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may 2. 2003 A D V IC E SPIRIT UALITY Metro: Spirituality w w w m terfaithspintualcenter c o m ) (7 /0 3 ) Keshet Portland is a group fo r Jewish members o f the sexual m inorities community and their partners, spouses and supporters. M onthly social. religKXis and cultural A insw orth United Church o f C h rist is a m ulti events (D avidorLaney 50 3228 707 9. ext 14 .) (7 /03) racial, m ulticultural, open and affirm ing church Sunday w orship is at tO am; church school fo r children runs Koinonia Catholic Community is a progressive, concurrently. (2941 NE A insw orth S t 503-284 8267. small faith com munity that gathers weekly to celebrate Euchanst at Bridgeport United Church o f C hrist. A wel au cc& te le port c o rn .) (7 /0 3 ) coming congregation. Catholic in tradition and Ecumenical Answim Com m unity o f gay men m eets w eekly fo r m membership (6 pm Sunday 621 NE 76th Ave C hnstian m editation and prayer. (7 3 0 p in Thursday 5 0 3699 047 3. w w w kcxnonacotnm untyorg.)(V 03) 5 0 3 -2 8 1 -0 7 2 2 ) (7 /0 3 ) M etanoia Peace Com m unity U nited M ethodist C hurch is a ‘ house c h u rc h ' that bnngs Atkinson Memorial Church is a U ntarían Umversakst welcoming congregation m Oregon City. (710 Sixth S t gay and stra ig ht tog ethe r (D aily prayer 7.20 am. 503-656-7296 www atkxisonchurch com .) (T /03) Sunday gathenng 5 pm . 2116 N E 18th A ve 5 0 3 -2 8 1 36 97 w w w tearsoup co m /m e ta n o ia ) (7 /0 3 ) Bible Abuse Recovery is a spm tual grow th group fo r healing gay. lesbian, bi and trans people hurt and M etropolitan Com m unity C hurch o f Portland abused by d isto rte d and m anipulative view s o f the holds ecum enical Sunday m orning w orship services at Bible. (503-760-5791. biblerecovery@ yahoocom . 9 and 11 am Sunday school fo r children is held dunng w w w geocities c o m /b é le re c o v e ry ) (7 /0 3 ) the 11 am w orship service. (2 400 N E B roadw ay affirm ing w ith w orship, children's school and child care (1 0 am Sunday 33 00 SE W oodward S t 503-238-1337. w w w w averiyucc o rg .) (7 /0 3 ) m tergenerational services and religious education fo r children It w elcom es gay. lesbian, bi and trans mem Umtanan U m versalist pnnciples. (4 pm Sunday 3915 SE S teele S t. 503-777-3704 w w w w y e a s tp n w d u u a o rg .) (7 /0 3 ) Zion U nited Church o f C hrist. an open and affirm ing congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, bi. trans and heterosexual people who w ish to w o rsh p in a C hrist-centered, warm , caring, m u ltiag e/ra ce/cultural faith com m unity (11 am Sunday 2025 NE 2 3 rd A ve.. G resham 503-665 87 41.) (7 /0 3 ) Washington: Spirituality 503 281-8868 m fo@ m ccportland com .) (7 /0 3 ) Portland C enter fo r S piritual Growth is a New Abundant Ufa Cantor is A New Thought brating the C hnstian faith. W e are sexual mm onty and Thought, uplifting, refreshing and exciting place o f wor- Com m unity fo r spmtual awakening and transform ing straight, m ulticultural and m ultiracial, and our children sNp Becom e a m inister in our mimstenal program lives through love. A safe place where children team to are valued members. (1 0.30 am Sunday 621 NE 76th (10 am Sunday C a l fo r location. 503- 777-0727.) (7 /0 3 ) em body spmtual pnnciples. (10 am Sunday 10006 NE N inth Ave.. Vancouver 360-573-2626.) (7 /0 3 ) C ongregation Neveh Shalom an open and pro eral, open, progressive N ew Thought com m unity w el East Vancouver U nited M ethodist Church is gressive C onservative Jew ish synagogue, extends a com ing everyone to discover the spint w ithin Change reconciling and w elcom ing. (1 0 am Sunday warm w elcom e to all sexual m inorities. Shabbat serv your thinking, change your life 1 (1 0 am Sunday m edita 5701 M acA rthur B fvd 360-693-4761 ices 8:15 pm Fnday and 9 am Saturday. (2900 S W tion. 10:30 am service and ju n io r church. 6 30 pm o u rclarkcou ntycolum bian.co m /27 3/.) (7 /0 3 ) Peaceful Lane 503-246-8831.) (7 /0 3 ) W ednesday prayer circle. 3983 N E 112th A ve C ongregation P 'nai O r (Faces o f Light) is a 503-26 1-0 677 .) (7 /0 3 ) F irst Congregational C hurch U nited C hurch o f C hrist, holds tw o Sunday services, traditional and P ortland Radical Faeries m eet tw ice a m onth ‘ less tra ditio nal" in an open and affirm ing congrega P ortland M eets several tim es a m onth in vanous loca w ith po tlu cks and circles at the full m oon and the new tion. (1220 NE 68th S t.. Vancouver 36 0693 -14 76. tions. (PO Box 42187. P ortland. OR 9 7 2 4 2 0 1 8 7 m oon. O pen to all men seeking alternative spm tual vanucc@ aol.com.) (7 /0 3 ) ) ( 7 /0 3 ) grow th and com m unity. C offe e hours s ta rt 9:30 am D ignity P ortland m eets fo r M ass on Sundays Saturdays at 3 Fnends C offeehouse. 201 SE 12th (5 03-2 6 2 -6 9 4 7 )( 7 /0 3 ) Ave. (503-235-0826 otter@ pcez.com .) (7 /0 3 ) Eastrose Fellowship Unitarian U niversalis! a w el S is te rS p irit o ffe rs w om en's spm tuality celebrations, God's Holy Territory is a chansm atic. joy filled w o rsh p expenence in Vancouver w here everyone is w elcom e: gay, lesbian, bi. trans and straight ( I I am Sunday service Bible study 7 pm Thursdays, except discussion groups, a drum m ing circle, w orkshops and th ird Thursday 1500 NE 49th S t 360 885-9461. religious education. (10 30 am. II3 3 N E 181st Ave.. classes S chedule o f events available A ll wom en are pastor@ godsholyterritory.com .) (7 /0 3 ) Gresham. 503-6652628 eastrose@ teleport.com .) (7 /03) w elcom e (S uite 102. 3430 SE B elm ont S t. M ailing coming congregation, offers Sunday service and children's address: PO B ox 9246. Portland. O R 97207 Faith U nited M ethodist C hurch is a w elcom ing com m unity o f C hnstians in Troutdale that values and 503-736-3297. sistersp @ telepo rt.com ) (7 /0 3 ) M etropolitan Com m unity Church o f the Gentle Shepherd in Vancouver w elcom es you. (1 0 3 0 am and 6 3 0 pm Sunday w orship. 9 am Sunday encourages all people in finding a place o f belonging in S pirit C hda is fo r lesbian, bi or trans women seeking a the fam ily o f G od. Sunday w orship at 10:15 am; A dult welcoming com munity m the Catholic church. M eets every Education at 9 am; children and youth at 10:30 am. third Thursday in the St. Andrew N ativity School. (7 pm. W ednesday Prayers 6-6 30 pm (27400 SE S tark S t. 806 NE Alberta S t btspmtcircle@ yahoo com .) (7 /03) Michael Servetus Unitarian UnlverssHit Fellowship a Welcoming Congregation, provides a home B ible stud y 2200 B roadw ay The Rev. H arriet B arshofsky 3 6 0-69 5-1 480 ) (7 /0 3 ) 503-661 -4520. ) (7 /0 3 ) S outhm inator P resbyterian C hurch is a chal for the liberal religious spirit. (9 1 5 and 11 am Sunday First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open and lenging, supportive com m unity that w elcom es all peo 4505 E IB th S t. Vancouver 360695-1891 ) (7/03) affirming liberal religious community offenng a wide range ple. It is the firs t M ore Light P resbyterian C hurch in of programs to nurture spmtual growth, community and social justice Sunday service 9 and 11 am (1011 SW 12th Ave. 503-228-6389 www hrstuntananportland org ) (7/03) O regon Sunday school and nursery care. (1 0 am Sunday 12250 S W D enney Road. Beaverton 503-644 2073 staff@ southm m com .) (7 /0 3 ) St. Andrew Catholic Church invites all to jom a Willamette Valley: Spirituality F irst U nited M ethodist C hurch o f P ortland, a w elcom ing and reconciling congregation, believes no diverse faith community lor prayer and fellow shp (9 30 am F irst C ongregational Church. U nited Church o f C hnst is an open and affirm ing congregation offenng one is le ft out in G od's fam ily. Sexual m inonty potlucks Sunday 806 NE Alberta S t 503-281-4429 )0 /0 3 ) w o rsh p and church school. C hild care provided and held m onthly. (1 0 :3 0 am Sunday. 1838 S W Je ffe rso n S t. James Lutheran Church a R econciled in w heelchair accessible. (9 am Sunday learning hour, S t. 503 228-3195 w w w fum cpdx.org )(7 /0 3 ) C hnst congregation, w elcom es all people fo r tra d itio n Gay and Lesbian O utreach (GALO) o f S t. Philip al. litu rgical w orship w here we experience G od's re c Nen C atholic C hurch celebrates an affirm ing M ass fo l onciling love that sets all people free. (9 and 11 am 10 am w orship 700 M anon S t. NE. Salem 503-363 3 6 6 0 )( 7 /0 3 ) M om ingside United M ethodist Church is a Sunday 1315 S W Park A ve 503 22 7-24 39.) ( 7 /0 3 ) reconciling congregation w here everyone is welcom e 2408 SE 16th A ve 503-231-4955 ) 0 /0 3 ) St. Stephen's Episcopal C hurch has been wel- In te g rity is a group o f sexual m m onty Episcopalians com ing all people since 1863 (1 2:10 pm W ednesday to participate in the full life o f the congregation (8 3 0 and I I am Sunday 3674 12th S t SE. Salem low ed by a social. (7 3 0 pm Fnday. P aulist C enter. and fnends Vanous locations throughout O regon and 7 4 5 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and child (B ruce M ason 5 0 3 2 8 6 9 1 1 1 brucepdxor@ attbi com w w w m tegntyusa o rg .) (7 /0 3 ) care a t 10 am S outhw est 13th A venue a t C lay S tree t 503 223 6 4 2 4 )( 7 /0 3 ) In te rfa ith S p iritu a l C enter houses spm tual d ire c to rs from vanous w odd religious tra ditio ns, w ho are available fo r guidance, classes and re tre a ts (S econd Floor. 3910 SE 11th A ve 503-233 2026. ext 3 YOUTH T rinity U nited M ethodist C hurch is an open C hnstian com m unity w here faith and life in te rse ct A ll invited! (1 0 :3 0 am Sunday. 3915 SE S teele S t. The Monday and Wednesday. 4 pm-mkinght Fnday and Saturday. 2100 SE Belmont St. 503872-9664. TTY 503-231-9286 www amyrc.org.) (7 /0 3 ) Flavors, a program o f M ultiQ ueer and Brother to and younger as w e l as fo r those HIV+ and younger than Brother, is a social suppoit group fo r sexual m inority 23. A lso plays host to VOICES (Voices o f IndMdual and C om m unity Empowerment from the S treets), a self (Des 503-228-3892ordes@ tm fam fy.org Stephan mones Can provide transitional housing fo r youth 20 support group fo r queer youth. Needs volunteers o f 8 503-535-3800 www.outsrdein org.) 0 /0 /3 ) Gay, Lesbian and S traight Education N etw ork (GLSEN) fights to end anti-gay bias m K-12 Vanguard Youth Ssrvicas. a program o f Cascadia schools (12700 S W N orth D akota S t.. S uite 180. *129. Tigard OR 97223. 5 0 3525 -11 77 glsen@ gl$enoregon org w w w gtsenonegon.org) (7 /0 3 ) Behavioral HealthCare, o ffers support and recreation to gay. lesbian, bi and trans kids 23 and younger. Programs CtackmuM County Sexual M inority Youth Connection (COSMYO provides opportuni include ties fo r queer and questioning kids to get together fo r M ultiQ ueer a program o f Love M akes a Family, free, fun and supportive social activities A lso one-on- provides advocacy to sexual m inonty youth O ffe rs resources and support m th e com m unity and th e one support and referrals to Clackamas C ounty sendee providers (503-969-0060. cosm ycyouth@ yahoo.com ) school system s, w ith a focus on support fo r youth o f co lo r (Des 503-22 8-3 892 des@tmfam*y o rg .)(V 0 3 ) Youth HIV/8TD Prevention Project provides fun and educational program s along w ith counseling and testing to queer youth in a fnendy, relaxed envi ronm ent (503872-9664)( 7 /0 3 ) ages (1 0 am -6 pm M ondayFnday 1132 S W 13th Ave 503-417-7991 o r hey_stephan@ botmail.com.) (7 /03) The sup ports and prom otes in te rfa ith dialogue M e ets at the O regon S chool o f M assage. (6 3 0 8 pm S unday 44 0 F e rry S t. SE. Salem w holhlth@ aol com O utside In operates a clinic fo r anyone who ca n 't qual exchange services that include those who inject hor fo r food and socializing. Regular events and activities. Sacred S ouls honors all sacred paths, prom otes peace and strive s to cre ate an environm ent that w w w sacredsouls o r g ) (7 /0 3 ) Metro: Youth youth o f color 24 and younger M eets every other Sunday 503-364-5013.) (7 /0 3 ) Rev W endy J o y W oodw orth 50 3-7 7 7 -3 9 0 1 ) (7 /0 3 ) ify fo r the O regon Health Plan as w e l as needle Eap re e eio n is a free art/expression support group in Gresham for queer youth tin g out and have fun every Friday* (Jonathan 503872-9664. ext. 28 ) (7/03) Eastern Oregon: Youth Enrin 11 Oregon L v itrr (or IxrirjMnrirflt Living o ffers support and advocacy to gay. teabten. bi. trans and questioning youth in Eastern O regon. (541889-3119. eocH@eoc4org www.eodtorg) (7 /0 3 ) j Washington: Youth Triple Point o ffers education, support and advocacy to gay, lesbian, bi. trans and questioning youth In Vancouver, W ash M eets 6-8 pm Tuesday« in the basem ent o f Youth House, 1112 C okim bie S t. In P rid e P ro je c t brings together Vancouver. (John 3 6 0 6 9 5 - 1325.) (7 /0 3 ) W ashington County queer and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social events Also informa tion. referral and advocacy services In Washington County. (M oty 503-260-5792. m ctyO phdaproiect o rg ) (7 /03) »- . ^ Y O U t v i m Canter (8MYRO o ffe rs drop-in com puter access, pool tables and an Inform al place to hang o u t W eekly youth s u p p o rt groups indudes Trans Youth G roup and Personal D eity Prosy (a creative group). (4 8 pm Willamette Valley: Youth Gey, Lesbian, BI, Tranegendar and Questioning Youth Group fo r ages 13 to offer« s u p p o rt « fo rm a tio n and fun in 18 Eugene Free, (Drop m 48 pm Friday. Amazon Communty Center. 2700 Htyard St 541884-3406.) (7 /0 3 ) confidential, a d ri facD teted Laabian, Guy, » laaaaal. Tnawagewder Youth Group for ages 25 and younger meets every Monday in Eugene. (5pm Koinonia Center. !4l4Km cexlSt 541846-1134 m m D ear M s . B ehavior : forms of address and I have a new friend gave no consideration I’ll call Pamela. I’ve to which name should gotten to know her precede the other. The through a book group example you offered, and was thrilled to of “stacked” names find a new sane friend. sans courtesy titles, She is smart, fun and showed all the easy to talk to; she’s thoughtful considera exactly the kind of tion o f a spreadsheet friend I’ve wanted. program. The problem is that I hasten to offer she has a very posses the correct etiquette sive girlfriend, Trudy, for both matters, by Meryl Cohn who makes jealous which circumvents comments and seems that entire surname threatened by Pamela’s friendships hyphenation business entirely. W hen with other women. Trudy also inter addressing two gentlemen who con cepts her phone messages. I’ve called a sider themselves coupled, their names few times to offer Pamela a ride to the should be preceded with the courtesy book group or to invite the two of title of “Messrs.,” which is the abbre viation o f the French word them to dinner, and Trudy is invariably the one who returns my calls. She “Messieurs,” which roughly translates chats with me and says Pamela is out as “Misters.” or busy. But then when I see Pamela, Similarly, two ladies who consider she doesn’t seem to know I’ve called. themselves coupled are properly I don’t think this strange behavior addressed with the courtesy title of is specific to me; other mutual friends “Mme.,” the abbreviation of the have commented on it. I’ve considered French word “Mesdames,” which of mentioning it to Pamela— this is a rel course translates as “Madams” (without atively new relationship for her, so I’m the nefarious English connotation). not sure she knows— hut I’m not sure In both instances, an ampersand if bringing it up would harm our fledg conjoins the partners’ names. To wit: ling friendship. What do you think? — Freaked Out by the Girlfriend Messrs. John Sm ith &. Jack Jones Mme. Jane Sm ith & Jacqueline D ear F reaked O u t by the G irlfriend : Jones If Pamela hasn’t realized that Trudy is a possessive freak, she’s sure As for which name should precede to notice it soon. T he line between the other, I have found the following rule noticing someone’s jealous behavior of thumb to be convenient and agree and feeling like it’s unbearably oppres able. If I made the acquaintance of one sive can sometimes be very thin. person before he or she met the future Then the urge to pack one’s car and partner, that name precedes. If I met the head for the highway comes on like a couple after they were already partnered, case of Montezuma’s revenge. the name of the elder precedes. If you hope for a close friendship I hope you find this information with Pamela, it’s probably better if you’re useful. not the first to mention Trudy’s behav — Monsieur Manners ior. Pamela may mistakenly perceive your intentions as divisive, particularly if D ear M onsieur M a n n er s .- her relationship with Trudy is already You are a pompous etiquette night shaky. And Pamela will more likely con mare. Ms. Behavior actually said that fide about relationship troubles that arise hyphenation should only he inflicted if she doesn’t also have to sort out her on people who have made that choice feelings about you having brought and should only he considered by cou Trudy’s possessiveness to her attention. ples whose names sound good together. Unfounded jealousy is deadly to a Also, what sort of pretentiousness relationship because it makes at least would inspire you to use a French word one party feel constrained about partici as a title on an American envelope? pating in life’s pleasures (like having a Ms. Behavior did respond to the new hook group or new friendships). question of which name should precede Eventually, if their relationship is going the other and still believes her rule of to survive, Pamela is going to have to including the sexual top’s name first is tell Trudy to bug off, one way or anoth superior; your notion of using the elder er. So, if you hang in there at a patient person’s name first is sure to irritate distance, you’ll probably ultimately he more than a few sensitive homosexuals. able to have a closer friendship with her. Merci, mon petit turd. JT1 M s . Behavior vibrant, egalitanan, Jew ish Renewal congregation in 503-248-4500 w w w pnaiorpdx org Pomposity—it’s the eighth deadly sin bers N urtures spm tual grow th and prom otes living by nity o f progressive, political people explonng and cele P ortland C hurch o f R eligious Science is a lib Freaks and geeks W y'east U nitarian U nhreraalist C ongregation is an open and liberal religious com m unity offenng B ridgeport United Church o f C hrist is a com m u Ave. 50 3 2 5 8 -0 9 9 2 w w w .bndgeportucc org )(7 /0 3 ) .............v ............. Mfaveriy Haights Church (U C O is open and D ear M s . B ehavior : “Confused” recently asked you about the proper way to address correspon dence to gay couples, inquiring whether one or both surnames should be used. I was disheartened to see that your reply focused on the merits of sur name hyphenation rather than proper © Meryl C ohn 2003 M eryl C ohn is the author of Do What I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay and Lesbian Etiquette (H ouston Mifftm). Signed copies are available directly from the author. Send questions or correspondence to m shehaM or@ adi.cam . 37
