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can’t fool G od, who matters most, then who
do I think I’m fooling? At that point, I was
fooling myself and others in my family and
Christian community. The free
dom to truly he the person G od
created me to be...h as made all
the difference.
modem culture that
prevents many men
from knowing life
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more frilly.
Preventing
In Love Won
Out’s rationale, they
arc looking for some
where to blame for
the creation and for
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mation of who we
are or are given the
idea that we had a
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“choice” and demo
nizing those rela A Love Won Out
tionships that would presenter published a
have made a person book recently that says
gay or lesbian or “ the very heart of the
bisexual or trans. homosexual condition is
Sadly, there’s a lot of conflict about gender”
demonizing going on
there rather than the simple acceptance of who
you are. God created you. Let’s celebrate that.
T K : Love Won Out examines
family dynamics that Focus
believes can lead to the evolution
of same-sex desires.
M H: While I was nay, the 12
years that I was living in the nay
community, I never met one gay
man that had a positive relation
ship with his father Rowing up. M
,
They may have a positive relation
ship now as an adult, hut we’re talk inn about
those definitive formative years.
[ForJ a woman whose mother has been
abused, femininity is not going to he something
that she’s going to want to embrace. Femininity
is weakness, femininity is something to he
T K : What about pressure from some
organized religion to go straight?
MH: I would turn that around and say, “Didn’t
1 feel pressured as a young teen when I went for
counseling and was told that I was bom gay?"
That’s just as damaging. I lived 12 years as a person
that 1 truly was not because I was told by a mis
informed counselor that I was bom gay. You don’t
have anybody in high schools telling people to go
straight or offering reparative therapy. There’s one
option in high school, and that’s to go gay.
BW M : Hetcrosexism in our stxiicty forces
the same thing. We still live in the days in
which the heterosexist, homophobic environ
ment of a high sch(X)l is alive and thriving—
not only in high schtxils hut also middle schcxils
HOMOSEXUAUTY
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New Hope Community Church in Clackamas supports the anti-gay agenda of
Focus on the Family by playing host to the Love Won Out conference
abused, and that’s what she has
been modeled. And let’s say she
does experience heterosexuality
that is abusive toward her; it’s only going to put
that stamp of approval on her that femininity is
something weak to he exploited. There’s going
to he that fear of embracing who she is or who
she was meant to he because of the poor exam
ple that was set for her.
BWM: First of all, the same dynamics are
present with those who know themselves as
straight. There are many mixed-up relationships.
Both heterosexuals and those of us who are gay
have struggled with our fathers because our
fathers have struggled (with a modem definition
of masculine and paternal roles). I don’t see a
direct correlation. The greatest stress on the mod
em male comes from the homophobic bias of our
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