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15.2001 ADVICE SPIRITUALITY Keshet Portland s a group for Jew ish members of the sexual mmonties community and their partners, spouses and 7 45 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and chid care at 10 am Southwest 13th Avenue at Clay Street 503 223-6424.) (7/03) Metro: Spirituality and supporters Monthly social, rekgnus and cultural events (Dawdor Laney 503 2267079. ext 1 47(7/03) Ainsworth United Church of Christ >s a multi Koinonia Catholic Community is a progressive, Chnstian com m unity w here faith and life intersect A l invited1 (1030 racial, multicultural, open and affirm ing church Sunday sm all faith com m unity that gathers w eekly to celebrate w orship is at 10 am; church school for children runs Euchanst at Bridgeport United C hurch of C hnst. A (2941 NE Ainsworth St 503 284 8767 auccQteieport com X 7/04) w elcom ing congregation. Catholic m tradition and concurrently Anawim Community of gay men m eets w eekly for C hnstian m editation and prayer (730 pm Thursday 503 28t-0722X T 103) Atkinson Memorial Church is a Unitarian Um versahst w elcom ing congregation m O re go n C ity (710 Sixth St 503 656 7296 www atkinsonchurch.com 1(7/03) Bridgeport United Church of Christ is a commu mty of progressive, political people exploring and cete bratmg the Chnstian faith W e are sexual m inonty and straight, multicultural and multiracial, and our children (10 30 am Sunday 621 NE 76th Ave 503 258 0992 www bndgeportucc org X T !03) are valued m em bers The City Church Portland's "old e st gay affirming C hnstian church," offers a spin! driven church for today s diverse generations (10 am Sunday commu nion and worship service. 6 30 pm Sunday worship service. 7 pm Wednesday Bible study 3830 SE 62nd Ave 503-775-5024 7(7/03) Congregation Neveh Shalom an open and pro gressrve C onservative Jew ish synagogue, extends a warm w elcom e to all sexual m inorities Shabbat serv ice s 8:15 pm Friday and 9 am Saturday (2900 SW Peaceful Lane 503 246-8831XT/03) Congregation P'nai O r (Faces of Light) is a vibrant, egalitarian. Jew ish Renew al congregation in Portland M e e ts several tim es a month in van o u s loca (PO Box 42187. Portland. OR 97242 0187 503-248-4500 www pnaiorpdx org ) (7/03) tions Dignity Portland m eets for M a ss on Su n d a ys (503 262 6947X7/03) Eaatrose Fellowship Unitarian Universalist a Ecum enical m m em bership (6 pm Sunday 621 NE 76th Ave 5036990473 www komonacommunity org ) (7 /03) Lesbian Christian Fellowship m eets for study and social outings Com m itted C h n stian s and stiff u n su re s w elcom e (Barbara 503 760-5791 7(7/04) Longview United Methodist Church is welcom ing and reconciling (10 am Sunday 2851 30th Ave 360 425 4927) (7/03) Metanoia Peace Community United Methodist Church is a ‘ h ouse church" that bnngs gay and straight together Daily m om m g prayer and Su n d ay evening w orship (5 03 281-3697 www tearsoup com/metancxa) (7/04) Metropolitan Community Church of Portland holds ecum enical Su n d ay m om m g w orship se rvice s at 9 and 11 am Su n d ay school for children is held during Peace Church of the Brethren is a w elcom ing (11 am Sunday 12727 SE Market St 503 254 6380 7 (7/04) congregation the family of G od Su n d ay w orship at 10 15 am; Adult Education at 9 am; children and youth at 10 30 am W ednesday Prayers 6 6 30 pm (27400 SE Stark St 503 661 4520X7/03) m tergenerational services and rekgw us education for children It w elcom es gay. lesbian, tx and trans mem bers Nurtures spintual growth and prom otes Irving by (4 pm Sunday 3915 SE Steele St 503 777 3704 www wyeast pnwd uua org) (7/03) Unitarian Universalist principles Zion United Church of Christ an open and affirming congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, bi. trans and heterosexual people w ho w ish to w orship m a Chnst-centered. warm, carmg. multiage/race/cultural ( II am Sunday 2025 NE 23rd Ave, Gresham 503 665 8741.) (7103) faith com m unity Washington: Spirituality Abundant Life Center is A N ew Thought Com m unity for spintual aw akening and transform ing lives through love A safe place w here children team Thought, uplifting, refreshing and exciting place of wor to em body spintual pnncipies stop Becom e a minister m our ministerial program (10 am Sunday 10006 NE Ninth Ave . Vancouver 3605732626 ) (10 am Sunday Cal for location 503 777-0727)17/03) (7/03) Portland Church of Religious Science is a lib East Vancouver United Methodist Church is reconciling and w elcom ing (10 am Sunday 5701 MacArthur BNd 3606934761 ourclarkcounty Columbian com/273/ 7(7/03) eral. open, p ro gre ssive N ew Thought com m unity w el com ing everyone to discover the spint within C hange your thinking, change your life1 (10 am Sunday medita tion. 1030 am service and /umor church. 630 pm Wednesday prayer circle 3983 NE 112th Ave 503261 0677)17/03) with potlucks and circles at the full m oon and the new encourages all people in finding a place o f belonging in Mfy'east Unitarian Universalist Congregation is an open and liberal rekgw us com m unity offenng Portland Center for Spiritual Growth is a New (1030 am Sunday 1133 NE 181st Ave , Gresham 503665 2628 eastroseGteleport com w ww eastrose org 7 (7/04) com m unity of C h n stian s in Troutdale that values and Wfaveriy Heights U C C is open and affirm ing with (10 am Sunday 3300 SE Woodward St 503 238 1337 www wavedyucc org 7 (7/04) w orshp, children s school and ch id care (2400 NE Broadway 503 281 8868 mfoQmccportland com 7 (7 /03) Portland Radical Faeries meet twice a month Faith United Methodist Church is a w elcom ing am Sunday 3915 SE Steele St The Rev Wendy Joy Woodworth 503 7773901 7(7/03) the 11 am w orship service w elcom ing congregation, offers Sunday service and children's religious education Trinity United Methodist Church s an open m oon O pen to all men seeking alternative spintual grow th and com m unity C offee hours start 9 30 am Saturdays at 3 Fnends Coffeehouse. 201 S E 12th A ve (503 2350826 otterQpcez com 7 (7/04) Seventh-Day Adventist Kinship is a support for L G B T people, their fam ilies and fnends (PO Box 7320. Laguna Niguel. CA 92607- 7320 866 7325677 officeQsdakinship org www sdakmship org 7 (7/04) organization First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open and SisterSpirit offers w om en's spintuality celebrations, affirm ing liberal religious com m unity offenng a wide d iscu ssio n groups, a drum m ing circle, w orksh ops and range of program s to nurture spintual growth, com m u c la sse s Schedule of events available All wom en are nity and social justice Su n day service 9 and 11 am w elcom e First Congregational Church United C hurch of Chnst. holds services m an open and affirming congre (1000 am Sunday worsNp. 11 15 am adult education 1220 NE 68th S t . Vancouver 360-693-1476 vanuccffaolcom. 7(7/04) gation God's Holy Territory is a charism atic. |oy filled w orship experience m Vancouver w here everyone is (I I am Sunday service Bible study 7 pm Thursdays, except third Thursday 1500 NE 49th St 360885 9461 pastor&godsholytemtory com.) (7 /04) w elcom e gay. lesbian, bi. trans and straight Metropolitan Community Church of the Gentle Shepherd m Vancouver w elcom es you (1030 am and 630 pm Sunday worship. 9 am Sunday Bible study 2200 Broadway The Rev Harriet Barshofsky 360 695 1480X7/03) (1011 SW 12th Ave 503 2286389 www firstumtananportland org.) (7/03) (Suite 102. 3430 SE Belmont St Mailing address PO Box 9246. Portland, OR 97207 503- 736-3297 sistersp&teleport com 7(7/04) Michael Servetus Unitarian Universalist Fellowship a W elcom ing Congregation, provides a hom e for the liberal religious spint (9 15 and 11 am Sunday 4505 E 18th St . Vancouver 360695 1891) First United Methodist Church of Portland, a w elcom ing and reconciling congregation, believes no Spirit Circle is for lesbian, bi or trans w om en seek (7/03) mg a w elcom ing com m unity m the Catholic church one is left out in G o d 's family Sexual m inonty potlucks M e e ts every third Thursday in the S t Andrew Nativity (1030 am Sunday 1838 SW Jefferson St 503-228-3195 www fumcpdx.org H7/03) School. held m onthly (7 pm 806 NE Alberta St Ibtspmtcirde&yahoo com ) (7/03) Willamette Valley: Spirituality Gay and Lesbian Outreach (G ALO ) of S t Philip Southminster Presbyterian Church is a chal N en Catholic C hurch celebrates an affirm ing M a s s fol lengtng. supportive com m unity that w elcom es all peo First Congregational Church United C hurch of C hnst is an open and affirming congregation offenng (730 pm Friday Paulist Center. 2408 SE 16th Ave 503 231 4955 7 (7/03) ple It is the first M o re Light Presbyterian C hurch m w orship and church school Child care provided and O regon Su n day school and nursery care. (10 am Sunday 12250 S iV Denney Road. Beaverton 503 644 2073 staffQsouthmm com 7 (7 /03) wheelchair accessible St. Andrew Catholic Church invites all to join a Mom ingside United Methodist Church is a diverse faith com m unity for prayer and fellow ship reconciling congregation w here everyone is w elcom e (9 30 am Sunday 806 NE Alberta St 503 281 4429 ) to participate in the full life of the congregation (7/03) and 11 am Sunday. 3674 12th St SE. Salem 503364 5013X7/03) lowed by a social Gay M en's Labyrinth Protect m eets quarterly for a w alking m editation and w isdom circle on the (Dale 503 233 2026. ext 3 www gaylabynnth org 7 (7/04) labyrinth Integrity is a group of sexual m inonty Episcopalians and friends V an ou s locations throughout O regon (Bruce Mason 503 2869111 brvcepdxorGattbi com www mtegntyusa orgMT 103) Interfaith Spiritual Center h o u se s spintual direc tors from vanous w orld religious traditions, w ho are (Second Floor. 3910 SE 11th Ave 503 233 2026. ext 3 www interfaithspmtualcenter com. 7 (7/03) available for guidance, c la sse s and retreats YOUTH Metro: Youth (9 am Sunday learning hour. 10 am worship 700 Manon St NE. Salem 503 363 3660X7/03) (8 30 St. James Lutheran Church a Reconciled in C h n st congregation, w elcom es all people for tradition Sacred So u ls ho n o rs all sacred paths, prom otes al liturgical w orship w here w e experience G o d 's rec peace and strive s to create an environm ent that (9 and 11 am Sunday 1315 SW Park Ave 5032272439 7 (7/03) the O re go n S ch o o l of M a ssa g e oncilm g love that se ts all people free St. Stephen's Episcopal Church has been wel (12.10 pm Wednesday com ing all people since 1863 (10 am6 pm Monday-friday 1132 SW 13th Ave. 503-535-3800 www.outsder org)(7/03) age s Sexual Minority Youth Reaouree Center, a p ro supp orts and prom otes interfaith dialogue M e e ts al (6 3 0 8 pm Sunday 440 Ferry St SE. Salem wholhIthOaol com www sacredsouls org ) (7/03) and questioning youth in Eastern O regon (541-889-3119 or 866248-8369 eoc40eod org bi. trans www e o c l o rg 7 (7/047 gram of Caecadia Behavioral Healthcare, offers support F la v o r s a social support group for sexual m norlty and recreation to gey. lesbian, bi and trans youth 23 and youth of color 21 and younger, m eets on w eekends for food and sociatzlng Regular events and activities younger O ffers drop-m com puter access, pool tables Flavors is a protect of Love M a ke s a Family 's MuhlQueer program and is supported by Brother to Brother (Jaye in gs includes Trans Youth Group and the creative group Personal Deity Proxy. (4-8 pm Monday and Wednesday. Triple Point offers education, support and advocacy 503-2283892 or yayeGbifemrfy orp 7(7/04) 4 pm-midnght Friday and Saturday 2100 SE Belmont St 503-872-9664. TTY 503-231 9286 www smyrv org.) Other program s include Clackamas County Sexual Minority Youth Connection (C O S M Y Q provides opportunities for queer and questioning youth ages 23 Vancouver. W ash M e e ts 6-8 pm Tuesdays in the Gay. Lesbian and Straight Education Network (GLSEN ) fights to end anti-gey bias m K-12 sch o o ls (12700 SW North Dakota St . Suite 180. »129. Tigard. OR 97223 503-525-1177 glsenOglsenoregon org www.glsenoregon.org.) (7/04) The and an informal place to hang o u t W eekly support meet social activities O ffers one-on-one support, referrals and information on H IV and S T D prevention and provides advocacy to sexual m inonty youth O ffers resources for adults w ho work with L G 8 T Q youth. reso u rce s and support m the com m unity and the (503 969-0060 cosmvcyouth0yahoo.com 7 Pride school system s, with a fo cu s on support for L G 8 T Q Project brings together W ashington County queer and (Jaye 5032283892 or ¡ayeWmlamily org 7 (7/04) questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social Outside in operates a clinic for anyone w ho can't qual ify for the O regon Health Plan a s well a s n e e d s events A lso information, referral and advocacy services (Moly 503 260-5792 molyQpndeproiect org.) (7/04) in W ashington County. exchange se rv ce s that n d u d e those w ho ryect hor m ones Can provide transitional houung for youth 20 and younger as w el a s for those H IV + and younger than 23 A lso p isys host to V O IC E S (Voices of Individual and Com m um ty Empowerment from the Streets), a se lf-sip port group for queer youth N e e ds volunteers of a l to gay. lesbian, bi. trans and questioning youth In basem ent of Youth H ouse. 1112 Colum bia S t In Vancouver. (John 369695-1325. 7(7/03) and younger to get together for free, fun and supportive MuMQueer a program of Lo ve M a ke s a Family, youth of color Washington: Youth Eastern Oregon: Youth EMtorvt OnQOfl C tn tii foe tndtp<odint Living offers support and advocacy to gay. lesbian. Willamette Valley: Youth Gay, Lesbian, Bi, Trans ponder and Questioning Youth Group for age s 13 to 18 offers support. Information arxJ fun m Eugene Free, confidential, adult facilitated (D rop m 46pm Friday Amazon Community Center. 2700 hUyerd St 541684-3466) (7/03) Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender Youth Group for age s 25 and younger m eets every M onday In Eugene (5 pm Koinonia Center. 1414 KncaidSl 541 346I I 34.7(7/03) Rainbow Youth of Salem for kids 21 and younger m eets twice weekly. (66 pm Tuesday. 4 6 pm Thursday 600 State St Deni 503930- 7280 7 (7/03) Oh, the inhumanity! Back biting ex and h un gry dog make one bloody mess D ear M s . B ehavior : List summer 1 found out my girlfriend of eight yean* cheated me out of a lot of money, i had no choice hut to break up with her. Jennifer turned most of our friends against me, so I relied heavily on my family for support. ['Hiring a recent visit to my sister, Helen, I was shocked to see a card from Jennifer on the refrigerator. Helen acknowledged that she’s been in touch with her and that they’ve even been out for dinner a few times. (They were never friend ly when Jennifer and I were together.) 1 don’t understand why my sister would want to hang out with my dis honest ex. I told her that her friend ship with Jennifer was disloyal to me. She reluctantly stopped seeing her. In the meantime, 1 received a hateful e-mail from Jennifer accusing me of being a “controlling hitch.” Am 1 wrong to request loyalty from my sister? Or am I really a con trolling hitch? —Confused Sibling D ear C onfused S ibling : cleanup, and the knowl edge of where that tam pon came from has put him into a coma. 1 have narrowed down a list of the pa- menopausal females at the event. Would it be proper to send out a group e-mail with iastructions of correct tampon disposal? If we do locate the culprit, can we hill for the trauma therapy that my partner will require to make a full recovery? — Tasty Tampon Household D ear T asty T ampon H ousehold : A finger-pointing group e-mail would not be appropriate. Why blame the women for the fact that your ill- behaved dog ate the garbage? What would you have had the menstruating woman do with her used tampon? Flush it down the toilet and ruin your septic system? Carry it home in her purse? Eat it herself to spare your dog and your bed and your boyfriend ? If two fastidious homosexuals own a garbage-eating dog, they have sever al choices: 1. Hire a trainer to deter their dog from the nasty trash-chomping habit. 2. Purchase a secure, lidded garlwge can that the dog cannot get into (which shouldn’t he too difficult with a mediocre-1.Q. dog like, say, a basset hound; it would he much harder with a pixxlle, for example). 3. Rush around dumping the trash can several times a day (or at least immediately after every party), attempting to res cue the luscious contents before their canine com panion devours it. 4. Be prepared to don a hazardous materials suit to deal with whatever mess may turn up on the bed. Instead of trauma therapy, your boyfriend might do better with de sensitization. The therapist could start with moist vagina-like fruits (e.g., figs and mangos) and allow your boyfriend to touch and smell them. Once he works up to contact with the real thing, maybe some of your female friends will he willing to help— if yixj haven’t already alienated them with silly accusations. You’re not insisting that Helen spit in your ex’s face to prove devotion; you’re merely asking her not to cultivate an active friendship with your thieving ex, which seems reasonable. Helen and Jennifer’s new bond is disturbing. And Jennifer’s nasty e-mail reveals that you’ve spoiled more than her dinner plans; you’ve also interfered with her scheme to drive a wedge between you and your sister. You might also wonder about your sister’s motives. Why, for example, did she post your ex’s card to her refrigerator? Did guilt lead her to leave clues so you’d he forced to squash their burgeoning friendship? Or did Helen merely display the card to hug you— in retaliation for the mean sisterly tortures you inflicted on her when you were kids? Name-calling hy an ex should be ignored. Once relieved of girlfriend duties, exes frequently also feel relieved of the obligation to he truth ful or kind. Never rely on exes for accurate personality assessments, job recommendatioas or bikini-line trims. © Meryl Cohn 2003 D ear M s . B ehavior : M eryl C ohn is the author of Do What 1 Name-calling by an ex should be Ignored. Once relieved of girlfriend duties, exes frequently also feel relieved of the obligation to be truthful or kind. The morning after a recent party, our basset hound had a picnic on the bed with a discarded bltxxly tampon. My boyfriend, who is frightened of vagi i nas, was forced to do the toxic waste \ in Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay and Lesbian Etiquette (Houghton Mifftm). Signed copies are available directly from the author. 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