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About Just out. (Portland, OR) 1983-2013 | View Entire Issue (Dec. 6, 2002)
■ 6 , Congregation | ih Shalom, an open and pro o n se rv gre ssive C onservative Jew ish synagogue, extends a warm welcom e to all sexual m inorities. Shabbat se rv ice s 8:15 pm Friday and 9 am Saturday. (2 9 0 0 S W Peaceful Lane. 503 -24 6-883 U (5/03) com ing a l people since 1863. (12.10 pm W ednesday and 7:45 and 10 am Sunday. Su n d a y sch o o l an d child care at 10 am Southw est 13th A venue at C la y Street. 5 0 3 -2 2 3 -6 4 2 4 ) (5/03) Congregation P'nai O r (Faces of Light) is a vibrant, Waveriy Haights Church (U C O is open and egalitarian, Jew ish Renew al congregation in Portland. M e e ts several tim es a month in various locations. (P O B o x 42187. Portland. O R 9 7 2 42-0187 affirm ing with w orship, children's school and child care (10 am Sunday. 3 3 0 0 S E W oodw ard St. 503-238-1337. 503-248-4500. www.pnaiorpdx.org.) (5/03) Dignity Portland m eets for M a ss on Su n d ays (503-262-6947.) (5/03) Eastroao Fellowship Unitarian Univerealiat. a wel com ing congregation, offers Sunday service and children's religious education. (10:30 am. 1 1 3 3 N E 181st Ave.. Gresham. 503-665-2628. eastrose&telepon com.) (5/03) Faith United M ethodist Church is a welcoming com munity of Christians in Troutdale that values and encour ages all people in finding a place of belonging in the family of God. Sunday worship at 10:15am ; Adult Education at 9 am; children and youth at 10:30 am. W ednesday Prayers 6-6:30 pm. (27400 S E Stark S t 503-661*4520.1(5/03) First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open and affirming liberal religious community offering a wide range of program s to nurture spiritual grwrtti, community and social justice. Sunday service 10 am. (1 0 1 1 S W 12th Ave. 503-2284)389 www.hrstunitananportland.org.) (5/03) First United Methodist Church of Portland, a w el com ing and reconciling congregation, believes no one is left out in G o d 's family Sexual m inority potlucks held monthly. (10 3 0 am Su n d a y 18 3 8 S W Jefferson St. 503 -22 8-3195 www. fumcpdx. org. ) (5/03) Grace Space is a N ew Thought spm tual center dedi cated to offering w ays to expenence Spirit. Sunday evening celebrations with Rev. Stephanie Tomes, C o n sc io u s Breathing experiences, Chanting, Healing Services, Meditation c la sse s and a m iracles study group. (5 pm Bridgeport Com m unity Church. 621 N E 76th A v e 503-287-3216.) (5/03) Integrity is a group of sexual m inority Episcopalians and friends. Various locations throughout O regon. (Bruce M aso n 5 0 3 -2 8 6 -9 1 1 1. brucepdxor@ attbi.com . w ww .integhtyusa.org.) (5/03) Interfaith Spiritual Center h o u se s spiritual direc tors from various w orld religious traditions, w ho are available for guidance, c la sse s and retreats. (Se co n d Floor. 3 9 1 0 S E 1 1th Ave. 503-233-2026. ext. 3. www.interfaithspihtualcenter.com .) (5/03) S t Stephan's Episcopal Church has been w el www .w averlyucc.org.) (5/03) Wy'east Unitarian Univerealiat Congregation is an open and liberal refgxxis com m unity offering intergen- erational services and religious education for children It w elcom es gay. lesbian, bi and trans m em bers. Nurtures spiritual growth and prom otes living by Unitarian Universalist principles. (4 pm Sunday. 3 9 1 5 S E Steele St. 503-777-3704. w ww .wyeast.pnwd.uua.org.)(5/03) Zion United Church of Christ. an open and affirming congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, bi, trans and heterosexual people w ho w ish to w orship in a Christ-centered, warm, canng, m ultiage/race/cuKural faith community. (11 am Sunday. 2 0 2 5 N E 2 3 r d Ave.. Gresham . 503-665-8741.) (5/03) Washington: Sp iritu ality Abundant U fa Canter is A N ew Thought Com m unity for spiritual aw akening and transform ing lives through love. A safe place w here children learn to em body spiritual principles. (10 am Sunday. 10006 N E Ninth Ave.. Vancouver. 36(f-573-2626.) (5/03) East Vancouver United Methodist Church is reconciling and welcom ing. (1 0 am Sunday. 5701 M acArthur Bhrd. 36(7693*4761. ourclarkcounty.colum bian.com /273/.) (5/03) First Congregational Church. United Church of Christ, holds two Sunday services, traditional and "le ss traditional" in an open and affirming congregation. (1220 N E 68th St., Vancouver. 360-693-1476. vanucc@aol.com.)(5/03) G od's Holy Territory offers a spirit-filled w orship Motnnoii P qpco Community United Mothodiit Church is a "house church," bringing gay and straight together (Daily prayer 7:20 am. Sunday gathering 5 pm. 211 6 N E 18th Ave. 503-281-3697 www.tearsoup.com/metanoia.) (5/03) -* ■ ---------- ■ » > - j ; ___ i e ______ i ___ Vanguard Youth Sarvicos. a program of Cascadia Behavioral HealthCare. offers support and recreation to gay, lesbian, bi and trans kids 23 and younger. Program s include Clackam as County Sexual Minority Youth Connection (C O S M Y O provides opportuni ties for queer and questioning kids to get together for free, fun and supportive social activities. A lso one-on-one support and referrals to Clackam as County service providers. (503-9690060. cosm ycyouth@ yahoo.com .) Expression is a free art/expression support group in G resham for queer youth. Hang out and have fen every Friday! (Jonathan 503-872-9664. ext. 28.) ( 5/03) Prida Project brings together W ashington County queer and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social events. A lso information, referral and advocacy services in W ashington County. (M olly 503-26 0-5792 molly@prideproject. org.) (5/03) and an informal place to hang out. W eekly youth su p (10 am Sunday. 450 5 E 18th St.. Vancouver. 503-231 9 2 8 6 w w w .sm yrc.org.)(5/03) W illamette Valley: Sp iritu ality Youth H IV /ST D Prevention Project provides fen and educational program s along with counseling and testing to queer youth in a friendly, relaxed environ ment. (503-872-9664.) (5/03) First Congregational Church. United C hurch of C hrist is an open and affirm ing congregation offering w orship and church school. Child care provided and w heelchair accessible. (9 am Su n d a y learning hour, 10 am worship. 700 M arion St. NE. Salem . Washington: Youth Triple Point offers education, support and advocacy 503-363-3660.) ( 5/03) Sacred Souls honors aH sacred paths, prom otes peace and strives to create an environment that supports and prom otes interfaith dialogue. M eets at the O regon School of M assage. (6:30-8 pm Sunday. 4 4 0 Ferry St. SE. Salem. whotNth@aolcom. w w w .sacredsods.org.) (5/03) Portland Church of Religious Science is a liber rO FuaiK I ngU ICal rao fW S lilccl qualify for the O regon Health Plan a s well a s needle exchange services that include those w ho inject hor m ones. C an provide transitional housing for youth 20 and younger a s well a s for those H IV + and younger than 23. A lso plays host to V O IC E S (Voices of Individual and Com m unity Em powerm ent from the Streets), a self- support group for queer youth. N eeds volunteers of all ages. (10 am -6 pm M onday-Fnday. 1132 S W 13th Ave. 503-535-3800. www.outsidein.org.) (5/03) 360 -695-1891.) (5/03) ciling congregation where everyone is welcom e to partici pate in the full life of the congregation (8:30 and 11 am Sunday. 3674 12th St. SE. Salem. 503-364-5013.) (5/03) al, open, progre ssive N e w Thought com m unity w elcom ing everyone to d iscove r the spirit within. C h an ge your thinking, change your life! (10 am Su n d a y meditation. 10:30 am service and junior church. 6:3 0 pm W ednesday prayer circle. 3 9 8 3 N E 112th Ave. 503-261-0677.) (5/03) Outside In operates a clinic for anyone w ho can't port groups includes Trans Youth G roup and Personal D eity Proxy (a creative group). (4-8 pm M onday and W ednesday. 4 pm -m idnight Friday and Saturday 2 1 0 0 S E Belm ont St. 503-87 2-9664 TTY holds ecum enical Su n d ay m orning w orship services at 9 and 11 am Su n day school for children is held during the 11 am w orship service. (2 4 0 0 N E Broadway. Thought Center offering an uplifting, warm and refreshing service with the Revs. C a se y and Berdell Moffett-Chaney. (10 am Sunday. Call for location. 503-777-0727.) (5/03) MuttiQusar a program of Love M a ke s a Family, pro vides advocacy to sexual m inority youth. O ffers resources and support in the com m unity and the school system s, with a focus on support for youth of color. (D e s 503 -22 8-3892 des@lm fam ily.org.) (5/03) Michael Servetus Unitarian Universalist Fellowship, a hom e for the liberal religious spirit. Morning sicfe United Methodist Church is a recon 503-281-8868. info@ m ccportland.com .) (5/03) K 12 schools. (1 2 7 0 0 S W North D akota S t . Suite 180. *129. Tigard. O R 9 7 2 2 3 503-525-1177. glsen@ glsenoregon.org. www glsenoregon.org.) (5/03) Sexual Minority Youth Recreation Center (SM Y R C ) offers drop-in com puter access, pool tables Metropolitan Community Church of Portland Portland Center for Spiritual Growth is a New Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network (G LSEN ) fights to end anti-gay bias in The experience, seeking G o d for holiness and w holeness For gay, lesbian, bi, trans and straight. Everyone w el com e! (11 am Sunday. 7 pm Thursday Bible study and prayer. 1500 N E 49th St., Vancouver. 360-885-9461. gm bear68@ netzero.net.) (5/03) Keshet Portland is a group for Jew ish m em bers of the sexual minorities community and their partners, sp o u se s and supporters. M onthly social, religious and cultural events (D a vid o rLa n e y 503-226-7079. ext. I4 .)(5/03) group for sexual minority youth of color 24 and younger. M eets every other Sunday for food and socializing. Regular events and activities. (D e s 503-228-3892 or des@bnfamily.org. Stephan 503-417-7991 or hey_stephan@hotm ail.com.) (5/03) IWSIWIHWWUXMW to gay, lesbian, bi, trans and questioning youth in Vancouver, W ash. M e e ts 6-8 pm Tuesdays in the base ment of Youth House. 1112 Colum bia St. in Vancouver. (John 3 60 -69 5 1325.) (5/03) W illamette Valley: Youth Gay, Lesbian, Bi, Transgender and Questioning Youth Group for age s 13 to 18 offers support, infor mation and fen in Eugene Free, confidential, adult-facili tated. (Drop in 4 6 pm Friday. Am azon Comm unity Center. 2 7 0 0 Hbyard St. 5 4 1 6 8 4 -3 4 6 6 .)(5/03) Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender Youth Group for age s 25 and younger m eets every M onday Metro: Youth in Eugene. (5 pm. Koinonia Center. 1414 Kincaid St. 5 4 1-34& 1134.) (5/03) Flavors, a program of MultiQ ueer and Brother to Ekother. is a social support twice a month with potlucks and circles at the full moon and the new moon O pen to all men seeking alternative spiritual growth and community. Coffee hours start 9 30 am Saturdays at 3 Friends Coffeehouse, 201 S E 12th Ave. (5 0 3 2 3 5 -0 8 2 6 otter@pcez.com .) V5/0S) S istarS phR offers w om en's spirituality cel ebrations, discu ssion groups, a drumming cir cle, w orkshops and c la sse s Schedule of events available. AD wom en are welcome. (Suite 102. 3 4 3 0 S E Belm ont S t M ating address: P O B o x 9246. Portland. O R 9 7 2 0 7 5 03 736-3297 sistersp@ teleportcom ) (5/03) Spirit O d e is for lesbian, bi or trans women seeking a welcoming community in the Catholic church. M eets every third Thursday m the St. Andrew Nativity School. (7 pm. 80 6 NE Alberta S t btspiritcircle@yahoo.com.) (5/03) Southudintor Prerityturin Church is a challenging, supportive community that welcom es all people. It is the first M ore Light Presbyterian Church in O regon Sunday school and nursery care. (10 am Sunday. 12250 S W Denney Road. Beaverton 503-644-2073 staffQsouthmin com.) (5/03) S t Andrew C ad id k Church n v ite sa l to jan a diverse farth community for prayer and felcwshp. (9 3 0 am Sunday 806 NE Aberta St. 503-281*4429 ) (5/03) St. Jam es Lutheran Church a Reconciled in C hrist congregation, w elcom es all people for traditxxial. liturgical w orship w here w e experience G o d 's reconcil ing love that se ts all people free. (9 and 11 am Su n d a y 1315 S W Park A ve 5 0 3 -2 2 7 -2 4 3 9 ) (5/03) Gay and Lesbian Outreach (GALO ) of S t PhAp N eri Catholic C hurch celebrates an affirm ing M a ss fol lowed by a social ( 7 3 0 pm Friday Paulist Center. 2 4 0 8 S E 16th Ave. 5 0 3 -2 3 1 *4 9 5 5 ) (5/03) The «tunning Jefferson Dancers enchant audiences Dec. 12-14 at Portland State University's Lincoln Hall ÎMOTO «V SM S. CHUJCTS 2002 - Family affair She’s creepy, but I love her kids D ear M s . B ehavior : women who might get I am a 39-year-old a kick out of playing Henry Higgins? single gay female. For more than 10 years I was — Eliza in a relationship with a D ear E liza : woman who decided It’s too bad charm that I wasn’t enough and schools have fallen out that she was going to o f favor. explore her feelings with Ms. Behavior hopes my 19-year-old niece, your desire to acquire who had just left an abu more “polish” arises sive relationship. from a career goal or It will be a year this some other positive month since we broke place; it would be sad by Meryl Cohn up, and I’ve found I to think of you killing can live without her. off your inner urban diesel dyke in But I don’t want to live without the response to pressure from others or children. She has six kids who I love like my own. I’ve known the youngest, your own internalized homophobia. Either way, leather and chains and who is now 13, since he was 2 weeks other butch accouterments can be old. In my heart, he’s my baby. heavy and tiresome, and your wish to I don’t really want anything to do acquire a new look might be quite fun. with their mother— it hurts too much— Ms. Behavior knows of no services but I miss them terribly. Do I pretend to offered for lesbians, and she suspects be nice to her so I can see the kids? I the professionals who assist transsexuals have a hard time with that because I may be oriented toward a more florid don’t like to live any kind of lie. femininity than the one you desire. If — Foolishly G ave My Soul you’re going to rely on anyone else’s taste, it had better be someone who has D ear F oolishly G ave M y S oul : a light touch with makeup and acces Be cordial to your ex. Your goal to sories (not to mention perfume!), and see the kids on a regular basis is hardly a the previously mentioned professionals frivolous one. It’s not like you’re talking frequently don’t qualify. about sucking up to your ex so she’ll You may, howev buy you a mansion er, find help from or a diamond ring. the corporate world. Being “nice” to If you look up her isn’t living a lie, “media training,” particularly since it you’ll find people doesn’t include who specialize in having sex with her preparing profession (does it?) or con doning her icky als for public appear ances with an behavior with your emphasis on speech niece. Politeness, and body language. even if it feels like You may need to a stretch, seems interview a few such worthwhile if you consultants until you can see the kids. find the one with As much as you whom you’d be most may be tempted to comfortable in your react to your ex’s attempts to de-dyke. involvement with You may also achieve good results your 19-year-old niece, you’ll probably just from watching women you also have to refrain from making incest cracks or referring to your ex as a lesbian admire. Try to figure out what you find appealing about their manner Woody Allen (at least publicly). Perhaps you can also start a fund to help your and their dress. Listen to the rhythm and cadence o f their speech. niece pay for the therapy she’ll need. A n acting class might help you feel more comfortable in trying out new D ear M s . B ehavior : roles. Look through magazines. If you After spending my 20s happily have the flexibility in your career and adhering to the urban diesel dyke your personal life, moving to a new mode o f dress and behavior, I have city may help; people often reinvent matured a bit and would like to themselves when they relocate. acquire some polish— develop a more Ms. Behavior hopes that when you genteel and professional presentation. do achieve the desired transformation, W hile studying manners and etiquette it will include vestiges of your glorious out of books is good, I think I could and apparently visible dykeyness. J H benefit from having someone in the know observe and advise me about © Meryl C ohn 2002 voice and body language— and not someone who wants to overdo it and M eryl C ohn is the author of Do What I make me into a Southern belle. Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay and I have found several professionals Lesbian Etiquette (Houghton Mifflm). who assist male-to-female transsexuals Her Internet site is iuuao.msbehavior.com. with post-operative presentation issues. Send questions or correspondence to Are there any such services for les msbehavior@aol.com. bians? O r any cultured gay men/ Ms. Behavior For m ore than 10 y ears I was In a relationship with a woman who decided that I w asn’t enough and that she was going to explore her feelings with m y 19-year-old niece % l 3\
