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tabfuary 7. 2ÛQ3 33 ADVICE SPIRITUALITY Metro: Spirituality St. Jama* Lutheran Church a Reconciled in Chnst congregation, welcomes all people for tradition al. liturgical worship where we experience God's rec onciling love that sets all people free (9 and 11 am Sunday 1315 SW Park Ave 503-227-2439X7/03) Ainsworth United Church of Christ is a multiracial, multicultural, open and affirming church Sunday worship Is at 10 am. church school for children runs concurrently (294I NE Ainsworth St 503 284-8767 auccQteleport com.H7/03) Gay and Laabian Outreach (GALO) of St Philip Nen Catholic Church celebrates an affirming Mass fol lowed by a social (7 30 pm Fnday Paulist Center. 2408 SE 16th Ave 503-231 49557(7/03) Anawim Community of gay men meets weekly for Chnstian meditation and prayer (7:30 pm Thursday 503-281 0722.) (7/03) St. Stephan's Episcopal Church has been wel coming all people since 1863 (12 10 pm Wednesday and 745 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and child care at 10 am Southwest 13th Avenue at Clay Street 503 223 6424 7(7/03) Atkinson Memorial Church is a Unitarian Universalis! welcoming congregation In Oregon City (710 Sixth St 503-656-72% www atkmsonchunch com.HT/03) Compassionate Heart Sangha plays host to weekly sittings in the Vipassana M editation Tradition at Flanders House (730-9 pm Wednesday 2926 NE Flanders St Jon 503 239-5539X7/03) Congregation Neveh Shalom an open and pro gressive Conservative Jewish synagogue, extends a warm welcome to all sexual minorities. Shabbat serv ices 8 :15 pm Fnday and 9 am Saturday (2900 SW Peaceful Lane 503-246-883)X 7/03) Congregation P'nai Or (Faces of Light) is a vibrant, egalitanan. Jewish Renewal congregation in Portland Meets several times a month in vanous loca tions (PO Box 42187. Portland. OR 97242-0187. 503-248 4500 w wwpnaiorpdx.org) (7/03) Dignity Portland meets for Mass on Sundays. (503-262694 7.) (7/03) Eastrose Fellowship Unitarian Universalist a wel coming congregation, offers Sunday service and children's religious education (10 30 am 1133 NE 181st Ave. Gresham 503-665-2628 eastrose&eleport com ) (7/03) Faith United Methodist Church is a welcoming community of Christians in Troutdale that values and encourages all people in finding a place of belonging in the family of God. Sunday worship at 10:15 am; Adult Education at 9 am; children and youth at 10:30 am Wednesday Prayers 6-6:30 pm. (27400 SE Stark St. 503 661-4520.) (7/03) Waveriy Haights Church (UCC) is open and affirming with worship, children's school and child care. (10 am Sunday 3300 SE Woodward St 503-238-1337 www wavertyucc.org ) (7/03) Wy'east Unitarian Universalist Congregation is an open and liberal religious community offenng mtergenerational services and religious education for children It welcomes gay. lesbian, bi and trans mem bers Nurtures spintual growth and promotes living by Unitanan Universalist pnnciples. (4 pm Sunday 3915 SE Steele St 503-777-3704 www wyeastpnwd. uua. o rg) (7 /03) Zion United Church of Christ, an open and affirming congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, bi. trans and heterosexual people who wish to worship in a Chnst-centered, warm, canng. m ultiage/race/cultural faith community ( I I am Sunday 2025 NE 23rd Ave.. Gresham 503 665 874 1) (7/03) Washington: Spirituality Abundant Life Center is A New Thought Community for spintual awakening and transforming lives through love A safe place where children learn to embody spintual pnnciples (10 am Sunday 10006 NE Ninth Ave . Vancouver 360 573-2626 7(7/03) East Vancouver United Methodist Church is reconciling and welcoming. (10 am Sunday. 5701 MacArthur Bfvd 360693-4761 ourclarkcounty.Columbian com/2 7 3 /7 (7/03) First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open and affirming liberal religious community offenng a wide range of programs to nurture spintual growth, commu nity and social justice Sunday service 9 and 11 am (1011 SW 12th Ave 503-228-6389 www firstunitarianportland org.) (7/03) First Congregational Church. United Church of Chnst. holds two Sunday services, traditional and "less traditional" in an open and affirming congrega tion (1220 NE 68th St.. Vancouver. 360693-1476 vanucc&aol com. 7(7/03) First United Methodist Church o f Portland, a welcoming and reconciling congregation, believes no one is left out in God's family Sexual minonty potlucks held monthly (1030 am Sunday 1838 SW Jefferson St 503-228-3195. www fumcpdx.org) (7/03) God's Holy Territory offers a spint-filled worship experience, seeking God for holiness and wholeness. For gay. lesbian, bi. trans and straight. Everyone wel come! ( I I am Sunday. 7 pm Thursday Bible study and prayer 1500 NE 49th St.. Vancouver 360-885-9461 gmbear68@netzero net.) (7/03) Integrity is a group of sexual minonty Episcopalians and fnends Various locations throughout Oregon (Bruce Mason 503-286-9111 brucepdxor&attbi com www mtegntyusa o rg 7 (7/03) Interfaith Spiritual Center houses spintual direc tors from various world religious traditions, who are available for guidance, classes and retreats (Second Floor. 3910 SE 11th Ave 503 233 2026. ext 3 www mterfaithspintualcenter. com. 7(7/03) Keshet Portland is a group for Jewish members of the sexual mmonties community and their partners, spouses and supporters Monthly social, religious and cultural events (Davidor Laney 503-226-7079. ext 14X7/03) Metanoia Peace Community United Methodist Church is a "house church." bnngmg gay and straight together (Daily prayer 7.20 am. Sunday gathenng 5 pm 2116 NE 18th Ave 503 2 8 1 3697 www tearsoup com/metanoa.) (7/03) Metropolitan Community Church of Portland holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at 9 and 11 am Sunday school for children is held during the 11 am worship service (2400 NE Broadway 503-281-8868 mfo&mccportland com 7 (7/03) Portland Center for Spiritual Growth is a New Thought, uplifting, refreshing and exciting place of wor- sNp Become a minister in our ministerial program (10 am Sunday Call for location 503-777 07277(7/03) YOUTH Metro: Youth Flavors a program of MultiQueer and Brother to Brother, is a social support group for sexual minonty youth of color 24 and younger Meets every other Sunday for food and socializing. Regular events and activ ities (Des 503-2283892 or desQIrnfamfy org Stephan 503 417 7991 or hey_stephan@hotmailcom.)(7/03) The Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network (GLSEN) fights to end anti gay bias in K 12 schools (12700 SW North Dakota S t, Suite 180. *129. Tigard. OR 97223 503-525-1177. glsenQglsenoregon org www glsenoregon org.) (7/03) MultiQueer a program of Love Makes a Family, pro vides advocacy to sexual minonty youth Offers resources and support in the community and the school systems, with a focus on support for youth o f color. (Des 503 228-3892 des&mfamily org 7 (7/03) Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can't qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as needle exchange services that include those who inject hor mones. Can provide transitional housing for youth 20 and younger as well as for those HIV+ and younger than 23. Also plays host to VOICES (Voices of Individual and Community Empowerment from the Streets), a self support group for queer youth. Needs volunteers of all ages (10 am-6 pm Monday Fnday I132S W 13th Ave 503-535-3800 www outsidein o rg ) (7/03) Vanguard Youth Sarvicas. a program of Cascadia Behavioral HealthCare. offers support and recreation to gay. lesbian, bi and trans kids 23 and younger Programs include Clackamas County Saiual Minority Youth Connection (COSMYC) provides opportum ties for queer and questioning kids to get together for free, fun and supportive social activities Also one-on- one support and referrals to Clackamas County service providers (503-%9-0060 cosmycyouth&yahoo.com.) Expression is a free art/expression support group m Gresham for queer youth Hang out and have fun every Fnday' (Jonathan 503-8729664. ext 28 7(7/03) Pride Project brings together Washington County queer and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social events Also information, referral and advocacy services in Washington County (Molly 503260-5792 molty&pndeproiect org.) (7/03) Sexual Minority Youth Recreation Center (SMYRC) offers drop-in computer access, pool tables and an informal place to hang out. Weekly youth sup port groups includes Trans Youth Group and Personal Deity Proxy (a creative group) (4 8 pm Monday and Wednesday. 4 pm-midnight Fnday and Saturday 2100 SE Belmont St 503-8729664 TTY 503 231 9286 www smyrc.org.) (7/03) Fellowship a Welcoming Congregation, provides a home for the liberal religious spirit (9:15 and 11 am Sunday 4505 E 18th St . Vancouver 360-6951891.7 (7/03) Youth HIV/STD Prevention Project provides fun and educational programs along with counseling and testing to queer youth in a friendly, relaxed environment (503-8729664) (7/03) W illam ette Valley: Spirituality Washington: Youth First Congregational Church. United Church of Chnst is an open and affirming congregation offenng worship and church school Child care provided and wheelchair accessible (9 am Sunday learning hour. 10 am worship 700 Manon St NE. Salem 503 3 63 36 60 X 7/03 ) Triple Point offers education, support and advocacy to gay. lesbian, bi. trans and questioning youth in Vancouver. Wash Meets 6-8 pm Tuesdays in the base ment of Youth House. 1112 Columbia St. in Vancouver (John 360695-1325.7(7/03) IlimllAol O ---- a-- I I n U a r i a n I 1-i_______ li-i micndoi j o r w u is unium an unfvorsaiisi Momingside United Methodist Church is a reconciling congregation where everyone is welcome to participate in the full life of the congregation (830 and 11 am Sunday 3674 12th St SE. Salem 503 364-5013.) (7/03) Sacred Souls honors all sacred paths, promotes peace and strives to create an environment that supports and promotes mterfarth dialogue Meets at the Oregon School of Massage (630-8 pm Sunday 440 Ferry St SE. Salem wbolhIthQaol com www sacredsouls org 7 (7/03) Willamette Valley: Youth Gay, Lesbian, Bi, Transgender and Questioning Youth Group lor ages 13 to 18 offers support, mforma tion and fun m Eugene. Free, confidential, adult facilitated (Drop in 4-6 pm Fnday Amazon Community Center. 2700 Hilyard St. 541-684 3466 )17/03) Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender Youth Group for ages 25 and younger meets every Monday m Eugene (5 pm Koinonia Center. 1414 Kincaid St 541 346 1134X7/03) Portland Church of Religious Science is a liberal, open, progressive New Thought community welcoming everyone to discover the spirit withm Change your think ing. change your We1 (10 am Sunday meditation. 1030 am service and junior church. 630 pm Wednesday prayer circle 3983 NE 112th Ave 503 261 0677X7/03) Portland Radical Faeries meet twice a month with potlucks and circles at the full moon and the new moon Open to all men seeking alternative spintual growth and community Coffee hours start 9 30 am Saturdays at 3 Fnends Coffeehouse. 201 SE 12th Ave (503 235 0626 otterQpcez com ) (7/03) S is te rS p irit offers women's spmtuality celebrations, discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and classes Schedule of events available All women are welcome (Suite 102. 3430 SE Belmont St Mailing address PO Box 9246. Portland. OR 97207 503- 7363297 sisterspOteleport com 7 (7/03) Spirit Circla is for lesbian, bi or trans women seek mg a welcoming community m the Catholic church Meets every third Thursday m the St Andrew Nativity School (7 pm 806 NE Alberta St IbtspmtcircleQyahoo com ) (7103) Southminster Prasbytarian Church is a chal lengmg, supportive community that welcomes all peo ple It is the first More Light Presbyterian Church in Oregon Sunday school and nursery care (fO am Sunday 12250 SVV Denney Road Beaverton 503 644 2073 staffihouthmin com 7 (7/03) S t Andrew Catholic Church invites a lto pm a diverse farth community for prayer and feUowstxp (930am Sunday 906 NE Aberta St 503-2814429X7/03) * ................... ▼.................... Whole ne species ere being created in the bic revolutioi according to artist Dan Busdor, whose paintings through Feb. 23 at Talisman Gallery Mind altering Just say NO to LTR D ear M s . B ehavior : However, nature Where are always provides a few the alternative mutations, sometimes alternatives? with serendipitous When 1 read the results. It’s from this personals, they sound small population of good: “Creative, delightfully aberrant kind, optimistic GF women that you’ll 40+, likes outdoors, find your dream dyke. literature, movies, Make sure to say conversation....” what you’re really Then at the end looking for in a per there is always that sonal ad, without getting-painted-into- pussyfooting around. a-comer part about You might try some seeking LTR. Not by M e ryl Cohn thing like: “Middle- that I’m opposed to aged lesbian seeks long term— a girlfriend of mine from similar passionately inspired gcxJdess 25 years ago is my closest family. But muse for sex and fun, but don’t bother didn’t we wear out “serial monogamy" if you want cohabitation or a long in the 70s? term relationship.” Where are the girls who want to Once you capture this rare breed, he primarily with themselves, who it may be best to proceed like a lawyer can be with you and love you without and make her initial your personal ad having pairing as an ultimate agenda? in three places, showing that she’s I have played every imaginable type read, understood and agreed to your of wife, husband, maid, baby sitter, terms. mom, adventure guide and other, But please note that even the most darker, shadow roles for lovers. die-hard, fun-loving, noncommit- The chase is high. The catching is ment-seeking dyke is ultimately just sweet. as vulnerable to falling in love as any And then it takes twice as long to of us. Perhaps you’ll write again seek extract ourselves after the coupling-up ing different advice if you find that it phase inevitably compromises us both happens to you. into a suffocating box that doesn’t resemble what either person really D e a r M s . B e h a v io r : wants for herself. My boyfriend, Joel, has been read I want some strong and centered ing about using hallucinogenic drugs women in my life to enter into my as a way to have a spiritual experi orbit without either of us having to ence. He really wants me to take become a moon to the other’s planet. mushrooms with him so we can have Please tell me, Ms. Behavior, how and sex he thinks will be special. He says where do I look for this? What do you he wants the experience to “enhance say in a classified ad when you want our connection to our higher selves mates who don’t want to mate? and each other." I know how to be loyal and true. 1 I don’t have any desire to do drugs. know how to love women and please I like sex to feel very grounded in them and nurture them and make reality. Should I stand my ground, or them scream in bliss. But I don’t should I give in and take the mush know how to approach this— how to rooms so as not to disappoint Joel? do it without falling into the ruts of — Tom worn-out habits that aren’t even of our own creation. D ear T o m : I don’t think the answer is a new It’s never a good idea to ingest girl. I think the answer is a new way anything just to please someone else, to go about the whole thing. How do even if you think your lack of willing I get there? ness will disappoint. If you don’t want P.S. You are welcome to give my mushrooms in your bed, just say no to address out freely if anyone is interest mushrooms. ed. Maybe we can start a support If Joel really needs a mind- group or a 12-step program or a altering experience during sex, motorcycle club or something. perhaps he can chant or hold his — Myra breath or drink a martini. If you both long for a stronger connection D ear M yra : during sex, maybe you can engage You’re much more likely to find an in some rituals (read a lesbian god occasional simpatico dyke who’ll sleep dess book for tips) or take a class in tantric lovemaking. J H with you just for fun than you are to succeed in perpetuating a large-scale revolution. A campaign to abolish © Meryl Cohn 2003 serial monogamy in lesbians is about as likely to work as convincing the MERYL C ohn is the author of Do What attendants of a PETA convention to I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay eat veal. and Lesbian Etiquette (Houghton Lesbians invented serial Mifflm). Her Internet site is monogamy. It’s our cultural heritage wuAv.msbehavior.com. Send questions or and probably our genetic destiny. correspondence to msbehavior<Saol com. Ms. Behavior *
