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m ay 1 6 .2 0 0 3 » J m « 1 m M ;3 7 ADVICE SPIRIT UALITY Keshet Portland is a group fo r Jewish members of the sexual mmonties com munity and their partners, spouses Metro: Spirituality and supporters M onthly social, rebgwus and cultural A in tw o rth United Church of C hrist is a m ulti Koinonia Catholic Community is a progressive, racial, m ulticultural, open and affirm ing church. Sunday small faith com munity that gathers weekly to celebrate w orship is at 10 am; church school fo r children runs con curre ntly (2941 NE Ainsworth St. 503-284-8767. Euchanst at Bridgeport United Church o f Chnst. A wel coming congregation. Catholic in tradition and Ecumenical aucc&teleport com .) (7 /0 3 ) m membership (6 pm Sunday 621 NE 76th Ave events (Davidor Laney 503 226-7079. ext I4 .)( 7/03) Rev Wendy Joy W oodworth 503- 7 7 7 39 0 1.) (7 /0 3 ) Mfaveriy Heights Church (UC C) is open and affirm ing w ith w orship, children's school and child care. (10 am Sunday 3300 SE Woodward St. 503-238-1337 www wavedyuccorg.) (7 /0 3 ) Mfy'east Unitarian Universalist Congregation is an open and liberal religious com m unity offenng mter- generational services and religious education fo r chil dren. It welcom es gay. lesbian, bi and trans members Anawim Comm unity o f gay men m eets w eekly fo r 503-699-0473 www komonacommumtyorg.) (7 /03) C hristian m editation and prayer (7 30 pm Thursday. Longview United M othodist Church is w eicom Unitarian U niversalist pnnciples (4 pm Sunday 503 281-0722.HT703) ing and reconciling. (10 am Sunday 2851 30th Ave. 360 425-4927 ) ( 7 /0 3 ) 3915 SE Steele St. 503-777-3704 www wyeast pnwd.uua org.) (7 /0 3 ) M etanoia Peace Community United M ethod!ct Church is a "house church" that bnngs Zion United Church of Christ an open and 503-656-7296 www atknsonchurch.com.) (7 /03) Bible Abuse Recovery is a spm tual grow th group gay and stra ight tog ethe r (Daily prayer 7 20 am. trans and heterosexual people who w ish to w orship in fo r healing gay. lesbian, bi and trans people hurt and Sunday gathenng 5 pm. 2116 NE 18th Ave 503 2 8 1 3697 www tearsoup com/m etanoia ) (7 /0 3 ) a C hnst-centered. warm , canng. m u ltia ge/race/cu ltura l Atkinson Memorial Church is a Unitarian Universalist welcoming congregation in Oregon City. (710 Sixth St abused by d isto rte d and m anipulative view s o f the B ible (503-760-5791 btbierecovery@ yahoo com w w w geooties.com /biblerecovery) (7 /0 3 ) M etropolitan Comm unity Church of Portland 9 and 11 am Sunday school fo r children is held during nity o f progressive, po litica l people explonng and cele the 11 am w orship service. (2400 NE Broadway brating the C hnstian faith. W e are sexual m inonty and 503-281-8868 m fo&m ccportlandcom .)(7703) straight, m ulticultural and m ultiracial, and our children Portland Center for Spiritual Growth is a New are valued m em bers. (10 30 am Sunday. 621 NE 76th Thought, uplifting, refreshing and exciting place o f woe Ave 5 03-2580992 w w w brtflgep orfu cc.org 7 (7 /0 3 ) sNp Becom e a m inister m our mmistena! program Congregation Neveh Shalom, an open and pro (10 am Sunday Call fo r location 503 777-0727.) ( 7/03) gressive C onservative Jew ish synagogue, extends a warm w elcom e to all sexual m ino rities Shabbat serv Portland Church of Religious Science is a lib eral, open, progressive N ew Thought com m unity wel ices 8:15 pm Fnday and 9 am S aturday (2900 S W com ing everyone to discove r the spint w ithin Change Peaceful Lane 503-246 8831.) (7703) your thinking, change your life 1 (10 am Sunday medita Congregation P 'nai O r (Faces o f Ligh t) is a tion. 10:30 am service and junior church. 6 30 pm Wednesday prayer circle 3983 NE 112th Ave 503-261-0677.) (7103) vibrant, egalitarian, Jew ish Renewal congregation in P ortland M eets several tim es a m onth in vanous loca N urtures spintual grow th and prom otes living by affirm ing congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, bi. faith com m unity (11 am Sunday 2025 NE 23rd Ave., Gresham. 503-665-8741.) (7 /0 3 ) holds ecum enical Sunday mommg w orship services at Bridgeport United Church of C hrist is a com m u tion s (PO Box 42187. Portland. OR 97242-0187. Portland Radical Faeries m eet tw ice a m onth 503-248-4500 w w w pnaiorpdx org.) (7 /0 3 ) w ith po tlucks and circle s at the fu ll m oon and the new Washington: Spirituality Abundant Life Center is A New Thought Com m unity fo r spintual awakening and transform ing lives through love A safe place where children learn to em body spintual pnnciples (10 am Sunday 10006 NE Ninth Ave . Vancouver 360-573 2626.)( 7 /0 3 ) East Vancouver United M ethodist Church is reconciling and w elcom ing. (10 am Sunday 5701 M acArthur Btvd 360-693-4761. ourclarkcounty.colum bian.com /273/.) (7 /0 3 ) First Congregational Church U nited Church o f C hrist, holds tw o Sunday services, traditional and "le ss tra d itio n a l" in an open and affirm ing congrega tion. (1220 NE 68th St . Vancouver 360-693-1476 vanucc@aol.com.) (7 /0 3 ) D ignity Portland m eets lo r M ass on Sundays m oon O pen to all men seeking alternative spintual (503-262-694 7 )(7 /0 3 ) grow th and com m unity C offe e hours sta rt 9 30 am God's Holy Territory is a chansm atic, joy-fille d w orship expenence in Vancouver w here everyone is Eastrose Fellowship Unitarian Universalist. a w el S aturdays at 3 Friends C offeehouse. 201 SE 12th Ave. (503-235-0826 otterQ pcez com .) (7 /0 3 ) coming congregation, offers Sunday service and children's religious education (10:30 am 1133 NE 181st Ave., S isterS p irit o ffe rs w om en's sp iritu a lity celebrations, Gresham 503-665-2628 eastrose@teleport com ) (7 /03) discussion groups, a drum m ing circle, w orkshops and Faith United M ethodist Church is a w elcom ing w elcom e (Suite 102, 3430 SE Belmont St. Mailing com m unity o f C hnstians in Troutdale that values and address: PO Box 9246. Portland. OR 97207. 503- 736-3297 sistersp& teleport co m ) (7 /0 3 ) classes Schedule o f events available A ll wom en are encourages all people in finding a place o f belonging in the fam ily o f G od Sunday w orship a t 1 0 1 5 am ; A dult Education at 9 am; children and youth at 10 30 am. S p irit C ird a is for lesbian, bi or trans women seeking a W ednesday Prayers 6-6 30 pm . (27400 SE Stark St. welcoming com munity in the Catholic church Meets every 503-661 -4520.) (7 /0 3 ) third Thursday in the St. Andrew N ativity School. (7 pm 806 NE Alberta St. btspmtcircle@yahoo com.) (T1073) First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open and affirming liberal religious community offenng a wide range Southm inster Presbyterian Church is a chal of programs to nurture spintual growth, community and lengm g. sup portive com m unity that w elcom es all peo ple. It is the firs t M ore Light Presbyterian C hurch m social justice Sunday service 9 and 11 am (1011 SW 12th Ave 503228-6389 www hrstuntananportlandorg ) (7/03) First United M ethodist Church o f P ortland, a welcom e gay. lesbian, bi. trans and straight. (1 1 am Sunday service. Bible study 7 pm Thursdays, except third Thursday 1500 NE 49th St 360-885 9461. pastor@ godsholytem torycom .) (7 /0 3 ) M etropolitan Community Church of the Gentle Shepherd in Vancouver w elcom es you (10 30 am and 6 3 0 pm Sunday worship. 9 am Sunday Bible study 2200 Broadway The Rev. Harriet Barshofsky 360-695-1480.) t 7 /0 3 ) Michael Servetue Unitarian Universalist Fellowship, a Welcoming Congregation, provides a home for the liberal religwus spirit. (9 15 and I I am Sunday 4505 E 18th S t. Vancouver 360695-1891)( 7/03) O regon. Sunday school and nursery care. (10 am Sunday 12250 SW Denney Road. Beaverton 503 644-2073 staff&southm m com.) (7 /0 3 ) w elcom ing and reconciling congregation, believes no W illamette Valley: Spirituality First Congregational Church U nited C hurch o f one is le ft out in G od's fam ily Sexual m inonty potlucks S t Andrew Catholic Church invites all to join a held m onthly. (10:30 am Sunday 1838 SW Jefferson diverse faith community fo r prayer and fellowship (930 am C hrist is an open and affirm ing congregation offenng S t 503-228-3195 w w w fumcpdx org ) (7 /0 3 ) Sunday 806 NE Alberta St 503281 -4429) (7/03) w orship and church school. C hild care provided and Gay and Lesbian O utreach (G A LO ) o f S t Philip S t. Jam es Lutheran Church a R econciled in N en C atholic C hurch celebrates an affirm ing M ass fo l C hnst congregation, w elcom es all people fo r tra dition 10 am worship 700 Manon St NE. Salem 503 363-3660.) (7 /0 3 ) low ed by a social (7 30 pm Fnday Paulist Center. al. litu rg ica l w orship w here w e expenence G od's re c 2408 SE 16th Ave 503 231 4 9 5 5 ) (7703) onciling love that sets all people free (9 and 11 am Sunday 1315 SW Park Ave 503 227-2439 ) (7703) Integrity is a group o f sexual m inonty Episcopalians w heelchair accessible (9 am Sunday learning hour. M om ingside United M ethodist Church is a reconciling congregation w here everyone is welcom e to participate in the fuH life o f the congregation. (8 30 and fnends Vanous locatio ns throughout O regon S t. Stephen's Episcopal Church has been w el (Bruce Mason 503 286-9111. brucepdxor@ attbi com com ing all people since 1863 (12:10 pm Wednesday w w w mtegntyusa org.) (7 /0 3 ) and 7.45 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and child care at 10 am. Southwest 13th Avenue at Clay Street 503 223-6424)17/03) Sacred Souls honors all sacred paths, prom otes peace and strive s to cre ate an environm ent that Trinity United M ethodist Church is an open the O regon S chool o f M assage (6 3 0 -8 pm Sunday C hnstian com m unity w here faith and life inte rsect. A ll 440 Ferry St. SE. Salem w holhlthffaol com. www sacredsouls org ) (7 /0 3 ) Interfaith S p iritu al C enter houses spintual direc to rs from vanous w orid religious tra ditions, w ho are available fo r guidance, classes and re tre a ts (Second Floor. 3910 SE 11th Ave 503-233 2026. ext 3 w w w m terfaithspm tualcenler co m ) (7 /0 3 ) Y O U T H school system s, w ith a focus on support fo r youth o f color. (Des 503-228-3892 des@knfam4y.org .7 (7 /0 3 ) M etro: Youth Outside In operates a d in ic Flavors exchange services that include those who Inject hor fo r anyone who ca n 't qual ify fo r the O regon Health Plan as w e l bs needle a program o f M ultiQ uoer and B rother to Brother, is a social support group for sexual m inority youth o f color 24 and younger. M eets every other Sunday fo r food and sociafong. Regular events and activities. (Des 5032283892 or des@tmfamty org. Stephan 503-417-7991 or hey.8tephan@hotmal.com.) (7 /0 3 ) Gay, Lasbian and Straight Education Network (GLSEN) figh ts to end anti-gay bias In The K -12 schools (12700 SW North Dakota St., Suite 180. 4129. Tigard. OR 97223 503-525-1177. gisenPgtsenoregon org www.ghenonegon.org.) (7703) MultfQueer a program o f Love M akes a Family, provides advocacy to sexual m ino rity youth O ffe rs resources and support m the com m unity and the and 11 am Sunday 3674 12th S t SE. Salem 503-364-5013.) (7103) sup ports and prom otes in te rfa ith dialogue M eets at in vite d 1 (10 30 am Sunday. 3915 SE Steele S t The mones. Can provide transitional housing fo r youth 20 and younger as w e l as fo r those HfV+ and younger than 23 A lso plays host to VOICES (Voices o f IndMdual and Com m unity Empowerment from the S treets), a self- support group fo r queer youth Needs volunteers o f a l mdnight Friday end Saturday. 2100 SE Belmont St 503-872-9664. TTY503-23l-9286www.smyrc.org) Youth HIV/8TD Prevention Project provides fun and educational programs along w ith counaekng and te st ing to queer youth in s friendy. relaxed environm ent (503-872-9664)0/03) Eastern Oregon: Youth ages (10 a tn 6 pm Mondey-Fnday. 1132 SW 13th Ave 503535-3800. www outsidein.org.) (7 /0 3 ) V a n g u a rd Y o u th S o rv fc u s . a program o f Cascade Behavioral H ealthcare, offers support and recreation to offers support and advocacy to gsy. lesbian, bi. trans and questioning youth «1 Eastern Oregon (541-8893119. eoc4@eoc4.org. www.eoc4.org.H7/03) gay. lesbian, bi and trans kids 23 and younger Programs include: C te c k a m M C o u n ty S o s u o l M i n o rity Y o u th C o n n e c tio n (C O S M Y O provides opportuni ties for queer and questioning kids to get together fo r Washington: Youth free, fun and supportive social actMbes. Also Triple Pohrt o ffe rs one-on-one support and referrals to to gey. lesbian, bi. trans and questioning youth in Clackamas County service providers. (503-9690060 coemycyouth@yahoo.com ) Vancouver. W a d i M eets 6-8 pm Tuesdays »1 the basem ent o f Youth House. 1112 Colum bia S i In E x p re s s io n 13 a free art/expression support Vancouver. (John 360695 1325.) (7 /0 3 ) education, support and advocacy group in Gresham fo r queer youth. Hang out and have fun every Fnday! (Jonathan 503872-9664. ext 2 8 ) P rid e P ro te c t bnngs together W ashington County queer and questioning youth to plan and attend m onthly sooth events Also information, refer ral and advocacy services m W ashington Micheoi “Misha" Kennedy's Spring FoMy hi at Scandal's O thar Side Café through May 31 Willamette Valley: Youth Gsy« Liih lin, Bi, TVmifpfMltf and Questioning Youth Group fo r ages 13 to 18 offers support. Inform ation and fun in Eugene Free, C ounty (M oty 503260-5792 molyOpride- prefect o rg ) S e x u a l M in o rity Y o u th confident«!. aduK facilitated. (Drop » 1 4-6 pm FnJgy R e c re a tio n C e n te r (S M Y R Q offers Ammon Community Center. 2700 H4yerd St drop-in com puter access p o d tables and an 5 4 1 -684-3466) (7 /0 3 ) inform al place to hang out W eekly youth sup I L ***- B I » i l a n n port groups «dudes Trans Youth Group and Personal Deity Proxy (a creative group). Group fo r ages (4-8 pm Monday and Wednesday, 4 pm- ..................... ▼ ...................... . f v ^ M M j s 1 o i M iu B i, I r v n v fp n n v r Veoeshte T O U in 25 and younger m eets every M onday in Eugene (5 pm Komoms Center. 1414 K jn cn d S t 541 346-1134.H7/Q3) Who's the pinhead? Ugly babies and single men need love, too D ear M s . B ehavior : I have a terri ble etiquette dilemma. Two good friends of mine, a lesbian couple, are about to adopt a baby from another country. We all threw a shower for them, even though in my culture we’re too superstitious to do such a thing before the baby has arrived (kennehara). The dilemma is this: Their baby is really, really ugly. It is wrinkly and sweats a lot and appears somewhat retarded with a pinhead. Obviously, we can only tell this from pictures, but 1 can’t believe they haven’t noticed it! How can I gracefully tell my friends they need to trade this baby in for a normal one NOW, before it is too late? No one would blame them for it; in fact, no one need even know. Isn’t the point of spending tens of thousands of dollars on a baby to have the option to choose one who’s not too ugly or weird? I don’t want to appear insensi tive, but 1 want to tell them before it’s too late! My girlfriend says I’m a politically incorrect, glandist bigot, and she does n’t want to be seen with me. She says every baby is beau tiful, no matter what. I say, why have an ugly kid if you can help it? Ms Behavior, who’s right? — Freakish wrinkly, sweaty creature and don’t care if her face may stop the birds from chirp ing or the sun from shining, why not leave them to their pleasure? D ear M s . B ehavior : I am what seems to be an oddity in the gay community: I am in my late 30s and still sin gle. T his is because I am still not able to devote myself 100 percent to one person and because Mr. Right has not come along yet (though not from not looking!). The problem is that the majority of my friends are in relationships and seem to have drawn a close cir cle around themselves. I constantly hear about plans that people are making with this couple or hear of events that were shared by that couple. I don’t want to be presump tuous, hut I am always tempted to say, “Why wasn’t I invited ?” T his happens with both individ ual couples and groups. It feels as if my friends are forming a couples- only club, and I am not invited. What can I do besides finding a beau A SA P? - — Ed How can I gracefully tell m y friends they need to trade this baby In for a norm al one NOW, before It Is too late? D ear F reakish : If you’re concerned that the baby is actually unhealthy and that your friends won’t notice, you can mention this to them. Some doctors specialize in analyzing photographs of infants and are fairly accurate at assessing physical or developmental problems. But it sounds like you’re probably talking about a mere lack of beauty, and your friends would probably not he deterred in either case. Perhaps they’re kinder or more spiritually evolved than you are. Your girlfriend is all wrong or too P.C. to face facts; some babies are ugly. (Although they may eventually grow past their ugly stage and become lovely toddlers, there are no guarantees.) But ugly babies need love, too. And if your friends already love this • D ear E d : Try inviting some of your cou pled friends to your house for dinner or to attend events with you. It’s true that single people often don’t make it onto the radar screen of their happily coupled friends, so extending invitations to them may remind them of your existence. The fact that you don’t have a boyfriend may he threatening to other couples who perceive you as attractive. So it may help to let them know that you’d like to find a boyfriend or even to enlist their help in meeting new people. This will help take their attention away from the potential worry that you’re a home wrecker. jn © Meryl Cohn 2003 M eryl C ohn is the author of Do What I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay and Lesbian Etiquette (Houghton M ifflm ). Signed copies are available directly from the author. Send questions or correspondence to msbehavior@aol.com.
