers several weekly gathenngs Everyone wel come! (10 am Sunday. 730 am Tuesday and Thursday 7:30 pm Wednesday meditation 2025 SE Yamhill St 503 2328064 www nichiren shu org/portland 7 (7/0 4 ) Peace C hurch o f the B rethren is a welcom mg congregation (I I am Sunday 12727 SE Market St. 503 254 6380 .7 (7/04) P ortland C enter fo r S p iritu a l G row th is a New Thought, uplifting, refreshing and exciting place of worship Become a m inister in our mtmste nal program (10 am Sunday Call for location 503 7/7-0727.7(7/03) P ortland Church o f R eligious Science is a liberal, open, progressive New Thought community welcoming everyone to discover the spirit within Change your thinking, change your life 1 (10 am Sunday meditation. 10 30 am service and /umor church. 6 30 pm Wednesday prayer circle 3983 NE 112th Ave 503261 0 6 7 77 (7 /0 3) P ortland R adical Faeries meet tw ice a F irst U nitarian C hurch o f Portland is an open and affirm ing liberal religious community offenng a wide range of programs to nurture spmtual growth, community and social (ustice Sunday service 9 and 11 am. (1011 SW 12th Ave 503 2286389. www firstunitananportland org.) (7/0 3 ) month w ith potlucks and circles at the full moon and the new moon Open to all men seeking alter native spintual growth and community. Coffee hours start 9 30 am Saturdays at 3 Friends Coffeehouse. 201 SE 12th Ave (503 235 0826 otterOpce? com.) (7/0 4 ) First United Methodist Church of Portland, a welcoming and reconciling congregation, believes no one is left out m God s family Sexual mmonty potlucks held monthly (10 30 am Sunday 1838 SW Jefferson St 503228-3195 www fumcpdx org ) (7/03) Seventh-Day A dventist K inship is a support organization for LGBT people, their families and fnends (PO Box 7320. Laguna Niguel. CA 92607- Gay and Lesbian O utreach (GALO ) of St S iste rS p irit offers women's spmtuality celebra Philip Nen Catholic Church celebrates an affirm ing Mass followed by a social. (7 30 pm Friday Paulist Center. 2408 SE 16th Ave 503 231 4955 7 (7/0 3 ) tions. discussion groups, a drumming circle, work shops and classes Schedule of events available All women are welcome (Suite 102, 3430 SE Belmont Gay M en's Labyrinth P ro je ct meets quarterly St Mailing address: PO Box 9246. Portland. OR 97207 503-7363297 sistersp&telepod com ) for a walking meditation and wisdom circle on the labynnth (Date 503233 2026. ext 3 www mterfaithspintualcenter com. 7(7/04) Integrity is a group of sexual mmonty Episcopalians and fnends Various locations through out Oregon (Bruce Mason 503-286-9111. bm- cepdxonSattfx com www mtegntyusa org 7 (7/04) Interfaith S p iritual C enter houses spintual directors from various world religious traditions, who YOUTH Metro: Youth Flavors a social support group fo r sexual m inor ity youth o f color 21 and younger, m eets on weekends for food and socializing Regular events and activities Flavors is a project of Love Makes a Family's M ultiQueer program and is supported by Brother to Brother (Jaye 503-228-3892 o r jayeOImfamily org 7 (7/0 4 ) The Gay, Lesbian and S traight Education N etw ork (GLSEN) lights to end antigay bias in K-12 schools (12700 SW North Dakota St.. Suite 180. »129. Tigard. OR 97223. 503 525-1177 glsenOglsenoregon org. www glsenoregon.org. 7 (7/0 4 ) M ultiQ ueer. a program o f Love Makea a Family, provides advocacy to sexual m inority youth O ffers resources and support m the community and the school systems, with a focus on support for LG8TQ youth o f color (Jaye 503-228-3892 or teye&mfamfy org) (7/04) O utside In operates a cfenc fo r anyone who can't qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as we* as needte exchange services that Include those who n je ct hormones. Can provide transitional housing for youth 20 and younger as we* as fo r those HIV* and younger than 23. Needs volunteers o f a* ages (10 am-6 pm Monday Friday 1132 SW 13th Ave. 503-5353800 www.outsidem otg.H7/04 ) 7320 866-732 5677 ofhceQsdakmship org www sdakmship org ) (7/04) (7/04) Southm inster Presbyterian Church is an active member of the Community of Welcoming Congregations Sunday school and nursery care Classes, community service activities and events for all ages and interests (9-9 30 am Sunday chapel see vice. 10 am Sunday community worship service 12250 SW Denney Road. Beaverton 503-644 2073 stafMhouthmn com www southmm com) (7/04) (930 am Sunday 806 NE Alberta St 503281 4429 H7/03) St. Jame« Lutheran Church a Reconciled m Chnst congregation, welcomes a* people for tradition al. Iitunycal worshp where we experience God's rec oncikng love that sets a l people free (9 and II am Sunday 1315 SW Park Ave 503-227-2439) (7/03) St. Stephen'« Episcopal C hurch has been welcoming all people since 1863 (12 10 pm Wednesday and 7 45 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and child care at 10 am Southwest 13th Avenue at Clay Street 503 223 6424 7 (7/03) Trinity United M ethodist Church is an open Chnstian community where faith and life intersect All invited1 (10 30 am Sunday 3915 SE Steele St. The Rev Wendy Joy Woodworth 503-777-3901 7(7/03) W averly Height« UCC is open and affirming with worship, children's school and childcare (10 am Sunday 3300 SE Woodward St 503-238 1337 www wavertyucc org 7(7/04) W y'eest U nitarian U niversalist Congregation is an open and liberal rekgnus community offenng mtergeneratxxial services and rekgious education for children K welcomes gay. les bian, bi and trans members Nurtures spintual growth and promotes living by Unitarian Umversafcst pnnciples (4 pm Sunday 3915 SE Steele St 503-777-3704 www wyeastpnwduua org ) (7/03) Zion United Church of C hrist an open and affirming congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, bi, trans and heterosexual people who wish to worship *i a Chnst centered, warm, canng. multiage/race/cultur al faith community ( II am Sunday 2025 NE 23rd Ave. Gresham 503665-8741 7(7/03) Washington: Spirituality Abundant Life Center is A New Thought Community for spintual awakening and transforming kves through love A safe place where children learn to embody spintual pnncples (I0 am Sunday 10006 NE Ninth Ave Vancouver 360-573-26267(7/03) East Vancouver United M ethodist Church is reconciling and welcoming (10 am Sunday 5701 MacArthur Btvd 3606934761 ourclarkcoun- ty Columbian com/273/.H7103) F irst C ongregational Church United Church of Chnst. holds services m an open and affirming congregation. (10 am Sunday worship. 11 15 am adult education 1220NE 68th St . Vancouver 360 693 1476 vanucc9aolcom.) (7/0 4 ) M etropolitan Com m unity Church o f the Gentle Shepherd in Vancouver welcomes you. (1030 am and 630 pm Sunday worship. 9 am Sunday Bible study. 2200 Broadway The Rev Harriet Barshofsky 360 695 1480 ) (7/03) M ichael Servetu« U nitarian U niversalist Fellow ship a Welcoming Congregation, provides a home for the liberal religious spmt (9 15 and 11 am Sunday 4505 E 18th St.. Vancouver 360-695 -1 891.) (7/03) Willamette Valley: Spirituality F irst C ongregational Church United Church of Chnst is an open and affirming congregation offenng worship and church scliool Child care pro vided and wheelchair accessible (9 am Sunday learning hour. 10 am worship 700 Manon St NE. Salem 503 363 3660 7 (7/03) Momingside United Methodist Church is a reconciling congregation where everyone is welcome to participate in the full kfe of the congregation (830 and II am Sunday 3674 12th St SE. Salem 503364 5013 mm Sexual M in o rity Youth R esource C enter, a program o f Cascadia Behavioral advocacy to gay. lesbian, bi, trans and ques tioning youth m Eastern O regon (5 4 1 8893119 H ealthcare, o ffers support and recreation to gay. lesbian, bi and trans youth 23 and 'younger. O ffers drop-in com puter access, pool tables and an Inform al place to hang out W eekly support m eetings includes Trans Youth G roup and the creative group Personal D eity Proxy. (4-8 pm or 866 248-8369 eocilQeoal org. www eocil org 7 (7 /0 4 ) Monday and Wednesday. 4 pm-midnight Friday and Saturday 2100 SE Belmont St 503-872-9664 TTY 503-231-9286 www smyrc.org.) O ther program s include C lackam as C ounty Sexual M in o rity Youth C onnection (C O SM YC ) provides opportunities fo r queer and questioning youth ages 23 and younger to get together fo r free, fun and supportive social activities O ffers one- on-one support, referrals and inform ation on HIV and STD prevention and resources fo r adults who w ork w ith LGBTQ youth (503 9690060. co$mycyouth9yahoo.com ) P rid e P ro je c t bnngs together W ashington County queer and questioning youth to plan and attend m onthly social events. Also inform ation, referral and advocacy services m W ashington C ounty (Molly 503-260-5792 molly9pndeprotect org 7 (7 /0 4 ) Washington: Youth Triple P oint offers education, support and advo cacy to gay. lesbian, bi. trans and questioning youth m Vancouver. Wash Meets 6-8 pm Tuesdays in the basement of Youth House. 1112 Columbia S t In Vancouver. (John 360-695 1325.) d m Willamette Valley: Youth Gay, Lesbian, B i, Transgender and Q uestioning Youth Group lor ages 13 to 18 offers support, information and fun m Eugene. Free, confidential, adult-facilitated (Drop m 4 6 pm Friday Amazon Community Center. 2700 FUyatd St. 541684 3466 ) (7/04) Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender Youth Group for ages 25 and younger meets every Monday in Eugene (5 pm. Komorna Canter. 1414 Kincaki S t 541-346-1134 H im Eastern Oregon: Youth Rainbow Youth o f Salem for kids 21 and younger meets twice weekly. (6-8 pm Tuesday. Eastern Oregon Canter for Independent Living o ffe rs support and 4 6 pm Thursday 600 State Si. D m 503 930-7260 H 7/03) ........ H .............. Strange behavior Sometimes you are a nut, sometimes you’re not 13 ear Ms. B ehavior : My anti-virus software recently located a virus on my computer that my boyfriend, Jonathan, acciden tally downloaded. Jonathan was very sheepish and a polo- ire tic, since this particular bug is only activated by visiting porno sites. I had the computer fixed and now it works fine. I’m not mad at Jonathan for sign ing on to pom sites, hut I’m disturbed that he got the vims from a het- ero pom site. Why would my boyfriend get off on straight porno? I’m not saying he should he repelled by straight people screwing, hut why would he seek it out? Docs this mean something? — Jonathan's Confused Boyfriend D ear J o n a th a n ’ s C onfused B oyfriend : Oh, come on. You’re not worried that your boyfriend is a closet hetero, are you? You know the range of human sexual expression is vast. You know that curiosity or fascination or even excitement at watching hetero coupling means nothing. Lots of men who consider themselves straight occasionally have gay fantasies or stop and get a blow job from another guy on their way home from a king, hard day at the office. (In fact, some readers would have Ms. Behavior believe that’s what most straight dudes do for relaxation.) So why can’t a homo (OK, your boyfriend) watch a man and a woman do the nasty with out you getting your panties in a twist? If Jonathan were getting off on watching illegal or immoral acts (e.g., people hurting children or ani mals) or just plain gross ones (please fill in the blank yourself, because Ms. Behavior doesn’t want indignant mail from cow manure fetishists), you might have reason to dial 911 or at least worry about visiting Jonathan in the slam mer after his computer is seized and searched. If you’re truly concerned that his watching a little guy/girl copulation means he’ll end up eloping with the girl next dexir, you might bring it up as a topic of conversation. But the Internet peep show was probably just an exciting novel ty for your still-queer-as-ever boyfriend. was in classes and Barbara’s husband was at work. 1 know Fran was telling the truth, because she told me all kinds of disgusting details about Barbara’s sex toys. Isn’t this the worst betray al yixj’ve ever heard? What kind of person fucks her friend’s mother? Should I tell Theresa what Fran told me? —Concerned Friend D ear C oncerned F riend : A person who fucks her friend’s mother is probably quite twisted and/or sexually compulsive. She needs help hut probably not from you. It also seems unlikely that you can help or control the situation by playing tattletale. Is there any reason, other than vindic tiveness, that you’d get involved? Would it really help Theresa to know that her mother had sex with Fran? Ultimately, Fran will slip up and lose Theresa as a friend. Motherfuckers always get caught eventually. D ear M s . B ehavior : I’m responding to your recent column about a woman in doubt about her “fag hag” status. Though I have learned to live with the negative connotation of being labeled a fag hag— there isn’t a positive term for a straight woman who prefers the company of gay men— I do take exception to the label of “pathetic" when describing a str,light woman who makes a life choice. All the important peo ple in my life are gay. My first relationships devel oped when I was a young and naive 18 and continue to the present, as a 55 year-old. There are no guidebtx>ks to address this lifestyle, hut I would not have wanted to live any other way. I still have some friends I made in those early years and trea sure the depth and beauty of those rela tionships. And 1 continue to make new friends— gay and straight. I have poked around in my psyche to determine possible reasons and will perhaps agree to some “intimacy issues." And there was, at the beginning, something to he said for that statement by Roseanne: “If it weren’t for gay men, who would fat women dance with?" So, this aging fag hag diva will contin ue to happily pursue her life and hope there will someday he a more positive recognition for this alternative-alternative lifestyle. — m l Tm not mad at Jonathan for signing on to porn sites but rm disturbed he got the virus from a hetero site D ear M s . B ehavior : How do you know whether to betray a friend’s secret? My friend Fran told me something horrible. She recently went to visit our mutual friend Theresa in another state. Theresa lives in an attic apartment above her parents because she is a grad stu dent and can’t afford her own place. Recently, Fran told me that during her last visit, she went out drinking with Theresa’s mother, Barbara, and ended up having sex with her! They continued their affair all week long while Theresa , jn © Meryl Cohn 2003 MERYL COHN is the author of Do What I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay and I-eshian Etiquette (Houghton Mifflm). Signed copies are available directly from the author. Send questions or correspondence to msbehavurdSaol. com.
