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January 3. 2001 » Jw rt — t|29 ADVICE .................. ▼................... Willamette Valley: Physical Recreation Keshet Portland is a group for Jewish members of the sexual mmonties community and their partners, spouses and supporters Monthly social, religious and cultural events (DavidorLaney 503-226-7079. ext 147(7/03) Michael Servetus Unitarian Universalist Fellowship a Welcoming Congregation, provides a home for the liberal religious spmt (9 15 and 11 am Sunday 4505 E 18th St . Vancouver 360695-1891 ) (7/03) Ths OUTdoor Group is a fnendly. inclusive bunch of Eugene people who go biking, hiking, skating, mushroom hunting, skiing, hot spnnging and just about any other activity you can dream up Occasional weekend camping (Kim 541-484-2147 kims@efnorg www outdoorgroup o rg )( 7/03) Meta no ia Peace Community United Methodist Church is a "house church." bnngmg gay and straight together (Daily prayer 7 20 am. Sunday gathenng 5 pm 2116 NE 18th Ave 503-281-3697 www tearsoup com/metanoia) (7/03) Frontrunner and Walker« go out every Saturday morning in Eugene. (9 am 15th and Agate Hank 541 484 6259 or Sadie 541-485 3282.7 (7/03) Metropolitan Community Church of Portland holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at 9 and 11 am Sunday school for children is held dunng the 11 am worship service. (2400 NE Broadway 503-281 8868 mfoQmccportland com.) (7/03) First Congregational Church United Church of Chnst is an open and affirming congregation offenng worship and church school Child care provided and wheelchair accessible (9 am Sunday teaming hour. 10 am worship 700 Manon St NE, Salem 503 363 36607(7/03) Portland Center for Spiritual Growth is a New Thought Center offenng an uplifting, warm and refresh ing service with the Revs Casey and Berdell Moffett- Chaney (10 am Sunday Call for location 503777-0727.7(7/03) Momingside United Methodist Church is a rec onciling congregation where everyone is welcome to participate in the full life of the congregation. (8 30 and 11 am Sunday 3674 12th St SE. Salem 503364 50737(7/03) Portland Church of Religious Science is a liber al. open, progressive New Thought community welcom ing everyone to discover the spmt within Change your thinking, change your life! (10 am Sunday meditation. 10 30 am service and ¡umor church. 6 3 0 pm Wednesday prayer circle 3983 NE 112th Ave 503-261-06777 (7/03) Sacred Souls honors all sacred paths, promotes peace and strives to create an environment that sup ports and promotes interfaith dialogue Meets at the Oregon School of Massage (6 30-8 pm Sunday 440 Ferry St SE. Säern wholhlth@aol com www sacredsouls org 7 (7/03) The Eugene GLBT Tennis Group gets together weekends to play for fun and exercise Open to all ages and skill levels (kfranken8@yahoo com ) (7/03) Willamette Valley: Social Confluence: The Willamette Valley Mixed GALA Chorus rehearses 4-6 30 pm Sundays at Umtanan Universalist Congregation of Salem. 5090 Center St NE. (541-754-4144 confluence@aol com www confluencechorus org ) (7/03) The Eugene Lesbian/Gay/Bisexual 20s/30s Social Club enjoys a weekly game night and brunch every Sunday at Brail s (Bnan 541 -485-3437.) (7/03) The Lesbian Connection (TLC) meets once a month for potlucks and other vanous fun activities in Eugene All women welcome (Bonnie 541 683-2793) (7/03) Portland Radical Faeries meet twice a month with potlucks and circles at the full moon and the new moon Open to all men seeking alternative spmtual growth and community Coffee hours start 9 30 am Saturdays at 3 Fnends Coffeehouse. 201 SE 12th Ave (503-235-0826 otter@pcez com 7 (7/03) Willamette Valley: Spirituality YOUTH Metro: Youth Marionberry Salon meets monthly in Salem for potlucks and discussion of books touching on the les bian, gay. bi experience (Cary 503-363 6036 marionberry salon@aol com.) (7/03) SisterSpirit offers women's spirituality celebrations, discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and classes Schedule of events available All women are welcome (Suite 102. 3430 SE Belmont St Mailing address PO Box 9246. Portland. OB 97207. 503 736-3297 sistersp&teleport com ) (7/03) Flavors a program of MultiQueer and Brother to Brother, is a social support group for sexual mmonty youth of color 24 and younger Meets every other Sunday for food and socializing Regular events and activities (Des 503-228 3892 or des@lmfamtly org Stephan 503-417 7991 or hey stephanGhotmail com.) (7/03) SPIRITUALITY Spirit Circle is for lesbian, bi or trans women seek ing a welcoming community in the Catholic church Meets every third Thursday in the St Andrew Nativity School (7 pm 806 NE Alberta St. IbtspintcircleQyahoo com. 7 (7/03) The Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network (GLSEN) fights to end anti gay bias in K-12 schools. (12700 SW North Dakota St . Suite 180. »129. Tigard. OB 97223. 503-525-1177. glsen@glsenoregon org www glsenoregon org 7 (7/03) Southminster Presbyterian Church is a chal lenging. supportive community that welcomes all peo ple. It is the first More Light Presbyterian Church in Oregon. Sunday school and nursery care. (10 am Sunday 12250 SW Denney Boad. Beaverton 503-644-2073. staff@southmm.com.7 (7/03) MultiQueer a program of Love Makes a Family, pro vides advocacy to sexual minority youth. Offers resources and support in the community and the school systems, with a focus on support for youth of color. (Des 503-228 3892 des@lmlamilyorg.HV03) Metro: Spirituality Ainsworth United Church of Christ is a multi racial, multicultural, open and affirming church Sunday worship is at 10 am; church school for children runs concurrently (2941 NE Ainsworth St 503-284-8767 aucc@teleport com.7(7/03) Anawim Community of gay men meets weekly for Chnstian meditation and prayer (7 30 pm Thursday. 503 281 -0722.) (7/03) • Atkinson Memorial Church is a Umtanan Universalist welcoming congregation in Oregon City (710 Sixth St 503 656-7296 www atkmsonchurch com.HT/03) Compassionate Heart Sangha plays host to weekly sittings in the Vipassana Meditation Tradition at Flanders House (7 30 9 pm Wednesday 2926 NE Flanders St Jon 50j-239-55397(7/03) Congregation Neveh Shalom an open and pro gressive Conservative Jewish synagogue, extends a warm welcome to all sexual mmonties Shabbat serv ices 8; 15 pm Fnday and 9 am Saturday (2900 SkV Peaceful Lane 503 246 8 8 3 1.7(7/03) Congregation P'nai Or (Faces of Light) is a vibrant, egalitarian. Jewish Renewal congregation in Portland Meets several times a month in vanous locations (PO Box 42187. Portland. OB 972420187 503 248-4500 www pnatorpdx org 7 (7/03) Dignity Portland meets for Mass on Sundays (503 262 6 9 4 7 7(7/03) Eastrose Fellowship Unitarian Universalist a welcoming congregation, offers Sunday service and children s religious education (1030 am 1133 NE 181st A v e . Gresham 503 665 2628 eastrose@teleport com.) (7/03) Faith United Methodist Church is a welcoming community of Chnstians in Troutdale that values and encourages all people m finding a place of belonging in the family of God Sunday worship at 1015 am, Adult Education at 9 am. children and youth at 10 30 am Wednesday Prayers 6-6 30 pm (27400 SE Stark St 503 661 4 52 0) (7/03) First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open and affirming liberal religious community offenng a wide range of programs to nurture spmtual growth community and social justice Sunday service 10 am (1011 SW 12th Ave 5032286389 www hrstumtananportland org) (7/03) First United Methodist Church of Portland, a wel coming and reconciling congregation, believes no one is left out m God s family Sexual mmonty potlucks held monthly (1030 am Sunday 1838 SW Jefferson St 503 228-3195 www fumcpdx o rg ) (7/03) Grace Space is a New Thought spmtual center deck cated to offenng ways to expenence Spint Sunday evening celebrations with Rev Stephanie Torres. Conscious Breathing experiences. Chanting. Healing Services. Meditation classes and a miracles study group (5 pm Bndgeport Community Church. 621 NE 76th Ave 503 2 8 7 -3 2 1 6 )0 /0 3 ) Integrity is a group of sexual mmonty Episcopalians and fnends Vanous locations throughout Oregon /Bruce Mason 503-286 9 1 11 brucepdxor@attbi com www mtegntyusa org.7(7/03) Interfaith Spiritual Center houses spmtual dvec tors from vanous world religious traditions, who are available for guidance, classes and retreats (Second Floor 3910 SE 11th Ave 503 233 2026 ext 3 www mterfaithspintuakenter com 7 (7/03) St. Andrew Catholic Church invites all to pin a diverse faith community for prayer and fellowship. (9 3 0 am Sunday 806 NE Alberta St 503 281 4429 ) (7/03) St. James Lutheran Church a Reconciled in Chnst congregation, welcomes all people for traditional, liturgical worship where we expenence God s reconcil ing love that sets all people free (9 and 11 am Sunday 1315 SW Park Ave 503 227 2439 7 (7/03) Gay and Lesbian Outreach (GALO) of St Philip Nen Catholic Church celebrates an affirming Mass fol lowed by a social (7 3 0 pm Friday Pauhst Center. 2408 SE 16th Ave 503 231 -4955 7 (7/03) St. Stephen's Episcopal Church has been wel coming all people since 1863 (12 10 pm Wednesday and 7 45 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and child care at 10 am Southwest 13th Avenue at Clay Street 503 223-6424) (7/03) Waveriy Heights Church (UCC) is open and affirming with worship, children s school and child care (10 am Sunday 3300 SE Woodward St 503238 1337 www waverlyucc org.) (7/03) Wy'east Unitarian Universalist Congregation is an open and liberal religious community offenng inter generational services and religious education for chil dren It welcomes gay. lesbian, bi and trans members Nurtures spmtual growth and promotes living by Umtanan Universalist principles (4 pm Sunday 3915 SE Steele St 503-777-3704 www wyeast pnwd uua org 7 (7/03) * Zion United Church of Christ an open and affirming congregation is open to gay. lesbian, bi. trans and heterosexual people who wish to worship m a Chnst-centered. warm canng. multiage/race/cultural faith community ( I I am Sunday 2025 NE 23rd A v e . Gresham 503 6 6 5 874 1 7(7/03) Washington Spirituality Abundant Life Center is A New Thought Community for spmtual awakening and transforming lives through love A safe place where children learn to embody spmtual pnnciples (10 am Sunday 10006 NE Ninth Ave Vancouver 360 5 73 2 6 2 6 )(7/03) East Vancouver United Methodist Church is reconciling and welcoming (10 am Sunday 5701 MacArthur Bfvd 360693 4761 ourclarkcounty Columbian com /273/ 7 (7/03) First Congregational Church United Church of Chnst. holds two Sunday services, traditional and "less tradit'cndl" m an open and affirming congregation (1220 NE 68th St Vancouver 360 693 1476 vanuccOaol com 7 (7/03) God's Holy Territory offers a spmt filled worsNp expenence, seeking God for holiness and wholeness For gay. lesbian bi trans and straght Everyone wel come' ( I I am Sunday 7 pm Thursday Bible study and prayer 1500 NE 49th S t . Vancouver 360-885 9461 gmbear680netzero n e t) (7/03) Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can't qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as needle exchange services that include those who inject hor mones Can provide transitional housing for youth 20 and younger as well as for those HIV+ and younger than 23. Also plays host to VOICES (Voices of Individual and Community Empowerment from the Streets), a self support group for queer youth Needs volunteers of all ages (10 am 6 pm Monday Friday 1132 SW 13th Ave 503 535 3800 www outsidem org 7 (7/03) Vanguard Youth Sarvicas a program of Cascadia Behavioral Healthcare, offers support and recreation to gay. lesbian, bi and trans kids 23 and younger Programs include Clackamas County Sexual Minority Youth Connection (COSMYC) pro vides opportunities for queer and questioning kids to get together for free, fun and supportive social activi ties. Also one-on one support and referrals to Clackamas County service providers (503-969-0060 cosmycyouth@yahoo c o m ) Expression is a free art/expression support group in Gresham for queer youth Hang out and have fun every Fnday1 (Jonathan 5038729664. ext 28 7(7/03) Pride Project bnngs together Washington County queer and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social events Also information, referral and advocacy services in Washington County (Molly 503-260-5792 molly@pndeproiect org 7(7/03) Sexual Minority Youth Recreation Center (SMYRC) offers drop-in computer access, pool tables and an informal place to hang out Weekly youth sup port groups includes Trans Youth Group and Personal Deity Proxy (a creative group) (4 8 pm Monday and Wednesday. 4 pm-midnight Fnday and Saturday 2100 SE Belmont St 503 8729664 TTY 503-231 9286 www smyrc org 7 (7/03) Youth HIV/STD Prevention Project provides fun and educational programs along with counseling and testing to queer youth in a fnendly. relaxed environ ment (5038729664)01/03) Washington Youth Triple Point offers education, support and advocacy to gay. lesbian, bi. trans and questioning youth m Vancouver. Wash Meets 6-8 pm Tuesdays m the base ment of Youth House. 1112 Columbia St m Vancouver (John 360695 7325 7(7/03) Willamette Valley: Youth Gey, Lesbian, Bi, Transgender and Questioning Youth Group for ages 13 to 18 offers support, «for mation and fun « Eugene Free, confidential adult fac* tated (Drop m 4 6 pm Fnday Amazon Community Center 2700 FUyard St 541684 3466) (7/03) Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgander Youth Group lor ages 25 and younger meets every Monday «Eugene (5 pm Komoma Center. 1414 Kincaid St 541346-1734 7(7/03) Post-coital personalities Sometimes it’s your own fault you’re single D ear M s . B ehavior : I’m a 44-year-ol(J lesbian who has been single for the past decade. 1 meet lots of attractive, interesting women, and sometimes l date them. But the problem comes after having sex with them. After sex, 1 feel happy and calm, knowing that they are interested in me and that now the real get ting to know each other is about to begin. Inevitably, this is exactly the time that my would-be calm, attractive, interesting date turns into Dr. Lesbian Jekyll and starts getting antsy and ner vous and insistent that 1 don’t like her enough. 1 find this crazy. Would I have slept with her if 1 weren’t interested/ I don’t understand this post-coital anxiety, and it works to drive me away. I’m turned off by the calling and the questions and the blatant insecurity. These women accuse me of being cold when really what happens is 1 get put off by their constant need for reassurance. Is it me? Or is it them? — Ms. Hyde from Start to Finish D ear M s . H yde : Lesbians (and perhaps even other creatures) in the early stages of dating fall into two groups: those who expe rience relief after having sex with someone new and those who experi ence anxiety after having sex with someone new. The Relief-After-Sex girl— who is anxious before the boffing occurs and works very hard to get her date to like her— relaxes and laughs after she gets laid. “She must really like me!” she hums. This change of mood hor rifies the Anxiety-After-Sex girl, who doesn’t begin to put her emotions on the line until after she shucks off her panties. So, Anxiety Girl gets sweaty and nervous because she’s just engaged in a meaningful act and now Relief Girl is seemingly no longer engaged. Anxiety Girl starts to analyze Relief Girl’s every gesture: “Why didn’t she call me yet? What does it mean that she slept with her back toward me? She’s not looking at me as much as she used to," etc. This disturbs Relief Girl. She does not like to be Icxiked at or analyzed, and, in reality, she’s frightened of inti macy. So she withdraws even more, which perpetuates the cycle. She begins to think Anxiety Girl may be a stalker and stops returning her calls. Now Anxiety Girl is hurt and con fused and seeks extra therapy. Or, if she doesn’t seek extra therapy, she begins to wait outside Relief Girl’s house, until it dawns on her that she is, indeed, behaving like a stalker. So, Ms. Hyde, there are two ways to avoid this problem: 1) Stay in therapy long enough to figure out why you fear intimacy and what you can do about it or 2) Stick with your own kind and out-distance one another into the sunset. O f course, your current cat-and-mouse pattern probably serves you in some way, so it will likely be a hard habit to break. D ear M s . B ehavior : About three months ago a male reader asked you about lesbians’ poten tial problem with “man smell.” I’m a lesbian but have never heard of such a thing and could not tell whether your answer to him was humorous or serious! I have both gay men and straight men as friends and have never noticed a “man smell.” You suggest the men might shave their body hair in order to be let into th^ women’s house. Does this happen? Were you kidding? — Christine (Gay woman who likes men as they are...) D ear C hristine : You haven’t noticed the man smell problem? Perhaps you haven’t heard that a small, but significant, percentage of lesbians have a defec tive olfactory gene, which renders their sense of smell useless after expo sure to certain elements. These scent-robbing elements include: tongue piercing, lesbian love juice, folk music, men’s cologne, hik ing and vibrating sex toys. Have you been affected? Actually, Ms. Behavior was sur prised by how many readers wrote in to object to her tongue-in-cheek sug gestion that the men shave their body hair in attempt to be more suitable guests. She even received a nasty dia tribe from a gay man who ranted on and on about the smell of menstrual hlood. (How would he know what menstrual blood smells like?) Ms. Behavior was merely fondly poking fun at the reader who posed the question about why he wasn’t invited to the lesbians’ bridge game and at his own suggestion that it might be his “man smell.” To clear the air, Ms. Behavior here by announces that she embraces men and their odors. She does not believe they need to remove their body hair to be acceptable guests and does not support the efforts of the dyke vigi lante groups who have recently held down and waxed innocent gay men. This is not helpful, ladies! JT1 © Meryl Cohn 2003 M eryl C ohn is the author of Do What I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay and Lesbian Etiquette (Houghton Mifflm). Her Internet site is www.mshehavior.com. Send questions or correspondence to msbehawnQanl com.
