ADVICE
SPIRITUALITY
Metro: Spirituality
Floor. 3910 SE llth Ave 503233 2026. ext 3
www mteiiaithsßntuäcenter com ) (7/03)
oncding love that sets all people free (9 and 11 am
Sunday 1315 SW Park Ave 503 227 2439) (7/03)
K«sh«t Portland is a group for Jewish members of
the sexual mmonties community and their partners,
spouses and supporters Monthly social, religious and
cultural events (David or Laney 503 226 7079. ext 14)
St. Stephen's Episcopal C hurch has been wel
coming all people since 1863 (12 10 pm Wednesday
A in sw o rth U nited C hurch o f C h rist is a multi
racial, multicultural, open and affirm ing church Sunday
worship is at 10 am; church school for children runs
concurrently (2941 NE Ainsworth St 503284 8767
aucc&teleport com 7 (7/04)
(7/03)
Anaw im C om m unity of gay men meets weekly for
Chnstian meditation and prayer (7 30 pm Thursday
small faith community that gathers weekly to celebrate
Euchanst at Bridgeport United Church of Chnst A
welcoming congregation. Cathokc in tradition and
Ecumenical m membership (6 pm Sunday 621 NE
503 281 0722) Ü 703)
Atkinson Memorial Church is a Unitanan
Universalist welcoming congregation in Oregon City
(710 Sixth St 503 656 7296
www atkmsonchurch com ) (7/03)
B rid g e p o rt U nited C h urch o f C h ris t is a com
mumty of progressive, political people explonng and
celebrating the Chnstian faith We are sexual mmonty
and straight, m ulticultural and multiracial, and our chil
dren are valued members (1030am Sunday 621 NE
76th Ave 503 258 0992 www bndgeportucc o rg )
(7/03)
The C ity Church. Portland's ’ oldest gay affirming
Chnstian church." offers a spint-dnven church for
today's diverse generations (10 am Sunday commu
nion and worship service, 63 0 pm Sunday worship
service, 7 pm Wednesday Bible study 3830 SE 62nd
Ave 503-775-5024)(7103)
C ongregation Neveh Shalom in open and pro
gressive Conservative Jewish synagogue, extends a
warm welcome to all sexual m inorities Shabbat serv
ices 8 15 pm Fnday and 9 am Saturday (2900 SW
Peaceful Lane 503 246 8 8 3 0 (7 /0 3 )
C ongregation P'nai O r (Faces of Light) is a
vibrant, egalitarian. Jewish Renewal congregation in
Portland M eets several times a month in vanous loca
tions (PO Box 42187 Portland. OR 97242 0187
503-248 4500 www pnatorpdx o rg 7 (7/03)
D ig n ity P ortla nd meets for Mass on Sundays
(503 262 6947 7(7/03)
Eastrose F ello w sh ip U n itaria n U n ive rsa list a
welcoming congregation, offers Sunday service and
children s religious education (1030 am Sunday
1133 NE 181st Ave . Gresham 503 665 2628
eastroseúteleport com www eastrose o rg 7 (7/04)
Faith U nited M e th o d ist C hurch >$ a welcoming
community of Chnstians m Troutdale that values and
encourages all people in finding a place of belonging in
the family of God Sunday worship at 10 15 am. Adult
Education at 9 am. children and youth at 10 30 am
Wednesday Prayers 6 6 30 pm (27400 SE Stark St
503 661 4520 H 7103)
First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open and
affirming liberal religious community offenng a wide range
of programs to nurture spmtual growth, community and
social justice Sunday service 9 and 11 am (1011 SW
12thAve 5032286389 wwwhrstunitananportlandorg)
(7/03)
F irst United M e th o d ist C hurch of Portland, a
welcoming and reconciling congregation, believes no
one is left out in God's family Sexual mmonty potlucks
held monthly (10 30 am Sunday 1838 SW Jefferson
St 503-228 3195 www fumcpdx o rg 7 (7/03)
Gay and Lesbian O utreach (G ALO ) of St Philip
Nen Catholic Church celebrates an affirm ing Mass fol
lowed by a social (7 30 pm Fnday Paulist Center.
2408 SE 16th Ave 503 231 4955 7 (7/03)
Gay Men's Labyrinth P roject meets quarterly for a
walking meditation and wisdom circle on the labynnth
(Dale 503 233 2026, ext 3 www gaylabynnth org)
K oinonia C atholic C om m unity 13 a progressive,
76th Ave 503 699 0473
www koinoniacommunityorg) (7/03)
Lesbian C h ristian F ellow ship meets for study
and social outings Committed Chnstians and still
unsures welcome (Barbara 503-760-5791 7(7/04)
Longview U nited M etho dist C hurch is welcom
mg and reconciling (10 am Sunday 2851 30th Ave
360 425 49273(7/03)
M etanoia Peace C om m unity United
M etho dist C hurch is a ’ house church’ that brings
gay and straight together Daily morning prayer and
Sunday evening worship (5 03-2813697
www tearsoup com/metanoia) (7104)
M e tro p o lita n C om m unity C hurch o f P ortland
holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at
9 and 11 am Sunday school for children is held dunng
the 11 am worship service (2400 NE Broadway
P ortland Center fo r S piritual G row th is a New
Thought, uplifting, refreshing and exciting place of wor
ship Become a minister m our ministenal program
(10 am Sunday Call for location 503-7770727)( 7/03)
P ortla nd C hurch of Religious Science is a lib
eral. open, progressive New Thought community wel
coming everyone to discover the spint within Change
your thinking, change your life 1 (10 am Sunday medita
tion. 1030 am service and ¡umor church. 63 0 pm
Wednesday prayer circle 3983 NE 112th Ave
503 261 -0677)(7103)
P ortla nd Radical Faeries meet twice a month
with potlucks and circles at the full moon and the new
moon Open to all men seeking alternative spiritual
growth and community Coffee hours start 9 30 am
Saturdays at 3 Fnends Coffeehouse. 201 SE 12th
Ave (503-235-0826 otterUpcez com ) (7/04)
Seventh-Day A d ve n tist K in ship >s a support
organization for LGBT people, their families and
fnends (PO Box 7320. Laguna Niguel. CA 92607
7320 866 732 5677 office@sdakmship org
www sdakmship org) (7/04)
S is te rS p irit offers women s spintuality celebrations,
discussion groups, a dramming circle, workshops and
classes Schedule of events available All women are
welcome (Suite 102. 3430 SE Belmont St Mailing
address PO Box 9246 Portland. OR 97207.
503- 736-3297 sisterspQteleport com ) (7/04)
S ou thm in ste r Presbyterian C hurch is a chal
lenging. supportive community that welcomes all peo
ple It is the first More Light Presbytenan Church in
Oregon Sunday school and nursery care (10am
(7/04)
Sunday 12250 SW Denney Road. Beaverton
503 644-2073 staff&southmm com 7 (7/03)
In te g rity is a group of sexual mmonty Episcopalians
St. Andrew Catholic Church invites aU to join a
and fnends Vanous locations throughout Oregon
diverse faith community for prayer and fellowship
(Bruce Mason 503 286 9111. brucepdxoiGattbi com
www mtegnryusa org 7 (7/03)
<9 30 am Sunday 806 NE Alberta St 503 281 4429 7
(7/03)
In te rfa ith S p iritu a l C enter houses spiritual direc
tors from vanous world religious traditions, who are
available for guidance, classes and retreats (Second
St. James Lutheran Church a Reconciled in
Chnst congregation, welcomes all people for tradition
al. liturgical worship where we expenence God s rec-
YOUTH
Metro: Youth
Flavors a social support group for sexual mmonty
youth of color 21 and younger, meets on weekends for
food and socializing Regular events and activities
Flavors is a project of Love Makes a Family's MuldQueer
program and is supported by Brother to Brother. (Jaye
5032283892 or / aye&mfamrfy org 7 (7/04)
The Gay. Lasbian and S traight Education
N etw ork (GLSEN) fights to end anti gay bias m K-12
schools (12700 SW North Dakota S t. Suite 180
0 129. Tigard. OR 97223 503-525-1177
glsenOglsenoregon org www glsenoregon org 7 (7/04)
M ultiQ ueer. a program of Love Makes a Family,
provides advocacy to sexual mmonty youth O ffers
resources and support m the community and the
school systems, with a focus on support fo r LGBTQ
youth o f color (Jaye 503-228-3892 or
¡Bye&lmfamfy org) (7/04)
O u t« id « In operates a clime fo r anyone who can't
qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as needle
exchange services that include those who inject hor
mones Can provide transitional housing for youth 20
and younger as well as for those HIV+ and younger
than 23. Also plays host to VOICES (Voices of
Individual and Community Empowerment from the
Streets), a self-support group for queer youth Needs
volunteers of all ages ( 10 am-6 pm Monday-Fnday
T rinity United M ethodist C hurch is an open
Chnstian community where faith and kfe intersect All
invited1 (1030 am Sunday 3915 SE Steele St The
Rev Wendy Joy Woodworth 503 7773901 7(7/03)
W averly Heights UCC is open and affirming with
worship, children s school and child care (10 am
Sunday 3300 SE Woodward St 503 238 1337
www waverfyucc org 7(7/04)
W y'east U nitarian U n iversa list Congregation
is an open and liberal religious community offenng
mtergenerational services and religious education for
children It welcomes gay. lesbian, bi and trans mem
bers Nurtures spmtual growth and promotes living by
Unitanan Universalist pnnciples (4 pm Sunday
3915 SE Steele St 503 777-3704
www w yeast pnwd uua org 7 (7/03)
Zion U nited Church o f C h rist an open and
affirming congregation, is open to gay, lesbian, bi
trans and heterosexual people who wish to worship in
a Chnst centered, waim, canng. m ultiage/race/cultural
faith community ( I I am Sunday 2025 NE 23rd A ve.
Gresham 503 665 8 741 7 (7/03)
Washington: Spirituality
Abundant Life Center is A New Thought
Community for spmtual awakening and transforming
kves through love A safe place where children team to
embody spmtual pnnciples (10 am Sunday 10006 NE
Ninth Ave. Vancouver 360-573 2626 7(7/03)
East Vancouver U nited M etho dist C hurch is
reconciling and welcoming (10 am Sunday
5701 MacArthur Btvd 360 693 4761
ourclarkcounty Columbian com /273/ 7 (7/03)
F irst C ongregational C hurch United Church of
Chnst. holds services in an open and affirming congre
gation (10 00 am Sunday worship. 11 15 am adult
education 1220 NE 68th St . Vancouver
3606931476 vanucc@aol com 7(7/04)
God's Holy T erritory is a chansmatic. joy filled
worship expenence in Vancouver where everyone is
welcome gay, lesbian, bi. trans and straight (I I am
Sunday service Bible study 7 pm Thursdays, except
third Thursday I500NE 49th St 360 885 9461
pastorQgodsholylemtory com 7 (7/03)
M e trop olita n Com m unity C hurch o f the
Gentle Shepherd in Vancouver welcomes you
(1030 am and 630 pm Sunday worship. 9 am Sunday
Bible study 2200 Broadway The Rev Harriet
Barshofsky 360695 1480 7 (7/03)
Michael Servetus Unitarian Universalist
Fellowship a Welcoming Congregation, provides a home
for the liberal religious spin! (9 15 and I I am Sunday
4505 E 18th S t. Vancouver 360695 1891 7(7/03)
S p irit C ircle is for lesbian, bi or trans women seek
ing a welcoming community in the Catholic church
M eets every third Thursday in the St Andrew Nativity
School (7 pm 806 NE Alberta St
IbtspmtcircleQyahoo com .) (7/03)
1132 SW 13th Ave 503535-3800
www.outsidem org ) (7/03)
Sexual M in o rity Youth Resource C enter a
program of Cascadw Behavioral HealthCare, offers
support and recreation to gay. lesbian, bi and trans
youth 23 and younger. Programs include;
Willamette Valley: Spirituality
First Congregational Church United Church of
Chnst is an open and affirming congregation offenng wor
ship and church school Child care provided and wheel
chair accessible (9 am Sunday learning hour. 10 am wor
ship 700 Manor St NE. Salem 503 363 3660) (7/03)
Momingside United Methodist Church is a recon
cikng congregation where everyone is welcome to partici
pate m the full life of the congregation (830 and I I am
Sunday 3674 12th St SE. Salem 503 364 5013 7 (7/03)
Sacred Souls honors all sacred paths, promotes peace
and strives to create an environment that supports and
promotes mterfaith dialogue Meets at the Oregon School
of Massage (6308 pm Sunday 440 Ferry St SE.
Salem wboINthQaolcom wwwsacredsouls org 7(7/03)
Living offers support and advocacy to gay. lesbian,
bt. trans and questioning youth In Eastern Oregon
(541-8893119 or 866248 8369 eocMieocil.org.
wwweocitorg 7 (7/04)
C lackam as C ounty Sexual M in o rity Youth
C onnection (CO SM YC) provides opportunities for
Washington: Youth
queer and questioning youth 23 and younger to get
together fo r free, fun arid supportive social activities
Also offers one on-one support, referrals and informa
tion on HIV and STD prevention, and resources for
adults who work with LGBTQ youth (503-9690060
cosmycyouthQyahoo. com ) P ride P roject brings
together Washington County queer and questioning
youth to plan and attend monthly social events. Also
inform ation, referral and advocacy services in
Washington County (Molly 503 260-5792.
moUyQpndeproiect org 1 SMYRC also offers drop-in
computer access, pool tables and an informal place to
hang out W eekly youth support groups «eludes Trans
Youth Group and the creative group Personal Deity
Proxy (4 8 pm Monday and Wednesday. 4 pm-
T riple P oint offers education, support and advocacy
to gay. lesbian, bf. trans and questioning youth in
Vancouver. Wash Meets 6-8 pm Tuesdays m the
basement of Youth House, 1112 Columbia St. in
Vancouver. (John 360695 1325.) (7/03)
Willamette Valley: Youth
Gay, Lesbian, BI, Transgendar and
Q uestioning Youth G roup for ages 13 to 16
offers support, information and fun m Eugene Free,
confidential, adult facilitated (Drop in 4-6 pm Fnday.
Amazon Community Center. 2700 httyard St
rmdnight Friday and Saturday 2100 SE Belmont St
541-684 3466) (7/03)
503-872-9664 TTY503-23l-9286wwwsmyrc.org.)
Lasbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgander Youth
Group for ages 25 and younger meets every Monday
in Eugene. (5 pm Komonia Center. 1414 Kincaid S i
541 346- I I 34 7 (7/03)
(7/0 4 )
Eastern Oregon: Youth
Eastern Oregon Center for Independent
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and 7 45 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and child
care at 10 am Southwest 13th Avenue at Clay Street
503 223 6424 7(7/03)
503 281 8868 mfo&mccportland com 1(7/03)
Peace C hurch o f the B rethren is a welcoming
congregation ( I I am Sunday 12727 SE Market St
503 254 6 3 8 0 )( 7/04)
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Rainbow Youth of Salem for kids 21 and younger
meets twice weekly. (6-8 pm Tuesday. 4-6 pm
Thursday 600 State St. Dan 503-930- 7260.) (7/03)
When your Internet girlfriend
isn’t what you envisioned
D ear M s . B ehavior :
1 met a woman
I’ll call Adrienne
through an online
personal ad and real
ly like her. She final
ly scanned her photo
and sent it to me
and, much to my dis
may, I don’t find her
at all attractive.
1 am so hummed
out. Adrienne is not
“ ugly,’’ hut she’s real
ly not my type. 1
don’t think of myself
as shallow, hut I do
believe chemistry is a
necessary ingredient in a relationship.
I’d love to meet her and he friends,
hut I’m not thinking about kissing her
anymore. Should I tell her now that
I’m not romantically interested any
more? I’m afraid it will he obvious
that it’s because I saw her photograph,
and I don’t want to he hurtful.
My friends tell me that I shouldn’t
meet her to try to he friends because we
all have enough friends, and I shouldn’t
waste her time or mine. But Adrienne
is way more interesting than they are.
What should I do?
— Emily the Terrible
D ear E mily the T errible :
You may need a few new friends to
supplement the
apparently dull ones
you have now, and
Adrienne might he a
gixxl bet. But what’s
your nish in reject
ing her as a prospec
tive date?
There’s nothing
wrong with waiting
until you meet in
person to conclude
that someone is not
your type. Chemistry
is a beautiful thing,
hut it arises from more than just a flat
image. It depends on things like touch
and mannerisms and pheromones and
even on huskiness o f voice and lus
ciousness o f smell, which is way more
sensory information than you can get
in the form o f a photograph.
If you like someone's personality
and sense o f humor and way o f being
in the world but they’re not your
type, yes, that’s gixxl grounds for
sticking to nothing more or less than
friendship.
But, occasionally, someone who
d<x_\sn’t appear to be your type will
exude a scent that drives you wild,
and friendship won’t he enough for
you. You’ll have to have her. You
can’t make it happen and neither can
she; it just has to he there. You’ll
know, because you won’t he able to
stop licking her neck.
breakfast with
friends, we were
talking about ex
lovers who are now
"straight.”
G reg m entioned
that his old hand
some boyfriend
N athan (w h o is
now married to a
woman hut still
fools around with
m en ) lives in the
town w e’re m oving
to. 1 became so
anxious that I
drank lour cos
mopolitans!
G reg said that my feeling worried
is ridiculous and that he has no inter
est in Nathan. But Nathan was G reg’s
most significant boyfriend until I
came along, and Greg happened to
mention in the past that he and
Nathan had “amazing sex.”
During the entire year o f planning
our move, why do you suppose Greg
neglected to mention that we’re m ov
ing to Nathan’s hometown? I’m not
sure I want to move anymore. A m I
really just being “ ridiculous” ?
— D on’t Want to Play the F<x)l
D ear D o n ’ t W a n t to P lay the
F o o l :
A re you anxious because you think
Greg plans to meet
Nathan for a drink,
talk about old times,
unzip Nathan’s pants
and remind him o f
why he used to he
gay? Have you asked
Greg directly about
whether he plans to
even see him?
Talking about it for
a while should give
you some sense o f
G reg’s intentions or
at least how honest
he’s prepared to he.
You haven’t said what city you’re
m oving to, but hopefully it will he
big enough for the three o f you. You
and G reg need to talk about how
each one o f you feels about
monogamy, which will help you to
assess whether your feelings o f in
security are based in reality or in
your own neurotic little mind.
Either way, you can’t protect
against infidelity by staying where
you live now. Your boyfriend, if he
wanted to, could have sex with
someone else in your hom etown or
even on your chenille sofa while
you’re out buying a hagel and a
newspaper.
She finally
scanned h er
photo and sent
It to m e
and, m uch to
m y dismay, I
don't find h er
at all attractive
D ear M s . B ehavior :
After a year o f planning, my
boyfriend, Greg, and I are moving
: together to a new city. Today during
jn
© Meryl Cohn 2003
M E R Y L C o h n is the author o f D o What
I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay
and Lesbian Etiquette (Houghton
Mifflm). Signed copies are available
directly from the author. Send questions or
correspondence to msbehavtor@aol com.