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ADVICE
SPIRITUALITY
Metro: Spirituality
Ainsworth United Church of C hrist is a multi
racial, multicultural, open and affirming church Sunday
worship is at 10 am: church school for children runs
concurrently. (2941 NE Ainsworth St 503 284 8767
aucc&teteport com ) (7/03)
Anawim Community of gay men m eets w eekly for
Chnstian meditation and prayer. (7:30 pm Thursday
503 281 0722.) (7/03)
Atkinson Memorial Church is a Unitarian
U n iv e rs a l welcoming congregation in Oregon C ity.
(710 Sixth S t 503-656 7296
www athnsonchurch.com.) (7/03)
Compassionate Heart Sangha plays host to
weekly sittings in the Vipassana Meditation Tradition at
Flanders House. (7:30-9 pm Wednesday 2926 NE
Flanders St Jon 503 239-5539 .) (7 /03)
Congregation Neveh Shalom, an open and pro
gressive Conservative Jew ish synagogue, extends a
warm welcome to all sexual mmonties Shabbat serv
ices 8 1 5 pm Friday and 9 am Saturday (2900 SW
Peaceful Lane 503 246 8831) (7/03)
Congregation P'nai O r (Faces of Light) is a
vibrant, egalitarian. Jew ish Renewal congregation m
Portland M eets several tim es a month in various loca
tions (PO Box 42187. Portland. OR 97242-0187.
503-248-4500. www pnatorpdx org ) (7 /03)
Dignity Portland m eets for M ass on Sundays.
(503 262 6947.) (7/03)
Eastrose Fellowship Unitarian Universalist a wel
coming congregation, offers Sunday service and children's
religious education. (1030 am 1133NE 181st Ave.
Gresham 503-665-2628 eastroseffteleport com.) (7/03)
Faith United Methodist Church is a welcoming
community of Chnstians in Troutdale that values and
encourages all people in finding a place of belonging in
the family of God Sunday worship at 10:15 am, Adult
Education at 9 am; children and youth at 10 30 am
W ednesday prayers 6-6 30 pm. (27400 S E Start St
503661-4520)1 7/03)
First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open and
affirming liberal religious community offering a wide range of
programs to nurture spmtual growth, community and social
justice Sunday service 9 and 11 am: (1011 SW 12th Ave
503228-6389 www firstuntananportlandorg ) (7/03)
First United Methodist Church of Portland, a
welcoming and reconciling congregation, believes no
one is left out in God's family Sexual mmonty potkicks
held monthly (10 30 am Sunday 1838 SW Jefferson
S t 503-228-3195 www fumcpdx.org.) (7 /03)
Integrity is a group of sexual mmonty Episcopalians
and friends Various locations throughout Oregon
(Bruce Mason 5032869111 bwcepdxorffattbi com
www mtegntyusa.org.) (7/03)
Interfaith Spiritual Center houses spmtual direc
tors from various world rekgious traditions, who are
available for guidance, classes and retreats (Second
Floor. 3910 S E 11th Ave 503-233 2026. ext. 3
www. mterfaithspmtualcenter. com. )(7 /03)
Keshet Portland is a group for Jew ish members of
the sexual mmonties community and their partners,
spouses and supporters Monthly social, rekgmus and
cultural events (David or Laney 503-226- 7079.
ext 14 .7(7/03)
Metanoia Peace Community United
Methodist Church is a ‘ house ch u rch .' brmgmg
gay and straight together (Daily prayer 7 20 am.
Sunday gathering 5 pm 2116 NE 18th Ave
503-281 3697 www tearsoup com/metancxa ) (7/03)
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holds ecumenical Sunday morning worsNp services at
9 and 11 am Sunday school for children is held during
the 11 am worsfxp service (2400 NE Broadway
5032818868 mfoffmccportlandcom.) (7/03)
Portland Center for Spiritual Growth is a New
Thought, upkftng, refreshmg and exciting place of wor-
shp Become a minister m our mmistenal program
(10 am Sunday Cal lor location 503- 777-0727.) (7/03)
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S t Andrew Cathode Church mates a l to jom a
dwerse faith community for prayer and felowsNp (9 30 am
Sunday 806NEAterta St 503 281 -4429 ) (7/03)
St. Jam as Lutheran Church a Reconciled in
C hnst congregation, welcom es a l people for tradition
al. Iiturgmal worsNp where we experience God's rec
onciling love that se ts all people free (9 and 11 am
Sunday 1315 SW Park Ave 503 227-2439.) (7/03)
Gay and Lesbian Outreach (GALO) of St Phikp
Nen Catholic Church celebrates an affirming M ass
followed by a social (7 30 pm Friday Paukst Center.
2408 S E 16th Ave. 503-2314955 7(7/03)
St. Stephen's Episcopal Church has been wel
coming all people since 1863 (12:10 pm Wednesday
and 7 45 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and child
care at 10 am Southwest 13th Avenue at Clay Street
503 223-6424)0/03)
Waveriy Heights Church (U CC) is open and
affirming with worship, children's school and child care
(10 am Sunday 3300 S E Woodward St.
503 238 1337 www waverlyucc org .3 (7 /0 3)
Wy'east Unitarian Universalist Congregation
is an open and liberal religious community offering
inter generational services and religious education for
children. It welcom es gay. lesbian, bi and trans
members Nurtures spmtual growth and promotes liv
ing by Unitarian Universalist pnnciples. (4 pm Sunday
3915 S E Steele St 503-777-3704
www wyeastpnwd uua.org ) (7/03)
Zion United Church of Christ, an open and
affirming congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, h ,
trans and heterosexual people who wish to worship in
a Chnst-centered, warm, canng. m ultiage/race/cultural
faith community (11 am Sunday 2025 NE 23rd Ave..
Gresham 503-665 8741 ) (7/03)
Washington: Spirituality
Abundant Life Center is A New Thought
Community for spmtual awakening and transforming
lives through love A safe place where children learn to
embody spmtual pnnciples. ( 10 am Sunday 10006 NE
Ninth Ave . Vancouver 360-573 2626 ) ( 7/03)
East Vancouver United Methodist Church is
reconciling and welcoming (10 am Sunday
5701 MacArthur Bhd 360-6934761
ourclarkcounty.columbian.com/273/.) (7/03)
First Congregational Church. United Church of
C hnst, holds two Sunday services, traditional and
"le ss traditional'm an open and affirming congrega
tion. (1220 NE 68th St . Vancouver 360693 1476
vanuccffao! com ) (7/03)
God's Holy Territory is a charismatic, joy-filed wor
ship experience m Vancouver where everyone is wel
come: gay. lesbian, b . trans and straqht ( I I am Sunday
service Bible study 7 pm most Thursdays 1500 NE 49th
St 360885-9461 pastorffgodsholytemtocy com) (7/03)
Michael Servetus Unitarian Universalist
Fellowship, a Welcoming Congregation, provides a
home for the liberal religious spirit (9:15 and 11 am
Sunday 4505 E 18th S t . Vancouver 360-695-1891.)
V OL ' T H
Metro: Youth
Flavors, a program of MultiQueer and Brother to
Brother, is a social support group for sexual mmonty
youth of color 24 and yodhger M eets every other
Sunday for food and socializing Regular events and
activities (Des 503 2283892 or desfflmfamilyorg
Stephan 503-417-7991 or hey_stephan@hotmail com )
The Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education
Network (GLSEN ) fights to end anti gay bias in K-12
schools. (12700 SW North Dakota S t . Suite 180.
*129. Tigard. OR 97223 503-525-1177
glsenffglsenoregon org www glsenoregon org ) (7/03)
MultiQueer a program of Love M akes a Family, pro
vides advocacy to sexual mmonty youth. O ffers
resources and support m the community and the school
system s, with a focus on support for youth of color.
(Des 503-228 3892 desfflmfamilyorg) (7/03)
Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can't
qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as needle
exchange services that include those who inject hor
mones. Can provide transitional housing for youth 20
and younger as well as for those HIV+ and younger
than 23 Also plays host to V O IC ES (Voices of
Individual and Community Empowerment from the
Streets), a self support group for queer youth Needs
volunteers of all ages ( 10 am-6 pm Monday-Fnday
1132SW 13th Ave 503-535-3800 www outsidem org)
(7/03)
Vanguard Youth Ssrvicas. a program of Cascadia
Behavioral HealthCare. offers support and recreation to
gay. lesbian, bi and trans kids 23 and younger
Programs include Clackam as County Sexual
Minority Youth Connection (COSM YC) provides
opportunities for queer and questioning kids to get
together for free, fun and supportive social activities.
Also one-on-one support and referrals to Clackam as
County service providers. (503969-0060
cosmycyouthffyahoocom.) Expression is a free
art/expression support group in Gresham for queer
youth. Hang out and have fun every Friday!
(Jonathan 503-8729664. ext 28.) ( 7/03)
P rid a P ro je c t brings together Washington County
queer and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly
social events Also information, referral and advocacy
services m Washington County (Molly 503 2605792
mollyffpndeprcfect.org) (7/03)
Sexual Minority Youth Recreation Center
(SM YRC) offers drop-m computer access, pool tables
and an informal place to hang out. W eekly youth sup
port groups includes Trans Youth Group and Personal
Deity Proxy (a creative group) (4 8 pm Monday and
Wednesday. 4 pm-midnight Friday and Saturday
2100 S E Belmont St 5038729664 TTY 503 231 9286
www smyre org) (7/03)
Youth HfV/STD Prevention Project provides fun
and educational programs along with counseling and
testing to queer youth m a fnendly, relaxed environment
(503-872 9664) (7/03)
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Willamette Valley: Spirituality
First Congregational Church. United Church of
Chnst is an open and affirming congregation offering
worsNp and church school Child care provided and
wheelchair accessible (9 am Sunday learning hour.
10 am worshp 700 Manon St. NE. Salem.
5033633660 3(7 /03)
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Triple Point offers education, support and advocacy
to gay. lesbian, bi. trans and questioning youth m
Vancouver. W ash M eets 6-8 pm Tuesdays m the base
ment of Youth House. 1112 Columbia S t m Vancouver
(John 360-695-1325.) (7/03)
Willamette Valley: Youth
reconciling congregation where everyone is welcome
to partw pate in the M life of the congregation (830
Gay, Lesbien, Bi, Tranegender and
Questioning Youth Group for ages 13 to 18 offers
and 11 am Sunday 3674 12th St. SE. Salem
503 364-5013.HT/03)
support, information and fun m Eugene Free, confiden
tial. adult facifitated (Drop in 4-6 pm Friday Amazon
Sacred Souls honors al sacred paths, promotes
Community Center. 2700 tkfyard St 541-684 3466 )
(7/ 03)
peace and strives to create an environment that sup
ports and prom otes mterfaith dialogue M eets at the
Oregon School of M assage ( 6 30-8 pm Sunday 440
Ferry S t SE. Salem wholhlthffaol com
www sacredsouls.org) (7 /0 3)
Lesbian, Gay, B iaaiual, Tranegender Youth
Group for ages 25 and younger meets every Monday
in Eugene (5 pm Komona Center. 1414 Kincaid St.
541 3461134 )(7 103)
Portland Radical Faeries meet tw ice a month
with potkicks and circles at the M moon and the new
moon Open to a l men seeking alternative spmtual
growth and community C offee hours start 9 30 am
Saturdays at 3 Fnends Coffeehouse. 201 S E 12th
Ave (5 03235-0826 otterffpcez com ) (7/03)
SisterSpirit offers women's spirituality celebrations,
discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and
classes Schedule of events available A l women are
welcome (Suite 102. 3430 S E Belmont St MaAng
Southmineter Pre tbyte Han Church is a chal
lengmg. supportive community that welcom es a l peo
ple It is the first M ore Light Presbyterian Church m
Oregon Sunday school and nursery care (10 am
Sunday 12250 SW Denney Road. Beaverton
503-644-2073 staffOsouthmm com ) (7/03)
D ear M s .
B ehavior :
I recently
went to see a
medical specialist
who was highly
recommended to
me by several
people, including
my own doctor.
H e’s reputed to
he the best in his
field for the par
ticular surgery 1
now need.
Unfortunately,
I hated the guy.
Not only was he
condescending
and rude, but he
also seemed to he
homophobic. He made a derogatory
joke after a male nurse left the room
and then started making sexual com
ments about women.
I think he assumed that since
I’m a jock, I must share his disgust
ing misogynist and heterosexist
views. Ordinarily, I’d object, but in
this situation I didn’t want to upset
the guy who may someday cut into
my knee.
Tire thing is, I don’t feel comfort
able with him personally. Some of
my friends tell me that his personali
ty and views shouldn’t matter, his
expertise and ability to fix my knee
are all 1 should care about. What do
you think?
— Homo with a Busted Knee
Washington: Youth
10 30 am service and junior church. 630 pm Wednesday
prayer cxck 3983 NE 112th Ave 503 261-0677 7(7/03)
Spirit C ircle « for lesbian, bi or trans women seek
ing a welcoming community si the Catholic church
M eets every third Thursday in the S t Andrew Nativity
School (7 pm 806 NE Alberta St
btspmtcircleffyahoocom) (7/03)
Don’t let a ’phobe probe y ou r queer body
(7/03)
Portland Church of Religious Science is a kbet al.
open, progressive New Thought community welcommg
everyone to dracover the spmt vathm Change your think
mg. change your He* (10 am Sunday meditation.
address PO Box 9246. Portland. OR 97207
503 7363297 sisterspffteleportcom 7(7/03 )
Shock doc
Raymond
Alexander's
D ear H omo with a B usted K nee :
It’s hard to
imagine that
you could relax
and suck down
the anesthesia,
knowing that
the person “car
ing” for you is a
homophobe.
You may feel
good about the
fact that he’s
reputed to be a
renowned surgeon, but your ability
to lie back and to recover may be
hindered by your reaction to his
unpleasantness.
Try to find another qualified,
respected doctor who’s experienced
with the surgery you need. He doesn’t
have to be charming— not too many
doctors are charming, anyway— but it
would be best if he didn’t make queer
jokes while examining or operating
on your queer body. '
coughs or gasps, as
if my nine years
alone are a sign of
a major personali
ty defect.
Does a long
period of single
ness signal to my
dates that I’m
damaged? Should I
lie about it so I
don’t scare these
women off?
— Rachel
D ear R achel :
You don’t actual
ly owe anyone an
explanation for
your long period
of solitude, but if
you fail to provide a credible reason
some o f your dates may slip out the
bathroom window, fearing that
you’ve spent the past nine years
living with your mother or in
prison— not that it’s usually too dif
ficult to find a girlfriend in women’s
prison— or that you’ve been a bad
girl, participating in a secret, lasciv
ious relationship.
You can be yourself on a date— it’s
really better not to lie— as long as you
have the awareness that most people
try to frame information about them
selves in an attractive manner. Pay
attention to advertisements and mar
keting campaigns; they mpy teach you
how to position yourself.
For instance, you might say, “I’m
slow to get involved, but I’m well
worth the wait because once I com
mit, I’m truly
loyal and
devoted." (O f
course you
should say this
only if it’s
true.) O r “ I’m
selective about
love, but you
sure seem to
have the right
qualities.”
Many les
bians are bound to be suspicious of
your capacity for long-term involve
ment, particularly right after your
apparent need for so much time alone.
But only you can really assess your
own ability and desire for intimacy or
maybe even a hidden fear of it.
If the right woman gives you the
opportunity, you both may be pleas
antly surprised to find that you’re like
a dry sponge, absorbing all the juici
ness of new love.
I t’s
hard to Imagine
that you could relax
and suck down the
anesthesia, know ing
that the person
“ caring’f o r you
Is a homophobe
D ear M s . B ehavior :
I have been single for nine years
but am now ready to find a girlfriend.
I’ve been answering personal ads
recently.
Each new woman I go out with
asks about my relationship history
immediately. When I reveal how long
I’ve been single, my date always
in
© Meryl Cohn 2003
M eryl C ohn is the author of
Do W hat I Say: Ms. Behavior’s
G uide to G ay and Lesbian Etiquette
(Houghton M ifflin). Her Internet site
is www.mshehavior.com.
Send questions or correspondence to
mshehavurr@aol .com.
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