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About Just out. (Portland, OR) 1983-2013 | View Entire Issue (June 20, 2003)
28 juna 20.2003 can’t fool G od, who matters most, then who do I think I’m fooling? At that point, I was fooling myself and others in my family and Christian community. The free dom to truly he the person G od created me to be...h as made all the difference. modem culture that prevents many men from knowing life A P arlst ' s Giami to more frilly. Preventing In Love Won Out’s rationale, they arc looking for some where to blame for the creation and for v * ' -v • mation of who we are or are given the idea that we had a V - :.. i1. a . j . \i. “choice” and demo nizing those rela A Love Won Out tionships that would presenter published a have made a person book recently that says gay or lesbian or “ the very heart of the bisexual or trans. homosexual condition is Sadly, there’s a lot of conflict about gender” demonizing going on there rather than the simple acceptance of who you are. God created you. Let’s celebrate that. T K : Love Won Out examines family dynamics that Focus believes can lead to the evolution of same-sex desires. M H: While I was nay, the 12 years that I was living in the nay community, I never met one gay man that had a positive relation ship with his father Rowing up. M , They may have a positive relation ship now as an adult, hut we’re talk inn about those definitive formative years. [ForJ a woman whose mother has been abused, femininity is not going to he something that she’s going to want to embrace. Femininity is weakness, femininity is something to he T K : What about pressure from some organized religion to go straight? MH: I would turn that around and say, “Didn’t 1 feel pressured as a young teen when I went for counseling and was told that I was bom gay?" That’s just as damaging. I lived 12 years as a person that 1 truly was not because I was told by a mis informed counselor that I was bom gay. You don’t have anybody in high schools telling people to go straight or offering reparative therapy. There’s one option in high school, and that’s to go gay. BW M : Hetcrosexism in our stxiicty forces the same thing. We still live in the days in which the heterosexist, homophobic environ ment of a high sch(X)l is alive and thriving— not only in high schtxils hut also middle schcxils HOMOSEXUAUTY n ay. 9 Continued from Page 21 New Hope Community Church in Clackamas supports the anti-gay agenda of Focus on the Family by playing host to the Love Won Out conference abused, and that’s what she has been modeled. And let’s say she does experience heterosexuality that is abusive toward her; it’s only going to put that stamp of approval on her that femininity is something weak to he exploited. There’s going to he that fear of embracing who she is or who she was meant to he because of the poor exam ple that was set for her. BWM: First of all, the same dynamics are present with those who know themselves as straight. There are many mixed-up relationships. Both heterosexuals and those of us who are gay have struggled with our fathers because our fathers have struggled (with a modem definition of masculine and paternal roles). I don’t see a direct correlation. The greatest stress on the mod em male comes from the homophobic bias of our /liultnemak Village /UnUmmak Village /HkUnimak Village /likltnemak Village — You've simplified your life. You're walking, biking or using transit most of the time, but... Le Meitour Gallery Sometimes you just need a car. If you live in Portland or Vancouver, chances are that one of our sedans, minivans or pickups is parked near you. Flexcar lets you drive them like they were your own. The key difference? We pay insurance, parking, qas and maintenance. You pay a few bucks an hour. Join today and you'll always have a car when you need one. JO IN FLEXCAR, HELP hfuse O u r House sta ff use Fle x c a r. F o r each new Fle xc a r m em ber w ho joins in response to this ad. Flexcar will donate 5 hours o f free usaqe to Our H ouse. Fill in " J u s t O u t" in the prom o code bo x o f the online application. The only museum where you get to take the treasures home. 7814 SW Capitol Hwy, Portland • 503/246-3631 , . Sip D’ V in e ...not yo u r stuffy wine shop... R e I ax w ith fr ie n d s w h ile e n jo y in g N W w ines b y th e ta s te , glass, a n d b o ttle . Novices welcome. FleXcar JOIN ONLINE AT WWW.FLEXCAR.COM OR CALL S03.32S.FLEX OR 360.823.FLE X ( J n iy u e p ic n ic S 'g if t item s -O p cn- P u e s - ^ u n 12-8pm ~ f r i &-, 5 a t ‘til J?pm l_ook for us next to the bridge clothing. ,mficjuc*s. cv home* J t v o r in M 's t o r ic M u ltn o m a h V'Hage 7437 Ó W C a p i t o l M w y . P o r t la n d , O K 90W977 -WINC (>♦<>) 97 t\ 9 from | \ | i n o i v u ^~>\\ ( tp to! f K m |
