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About Just out. (Portland, OR) 1983-2013 | View Entire Issue (Sept. 5, 2003)
______________________________ September 5 2001 fra— « ^ [ 3 3 ADVICE SPIRITUALITY Metro: Spirituality K e sh e t Portland « a group for Jew ish members of the sexual nvnonties community and their partners, spouses and supporters Monthly social, rekgwus and cultural events (David or Laney 503226 7079 ext 14 ) ( 7/03) Ainsworth United Church of Christ is a multi Koinonia Catholic Community is a progressive, racial, multicultural, open and affirm ing church Sunday small faith community that gathers weekly to celebrate w orship is at 10 am, church school for children runs concurrently (2941 NE Ainsworth St 503 284-8767. Euchanst at Bridgeport United Church of Chnst A wel com ing congregation. Cathofcc m tradtion and Ecumenical auccOteleport com ) (7/04) xi membership (6 pm Sunday 621 NE 76th Ave Anawim Community of gay men m eets w eekly for 503-6990473 www komomacommunity o r g ) (7/03) Chnstian m editation and prayer (7 30 pm Thursday Lesbian Christian Fellowship m eets for study oncikng love that se ts all people free (9 and 11 am Sunday 1315 SW Park Ave 503 227 2439 ) (7/03) St. Stephen's Episcopal Church has been wei and 7 45 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and child care at 10 am Southwest 13th Avenue at Clay Street 503-223-6424 ) (7/03) invited1 (1030 am Sunday 3915 S E Steele St The Rev Wendy Joy Woodworth 503 7773901 ) (7/03) 503 281 0722) (7/03) and social outm gs Com m itted C h n stian s and s t i- u n su re s w elcom e (Barbara 503 7605791 ) (7/04) U niversalist w elcom ing congregation in O re go n City Longview United Methodist Church is w elcom (710 Sixth S i 503 656 7296 www atkmsonchurch com ) (7/03) ing and reconciling (10 am Sunday 2851 30th Ave Bridgeport United Church of Christ is a com m u is an open and liberal religious com m unity offenng nity of progressive, political people exploring and cele Metanoia Peace Community United Methodist Church is a "h o u se church" that b o n gs brating the Chnstian faith W e are sexual m inonty and gay and straight together D aily m orning prayer and children It w elcom es gay. lesbian, bi and trans m em straight, multicultural and multiracial, and our children Su n d ay evening w orship (503 281 3697 bers N urtures spm tual growth and prom otes living by are valued m em bers (1030 am Sunday 621 NE 76th w ww tearsoup com/metanoia ) (7/04) Unitarian Universalist pnnciples (4 pm Sunday Metropolitan Community Church of Portland Ave 503 2580992 www bndgeportucc o rg ) (7/03) Waveriy Heights U CC is open and affirming with D ear M s . B ehavior : w orship, children's school and child care (10 am 3915 SE Steele St 503-777-3704 www wyeast pnwd uua org ) (7/03) • At a large staff lunch last month 1 was asked, yet again, if 1 had ever been married or if 1 had a girlfriend. I finally decided the time had come, and 1 announced that 1 am Ray- Sunday 3300 S E Woodward St 503 238 1337. www waverlyucc o rg ) (7/04) Wy'east Unitarian Universalist Congregation m tergenerational services and religious education for The City Church Portland's "o ld e st gay affirm ing C hnstian church." offers a spirit driven church for 9 and 11 am Su n d ay school for children is held during Zion United Church of Christ an open and tod ay's diverse generations (10 am Sunday commu the 11 am w orship service. (2400 NE Broadway affirm ing congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, bi, mon and worship service. 6 30 pm Sunday worship service. 7 pm Wednesday Bible study 3830 S E 62nd Ave 503-775-5024 ) (7/03) 503 28 T8868 mfo@mccportland com ) (7/03) trans and heterosexual people w ho w ish to w orship in h olds ecum enical Su n d ay m orning w orship se rvice s at The Nichiren Buddhist Tempie of Portland offers several w eekly gathenngs Everyone w elcom e1 Congregation Neveh Shalom, an open and pro gre ssive C onservative Jew ish synagogue, extends a warm w elcom e to all sexual m inonties Shabbat se rv ices 8 15 pm Fnday and 9 am Saturday (2900 SW Peaceful Lane 503 246 8831 K 7 / 0 3 ) Congregation P'nai Or (Faces of Light) is a vibrant, egalitarian. Jew ish Renew al congregation in (10 am Sunday. 7 30 am Tuesday and Thursday 7 30 pm Wednesday meditation 2025 S E Yamhill St 503-232 8064 w ww nichiren shu org/portland H I /04) Peace Church of the Brethren is a w elcom ing congregation ( II am Sunday 12727 S E Market St 503-254 6380) (7/04) a C h n st centered, warm, canng. m ultiage/race/cultural faith com m unity ( I I am Sunday 2025 NE 23rd A ve . Gresham 503 665 8741) (7703) Washington: Spirituality Abundant Life Center is A N ew Thought Com m unity for spmtual awakening and transform ing Portland Center for Sj>iritual Growth is a New lives through love A safe place where children team to tions (PO Box 42187. Portland. O R 972420187 Thought, uplifting, refreshing and exciting place of wor em body spmtual pnnaples (10 am Sunday 10006 NE 503-248-4500 www pnaiorpdx org ) (7/03) s h p Becom e a m inister m our ministerial program (10 am Sunday Call for location 503777-0727 ) (7/03) Ninth Ave. Vancouver 360-573 2626) (7/03) Portland M e e ts several tim es a month in various loca Dignity Portland m eets for M a ss on Su n d a ys (5 0 3 -2 6 2 -6 9 4 7 ) (7/03) Portland Church of Religious Science is a lib Eastrose Fellowship Unitarian Universalist <i eral. open, pro gre ssive N ew Thought com m unity w el com ing everyone to d iscove r the spm t within C hange w elcom ing congregation, offers Sunday se rvice and your thinking, change your life1 (10 am Sunday medita children's religious education (10 30 am Sunday 1133 NE 181st Ave . Gresham 503 665-2628 eastrose&teleport com w ww eastrose org ) (7/04) tion. 1030 am service and junior church. 6 3 0 pm Wednesday prayer circle 3983 NE 112th Ave 503 261 0677.) (7/03) Faith United Methodist Church is a w elcom ing Portland Radical Faeries meet twice a month com m unity of C h n stian s in Troutdale that values and with potlucks and circles at the full m oon and the new m oon O pen to all m en seeking alternative spm tual encourages all people in finding a place o f belonging in the family of G o d Su n day w orship at 1 0 1 5 am, Adult grow th and com m unity C offee hours start 9 30 am Education at 9 am; children and youth at 10 3 0 am Satu rd a ys at 3 Fnend s Coffeehouse, 201 S E 12th W ednesday Prayers 6 6 30 pm (27400 S E Stark St Ave. (503-235 0826 otter@pcer com 7 (7/04) 503661 4 5 2 0 3 (7 / 0 3 ) Seventh-Day Adventist Kinship is a support First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open and organization for L G B T people, their fam ilies and affirming liberal religious com m unity offenng a wide fnends (PO Box 7320. Laguna Niguel. CA 92607- range of program s to nurture spm tual growth, com m u 7320 866-732-5677 ofhceQsdakmship org w ww sdakmship o rg ) (7/04) nity and social justice Su n day service 9 and 11 am (1011 S W 12th Ave 503 2286389 www hrstunitananportland org ) (7/03) SisterSpirit offers w om en s spm tuality celebrations, d iscu ssio n groups, a drum m ing circle, w orksh o p s and First United Methodist Church of Portland, a c la sse s Schedule of events available All w om en are w elcom ing and reconciling congregation, believes no w elcom e (Suite 102. 3430 S E Belmont St. Mailing one is left out in G o d s family Sexual m inonty potlucks held m onthly (10 30 am Sunday 1838 S W Jefferson address: PO Box 9246. Portland. O R 97207. 503 736 3297 sistersp@teleport com ) (7/04) St. 503-228-3195 w ww fumcpdx org ) (7/03) Gay and Lesbian Outreach (GALO) of S t Philip East Vancouver United Methodist Church is reconciling and w elcom ing (10 am Sunday 5701 MacArthur Btvd. 360693 4761 ourclarkcounty Columbian com/273/.) (7/03) First Congregational Church United C hurch of C hnst. holds services m an open and affirm ing congre gation (1000 am Sunday worship. 1115 am adult education 1220 NE 68th St . Vancouver 360693-1476 vanuccQaol com ) (7/04) God's Holy Territory is a chansm atic. joy filled w elcom e gay. lesbian, bi. trans and straight ( I I am Sunday service Bible study 7 pm Thursdays, except third Thursday 1500 NE 49th St 360885 9461 pastor@godshotytemtory com ) (7/04) Metropolitan Community Church of the Gentle Shepherd in Vancouver w elcom es you (1 0 3 0 am and 6 3 0 pm Sunday worship. 9am Sunday Bible study 2200 Broadway The Rev Harriet Barshofsky 360 695 1480 )1 7/03) Michael Servetux Unitarian Universalist Fellowship a W elcom ing Congregation, provides a hom e for the liberal religious spm t (9 15 and 11 am Sunday 4505 E 18th St . Vancouver. 360695 1891.) (7/03) mg a w elcom ing com m unity in the Catholic church N en Catholic C hurch celebrates an affirm ing M a ss foi- M e e ts every third Thursday in the S t Andrew Nativity low ed by a social (7.30 pm Fnday Paulist Center. Sch o o l (7 pm 806 N E Alberta St. 2408 S E 16th Ave 503 231 4955 )(7 / 03) Ibtspmtcircle&yahoo com. ) (7/03) Gay Men's Labyrinth Project m eets quarterly for Southm inster Presbyterian Church is a chai Chnst is an open and affirming congregation offenng wor a w alking m editation and w isdom circle on the lengmg. supportive com m unity that w elcom es aH peo labynnth (Dale 503-233-2026. ext 3 www gaytabynnth o rg ) (7/04) pie It is the first M o re Light Presbyterian C hurch m ship and church school C M d care provided and wheel char accessible (9 am Sunday learning hour. lOamwor O regon Su n d ay sch o o l and nursery care (10 am sNp 700 Manor St NE. Salem 503 363 3660 ) (7/03) Integrity is a group of sexual m inonty Episcopalians and fnends V a n ou s locations throughout O regon (Bruce Mason 503 2869111 brucepdxnrtjattbi com www mtegntyusa org ) (7/03) St. Andrew Catholic Church invites all to jom a diverse faith community for prayer and fellowship Interfaith Spiritual Center h o u se s spm tual direc (9 30 am Sunday 806 NE Atería St 5032814429) tors from vanous world religious traditions, w ho are (7/03) Willamette Valley: Spirituality First Congregational Church United Church of Morning side United Methodist Church is a recon citing congregation where everyone is welcome to partici pate m the full life of the congregation (8 30 and 11 am Sunday 3674 12th St SE. Salem 503 364 5013 ) (7/03) Sacred Souls honors al sacred paths, promotes peace and strives to create an environment that supports and available for guidance, c la sse s and retreats (Second St. James Lutheran Church a Reconciled m prom otes mterfath dalogue M eets at the Oregon School Floor. 3910 S E llth Ave 503 233 2026. ext 3 www mterfaithspintualcenter com ) (7/03) C h n st congregation, w elcom es all people for tradition al. liturgical w orship w here w e experience G o d 's rec of M assage (630-8 pm Sunday 440 Ferry St SE. Salem whoMhQaol com www sacredsouls org) (7/03) Sexual M inority Youth Resource C anter, a bi. trans and questioning youth In Eastern O regon program o f C a sca d la Behavioral HeatthCare, offers support and recreation to gay. lesbian, bi » id trans (541S 8 9 3 1 19 or 866 248 8369 eocrOeoal org www eocttorg) (7/04) YOUTH Metro: Youth Flavors a social support group for sexual minority youth of color 21 and younger, m eets on w eekends for food and socializing Regular events and activities Flavors is a project of Love M akes a Family s M ulbQueer program and is supported by Brother to Brother (Jaye 5032283892 or pye&m family org ) 0/04) youth 23 and younger. O ffe rs drop-m com puter a c c e ss, pool tables and an Inform al place to hang out W e e kly support m eetings includes Trans Youth G ro u p and the creative gro u p Pe rson al D eity Proxy (4-8 pm Monday and Wednesday. 4 pmmdmght Friday and Saturday 2 1 0 0 S E Belmont St 503 8729664 TTY 503231-9286 www smyrz o rg ) The Gay. Lasboin and Straight Education Network (GLSEN) hghts to end anti-gay bias in Clackam as County Sexual Minority Youth Connection (C O S- M Y C ) provides opportunities for queer and ques K-12 sch o o ls (12700 S W North Dakota St.. tioning youth a g e s 23 and younger to get together Suite 180. «129. Tigard. O R 97223 503 525-1177 glsenQglsenoregon org wwwgfaenoregon.org.) (7/04) M u tt (Q u e e r j program of Love M a ke s a Family, provides advocacy to sexual m inonty youth O ffe rs reso u rce s and support m the com m unity and the school system s, with a focus on support for L G B T Q youth of color. ( Jaye 503-228-3892 or ¡aye&lmfamily o rg) (7 /04) Outside In operates a dim e for anyone w ho can't O ther program s Include: than 23 N e e d s volunteers of all a g e s (1 0 a m -6 p m Monday-Fnday 1132 SW 13th Ave 503-535-3800 www outstdein org.) (7/04) to gay. lestxan, bi. trans and questioning youth in Vancouver. W ash M e e ts 6-8 pm Tuesdays m the basem ent of Youth H ouse. 1112 Colum bia S t In Vancouver. (John 3606961325.) (7/03) Willamette Valley: Youth w ork with L G B T Q youth. (503 9690060 cosm ycyouthOyahoocom ) Pride Project b o n gs together W ash in gton C o u n ty queer and questioning Gay, Lesbian, BI, Tranagender and Questioning Youth Group for age s 13 to 18 inform ation, referral and ad vocacy se rv ice s Si W ash in gton C o u n ty (Moffy 503 260 5792 moHy&pndeproject o rg ) (7/04) exchange services that include those w ho inject hor and younger a s well a s for those H IV + and younger Triple Point offers education, support and advocacy for free, fun and supjiortlve social activities O ffe rs qualify for the O regon Health Plan a s well a s needle m ones C an provide transitional housing for youth 20 Washington: Youth one-on one support, referrals and inform ation on H IV and S T D prevention and re so u rce s for adults w ho youth to plan and attend m onthly social e ven ts A lso offers support, information and fun in Eugene Free, confidential, adult facilitated (Drop m 46 p m Fnday Amazon Community Center. 2700 hktyard St 541-684-3466) (7/03) Leeblan, Gay, B(sexual, Tranagender Youth Group for age s 25 and younger m eets every M on day in Eugene (5 pm Komonta Center. 1414 Kmcad St. Eastern Oregon: Youth Eastern Oregon Center for Independent L iv in g offers support and advocacy to gay. lesbian. Since then the women in the office have been very accept ing about my queer sta tus. However, with my male counterparts it’s a totally differ ent story. They, for some reason, think I’m sexually attracted to all of them. 1 have a boyfriend and have no interest in any of these jerks. And I’m tired of being bombarded with gross jokes, verbal and e-mailed, that arc degrading to gays and make dis gusting references about women. I’ve had it!! How can 1 get these idiots to knix:k it off with getting myself or any of them fired? — Michael w orship experience m Vancouver w here everyone is Spirit Circle is for lesbian, bi or trans w om en seek Sunday 12250 S W Denney Road. Beaverton 503 644 2073 staffúsouthmm com ) (7/03) When straight co-workers think you want their goods Trinity United Methodist Church is an open C hnstian com m unity w here faith and life intersect All Atkinson Memorial Church is a Unitarian 360 425 4 9 2 7 ) ( 7/03) Bevy of Idiots com ing all people since 1863 (12 10 pm Wednesday 541 3 4 6 1 13 4 ) (7/03) Rainbow Youth of Salem for kids 21 and younger m eets tvnee weekly. ( 6 8 pm Tuesday. 4-6 pm Thursday 600 State St D an 503-930-7260 ) (7/03) D ear M ichael : Congratulations on coming out! Your co-workers probably have known that you’re queer for ages; why else would they have asked you again and again if you were married or had a girlfriend? (You may also he the only man in the office who doesn’t wear Dockers and boat shoes on dress- down Friday.) If it’s been only a month since you've confirmed their suspicions, the novelty of having a homo in the office may soon wear off, in which case you may not need to do anything. In the mean time, you could make it your mission to do a little one-on-one educating of these testos terone-driven scaredy cats. They’ll think of it as a game of basketball, and you’ll think of it as a game of “I’m not interested in you if you’re the last man on earth.’’ Chat with them over the water cixtler about Will & Grace, so you can facilitate discussions about the fact that Will and Jack are both gay hut don’t actually sleep together! Have your delightful co-workers met your boyfriend? If not, you might invite him to an office event or at least to pick you up at work. Meeting the real-life object of your love might allow the homophobes to feel less threatened by your overwhelming manly sexuality. Embrace your female friends at ' work. They’ll stick up for you, pro vide support when you need it and complain about how a gtxxJ man is hard to find. D ear M s . B ehavior : My dear straight friend Margaret, who’s married to my friend Richard, is dying to hextk up with a woman. Margaret says she’s extra homy now, for some hormonal rea son that I don’t want to know about, and wants me to secretly fix her up with a hutch dyke who’s interested in a fling. I’m a gay man, and I do have some lesbian friends, hut I don’t know if I should participate in this. I’d like to help Margaret, hut I’m not sure I’d feel gtxxl about it because she’d he betraying Richard, who’s a great guy. What do you think I should do? — Betwixt and Betuven D ear B etwixt and B etween : Don’t allow Margaret and her throbbing libido to place a heavy burden on you. You might have been willing to pimp her out for the week end to one of your hutch friends if you didn’t care for Richard or didn’t have strong feelings about their com mitment. But since Margaret isn’t will ing to tell Richard about her plans, and you have mis givings about being involved, you shouldn't act as facilitator for her fantasy. At the same time, ytxi’re not the protector of Margarets relation ship, so ytxj needn’t offer her self-help kx>ks on restoring passion to hetero sexual marriage or withhold directioas to the nearest dyke bar, should she ask. If Margaret does decide to try to find a woman without you, you’ll need to set your own limits regard ing your involvement. You may feel fine, for example, about offering suggestions on a lesbian-luring hair style (so long as it’s not a mullet) and providing information about lesbian cultural history, hut not feel comfortable offering tips on muff diving. (A s if.) j n Fm tired of being bombarded with gross jokes, verbal and e-mailed, that are degrading to gays and make disgusting references about women \ © Meryl G>hn 2003 M eryl C ohn is the author of Do What I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay and Lesbian Etiquette (Houghton Mifflin). Signed copies are available directly from the author. Send questions or correspondence to msbehavunfQaol.com.
