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juna 20. 2003 ADVICE SPIRITUALITY Metro: Spirituality Ainsworth United Church of Christ is a multi racial, m ulticultural, open and affirm ing church Sunday worship is at 10 am. church school for children runs concurrently (2941 NE Ainsworth St. 503-284 8767. aucc@teleport c o m ) (7/03) Anawim Community of gay men meets weekly for Chnstian m editation and prayer (7 30 pm Thursday 503 281 0722 ) (7/0 3 ) Atkinson Memorial Church is a Unitarian Universalis! welcoming congregation in Oregon City. (710 Sixth St 5 0 3 6 5 6 7296 www atkmsonchurch com.) (7/03) Bible Abuse Recovery is a spmtual growth group for healing gay. lesbian, bi and trans people hurt and abused by distorted and manipulative views o f the Bible (503-760-5791 biblerecovery@yahoo.com. www geocities.com/bélerecovery) (7/03) Bridgeport United Church of Christ is a commu nity of progressive, political people explonng and cele brating the Chnstian faith We are sexual mmonty and straight, multicultural and multiracial, and our children are valued members (10 30 am Sunday 621 NE 76th Ave 503 2580992 wwwbndgeportuccorg.) (7/03) The City Church. Portland's “ oldest gay-affirming Chnstian church,' offers a spint-dnven church for today's diverse generations. (10 am Sunday commu nion and worship service. 6 3 0 pm Sunday worship service. 7 pm Wednesday Bible study. 3830 SE 62nd Ave. 503-775-5024.) (7/03) Congregation Neveh Shalom an open and pro gressive Conservative Jewish synagogue, extends a warm welcome to all sexual mmonties. Shabbat serv ices 8:15 pm Friday and 9 am Saturday (2900 SW Peaceful Lane 503 246-8831.) (7/0 3 ) tors from vanous world rekgious traditions, who are available fo r guidance, classes and retreats (Second Floor. 3910 SE 11th Ave. 503-2332026. ext 3 www mterfaithspintualceoter com.) (7/03) Keshet Portland is a group for Jewish members of the sexual mmonties community and their partners, spouses and supporters Monthly social, religious and cultural events (David or fancy 503 226-7079. ext 14) (7/03) Koinonia Catholic Community is a progressive, small faith community that gathers weekly to celebrate Eucharist at Bridgeport United Church of Chnst. A wel coming congregation. Catholic in tradition and Ecumenical in membership (6 pm Sunday 621 NE 76th Ave 503 699-0473. wwwkcxnoniacommunity org.) (7/03) Longview United Methodist Church is welcom ing and reconciling (10 am Sunday 2851 30th Ave. 360-425-4927.) (7/03) Metanoia Peace Community United Methodist Church is a “ house church' that bnngs gay and straight together (Daily prayer 7 20 am, Sunday gathenng 5 pm 2116 NE 18th Ave 503-281-3697 w w w tearsoup com/metanoia7(7/03) Peace Church of the Brethren is a welcoming congregation (I I am Sunday 12727 SE Market St 503 2 5 4 63 8 0 )1 7/0 4 ) Portland Center for Spiritual Growth is a New Thought, uplifting, refreshing and exciting place of wor- stop. Become a minister m our rmmstenal program (10 am Sunday Call for location 503- 777-0727.) (7/03) vibrant, egalitarian. Jewish Renewal congregation in Portland M eets several times a month in vanous loca tions (PO Box 42187. Portland. OR 97242-0187 503-248-4500 www pnaiorpdx org.) (7/03) Dignity Portland meets for Mass on Sundays Portland Radical Faeries meet twice a month (503-262 6 9 4 7 ) (7/03) with potlucks and circles at the full moon and the new moon Open to all men seeking alternative spintual growth and community Coffee hours start 9 30 am Saturdays at 3 Fnends Coffeehouse. 201 SE 12th Ave (503-235-0826 otter@pcez com.) ( 7/03) Ea i t rose Fellowship Unitarian Universalist a welcoming congregation, offers Sunday service and children's religious education. (10 30 am. 1133 NE 181st Ave . Gresham 503 665 2628 eastrose@ teleportcom)U/Q3) Faith United Methodist Church is a welcoming community of Chnstians in Troutdale that values and encourages all people in finding a place of belonging in the family of God Sunday worship at 10:15 am; Adult Education at 9 am; children and youth at 10 30 am Wednesday Prayers 6-6 30 pm. (27400 SE Stark St. 503-661-4520) (7/03) First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open and affirm ing liberal religious community offenng a wide range of programs to nurture spintual growth, commu nity and social |ustice Sunday service 9 and 11 am (1011 SW 12th Ave 5 0 3 2 2 8 6 3 8 9 www hrstumtananportland org ) (7/03) First United Methodist Church of Portland, a welcoming and reconciling congregation, believes no one is left out in God's family Sexual mmonty potlucks held monthly (10 30 am Sunday 1838 SW Jefferson St 503 2283195 www fumcpdx org ) (7/0 3 ) Gay and Lesbian Outreach (GALO) of St Philip Nen Catholic Church celebrates an affirm ing Mass fo l lowed by a social (7 3 0 pm Friday Pauhst Center. 2408 SE 16th Ave 503 231 4 9 5 5 ) (7/03) Integrity is a group of sexual mmonty Episcopalians and fnends Vanous locations throughout Oregon (Bruce Mason 5 0 3 2 8 6 9 1 11. brvcepdxor@attbi com. www mtegntyusa o rg ) (7/03) Interfaith Spiritual Center houses spintual direc YOUTH Metro: Youth Flavors, a program of MuttiQueer and Brother to Brother, is a social support group for sexual minority youth of color 24 and younger Meets every other Sunday for food and socializing Regular events and activities (Jaye 503228-3892 or jaye@lmfam4y orgj (7/03) The Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education N etw ork (G LSEN) fights to end anti-gay bias m K-12 schools (12700 S W North Dakota St . Suite 180. 0129. Tigard. OR 97223 503-525-1177. glsen@glsenoregon org. www glsenoregon org) (7 /0 3 ) MuttiQueer. a program of Love Makes a Family, provides advocacy to eexual mmonty youth. Offera resources and support in the community and the school systems, with a focus on support for youth of color. (Jaye 503-2283892 or¡aye@lmfamity org.) (7 /0 3 ) Outside In operates a cfirac tor anyone who can t qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as wefl as nee dle exchange services that include those who inject hormones Can provide transitional housing for youth 20 and younger as w e* as for those HIV+ and younger than 23 Also plays host to VOICES (Voices of Individual and Community Empowerment from the Streets), a seif support group for queer youth. Needs volunteers o f a * ages (IOam-6 pm Trinity United Methodist Church is an open Chnstian community where faith and life intersect. AH invited1 (10 30 am Sunday 3915 SE Steele St. The Rev Wendy Joy Woodworth 503 7 7 7 3 9 0 1 )0 /0 3 ) Waveriy Heights UCC is open and affirm ing with worship, children's school and child care. (10 am Sunday 3300 SE Woodward St. 503 238 1337. www waverlyucc org.) (7/04) SisterSpirit offers women's spintuality celebrations, discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and classes Schedule o f events available All women are welcome (Suite 102. 3430 SE Belmont St Mailing address PO Box 9246. Portland. OR 97207 503 736 3297 sistersp@teleport com ) (7/03) Spirit Circla is for lesbian, bi or trans women seek ing a welcoming community m the Catholic church M eets every third Thursday in the St Andrew Nativity School. (7 pm 806 NE Alberta St Ibtspmtcn cle@yahoo c o m ) (7/03) Southm initor Presbyterian Church is a chal lengmg. supportive community that welcomes all peo ple It is the first M ore Light Presbyterian Church in Oregon Sunday school and nursery care (10 am Sunday 12250 S W Denney Road. Beaverton 5 0 3644 2073 staff@southmm com.7(7/03) S t Andrew Catholic Church invites all to ¡pm a diverse faith community for prayer and fellowship (930 am Sunday 806 NEAberta St. 503 2814429 )0 /0 3 ) St. James Lutheran Church, a Reconciled in Chnst congregation, welcomes all people for tradition al, liturgical worship where we experience God's rec onciling love that sets all people free (9 and I I am Sunday 1315 S W Park Ave 5 0 3 2 2 7 2 4 3 9 ) 0 / 0 3 ) St. Stephen'* Episcopal Church has been wel coming all people since 1863 (12 10 pm Wednesday and 7 45 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and child Zion United Church of Christ. an open and affirming congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, bi. trans and heterosexual people who wish to worship m a Christ-centered. warm, canng. m ultiage/race/cultural faith community ( I I am Sunday 2025 NE 23rd Ave . Gresham 503 665 8741.) 0 /0 3 ) Washington: Spirituality Abundant Lite Center is A New Thought Community for spintual awakening and transforming lives through love A safe place where children leam to embody spiritual pnncples (10 am Sunday. 10006 NE Ninth Ave . Vancouver 360-573-2626 ) 0 /0 3 ) East Vancouver United Methodist Church is reconciling and welcoming. (10 am Sunday 5701 MacArthur Btvd 360 693 4761. ourclarkcountycolumbian.com/273/) 0 /0 3 ) First Congregational Church. United Church of Chnst. holds two Sunday services, traditional and “ less traditional" in an open and affirming congrega tion. (1220 NE 68th St.. Vancouver 360693 1476. vanucc@aol com.) (7/03) God's Holy Territory is a chansmatic, joy-filled worship experience in Vancouver where everyone is welcome: gay. lesbian, bi. trans and straight (11 am Sunday service. Bible study 7 pm Thursdays, except third Thursday 1500 NE 49th St 360-885 9461. pastor@godsholytenitory.com) 0 /0 3 ) Metropolitan Community Church of the Gentle Shepherd in Vancouver welcomes you. (10:30 am and 6 3 0 pm Sunday worship. 9 am Sunday Bible study. 2200 Broadway The Rev Hamel Barshofsky 360695 1480) 0 /0 3 ) Michael Servetus Unitarian Universalist Fellowship a Welcoming Congregation, provides a home for the liberal refigwus spirit (9:15 and I I am Sunday 4505 E 18th St . Vancouver 360695■ 1891)0/03) Willamette Valley: Spirituality First Congregational Church. United Church of Chnst is an open and affirming congregation offenng worship and church school Child care provided and wheelchair accessible. (9 am Sunday learning hour, 10 am worship 700 Manon St. NE. Salem 503-363-3660)0/03) Momingside United Methodist Church is a reconciling congregation where everyone is welcome to participate in the full life of the congregation. (8.30 and 11 am Sunday 3674 12th St SE. Salem 503364 5 0 1 3 )0 /0 3 ) Sacred Souls honors all sacred paths, prom otes peace and stnves to create an environment that supports and prom otes interfaith dialogue M eets at the Oregon School o f Massage (6 30-8 pm Sunday 440 Ferry St. SE. Salem wholhlth@aol com. www sacredsouls o rg ) (7/0 3 ) Monday-Frtday 1132 SW 13th Ave. 503-535- 3800 www outsidem org.) (7 /0 3 ) Eastern Oregon: Youth Vanguard Youth Servicee a program of Cascade Behavioral HeafthCare, offers support and recreation to gay, lesbian, bi and trans kids 23 and younger Programs include: Clackamas County offers support and advocacy to gay. lesbian, bi. trans and questmng youth in Eastern Oregon (541-889-3119 or 866248-8369 eoc0Oeoc0.org. www eoc0.org) (7/03) Sexual M inority Youth Connection (C O SM YC ) provides opportunities for queer and questioning kids to get together for free, fun and supportive social activities Also one-on-one support and referrals to Clackamas County service providers (503 969-0060 cosmycyouth@yahoo com) Expression is a free art/expressron support group in Gresham for queer youth. Hang out and have fun every Friday! (Jonathan 503-872-9664. ext. 28) Pride Project brings together Washington County queer and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social events Also information, referral and advocacy ser vices m Washington County. (Mo8y 503-260-5792. mo0y0pndeprofect org) Sexual M inority Youth Recreation C enter (SM YR C) offers drop-w computer access, pool tables and an informal place to hang out Weekly youth support groups includes Trans Youth Group and Personal Deity Proxy (a cre ative group). (4-8 pm Monday and Wednesday. 4 pm-midnight Friday and Saturday 2100 SE Belmont St 5038729664 TTY 503-231 9286 www smyrc org ) Youth H IV /8 T D Prevention Project provides fun and educational programs along with counseling and testing to queer youth In a friendy. relaxed environment. (503-872-9664) (7 /0 3 ) ................... ▼.................... 'HI cheating do us part Should you go with monogamy, like, right away? Wy'east Unitarian Universalist Congregation is an open and liberal religious community offenng mtergenerational services and religious education for children It welcomes gay. lesbian, tx and trans mem bers Nurtures spintual growth and promotes living by Unitarian Universalist principles. (4 pm Sunday 3915 SE Steele St. 503-777-3704 www wyeast pnwd.uua.org) 0 /0 3 ) Metropolitan Community Church of Portland holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at 9 and 11 am Sunday school for children is held dunng the 11 am worship service. (2400 NE Broadway 503 281 8868 mfo@mccportlandcom.) (7/03) Portland Church of Religious Science is a liber al. open, progressive New Thought community welcom ing everyone to discover the spint within Change your thinking, change your life! (10 am Sunday meditation. 10:30 am service and /umor church. 6:30 pm Wednesday prayer circle 3983 NE 112th Ave. 503 261 0 6 7 7) (7/03) Congregation P'nai O r (Faces of Light) is a care at 10 am Southwest 13th Avenue at Clay Street 5 0 3 -2 2 3 6 4 2 4 )0 /0 3 ) Washington: Youth Triple Point offers education, support and advocacy to gay. lesbian, bi. trans and questioning youth in Vancouver. Wash Meets 6-8 pm Tuesdays in the basement of Youth House. 1112 Cofombs St In Vancouver. (John 3606961325.) (7/03) Willamette Valley: Youth Gey. LeaMen. Bi. TVensgm dsr and Questioning Youth Group for ages 13 to 18 offers sipport nfor- manon ana tun w\ ajpane rrea, connaonnii. arm* rxm- tated (Drop in 46 pm Friday. Amazon Communty Center. 2700 H0yatd St. 541684-3466)0/03) l a »Nan, Gty« l ilw it iil. Tran#f#tM l#f Youth Group for ages 2S and younger meets every Monday in Eugene (5 pm. Kdnona Center, 1414KncmdSt 541-3461134) (7103) Rainbow Youth e f Belem for M s 21 and yoimger meets twice weekly. (66 pm Tuesday. 46 pm Thursday 800 Stale St Dan 503930 - 7280 ) 0/03) D ear M s . B ehavior : W hen I hook up with a man I like, I hate the thought of him hav ing sex with other peo ple. I usually tell him I like him and ask him to have a period of “trial monogamy” with me. During this time 1 don’t want him to sleep with anyone else with out letting me know. O f course he’s free to do anything he wants as long as he tells me about it, so I can move on and date someone else instead. This helps me eliminate the sex addicts from the start. Most of my friends act like I’m crazy and think my needs are totally unreason able. 1 think it’s a good way to weed out men who won’t be able to make a com mitment. What do you think? — Paul D ear P aul : Your plan certainly weeds out the restless men for whom monogamy is an absolute “NO.” But your strict require ments might also eliminate some delightful prospects who could be willing to commit after a few months of dating, even if they’re not ready to don a chastity belt after a second date with you. Still, if you’re will ing to sacrifice a few good men for your goal, go for it. Anyone who absolutely hates the idea of sex with one person for the short term will have a lot of trouble keeping it in his pants once your laundry commingles. O n the other hand, lots of people can commit for a year or two but get itchy after, say, 600 or 700 nights in the same bed. You may have to come up with a new way to anticipate this in a boyfriend or at least to accept the fact that you can’t control it. day you publish your findings in The Journal o f the American Medical Association or even in The National Enquirer. Titles might include “Six Servings of Vegetables a Day and a Swat with the Ugly Stick: How to Prevent Leukemia in Your Offspring” or “How Your Baby’s Funny Face Protects Against Cancer." D ear M s . B ehavior : For the past two weeks your “ugly babies need adoptive parents, too” question has been troubling me. I have to get this out of my system and off my desk. Simply stated, there is no such thing as an ugly baby. There couldn’t be. People cannot he ugly; they can only act ugly. Or, put another way, you may be plain or unattractive or what ever, but you can only be ugly if you act that way. So no person is intrinsi cally ugly, and certainly not a baby. A baby’s face may not at first sight radiate happiness and beauty (as so many babies do), hut that doesn’t mean there isn’t happiness and beau ty inside. Need proof? Tickle that baby’s tummy or hold that baby up in the air or perhaps just hug or smile at him or her. See what happens. W hen that baby smiles, you will sense the true mean ing of beauty. If potential adop tive parents aren’t ready to bring out the happiness and inner beauty of the baby, perhaps they should rethink their readiness for such an important undertaking. A nd, by the way, shame on you for writing “ugly babies” in the first place! — Jerome Witt Anyone who hates the Idea of sex with one person for the short term will have a lot of trouble keeping It In his pants once you r laundry commingles D ear M s . B ehavior : I’m responding to your letter about “ugly babies.” 1 am a retired pediatri cian. O ne observation I made in my practice was that only beautiful babies developed leukemia— at least that was my impression. W hen 1 would see a new baby who was ugly, 1 would tell the parents they won’t have to worry about their child developing leukemia. They were so happy to hear that message, no one in 25 years ever asked me the basis for my judgment. — John R , M D. D ear J ohn P, M.D.: Ms. Behavior looks forward to the D ear J erome : W hen you were a beautiful infant waiting in line for God’s gifts to he bestowed on you, clearly you took dou ble helpings from the “earnestness” line and skipped over “sense of humor.” However, Ms. Behavior appreciates your generous life view and wishes more people were as loving as you. J H © Meryl C ohn 2003 MERYL C ohn is the author o f Do W hat I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay and Lesbian Etiquette (Houghton Mifflm). Signed copies are available drrecdy from the author. Send questions or correspondence to l msbehaviorQaal .com.
