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About Just out. (Portland, OR) 1983-2013 | View Entire Issue (Sept. 19, 2003)
1A2Û Û 3 ADVICE and supporters Monthly social ratgxxjs and cultural SPIRI I L AM I V events (David or Laney 503226 7079. ext 147(7/03) Metro: Spirituality Koinonia Cathode Com m unity is a progressive Ainsworth United Church of Christ is a multi racial, multicultural, open and affirm ing church Sunday Eucharist at Bridgeport United Church of Christ A wef com ing congregatxxi. Gathokc m tradton and Ecumeracal w orship is at 10 am. church sch o o l for children runs *i m em bershp sm al farth community that gathers «*e k)y to celebrate (2941 NE Ainsworth St 503284-8767 aucc9teleport com 7 (7/04) concurrently Ana «rim Community of gay m en m eets w eekly for (7 30 pm Thursday 5032810722) (7/03) C hnstian m editation and prayer Atkinson Memorial Church i$ a Umtanan Urw ersakst m ilcom ng congregation n Oregon City (710 Sixth St 503-656-7296 www atknsonchurch com) (7/03) (6 pm Sunday 621 NE 76th Ave 503-699-0473 www komonacommunty org ) (7/03) Lesbian Christian Fellowship m eets for study and social outings Com m itted C h n stian s and s t i u n su re s w elcom e (Barbara 503 760-5791 7(7/04) Longview United Methodist Church is w elcom ing and reconokng (10 am Sunday 2851 30th Ave 360-425-4927 7(7/03) Bridgeport United Church of Christ i$ a com m u Metanoia Peace Community United Methodist Church is a "h o u se church" that bnngs nity of progressive, political people exploring and cele gay and straight together D aily m om mg prayer and bratmg the Chnstian faith W e are sexual m inority and Su n day evening w orship straight, multicuttural and multiracial, and our children www (1030 am Sunday 621 NE 76th Ave 503 258-0992 www bndgeportuccorg ) (7/03) are valued m em bers The City Church Portland's "o ld e st gay affirm ing lex tod ay's diverse generations (10 am Sunday commu non and worship service. 6 30 pm Sunday worship service. 7 pm W ednesday Bible study 3830 SE 62nd Ave 503 775 5024 )0/03) C hnstian church." offers a spm t-driven church Congregation Neveh Shalom an open and pro g re ssive C onservative Jew ish synagogue, extends a warm w elcom e to all sexual rm nonties Shabbat setv ice s 8 15 pm Friday and 9 am Saturday (2900 S W Peaceful Lane 503 246 8831.) (7/03) Congregation P'nai O r (Face s of Light) Is a vibrant, egalitarian. Je w ish Renew al congregation m Portland M e e ts several tim es a m onth m various loca (PO Box 42187. Portland. OR 97242-0187 503-248 4500 www pnatorpdxorg) (7/03) tw ns (503281 3697 tearsoup com/metanoia 7 (7/04) Metropolitan Community Church of Portland h olds ecum enical Su n day m orning w o rsh p se rvice s at 9 and 11 am Su n d ay school for children is held during (2400 NE Broadway 503 2818868 mfoOmccportland com 7(7/03) the 11 am w orship service The Nichiren Buddhist Tam pie of Portland offers several w eekly gathenngs Everyone w elcom e' (10 am Sunday. 7 30 am Tuesday and Thursday 7 30 pm Wednesday meditation 2025 SE Yamhill St 503-232-8064 www mchiren-shu org/portland 7 (7/04) Peace Church of the Brethren is a w elcom ing congregation ( II am Sunday 12727 SE Market St 503 254 6380 7(7/04) Portland Canter for Spiritual Growth is a New Thought, uplifting, refreshing and exciting place of wor slxp. Becom e a m inister n our mmistenal program (10 am Sunday Cal for location 503-7770727.)(7/OS) Portland Church of Religious Science is a lib Dignity Portland m eets for M a s s on Su n d a ys (503-262-6947.) (7/03) eral. open, pro gre ssive N ew Thought com m unity w el Eartrose Fellowship Unitarian Univerealist a your thinking, change your kfe1 (10 am Sunday w elcom ing congregation, offers Su n d ay service and (10 30 am Sunday 1133 NE 181st A ve. Gresham 503665 2628 eastroseQteleport com www eastrose org 7 (7/04) children s religious education com ing everyone to discover the spm t within C hange medita txxi. 10. 30 am service and /umor church. 630 pm Wednesday prayer circle 3983 NE 112th Ave 503 261 0677X7/03) Portland Radical Faerie« meet twice a month St. Stephen's Episcopal Church has been wei com ing all people since 1863 (12:10pm Wednesday and 7 45 and 10 am Sunday Sunday sch o o l and child care at 10 am Southwest 13th Avenue at Clay Street 5032238424) (7/03) Trinity United Methodist Church is an open Chnstian com m unity where faith and We m tersect A l minted' (1 0 30 am Sunday 3915 SE Steele St The Rev Wendy Joy Woodworth 503 777 3901 7(7/03) Waverty Heights U CC is open and affirming with (10 am Sunday 3300 SE Woodward St 503 238 1337 www wavertyucc org 7(7/04) Wy'east Unitarian Unhrersalist Congregation is an open and liberal religious com m unity offering ntergenerational services and religious education for children It w elcom es gay. lesbian, bi and trans mem bers Nurtures spiritual growth and prom otes Irving by (4 pm Sunday 3915 SE Steele St 503 777-3704 www wyeast pnwduua org.) (7/03) Unitarian Unrversakst principles Zion United Church of Christ an open and affirming congregatxxi. is open to gay. lesbian, bi. trans and heterosexual people w ho w ish to w o rsh p m a C h n st centered, warm, canng. multiage/race/cultural ( II am Sunday 2025 NE 23rd Ave., Gresham 503 665 8741 7(7/03) faith com m unity Washington: Spirituality Abundant Life Center is A N ew Thought Com m unity for spiritual awakening and transformmg kves through love A safe place where children team to (10 am Sunday 10006 NE Ninth Ave. Vancouver 360573 2626) (7103) em body spmtual prm cples East Vancouver United Methodist Church is (10 am Sunday 5701 MacArthur Blvd 360 693 4761 ourclarkcounty Columbian com/273/) (7/03) reconciling and w elcom ing First Congregational Church United C hurch of Chnst, holds services m an open and affirming congre (10.00 am Sunday worship. 1l:l5amadult education 1220 NE 68th St . Vancouver 360693 1476 vanuccOaolcom 7(7/04) gatxxi with potlucks and circles at the full m oon and the new God's Holy Territory is a ch a n sm a tc joy Wled com m unity of C h n stian s m Troutdale that values and m oon O pen to all men seeking alternative spmtual w orship experience in Vancouver where everyone is encourages all people m finding a place of belonging in grow th and com m unity C offee hours start 9 30 am the family of G o d Su n d ay w o rsh p at 10:15 am. Adult Satu rdays at 3 Fnends Coffeehouse. 201 S E 12th Education at 9 am; children and youth at 10 3 0 am A ve ( II am Sunday service Bible study 7 pm Thursdays, except third Thursday 1500 NE 49th St 360885 9461 pastorQgodshotytemtory com) (7/04) (27400 SE Stark St. 503-661-4520) (7/03) (503 235 0826 otterQpcer com ) (7/04) Seventh-Day Adventist Kinship is a support organization for L G B T people, their fam ilies and First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open and affirm ing liberal religious com m unity offering a wide range of program s to nurture spm tual growth, com m u nity and social |ustice Su n day service 9 and 11 am (1011 S W 12th Ave 503 2286389 www hrstuntananportland org.) (7/03) (PO Box 7320. Laguna Niguel. CA 92607 7320 866 732 5677 officeQsdakinship org www sdakmship org 7(7/04) fnends SisterSpirit offers w om en s spintuality celebrations, d iscu ssio n groups, a drum m ing circle, w orkshops and First United Methodist Church of Portland, a w elcom ing and reconciling congregation, believes no one is left out in G o d 's family Sexual m m onty potlucks held m onthly (1030 am Sunday 1838 SW Jefferson St 503 2283195 www fumepdx org 7(7/03) c la sse s Schedule of events available All w om en are w elcom e (Suite 102. 3430 SE Belmont St Mailing address PO Box 9246. Portland. OR 97207 503-736 3297 sisterspQteleport com ) (7/04) M e e ts every third Thursday m the S t Andrew Nativity Sch o o l (7 30 pm Fnday Paulist Center. 2408 SE 16th Ave 503 231 4955 7 (7/03) lowed by a social (7 pm 806 NE Alberta St IbtspintcirdeOyahoocom) (7/03) Southm inster Presbyterian Church is a chal Gay Men's Labyrinth Project m eets quarterly for a lengmg, supportive com m unity that w elcom es all peo walking m ediation and wisdom ard e on the labyrinth ple (Dale 503 2332026. ext 3 wwwgaylabymth org) (7/04) O regon Su n day school and nursery care Integrity is a group of sexual m inonty Episcopalians and friends Various locations throughout O regon. (Bruce Mason 503 2869111 brucepdxortìattbi com www mtegntyusa org.) (7/03) Interfaith Spiritual Canter h o u se s spm tual direc tors from various w orld religious traditions, w ho are (Second Floor. 3910 SE 11th Ave 503233 2026 ext 3 www mterfaithspintualceoter com ) (7/03) available for guidance, c la sse s and retreats Keshet Portland is a group for Jew ish members of the sexual rmnonties community and their partners, spouses It is the first M o re Light Presbyterian C hurch m (10 am Sunday 12250 SW Denney Road. Beaverton 503-644 2073 staffQsouthmm com ) (7/03) St. Andrew Catholic Church m vites all to )om a diverse faith com m unity for prayer and fellow ship (9 30 am Sunday 806 NE Alberta St 503 2814429 ) (7/03) St. James Lutheran Church a Reconciled m C h n st congregation, w elcom es all people for tradition al. liturgical w orship w here w e experience G o d 's rec onciling love that se ts all people free (9 and 11 am Sunday 1315 S W Park Ave 503 227 2439 7 (7/03) Sexual Minority Youth Resource Center. • program of C a sc a d e Behavioral HealthCare. offers Y O U T H Michael Servetus Unitarian Unhrersalist Fellowship a W elcom ing Congregatxxi. provides a hom e for the liberal religious spmt (9 15 and 11 am Sunday 4505 E 18th S t . Vancouver 360695 1891.) (7/03) Willamette Valley: Spirituality First Congregational Church United C hurch of C h n st is an open and affirming congregation offering w orship and church school Child care provided and (9 am Sunday learning hour. 10 am worship 700 Manon St. NE. Salem 503 363 3660X7/03) w heelchair accessible Morning side United Methodist Church is a reconciling congregatxxi where everyone is w elcom e to participate m the full kfe of the congregatxxi (8 30 and 11 am Sunday 3674 12th St SE. Salem 503 364 5013 7(7/03) Sacred Souls honors al sacred paths, promotes peace and strives to create an environment that stpports and promotes nterfarth dalogue M eets at the Oregon School (6 308 pm Sunday 440 Ferry Si SE. Salem wbohlthOaol com www sacredsouls org I (7/03) of M assage (541889-3119 or 866-248 8369 eoc49eocil.org. wwweoO.org.) (7/04) support and recreation to gay. lesbian, bi and trans Metro: Youth Flavor«, a social support group for sexual minority and younger O ffe rs drop-m com puter access, pool tables and an inform al place to hang out. youth of color 21 and younger, m eets on w eekends for W e e kly support m eetings includes Trans Youth G roup food and sociakang Regular events and activities (4-8 pm Monday and Wednesday. 4 pm-midmght Friday and Saturday. 2100 SE Belmont Si. 5 0 3 -67 2-9664 TTY 503-231 9286 www smyre org ) O ther program s include Clackam as County Sexual Minority Youth Connection (C O SM Y C J provides oppor youth 23 Flavors is a protect of Love M ake s a F a n cy's MultiQueer (Jaye 503-228-3892 or ¡aye&mfamlyorg.) (7/04) Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network (GLSEN) fights to end anti gey bias xi K -12 sch o o ls (12700 SW North Dakota S t . Suite 180. >129. Tigard OR 97223 503-525-1177. glaenOglsenocegon org www glaenoregon org ) (7/04) The M uhiQ uaar a program of Lo ve M a k e s a Family, and the creative group Personal D eity Proxy social activities O ffe rs one-on-one support, referrals and Inform ation on H IV and S T D prevention and re so u rce s for adults w ho w ork with L G B T Q youth reso u rce s and support m the com m unity and the and questioning youth to plan and attend m onthly sch o o l system s, with a focus on support for L G B T Q social events. A lso inform ation, referral and advocacy (Jaye 503-228-3892 or ¡aye&mfamly org) (7/04) se rvice s m W ash in gton C o u n ty (5 03 (Mo>y 503-2605792 mokyQpndeprofect org) (7/04) Outside In operates a dime for anyone who can't qualify for the Oregon health Plan a s well a s needle exchange services that include those who inject horm ones Can provide transitional housing for youth 20 and younger as weS as for those H IV+ and younger than 23. N eeds volun (10 am-6 pm Monday-Frtday. 1132 SW 13th Ave 503-535-3800 www outstdem o rg ) (7/04) Triple Point offers education, support and advocacy to gay. lesbian, tx. trans and questioning youth m Vancouver. W ash M e e ts 6-8 pm Tuesdays m the basem ent o f Youth H ouse. 1112 Colum bia S t m Vancouver (John 360895-1325)0/03) younger to get together for free, fun and supportive 9690060 cosmycyouthOyaboo com ) Pride Project b n n gs together W ashington C o u n ty queer youth of color Washington: Youth tunities for queer and questioning youth a g e s 23 and provides advocacy to sexual m inority youth O ffers teers of at ages. Metropolitan Community Church of the Gentie Shepherd m Vancouver w elcom es you (10 30 am arid 630 pm Sunday worship. 9 am Sunday Bible study 2200 Broadway The Rev Harriet Barshofsky 360 695 1480X7/03) Spirit Circle is for lesbian, b or trans w om en seek N en Catholic C hurch celebrates an affirm ing M a ss fol program and is supported by Brother to Brother. w elcom e gay. lesbian, bi. trans and straight m g a w elcom ing com m unity m the Cathokc church Gay and Lesbian Outreach (G A LO ) of S t Philip Eastern Oregon: Youth Eastern Oregon Center for independent Living offers support and advocacy to gay. lesbian, bi. trans and questioning youth in Eastern O regon. M y boys ape special How to tell if you’re e. fag hag (or Just a fag friend) w orsNp. children s school and ch4d care. Faith United Methodist Church is a w elcom ing W ednesday Prayers 6 -6 30 pm ............... ¥ ................ Willamette Valley: Youth Gay, Lssbian, BI, Transgandar and Questioning Youth Group for ages 13 to 18 Offers support, rform etxxi and fun in Eugene Free, (Drop m 4 8 pm Friday. Amazon Community Center 2700 HUyard St. 541-684-3466X7/03) confidential. aduft-faciklated Lesbian, Gay, Biaaxual, Transgandar Youth Group for a g e s 25 and younger m eets every M onday in Eugene (5 pm Komorm Center. 1414 Kxicard S t 541-3461134X7/03) Rainbow Youth of Salem for kids 21 and younger m eets twice w eekly (68 pm Tueaday, 4 6 pm Thursday 600 State St Deni 503-930- 7280X7/03) D ear M s . B e h a v io r : Right now it’s hard to imagine how you Call me what you plan to “have kids want. I’m a 23-year- and maybe get mar old straight female, ried” if you sti dislike and almost all o f my hanging out with friends are gay hoys. straight men, hut Ms. I hear other gay Behavior hopes you’ll guys refer to their figure out a way to female friends as “fag have everything you hags," hut I don’t need, including sex think I’m one. I and romantic love. think the friendships I have with my hoys D ea r M s . B e h a v io r .- are special, and I Very recently my don’t like when peo partner o f five years ple call me a hag. It’s not that I don’t like straight ■ passed away. He was ill and in the hospital for two months prior to his boys, it’s just that I like gay hoys death. W e were very much in love, better. Some o f my friends say I and I will always love him. should stop spending so much time However, what is an appropriate with gay guys and find a boyfriend. I period o f mourning these days? don’t think I even want a relation I know it used to be one year, hut ship. I have so much fun with my 1 don’t think my former partner friends, why do I need a boyfriend? would want me to squander my I want to have kids and maybe remaining days in such a manner. get married, hut why should I stop I can fill my time with work and hanging out with my gay boys in friends; however, that isn’t usually order to spend time with straight enough for me. boys who annoy me? Am l really Should I begin to date again, or a hag? should I wait until I feel that I don’t — Princess PFLAG have to bring up the past in conver sation with new people? D ear P r in c ess PFLAG: “Fag hag” was a term undoubted -i ly invented by mean queens with D ear J: disdain for women, not the appar It’s likely you’ll he ready to date ently sweet, carefree gay boys with in stages. You may he ready for sex whom you might he sharing fashion before you’d consider getting and makeup tips. emotionally involved. Or coffee W h o could blame you for liking and talking might feel like enough gay hoys better than straight ones? right now. When more straight men learn to You’ll know when it feels right to dance or can address your em otion bring up the past and when it doesn’t. al pain with more than just a grunt, Unfortunately, many maybe you’ll become o f your dates will he more open-minded. able to relate to the Straight women experience o f losing who surround them a partner. selves with fags only So, if you feel seem pathetic when ready to date, go for it becomes a lifetime it. Constructing a affliction that ulti timeline— e.g., mately interferes waiting a year or with their own hap more based on what piness. You’ll only seems appropri qualify for that ate”— would just feel extreme category if artificial and might you spend the next deprive you o f stime two decades the same much-needed happi way, traveling from ness. You may feel party to party with your “hoys,” never grief about the loss o f your partner for a finding any sexually long time, hut it intimate relation doesn’t mean you ships for yourself. need to he alone, if that’s not how That’s the part that clearly concerns you prefer to mourn. j n the people who want you to find a boyfriend. © Meryl Cohn 2003 Do straight men annoy you so much that you don’t want them even for sex ? Or do you have some M eryl C o h n is the author of Do What I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide other resistance to intimacy in gen eral? If it’s that you’re secretly a les to Gay and Lesbian Etiquette bian or hi-curious, or have other (Houghton Mifflin). Signed copies arc available directly from the author. Send sexual feelings you don’t find tolera ble, Ms. Behavior promises to questions or correspondence to msbehavior<Q)aol. com. accept you just as you are. I t ’s n ot that I don’t like straight boys, it’s Just that I like ga y boys better.... I have so m uch fun with m y friends, w h y do I need a boyfriend?
