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Congregation |
ih Shalom, an open and pro
o n se rv
gre ssive C onservative
Jew ish synagogue, extends a
warm welcom e to all sexual m inorities. Shabbat se rv
ice s 8:15 pm Friday and 9 am Saturday. (2 9 0 0 S W
Peaceful Lane. 503 -24 6-883 U (5/03)
com ing a l people since 1863. (12.10 pm W ednesday
and 7:45 and 10 am Sunday. Su n d a y sch o o l an d child
care at 10 am Southw est 13th A venue at C la y Street.
5 0 3 -2 2 3 -6 4 2 4 ) (5/03)
Congregation P'nai O r (Faces of Light) is a vibrant,
Waveriy Haights Church (U C O is open and
egalitarian, Jew ish Renew al congregation in Portland.
M e e ts several tim es a month in various locations.
(P O B o x 42187. Portland. O R 9 7 2 42-0187
affirm ing with w orship, children's school and child care
(10 am Sunday. 3 3 0 0 S E W oodw ard St. 503-238-1337.
503-248-4500. www.pnaiorpdx.org.) (5/03)
Dignity Portland m eets for M a ss on Su n d ays
(503-262-6947.) (5/03)
Eastroao Fellowship Unitarian Univerealiat. a wel
com ing congregation, offers Sunday service and children's
religious education. (10:30 am. 1 1 3 3 N E 181st Ave..
Gresham. 503-665-2628. eastrose&telepon com.) (5/03)
Faith United M ethodist Church is a welcoming com
munity of Christians in Troutdale that values and encour
ages all people in finding a place of belonging in the family
of God. Sunday worship at 10:15am ; Adult Education at
9 am; children and youth at 10:30 am. W ednesday Prayers
6-6:30 pm. (27400 S E Stark S t 503-661*4520.1(5/03)
First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open and
affirming liberal religious community offering a wide range
of program s to nurture spiritual grwrtti, community and
social justice. Sunday service 10 am. (1 0 1 1 S W 12th Ave.
503-2284)389 www.hrstunitananportland.org.) (5/03)
First United Methodist Church of Portland, a w el
com ing and reconciling congregation, believes no one
is left out in G o d 's family Sexual m inority potlucks held
monthly. (10 3 0 am Su n d a y 18 3 8 S W Jefferson St.
503 -22 8-3195 www. fumcpdx. org. ) (5/03)
Grace Space is a N ew Thought spm tual center dedi
cated to offering w ays to expenence Spirit. Sunday
evening celebrations with Rev. Stephanie Tomes,
C o n sc io u s Breathing experiences, Chanting, Healing
Services, Meditation c la sse s and a m iracles study
group. (5 pm Bridgeport Com m unity Church. 621 N E
76th A v e 503-287-3216.) (5/03)
Integrity is a group of sexual m inority Episcopalians
and friends. Various locations throughout O regon.
(Bruce M aso n 5 0 3 -2 8 6 -9 1 1 1. brucepdxor@ attbi.com .
w ww .integhtyusa.org.) (5/03)
Interfaith Spiritual Center h o u se s spiritual direc
tors from various w orld religious traditions, w ho are
available for guidance, c la sse s and retreats. (Se co n d
Floor. 3 9 1 0 S E 1 1th Ave. 503-233-2026. ext. 3.
www.interfaithspihtualcenter.com .) (5/03)
S t Stephan's Episcopal Church has been w el
www .w averlyucc.org.) (5/03)
Wy'east Unitarian Univerealiat Congregation is
an open and liberal refgxxis com m unity offering intergen-
erational services and religious education for children It
w elcom es gay. lesbian, bi and trans m em bers. Nurtures
spiritual growth and prom otes living by Unitarian
Universalist principles. (4 pm Sunday. 3 9 1 5 S E Steele
St. 503-777-3704. w ww .wyeast.pnwd.uua.org.)(5/03)
Zion United Church of Christ. an open and
affirming congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, bi, trans
and heterosexual people w ho w ish to w orship in a
Christ-centered, warm, canng, m ultiage/race/cuKural
faith community. (11 am Sunday. 2 0 2 5 N E 2 3 r d Ave..
Gresham . 503-665-8741.) (5/03)
Washington: Sp iritu ality
Abundant U fa Canter is A N ew Thought
Com m unity for spiritual aw akening and transform ing
lives through love. A safe place w here children learn to
em body spiritual principles. (10 am Sunday. 10006 N E
Ninth Ave.. Vancouver. 36(f-573-2626.) (5/03)
East Vancouver United Methodist Church is
reconciling and welcom ing. (1 0 am Sunday.
5701 M acArthur Bhrd. 36(7693*4761.
ourclarkcounty.colum bian.com /273/.) (5/03)
First Congregational Church. United Church of Christ,
holds two Sunday services, traditional and "le ss traditional"
in an open and affirming congregation. (1220 N E 68th St.,
Vancouver. 360-693-1476. vanucc@aol.com.)(5/03)
G od's Holy Territory offers a spirit-filled w orship
Motnnoii P qpco Community United Mothodiit
Church is a "house church," bringing gay and straight
together (Daily prayer 7:20 am. Sunday gathering 5 pm.
211 6 N E 18th Ave. 503-281-3697
www.tearsoup.com/metanoia.) (5/03)
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Vanguard Youth Sarvicos. a program of Cascadia
Behavioral HealthCare. offers support and recreation to
gay, lesbian, bi and trans kids 23 and younger. Program s
include Clackam as County Sexual Minority
Youth Connection (C O S M Y O provides opportuni
ties for queer and questioning kids to get together for
free, fun and supportive social activities. A lso one-on-one
support and referrals to Clackam as County service
providers. (503-9690060. cosm ycyouth@ yahoo.com .)
Expression is a free art/expression support group in
G resham for queer youth. Hang out and have fen every
Friday! (Jonathan 503-872-9664. ext. 28.) ( 5/03)
Prida Project brings together W ashington County
queer and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly
social events. A lso information, referral and advocacy
services in W ashington County. (M olly 503-26 0-5792
molly@prideproject. org.) (5/03)
and an informal place to hang out. W eekly youth su p
(10 am Sunday. 450 5 E 18th St.. Vancouver.
503-231 9 2 8 6 w w w .sm yrc.org.)(5/03)
W illamette Valley: Sp iritu ality
Youth H IV /ST D Prevention Project provides fen
and educational program s along with counseling and
testing to queer youth in a friendly, relaxed environ
ment. (503-872-9664.) (5/03)
First Congregational Church. United C hurch of
C hrist is an open and affirm ing congregation offering
w orship and church school. Child care provided and
w heelchair accessible. (9 am Su n d a y learning hour,
10 am worship. 700 M arion St. NE. Salem .
Washington: Youth
Triple Point offers education, support and advocacy
503-363-3660.) ( 5/03)
Sacred Souls honors aH sacred paths, prom otes peace
and strives to create an environment that supports and
prom otes interfaith dialogue. M eets at the O regon School
of M assage. (6:30-8 pm Sunday. 4 4 0 Ferry St. SE. Salem.
whotNth@aolcom. w w w .sacredsods.org.) (5/03)
Portland Church of Religious Science is a liber
rO FuaiK I ngU ICal rao fW S lilccl
qualify for the O regon Health Plan a s well a s needle
exchange services that include those w ho inject hor
m ones. C an provide transitional housing for youth 20
and younger a s well a s for those H IV + and younger than
23. A lso plays host to V O IC E S (Voices of Individual and
Com m unity Em powerm ent from the Streets), a self-
support group for queer youth. N eeds volunteers of all
ages. (10 am -6 pm M onday-Fnday. 1132 S W 13th Ave.
503-535-3800. www.outsidein.org.) (5/03)
360 -695-1891.) (5/03)
ciling congregation where everyone is welcom e to partici
pate in the full life of the congregation (8:30 and 11 am
Sunday. 3674 12th St. SE. Salem. 503-364-5013.) (5/03)
al, open, progre ssive N e w Thought com m unity w elcom
ing everyone to d iscove r the spirit within. C h an ge your
thinking, change your life! (10 am Su n d a y meditation.
10:30 am service and junior church. 6:3 0 pm
W ednesday prayer circle. 3 9 8 3 N E 112th Ave.
503-261-0677.) (5/03)
Outside In operates a clinic for anyone w ho can't
port groups includes Trans Youth G roup and Personal
D eity Proxy (a creative group). (4-8 pm M onday and
W ednesday. 4 pm -m idnight Friday and Saturday
2 1 0 0 S E Belm ont St. 503-87 2-9664 TTY
holds ecum enical Su n d ay m orning w orship services at
9 and 11 am Su n day school for children is held during
the 11 am w orship service. (2 4 0 0 N E Broadway.
Thought Center offering an uplifting, warm and refreshing
service with the Revs. C a se y and Berdell Moffett-Chaney.
(10 am Sunday. Call for location. 503-777-0727.) (5/03)
MuttiQusar a program of Love M a ke s a Family, pro
vides advocacy to sexual m inority youth. O ffers
resources and support in the com m unity and the school
system s, with a focus on support for youth of color.
(D e s 503 -22 8-3892 des@lm fam ily.org.) (5/03)
Michael Servetus Unitarian Universalist
Fellowship, a hom e for the liberal religious spirit.
Morning sicfe United Methodist Church is a recon
503-281-8868. info@ m ccportland.com .) (5/03)
K 12 schools. (1 2 7 0 0 S W North D akota S t . Suite 180.
*129. Tigard. O R 9 7 2 2 3 503-525-1177.
glsen@ glsenoregon.org. www glsenoregon.org.) (5/03)
Sexual Minority Youth Recreation Center
(SM Y R C ) offers drop-in com puter access, pool tables
Metropolitan Community Church of Portland
Portland Center for Spiritual Growth is a New
Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education
Network (G LSEN ) fights to end anti-gay bias in
The
experience, seeking G o d for holiness and w holeness
For gay, lesbian, bi, trans and straight. Everyone w el
com e! (11 am Sunday. 7 pm Thursday Bible study and
prayer. 1500 N E 49th St., Vancouver. 360-885-9461.
gm bear68@ netzero.net.) (5/03)
Keshet Portland is a group for Jew ish m em bers of the
sexual minorities community and their partners, sp o u se s
and supporters. M onthly social, religious and cultural
events (D a vid o rLa n e y 503-226-7079. ext. I4 .)(5/03)
group for sexual minority youth of color 24 and younger.
M eets every other Sunday for food and socializing.
Regular events and activities. (D e s 503-228-3892 or
des@bnfamily.org. Stephan 503-417-7991 or
hey_stephan@hotm ail.com.) (5/03)
IWSIWIHWWUXMW
to gay, lesbian, bi, trans and questioning youth in
Vancouver, W ash. M e e ts 6-8 pm Tuesdays in the base
ment of Youth House. 1112 Colum bia St. in Vancouver.
(John 3 60 -69 5 1325.) (5/03)
W illamette Valley: Youth
Gay, Lesbian, Bi, Transgender and Questioning
Youth Group for age s 13 to 18 offers support, infor
mation and fen in Eugene Free, confidential, adult-facili
tated. (Drop in 4 6 pm Friday. Am azon Comm unity
Center. 2 7 0 0 Hbyard St. 5 4 1 6 8 4 -3 4 6 6 .)(5/03)
Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender Youth
Group for age s 25 and younger m eets every M onday
Metro: Youth
in Eugene. (5 pm. Koinonia Center. 1414 Kincaid St.
5 4 1-34& 1134.) (5/03)
Flavors, a program of MultiQ ueer and
Brother to Ekother. is a social support
twice a month with potlucks and circles
at the full moon and the new moon
O pen to all men seeking alternative
spiritual growth and community. Coffee
hours start 9 30 am Saturdays at
3 Friends Coffeehouse, 201 S E 12th Ave.
(5 0 3 2 3 5 -0 8 2 6 otter@pcez.com .) V5/0S)
S istarS phR offers w om en's spirituality cel
ebrations, discu ssion groups, a drumming cir
cle, w orkshops and c la sse s Schedule of events
available. AD wom en are welcome. (Suite 102.
3 4 3 0 S E Belm ont S t M ating address: P O B o x
9246. Portland. O R 9 7 2 0 7 5 03 736-3297
sistersp@ teleportcom ) (5/03)
Spirit O d e is for lesbian, bi or trans women seeking a
welcoming community in the Catholic church. M eets every
third Thursday m the St. Andrew Nativity School. (7 pm.
80 6 NE Alberta S t btspiritcircle@yahoo.com.) (5/03)
Southudintor Prerityturin Church is a challenging,
supportive community that welcom es all people. It is the
first M ore Light Presbyterian Church in O regon Sunday
school and nursery care. (10 am Sunday. 12250 S W
Denney Road. Beaverton 503-644-2073
staffQsouthmin com.) (5/03)
S t Andrew C ad id k Church n v ite sa l to jan a
diverse farth community for prayer and felcwshp.
(9 3 0 am Sunday 806 NE Aberta St. 503-281*4429 )
(5/03)
St. Jam es Lutheran Church a Reconciled in
C hrist congregation, w elcom es all people for traditxxial.
liturgical w orship w here w e experience G o d 's reconcil
ing love that se ts all people free. (9 and 11 am Su n d a y
1315 S W Park A ve 5 0 3 -2 2 7 -2 4 3 9 ) (5/03)
Gay and Lesbian Outreach (GALO ) of S t PhAp
N eri Catholic C hurch celebrates an affirm ing M a ss fol
lowed by a social ( 7 3 0 pm Friday Paulist Center.
2 4 0 8 S E 16th Ave. 5 0 3 -2 3 1 *4 9 5 5 ) (5/03)
The «tunning
Jefferson Dancers
enchant audiences
Dec. 12-14 at Portland
State University's
Lincoln Hall
ÎMOTO «V SM S. CHUJCTS
2002 -
Family affair
She’s creepy, but I love her kids
D ear M s . B ehavior :
women who might get
I am a 39-year-old
a kick out of playing
Henry Higgins?
single gay female. For
more than 10 years I was
— Eliza
in a relationship with a
D ear E liza :
woman who decided
It’s too bad charm
that I wasn’t enough and
schools have fallen out
that she was going to
o f favor.
explore her feelings with
Ms. Behavior hopes
my 19-year-old niece,
your desire to acquire
who had just left an abu
more “polish” arises
sive relationship.
from a career goal or
It will be a year this
some other positive
month since we broke
place; it would be sad
by Meryl Cohn
up, and I’ve found I
to think of you killing
can live without her.
off your inner urban diesel dyke in
But I don’t want to live without the
response to pressure from others or
children. She has six kids who I love
like my own. I’ve known the youngest,
your own internalized homophobia.
Either way, leather and chains and
who is now 13, since he was 2 weeks
other butch accouterments can be
old. In my heart, he’s my baby.
heavy and tiresome, and your wish to
I don’t really want anything to do
acquire a new look might be quite fun.
with their mother— it hurts too much—
Ms. Behavior knows of no services
but I miss them terribly. Do I pretend to
offered for lesbians, and she suspects
be nice to her so I can see the kids? I
the professionals who assist transsexuals
have a hard time with that because I
may be oriented toward a more florid
don’t like to live any kind of lie.
femininity than the one you desire. If
— Foolishly G ave My Soul
you’re going to rely on anyone else’s
taste, it had better be someone who has
D ear F oolishly G ave M y S oul :
a light touch with makeup and acces
Be cordial to your ex. Your goal to
sories (not to mention perfume!), and
see the kids on a regular basis is hardly a
the previously mentioned professionals
frivolous one. It’s not like you’re talking
frequently don’t qualify.
about sucking up to your ex so she’ll
You may, howev
buy you a mansion
er, find help from
or a diamond ring.
the corporate world.
Being “nice” to
If you look up
her isn’t living a lie,
“media training,”
particularly since it
you’ll find people
doesn’t include
who specialize in
having sex with her
preparing profession
(does it?) or con
doning her icky
als for public appear
ances with an
behavior with your
emphasis on speech
niece. Politeness,
and body language.
even if it feels like
You may need to
a stretch, seems
interview a few such
worthwhile if you
consultants until you
can see the kids.
find the one with
As much as you
whom you’d be most
may be tempted to
comfortable in your
react to your ex’s
attempts to de-dyke.
involvement with
You may also achieve good results
your 19-year-old niece, you’ll probably
just from watching women you
also have to refrain from making incest
cracks or referring to your ex as a lesbian
admire. Try to figure out what you
find appealing about their manner
Woody Allen (at least publicly). Perhaps
you can also start a fund to help your
and their dress. Listen to the rhythm
and cadence o f their speech.
niece pay for the therapy she’ll need.
A n acting class might help you feel
more comfortable in trying out new
D ear M s . B ehavior :
roles. Look through magazines. If you
After spending my 20s happily
have the flexibility in your career and
adhering to the urban diesel dyke
your personal life, moving to a new
mode o f dress and behavior, I have
city may help; people often reinvent
matured a bit and would like to
themselves when they relocate.
acquire some polish— develop a more
Ms. Behavior hopes that when you
genteel and professional presentation.
do achieve the desired transformation,
W hile studying manners and etiquette
it will include vestiges of your glorious
out of books is good, I think I could
and apparently visible dykeyness. J H
benefit from having someone in the
know observe and advise me about
© Meryl C ohn 2002
voice and body language— and not
someone who wants to overdo it and
M eryl C ohn is the author of Do What I
make me into a Southern belle.
Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay and
I have found several professionals
Lesbian Etiquette (Houghton Mifflm).
who assist male-to-female transsexuals
Her Internet site is iuuao.msbehavior.com.
with post-operative presentation issues.
Send questions or correspondence to
Are there any such services for les
msbehavior@aol.com.
bians? O r any cultured gay men/
Ms. Behavior
For m ore than
10 y ears I was In
a relationship
with a woman
who decided that
I w asn’t enough
and that she was
going to explore
her feelings
with m y
19-year-old niece
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