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About Just out. (Portland, OR) 1983-2013 | View Entire Issue (Feb. 21, 2003)
fabruary 21. Mini | M t — l |3 y ADVICE SPIRITUALITY Metro: Spirituality Ainsworth United Church of C hrist is a multi racial, multicultural, open and affirming church Sunday worship is at 10 am: church school for children runs concurrently. (2941 NE Ainsworth St 503 284 8767 aucc&teteport com ) (7/03) Anawim Community of gay men m eets w eekly for Chnstian meditation and prayer. (7:30 pm Thursday 503 281 0722.) (7/03) Atkinson Memorial Church is a Unitarian U n iv e rs a l welcoming congregation in Oregon C ity. (710 Sixth S t 503-656 7296 www athnsonchurch.com.) (7/03) Compassionate Heart Sangha plays host to weekly sittings in the Vipassana Meditation Tradition at Flanders House. (7:30-9 pm Wednesday 2926 NE Flanders St Jon 503 239-5539 .) (7 /03) Congregation Neveh Shalom, an open and pro gressive Conservative Jew ish synagogue, extends a warm welcome to all sexual mmonties Shabbat serv ices 8 1 5 pm Friday and 9 am Saturday (2900 SW Peaceful Lane 503 246 8831) (7/03) Congregation P'nai O r (Faces of Light) is a vibrant, egalitarian. Jew ish Renewal congregation m Portland M eets several tim es a month in various loca tions (PO Box 42187. Portland. OR 97242-0187. 503-248-4500. www pnatorpdx org ) (7 /03) Dignity Portland m eets for M ass on Sundays. (503 262 6947.) (7/03) Eastrose Fellowship Unitarian Universalist a wel coming congregation, offers Sunday service and children's religious education. (1030 am 1133NE 181st Ave. Gresham 503-665-2628 eastroseffteleport com.) (7/03) Faith United Methodist Church is a welcoming community of Chnstians in Troutdale that values and encourages all people in finding a place of belonging in the family of God Sunday worship at 10:15 am, Adult Education at 9 am; children and youth at 10 30 am W ednesday prayers 6-6 30 pm. (27400 S E Start St 503661-4520)1 7/03) First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open and affirming liberal religious community offering a wide range of programs to nurture spmtual growth, community and social justice Sunday service 9 and 11 am: (1011 SW 12th Ave 503228-6389 www firstuntananportlandorg ) (7/03) First United Methodist Church of Portland, a welcoming and reconciling congregation, believes no one is left out in God's family Sexual mmonty potkicks held monthly (10 30 am Sunday 1838 SW Jefferson S t 503-228-3195 www fumcpdx.org.) (7 /03) Integrity is a group of sexual mmonty Episcopalians and friends Various locations throughout Oregon (Bruce Mason 5032869111 bwcepdxorffattbi com www mtegntyusa.org.) (7/03) Interfaith Spiritual Center houses spmtual direc tors from various world rekgious traditions, who are available for guidance, classes and retreats (Second Floor. 3910 S E 11th Ave 503-233 2026. ext. 3 www. mterfaithspmtualcenter. com. )(7 /03) Keshet Portland is a group for Jew ish members of the sexual mmonties community and their partners, spouses and supporters Monthly social, rekgmus and cultural events (David or Laney 503-226- 7079. ext 14 .7(7/03) Metanoia Peace Community United Methodist Church is a ‘ house ch u rch .' brmgmg gay and straight together (Daily prayer 7 20 am. Sunday gathering 5 pm 2116 NE 18th Ave 503-281 3697 www tearsoup com/metancxa ) (7/03) 1 1 ,1 , 1 1 n n I l i a ■ w n e liu P L u r n L —A m e tro p o litan \sotiiinunity v n u r c n or m n a ____-1 nB holds ecumenical Sunday morning worsNp services at 9 and 11 am Sunday school for children is held during the 11 am worsfxp service (2400 NE Broadway 5032818868 mfoffmccportlandcom.) (7/03) Portland Center for Spiritual Growth is a New Thought, upkftng, refreshmg and exciting place of wor- shp Become a minister m our mmistenal program (10 am Sunday Cal lor location 503- 777-0727.) (7/03) ..........................▼ .......................... S t Andrew Cathode Church mates a l to jom a dwerse faith community for prayer and felowsNp (9 30 am Sunday 806NEAterta St 503 281 -4429 ) (7/03) St. Jam as Lutheran Church a Reconciled in C hnst congregation, welcom es a l people for tradition al. Iiturgmal worsNp where we experience God's rec onciling love that se ts all people free (9 and 11 am Sunday 1315 SW Park Ave 503 227-2439.) (7/03) Gay and Lesbian Outreach (GALO) of St Phikp Nen Catholic Church celebrates an affirming M ass followed by a social (7 30 pm Friday Paukst Center. 2408 S E 16th Ave. 503-2314955 7(7/03) St. Stephen's Episcopal Church has been wel coming all people since 1863 (12:10 pm Wednesday and 7 45 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and child care at 10 am Southwest 13th Avenue at Clay Street 503 223-6424)0/03) Waveriy Heights Church (U CC) is open and affirming with worship, children's school and child care (10 am Sunday 3300 S E Woodward St. 503 238 1337 www waverlyucc org .3 (7 /0 3) Wy'east Unitarian Universalist Congregation is an open and liberal religious community offering inter generational services and religious education for children. It welcom es gay. lesbian, bi and trans members Nurtures spmtual growth and promotes liv ing by Unitarian Universalist pnnciples. (4 pm Sunday 3915 S E Steele St 503-777-3704 www wyeastpnwd uua.org ) (7/03) Zion United Church of Christ, an open and affirming congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, h , trans and heterosexual people who wish to worship in a Chnst-centered, warm, canng. m ultiage/race/cultural faith community (11 am Sunday 2025 NE 23rd Ave.. Gresham 503-665 8741 ) (7/03) Washington: Spirituality Abundant Life Center is A New Thought Community for spmtual awakening and transforming lives through love A safe place where children learn to embody spmtual pnnciples. ( 10 am Sunday 10006 NE Ninth Ave . Vancouver 360-573 2626 ) ( 7/03) East Vancouver United Methodist Church is reconciling and welcoming (10 am Sunday 5701 MacArthur Bhd 360-6934761 ourclarkcounty.columbian.com/273/.) (7/03) First Congregational Church. United Church of C hnst, holds two Sunday services, traditional and "le ss traditional'm an open and affirming congrega tion. (1220 NE 68th St . Vancouver 360693 1476 vanuccffao! com ) (7/03) God's Holy Territory is a charismatic, joy-filed wor ship experience m Vancouver where everyone is wel come: gay. lesbian, b . trans and straqht ( I I am Sunday service Bible study 7 pm most Thursdays 1500 NE 49th St 360885-9461 pastorffgodsholytemtocy com) (7/03) Michael Servetus Unitarian Universalist Fellowship, a Welcoming Congregation, provides a home for the liberal religious spirit (9:15 and 11 am Sunday 4505 E 18th S t . Vancouver 360-695-1891.) V OL ' T H Metro: Youth Flavors, a program of MultiQueer and Brother to Brother, is a social support group for sexual mmonty youth of color 24 and yodhger M eets every other Sunday for food and socializing Regular events and activities (Des 503 2283892 or desfflmfamilyorg Stephan 503-417-7991 or hey_stephan@hotmail com ) The Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network (GLSEN ) fights to end anti gay bias in K-12 schools. (12700 SW North Dakota S t . Suite 180. *129. Tigard. OR 97223 503-525-1177 glsenffglsenoregon org www glsenoregon org ) (7/03) MultiQueer a program of Love M akes a Family, pro vides advocacy to sexual mmonty youth. O ffers resources and support m the community and the school system s, with a focus on support for youth of color. (Des 503-228 3892 desfflmfamilyorg) (7/03) Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can't qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as needle exchange services that include those who inject hor mones. Can provide transitional housing for youth 20 and younger as well as for those HIV+ and younger than 23 Also plays host to V O IC ES (Voices of Individual and Community Empowerment from the Streets), a self support group for queer youth Needs volunteers of all ages ( 10 am-6 pm Monday-Fnday 1132SW 13th Ave 503-535-3800 www outsidem org) (7/03) Vanguard Youth Ssrvicas. a program of Cascadia Behavioral HealthCare. offers support and recreation to gay. lesbian, bi and trans kids 23 and younger Programs include Clackam as County Sexual Minority Youth Connection (COSM YC) provides opportunities for queer and questioning kids to get together for free, fun and supportive social activities. Also one-on-one support and referrals to Clackam as County service providers. (503969-0060 cosmycyouthffyahoocom.) Expression is a free art/expression support group in Gresham for queer youth. Hang out and have fun every Friday! (Jonathan 503-8729664. ext 28.) ( 7/03) P rid a P ro je c t brings together Washington County queer and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social events Also information, referral and advocacy services m Washington County (Molly 503 2605792 mollyffpndeprcfect.org) (7/03) Sexual Minority Youth Recreation Center (SM YRC) offers drop-m computer access, pool tables and an informal place to hang out. W eekly youth sup port groups includes Trans Youth Group and Personal Deity Proxy (a creative group) (4 8 pm Monday and Wednesday. 4 pm-midnight Friday and Saturday 2100 S E Belmont St 5038729664 TTY 503 231 9286 www smyre org) (7/03) Youth HfV/STD Prevention Project provides fun and educational programs along with counseling and testing to queer youth m a fnendly, relaxed environment (503-872 9664) (7/03) (7/03) Willamette Valley: Spirituality First Congregational Church. United Church of Chnst is an open and affirming congregation offering worsNp and church school Child care provided and wheelchair accessible (9 am Sunday learning hour. 10 am worshp 700 Manon St. NE. Salem. 5033633660 3(7 /03) a a ---------- ________ f - u . -a mm .« at . A | 1||_ , L - w t t i i t v t f lw O Triple Point offers education, support and advocacy to gay. lesbian, bi. trans and questioning youth m Vancouver. W ash M eets 6-8 pm Tuesdays m the base ment of Youth House. 1112 Columbia S t m Vancouver (John 360-695-1325.) (7/03) Willamette Valley: Youth reconciling congregation where everyone is welcome to partw pate in the M life of the congregation (830 Gay, Lesbien, Bi, Tranegender and Questioning Youth Group for ages 13 to 18 offers and 11 am Sunday 3674 12th St. SE. Salem 503 364-5013.HT/03) support, information and fun m Eugene Free, confiden tial. adult facifitated (Drop in 4-6 pm Friday Amazon Sacred Souls honors al sacred paths, promotes Community Center. 2700 tkfyard St 541-684 3466 ) (7/ 03) peace and strives to create an environment that sup ports and prom otes mterfaith dialogue M eets at the Oregon School of M assage ( 6 30-8 pm Sunday 440 Ferry S t SE. Salem wholhlthffaol com www sacredsouls.org) (7 /0 3) Lesbian, Gay, B iaaiual, Tranegender Youth Group for ages 25 and younger meets every Monday in Eugene (5 pm Komona Center. 1414 Kincaid St. 541 3461134 )(7 103) Portland Radical Faeries meet tw ice a month with potkicks and circles at the M moon and the new moon Open to a l men seeking alternative spmtual growth and community C offee hours start 9 30 am Saturdays at 3 Fnends Coffeehouse. 201 S E 12th Ave (5 03235-0826 otterffpcez com ) (7/03) SisterSpirit offers women's spirituality celebrations, discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and classes Schedule of events available A l women are welcome (Suite 102. 3430 S E Belmont St MaAng Southmineter Pre tbyte Han Church is a chal lengmg. supportive community that welcom es a l peo ple It is the first M ore Light Presbyterian Church m Oregon Sunday school and nursery care (10 am Sunday 12250 SW Denney Road. Beaverton 503-644-2073 staffOsouthmm com ) (7/03) D ear M s . B ehavior : I recently went to see a medical specialist who was highly recommended to me by several people, including my own doctor. H e’s reputed to he the best in his field for the par ticular surgery 1 now need. Unfortunately, I hated the guy. Not only was he condescending and rude, but he also seemed to he homophobic. He made a derogatory joke after a male nurse left the room and then started making sexual com ments about women. I think he assumed that since I’m a jock, I must share his disgust ing misogynist and heterosexist views. Ordinarily, I’d object, but in this situation I didn’t want to upset the guy who may someday cut into my knee. Tire thing is, I don’t feel comfort able with him personally. Some of my friends tell me that his personali ty and views shouldn’t matter, his expertise and ability to fix my knee are all 1 should care about. What do you think? — Homo with a Busted Knee Washington: Youth 10 30 am service and junior church. 630 pm Wednesday prayer cxck 3983 NE 112th Ave 503 261-0677 7(7/03) Spirit C ircle « for lesbian, bi or trans women seek ing a welcoming community si the Catholic church M eets every third Thursday in the S t Andrew Nativity School (7 pm 806 NE Alberta St btspmtcircleffyahoocom) (7/03) Don’t let a ’phobe probe y ou r queer body (7/03) Portland Church of Religious Science is a kbet al. open, progressive New Thought community welcommg everyone to dracover the spmt vathm Change your think mg. change your He* (10 am Sunday meditation. address PO Box 9246. Portland. OR 97207 503 7363297 sisterspffteleportcom 7(7/03 ) Shock doc Raymond Alexander's D ear H omo with a B usted K nee : It’s hard to imagine that you could relax and suck down the anesthesia, knowing that the person “car ing” for you is a homophobe. You may feel good about the fact that he’s reputed to be a renowned surgeon, but your ability to lie back and to recover may be hindered by your reaction to his unpleasantness. Try to find another qualified, respected doctor who’s experienced with the surgery you need. He doesn’t have to be charming— not too many doctors are charming, anyway— but it would be best if he didn’t make queer jokes while examining or operating on your queer body. ' coughs or gasps, as if my nine years alone are a sign of a major personali ty defect. Does a long period of single ness signal to my dates that I’m damaged? Should I lie about it so I don’t scare these women off? — Rachel D ear R achel : You don’t actual ly owe anyone an explanation for your long period of solitude, but if you fail to provide a credible reason some o f your dates may slip out the bathroom window, fearing that you’ve spent the past nine years living with your mother or in prison— not that it’s usually too dif ficult to find a girlfriend in women’s prison— or that you’ve been a bad girl, participating in a secret, lasciv ious relationship. You can be yourself on a date— it’s really better not to lie— as long as you have the awareness that most people try to frame information about them selves in an attractive manner. Pay attention to advertisements and mar keting campaigns; they mpy teach you how to position yourself. For instance, you might say, “I’m slow to get involved, but I’m well worth the wait because once I com mit, I’m truly loyal and devoted." (O f course you should say this only if it’s true.) O r “ I’m selective about love, but you sure seem to have the right qualities.” Many les bians are bound to be suspicious of your capacity for long-term involve ment, particularly right after your apparent need for so much time alone. But only you can really assess your own ability and desire for intimacy or maybe even a hidden fear of it. If the right woman gives you the opportunity, you both may be pleas antly surprised to find that you’re like a dry sponge, absorbing all the juici ness of new love. I t’s hard to Imagine that you could relax and suck down the anesthesia, know ing that the person “ caring’f o r you Is a homophobe D ear M s . B ehavior : I have been single for nine years but am now ready to find a girlfriend. I’ve been answering personal ads recently. Each new woman I go out with asks about my relationship history immediately. When I reveal how long I’ve been single, my date always in © Meryl Cohn 2003 M eryl C ohn is the author of Do W hat I Say: Ms. Behavior’s G uide to G ay and Lesbian Etiquette (Houghton M ifflin). Her Internet site is www.mshehavior.com. Send questions or correspondence to mshehavurr@aol .com. *
