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2Û.20Q2 ADVICE .................. ▼................... com es all lesbian, bi and trans w om en fo r m onthly a ctivi (B ruce M ason 5 0 3-28 6-9 111 brucepdxor@ attbi.com . God's Holy Territory o ffe rs a spm t file d w orship ties. including potiucks, dances and drum m ing circles. w w w m te g n tyu sa o rg .) (7 /0 3 ) experience, seeking G od fo r holiness and w holeness M ight start a cancer support group (5 4 1 -3 1 7 6 4 5 7 ) S ocial group fo r Intsrfaith Spiritual Cantor houses spintual dire c gay and bi man m C entral O regon. M onthly dinners, annual barbecue and holiday parties. to rs from various w orld religw us tra ditio ns, w ho are available fo r guidance, classes and re trea ts. (S econd Floor. 39 10 SE 11th A ve 5 0 3-23 320 26. ext. 3. (5 4 1 -3 1 2 -8 8 8 1 ) (7 /0 3 ) w w w m te rfa ith sp in tu a lce n te rco m .) (7 /0 3 ) Kashst Portland is a group fo r Jewish members o f the Willamette Valley: sexual mmonties com m unity and the ir partners, spouses and supporters M onthly social, religious and cultural Physical Recreation p ra ye r 1500 NE 49th S t . Vancouver. 360-88 594 61. Is to transform to conform? gm bear68@ netzero.net) (7 /0 3 ) U U k o A l O ---------- a------ I L H a f l a n I I n l i i e r e a l l a f iviitfiWvi vvTTviui u im in a n wniswiM ini F ellowship a hom e fo r the liberal religious spirit. (1 0 am Sunday 4505 E 18th S t.. Vancouver 3 6 0 6 9 5 -1 8 9 1 .) (7 /0 3 ) D ear events. (D avid o r Laney 503-2267079. ext 1 4 .)( 7/03) The O UTdoor Group is a frien dly. Inclusive bunch o f Eugene people w ho go biking, hiking, skating, Metanoia Poaco Community United Methodist Church is a "house chu rch," bnnging gay and straight Willamette Valley: Spirituality m ushroom hunting, skiing, ho t spnnging and ju s t together. (D aily p ra ye r 7 20 am. Sunday gathenng First Congregational Church. U nited Church o f about any o th e r a c tiv ity you can dream up. O ccasional 5 pm . 2116 N E 18th A ve 503-281-3697. C hrist is an open and affirm ing congregation offenng w or w eekend cam ping. (K im 54 1-48 4 2 1 4 7 kim s@ efn org w w w tearsoup com /m etanoia.) (7 /0 3 ) w w w .outd oorgro up.o rg.) (7 /0 3 ) Metropolitan Community Church of Portland ship and church school. C M d care provided and wheel chair accessible (9 am Sunday learning hour. 10 am w or ship 700 Manon S t NE. Salem. 503-363-3660 ) (7 /0 3 ) Frontrunner and Walker* go out every Saturday holds ecum enical Sunday m orning w orship services at m orning in Eugene. (9 am. 15th and A gate Hank 9 and 11 am. Sunday school fo r children is held dunng Morning side United Methodist Church is a recon 5 4 1 -484-6259 o r Sadie 5 4 1 -485-3282 ) (7 /0 3 ) the 1 1 am w orship service. (2400 NE B roadw ay ciling congregation where everyone is welcome to partici 503-281-8868 info@ m ccportla ndcom .)( 7 /0 3 ) pate *1 the full life of the congregation (8:30 and 11 am The Eugene G LB T Tennis Group gets tog ethe r Sunday 3674 12th S t SE. Salem 503-364-5013.) (7 /0 3 ) w eekends to play fo r fun and exercise. Open to all Portland Center for Spiritual Growth is a New ages and skill levels (kfranken8@ yahoo.com .) (7 /0 3 ) Thought C enter offenng an uplifting, warm and refresh Sacred Souls honors all sacred paths, promotes peace ing service w ith the Revs C asey and B erdell M o ffe tt and strives to create an environment that supports and C haney (1 0 am Sunday C all fo r location promotes interfaith dialogue M eets at the Oregon School 503- 777-0727.) (7 /0 3 ) of Massage (6 3 0 6 pm Sunday 440 Ferry St. SE. Salem Willamette Valley: Social Portland Church of Religious Science is a liber Confluence: The Willamette Valley Mixed GALA Chorus rehearses 4-6:30 pm Sundays at w M hlthQ aolcom www sacredsouls org ) (7/03) al. open, progressive N ew Thought com m unity w elcom ing everyone to discover the s p irit w ithin. Change your Umtanan U m versalist C ongregation o f Salem . 5090 thinking, change your life l (10 am Sunday m editation. (541-754-4144 conftuence@aot com w w w conftuencechorus org.) (7 /0 3 ) C enter S t. NE YOUTH I 10:30 am service and ju n io r church. 6 3 0 pm W ednesday p ra ye r circle. 3983 N E 112th Ave. Eugene Lesbian/Gay/Bisexual 20s/30s Social Club enjoys a w eekly gam e night and brunch every Sunday at B rail s (Bnan 541-485-3437.) (7 /0 3 ) The 503-261 -0 677.) (7 /0 3 ) Metro: Youth Portland Radical Faeries m eet tw ice a m onth w ith Flavors, a program of M ultiQ ueer and Brother to potlucks and circles at the fu ll moon and the new Brother, is a social support group fo r sexual mmonty youth The Lesbian Connection (T L Q m eets once a month m oon. O pen to all men seeking alternative spiritual o f color 24 and younger M eets every other Sunday for fo r potlucks and other various fun activities m Eugene. All grow th and com m unity C offee hours start 9 30 am food and socializing Regular events and activities (Des S aturdays at 3 Fnends C offeehouse. 201 SE 12th Ave 503-228-3892 o r des@ lm familyorg Stephan women welcom e (Bonnie 541 -683-2793) (7 /03) (503-235-0826 olter@ pcez com ) (7 /0 3 ) 503-417-7991 o r hey_stephan@ hotmail.com.) (7/0 3 ) potlucks and discussion o f books touching on the le s S is te r S p ir it o ffe rs w om en's spintuality celebrations, The (Cary 503-363-6036 manonberrysaton@aol com ) (7 /0 3 ) discussion groups, a drum m ing circle, w orkshops and Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network (GLSEN) fights to end anti-gay bias in K-12 classes S chedule o f events available A ll wom en are schools (12700 S W N orth D akota S t.. S uite 180. Marionberry Salon m eets m onthly in Salem fo r bian, gay. bi expenence. SPIRITUALITY I Metro: Spirituality Ainsworth United Church of Christ is a m ulti w elcom e. (S uite 102. 34 30 SE B elm ont S t. M ailing *129. Tigard. OR 97223 503-525-1177. address: PO Box 9246. Portland. OR 97207. glsen@ glsenoregon.org w w w .glsenoregon.org.)(7/03) 503- 736-3297. sistersp@ teleport. com .) (7 /0 3 ) MultiQueer. a program o f Love M akes a Family, pro Spirit Circle is fo r lesbian, bi o r trans wom en seek vides advocacy to sexual m m onty youth. O ffers ing a w elcom ing com m unity in the C atholic church. resources and support in the com m unity and the school M e ets every third Thursday in the S t Andrew N ativity system s, w ith a focus on support fo r youth o f color. S chool (7 pm 80 6 NE A lb erta St. (D es 503-228-3892 des@ lm fam ily.org.) (7 /0 3 ) lbtspintclrcle@ yahoo.com .) (7 /0 3 ) racial, m ulticultural, open and affirm in g church. Sunday Outside In operates a clinic fo r anyone who can't quali w orship is at 10 am ; church school fo r children runs Southminstor Presbyterian Church is a chal concurrently. (2 9 4 1 N E A in sw orth S t 503-284-8767 lenging, supportive com m unity that w elcom es all peo services that include those who inject hormones. Can aucc@ teleport.com .) (7 /0 3 ) ple It is the firs t M ore Light Presbytenan C hurch in provide transitional housing fo r youth 20 and younger as O regon. Sunday school and nursery care (1 0 am w ell as fo r those H IV* and younger than 23. A lso plays Sunday 12250 S W D enney Road. Beaverton. host to VOICES (Voices o f Individual and Comm unity Anawim Community o f gay men m eets w eekly fo r C hnstian m editation and prayer (7 3 0 pm Thursday 503-644-2073. staff@ southm m .com .) (7 /0 3 ) 5 0 3 -2 8 1-0 722.) (7 /0 3 ) Atkinson Memorial Church is a Umtanan U m versalist w elcom ing congregation in O regon C ity. (7 1 0 S ixth S t 5 0 3 6 5 6 -7 2 9 6 www atkm sonchurch.com ) (7 /0 3 ) Compassionate Heart Sang ha plays host to w eekly sittings in the Vipassana M e ditation Tradition at Flanders House (7 3 0 -9 pm W ednesday 2926 NE S t Andrew Catholic Church invites all to join a diverse faith community fo r prayer and fellowship (9 30 am Sunday 806 NE Alberta S t 503-2814429 ) (7 /03) St. James Lutheran Church a R econciled in C hnst congregation, w elcom es all people fo r traditional, litu rgical w orship w here w e expenence G od's reconcil ing love that sets all people free (9 and 11 am Sunday 1315 S W Park A ve 503-227-2439.) (7 /0 3 ) Flanders S t Jon 503-239 5 5 3 9 ) (7 /0 3 ) Congregation Novell Shalom, an open and pro gressive C onservative Jew ish synagogue, extends a warm w elcom e to all sexual m inorities Shabbat serv Congregation P'nai O r (Faces o f Light) is a vibrant, egalitarian, Jew ish Renewal congregation in P ortland. M eets several tim es a m onth in various locations Dignity Portland m eets fo r M ass on Sundays (5 0 3 -2 6 2 6 9 4 7 )( 7 /0 3 ) Eastrose Fellowship Unitarian Universalist a wel com ing congregation, offers Sunday service and children's rekgous education (1 0 3 0 am 1133N E 181st Ave.. Gresham 50 3-6652628 eastrose@ teleport.com .) (7 /0 3 ) Monday-Fnday 1132 S W 13th Ave 503-535-3800 w w w .outsidein.org.) (7 /0 3 ) Vanguard Youth Services a program o f Cascadia Behavioral HealthCare. offers support and recreation to gay, lesbian, bi and trans kids 23 and younger Programs include Clackamas County Sexual Minority Youth Connection (COSMYC) provides opportunities for queer and questioning kids to get together fo r free, fun and supportive social activities Also one-on-one support and referrals to Clackamas County service providers (503-969-0060 cosmycyoutti@ yahoo c o m ) Expression 2408 SE 16th Ave. 5 0 3 -2 3 1 -4 9 5 5 ) (7 /0 3 ) St. Stephen's Episcopal Church has been wel com ing all people since 1863 (1 2 10 pm W ednesday and 7 45 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and child care a t 10 am S outhw est 13th Avenue a t C lay S tree t is a free art/expression support group m Gresham for queer youth Hang out and have fun every Fnday' (Jonathan 503672-9664. ext 2 8 )( 7/03) Pride Project bnngs tog ethe r W ashington C ounty queer and questioning youth to plan and attend m onthly 503-223 6 4 2 4 .) ( 7 /0 3 ) social events A lso inform ation, referral and advocacy Waveriy Heights Church (U C O is open and services in W ashington C ounty (M o lly 503-260-5792 m olly@ pndeproiect.org) (7 /0 3 ) (PO Box 42187. P ortland. OR 97242-0187 503-248-4500 w w w pnaiorpdx o rg .) (7 /0 3 ) Empowerment from the S treets), a self-support group for queer youth. Needs volunteers o f all ages. (10 am -6 pm Nen C atholic C hurch celebrates an affirm ing M ass fo l ices 8 1 5 pm Fnday and 9 am S aturday (2 900 S W P eaceful Lane 5 0 3 -2 4 6 -8 8 3 1 ) (7 /0 3 ) fy fo r the O regon Health Plan as w ell as needle exchange Gay and Lesbian Outreach (G A LO ) o f S t Philip low ed by a social (7 :3 0 pm Friday P aulist C enter. affirm ing w ith w orship, children's school and child care (1 0 am Sunday 3300 SE W oodw ard St. 503 23 8 1337. w w w w averlyucc org ) (7 /0 3 ) Wy'east Unitarian Universalist Congregation is an open and liberal religious com m unity offenng inter- generational services and religious education fo r chil dren It w elcom es gay. lesbian, bi and trans members Sexual Minority Youth Recreation Center (SM YR C) o ffe rs drop-in com puter access, pool tables and an inform al place to hang out W eekly youth sup p o rt groups includes Trans Youth G roup and Personal D eity Proxy (a creative group) (4-8 pm M onday and W ednesday. 4 pm -m idnight Friday and Saturday 2100 SE B elm ont S t 5 0 3672 -96 64 TTY Faith United Methodist Church is a w elcom ing N urtures spintual grow th and prom otes living by com m unity o f C hnstians in Troutdale that values and encourages all people in finding a place o f belonging in U nitarian U niversalist pnnciples (4 pm Sunday 3915 SE S teele S t 503-777-3704 Youth HIV/STD Prevention Project provides fun the fam ily o f G od Sunday w orship at 10:15 am; Adult w w w w ye a stp n w d uua.org.) (7 /0 3 ) and educational program s along w ith counseling and Education at 9 am; children and youth at 10 30 am Zion United Church of Christ an open and W ednesday P rayers 6-6 30 pm (2 7400 SE S tark S t. affirm ing congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, bi. trans 5 0 3 -6 6 1 -4 5 2 0 )( 7 /0 3 ) and heterosexual people w ho w ish to w orship m a First Unitarian Church o f P ortland is an open and C hnst-centered. warm , canng. m u ltiag e/ra ce/cultura! affirm ing liberal religious com m unity offenng a w ide faith com m unity (11 am Sunday 2025 N E 2 3 rd A v e . G resham 5 0 3 -6 6 5 -8 7 4 1 ) (7 /0 3 ) range o f program s to nurture spintual grow th 503-231-9286 www sm yrc.org ) (7 /0 3 ) testing to queer youth in a friendly, relaxed environ m ent (5 0 3 -8 72-966 4) (7 /0 3 ) Washington: Youth Triple Point o ffers education, support and advocacy com m unity and social ju stice . S unday service to gay. lesbian, bi. trans and questioning youth in 10 am. (1011 S W 12th A v e 5 0 3 2 2 8 6 3 8 9 Vancouver. W ash M eets 6-8 pm Tuesdays m the base w w w firstun itanan portla nd org.) (7 /0 3 ) Washington: Spirituality First United Methodist Church o f Portland, a w e l Abundant Life Center is A N ew Thought com ing and reconciling congregation, believes no one C om m unity fo r spintual aw akening and transform ing is le ft out m G od's fam ily Sexual m m onty potlucks held m onthly. (1 0 3 0 am Sunday 1838 S W Je ffe rso n S t. lives through love A safe place w here children learn to em body spintual pnnciples (1 0 am Sunday 10006 NE m ent o f Youth House. 1112 Colum bia S t m Vancouver (John 36 0 6 9 5 1325 ) ( 7 /0 3 ) Willamette Valley: Youth 503-228-3195 w w w fum cpdx o rg ) (7 /0 3 ) N inth A ve . Vancouver 36 0 5 7 3 -2 6 2 6 )(7 1 0 3 ) Grace Space is a New Thought spintual center dedi East Vancouver United Methodist Church is cated to offenng w ays to expenence S p irit. Sunday reconciling and w elcom ing (1 0 am Sunday evening celebrations w ith Rev S tephanie Torres. 5701 M acA nhur B tvd 3 6 0 6 9 3 4 7 6 1 ation and fun m Eugene Free, confidential, adult facktat ed (D rop m 4 6 pm Fnday Amazon Com m unity C enter C onscious B reathing experiences. C hanting. Healing Gay, Lesbian, Bi, Transgender and Questioning Youth Group fo r ages 13 to 18 offers support inform ou rclarkcou nty Columbian c o m /2 7 3 / ) ( 7 /0 3 ) 2700 Hdyard S t 5 4 1 6 8 4 -3 4 6 6 )( 7/0 3) S ervices. M editation classes and a m iracles study group (5 pm B ridge port C om m unity C hurch. 621 NE First Congregations! Church United Church of Chnst. 76th A ve 503 28 7 3 2 1 6 ) (7 /0 3 ) holds tw o Sunday services, traditional and "less traditional' in an open and affirm ing congregation (1220 NE 68th S t Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Tranegender Youth Group fo r ages 25 and younger m eets every M onday m Eugene (5 pm Komoma C enter. 1414 K n e a d S t Vancouver 36 0693 147 6 vanuccOaol com .) (7/03) 5 4 1 3 4 6 1 1 3 4 ) (7 /0 3 ) Integrity is a group o f sexual m m onty Episcopalians and friends V arious locations throughout O regon Diesel dyke disparity For gay. lesbian, bi. trans and straight. Everyone w el com e! ( I I am Sunday. 7 pm Thursday B ible study and M s . B e h a v io r : I was delighted to read your advice to Eliza, the diesel dyke who was seeking training in being more socially pre sentable as a female. Butches wants to be femmes now? Great news! What with Republicans and right-wingers in con trol of the govern ment, it’s time queers relearn conformity and remember how to adopt the behavior and thinking of mainstream heterosexuals. Just as before pride, “gay culture” should remain innocuous and homo identity should mimic that of straight people to every possible extent. And there’s no stopping this trend once it catches on again. For girl-challenged lesbians, 1 hope Ms. Behavior will offer point ers on how to blow a straight man, insert a diaphragm, throw like a girl and serve a nice casserole. Anything to enable unacceptably boyish dykes to act, look and ulti mately feel feminine. Similarly, faggots would benefit from help in mimicking traditional man-type behaviors like betting on hockey, grabbing the asses of female co-workers, operating a forklift and fucking interns with M acanudo cigars. So long to gender-bending indi vidualism for members of sexual minority groups. The gay revolution has come a long way! — My Fair Lezzie proud gay male fork lift operators every where, as well as cooking-savvy les bians who can bake a killer casserole— all of whom will probably inundate Ms. Behavior with barrels of complain ing e-mail— your tired old stereotyp ing of homosexuals is also excused. P.S. If you’d really like pointers on blow jobs or inserting a diaphragm, Ms. Behavior will have to charge extra. D ear M s . B ehavior : Can a lesbian and a bisexual woman be friends after having a pas sionate relationship? I’ve decided to be friends with this bisexual woman until she can figure out what she wants. She has children, and I feel she is stuck in the fantasy of her children having a father figure, even if her own needs are not fully being met. So to play it safe with my own heart, being friends with her and just loving her at a distance are all I can do for now. Yes, I am hoping she will re discover her true feelings for me, but until then I’ve decided on no inti macy. What do you think? Am I wasting away as my heart is frozen in time? — Wasting Away D ear W asting A way : Your signature suggests you’ve answered your own question: It doesn’t sound like you have enough D ear M y F air L ezzie : distance from your bisexual “friend” to protect your heart. There is no need to get your Joe Boxers in a twist, Missy. G et out of your friend’s head. Not all dykes are so insecure Don’t worry about what fantasy she’s about their butchness that they can’t stuck in, and don’t wait for her to peel off the battered old leather figure out what she wants. That jackets, spike bracelets and boots might take a long time, particularly they wore at 20 and slip into some if you’re hanging out in the back thing new (and perhaps even dain ground, hoping she’ll rediscover her ty). But, clearly, this notion leaves feelings for you. you aghast. Perhaps it is because you Your physical presence won’t make her more likely to realize she think gay pride is about being a poster child for counterculture, wants you. And just resisting the temptation to have sex with one rather than being yourself. another is probably not enough of a Queers, who have long appreci ated the joys of dressing up and change to create the distance you both need now. dressing down, are hardly in danger Besides, if your heart is “frozen in of extinguishing themselves by try time” it won’t necessarily be avail ing on a new costume. Do you able for the big thaw if a wonderful think a lesbian who wears a silky woman happens to show up, ready skirt will suddenly lose her ability to change a tire or toss a football or | for a relationship with you. J H © Meryl Cohn 2002 shout “Yo!” when an SU V full of her friends drives by? M eryl C ohn is the author of Do However, if the idea of Ms. What I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Behavior channeling Henrietta Gay and Lesbian Etiquette Higgins for a bit o f girl talk about (Houghton Mifflin). Her Internet site changing clothes or style leaves is www.msbehavior.com. Send you trembling in your Timberlands, questions or correspondence to you are hereby excused from the msbehavior@aol.com. dressing room. And, by the way, speaking for
