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About Just out. (Portland, OR) 1983-2013 | View Entire Issue (Nov. 1, 2002)
__________________novamhar 1, 2QCP J m * ■ —[33 ADVICE ............... ▼ ................ Marionbarry Salon m eets m onthly in Salem fo r th e 11 am w orship service (2400 NE Broadway First Congregational Church. United Church of Christ, potlucks and discussion o f books touching on th e le s 5 0 3 -2 8 1 -8868 mfo&mccportland. com X I I /0 2 ) holds two Sunday services, traddional and "less traditional' in an open and affirming congregation (1220 NE 68th St . bian, gay o r bi experience. (Cary 5 0 3 -3 6 3 6 0 3 6 Portland Center for Spiritual Growth in the Unity manonberrysalon@aol. com. > (1 1 /0 2 ) Church building invites you to celebrate your spmtuality Vancouver 360893-1476 vanuccQao!com.)(11/02) Team Oregon organizes a th le te s to p a rtic ip a te in w ith the Revs Casey and Berdell M offett-C haney Liberal, God's Holy Territory offers a spm t-filled w orship the G ay G am es Nov. 2-9. 2002. in Sydney. A ustra lia practical, all are welcome. (5 pm Sunday service. 730-9 expenence. seeking G od lo r holiness and w holeness If you w ant to p a rticip a te in the opening and closing events, you m ust be pa rt o f Team O regon pm Monday Spmtual Pnnciple Gab Group. 4-4 40 pm Sunday Rescuing the Bible from the Right Wing Discussion com e1 (11 am Sunday. 7 pm Thursday Bible study and (w w w team oregonusa com ) (11 /0 2 ) Group 4525 SE Stark Ave 503 777-0727 > (11 /02 ) prayer 1500 NE 49th St.. Vancouver 360-885 9461 Portland Church of Reiigioua Science is a liberal, SPIRITUALITY Metro: Spirituality ing, change your life! (1 0 am Sunday meditation. 1030am (10 am Sunday 4505 E 18th S t . Vancouver service and junior church. 6 30 pm Wednesday prayer cir 360-695-1891.) (1 1 /0 2 ) cle 3983 NE 112th Ave. 503-261 0677.) (1 1/02 ) Portland Radical Faerie* m eet tw ice a m onth w ith m ultiracial, m ulticultural, open and affirm ing church potlucks and circles at the full moon and the new m oon O pen to all men seeking alternative spiritual Sunday w orship is at 10 am; church school fo r children grow th and com m unity. C offe e hours s ta rt 9 30 am runs concurrently (2941 N E Ainsw orth S t 503-284-8767 aucc& teleport com .) (11 /0 2 ) Saturdays at 3 Fnends C offeehouse. 201 SE 12th Ave (5 0 3 2 3 5 0 8 2 6 o tte r@ p c e z c o m X 1 1102) Anawim Community o f gay men m eets w eekly fo r C hnstian m editation and prayer. (7:30 pm Thursday S is te r S p ir it o ffe rs w om en's spm tuality celebrations, 503-281 0722 > (1 1 /0 2 ) discussion groups, a drum m ing circle, w orkshops and classes Schedule o f events available A ll wom en are Compassionate Heart Sangha plays host to w elcom e (Suite 102. 3430 SE B elm ont S t Mailing w eekly sitting s in the V ipassana M e ditation Tradition at address: PO Box 9246. Portland. OR 97207. Flanders House. (7 30-9 pm Wednesday 29 26 NE ices 8:15 pm Friday and 9 am S aturday (2900 S W Willamette Valley: Spirituality First Congregational Church United Church of C hrist is an open and affirm ing congregation offenng wor- shp and church school Child care provided and wheel chair accessible (9 am Sunday learning hour. 10 am wor- shp. 700 Manon St N E Salem 5 0 3 3 6 3 3 6 6 0 X 1 1 /0 2 ) Morning side United Methodist Church is a recon ciling congregation where everyone is welcome to partici pate m the full We of the congregation (8 30 and 11 am Sunday 3674 12th St. SE. Salem 503-364 5 0 1 3 X 1 1/02) 503 736-3297. sistersp& teleport com .) (1 1/02 ) Flanders St. Jon 503-239-5539 ) (1 1 /0 2 ) gressive C onservative Jew ish synagogue, extends a warm w elcom e to all sexual m ino rities Shabbat serv gmbear68@netzero n e t) (11 /0 2 ) Michael Servetus Unitarian Universalist Fellowship a home fo r the liberal religious spint Ainsworth United Church of Christ is a Congregation Neveh Shalom, an open and p ro Sex pi g seeks help after gas mask, saran wrap episode For gay, lesbian, bi. trans and straight Everyone w el everyone to discover the spmt w ithin Change your think open, progressive New Thought com munity welcom ing Spirit Circle is fo r lesbian, bisexual or transgendered wom en seeking a w elcom ing com m unity in the C atholic church M eets every third Thursday in the N ativity S chool o f S t. A ndrew 's C hurch (7 pm. 806 NE Alberta S t lbtspintcircle@ yahoo.com.) (5 /0 3 ) Sacred Souls honors aU sacred paths, prom otes peace and strives to create an environment that supports and prom otes interfaith dialogue M eets at the Oregon School o f Massage. (6 30-8 pm Sunday 440 Ferry St SE, Salem wholhlth@aolcom www sacredsoulsorg.H I1 /0 2 ) Peaceful la n e . 50 3 2 4 6 -8 8 3 1 .)(1 1 /0 2 ) Congregation P'nai O r (Faces o f L igh t) is a vibrant, egalitanan. Jew ish Renewal congregation in P ortland M eets several tim es a m onth in vanous locations Southm initer Presbyterian Church is a chal lenging. supportive com m unity that w elcom es all peo ple It is th e firs t M ore Light Presbyterian Church in Sunday 122 50 S W Denney Road. Beaverton 503-248-4500 w w w pnaiorpdx o r g ) (1 1 /0 2 ) (5 03-262-6947) (1 1 /0 2 ) Metro: Youth 503-644-2073. staff@southmm.com.) ( 11/02) Flavors, a program o f M ultiQ ueer and Brother to S t Andrew Catholic Church invites all to join a diverse faith com munity fo r prayer and fellowship. (9:30 am Brother, is a social support group fo r sexual rmnonty youth o f color 24 and younger M eets every other Eastrose Fellowship Unitarian Universalist. a w el Sunday 806 NE Alberta St 503 2814429.) (11102) coming congregation, offers Sunday service and children's St. Jam es Lutheran Church, a R econciled in ities (Des 503-228-3892 o r des@lmfamily org Stephan C hnst congregation, w elcom es all people fo r traditional, 503-417-7991 o r hey_stephan@hotmail com.) (1 1/02) religious education (10 30 am 1 I3 3 N E 181st Ave . Gresham 503-665-2628 eastrose@teleport com.) (5 /0 3 ) I O regon Sunday school and nursery care. (10 am (PO Box 42187. Portland. OR 97 242 0 1 8 7 . Dignity Portland m eets fo r M ass on Sundays. YOUTH Sunday fo r food and socializing Regular events and activ litu rg ica l w orship w here we expenence G od's re concil The Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network (G LS E N ) fights to end anti-gay bias in K -12 schools. (12700 S W North Dakota St.. Suite 180. 4129. Tigard. OR 97223. 503-525-1177. glsen@glsenoregon org www glsenoregon o r g ) (11/02) MultiQueer a program o f Love M akes a Family, pro vides advocacy to sexual m inonty youth O ffers resources and support in the com m unity and the school system s, w ith a focus on support fo r youth o f color (Des 503-228 3892. des@lm family org.) (1 1 /0 2 ) Outside In operates a clinic fo r anyone who can't quali fy fo r the O regon Health Plan as w ell as needle exchange services that include those who inject hor mones Can provide transitional housing for youth 20 and younger as w ell as fo r those HIV+ and younger than 23. A lso plays host to VOICES (Voices o f Individual and Com m unity Empowerment from the S treets), a self support group fo r queer youth Needs volunteers of all ages (10 am-6 pm Monday-Fnday 1132 S W 13th A ve 503-535-3800 wwwoutsx/ein o r g X I I / 0 2 ) Vanguard Youth Services a program o f Cascadia Behavioral HealthCare. offers support and recreation to gay. lesbian, bi and trans kids 23 and younger Programs include Clackamas County Sexual Minority Youth Connection (C O S M Y C ) provides opportune ties fo r queer and questioning kids to get together for Faith United Methodist Church is a welcom ing com ing love th a t sets all people fre e (9 and 11 am Sunday free, fun and supportive social activities A lso one-on-one munity o f Chnstians in Troutdale that values and encour ages all people m finding a place o f belonging in the fam ily 1315 S W Park Ave 503-227-2439.)(11102) support and referrals to Clackamas C ounty service providers (503-969-0060 cosmycyouth@yahoocom.) of God Sunday worship at 1015 am. Adult Education at 9 am; children and youth at 10; 30 am W ednesday Prayers 6-6 30 pm (27400 SE Stark S t 503661-4520 )111/02) First Unitarian Church o f Portland is an open and affirm ing hberal religious com m unity offenng a wide range of programs to nurture spiritual grow th com m unity and social justice Sunday service 10 am. (1 011 S W 12th Ave 503 228-6389 www firstunitananportland.org) (11/02) First United Methodist Church o f P ortland, a wel com ing and reconciling congregation, believes no one is le ft ou t in G od's fam ily. Sexual m ino rity potlucks held m onthly (10 30 am Sunday 183 8 S W Jefferson S t Gay and Lesbian Outreach (G A L O ) o f S t Philip N eri C atholic C hurch celebrates an affirm ing M ass fo l low ed by a social (7 3 0 pm Fnday Paulist Center. Friday1 (Jonathan 503 872 9664, ext 28 ) Pride Project bnngs together W ashington County queer and 2 4 0 8 S E 16 thA ve 503-231-4 9 5 5 X 11 /02) St. Stephen's Episcopal Church has been w el questioning youth to plan and attend m onthly social com ing all people since 1863 (12 10 pm W ednesday events Also inform ation, referral and advocacy services and 7 4 5 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and child m W ashington C ounty (Molly 503-260-5792 mo4y@pndeproject o r g ) Sexual Minority Youth care a t 10 am Southwest 13th Avenue at Clay S treet 50 3 2 2 3 6 4 2 4 ) ( 11 /02) Recreation Center (SM Y R C ) offers drop-m com put Waverty Heights Church (U C C ) is open and er access, pool tables and an inform al place to hang out W eekly youth support groups includes Trans Youth Group affirm ing w ith w orship, children's school and child care (10 am Sunday 3300 SE W oodward S t 5 0 3 238 -13 37 w w w waverlyucc o rg.) (1 1/02 ) 503-228-3195 w w w fu m c p d x o rg X 11 /0 2 ) Grace Space is a N ew Thought sp iritu a l ce n te r d e di cated to offenng w ays to expenence S pint. Sunday evening celebrations w ith Rev. S tephanie Torres. C onscious B reathing experiences. C hanting, Healing S ervices. M editation classes and a m iracles study group (5 pm Bndgeport C om m unity Church. 621 NE Wy'east Unitarian Universalist Congregation is (Bruce Mason. Regional D irecto r 5 0 3 2 8 6 9 1 11 o r bwcepdxor@ attbi com w w w mtegntyusa o r g ) ( 1 1 /0 2 ) Interfaith Spiritual Center houses spm tual direc Monday and Wednesday. 4 pm-mxJmght Fnday and Saturday 2100 SE Belmont St 503-8729664 TTY 503 -231-9286 www smyrc o rg ) Youth HIV/STD Prevention Project provides fun and educational pro generational services and religious education fo r children grams along w ith counseling and testing to queer youth in It w elcom es gay. lesbian, bi and trans members. N urtures a friendly, relaxed environm ent (503-8729664 X 1 1/02) spiritual grow th and prom otes living by Unitarian U niversalist principles (4 pm Sunday 3915 SE Steele S t 503 777-3704 www w y e a stp n w d u u a o n g )(11/02) Washington Youth Zion United Church of Christ, an open and Integrity is a group o f GLBT Episcopalians and and Personal D eity Proxy (a creative group) (4-8 pm an open and liberal religious com m unity offenng inter 76th Ave 503-28 7-3 216 .)(1 1/02 ) friends Vanous locations throughout O regon Expression is a free art/expressxxi support group m Gresham fo r queer youth Hang out and have fun every affirm ing congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, bi. trans and heterosexual people w ho w ish to w orship m a C hrist-cente red , warm , caring, m u ltia ge/race/cu ltura l fa ith com m unity (11 am Sunday 2025 NE 2 3 rd A v e . Gresham 5 0 3 6 6 5 8741 > 0 1 /0 2 ) Triple Point o ffers education, support and advocacy to gay. lesbian, b*. trans and questioning youth m Vancouver. W ash M eets 6-8 pm Tuesdays in the base m ent o f Youth House. 1112 Colum bia S t in Vancouver (John 3 6 0 8 9 5 1 3 2 5 X 1 1 /0 2 ) to rs from vanous w orld religious tra d itio n s, w ho are available fo r guidance, classes and re tre a ts (Second Floor. 3910 SE 11th Ave 50 3 233-2026. ext 3 w w w mterfaithspmtualcenter com .) (11 /0 2 ) Metanoia Peace Community United Method let Church is a "house church." bnngmg gay and straight together (Daly prayer 7 2 0 am. Sunday gathering 5 pm 2116 NE 18th Ave 5 0 3 2 8 1 3 6 9 7 Willamette Valley: Youth Washington Spirituality Abundant Life Center is A N ew Thought C om m unity fo r spm tual aw akening and transform ing lives through love A safe place w here children learn to em body spm tual pn ncples (10 am Sunday 10006 NE Ninth A v e . Vancouver 3 6 0 -5 7 3 2 6 2 6 X 1 1 /0 2 ) www tearsoup com/metancxa) (11/02) C m m S L# ______________ I I - I a - J m Metropolitan Com munity Church of Portland holds ecum enical Sunday m orning w orstxp services at 9 and 11 am Sunday school fo r children is held during i V a n c o u v e r u n itO Q 1 1 ■ i t i n i l i a « P k i i M ^ k ic iT f o T n o o ie i v n u r c n reconciling and w elcom ing (10 am Sunday 5701 M acArthur B h d 360-693 4761 ourclarkcounty Columbian c o m /2 7 3 /X \ 1/0 2) io Gay, Lesbian, BI, Transgender and Questioning Youth Group fo r ages 13 to 18 offers support, infer matron and fun xi Eugene Free, confidential, adult fe e * tated (Drop n 4 8 pm Fnday Amazon Community Center. 2700 H4yard S t 5 4 1 8 8 4 3 4 6 6 X 1 1 /0 2 ) Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgander Youth G roup fo r ages 25 and younger m eets every M onday xi Eugene (5 pm Komotna Center. 1414 Kincaid St. 541 3 4 & I I 3 4 ) (1 1/02 ) Absolution D ear M s . B ehavior : I’m not a proctol ogist (at least not by formal training), but as a gay man in my extremely early 40s, I’ve had many first hand experiences with an amazing vari ety of assholes. These “exams” have invariably delighted my gra ciously accommodat ing partners. However, a recent sexual episode has convinced me that I need the advice of someone who has her finger on the pulse of gay ethics and morals. My quandary: Last week after immobilizing a very recent (instant) acquaintance with duct tape and clamping a gas mask over his face (not my scene, hut I try to he accom modating), I noticed a strange irregu larity in my trick’s rectum— a ridged bump just beyond the prostate. Mentioning this suspicious growth at the point of discov ery would have mined the atmos phere that the sling, mirrors, saran wrap, 50 feet of rope and three lengths of chain had taken sev eral hours to create. (Honestly, these days I sometimes feel more like a combination sailor, mechanic, fashion consultant and interior decorator than a sex pig.) I figured I could spill the heans after he spilled his load. But after I managed to cut the duct tape off his torso, take the gas mask from his face and introduce myself, I had second thoughts about my diagnosis. I was honestly con cerned for his health, but I am not a physician, and I didn’t want to min the remnants of his summer vacation needlessly with anxious thoughts of colon cancer. I figured I’d have him jot down his e-mail address and per haps suggest via the Internet that he make an appointment with a qualified physician in his hometown. Unfortunately, I didn’t notice the illegibility of his handwriting until mid-afternoon of the next day, three hours after his plane flew exit of the local airport. (I think the cotton swabs dipped in head cleaner that he insisted I shove into the gas mask tube must have affected his motor skills.) “Sex Pig Kevin in D.C.” is vague search criteria even for Google, so I fear locating him may he as unlikely as G.W. Bush finding his ass with both hands. I’m worried for my new...friend. I feel guilty, hut I don’t know what to do. My motto has always been “make the world a happier place— one ass at a time.” Somehow 1 feel that I’ve failed my mission in a most elemental way. I’m not sure if I’m looking to you for absolution or per haps asking you to warn others of the negative effects of saran wrap, or head cleaner, or duct tape, or faulty penmanship or a combination of all the above. I’m in your hands. — Guilt-ridden D ear G uilt - ridden : Glearly, Ms. Behavior needs to write an etiquette manual for sex pigs. Since many of you are gentlemen who are very concerned with the hap piness of your partners, you need detailed instruction on gracious ways to proceed in these delicate circumstances. Upon discover ing your date’s rec tal irregularity, you should have cut off his oxygen sup ply until he lost consciousness and etched your best guess at his proc tology diagnosis into his buttocks (backward) with a razor. Upon awakening, the painful skin of his rump would have caused your date to look in the minor, where he would see the crusty scab detailing your medical opinion. He’d immediately know that: a) you’re a loving, con cerned man, h) you’re a skilled diagnos tician, and c) his ass is safe with you. O f course, hindsight is of little use now, so you’ll have to think of anoth er way to contact him. You might try placing an ad in the personal pages of a few D.C.-area gay publications, saying something like, “Kevin, who likes gas masks and duct tape, it’s very important that you con tact me.” Then leave your e-mail address and hope that he’ll follow through. O f course, you’ll probably have to weed through countless responses from other men who long to he restrained and gassed, hut that’s the price you’re hound to pay for your lack of thoroughness during this recent encounter. Mentioning this suspicious growth at the point of discovery would have ruined the atmosphere that../had taken several hours to create in © Meryl Cohn 2002 MERYL C ohn is the author of Do What I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay and Lesbian Etiquette (Houghton Mifflin). Her Internet site is uHvut.mshehavior.com. Send questions or correspondence to msbehavicn@aol.com.
