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ADVICE SPIRITUALITY Metro: Spirituality Floor. 3910 SE llth Ave 503233 2026. ext 3 www mteiiaithsßntuäcenter com ) (7/03) oncding love that sets all people free (9 and 11 am Sunday 1315 SW Park Ave 503 227 2439) (7/03) K«sh«t Portland is a group for Jewish members of the sexual mmonties community and their partners, spouses and supporters Monthly social, religious and cultural events (David or Laney 503 226 7079. ext 14) St. Stephen's Episcopal C hurch has been wel coming all people since 1863 (12 10 pm Wednesday A in sw o rth U nited C hurch o f C h rist is a multi racial, multicultural, open and affirm ing church Sunday worship is at 10 am; church school for children runs concurrently (2941 NE Ainsworth St 503284 8767 aucc&teleport com 7 (7/04) (7/03) Anaw im C om m unity of gay men meets weekly for Chnstian meditation and prayer (7 30 pm Thursday small faith community that gathers weekly to celebrate Euchanst at Bridgeport United Church of Chnst A welcoming congregation. Cathokc in tradition and Ecumenical m membership (6 pm Sunday 621 NE 503 281 0722) Ü 703) Atkinson Memorial Church is a Unitanan Universalist welcoming congregation in Oregon City (710 Sixth St 503 656 7296 www atkmsonchurch com ) (7/03) B rid g e p o rt U nited C h urch o f C h ris t is a com mumty of progressive, political people explonng and celebrating the Chnstian faith We are sexual mmonty and straight, m ulticultural and multiracial, and our chil dren are valued members (1030am Sunday 621 NE 76th Ave 503 258 0992 www bndgeportucc o rg ) (7/03) The C ity Church. Portland's ’ oldest gay affirming Chnstian church." offers a spint-dnven church for today's diverse generations (10 am Sunday commu nion and worship service, 63 0 pm Sunday worship service, 7 pm Wednesday Bible study 3830 SE 62nd Ave 503-775-5024)(7103) C ongregation Neveh Shalom in open and pro gressive Conservative Jewish synagogue, extends a warm welcome to all sexual m inorities Shabbat serv ices 8 15 pm Fnday and 9 am Saturday (2900 SW Peaceful Lane 503 246 8 8 3 0 (7 /0 3 ) C ongregation P'nai O r (Faces of Light) is a vibrant, egalitarian. Jewish Renewal congregation in Portland M eets several times a month in vanous loca tions (PO Box 42187 Portland. OR 97242 0187 503-248 4500 www pnatorpdx o rg 7 (7/03) D ig n ity P ortla nd meets for Mass on Sundays (503 262 6947 7(7/03) Eastrose F ello w sh ip U n itaria n U n ive rsa list a welcoming congregation, offers Sunday service and children s religious education (1030 am Sunday 1133 NE 181st Ave . Gresham 503 665 2628 eastroseúteleport com www eastrose o rg 7 (7/04) Faith U nited M e th o d ist C hurch >$ a welcoming community of Chnstians m Troutdale that values and encourages all people in finding a place of belonging in the family of God Sunday worship at 10 15 am. Adult Education at 9 am. children and youth at 10 30 am Wednesday Prayers 6 6 30 pm (27400 SE Stark St 503 661 4520 H 7103) First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open and affirming liberal religious community offenng a wide range of programs to nurture spmtual growth, community and social justice Sunday service 9 and 11 am (1011 SW 12thAve 5032286389 wwwhrstunitananportlandorg) (7/03) F irst United M e th o d ist C hurch of Portland, a welcoming and reconciling congregation, believes no one is left out in God's family Sexual mmonty potlucks held monthly (10 30 am Sunday 1838 SW Jefferson St 503-228 3195 www fumcpdx o rg 7 (7/03) Gay and Lesbian O utreach (G ALO ) of St Philip Nen Catholic Church celebrates an affirm ing Mass fol lowed by a social (7 30 pm Fnday Paulist Center. 2408 SE 16th Ave 503 231 4955 7 (7/03) Gay Men's Labyrinth P roject meets quarterly for a walking meditation and wisdom circle on the labynnth (Dale 503 233 2026, ext 3 www gaylabynnth org) K oinonia C atholic C om m unity 13 a progressive, 76th Ave 503 699 0473 www koinoniacommunityorg) (7/03) Lesbian C h ristian F ellow ship meets for study and social outings Committed Chnstians and still unsures welcome (Barbara 503-760-5791 7(7/04) Longview U nited M etho dist C hurch is welcom mg and reconciling (10 am Sunday 2851 30th Ave 360 425 49273(7/03) M etanoia Peace C om m unity United M etho dist C hurch is a ’ house church’ that brings gay and straight together Daily morning prayer and Sunday evening worship (5 03-2813697 www tearsoup com/metanoia) (7104) M e tro p o lita n C om m unity C hurch o f P ortland holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at 9 and 11 am Sunday school for children is held dunng the 11 am worship service (2400 NE Broadway P ortland Center fo r S piritual G row th is a New Thought, uplifting, refreshing and exciting place of wor ship Become a minister m our ministenal program (10 am Sunday Call for location 503-7770727)( 7/03) P ortla nd C hurch of Religious Science is a lib eral. open, progressive New Thought community wel coming everyone to discover the spint within Change your thinking, change your life 1 (10 am Sunday medita tion. 1030 am service and ¡umor church. 63 0 pm Wednesday prayer circle 3983 NE 112th Ave 503 261 -0677)(7103) P ortla nd Radical Faeries meet twice a month with potlucks and circles at the full moon and the new moon Open to all men seeking alternative spiritual growth and community Coffee hours start 9 30 am Saturdays at 3 Fnends Coffeehouse. 201 SE 12th Ave (503-235-0826 otterUpcez com ) (7/04) Seventh-Day A d ve n tist K in ship >s a support organization for LGBT people, their families and fnends (PO Box 7320. Laguna Niguel. CA 92607 7320 866 732 5677 office@sdakmship org www sdakmship org) (7/04) S is te rS p irit offers women s spintuality celebrations, discussion groups, a dramming circle, workshops and classes Schedule of events available All women are welcome (Suite 102. 3430 SE Belmont St Mailing address PO Box 9246 Portland. OR 97207. 503- 736-3297 sisterspQteleport com ) (7/04) S ou thm in ste r Presbyterian C hurch is a chal lenging. supportive community that welcomes all peo ple It is the first More Light Presbytenan Church in Oregon Sunday school and nursery care (10am (7/04) Sunday 12250 SW Denney Road. Beaverton 503 644-2073 staff&southmm com 7 (7/03) In te g rity is a group of sexual mmonty Episcopalians St. Andrew Catholic Church invites aU to join a and fnends Vanous locations throughout Oregon diverse faith community for prayer and fellowship (Bruce Mason 503 286 9111. brucepdxoiGattbi com www mtegnryusa org 7 (7/03) <9 30 am Sunday 806 NE Alberta St 503 281 4429 7 (7/03) In te rfa ith S p iritu a l C enter houses spiritual direc tors from vanous world religious traditions, who are available for guidance, classes and retreats (Second St. James Lutheran Church a Reconciled in Chnst congregation, welcomes all people for tradition al. liturgical worship where we expenence God s rec- YOUTH Metro: Youth Flavors a social support group for sexual mmonty youth of color 21 and younger, meets on weekends for food and socializing Regular events and activities Flavors is a project of Love Makes a Family's MuldQueer program and is supported by Brother to Brother. (Jaye 5032283892 or / aye&mfamrfy org 7 (7/04) The Gay. Lasbian and S traight Education N etw ork (GLSEN) fights to end anti gay bias m K-12 schools (12700 SW North Dakota S t. Suite 180 0 129. Tigard. OR 97223 503-525-1177 glsenOglsenoregon org www glsenoregon org 7 (7/04) M ultiQ ueer. a program of Love Makes a Family, provides advocacy to sexual mmonty youth O ffers resources and support m the community and the school systems, with a focus on support fo r LGBTQ youth o f color (Jaye 503-228-3892 or ¡Bye&lmfamfy org) (7/04) O u t« id « In operates a clime fo r anyone who can't qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as needle exchange services that include those who inject hor mones Can provide transitional housing for youth 20 and younger as well as for those HIV+ and younger than 23. Also plays host to VOICES (Voices of Individual and Community Empowerment from the Streets), a self-support group for queer youth Needs volunteers of all ages ( 10 am-6 pm Monday-Fnday T rinity United M ethodist C hurch is an open Chnstian community where faith and kfe intersect All invited1 (1030 am Sunday 3915 SE Steele St The Rev Wendy Joy Woodworth 503 7773901 7(7/03) W averly Heights UCC is open and affirming with worship, children s school and child care (10 am Sunday 3300 SE Woodward St 503 238 1337 www waverfyucc org 7(7/04) W y'east U nitarian U n iversa list Congregation is an open and liberal religious community offenng mtergenerational services and religious education for children It welcomes gay. lesbian, bi and trans mem bers Nurtures spmtual growth and promotes living by Unitanan Universalist pnnciples (4 pm Sunday 3915 SE Steele St 503 777-3704 www w yeast pnwd uua org 7 (7/03) Zion U nited Church o f C h rist an open and affirming congregation, is open to gay, lesbian, bi trans and heterosexual people who wish to worship in a Chnst centered, waim, canng. m ultiage/race/cultural faith community ( I I am Sunday 2025 NE 23rd A ve. Gresham 503 665 8 741 7 (7/03) Washington: Spirituality Abundant Life Center is A New Thought Community for spmtual awakening and transforming kves through love A safe place where children team to embody spmtual pnnciples (10 am Sunday 10006 NE Ninth Ave. Vancouver 360-573 2626 7(7/03) East Vancouver U nited M etho dist C hurch is reconciling and welcoming (10 am Sunday 5701 MacArthur Btvd 360 693 4761 ourclarkcounty Columbian com /273/ 7 (7/03) F irst C ongregational C hurch United Church of Chnst. holds services in an open and affirming congre gation (10 00 am Sunday worship. 11 15 am adult education 1220 NE 68th St . Vancouver 3606931476 vanucc@aol com 7(7/04) God's Holy T erritory is a chansmatic. joy filled worship expenence in Vancouver where everyone is welcome gay, lesbian, bi. trans and straight (I I am Sunday service Bible study 7 pm Thursdays, except third Thursday I500NE 49th St 360 885 9461 pastorQgodsholylemtory com 7 (7/03) M e trop olita n Com m unity C hurch o f the Gentle Shepherd in Vancouver welcomes you (1030 am and 630 pm Sunday worship. 9 am Sunday Bible study 2200 Broadway The Rev Harriet Barshofsky 360695 1480 7 (7/03) Michael Servetus Unitarian Universalist Fellowship a Welcoming Congregation, provides a home for the liberal religious spin! (9 15 and I I am Sunday 4505 E 18th S t. Vancouver 360695 1891 7(7/03) S p irit C ircle is for lesbian, bi or trans women seek ing a welcoming community in the Catholic church M eets every third Thursday in the St Andrew Nativity School (7 pm 806 NE Alberta St IbtspmtcircleQyahoo com .) (7/03) 1132 SW 13th Ave 503535-3800 www.outsidem org ) (7/03) Sexual M in o rity Youth Resource C enter a program of Cascadw Behavioral HealthCare, offers support and recreation to gay. lesbian, bi and trans youth 23 and younger. Programs include; Willamette Valley: Spirituality First Congregational Church United Church of Chnst is an open and affirming congregation offenng wor ship and church school Child care provided and wheel chair accessible (9 am Sunday learning hour. 10 am wor ship 700 Manor St NE. Salem 503 363 3660) (7/03) Momingside United Methodist Church is a recon cikng congregation where everyone is welcome to partici pate m the full life of the congregation (830 and I I am Sunday 3674 12th St SE. Salem 503 364 5013 7 (7/03) Sacred Souls honors all sacred paths, promotes peace and strives to create an environment that supports and promotes mterfaith dialogue Meets at the Oregon School of Massage (6308 pm Sunday 440 Ferry St SE. Salem wboINthQaolcom wwwsacredsouls org 7(7/03) Living offers support and advocacy to gay. lesbian, bt. trans and questioning youth In Eastern Oregon (541-8893119 or 866248 8369 eocMieocil.org. wwweocitorg 7 (7/04) C lackam as C ounty Sexual M in o rity Youth C onnection (CO SM YC) provides opportunities for Washington: Youth queer and questioning youth 23 and younger to get together fo r free, fun arid supportive social activities Also offers one on-one support, referrals and informa tion on HIV and STD prevention, and resources for adults who work with LGBTQ youth (503-9690060 cosmycyouthQyahoo. com ) P ride P roject brings together Washington County queer and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social events. Also inform ation, referral and advocacy services in Washington County (Molly 503 260-5792. moUyQpndeproiect org 1 SMYRC also offers drop-in computer access, pool tables and an informal place to hang out W eekly youth support groups «eludes Trans Youth Group and the creative group Personal Deity Proxy (4 8 pm Monday and Wednesday. 4 pm- T riple P oint offers education, support and advocacy to gay. lesbian, bf. trans and questioning youth in Vancouver. Wash Meets 6-8 pm Tuesdays m the basement of Youth House, 1112 Columbia St. in Vancouver. (John 360695 1325.) (7/03) Willamette Valley: Youth Gay, Lesbian, BI, Transgendar and Q uestioning Youth G roup for ages 13 to 16 offers support, information and fun m Eugene Free, confidential, adult facilitated (Drop in 4-6 pm Fnday. Amazon Community Center. 2700 httyard St rmdnight Friday and Saturday 2100 SE Belmont St 541-684 3466) (7/03) 503-872-9664 TTY503-23l-9286wwwsmyrc.org.) Lasbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgander Youth Group for ages 25 and younger meets every Monday in Eugene. (5 pm Komonia Center. 1414 Kincaid S i 541 346- I I 34 7 (7/03) (7/0 4 ) Eastern Oregon: Youth Eastern Oregon Center for Independent Photo finish and 7 45 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and child care at 10 am Southwest 13th Avenue at Clay Street 503 223 6424 7(7/03) 503 281 8868 mfo&mccportland com 1(7/03) Peace C hurch o f the B rethren is a welcoming congregation ( I I am Sunday 12727 SE Market St 503 254 6 3 8 0 )( 7/04) ▼ Rainbow Youth of Salem for kids 21 and younger meets twice weekly. (6-8 pm Tuesday. 4-6 pm Thursday 600 State St. Dan 503-930- 7260.) (7/03) When your Internet girlfriend isn’t what you envisioned D ear M s . B ehavior : 1 met a woman I’ll call Adrienne through an online personal ad and real ly like her. She final ly scanned her photo and sent it to me and, much to my dis may, I don’t find her at all attractive. 1 am so hummed out. Adrienne is not “ ugly,’’ hut she’s real ly not my type. 1 don’t think of myself as shallow, hut I do believe chemistry is a necessary ingredient in a relationship. I’d love to meet her and he friends, hut I’m not thinking about kissing her anymore. Should I tell her now that I’m not romantically interested any more? I’m afraid it will he obvious that it’s because I saw her photograph, and I don’t want to he hurtful. My friends tell me that I shouldn’t meet her to try to he friends because we all have enough friends, and I shouldn’t waste her time or mine. But Adrienne is way more interesting than they are. What should I do? — Emily the Terrible D ear E mily the T errible : You may need a few new friends to supplement the apparently dull ones you have now, and Adrienne might he a gixxl bet. But what’s your nish in reject ing her as a prospec tive date? There’s nothing wrong with waiting until you meet in person to conclude that someone is not your type. Chemistry is a beautiful thing, hut it arises from more than just a flat image. It depends on things like touch and mannerisms and pheromones and even on huskiness o f voice and lus ciousness o f smell, which is way more sensory information than you can get in the form o f a photograph. If you like someone's personality and sense o f humor and way o f being in the world but they’re not your type, yes, that’s gixxl grounds for sticking to nothing more or less than friendship. But, occasionally, someone who d<x_\sn’t appear to be your type will exude a scent that drives you wild, and friendship won’t he enough for you. You’ll have to have her. You can’t make it happen and neither can she; it just has to he there. You’ll know, because you won’t he able to stop licking her neck. breakfast with friends, we were talking about ex lovers who are now "straight.” G reg m entioned that his old hand some boyfriend N athan (w h o is now married to a woman hut still fools around with m en ) lives in the town w e’re m oving to. 1 became so anxious that I drank lour cos mopolitans! G reg said that my feeling worried is ridiculous and that he has no inter est in Nathan. But Nathan was G reg’s most significant boyfriend until I came along, and Greg happened to mention in the past that he and Nathan had “amazing sex.” During the entire year o f planning our move, why do you suppose Greg neglected to mention that we’re m ov ing to Nathan’s hometown? I’m not sure I want to move anymore. A m I really just being “ ridiculous” ? — D on’t Want to Play the F<x)l D ear D o n ’ t W a n t to P lay the F o o l : A re you anxious because you think Greg plans to meet Nathan for a drink, talk about old times, unzip Nathan’s pants and remind him o f why he used to he gay? Have you asked Greg directly about whether he plans to even see him? Talking about it for a while should give you some sense o f G reg’s intentions or at least how honest he’s prepared to he. You haven’t said what city you’re m oving to, but hopefully it will he big enough for the three o f you. You and G reg need to talk about how each one o f you feels about monogamy, which will help you to assess whether your feelings o f in security are based in reality or in your own neurotic little mind. Either way, you can’t protect against infidelity by staying where you live now. Your boyfriend, if he wanted to, could have sex with someone else in your hom etown or even on your chenille sofa while you’re out buying a hagel and a newspaper. She finally scanned h er photo and sent It to m e and, m uch to m y dismay, I don't find h er at all attractive D ear M s . B ehavior : After a year o f planning, my boyfriend, Greg, and I are moving : together to a new city. Today during jn © Meryl Cohn 2003 M E R Y L C o h n is the author o f D o What I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay and Lesbian Etiquette (Houghton Mifflm). Signed copies are available directly from the author. Send questions or correspondence to msbehavtor@aol com.
