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ADVICE
SPIRITUALITY
Metro: Spirituality
St. Jama* Lutheran Church a Reconciled in
Chnst congregation, welcomes all people for tradition
al. liturgical worship where we experience God's rec
onciling love that sets all people free (9 and 11 am
Sunday 1315 SW Park Ave 503-227-2439X7/03)
Ainsworth United Church of Christ is a
multiracial, multicultural, open and affirming church
Sunday worship Is at 10 am. church school for children
runs concurrently (294I NE Ainsworth St
503 284-8767 auccQteleport com.H7/03)
Gay and Laabian Outreach (GALO) of St Philip
Nen Catholic Church celebrates an affirming Mass fol
lowed by a social (7 30 pm Fnday Paulist Center.
2408 SE 16th Ave 503-231 49557(7/03)
Anawim Community of gay men meets weekly for
Chnstian meditation and prayer (7:30 pm Thursday
503-281 0722.) (7/03)
St. Stephan's Episcopal Church has been wel
coming all people since 1863 (12 10 pm Wednesday
and 745 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and child
care at 10 am Southwest 13th Avenue at Clay Street
503 223 6424 7(7/03)
Atkinson Memorial Church is a Unitarian Universalis!
welcoming congregation In Oregon City (710 Sixth St
503-656-72% www atkmsonchunch com.HT/03)
Compassionate Heart Sangha plays host to
weekly sittings in the Vipassana M editation Tradition at
Flanders House (730-9 pm Wednesday 2926 NE
Flanders St Jon 503 239-5539X7/03)
Congregation Neveh Shalom an open and pro
gressive Conservative Jewish synagogue, extends a
warm welcome to all sexual minorities. Shabbat serv
ices 8 :15 pm Fnday and 9 am Saturday (2900 SW
Peaceful Lane 503-246-883)X 7/03)
Congregation P'nai Or (Faces of Light) is a
vibrant, egalitanan. Jewish Renewal congregation in
Portland Meets several times a month in vanous loca
tions (PO Box 42187. Portland. OR 97242-0187.
503-248 4500 w wwpnaiorpdx.org) (7/03)
Dignity Portland meets for Mass on Sundays.
(503-262694 7.) (7/03)
Eastrose Fellowship Unitarian Universalist a wel
coming congregation, offers Sunday service and children's
religious education (10 30 am 1133 NE 181st Ave.
Gresham 503-665-2628 eastrose&eleport com ) (7/03)
Faith United Methodist Church is a welcoming
community of Christians in Troutdale that values and
encourages all people in finding a place of belonging in
the family of God. Sunday worship at 10:15 am; Adult
Education at 9 am; children and youth at 10:30 am
Wednesday Prayers 6-6:30 pm. (27400 SE Stark St.
503 661-4520.) (7/03)
Waveriy Haights Church (UCC) is open and
affirming with worship, children's school and child care.
(10 am Sunday 3300 SE Woodward St
503-238-1337 www wavertyucc.org ) (7/03)
Wy'east Unitarian Universalist Congregation
is an open and liberal religious community offenng
mtergenerational services and religious education for
children It welcomes gay. lesbian, bi and trans mem
bers Nurtures spintual growth and promotes living by
Unitanan Universalist pnnciples. (4 pm Sunday
3915 SE Steele St 503-777-3704
www wyeastpnwd. uua. o rg) (7 /03)
Zion United Church of Christ, an open and
affirming congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, bi.
trans and heterosexual people who wish to worship in
a Chnst-centered, warm, canng. m ultiage/race/cultural
faith community ( I I am Sunday 2025 NE 23rd Ave..
Gresham 503 665 874 1) (7/03)
Washington: Spirituality
Abundant Life Center is A New Thought
Community for spintual awakening and transforming
lives through love A safe place where children learn to
embody spintual pnnciples (10 am Sunday 10006 NE
Ninth Ave . Vancouver 360 573-2626 7(7/03)
East Vancouver United Methodist Church is
reconciling and welcoming. (10 am Sunday.
5701 MacArthur Bfvd 360693-4761
ourclarkcounty.Columbian com/2 7 3 /7 (7/03)
First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open and
affirming liberal religious community offenng a wide
range of programs to nurture spintual growth, commu
nity and social justice Sunday service 9 and 11 am
(1011 SW 12th Ave 503-228-6389
www firstunitarianportland org.) (7/03)
First Congregational Church. United Church of
Chnst. holds two Sunday services, traditional and
"less traditional" in an open and affirming congrega
tion (1220 NE 68th St.. Vancouver. 360693-1476
vanucc&aol com. 7(7/03)
First United Methodist Church o f Portland, a
welcoming and reconciling congregation, believes no
one is left out in God's family Sexual minonty potlucks
held monthly (1030 am Sunday 1838 SW Jefferson
St 503-228-3195. www fumcpdx.org) (7/03)
God's Holy Territory offers a spint-filled worship
experience, seeking God for holiness and wholeness.
For gay. lesbian, bi. trans and straight. Everyone wel
come! ( I I am Sunday. 7 pm Thursday Bible study and
prayer 1500 NE 49th St.. Vancouver 360-885-9461
gmbear68@netzero net.) (7/03)
Integrity is a group of sexual minonty Episcopalians
and fnends Various locations throughout Oregon
(Bruce Mason 503-286-9111 brucepdxor&attbi com
www mtegntyusa o rg 7 (7/03)
Interfaith Spiritual Center houses spintual direc
tors from various world religious traditions, who are
available for guidance, classes and retreats (Second
Floor. 3910 SE 11th Ave 503 233 2026. ext 3
www mterfaithspintualcenter. com. 7(7/03)
Keshet Portland is a group for Jewish members of the
sexual mmonties community and their partners, spouses
and supporters Monthly social, religious and cultural
events (Davidor Laney 503-226-7079. ext 14X7/03)
Metanoia Peace Community United
Methodist Church is a "house church." bnngmg
gay and straight together (Daily prayer 7.20 am.
Sunday gathenng 5 pm 2116 NE 18th Ave
503 2 8 1 3697 www tearsoup com/metanoa.) (7/03)
Metropolitan Community Church of Portland
holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at
9 and 11 am Sunday school for children is held during
the 11 am worship service (2400 NE Broadway
503-281-8868 mfo&mccportland com 7 (7/03)
Portland Center for Spiritual Growth is a New
Thought, uplifting, refreshing and exciting place of wor-
sNp Become a minister in our ministerial program
(10 am Sunday Call for location 503-777 07277(7/03)
YOUTH
Metro: Youth
Flavors a program of MultiQueer and Brother to
Brother, is a social support group for sexual minonty
youth of color 24 and younger Meets every other
Sunday for food and socializing. Regular events and activ
ities (Des 503-2283892 or desQIrnfamfy org Stephan
503 417 7991 or hey_stephan@hotmailcom.)(7/03)
The Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education
Network (GLSEN) fights to end anti gay bias in K 12
schools (12700 SW North Dakota S t, Suite 180.
*129. Tigard. OR 97223 503-525-1177.
glsenQglsenoregon org www glsenoregon org.) (7/03)
MultiQueer a program of Love Makes a Family, pro
vides advocacy to sexual minonty youth Offers
resources and support in the community and the school
systems, with a focus on support for youth o f color.
(Des 503 228-3892 des&mfamily org 7 (7/03)
Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can't
qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as needle
exchange services that include those who inject hor
mones. Can provide transitional housing for youth 20
and younger as well as for those HIV+ and younger
than 23. Also plays host to VOICES (Voices of
Individual and Community Empowerment from the
Streets), a self support group for queer youth. Needs
volunteers of all ages (10 am-6 pm Monday Fnday
I132S W 13th Ave 503-535-3800 www outsidein o rg )
(7/03)
Vanguard Youth Sarvicas. a program of Cascadia
Behavioral HealthCare. offers support and recreation to
gay. lesbian, bi and trans kids 23 and younger Programs
include Clackamas County Saiual Minority
Youth Connection (COSMYC) provides opportum
ties for queer and questioning kids to get together for
free, fun and supportive social activities Also one-on-
one support and referrals to Clackamas County service
providers (503-%9-0060 cosmycyouth&yahoo.com.)
Expression is a free art/expression support group m
Gresham for queer youth Hang out and have fun every
Fnday' (Jonathan 503-8729664. ext 28 7(7/03)
Pride Project brings together Washington County
queer and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly
social events Also information, referral and advocacy
services in Washington County (Molly 503260-5792
molty&pndeproiect org.) (7/03)
Sexual Minority Youth Recreation Center
(SMYRC) offers drop-in computer access, pool tables
and an informal place to hang out. Weekly youth sup
port groups includes Trans Youth Group and Personal
Deity Proxy (a creative group) (4 8 pm Monday and
Wednesday. 4 pm-midnight Fnday and Saturday
2100 SE Belmont St 503-8729664 TTY 503 231 9286
www smyrc.org.) (7/03)
Fellowship a Welcoming Congregation, provides a home
for the liberal religious spirit (9:15 and 11 am Sunday
4505 E 18th St . Vancouver 360-6951891.7 (7/03)
Youth HIV/STD Prevention Project provides fun
and educational programs along with counseling and
testing to queer youth in a friendly, relaxed environment
(503-8729664) (7/03)
W illam ette Valley: Spirituality
Washington: Youth
First Congregational Church. United Church of
Chnst is an open and affirming congregation offenng
worship and church school Child care provided and
wheelchair accessible (9 am Sunday learning hour.
10 am worship 700 Manon St NE. Salem
503 3 63 36 60 X 7/03 )
Triple Point offers education, support and advocacy
to gay. lesbian, bi. trans and questioning youth in
Vancouver. Wash Meets 6-8 pm Tuesdays in the base
ment of Youth House. 1112 Columbia St. in Vancouver
(John 360695-1325.7(7/03)
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Momingside United Methodist Church is a
reconciling congregation where everyone is welcome
to participate in the full life of the congregation (830
and 11 am Sunday 3674 12th St SE. Salem
503 364-5013.) (7/03)
Sacred Souls honors all sacred paths, promotes peace
and strives to create an environment that supports and
promotes mterfarth dialogue Meets at the Oregon School
of Massage (630-8 pm Sunday 440 Ferry St SE.
Salem wbolhIthQaol com www sacredsouls org 7 (7/03)
Willamette Valley: Youth
Gay, Lesbian, Bi, Transgender and Questioning
Youth Group lor ages 13 to 18 offers support, mforma
tion and fun m Eugene. Free, confidential, adult facilitated
(Drop in 4-6 pm Fnday Amazon Community Center.
2700 Hilyard St. 541-684 3466 )17/03)
Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender Youth
Group for ages 25 and younger meets every Monday
m Eugene (5 pm Koinonia Center. 1414 Kincaid St
541 346 1134X7/03)
Portland Church of Religious Science is a liberal,
open, progressive New Thought community welcoming
everyone to discover the spirit withm Change your think
ing. change your We1 (10 am Sunday meditation.
1030 am service and junior church. 630 pm Wednesday
prayer circle 3983 NE 112th Ave 503 261 0677X7/03)
Portland Radical Faeries meet twice a month
with potlucks and circles at the full moon and the new
moon Open to all men seeking alternative spintual
growth and community Coffee hours start 9 30 am
Saturdays at 3 Fnends Coffeehouse. 201 SE 12th
Ave (503 235 0626 otterQpcez com ) (7/03)
S is te rS p irit offers women's spmtuality celebrations,
discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and
classes Schedule of events available All women are
welcome (Suite 102. 3430 SE Belmont St Mailing
address PO Box 9246. Portland. OR 97207
503- 7363297 sisterspOteleport com 7 (7/03)
Spirit Circla is for lesbian, bi or trans women seek
mg a welcoming community m the Catholic church
Meets every third Thursday m the St Andrew Nativity
School (7 pm 806 NE Alberta St
IbtspmtcircleQyahoo com ) (7103)
Southminster Prasbytarian Church is a chal
lengmg, supportive community that welcomes all peo
ple It is the first More Light Presbyterian Church in
Oregon Sunday school and nursery care (fO am
Sunday 12250 SVV Denney Road Beaverton
503 644 2073 staffihouthmin com 7 (7/03)
S t Andrew Catholic Church invites a lto pm a
diverse farth community for prayer and feUowstxp (930am
Sunday 906 NE Aberta St 503-2814429X7/03)
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Whole ne
species
ere being
created
in the bic
revolutioi
according
to artist
Dan
Busdor,
whose
paintings
through
Feb. 23 at
Talisman
Gallery
Mind altering
Just say NO to LTR
D ear M s . B ehavior :
However, nature
Where are
always provides a few
the alternative
mutations, sometimes
alternatives?
with serendipitous
When 1 read the
results. It’s from this
personals, they sound
small population of
good: “Creative,
delightfully aberrant
kind, optimistic GF
women that you’ll
40+, likes outdoors,
find your dream dyke.
literature, movies,
Make sure to say
conversation....”
what you’re really
Then at the end
looking for in a per
there is always that
sonal ad, without
getting-painted-into-
pussyfooting around.
a-comer part about
You might try some
seeking LTR. Not
by M e ryl Cohn
thing like: “Middle-
that I’m opposed to
aged lesbian seeks
long term— a girlfriend of mine from
similar passionately inspired gcxJdess
25 years ago is my closest family. But
muse for sex and fun, but don’t bother
didn’t we wear out “serial monogamy"
if you want cohabitation or a long
in the 70s?
term relationship.”
Where are the girls who want to
Once you capture this rare breed,
he primarily with themselves, who
it may be best to proceed like a lawyer
can be with you and love you without
and make her initial your personal ad
having pairing as an ultimate agenda?
in three places, showing that she’s
I have played every imaginable type
read, understood and agreed to your
of wife, husband, maid, baby sitter,
terms.
mom, adventure guide and other,
But please note that even the most
darker, shadow roles for lovers.
die-hard, fun-loving, noncommit-
The chase is high. The catching is
ment-seeking dyke is ultimately just
sweet.
as vulnerable to falling in love as any
And then it takes twice as long to
of us. Perhaps you’ll write again seek
extract ourselves after the coupling-up
ing different advice if you find that it
phase inevitably compromises us both
happens to you.
into a suffocating box that doesn’t
resemble what either person really
D e a r M s . B e h a v io r :
wants for herself.
My boyfriend, Joel, has been read
I want some strong and centered
ing about using hallucinogenic drugs
women in my life to enter into my
as a way to have a spiritual experi
orbit without either of us having to
ence. He really wants me to take
become a moon to the other’s planet.
mushrooms with him so we can have
Please tell me, Ms. Behavior, how and
sex he thinks will be special. He says
where do I look for this? What do you
he wants the experience to “enhance
say in a classified ad when you want
our connection to our higher selves
mates who don’t want to mate?
and each other."
I know how to be loyal and true. 1
I don’t have any desire to do drugs.
know how to love women and please
I like sex to feel very grounded in
them and nurture them and make
reality. Should I stand my ground, or
them scream in bliss. But I don’t
should I give in and take the mush
know how to approach this— how to
rooms so as not to disappoint Joel?
do it without falling into the ruts of
— Tom
worn-out habits that aren’t even of
our own creation.
D ear T o m :
I don’t think the answer is a new
It’s never a good idea to ingest
girl. I think the answer is a new way
anything just to please someone else,
to go about the whole thing. How do
even if you think your lack of willing
I get there?
ness will disappoint. If you don’t want
P.S. You are welcome to give my
mushrooms in your bed, just say no to
address out freely if anyone is interest
mushrooms.
ed. Maybe we can start a support
If Joel really needs a mind-
group or a 12-step program or a
altering experience during sex,
motorcycle club or something.
perhaps he can chant or hold his
— Myra
breath or drink a martini. If you
both long for a stronger connection
D ear M yra :
during sex, maybe you can engage
You’re much more likely to find an
in some rituals (read a lesbian god
occasional simpatico dyke who’ll sleep
dess book for tips) or take a class in
tantric lovemaking. J H
with you just for fun than you are to
succeed in perpetuating a large-scale
revolution. A campaign to abolish
© Meryl Cohn 2003
serial monogamy in lesbians is about
as likely to work as convincing the
MERYL C ohn is the author of Do What
attendants of a PETA convention to
I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay
eat veal.
and Lesbian Etiquette (Houghton
Lesbians invented serial
Mifflm). Her Internet site is
monogamy. It’s our cultural heritage
wuAv.msbehavior.com. Send questions or
and probably our genetic destiny.
correspondence to msbehavior<Saol com.
Ms. Behavior
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