15.2001
ADVICE
SPIRITUALITY
Keshet Portland s a group for Jew ish members of the
sexual mmonties community and their partners, spouses
and 7 45 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and chid
care at 10 am Southwest 13th Avenue at Clay Street
503 223-6424.) (7/03)
Metro: Spirituality
and supporters Monthly social, rekgnus and cultural
events (Dawdor Laney 503 2267079. ext 1 47(7/03)
Ainsworth United Church of Christ >s a multi
Koinonia Catholic Community is a progressive,
Chnstian com m unity w here faith and life intersect A l
invited1 (1030
racial, multicultural, open and affirm ing church Sunday
sm all faith com m unity that gathers w eekly to celebrate
w orship is at 10 am; church school for children runs
Euchanst at Bridgeport United C hurch of C hnst. A
(2941 NE Ainsworth St 503 284 8767
auccQteieport com X 7/04)
w elcom ing congregation. Catholic m tradition and
concurrently
Anawim Community of gay men m eets w eekly for
C hnstian m editation and prayer (730 pm Thursday
503 28t-0722X T 103)
Atkinson Memorial Church is a Unitarian
Um versahst w elcom ing congregation m O re go n C ity
(710 Sixth St 503 656 7296
www atkinsonchurch.com 1(7/03)
Bridgeport United Church of Christ is a commu
mty of progressive, political people exploring and cete
bratmg the Chnstian faith W e are sexual m inonty and
straight, multicultural and multiracial, and our children
(10 30 am Sunday 621 NE 76th
Ave 503 258 0992 www bndgeportucc org X T !03)
are valued m em bers
The City Church Portland's "old e st gay affirming
C hnstian church," offers a spin! driven church for
today s diverse generations (10 am Sunday commu
nion and worship service. 6 30 pm Sunday worship
service. 7 pm Wednesday Bible study 3830 SE 62nd
Ave 503-775-5024 7(7/03)
Congregation Neveh Shalom an open and pro
gressrve C onservative Jew ish synagogue, extends a
warm w elcom e to all sexual m inorities Shabbat serv
ice s 8:15 pm Friday and 9 am Saturday
(2900 SW
Peaceful Lane 503 246-8831XT/03)
Congregation P'nai O r (Faces of Light) is a
vibrant, egalitarian. Jew ish Renew al congregation in
Portland M e e ts several tim es a month in van o u s loca
(PO Box 42187. Portland. OR 97242 0187
503-248-4500 www pnaiorpdx org ) (7/03)
tions
Dignity Portland m eets for M a ss on Su n d a ys
(503 262 6947X7/03)
Eaatrose Fellowship Unitarian Universalist a
Ecum enical m m em bership
(6 pm Sunday 621 NE
76th Ave 5036990473
www komonacommunity org ) (7 /03)
Lesbian Christian Fellowship m eets for study
and social outings Com m itted C h n stian s and stiff
u n su re s w elcom e
(Barbara 503 760-5791 7(7/04)
Longview United Methodist Church is welcom
ing and reconciling (10 am Sunday 2851 30th Ave
360 425 4927) (7/03)
Metanoia Peace Community United
Methodist Church is a ‘ h ouse church" that bnngs
gay and straight together Daily m om m g prayer and
Su n d ay evening w orship (5 03 281-3697
www tearsoup com/metancxa) (7/04)
Metropolitan Community Church of Portland
holds ecum enical Su n d ay m om m g w orship se rvice s at
9 and 11 am Su n d ay school for children is held during
Peace Church of the Brethren is a w elcom ing
(11 am Sunday 12727 SE Market St
503 254 6380 7 (7/04)
congregation
the family of G od Su n d ay w orship at 10 15 am; Adult
Education at 9 am; children and youth at 10 30 am
W ednesday Prayers 6 6 30 pm
(27400 SE Stark St
503 661 4520X7/03)
m tergenerational services and rekgw us education for
children It w elcom es gay. lesbian, tx and trans mem
bers Nurtures spintual growth and prom otes Irving by
(4 pm Sunday
3915 SE Steele St 503 777 3704
www wyeast pnwd uua org) (7/03)
Unitarian Universalist principles
Zion United Church of Christ an open and
affirming congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, bi.
trans and heterosexual people w ho w ish to w orship m
a Chnst-centered. warm, carmg. multiage/race/cultural
( II am Sunday 2025 NE 23rd Ave,
Gresham 503 665 8741.) (7103)
faith com m unity
Washington: Spirituality
Abundant Life Center is A N ew Thought
Com m unity for spintual aw akening and transform ing
lives through love A safe place w here children team
Thought, uplifting, refreshing and exciting place of wor
to em body spintual pnncipies
stop Becom e a minister m our ministerial program
(10 am Sunday
10006 NE Ninth Ave . Vancouver 3605732626 )
(10 am Sunday Cal for location 503 777-0727)17/03)
(7/03)
Portland Church of Religious Science is a lib
East Vancouver United Methodist Church is
reconciling and w elcom ing (10 am Sunday
5701 MacArthur BNd 3606934761
ourclarkcounty Columbian com/273/ 7(7/03)
eral. open, p ro gre ssive N ew Thought com m unity w el
com ing everyone to discover the spint within C hange
your thinking, change your life1 (10 am Sunday medita
tion. 1030 am service and /umor church. 630 pm
Wednesday prayer circle 3983 NE 112th Ave
503261 0677)17/03)
with potlucks and circles at the full m oon and the new
encourages all people in finding a place o f belonging in
Mfy'east Unitarian Universalist Congregation
is an open and liberal rekgw us com m unity offenng
Portland Center for Spiritual Growth is a New
(1030 am Sunday
1133 NE 181st Ave , Gresham 503665 2628
eastroseGteleport com w ww eastrose org 7 (7/04)
com m unity of C h n stian s in Troutdale that values and
Wfaveriy Heights U C C is open and affirm ing with
(10 am
Sunday 3300 SE Woodward St 503 238 1337
www wavedyucc org 7 (7/04)
w orshp, children s school and ch id care
(2400 NE Broadway
503 281 8868 mfoQmccportland com 7 (7 /03)
Portland Radical Faeries meet twice a month
Faith United Methodist Church is a w elcom ing
am Sunday 3915 SE Steele St The
Rev Wendy Joy Woodworth 503 7773901 7(7/03)
the 11 am w orship service
w elcom ing congregation, offers Sunday service and
children's religious education
Trinity United Methodist Church s an open
m oon O pen to all men seeking alternative spintual
grow th and com m unity C offee hours start 9 30 am
Saturdays at 3 Fnends Coffeehouse. 201 S E 12th
A ve
(503 2350826 otterQpcez com 7 (7/04)
Seventh-Day Adventist Kinship is a support
for L G B T people, their fam ilies and
fnends (PO Box 7320. Laguna Niguel. CA 92607-
7320 866 7325677 officeQsdakinship org
www sdakmship org 7 (7/04)
organization
First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open and
SisterSpirit offers w om en's spintuality celebrations,
affirm ing liberal religious com m unity offenng a wide
d iscu ssio n groups, a drum m ing circle, w orksh ops and
range of program s to nurture spintual growth, com m u
c la sse s Schedule of events available All wom en are
nity and social justice Su n day service 9 and 11 am
w elcom e
First Congregational Church United C hurch of
Chnst. holds services m an open and affirming congre
(1000 am Sunday worsNp. 11 15 am adult
education 1220 NE 68th S t . Vancouver
360-693-1476 vanuccffaolcom. 7(7/04)
gation
God's Holy Territory is a charism atic. |oy filled
w orship experience m Vancouver w here everyone is
(I I am
Sunday service Bible study 7 pm Thursdays, except
third Thursday 1500 NE 49th St 360885 9461
pastor&godsholytemtory com.) (7 /04)
w elcom e gay. lesbian, bi. trans and straight
Metropolitan Community Church of the
Gentle Shepherd m Vancouver w elcom es you
(1030 am and 630 pm Sunday worship. 9 am Sunday
Bible study 2200 Broadway The Rev Harriet
Barshofsky 360 695 1480X7/03)
(1011 SW 12th Ave 503 2286389
www firstumtananportland org.) (7/03)
(Suite 102. 3430 SE Belmont St Mailing
address PO Box 9246. Portland, OR 97207
503- 736-3297 sistersp&teleport com 7(7/04)
Michael Servetus Unitarian Universalist
Fellowship a W elcom ing Congregation, provides a
hom e for the liberal religious spint (9 15 and 11 am
Sunday 4505 E 18th St . Vancouver 360695 1891)
First United Methodist Church of Portland, a
w elcom ing and reconciling congregation, believes no
Spirit Circle is for lesbian, bi or trans w om en seek
(7/03)
mg a w elcom ing com m unity m the Catholic church
one is left out in G o d 's family Sexual m inonty potlucks
M e e ts every third Thursday in the S t Andrew Nativity
(1030 am Sunday 1838 SW Jefferson
St 503-228-3195 www fumcpdx.org H7/03)
School.
held m onthly
(7 pm 806 NE Alberta St
Ibtspmtcirde&yahoo com ) (7/03)
Willamette Valley: Spirituality
Gay and Lesbian Outreach (G ALO ) of S t Philip
Southminster Presbyterian Church is a chal
N en Catholic C hurch celebrates an affirm ing M a s s fol
lengtng. supportive com m unity that w elcom es all peo
First Congregational Church United C hurch of
C hnst is an open and affirming congregation offenng
(730 pm Friday Paulist Center.
2408 SE 16th Ave 503 231 4955 7 (7/03)
ple It is the first M o re Light Presbyterian C hurch m
w orship and church school Child care provided and
O regon Su n day school and nursery care.
(10 am
Sunday 12250 S iV Denney Road. Beaverton
503 644 2073 staffQsouthmm com 7 (7 /03)
wheelchair accessible
St. Andrew Catholic Church invites all to join a
Mom ingside United Methodist Church is a
diverse faith com m unity for prayer and fellow ship
reconciling congregation w here everyone is w elcom e
(9 30 am Sunday 806 NE Alberta St 503 281 4429 )
to participate in the full life of the congregation
(7/03)
and 11 am Sunday. 3674 12th St SE. Salem
503364 5013X7/03)
lowed by a social
Gay M en's Labyrinth Protect m eets quarterly for
a w alking m editation and w isdom circle on the
(Dale 503 233 2026. ext 3
www gaylabynnth org 7 (7/04)
labyrinth
Integrity is a group of sexual m inonty Episcopalians
and friends V an ou s locations throughout O regon
(Bruce Mason 503 2869111 brvcepdxorGattbi com
www mtegntyusa orgMT 103)
Interfaith Spiritual Center h o u se s spintual direc
tors from vanous w orld religious traditions, w ho are
(Second
Floor. 3910 SE 11th Ave 503 233 2026. ext 3
www interfaithspmtualcenter com. 7 (7/03)
available for guidance, c la sse s and retreats
YOUTH
Metro: Youth
(9 am Sunday learning hour.
10 am worship 700 Manon St NE. Salem
503 363 3660X7/03)
(8 30
St. James Lutheran Church a Reconciled in
C h n st congregation, w elcom es all people for tradition
Sacred So u ls ho n o rs all sacred paths, prom otes
al liturgical w orship w here w e experience G o d 's rec
peace and strive s to create an environm ent that
(9 and 11 am
Sunday 1315 SW Park Ave 5032272439 7 (7/03)
the O re go n S ch o o l of M a ssa g e
oncilm g love that se ts all people free
St. Stephen's Episcopal Church has been wel
(12.10 pm Wednesday
com ing all people since 1863
(10 am6 pm Monday-friday 1132 SW 13th Ave.
503-535-3800 www.outsder org)(7/03)
age s
Sexual Minority Youth Reaouree Center, a p ro
supp orts and prom otes interfaith dialogue M e e ts al
(6 3 0 8 pm Sunday
440 Ferry St SE. Salem wholhIthOaol com
www sacredsouls org ) (7/03)
and questioning youth in Eastern O regon
(541-889-3119 or 866248-8369 eoc40eod org
bi. trans
www e o c l o rg 7 (7/047
gram of Caecadia Behavioral Healthcare, offers support
F la v o r s a social support group for sexual m norlty
and recreation to gey. lesbian, bi and trans youth 23 and
youth of color 21 and younger, m eets on w eekends for
food and sociatzlng Regular events and activities
younger O ffers drop-m com puter access, pool tables
Flavors is a protect of Love M a ke s a Family 's MuhlQueer
program and is supported by Brother to Brother (Jaye
in gs includes Trans Youth Group and the creative group
Personal Deity Proxy. (4-8 pm Monday and Wednesday.
Triple Point offers education, support and advocacy
503-2283892 or yayeGbifemrfy orp 7(7/04)
4 pm-midnght Friday and Saturday 2100 SE Belmont
St 503-872-9664. TTY 503-231 9286 www smyrv org.)
Other program s include Clackamas County Sexual
Minority Youth Connection (C O S M Y Q provides
opportunities for queer and questioning youth ages 23
Vancouver. W ash M e e ts 6-8 pm Tuesdays in the
Gay. Lesbian and Straight Education
Network (GLSEN ) fights to end anti-gey bias m
K-12 sch o o ls (12700 SW North Dakota St .
Suite 180. »129. Tigard. OR 97223 503-525-1177
glsenOglsenoregon org www.glsenoregon.org.) (7/04)
The
and an informal place to hang o u t W eekly support meet
social activities O ffers one-on-one support, referrals
and information on H IV and S T D prevention and
provides advocacy to sexual m inonty youth O ffers
resources for adults w ho work with L G 8 T Q youth.
reso u rce s and support m the com m unity and the
(503 969-0060
cosmvcyouth0yahoo.com 7 Pride
school system s, with a fo cu s on support for L G 8 T Q
Project brings together W ashington County queer and
(Jaye 5032283892 or
¡ayeWmlamily org 7 (7/04)
questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social
Outside in operates a clinic for anyone w ho can't qual
ify for the O regon Health Plan a s well a s n e e d s
events A lso information, referral and advocacy services
(Moly 503 260-5792
molyQpndeproiect org.) (7/04)
in W ashington County.
exchange se rv ce s that n d u d e those w ho ryect hor
m ones Can provide transitional houung for youth 20
and younger as w el a s for those H IV + and younger than
23 A lso p isys host to V O IC E S (Voices of Individual and
Com m um ty Empowerment from the Streets), a se lf-sip
port group for queer youth N e e ds volunteers of a l
to gay. lesbian, bi. trans and questioning youth In
basem ent of Youth H ouse. 1112 Colum bia S t In
Vancouver.
(John 369695-1325. 7(7/03)
and younger to get together for free, fun and supportive
MuMQueer a program of Lo ve M a ke s a Family,
youth of color
Washington: Youth
Eastern Oregon: Youth
EMtorvt OnQOfl C tn tii foe tndtp<odint
Living offers support and advocacy to gay. lesbian.
Willamette Valley: Youth
Gay, Lesbian, Bi, Trans ponder and
Questioning Youth Group for age s 13 to 18
offers support. Information arxJ fun m Eugene Free,
confidential, adult facilitated (D rop m 46pm Friday
Amazon Community Center. 2700 hUyerd St
541684-3466) (7/03)
Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender Youth
Group for age s 25 and younger m eets every M onday
In Eugene (5 pm Koinonia Center. 1414 KncaidSl
541 346I I 34.7(7/03)
Rainbow Youth of Salem for kids 21 and younger
m eets twice weekly. (66 pm Tuesday. 4 6 pm
Thursday 600 State St Deni 503930- 7280 7 (7/03)
Oh, the inhumanity!
Back biting ex and h un gry dog
make one bloody mess
D ear M s . B ehavior :
List summer 1 found
out my girlfriend of eight
yean* cheated me out of
a lot of money, i had no
choice hut to break up
with her. Jennifer turned
most of our friends
against me, so I relied
heavily on my family for
support.
['Hiring a recent visit
to my sister, Helen, I
was shocked to see a
card from Jennifer on
the refrigerator. Helen acknowledged
that she’s been in touch with her and
that they’ve even been out for dinner
a few times. (They were never friend
ly when Jennifer and I were together.)
1 don’t understand why my sister
would want to hang out with my dis
honest ex. I told her that her friend
ship with Jennifer was disloyal to me.
She reluctantly stopped seeing her. In
the meantime, 1 received a hateful
e-mail from Jennifer accusing me of
being a “controlling hitch.”
Am 1 wrong to request loyalty
from my sister? Or am I really a con
trolling hitch?
—Confused Sibling
D ear C onfused S ibling :
cleanup, and the knowl
edge of where that tam
pon came from has put
him into a coma.
1 have narrowed
down a list of the pa-
menopausal females at
the event. Would it be
proper to send out a
group e-mail with
iastructions of correct
tampon disposal? If we
do locate the culprit, can
we hill for the trauma
therapy that my partner
will require to make a full recovery?
— Tasty Tampon Household
D ear T asty T ampon H ousehold :
A finger-pointing group e-mail
would not be appropriate. Why blame
the women for the fact that your ill-
behaved dog ate the garbage? What
would you have had the menstruating
woman do with her used tampon?
Flush it down the toilet and ruin your
septic system? Carry it home in her
purse? Eat it herself to spare your dog
and your bed and your boyfriend ?
If two fastidious homosexuals own
a garbage-eating dog, they have sever
al choices:
1. Hire a trainer to deter their dog
from the nasty trash-chomping habit.
2. Purchase a secure, lidded garlwge
can that the dog cannot get into
(which shouldn’t
he too difficult with
a mediocre-1.Q. dog
like, say, a basset
hound; it would
he much harder
with a pixxlle, for
example).
3.
Rush around
dumping the trash
can several times a
day (or at least
immediately after
every party),
attempting to res
cue the luscious
contents before
their canine com
panion devours it.
4.
Be prepared to don a hazardous
materials suit to deal with whatever
mess may turn up on the bed.
Instead of trauma therapy, your
boyfriend might do better with de
sensitization. The therapist could start
with moist vagina-like fruits (e.g., figs
and mangos) and allow your boyfriend
to touch and smell them. Once he
works up to contact with the real
thing, maybe some of your female
friends will he willing to help— if yixj
haven’t already alienated them with
silly accusations.
You’re not insisting that Helen spit
in your ex’s face to prove devotion;
you’re merely asking
her not to cultivate
an active friendship
with your thieving
ex, which seems
reasonable.
Helen and
Jennifer’s new bond
is disturbing. And
Jennifer’s nasty
e-mail reveals that
you’ve spoiled more
than her dinner
plans; you’ve also
interfered with her
scheme to drive a
wedge between you
and your sister.
You might also
wonder about your sister’s motives.
Why, for example, did she post your ex’s
card to her refrigerator? Did guilt lead
her to leave clues so you’d he forced to
squash their burgeoning friendship? Or
did Helen merely display the card to
hug you— in retaliation for the mean
sisterly tortures you inflicted on her
when you were kids?
Name-calling hy an ex should be
ignored. Once relieved of girlfriend
duties, exes frequently also feel
relieved of the obligation to he truth
ful or kind. Never rely on exes for
accurate personality assessments, job
recommendatioas or bikini-line trims.
© Meryl Cohn 2003
D ear M s . B ehavior :
M eryl C ohn is the author of Do What 1
Name-calling
by an ex
should be Ignored.
Once relieved
of girlfriend
duties, exes
frequently also
feel relieved
of the obligation
to be truthful
or kind.
The morning after a recent party,
our basset hound had a picnic on the
bed with a discarded bltxxly tampon.
My boyfriend, who is frightened of vagi
i nas, was forced to do the toxic waste
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Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay and
Lesbian Etiquette (Houghton Mifftm).
Signed copies are available directly from the
author. Send questions or correspondence to
mshehavu rdGlaol. com.