juna 20. 2003
ADVICE
SPIRITUALITY
Metro: Spirituality
Ainsworth United Church of Christ is a multi
racial, m ulticultural, open and affirm ing church Sunday
worship is at 10 am. church school for children runs
concurrently (2941 NE Ainsworth St. 503-284 8767.
aucc@teleport c o m ) (7/03)
Anawim Community of gay men meets weekly for
Chnstian m editation and prayer (7 30 pm Thursday
503 281 0722 ) (7/0 3 )
Atkinson Memorial Church is a Unitarian
Universalis! welcoming congregation in Oregon City.
(710 Sixth St 5 0 3 6 5 6 7296
www atkmsonchurch com.) (7/03)
Bible Abuse Recovery is a spmtual growth group
for healing gay. lesbian, bi and trans people hurt and
abused by distorted and manipulative views o f the
Bible (503-760-5791 biblerecovery@yahoo.com.
www geocities.com/bélerecovery) (7/03)
Bridgeport United Church of Christ is a commu
nity of progressive, political people explonng and cele
brating the Chnstian faith We are sexual mmonty and
straight, multicultural and multiracial, and our children
are valued members (10 30 am Sunday 621 NE 76th
Ave 503 2580992 wwwbndgeportuccorg.) (7/03)
The City Church. Portland's “ oldest gay-affirming
Chnstian church,' offers a spint-dnven church for
today's diverse generations. (10 am Sunday commu
nion and worship service. 6 3 0 pm Sunday worship
service. 7 pm Wednesday Bible study. 3830 SE 62nd
Ave. 503-775-5024.) (7/03)
Congregation Neveh Shalom an open and pro
gressive Conservative Jewish synagogue, extends a
warm welcome to all sexual mmonties. Shabbat serv
ices 8:15 pm Friday and 9 am Saturday (2900 SW
Peaceful Lane 503 246-8831.) (7/0 3 )
tors from vanous world rekgious traditions, who are
available fo r guidance, classes and retreats (Second
Floor. 3910 SE 11th Ave. 503-2332026. ext 3
www mterfaithspintualceoter com.) (7/03)
Keshet Portland is a group for Jewish members of
the sexual mmonties community and their partners,
spouses and supporters Monthly social, religious and
cultural events (David or fancy 503 226-7079.
ext 14) (7/03)
Koinonia Catholic Community is a progressive,
small faith community that gathers weekly to celebrate
Eucharist at Bridgeport United Church of Chnst. A wel
coming congregation. Catholic in tradition and
Ecumenical in membership (6 pm Sunday 621 NE 76th
Ave 503 699-0473. wwwkcxnoniacommunity org.)
(7/03)
Longview United Methodist Church is welcom
ing and reconciling (10 am Sunday 2851 30th Ave.
360-425-4927.) (7/03)
Metanoia Peace Community United
Methodist Church is a “ house church' that bnngs
gay and straight together (Daily prayer 7 20 am,
Sunday gathenng 5 pm 2116 NE 18th Ave
503-281-3697 w w w tearsoup com/metanoia7(7/03)
Peace Church of the Brethren is a welcoming
congregation (I I am Sunday 12727 SE Market St
503 2 5 4 63 8 0 )1 7/0 4 )
Portland Center for Spiritual Growth is a New
Thought, uplifting, refreshing and exciting place of wor-
stop. Become a minister m our rmmstenal program
(10 am Sunday Call for location 503- 777-0727.) (7/03)
vibrant, egalitarian. Jewish Renewal congregation in
Portland M eets several times a month in vanous loca
tions (PO Box 42187. Portland. OR 97242-0187
503-248-4500 www pnaiorpdx org.) (7/03)
Dignity Portland meets for Mass on Sundays
Portland Radical Faeries meet twice a month
(503-262 6 9 4 7 ) (7/03)
with potlucks and circles at the full moon and the new
moon Open to all men seeking alternative spintual
growth and community Coffee hours start 9 30 am
Saturdays at 3 Fnends Coffeehouse. 201 SE 12th
Ave (503-235-0826 otter@pcez com.) ( 7/03)
Ea i t rose Fellowship Unitarian Universalist a
welcoming congregation, offers Sunday service and
children's religious education. (10 30 am. 1133 NE
181st Ave . Gresham 503 665 2628
eastrose@ teleportcom)U/Q3)
Faith United Methodist Church is a welcoming
community of Chnstians in Troutdale that values and
encourages all people in finding a place of belonging in
the family of God Sunday worship at 10:15 am; Adult
Education at 9 am; children and youth at 10 30 am
Wednesday Prayers 6-6 30 pm. (27400 SE Stark St.
503-661-4520) (7/03)
First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open and
affirm ing liberal religious community offenng a wide
range of programs to nurture spintual growth, commu
nity and social |ustice Sunday service 9 and 11 am
(1011 SW 12th Ave 5 0 3 2 2 8 6 3 8 9
www hrstumtananportland org ) (7/03)
First United Methodist Church of Portland, a
welcoming and reconciling congregation, believes no
one is left out in God's family Sexual mmonty potlucks
held monthly (10 30 am Sunday 1838 SW Jefferson
St 503 2283195 www fumcpdx org ) (7/0 3 )
Gay and Lesbian Outreach (GALO) of St Philip
Nen Catholic Church celebrates an affirm ing Mass fo l
lowed by a social (7 3 0 pm Friday Pauhst Center.
2408 SE 16th Ave 503 231 4 9 5 5 ) (7/03)
Integrity is a group of sexual mmonty Episcopalians
and fnends Vanous locations throughout Oregon
(Bruce Mason 5 0 3 2 8 6 9 1 11. brvcepdxor@attbi com.
www mtegntyusa o rg ) (7/03)
Interfaith Spiritual Center houses spintual direc
YOUTH
Metro: Youth
Flavors, a program of MuttiQueer and Brother to
Brother, is a social support group for sexual minority
youth of color 24 and younger Meets every other
Sunday for food and socializing Regular events and
activities (Jaye 503228-3892 or jaye@lmfam4y orgj
(7/03)
The Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education
N etw ork (G LSEN) fights to end anti-gay bias m
K-12 schools (12700 S W North Dakota St .
Suite 180. 0129. Tigard. OR 97223
503-525-1177. glsen@glsenoregon org.
www glsenoregon org) (7 /0 3 )
MuttiQueer. a program of Love Makes a Family,
provides advocacy to eexual mmonty youth. Offera
resources and support in the community and the
school systems, with a focus on support for youth
of color. (Jaye 503-2283892 or¡aye@lmfamity org.)
(7 /0 3 )
Outside In operates a cfirac tor anyone who can t
qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as wefl as nee
dle exchange services that include those who inject
hormones Can provide transitional housing for
youth 20 and younger as w e* as for those HIV+
and younger than 23 Also plays host to VOICES
(Voices of Individual and Community Empowerment
from the Streets), a seif support group for queer
youth. Needs volunteers o f a * ages (IOam-6 pm
Trinity United Methodist Church is an open
Chnstian community where faith and life intersect. AH
invited1 (10 30 am Sunday 3915 SE Steele St. The
Rev Wendy Joy Woodworth 503 7 7 7 3 9 0 1 )0 /0 3 )
Waveriy Heights UCC is open and affirm ing with
worship, children's school and child care. (10 am
Sunday 3300 SE Woodward St. 503 238 1337.
www waverlyucc org.) (7/04)
SisterSpirit offers women's spintuality celebrations,
discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and
classes Schedule o f events available All women are
welcome (Suite 102. 3430 SE Belmont St Mailing
address PO Box 9246. Portland. OR 97207
503 736 3297 sistersp@teleport com ) (7/03)
Spirit Circla is for lesbian, bi or trans women seek
ing a welcoming community m the Catholic church
M eets every third Thursday in the St Andrew Nativity
School. (7 pm 806 NE Alberta St
Ibtspmtcn cle@yahoo c o m ) (7/03)
Southm initor Presbyterian Church is a chal
lengmg. supportive community that welcomes all peo
ple It is the first M ore Light Presbyterian Church in
Oregon Sunday school and nursery care (10 am
Sunday 12250 S W Denney Road. Beaverton
5 0 3644 2073 staff@southmm com.7(7/03)
S t Andrew Catholic Church invites all to ¡pm a
diverse faith community for prayer and fellowship (930 am
Sunday 806 NEAberta St. 503 2814429 )0 /0 3 )
St. James Lutheran Church, a Reconciled in
Chnst congregation, welcomes all people for tradition
al, liturgical worship where we experience God's rec
onciling love that sets all people free (9 and I I am
Sunday 1315 S W Park Ave 5 0 3 2 2 7 2 4 3 9 ) 0 / 0 3 )
St. Stephen'* Episcopal Church has been wel
coming all people since 1863 (12 10 pm Wednesday
and 7 45 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and child
Zion United Church of Christ. an open and
affirming congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, bi.
trans and heterosexual people who wish to worship m
a Christ-centered. warm, canng. m ultiage/race/cultural
faith community ( I I am Sunday 2025 NE 23rd Ave .
Gresham 503 665 8741.) 0 /0 3 )
Washington: Spirituality
Abundant Lite Center is A New Thought
Community for spintual awakening and transforming
lives through love A safe place where children leam to
embody spiritual pnncples (10 am Sunday. 10006 NE
Ninth Ave . Vancouver 360-573-2626 ) 0 /0 3 )
East Vancouver United Methodist Church is
reconciling and welcoming. (10 am Sunday
5701 MacArthur Btvd 360 693 4761.
ourclarkcountycolumbian.com/273/) 0 /0 3 )
First Congregational Church. United Church of
Chnst. holds two Sunday services, traditional and
“ less traditional" in an open and affirming congrega
tion. (1220 NE 68th St.. Vancouver 360693 1476.
vanucc@aol com.) (7/03)
God's Holy Territory is a chansmatic, joy-filled
worship experience in Vancouver where everyone is
welcome: gay. lesbian, bi. trans and straight (11 am
Sunday service. Bible study 7 pm Thursdays, except
third Thursday 1500 NE 49th St 360-885 9461.
pastor@godsholytenitory.com) 0 /0 3 )
Metropolitan Community Church of the
Gentle Shepherd in Vancouver welcomes you.
(10:30 am and 6 3 0 pm Sunday worship. 9 am Sunday
Bible study. 2200 Broadway The Rev Hamel
Barshofsky 360695 1480) 0 /0 3 )
Michael Servetus Unitarian Universalist
Fellowship a Welcoming Congregation, provides a home
for the liberal refigwus spirit (9:15 and I I am Sunday
4505 E 18th St . Vancouver 360695■ 1891)0/03)
Willamette Valley: Spirituality
First Congregational Church. United Church of
Chnst is an open and affirming congregation offenng
worship and church school Child care provided and
wheelchair accessible. (9 am Sunday learning hour,
10 am worship 700 Manon St. NE. Salem
503-363-3660)0/03)
Momingside United Methodist Church is a
reconciling congregation where everyone is welcome
to participate in the full life of the congregation. (8.30
and 11 am Sunday 3674 12th St SE. Salem
503364 5 0 1 3 )0 /0 3 )
Sacred Souls honors all sacred paths, prom otes
peace and stnves to create an environment that
supports and prom otes interfaith dialogue M eets at
the Oregon School o f Massage (6 30-8 pm Sunday
440 Ferry St. SE. Salem wholhlth@aol com.
www sacredsouls o rg ) (7/0 3 )
Monday-Frtday 1132 SW 13th Ave. 503-535-
3800 www outsidem org.) (7 /0 3 )
Eastern Oregon: Youth
Vanguard Youth Servicee a program of
Cascade Behavioral HeafthCare, offers support and
recreation to gay, lesbian, bi and trans kids 23 and
younger Programs include: Clackamas County
offers support and advocacy to gay. lesbian, bi. trans and
questmng youth in Eastern Oregon (541-889-3119 or
866248-8369 eoc0Oeoc0.org. www eoc0.org) (7/03)
Sexual M inority Youth Connection
(C O SM YC ) provides opportunities for queer and
questioning kids to get together for free, fun and
supportive social activities Also one-on-one
support and referrals to Clackamas County
service providers (503 969-0060
cosmycyouth@yahoo com) Expression is a free
art/expressron support group in Gresham for queer
youth. Hang out and have fun every Friday!
(Jonathan 503-872-9664. ext. 28) Pride Project
brings together Washington County queer and
questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social
events Also information, referral and advocacy ser
vices m Washington County. (Mo8y 503-260-5792.
mo0y0pndeprofect org) Sexual M inority Youth
Recreation C enter (SM YR C) offers drop-w
computer access, pool tables and an informal place
to hang out Weekly youth support groups includes
Trans Youth Group and Personal Deity Proxy (a cre
ative group). (4-8 pm Monday and Wednesday.
4 pm-midnight Friday and Saturday 2100 SE
Belmont St 5038729664 TTY 503-231 9286
www smyrc org ) Youth H IV /8 T D Prevention
Project provides fun and educational programs
along with counseling and testing to queer youth In
a friendy. relaxed environment. (503-872-9664)
(7 /0 3 )
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'HI cheating do us part
Should you go with monogamy, like,
right away?
Wy'east Unitarian Universalist Congregation
is an open and liberal religious community offenng
mtergenerational services and religious education for
children It welcomes gay. lesbian, tx and trans mem
bers Nurtures spintual growth and promotes living by
Unitarian Universalist principles. (4 pm Sunday
3915 SE Steele St. 503-777-3704
www wyeast pnwd.uua.org) 0 /0 3 )
Metropolitan Community Church of Portland
holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at
9 and 11 am Sunday school for children is held dunng
the 11 am worship service. (2400 NE Broadway
503 281 8868 mfo@mccportlandcom.) (7/03)
Portland Church of Religious Science is a liber
al. open, progressive New Thought community welcom
ing everyone to discover the spint within Change your
thinking, change your life! (10 am Sunday meditation.
10:30 am service and /umor church. 6:30 pm
Wednesday prayer circle 3983 NE 112th Ave.
503 261 0 6 7 7) (7/03)
Congregation P'nai O r (Faces of Light) is a
care at 10 am Southwest 13th Avenue at Clay Street
5 0 3 -2 2 3 6 4 2 4 )0 /0 3 )
Washington: Youth
Triple Point offers education, support and advocacy
to gay. lesbian, bi. trans and questioning youth in
Vancouver. Wash Meets 6-8 pm Tuesdays in the
basement of Youth House. 1112 Cofombs St In
Vancouver. (John 3606961325.) (7/03)
Willamette Valley: Youth
Gey. LeaMen. Bi. TVensgm dsr and Questioning
Youth Group for ages 13 to 18 offers sipport nfor-
manon ana tun w\ ajpane rrea, connaonnii. arm* rxm-
tated (Drop in 46 pm Friday. Amazon Communty
Center. 2700 H0yatd St. 541684-3466)0/03)
l a »Nan, Gty« l ilw it iil. Tran#f#tM l#f Youth
Group for ages 2S and younger meets every Monday
in Eugene (5 pm. Kdnona Center, 1414KncmdSt
541-3461134) (7103)
Rainbow Youth e f Belem for M s 21 and yoimger
meets twice weekly. (66 pm Tuesday. 46 pm
Thursday 800 Stale St Dan 503930 - 7280 ) 0/03)
D ear M s . B ehavior :
W hen I hook up
with a man I like, I hate
the thought of him hav
ing sex with other peo
ple. I usually tell him I
like him and ask him to
have a period of “trial
monogamy” with me.
During this time 1
don’t want him to sleep
with anyone else with
out letting me know.
O f course he’s free to
do anything he wants
as long as he tells me about it, so I
can move on and date someone else
instead. This helps me eliminate the
sex addicts from the start.
Most of my friends act like I’m crazy
and think my needs are totally unreason
able. 1 think it’s a good way to weed out
men who won’t be able to make a com
mitment. What do you think?
— Paul
D ear P aul :
Your plan certainly weeds out the
restless men for whom monogamy is an
absolute “NO.” But your strict require
ments might also eliminate some
delightful prospects who could be willing
to commit after a few months of dating,
even if they’re not
ready to don a chastity
belt after a second
date with you.
Still, if you’re will
ing to sacrifice a few
good men for your
goal, go for it.
Anyone who
absolutely hates the
idea of sex with one
person for the short
term will have a lot of
trouble keeping it in
his pants once your
laundry commingles.
O n the other
hand, lots of people
can commit for a
year or two but get itchy after, say,
600 or 700 nights in the same bed.
You may have to come up with a new
way to anticipate this in a boyfriend
or at least to accept the fact that you
can’t control it.
day you publish your
findings in The Journal
o f the American Medical
Association or even in
The National Enquirer.
Titles might include
“Six Servings of
Vegetables a Day and a
Swat with the Ugly
Stick: How to Prevent
Leukemia in Your
Offspring” or “How
Your Baby’s Funny Face
Protects Against
Cancer."
D ear M s . B ehavior :
For the past two weeks your “ugly
babies need adoptive parents, too”
question has been troubling me. I
have to get this out of my system and
off my desk.
Simply stated, there is no such
thing as an ugly baby. There couldn’t
be. People cannot he ugly; they can
only act ugly. Or, put another way, you
may be plain or unattractive or what
ever, but you can only be ugly if you
act that way. So no person is intrinsi
cally ugly, and certainly not a baby.
A baby’s face may not at first sight
radiate happiness and beauty (as so
many babies do), hut that doesn’t
mean there isn’t
happiness and beau
ty inside. Need
proof? Tickle that
baby’s tummy or
hold that baby up in
the air or perhaps
just hug or smile at
him or her. See what
happens. W hen that
baby smiles, you will
sense the true mean
ing of beauty.
If potential adop
tive parents aren’t
ready to bring out the
happiness and inner
beauty of the baby,
perhaps they should
rethink their readiness for such an
important undertaking.
A nd, by the way, shame on you for
writing “ugly babies” in the first place!
— Jerome Witt
Anyone who
hates the Idea
of sex with one
person for the
short term will
have a lot of
trouble keeping
It In his pants
once you r
laundry
commingles
D ear M s . B ehavior :
I’m responding to your letter about
“ugly babies.” 1 am a retired pediatri
cian. O ne observation I made in my
practice was that only beautiful babies
developed leukemia— at least that was
my impression.
W hen 1 would see a new baby who
was ugly, 1 would tell the parents they
won’t have to worry about their child
developing leukemia. They were so
happy to hear that message, no one in
25 years ever asked me the basis for
my judgment.
— John R , M D.
D ear J ohn P, M.D.:
Ms. Behavior looks forward to the
D ear J erome :
W hen you were a beautiful infant
waiting in line for God’s gifts to he
bestowed on you, clearly you took dou
ble helpings from the “earnestness” line
and skipped over “sense of humor.”
However, Ms. Behavior appreciates
your generous life view and wishes more
people were as loving as you. J H
© Meryl C ohn 2003
MERYL C ohn is the author o f Do W hat
I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay
and Lesbian Etiquette (Houghton
Mifflm). Signed copies are available
drrecdy from the author.
Send questions or correspondence to
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