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SPIRIT UALITY
School (7 pm 806 NE Alberta St
Ibtspm tcircleffyahoocom . ) (7/03)
Southminster Presbyterian Church is a chal
Metro: Spirituality
Ainsworth United Church of Christ is a multi
racial, m ulticultural, open and affirm ing church. Sunday
worship is at 10 am; church school fo r children runs
concurrently (2941 NE Ainsworth St. 503 284 8767
auccffteleport com .) (7/0 3 )
Anawim Community of gay men meets weekly for
Chnstian meditation and prayer. (7 3 0 pm Thursday
503 281 0 7 2 2 ) (7/03)
Atkinson Memorial Church is a Umtanan
Universalist welcoming congregation in Oregon C ity
(710 Sixth St. 503-656 7296
www atkmsonchurch.com.) (7 /0 3 )
Bridgeport United Church of Christ is a commu
mty of progressive, political people exploring and cele
brating the Chnstian faith We are sexual minonty and
straight, multicultural and multiracial, and our children
are valued members. (10 30 am Sunday. 621 NE 76th
Ave 503-258-0992 w w w bndgeportucc org.) (7/03)
Com passionate Heart Sangha plays host to
weekly sittings in the Vipassana M editation Tradition at
Flanders House. (7.30-9 pm Wednesday 2926 NE
Flanders St. Jon 503-239 5539.) (7/03)
Congregation Neveh Shalom an open and pro
gressive Conservative Jewish synagogue, extends a
warm welcome to all sexual m inorities Shabbat serv
ices 8:15 pm Fnday and 9 am Saturday (2900 SW
Peaceful Lane 503 246-8831.) (7/03)
Congregation P'nai O r (Faces of Light) is a
vibrant, egalitarian. Jewish Renewal congregation in
Portland M eets several tim es a month in various loca
tions (PO Box 42187. Portland. OR 97242-0187.
503-248-4500. www pnaiorpdx o rg ) (7/03)
Dignity Portland meets for Mass on Sundays
(503-262-694 7.) (7/03)
Eastroae Fellowship Unitarian Universalist a
welcoming congregation, offers Sunday service and
children's religious education (10 30 am
1133 NE 181st Ave . Gresham 503-665-2628
eastrose&te/eport com .) (7/0 3 )
Faith United Methodist Church is a welcoming
community o f Chnstians in Troutdale that values and
encourages all people in finding a place of belonging in
the family o f God. Sunday worship at 10:15 am; Adult
Education at 9 am; children and youth at 10:30 am.
Wednesday Prayers 6-6 30 pm (27400 SE Stark St
503-661 -4520.) (7/03)
First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open and
affirming liberal religious community offenng a wide
range of programs to nurture spintual growth,
community and social |ustice. Sunday service 9 and
11 am (1011 SW 12th Ave. 5 0 3 2 2 8 6 3 8 9
www firstum tananportland o rg ) (7/03)
First United Methodist Church of Portland, a
welcoming and reconciling congregation, believes no
one is left out in God's family Sexual m inonty potlucks
held monthly (10 30 am Sunday 1838 S W Jefferson
St. 503 228-3195 www fum cpidx.org) (7/0 3 )
integrity is a group of sexual minonty Episcopalians
and fnends Various locations throughout Oregon
(Bmce Mason 503-286-9111 brucepdxorffattbi com.
www mtegntyusa. o rg ) (7/0 3 )
Interfaith Spiritual Center houses spintual direc
tors from various world religious traditions, who are
available for guidance, classes and retreats. (Second
Floor. 3910 SE 11th Ave 503 233 2026. ext. 3
wwwm terfaithspm tualcenter com 7(7/03)
lenging, supportive community that welcomes all peo
ple It is the first M ore Light Presbytenan Church m
Oregon Sunday school and nursery care (fO am
Sunday 12250 SW Denney Road. Beaverton
503-644-2073. staffffsouthm m com .) (7/03)
Metanoia Peace Community United
Methodist Church is a 'house church' that bnngs
gay and straight together (Daily prayer 7 2 0 am.
Sunday gathenng 5 pm 2116 NE 18th Ave
503 281-3697 www tearsoup com /m etanoia) ( 7/03)
Metropolitan Community Church of Portland
holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at
9 and 11 am Sunday school for children is held dunng
the 11 am worship service (2400 NE Broadway
503 281 8868 m foffm ccportland co m ) (1/0 3 )
Portland Center for Spiritual Growth is a New
Thought, uplifting, refreshing and excitmg place o f wor
stop Become a minister m our ministerial program
(10 am Sunday Call for location 503 7 7 7 6 7 2 7 ) (1103)
Portland Church of Religious Science is a kb
eral open, progressive New Thought community we!
coming everyone to discover the spint withm Change
your thinking, change your life 1 (10 am Sunday m edita
tion. 1030 am service and tumor church. 6 30 pm
Wednesday prayer circle 3983 NE 112th Ave
503 261 0677.) (7/03)
Metro: Youth
S t Andrew Catholic Church invites all to join a
diverse faith community for prayer and fellowship (930 am
Sunday 806 NE Alberta St 5032814429 >0103)
Flavors, a program of MultiQueer and Brother to
Brother, is a social support group for sexual rnmonty
youth of color 24 and younger. M eets every other
Sunday for food and socializing. Regular events and
activities (Des 503-228-3892 or desfflm lam ily org
Stephan 503-417-7991 o r hey_stephanffhotmail com.)
(7/03)
St. Jam as Lutheran Church, a Reconciled in
Chnst congregation, welcomes all people for tradition
al. liturgical worship where we experience God's rec
onciling love that sets all people free. (9 and 11 am
Sunday 1315 SW Park Ave 503-227-2439) (7/03)
The Gay, Lssbian and Straight Education
Natwork (GLSEN) fights to end anti-gay bias in K 12
schools (12700 SW North Dakota St.. Suite 180.
»129. Tigard. OR 97223 503-525 1177
gtsenffglsenoregon org www gtsenoregon org.) (7/03)
Gay and Lesbian Outreach (GALO) of St Philip
MultiQuaar a program of Love Makes a Family, pro
vides advocacy to sexual minonty youth. Offers
resources and support in the community and the school
systems, with a focus on support for youth of color
(Des 503 228-3892 desfflm fam ily.org.)(7/03)
Nen Catholic Church celebrates an affirming Mass fol
lowed by a social (7 30 pm Fnday Paulist Center.
2408 SE 16th Ave. 503 231 4955 7(7/03)
St. Stephen's Episcopal Church has been wel
coming all people since 1863 (12 10 pm Wednesday
and 7 45 and W arn Sunday Sunday school and child
care at 10 am Southwest 13th Avenue at Clay Street
503-223-6424.) (7/03)
Waverfy Heights Church (U CC) is open and
affirm ing with worship, children's school and child care
(10 am Sunday 3300 SE Woodward St
503-238-1337 www waverfyucc.org) (7/03)
W y'east Unitarian Universalist Congregation
is an open and liberal religious community offenng
intergenerational services and religious education for
children. It welcomes gay. lesbian, bi and trans mem
bers Nurtures spintual growth and promotes living by
Unitarian Universalist pnnciples (4 pm Sunday
3915 SE Steele S t 503-777-3704
www wyeast pnwd uua o rg ) (7/03)
Zion United Church of Christ an open and
affirm ing congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, bi.
trans and heterosexual people who wish to worship in
a Christ-centered, warm, canng. m ultiage/race/cultural
faith community. (11 am Sunday 2025 NE 23rd A v e .
Gresham. 503-665-8741 ) (7/03)
Washington: Spirituality
Abundant Life Center is A New Thought
Community for spintual awakening and transforming
lives through love A safe place where children learn to
embody spintual pnnciples (10 am Sunday 10006 NE
Ninth Ave . Vancouver 360-573-2626) (7/03>
East Vancouver United Methodist Church is
reconciling and welcoming. (fO am Sunday
5701 M acArthur Btvd 360-6934761
ourclarkcounty colum bian.com /273/.) (7/03)
First Congregational Church. United Church of
Chnst. holds two Sunday services, traditional and
"less traditional' in an open and affirming congrega
tion (1220 NE 68th St . Vancouver 360-693 1476
vanuccffaoI com.) (7/03)
G od's Holy Territory is a chansmatic. joy-filled
worship expenence in Vancouver where everyone is
welcome; gay. lesbian, bi. trans and straight.
( I I am Sunday service Bible study 7 pm most
Thursdays 1500 NE 49th St 360-885 9461
pastorffgodsholytem tpry co m ) (7/03)
Michael Servetus Unitarian Universalist
Fellowship a Welcoming Congregation, provides a home
Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can't
qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as needle
exchange services that include those who inject hor
mones Can provide transitional housing for youth 20
and younger as well as for those HIV+ and younger
than 23. Also plays host to VOICES (Voices of
Individual and Community Empowerment from the
Streets), a self support group for queer youth Needs
volunteers of all ages (10 am-6 pm Monday-Fnday
1132 SW 13th Ave 503-535 3800 www outsidem o rg )
(7/03)
Vanguard Youth Services, a program of Cascadia
Behavioral HealthCare. offers support and recreation to
gay, lesbian, bi and trans kids 23 and younger
Programs include Clackam as County Sexual
Minority Youth Connection (C O SM Y C ) provides
opportunities for queer and questioning kids to get
together for free, fun and supportive social activities
Also one-on one support and referrals to Clackamas
County service providers (503-969-0060
cosmycyouthffyahoo com ) Expression is a free
art/expression support group in Gresham lo r queer
youth Hang out and have fun every Friday! (Jonathan
503-872-9664. ext 28 ) (1/03)
Pride Project bnngs together Washington County
queer and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly
social events Also information, referral and advocacy
services in Washington County (M olly 503-260-5792
m ollyffpndeproiectorg.) (7/03)
Sexual Minority Youth Recreation Center
(SM Y R C ) offers drop-in computer access, pool tables
and an informal place to hang out Weekly youth sup
port groups includes Trans Youth Group and Personal
Deity Proxy (a creative group) (4-8 pm Monday and
Wednesday. 4 pm-midmght Fnday and Saturday
2100 SEBeim ont St 503-872 9664 TTY 503-231-9286
www smyre org ) (7/03)
Youth H IV /STD Prevention Project provides fun
and educational programs along with counseling and
testing to queer youth in a fnendly. relaxed environment
(503-872 9664) (1/03)
to gay. lesbian, tx trans and questioning youth in
Vancouver. Wash Meets 6-8 pm Tuesdays m the base
ment of Youth House. 1112 Columbia St in Vancouver
(John 360-695 1325 ) (7/03)
Willamette Valley: Youth
Willamette Valley: Spirituality
First Congregational Church United Church of
Chnst is an open and affirming congregation offenng
worship and church school Child care provided and
wheelchair accessible (9 am Sunday learning hour.
10 am worship 700 M anor S t NE. Salem
5 0 3 36 3 3 6 6 0 7(7/03)
Morningside United Methodist Church is a
reconciling congregation where everyone is welcome
to participate in the fuH life of the congregation (8 30
and 11 am Sunday 3674 12th S t SE. Salem
503 364 5013 )0 /0 3 )
Gay, Lesbian, Bi, Tranagender and
Questioning Youth Group for ages 13 to 18 offers
support, information and fun in Eugene Free, confiden
tial. adult-facilitated (Drop in 4-6 pm Fnday Amazon
Community Center. 2700 Hilyard St 5 4 1 684 3 4 6 6)
(7/03)
Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender Youth
Group for ages 25 and younger meets every Monday
m Eugene (5 pm Komoma Center. 1414 Kincaid St
541 3 4 6 I I 3 4 ) (7/03)
Sacred Souls honors all sacred paths, promotes peace
and strives to create an environment that supports and
promotes nterfarth ckaiogue Meets at the Oregon School
of Massage (630-8 pm Sunday
440 Ferry St SE. Salem
vM N th ffa o ! com
www sacred
sods org )
(7/03)
Portland Radical Faeries meet twice a month
with potlucks and circles at the full moon and the new
moon Open to all men seeking alternative spintual
growth and community Coffee hours start 9 30 am
Saturdays at 3 Fnends Coffeehouse. 201 SE 12th
Ave (5 0 3 2 3 5 0 8 26 o tte rffp ce z co m ) (7/0 3 )
SisterSpirit offers women s spmtuality celebrations,
discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and
classes Schedule of events available All women are
welcome (Suite 102. 3430 SE Belmont S t M ating
address PO Box 9246. Portland OP 97207
503 7363297 ststerspffteleporl co m ) (7/0 3 )
Spirit Circle is for lesbian, bi or trans women seek
mg a welcoming community xi the Cathokc church
M eets every third Thursday in the St Andrew N ativity
Politics
Whether social or personal,
get over it or move on
D ear M s
B ehavior :
I’m dating a new
woman, Jane, who
seems dogmatic. A
lefty organizer, she
believes politics and
peace are her reli
gion. That’s fine
with me. I’ve cer
tainly put in my
years of working for
the movement.
On our fourth
date we had a pret
ty unpleasant argu
ment about ideal
ism and war, in
which I found her
to he incredibly rigid. We haven’t
kissed yet or even held hands.
1 like her, hut I probably don’t like
her overly radical politics enough to
get very serious. Nonetheless, I feel
vaguely compelled to call her and talk
about what our political differences
mean; in other words, we’ve yet to
really have a conversation about us.
Should I not call her if I’m not serious?
We might be able to pull our rela
tionship hack into a positive spin if she
has a sease that she’s completely off-
putting in these “light" political
debates. Once Jane told me she felt like
her politics kept her from getting
involved with people. Maybe she’ll he
iasightful, and we can have a fifth date.
What do you think? Should I give
her a second chance?
- Jo - Jo
action (boffing like
bunnies for sport, for
example), you might
have a good time. In
fact, if you could dis
entangle yourself
from further roman
tic involvement
after, say, the eighth
date, it might he fun
to have sex with a
Marxist.
D ear M s .
B ehavior :
My ex-lover,
Jake-the-bisexual, is
now married. His
wife, Miranda, is a
controlling hitch who is always trying
to ruin our friendship and interfere
with the business Jake and 1 run
together. (We own an antique store,
which I run; Jake is a silent partner.)
I’m forced to deal with Miranda’s
mettlesome, undermining behavior.
Half the time Jake and I get along
fine because we agree that she’s horri
ble, but sometimes he acts like he’s in
love with her, and I can’t bear it.
Jake acts like a pussy-whipped jerk,
always concerned about pleasing
Miranda. He tells me that I’m a misog
ynist and that I should shut my mouth.
Don’t I have a right to ask that the
hitch doesn’t come shopping for
antiques in our store? I don’t think I
should have to put up with her.
We’ve decided to let you decide.
— Sick of It
Washington: Youth
Triple Point offers education, support and advocacy
for the liberal religious spint (9 15 and 11 am Sunday
4505 E lB th S t . Vancouver 360695 1891)( 7/03)
Keshet Portland is a group for Jewish members of the
sexual mmonties community and their partners, spouses
and supporters Monthly social, religious and cultural
events (David or Laney 503226-7079. ext 14 ) (7/03)
Y O U T H
Orlando Eat t
Children w ith Wlno
(and, apparently, sa it)
through M arch 15 at
Thaaterf Theatre!
D ear J o -J o :
If you and Jane can agree on a
light comedy and Vietnamese ftxxl for
your fifth date, you probably don’t
also have to agree on a political plat
form (unless, of
course, you’re
the type of
woman who only
wants to date if
it will “lead to
something,’’ and
Ms. Behavior
doesn’t mean a
revolution).
Ideally, dating
is a process of
getting to know
another person, not necessarily trying
to figure out exactly where her furni
ture and politics will fit in with yours.
If you’re worried about misleading
Jane based on your discomfort with
the fact that your social or political
views don’t jibe, you can talk about it.
Continued dating would only he
deceitful if you pretended to want
more than you really want, or to like
her more than you really like her. But
if your mild hope for a relationship
with Jane is dependent on her sudden
insight that she’s “off-putting,” you’ll
probably be disappointed. It’s unlikely
she’ll change.
If, on the other hand, you can wrap
your mind around a lighter sort of inter
D ear S ick of I t :
You do sound like a misogynist—
and a hitter one at that.
No one says you have to welcome
Miranda, but calling her “the hitch”
will not help
improve this cozy
little triangle. If
your attachment
to Jake is contin
gent on your
agreement that
his wife is horri
ble, you’re not
much of a friend,
either.
Miranda should
shop for antiques
on your day off (or on eBay). And
you should think about buying Jake
out of the business (or vice versa) to
preserve what’s left of your friendship.
If you find this suggestion to be
immediately objectionable, it’s proba
bly because you’re invested in contin
uing the drama as a way of staying
connected to Jake.
No one says
you have to
welcome Miranda
but calling her
“the bitch will not
help Improve this
cozy little triangle
”
© Meryl Cohn 2003
MERYL C ohn is the author of Do What
I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay
and Lesbian Etiquette (Houghton
Mifflm). Signed copies are available
directly from the author. Send questions or
correspondence to msbehai*or@aol .com.