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January 17,2002 * Jaaftoatj 3 1 SPIRITUALITY Metro: Spirituality Ainsworth United Church of Christ is a multi racial, m ulticultural, open and affirm ing church Sunday worship is at 10 am; church school for children runs concurrently (2941 NE Ainsworth S t 503-284-8767. aucc@ teleportcom X 7/03) Anawim Community of gay men meets weekly for Chnstian meditation and prayer (7 30 pm Thursday 503-281-0722.) (T103) Atkinson Memorial Church is a Unitanan Universalist welcoming congregation in Oregon City. (710 Sixth S t 503 656-7296 ww w alkm sonchurch.com 7 (7/03) Compassionate Heart Sangha plays host to weekly sittings in the Vipassana M editation Tradition at Flanders House (7.30-9 pm Wednesday 2926 NE Flanders S t Jon 503-239 5 5 3 9 X 7 /0 2 ) Congregation Neveh Shalom, an open and pro gressive Conservative Jewish synagogue, extends a warm welcome to all sexual m inorities Shabbat ser vices 8:15 pm Friday and 9 am Saturday. (2900 SW Peaceful Lane 503-246-8831X 7/03) Congregation P'nai O r (Faces of Light) is a vibrant, egalitanan, Jewish Renewal congregation in Portland M eets several times a month in vanous loca tions (PO Box 42187. Portland. OR 97242-0187. 503-248 4500. wwwpnaiorpdx org.) (7/0 3 ) Dignity Portland meets for Mass on Sundays (503 262 6947.) (7/03) Eastrose Fellowship Unitarian Universalist. a wel coming congregation, offers Sunday service and children's religious education. (10.30am 1133NE !8 ls tA v e . Gresham 503-6652628 eastroseQteieporl com.) (7/03) Faith United Methodist Church is a welcoming community o f Chnstians in Troutdale that values and encourages all people in finding a place of belonging in the family o f God. Sunday worship at 10:15 am; Adult Education at 9 am; children and youth at 10 30 am Wednesday Prayers 6-6:30 pm. (27400 SE Stark St. 503 661 4520.) ( 7/03) First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open and affirming liberal religious community offenng a wide range of programs to nurture spmtual growth, commu nity and social justice Sunday service 9 and 11 am (1011 SW 12th Ave. 503-2286389. www firstum tananportland o rg ) (7/03) First United Methodist Church of Portland, a welcoming and reconciling congregation, believes no one is left out in God's family. Sexual minonty potlucks held monthly (10 30 am Sunday 1838 SW Jefferson S t 503-228-3195 www fumcpdx org ) (7/03) Integrity is a group o f sexual minonty Episcopalians and fnends Vanous locations throughout Oregon (Bruce Mason 503 28 6 -9 1 11 bnjcepdxorG attbr com. www mtegntyusa. o rg 7 (7/03) Interfaith Spiritual Center houses spintual direc tors from vanous world religious traditions, who are available for guidance, classes and retreats (Second Floor. 3910 SE 11th Ave. 503 233-2026. e x t 3. www m lerfaithspintualcenter.com .) (7/0 3 ) Sunday 12250 SW Denney Road. Beaverton 503-644 2073 staff@ southm m com X7/03) S t Andrew Catholic Church mates al to jom a dverse faith community for prayer and fellowship (930 am Sunday 806 NE A te rta St 5032814429 ) (7/03) St. Jam es Lutheran Church a Reconciled in Chnst congregation, welcomes all people for tradition al, liturgical worship where we expenence God's rec onciling love that sets all people free (9 and 11 am Sunday 1315 SW Park Ave 503-227-2439 ) (7/03) Gay and Lesbian Outreach (GALO) of St Philip Nen Catholic Church celebrates an affirm ing Mass fo l lowed by a social. (7 30 pm Friday. Paulist Center. 2408 SE 16th Ave 503-231 4955 7(7/03) St. Stephen's Episcopal Church has been wel coming all people since 1863 (12 10 pm Wednesday and 7 45 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and child care at 10 am. Southwest 13th Avenue at Clay Street 503 223 6424. 7(7/03) Waveriy Heights Church (UCC) is open and affirming with worship, children's school and child care (10 am Sunday 3300 SE Woodward S t 503-238-1337 www waverlyucc.org. 7 (7/03) Wy'east Unitarian Universalist Congregation is an open and liberal religious community offenng mtergenerational services and religious education for children It welcomes gay. lesbian, bi and trans mem bers Nurtures spintual growth and promotes living by Unitanan Universalist pnnciples (4 pm Sunday 3915 SE Steele S t 503-777-3704 www wyeast pnw duua org. 7 (7/0 3 ) Zion United Church of Christ, an open and affirming congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, bi. trans and heterosexual people who wish to worship in a Chnst-centered. warm, canng. m ultiage/race/cultural faith community. (11 am Sunday 2025 NE 23rd A v e . Gresham 5 0 3 6 6 5 -8 7 4 1 X 7 /0 3 ) Washington: Spirituality Abundant Life Center is A New Thought Community fo r spintual awakening and transforming lives through love A safe place where children learn to embody spiritual pnnciples (10 am Sunday 10006 NE Ninth A ve . Vancouver 360-573-2626X 7/03) East Vancouver United Methodist Church is reconciling and welcoming (10 am Sunday 5701 M acArthur Btvd 360693 4761 ourclarkcounty Columbian, com /2 7 3 /7 (7 /0 3 ) First Congregational Church. United Church of Chnst. holds two Sunday services, traditional and "less traditional" in an open and affirming congrega tion (1220 NE 68th St.. Vancouver 360-693 1476 vanucc@aol.com .7 (7/03) God's Hoty Territory offers a spint filled worship expenence. seeking God for holiness and wholeness For gay. lesbian, bi. trans and straight Eveiyone wel come1 ( I I am Sunday. 7 pm Thursday Bible study and prayer 1500 NE 49th St . Vancouver. 360885 9461 gmbear€8@ netzeronet.) (7/03) Michael Servetus Unitarian Universalist Fellowship, a Welcoming Congregation, provides a home for the liberal religious spint (9:15 and 11 am Sunday 4505 E 18th S t. Vancouver 360-695 1891X7/03) Keshet Portland is a group for Jewish members of the sexual mmonties community and their partners, spouses and supporters Monthly social, religious and cultural events (D avidor Laney 503 226-7079. ext 74.7(7/03) Meta no ia Peace Community United Methodist Church is a ‘ house chu rch .' bnngmg gay and straight together (Daily prayer 7 20 am. Sunday gathenng 5 pm 2116N E 18th Ave 503-281 -3697. www tearsoup. com /m etanoia 7(7/03) Metropolitan Community Church of Portland holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at 9 and 11 am Sunday school for children is held dunng the 11 am worship service. (2400 NE Broadway 503 281 8868 mfoOm ccportland com 7(7/03) Portland Center for Spiritual Growth is a New Thought Center offenng an uplifting, warm and refresh ing service with the Revs Casey and Berdell M offett- Chaney (10 am Sunday Call fo r location 503 777 0 7 2 7 X 7 /0 3 ) Portland Church of Religious Science is a lib eral. open, progressive New Thought community w el coming everyone to discover the spint within Change your thinking, change your life 1 (10 am Sunday medita tion. 10 30 am service and/unior church. 6 3 0 pm Wednesday prayer circle 3983 NE 112th Ave 503 261 067 7)1 7 /0 3) Willamette Valley: Spirituality First Congregational Church. United Church of Christ is an open and affirm ing congregation offenng worship and church school Child care provided and wheelchair accessible (9 am Sunday learning hour. 10 am worship 700 Manon St. NE. Salem 503 3 6 3 3 6 6 0 X 7 /0 3 ) Momingside United Methodist Church is a reconciling congregation where everyone is welcome to participate in the full life of the congregation (8 3 0 and 11 am Sunday 3674 12th S t SE. Salem 503-364 5 0 1 3 X 7 /0 3 ) Sacred Souls honors all sacred paths, prom otes peace and stoves to create an envi ronment that supports and promotes m terfaith dialogue M eets at the Oregon School o f Massage (6 3 0 -8 pm Sunday 440 Ferry S t SE. Salem wholhlth@aol com www sacredsouls org 7 (7/03) Portland Radical Faeries meet twice a month with potlucks and circles at the full moon and the new moon Open to all men seeking alternative spintual growth and community Coffee hours start 9 30 am Saturdays at 3 Friends Coffeehouse. 201 SE 12th Ave (503 2 3 5 0826 otter@ pcez com .) (7/03) SisterSpirit offers women's spmtuality celebrations, discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and classes Schedule of events available All women are welcome (Suite 102. 3430 SE Belmont S i Mailing address: PO Box 9246. Portland. OR 97207 503 73&3297 sisterspG teleport com ) (7/03) Spirit C ircia is for lesbian, bi or trans women seek mg a welcoming community m the Cathokc church M eets every third Thursday m the St Andrew Nativity School (7 pm 806 NE Alberta St IbtspmtcircleQyahoo com 7 (7/03) Southmimtar Presbyterian Church is a chal lengmg. supportive community that welcomes all peo ple H is the first M ore Light Presbyterian Church m Oregon Sunday school and nursery care (10 am Onda Art* Latina display« fin« fiber ta pastries by Maximo Laura Jan. 30-March 2 ADVICE ............¥ ............ YOUTH Metro: Youth Bad vibes Flavors, a program of MuttiQueer and Brother to Brother, is a social support group for sexual minority youth of color 24 and younger Meets every other Sunday for food and socializing Regular events and activ ities (Des 503228-3892 or des@lmfamtly org Stephan 503-417-7991 o r hey_ stephan@hotmail com.) (7/03) The Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network (GLSEN) fights to end anti-gay bias in K 12 schools. (12700 SW North Dakota S t . Suite 180. »129. Tigard. OR 97223 503-525 1177. glsen@glsenoregon org www glsenoregon org.) (7/03) MultiQueer a program of Love Makes a Family, pro vides advocacy to sexual minonty youth Offers resources and support in the community and the school systems, with a focus on support for youth of color (Des 503 228-3892 des@lmfamily.org 7(7/03) Outside In operates a cknic for anyone who can’t qual ify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as needle exchange services that include those who inject hor mones Can provide transitional housing for youth 20 and younger as well as for those HIV+ and younger than 23 Also plays host to VOICES (Voices of Individual and Community Empowerment from the Streets), a self-sup port group for queer youth Needs volunteers of all ages. (10 am-6 pm Monday Friday 1132 SW 13th Ave 503 535-3800 www outsidem org.) (7/03) Vanguard Youth Services a program of Cascadia Behavioral HealthCare. offers support and recreation to gay. lesbian, bi and trans kids 23 and younger Programs include Clackamas County Sexual Minority Youth Connection (COSM YC) provides opportuni ties for queer and questioning kids to get together for free, fun and supportive social activities Also one-on- one support and referrals to Clackamas County service providers (503-969-0060 cosmycyouth@ yahoocom.) Expression is a free art/expression support group in Gresham for queer youth Hang out and have fun every Friday* (Jonathan 503-8729664. ext. 28. 7(7/03) Pride Project bnngs together Washington County queer and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social events Also information, referral and advocacy services in Washington County. (M olly 503 260 5792 molly@pndepro)ect org 7 (7/03) Sexual Minority Youth Recreation Center (SMYRC) offers drop-m computer access, pool tables and an informal place to hang out Weekly youth support groups includes Trans Youth Group and Personal Deity Proxy (a creative group) (4 8 pm Monday and Wednesday. 4 pm- midnight Fnday and Saturday 2100 SE Belmont St. 503-8729664 TTY 503-231 9286 w w w sm yrcorg) (7/03) Youth HIV/STD Prevention Project provides fun and educational programs along with counseling and testing to queer youth in a fnendly. relaxed environment (503 8 7 2 9 6 6 4 X 7 /0 3 ) Washington: Youth Triple Point offers education, support and advocacy to gay. lesbian, bi, trans and questioning youth in Vancouver. Wash Meets 6-8 pm Tuesdays in the base ment of Youth House. 1112 Columbia St in Vancouver (John 360 695-1325X 7 /03) Willamette Valley: Youth Gay, Lesbian, Bi, Transgender and Questioning Youth Group for ages 13 to 18 offers support, informa tion and fun in Eugene Free, confidential, adult facilitated (Drop m 4-6 pm Friday Amazon Community Center. 2700 Hilyard St. 541-684-3466X7/03) Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender Youth Group for ages 25 and younger meets every Monday m Eugene (5 pm Komoma Center. 1414 Kincaid St 541 346-1134X 7/03) Don’t bond with La Machine or with men who won’t kiss you D ear M s . B ehavior : I’ve been with my girlfriend, Kate, for the past two years. I think we have a nice sex life, hut she’s been complaining lately. I like to use a vibrator during sex. It helps me come easily, which makes me feel relaxed. Kate feels somehow insulted by my use of this tool— as if it means she’s not a good lover. I do enjoy her touch, hut when it’s time to have an orgasm, “La M achine" really does the trick. I was married to a man for many years and never came at all when we had sex. 1 discovered the joy of vibrators after that when 1 was alone. 1 was amazed by how easy it is. Now I am used to the vibrator and don’t really have the patience or the desire to try to achieve an orgasm without it. Kate always wants to go down on me, which is nice, hut I find it too frustrating. I guess I’ve gotten used to the more intense sensations that the vibrator provides. She thinks it means I’m numbed out. I think it’s just a preference. How can I convince Kate that my attachment to my vibrator is not an insult to her? — Buzz dull patterns is what’s important here. In fact, if you’d said that your girlfriend had never used a vibrator, Ms. Behavior would have sent you lit erature about Magic Wands, vibrating eggs and latex dol phins designed for your orgasmic pleasure. D ear M s . B ehavior : I consider myself a straight male. However, I often fantasize about having oral sex with another man. Does that mean I am bi or gay? I know swallowing is risky, but I really would like to experience that, too, if I could find an honest man to try it on who is younger than 38. Now, on the other hand, 1 love women and want to get married someday. I do not like to cuddle with a man or kiss a man; in fact, I would find it gross. Can you give me some advice? — Love to Swallow D ear L ove to S wallow : W hat’s “straight” about wanting sex with men and cuddling and marriage with women ? You sfiecify the under-38 age range o f the men you’d like to blow, and the only other characteristic you specify is honesty. Ms. Behavior pre sumes that by “honest,” you mean about his HIV status. But will you be “honest” with the woman you someday marry when you go out on your sucking and swallowing expeditions? Will you go down on her, too? The fact that you find the idea of cuddling or kissing a man “gross” makes you sound like you might suf fer from a touch o f homophobia. Perhaps therapy would help you sort out your feelings so that someday the fierson you want to blow is the same one you want to kiss— and vice versa. rm used to the vibrator and don’t really have the patience or the desire to try to achieve an orgasm without It D ear B uzz : Any sexual routine that is pleasing to one person and not the other can become a little dull. T h at’s why feathers and shoes are boring to people who don’t like birds or feet. Your love for your vibrator probably isn’t a fetish, hut since Kate doesn’t share your mechanical enthusiasm, she might start snoozing as you’re approaching your third climax. Kate may feel that your vibrator is an obstacle to intimacy, since there are always three of you in the bed. Vibrating together is risk-free, since you know you’ll come. But if you took the risk of allowing Kate to make love to you once in a while without the assistance of your vibra tor, you’d probably both feel more vulnerable. And if you practiced enough so that you both became comfortable, you might actually feel closer. But just tossing the vibrator out o f the bed isn’t the point; breaking in © Meryl Cohn 2003 M eryl C o h n is the author of Do What 1 Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to G ay and Lesbian Etiquette (Houghton M ifflin). Her Internet site is www.msbehavior.com. Send questions or correspondence to msbehasrior@aol. com.
