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com es all lesbian, bi and trans w om en fo r m onthly a ctivi
(B ruce M ason 5 0 3-28 6-9 111 brucepdxor@ attbi.com .
God's Holy Territory o ffe rs a spm t file d w orship
ties. including potiucks, dances and drum m ing circles.
w w w m te g n tyu sa o rg .) (7 /0 3 )
experience, seeking G od fo r holiness and w holeness
M ight start a cancer support group (5 4 1 -3 1 7 6 4 5 7 )
S ocial group fo r
Intsrfaith Spiritual Cantor houses spintual dire c
gay and bi man m C entral O regon.
M onthly dinners, annual barbecue and holiday parties.
to rs from various w orld religw us tra ditio ns, w ho are
available fo r guidance, classes and re trea ts. (S econd
Floor. 39 10 SE 11th A ve 5 0 3-23 320 26. ext. 3.
(5 4 1 -3 1 2 -8 8 8 1 ) (7 /0 3 )
w w w m te rfa ith sp in tu a lce n te rco m .) (7 /0 3 )
Kashst Portland is a group fo r Jewish members o f the
Willamette Valley:
sexual mmonties com m unity and the ir partners, spouses
and supporters M onthly social, religious and cultural
Physical Recreation
p ra ye r 1500 NE 49th S t . Vancouver. 360-88 594 61.
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F ellowship a hom e fo r the liberal religious spirit.
(1 0 am Sunday 4505 E 18th S t.. Vancouver
3 6 0 6 9 5 -1 8 9 1 .) (7 /0 3 )
D ear
events. (D avid o r Laney 503-2267079. ext 1 4 .)( 7/03)
The O UTdoor Group is a frien dly. Inclusive bunch
o f Eugene people w ho go biking, hiking, skating,
Metanoia Poaco Community United Methodist
Church is a "house chu rch," bnnging gay and straight
Willamette Valley: Spirituality
m ushroom hunting, skiing, ho t spnnging and ju s t
together. (D aily p ra ye r 7 20 am. Sunday gathenng
First Congregational Church. U nited Church o f
about any o th e r a c tiv ity you can dream up. O ccasional
5 pm . 2116 N E 18th A ve 503-281-3697.
C hrist is an open and affirm ing congregation offenng w or
w eekend cam ping. (K im 54 1-48 4 2 1 4 7 kim s@ efn org
w w w tearsoup com /m etanoia.) (7 /0 3 )
w w w .outd oorgro up.o rg.) (7 /0 3 )
Metropolitan Community Church of Portland
ship and church school. C M d care provided and wheel
chair accessible (9 am Sunday learning hour. 10 am w or
ship 700 Manon S t NE. Salem. 503-363-3660 ) (7 /0 3 )
Frontrunner and Walker* go out every Saturday
holds ecum enical Sunday m orning w orship services at
m orning in Eugene. (9 am. 15th and A gate Hank
9 and 11 am. Sunday school fo r children is held dunng
Morning side United Methodist Church is a recon
5 4 1 -484-6259 o r Sadie 5 4 1 -485-3282 ) (7 /0 3 )
the 1 1 am w orship service. (2400 NE B roadw ay
ciling congregation where everyone is welcome to partici
503-281-8868 info@ m ccportla ndcom .)( 7 /0 3 )
pate *1 the full life of the congregation (8:30 and 11 am
The
Eugene G LB T Tennis Group gets tog ethe r
Sunday 3674 12th S t SE. Salem 503-364-5013.) (7 /0 3 )
w eekends to play fo r fun and exercise. Open to all
Portland Center for Spiritual Growth is a New
ages and skill levels (kfranken8@ yahoo.com .) (7 /0 3 )
Thought C enter offenng an uplifting, warm and refresh
Sacred Souls honors all sacred paths, promotes peace
ing service w ith the Revs C asey and B erdell M o ffe tt
and strives to create an environment that supports and
C haney (1 0 am Sunday C all fo r location
promotes interfaith dialogue M eets at the Oregon School
503- 777-0727.) (7 /0 3 )
of Massage (6 3 0 6 pm Sunday 440 Ferry St. SE. Salem
Willamette Valley: Social
Portland Church of Religious Science is a liber
Confluence: The Willamette Valley Mixed
GALA Chorus rehearses 4-6:30 pm Sundays at
w M hlthQ aolcom www sacredsouls org ) (7/03)
al. open, progressive N ew Thought com m unity w elcom
ing everyone to discover the s p irit w ithin. Change your
Umtanan U m versalist C ongregation o f Salem . 5090
thinking, change your life l (10 am Sunday m editation.
(541-754-4144 conftuence@aot com
w w w conftuencechorus org.) (7 /0 3 )
C enter S t. NE
YOUTH
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10:30 am service and ju n io r church. 6 3 0 pm
W ednesday p ra ye r circle. 3983 N E 112th Ave.
Eugene Lesbian/Gay/Bisexual 20s/30s
Social Club enjoys a w eekly gam e night and brunch
every Sunday at B rail s (Bnan 541-485-3437.) (7 /0 3 )
The
503-261 -0 677.) (7 /0 3 )
Metro: Youth
Portland Radical Faeries m eet tw ice a m onth w ith
Flavors, a program of M ultiQ ueer and Brother to
potlucks and circles at the fu ll moon and the new
Brother, is a social support group fo r sexual mmonty youth
The Lesbian Connection (T L Q m eets once a month
m oon. O pen to all men seeking alternative spiritual
o f color 24 and younger M eets every other Sunday for
fo r potlucks and other various fun activities m Eugene. All
grow th and com m unity C offee hours start 9 30 am
food and socializing Regular events and activities (Des
S aturdays at 3 Fnends C offeehouse. 201 SE 12th Ave
503-228-3892 o r des@ lm familyorg Stephan
women welcom e
(Bonnie 541 -683-2793) (7 /03)
(503-235-0826 olter@ pcez com ) (7 /0 3 )
503-417-7991 o r hey_stephan@ hotmail.com.) (7/0 3 )
potlucks and discussion o f books touching on the le s
S is te r S p ir it o ffe rs w om en's spintuality celebrations,
The
(Cary 503-363-6036
manonberrysaton@aol com ) (7 /0 3 )
discussion groups, a drum m ing circle, w orkshops and
Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education
Network (GLSEN) fights to end anti-gay bias in K-12
classes S chedule o f events available A ll wom en are
schools (12700 S W N orth D akota S t.. S uite 180.
Marionberry Salon m eets m onthly in Salem fo r
bian, gay. bi expenence.
SPIRITUALITY
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Metro: Spirituality
Ainsworth United Church of Christ is a m ulti
w elcom e. (S uite 102. 34 30 SE B elm ont S t. M ailing
*129. Tigard. OR 97223 503-525-1177.
address: PO Box 9246. Portland. OR 97207.
glsen@ glsenoregon.org w w w .glsenoregon.org.)(7/03)
503- 736-3297. sistersp@ teleport. com .) (7 /0 3 )
MultiQueer. a program o f Love M akes a Family, pro
Spirit Circle is fo r lesbian, bi o r trans wom en seek
vides advocacy to sexual m m onty youth. O ffers
ing a w elcom ing com m unity in the C atholic church.
resources and support in the com m unity and the school
M e ets every third Thursday in the S t Andrew N ativity
system s, w ith a focus on support fo r youth o f color.
S chool (7 pm 80 6 NE A lb erta St.
(D es 503-228-3892 des@ lm fam ily.org.) (7 /0 3 )
lbtspintclrcle@ yahoo.com .) (7 /0 3 )
racial, m ulticultural, open and affirm in g church. Sunday
Outside In operates a clinic fo r anyone who can't quali
w orship is at 10 am ; church school fo r children runs
Southminstor Presbyterian Church is a chal
concurrently. (2 9 4 1 N E A in sw orth S t 503-284-8767
lenging, supportive com m unity that w elcom es all peo
services that include those who inject hormones. Can
aucc@ teleport.com .) (7 /0 3 )
ple It is the firs t M ore Light Presbytenan C hurch in
provide transitional housing fo r youth 20 and younger as
O regon. Sunday school and nursery care (1 0 am
w ell as fo r those H IV* and younger than 23. A lso plays
Sunday 12250 S W D enney Road. Beaverton.
host to VOICES (Voices o f Individual and Comm unity
Anawim Community o f gay men m eets w eekly fo r
C hnstian m editation and prayer (7 3 0 pm Thursday
503-644-2073. staff@ southm m .com .) (7 /0 3 )
5 0 3 -2 8 1-0 722.) (7 /0 3 )
Atkinson Memorial Church is a Umtanan
U m versalist w elcom ing congregation in O regon C ity.
(7 1 0 S ixth S t 5 0 3 6 5 6 -7 2 9 6
www atkm sonchurch.com ) (7 /0 3 )
Compassionate Heart Sang ha plays host to
w eekly sittings in the Vipassana M e ditation Tradition at
Flanders House (7 3 0 -9 pm W ednesday 2926 NE
S t Andrew Catholic Church invites all to join a
diverse faith community fo r prayer and fellowship (9 30 am
Sunday 806 NE Alberta S t 503-2814429 ) (7 /03)
St. James Lutheran Church a R econciled in
C hnst congregation, w elcom es all people fo r traditional,
litu rgical w orship w here w e expenence G od's reconcil
ing love that sets all people free (9 and 11 am Sunday
1315 S W Park A ve 503-227-2439.) (7 /0 3 )
Flanders S t Jon 503-239 5 5 3 9 ) (7 /0 3 )
Congregation Novell Shalom, an open and pro
gressive C onservative Jew ish synagogue, extends a
warm w elcom e to all sexual m inorities Shabbat serv
Congregation P'nai O r (Faces o f Light) is a vibrant,
egalitarian, Jew ish Renewal congregation in P ortland.
M eets several tim es a m onth in various locations
Dignity Portland m eets fo r M ass on Sundays
(5 0 3 -2 6 2 6 9 4 7 )( 7 /0 3 )
Eastrose Fellowship Unitarian Universalist a wel
com ing congregation, offers Sunday service and children's
rekgous education (1 0 3 0 am 1133N E 181st Ave..
Gresham 50 3-6652628 eastrose@ teleport.com .) (7 /0 3 )
Monday-Fnday 1132 S W 13th Ave 503-535-3800
w w w .outsidein.org.) (7 /0 3 )
Vanguard Youth Services a program o f Cascadia
Behavioral HealthCare. offers support and recreation to
gay, lesbian, bi and trans kids 23 and younger Programs
include Clackamas County Sexual Minority Youth
Connection (COSMYC) provides opportunities for
queer and questioning kids to get together fo r free, fun
and supportive social activities Also one-on-one support
and referrals to Clackamas County service providers
(503-969-0060 cosmycyoutti@ yahoo c o m ) Expression
2408 SE 16th Ave. 5 0 3 -2 3 1 -4 9 5 5 ) (7 /0 3 )
St. Stephen's Episcopal Church has been wel
com ing all people since 1863 (1 2 10 pm W ednesday
and 7 45 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and child
care a t 10 am S outhw est 13th Avenue a t C lay S tree t
is a free art/expression support group m Gresham for
queer youth Hang out and have fun every Fnday'
(Jonathan 503672-9664. ext 2 8 )( 7/03)
Pride Project bnngs tog ethe r W ashington C ounty
queer and questioning youth to plan and attend m onthly
503-223 6 4 2 4 .) ( 7 /0 3 )
social events A lso inform ation, referral and advocacy
Waveriy Heights Church (U C O is open and
services in W ashington C ounty (M o lly 503-260-5792
m olly@ pndeproiect.org) (7 /0 3 )
(PO Box 42187. P ortland. OR 97242-0187
503-248-4500 w w w pnaiorpdx o rg .) (7 /0 3 )
Empowerment from the S treets), a self-support group for
queer youth. Needs volunteers o f all ages. (10 am -6 pm
Nen C atholic C hurch celebrates an affirm ing M ass fo l
ices 8 1 5 pm Fnday and 9 am S aturday (2 900 S W
P eaceful Lane 5 0 3 -2 4 6 -8 8 3 1 ) (7 /0 3 )
fy fo r the O regon Health Plan as w ell as needle exchange
Gay and Lesbian Outreach (G A LO ) o f S t Philip
low ed by a social (7 :3 0 pm Friday P aulist C enter.
affirm ing w ith w orship, children's school and child care
(1 0 am Sunday 3300 SE W oodw ard St. 503 23 8 1337.
w w w w averlyucc org ) (7 /0 3 )
Wy'east Unitarian Universalist Congregation
is an open and liberal religious com m unity offenng inter-
generational services and religious education fo r chil
dren It w elcom es gay. lesbian, bi and trans members
Sexual Minority Youth Recreation Center
(SM YR C) o ffe rs drop-in com puter access, pool tables
and an inform al place to hang out W eekly youth sup
p o rt groups includes Trans Youth G roup and Personal
D eity Proxy (a creative group) (4-8 pm M onday and
W ednesday. 4 pm -m idnight Friday and Saturday
2100 SE B elm ont S t 5 0 3672 -96 64 TTY
Faith United Methodist Church is a w elcom ing
N urtures spintual grow th and prom otes living by
com m unity o f C hnstians in Troutdale that values and
encourages all people in finding a place o f belonging in
U nitarian U niversalist pnnciples (4 pm Sunday
3915 SE S teele S t 503-777-3704
Youth HIV/STD Prevention Project provides fun
the fam ily o f G od Sunday w orship at 10:15 am; Adult
w w w w ye a stp n w d uua.org.) (7 /0 3 )
and educational program s along w ith counseling and
Education at 9 am; children and youth at 10 30 am
Zion United Church of Christ an open and
W ednesday P rayers 6-6 30 pm (2 7400 SE S tark S t.
affirm ing congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, bi. trans
5 0 3 -6 6 1 -4 5 2 0 )( 7 /0 3 )
and heterosexual people w ho w ish to w orship m a
First Unitarian Church o f P ortland is an open and
C hnst-centered. warm , canng. m u ltiag e/ra ce/cultura!
affirm ing liberal religious com m unity offenng a w ide
faith com m unity (11 am Sunday 2025 N E 2 3 rd A v e .
G resham 5 0 3 -6 6 5 -8 7 4 1 ) (7 /0 3 )
range o f program s to nurture spintual grow th
503-231-9286 www sm yrc.org ) (7 /0 3 )
testing to queer youth in a friendly, relaxed environ
m ent (5 0 3 -8 72-966 4) (7 /0 3 )
Washington: Youth
Triple Point o ffers education, support and advocacy
com m unity and social ju stice . S unday service
to gay. lesbian, bi. trans and questioning youth in
10 am. (1011 S W 12th A v e 5 0 3 2 2 8 6 3 8 9
Vancouver. W ash M eets 6-8 pm Tuesdays m the base
w w w firstun itanan portla nd org.) (7 /0 3 )
Washington: Spirituality
First United Methodist Church o f Portland, a w e l
Abundant Life Center is A N ew Thought
com ing and reconciling congregation, believes no one
C om m unity fo r spintual aw akening and transform ing
is le ft out m G od's fam ily Sexual m m onty potlucks held
m onthly. (1 0 3 0 am Sunday 1838 S W Je ffe rso n S t.
lives through love A safe place w here children learn to
em body spintual pnnciples (1 0 am Sunday 10006 NE
m ent o f Youth House. 1112 Colum bia S t m Vancouver
(John 36 0 6 9 5 1325 ) ( 7 /0 3 )
Willamette Valley: Youth
503-228-3195 w w w fum cpdx o rg ) (7 /0 3 )
N inth A ve . Vancouver 36 0 5 7 3 -2 6 2 6 )(7 1 0 3 )
Grace Space is a New Thought spintual center dedi
East Vancouver United Methodist Church is
cated to offenng w ays to expenence S p irit. Sunday
reconciling and w elcom ing (1 0 am Sunday
evening celebrations w ith Rev S tephanie Torres.
5701 M acA nhur B tvd 3 6 0 6 9 3 4 7 6 1
ation and fun m Eugene Free, confidential, adult facktat
ed (D rop m 4 6 pm Fnday Amazon Com m unity C enter
C onscious B reathing experiences. C hanting. Healing
Gay, Lesbian, Bi, Transgender and Questioning
Youth Group fo r ages 13 to 18 offers support inform
ou rclarkcou nty Columbian c o m /2 7 3 / ) ( 7 /0 3 )
2700 Hdyard S t 5 4 1 6 8 4 -3 4 6 6 )( 7/0 3)
S ervices. M editation classes and a m iracles study
group (5 pm B ridge port C om m unity C hurch. 621 NE
First Congregations! Church United Church of Chnst.
76th A ve 503 28 7 3 2 1 6 ) (7 /0 3 )
holds tw o Sunday services, traditional and "less traditional'
in an open and affirm ing congregation (1220 NE 68th S t
Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Tranegender Youth
Group fo r ages 25 and younger m eets every M onday
m Eugene (5 pm Komoma C enter. 1414 K n e a d S t
Vancouver 36 0693 147 6 vanuccOaol com .) (7/03)
5 4 1 3 4 6 1 1 3 4 ) (7 /0 3 )
Integrity is a group o f sexual m m onty Episcopalians
and friends V arious locations throughout O regon
Diesel dyke disparity
For gay. lesbian, bi. trans and straight. Everyone w el
com e! ( I I am Sunday. 7 pm Thursday B ible study and
M s . B e h a v io r :
I was delighted to
read your advice to
Eliza, the diesel dyke
who was seeking
training in being
more socially pre
sentable as a female.
Butches wants to
be femmes now?
Great news! What
with Republicans and
right-wingers in con
trol of the govern
ment, it’s time queers
relearn conformity
and remember how
to adopt the behavior and thinking
of mainstream heterosexuals.
Just as before pride, “gay culture”
should remain innocuous and homo
identity should mimic that of
straight people to every possible
extent. And there’s no stopping this
trend once it catches on again.
For girl-challenged lesbians, 1
hope Ms. Behavior will offer point
ers on how to blow a straight man,
insert a diaphragm, throw like a
girl and serve a nice casserole.
Anything to enable unacceptably
boyish dykes to act, look and ulti
mately feel feminine.
Similarly, faggots would benefit
from help in mimicking traditional
man-type behaviors like betting on
hockey, grabbing the asses of
female co-workers, operating a
forklift and fucking interns with
M acanudo cigars.
So long to gender-bending indi
vidualism for members of sexual
minority groups. The gay revolution
has come a long way!
— My Fair Lezzie
proud gay male fork
lift operators every
where, as well as
cooking-savvy les
bians who can bake
a killer casserole—
all of whom will
probably inundate
Ms. Behavior with
barrels of complain
ing e-mail— your
tired old stereotyp
ing of homosexuals
is also excused.
P.S. If you’d really
like pointers on blow
jobs or inserting a
diaphragm, Ms. Behavior will have
to charge extra.
D ear M s . B ehavior :
Can a lesbian and a bisexual
woman be friends after having a pas
sionate relationship?
I’ve decided to be friends with
this bisexual woman until she can
figure out what she wants. She has
children, and I feel she is stuck in
the fantasy of her children having a
father figure, even if her own needs
are not fully being met. So to play it
safe with my own heart, being
friends with her and just loving her
at a distance are all I can do for now.
Yes, I am hoping she will re
discover her true feelings for me, but
until then I’ve decided on no inti
macy. What do you think? Am I
wasting away as my heart is frozen in
time?
— Wasting Away
D ear W asting A way :
Your signature suggests you’ve
answered your own question: It
doesn’t sound like you have enough
D ear M y F air L ezzie :
distance from your bisexual “friend”
to protect your heart.
There is no need to get your Joe
Boxers in a twist, Missy.
G et out of your friend’s head.
Not all dykes are so insecure
Don’t worry about what fantasy she’s
about their butchness that they can’t stuck in, and don’t wait for her to
peel off the battered old leather
figure out what she wants. That
jackets, spike bracelets and boots
might take a long time, particularly
they wore at 20 and slip into some
if you’re hanging out in the back
thing new (and perhaps even dain
ground, hoping she’ll rediscover her
ty). But, clearly, this notion leaves
feelings for you.
you aghast. Perhaps it is because you
Your physical presence won’t
make her more likely to realize she
think gay pride is about being a
poster child for counterculture,
wants you. And just resisting the
temptation to have sex with one
rather than being yourself.
another is probably not enough of a
Queers, who have long appreci
ated the joys of dressing up and
change to create the distance you
both need now.
dressing down, are hardly in danger
Besides, if your heart is “frozen in
of extinguishing themselves by try
time” it won’t necessarily be avail
ing on a new costume. Do you
able for the big thaw if a wonderful
think a lesbian who wears a silky
woman happens to show up, ready
skirt will suddenly lose her ability
to change a tire or toss a football or | for a relationship with you. J H
© Meryl Cohn 2002
shout “Yo!” when an SU V full of
her friends drives by?
M eryl C ohn is the author of Do
However, if the idea of Ms.
What I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to
Behavior channeling Henrietta
Gay and Lesbian Etiquette
Higgins for a bit o f girl talk about
(Houghton Mifflin). Her Internet site
changing clothes or style leaves
is www.msbehavior.com. Send
you trembling in your Timberlands,
questions or correspondence to
you are hereby excused from the
msbehavior@aol.com.
dressing room.
And, by the way, speaking for