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march 7.2003 » ADVICE .................. ▼................... SPIRIT UALITY School (7 pm 806 NE Alberta St Ibtspm tcircleffyahoocom . ) (7/03) Southminster Presbyterian Church is a chal Metro: Spirituality Ainsworth United Church of Christ is a multi racial, m ulticultural, open and affirm ing church. Sunday worship is at 10 am; church school fo r children runs concurrently (2941 NE Ainsworth St. 503 284 8767 auccffteleport com .) (7/0 3 ) Anawim Community of gay men meets weekly for Chnstian meditation and prayer. (7 3 0 pm Thursday 503 281 0 7 2 2 ) (7/03) Atkinson Memorial Church is a Umtanan Universalist welcoming congregation in Oregon C ity (710 Sixth St. 503-656 7296 www atkmsonchurch.com.) (7 /0 3 ) Bridgeport United Church of Christ is a commu mty of progressive, political people exploring and cele brating the Chnstian faith We are sexual minonty and straight, multicultural and multiracial, and our children are valued members. (10 30 am Sunday. 621 NE 76th Ave 503-258-0992 w w w bndgeportucc org.) (7/03) Com passionate Heart Sangha plays host to weekly sittings in the Vipassana M editation Tradition at Flanders House. (7.30-9 pm Wednesday 2926 NE Flanders St. Jon 503-239 5539.) (7/03) Congregation Neveh Shalom an open and pro gressive Conservative Jewish synagogue, extends a warm welcome to all sexual m inorities Shabbat serv ices 8:15 pm Fnday and 9 am Saturday (2900 SW Peaceful Lane 503 246-8831.) (7/03) Congregation P'nai O r (Faces of Light) is a vibrant, egalitarian. Jewish Renewal congregation in Portland M eets several tim es a month in various loca tions (PO Box 42187. Portland. OR 97242-0187. 503-248-4500. www pnaiorpdx o rg ) (7/03) Dignity Portland meets for Mass on Sundays (503-262-694 7.) (7/03) Eastroae Fellowship Unitarian Universalist a welcoming congregation, offers Sunday service and children's religious education (10 30 am 1133 NE 181st Ave . Gresham 503-665-2628 eastrose&te/eport com .) (7/0 3 ) Faith United Methodist Church is a welcoming community o f Chnstians in Troutdale that values and encourages all people in finding a place of belonging in the family o f God. Sunday worship at 10:15 am; Adult Education at 9 am; children and youth at 10:30 am. Wednesday Prayers 6-6 30 pm (27400 SE Stark St 503-661 -4520.) (7/03) First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open and affirming liberal religious community offenng a wide range of programs to nurture spintual growth, community and social |ustice. Sunday service 9 and 11 am (1011 SW 12th Ave. 5 0 3 2 2 8 6 3 8 9 www firstum tananportland o rg ) (7/03) First United Methodist Church of Portland, a welcoming and reconciling congregation, believes no one is left out in God's family Sexual m inonty potlucks held monthly (10 30 am Sunday 1838 S W Jefferson St. 503 228-3195 www fum cpidx.org) (7/0 3 ) integrity is a group of sexual minonty Episcopalians and fnends Various locations throughout Oregon (Bmce Mason 503-286-9111 brucepdxorffattbi com. www mtegntyusa. o rg ) (7/0 3 ) Interfaith Spiritual Center houses spintual direc tors from various world religious traditions, who are available for guidance, classes and retreats. (Second Floor. 3910 SE 11th Ave 503 233 2026. ext. 3 wwwm terfaithspm tualcenter com 7(7/03) lenging, supportive community that welcomes all peo ple It is the first M ore Light Presbytenan Church m Oregon Sunday school and nursery care (fO am Sunday 12250 SW Denney Road. Beaverton 503-644-2073. staffffsouthm m com .) (7/03) Metanoia Peace Community United Methodist Church is a 'house church' that bnngs gay and straight together (Daily prayer 7 2 0 am. Sunday gathenng 5 pm 2116 NE 18th Ave 503 281-3697 www tearsoup com /m etanoia) ( 7/03) Metropolitan Community Church of Portland holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at 9 and 11 am Sunday school for children is held dunng the 11 am worship service (2400 NE Broadway 503 281 8868 m foffm ccportland co m ) (1/0 3 ) Portland Center for Spiritual Growth is a New Thought, uplifting, refreshing and excitmg place o f wor stop Become a minister m our ministerial program (10 am Sunday Call for location 503 7 7 7 6 7 2 7 ) (1103) Portland Church of Religious Science is a kb eral open, progressive New Thought community we! coming everyone to discover the spint withm Change your thinking, change your life 1 (10 am Sunday m edita tion. 1030 am service and tumor church. 6 30 pm Wednesday prayer circle 3983 NE 112th Ave 503 261 0677.) (7/03) Metro: Youth S t Andrew Catholic Church invites all to join a diverse faith community for prayer and fellowship (930 am Sunday 806 NE Alberta St 5032814429 >0103) Flavors, a program of MultiQueer and Brother to Brother, is a social support group for sexual rnmonty youth of color 24 and younger. M eets every other Sunday for food and socializing. Regular events and activities (Des 503-228-3892 or desfflm lam ily org Stephan 503-417-7991 o r hey_stephanffhotmail com.) (7/03) St. Jam as Lutheran Church, a Reconciled in Chnst congregation, welcomes all people for tradition al. liturgical worship where we experience God's rec onciling love that sets all people free. (9 and 11 am Sunday 1315 SW Park Ave 503-227-2439) (7/03) The Gay, Lssbian and Straight Education Natwork (GLSEN) fights to end anti-gay bias in K 12 schools (12700 SW North Dakota St.. Suite 180. »129. Tigard. OR 97223 503-525 1177 gtsenffglsenoregon org www gtsenoregon org.) (7/03) Gay and Lesbian Outreach (GALO) of St Philip MultiQuaar a program of Love Makes a Family, pro vides advocacy to sexual minonty youth. Offers resources and support in the community and the school systems, with a focus on support for youth of color (Des 503 228-3892 desfflm fam ily.org.)(7/03) Nen Catholic Church celebrates an affirming Mass fol lowed by a social (7 30 pm Fnday Paulist Center. 2408 SE 16th Ave. 503 231 4955 7(7/03) St. Stephen's Episcopal Church has been wel coming all people since 1863 (12 10 pm Wednesday and 7 45 and W arn Sunday Sunday school and child care at 10 am Southwest 13th Avenue at Clay Street 503-223-6424.) (7/03) Waverfy Heights Church (U CC) is open and affirm ing with worship, children's school and child care (10 am Sunday 3300 SE Woodward St 503-238-1337 www waverfyucc.org) (7/03) W y'east Unitarian Universalist Congregation is an open and liberal religious community offenng intergenerational services and religious education for children. It welcomes gay. lesbian, bi and trans mem bers Nurtures spintual growth and promotes living by Unitarian Universalist pnnciples (4 pm Sunday 3915 SE Steele S t 503-777-3704 www wyeast pnwd uua o rg ) (7/03) Zion United Church of Christ an open and affirm ing congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, bi. trans and heterosexual people who wish to worship in a Christ-centered, warm, canng. m ultiage/race/cultural faith community. (11 am Sunday 2025 NE 23rd A v e . Gresham. 503-665-8741 ) (7/03) Washington: Spirituality Abundant Life Center is A New Thought Community for spintual awakening and transforming lives through love A safe place where children learn to embody spintual pnnciples (10 am Sunday 10006 NE Ninth Ave . Vancouver 360-573-2626) (7/03> East Vancouver United Methodist Church is reconciling and welcoming. (fO am Sunday 5701 M acArthur Btvd 360-6934761 ourclarkcounty colum bian.com /273/.) (7/03) First Congregational Church. United Church of Chnst. holds two Sunday services, traditional and "less traditional' in an open and affirming congrega tion (1220 NE 68th St . Vancouver 360-693 1476 vanuccffaoI com.) (7/03) G od's Holy Territory is a chansmatic. joy-filled worship expenence in Vancouver where everyone is welcome; gay. lesbian, bi. trans and straight. ( I I am Sunday service Bible study 7 pm most Thursdays 1500 NE 49th St 360-885 9461 pastorffgodsholytem tpry co m ) (7/03) Michael Servetus Unitarian Universalist Fellowship a Welcoming Congregation, provides a home Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can't qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as needle exchange services that include those who inject hor mones Can provide transitional housing for youth 20 and younger as well as for those HIV+ and younger than 23. Also plays host to VOICES (Voices of Individual and Community Empowerment from the Streets), a self support group for queer youth Needs volunteers of all ages (10 am-6 pm Monday-Fnday 1132 SW 13th Ave 503-535 3800 www outsidem o rg ) (7/03) Vanguard Youth Services, a program of Cascadia Behavioral HealthCare. offers support and recreation to gay, lesbian, bi and trans kids 23 and younger Programs include Clackam as County Sexual Minority Youth Connection (C O SM Y C ) provides opportunities for queer and questioning kids to get together for free, fun and supportive social activities Also one-on one support and referrals to Clackamas County service providers (503-969-0060 cosmycyouthffyahoo com ) Expression is a free art/expression support group in Gresham lo r queer youth Hang out and have fun every Friday! (Jonathan 503-872-9664. ext 28 ) (1/03) Pride Project bnngs together Washington County queer and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social events Also information, referral and advocacy services in Washington County (M olly 503-260-5792 m ollyffpndeproiectorg.) (7/03) Sexual Minority Youth Recreation Center (SM Y R C ) offers drop-in computer access, pool tables and an informal place to hang out Weekly youth sup port groups includes Trans Youth Group and Personal Deity Proxy (a creative group) (4-8 pm Monday and Wednesday. 4 pm-midmght Fnday and Saturday 2100 SEBeim ont St 503-872 9664 TTY 503-231-9286 www smyre org ) (7/03) Youth H IV /STD Prevention Project provides fun and educational programs along with counseling and testing to queer youth in a fnendly. relaxed environment (503-872 9664) (1/03) to gay. lesbian, tx trans and questioning youth in Vancouver. Wash Meets 6-8 pm Tuesdays m the base ment of Youth House. 1112 Columbia St in Vancouver (John 360-695 1325 ) (7/03) Willamette Valley: Youth Willamette Valley: Spirituality First Congregational Church United Church of Chnst is an open and affirming congregation offenng worship and church school Child care provided and wheelchair accessible (9 am Sunday learning hour. 10 am worship 700 M anor S t NE. Salem 5 0 3 36 3 3 6 6 0 7(7/03) Morningside United Methodist Church is a reconciling congregation where everyone is welcome to participate in the fuH life of the congregation (8 30 and 11 am Sunday 3674 12th S t SE. Salem 503 364 5013 )0 /0 3 ) Gay, Lesbian, Bi, Tranagender and Questioning Youth Group for ages 13 to 18 offers support, information and fun in Eugene Free, confiden tial. adult-facilitated (Drop in 4-6 pm Fnday Amazon Community Center. 2700 Hilyard St 5 4 1 684 3 4 6 6) (7/03) Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender Youth Group for ages 25 and younger meets every Monday m Eugene (5 pm Komoma Center. 1414 Kincaid St 541 3 4 6 I I 3 4 ) (7/03) Sacred Souls honors all sacred paths, promotes peace and strives to create an environment that supports and promotes nterfarth ckaiogue Meets at the Oregon School of Massage (630-8 pm Sunday 440 Ferry St SE. Salem vM N th ffa o ! com www sacred sods org ) (7/03) Portland Radical Faeries meet twice a month with potlucks and circles at the full moon and the new moon Open to all men seeking alternative spintual growth and community Coffee hours start 9 30 am Saturdays at 3 Fnends Coffeehouse. 201 SE 12th Ave (5 0 3 2 3 5 0 8 26 o tte rffp ce z co m ) (7/0 3 ) SisterSpirit offers women s spmtuality celebrations, discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and classes Schedule of events available All women are welcome (Suite 102. 3430 SE Belmont S t M ating address PO Box 9246. Portland OP 97207 503 7363297 ststerspffteleporl co m ) (7/0 3 ) Spirit Circle is for lesbian, bi or trans women seek mg a welcoming community xi the Cathokc church M eets every third Thursday in the St Andrew N ativity Politics Whether social or personal, get over it or move on D ear M s B ehavior : I’m dating a new woman, Jane, who seems dogmatic. A lefty organizer, she believes politics and peace are her reli gion. That’s fine with me. I’ve cer tainly put in my years of working for the movement. On our fourth date we had a pret ty unpleasant argu ment about ideal ism and war, in which I found her to he incredibly rigid. We haven’t kissed yet or even held hands. 1 like her, hut I probably don’t like her overly radical politics enough to get very serious. Nonetheless, I feel vaguely compelled to call her and talk about what our political differences mean; in other words, we’ve yet to really have a conversation about us. Should I not call her if I’m not serious? We might be able to pull our rela tionship hack into a positive spin if she has a sease that she’s completely off- putting in these “light" political debates. Once Jane told me she felt like her politics kept her from getting involved with people. Maybe she’ll he iasightful, and we can have a fifth date. What do you think? Should I give her a second chance? - Jo - Jo action (boffing like bunnies for sport, for example), you might have a good time. In fact, if you could dis entangle yourself from further roman tic involvement after, say, the eighth date, it might he fun to have sex with a Marxist. D ear M s . B ehavior : My ex-lover, Jake-the-bisexual, is now married. His wife, Miranda, is a controlling hitch who is always trying to ruin our friendship and interfere with the business Jake and 1 run together. (We own an antique store, which I run; Jake is a silent partner.) I’m forced to deal with Miranda’s mettlesome, undermining behavior. Half the time Jake and I get along fine because we agree that she’s horri ble, but sometimes he acts like he’s in love with her, and I can’t bear it. Jake acts like a pussy-whipped jerk, always concerned about pleasing Miranda. He tells me that I’m a misog ynist and that I should shut my mouth. Don’t I have a right to ask that the hitch doesn’t come shopping for antiques in our store? I don’t think I should have to put up with her. We’ve decided to let you decide. — Sick of It Washington: Youth Triple Point offers education, support and advocacy for the liberal religious spint (9 15 and 11 am Sunday 4505 E lB th S t . Vancouver 360695 1891)( 7/03) Keshet Portland is a group for Jewish members of the sexual mmonties community and their partners, spouses and supporters Monthly social, religious and cultural events (David or Laney 503226-7079. ext 14 ) (7/03) Y O U T H Orlando Eat t Children w ith Wlno (and, apparently, sa it) through M arch 15 at Thaaterf Theatre! D ear J o -J o : If you and Jane can agree on a light comedy and Vietnamese ftxxl for your fifth date, you probably don’t also have to agree on a political plat form (unless, of course, you’re the type of woman who only wants to date if it will “lead to something,’’ and Ms. Behavior doesn’t mean a revolution). Ideally, dating is a process of getting to know another person, not necessarily trying to figure out exactly where her furni ture and politics will fit in with yours. If you’re worried about misleading Jane based on your discomfort with the fact that your social or political views don’t jibe, you can talk about it. Continued dating would only he deceitful if you pretended to want more than you really want, or to like her more than you really like her. But if your mild hope for a relationship with Jane is dependent on her sudden insight that she’s “off-putting,” you’ll probably be disappointed. It’s unlikely she’ll change. If, on the other hand, you can wrap your mind around a lighter sort of inter D ear S ick of I t : You do sound like a misogynist— and a hitter one at that. No one says you have to welcome Miranda, but calling her “the hitch” will not help improve this cozy little triangle. If your attachment to Jake is contin gent on your agreement that his wife is horri ble, you’re not much of a friend, either. Miranda should shop for antiques on your day off (or on eBay). And you should think about buying Jake out of the business (or vice versa) to preserve what’s left of your friendship. If you find this suggestion to be immediately objectionable, it’s proba bly because you’re invested in contin uing the drama as a way of staying connected to Jake. No one says you have to welcome Miranda but calling her “the bitch will not help Improve this cozy little triangle ” © Meryl Cohn 2003 MERYL C ohn is the author of Do What I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay and Lesbian Etiquette (Houghton Mifflm). Signed copies are available directly from the author. Send questions or correspondence to msbehai*or@aol .com.
