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October lfl. 2002 ADVICE ............T ............ www conHuencechorus. orp.) (11 /02) The Eugene Lesbien/Gey/Bisexuel 20«/30* Social Club enjoys a w eekly gam e night and brunch every Su n day at Brail s. (Bnan 541 -48 5-3437.) ( 1 1/02) The Lesbian Connection CTLC) m eets once a month for potlucks and other various fun activities in Eugene. All women welcome. (Bonnie 5 4 1 ^ 8 3 -2 7 9 3 .)(11/02) Marion berry Salon m eets m onthly in Salem for potlucks and d iscu ssio n of b o o k s touching on the le s service and junior church. 6:30 pm W ednesday prayer cir (1 2 2 0 N E 68th S t . Vancouver 360 -69 3-1476 cle. 398 3 N E 112th Ave. 503 261-0677.H \ 1/02) vanucc@ aoi com .) (11/02) Portland Radical Faeries meet twice a m onth with God's Holy Territory offers a spint-filled w orship potlucks and circles at the full m oon and the new experience, seeking G o d for holiness and w holeness. m oon. O pen to all men seeking alternative spintual For gay. lesbian, bi. trans and straight Everyone w el grow th and com m unity C offee hours start 9:30 am com e! ( I I am Sunday. 7 pm Thursday Bible study and Satu rdays at 3 Friends Coffeehouse. 201 S E 12th Ave. prayer 1 5 0 0 N E 49th St.. Vancouver 3 6 0 8 8 5 -9 4 6 1 . gm bear68@ netzero net.) (11/02) (503-235-0826. otter@ pcez c o m ) ( 11/02) SisterSpirit offers w om en's spirituality celebrations, d iscu ssio n groups, a drum m ing circle, w orksh ops and Michael Sonretus Unitarian Universalist Fellowship. a hom e for the liberal religious spirit. bian. gay or bi experience. (C a ry 503 -36 3 6 0 3 6 m anonberrysalon@ aol.com .) (1 1 /02) cla sse s. Schedule o f events available All w om en are (10 am Su n d a y 4 5 0 5 E 18th St.. Vancouver welcom e. (Suite 102. 3 4 3 0 S E Belm ont St. M ailing 3 6 0 -6 9 5 -1 8 9 1 .)(11/02) Team Oregon organizes athletes to participate in the ad d re ss P O B o x 9246. Portland. O R 97207. Gay Gam es Nov. 2-9. 2002. in Sydney. Australia. If you 5 0 3 736-3297 sistersp @ teleport.com .H U 102) want to participate m the opening and closing events, you must be part of Team Oregon, (www tearuuregonusa.vonv ( 11 / 02 ) Spirit Circle is for lesbian, bisexual or transgendered w om en seeking a w elcom ing com m unity in the Catholic church. M e e ts every third Thursday in the Nativity SPIRITUALITY S ch o o l of St. A n d re w 's C hurch (7 pm. 8 0 6 N E Alberta S t lbtspm tcircle@ yahoo.com .) (5/03) Ainsworth United Church of Christ is a multi racial. multicultural, open and affirm ing church. Sunday w orship is at 10 am; church school for children runs concurrently (2941 N E Ainsw orth St. 503-284-8767. aucc@teleport. com .) (11 /02) Christian m editation ancf prayer (7:30 pm Thursday 5 0 3 -2 8 1 -0 7 2 2 ) (11 /02) 10 am w orship 700 M ahon St. NE. Salem . O regon. Su n day school and nursery care. (10 am Sunday. 12250 S W D e n n ey Road. Beaverton 503-644-2073. staff@ southm in.com .) (11/02) St. Andrew Catholic Church invites all to join a diverse faith com m unity for prayer and fellow ship Morningside United Methodist Church is a rec onciling congregation where everyone is w elcom e to participate in the full life of the congregation (8:30 and 11 am Sunday. 3 6 7 4 12th St. SE. Salem . 5 0 3 -3 6 4 -5 0 1 3 )0 1 / 0 2 ) Sacred Souls honors aH sacred paths, prom otes peace ( 11 / 02 ) and strives to create an environment that supports and prom otes interfaith dialogue. M eets at the O regon School St. Jam as Lutheran Church, a Reconciled in of M assage. (6:30-8 pm Sunday. 440 Ferry St. SE. Salem wholhlth@aol.com. w w w .sacredsouls.org.)(11/02) liturgical w orship w here w e experience G o d 's reconcil ing love that se ts all people free. (9 and 11 am Sunday. Flanders H ouse. (7.30-9 pm W ednesd ay 2 9 2 6 N E 1315 S W Park Ave. 5 0 3 -2 2 7 243 9.) (11102) H anders St. Jo n 503 -23 9-5539.) (11 /02) Gay and Lesbian Outreach (G ALO ) of St. Philip Congregation Neveh Shalom, an open and pro N e n C atholic C hurch celebrates an affirm ing M a ss fol gre ssive C onservative Jew ish synagogue, extends a low ed by a social (7:30 pm Friday Paulist Center. warm w elcom e to all sexual m inorities Shabbat se rv 2 4 0 8 S E 16th Ave. 5 0 3 -23 1-4955 ) 0 1/02) ices 8:15 pm Friday and 9 am Saturday. (2 9 0 0 S W St. Stephan's Episcopal Church has been wel Peaceful Lane 5 0 3 -2 4 6 -8 8 3 ;.2(11 /02) w heelchair accessible. (9 am Su n d a y learning hour, 503-363-3660.) ( 11/02) C h rist congregation, w elcom es all people for traditional, Com passionate Heart Sangha plays host to w eekly sittings in the V ip assan a M editation Tradition at w orship and church school Chjjd care provided and lenging. supportive com m unity that w elcom es all peo (9 3 0 am Sunday. 8 0 6 N E Alberta St. 503-281-4429.) Anawim Community of gay men m eets w eekly for First Congregational Church. United C hurch of C hrist is an open and affirming congregation offering Southm instsr Presbyterian Church is a chal ple. It is the first M o re Light Presbyterian C hurch in Metro: Sp iritu ality W illamette Valley: Sp iritu ality Metro: Youth Flavors, a program of M uKiQ ueer and Brother to Brother, is a social support group for sexual mmonty youth of color 24 and younger M eets every other Congregation P'nai O r (Face s of Light) is a Sunday for food and socializing. Regular events and activ vibrant, egalitarian. Jew ish Renew al congregation in ities. (D e s 503-228-3892 or des@ lm family org. Stephan Portland. M e e ts several tim es a m onth in various loca 503-417-7991 o r hey_stephan@hotm ail com .) (11/02) tions. (P O B o x 42187. Portland. O R 9 7 2 4 2 -0 1 8 7 Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network (G LSEN ) fights to end anti-gay bras m K-12 The 503 -24 8-4500 www pnaiorpdx o r g )(1 1 /02) Dignity Portland m eets for M a s s on Su n d a ys schools. (12 7 0 0 S W North D akota St.. Suite 180. (503-262-6947.) (11102) 4129. Tigard. O R 97223. 503-525-1177. glsen@ glsenoregonorg. w w w glsenoregon.org.)(11/02) Eastrose Fellowship Unitarian Universal!«!, a w elcom ing congregation, offers Su n day service and MultiQuoar a program "of Love M a ke s a Family, pro children's religious education at 10:30 am. (1 1 3 3 N E 181st Ave.. G resham 503-665-2628. eastro se @ vides advocacy to sexual m inority youth. O ffers teleport com .) (11 /02) system s, with a focu s on support for youth of color. resources and support in the com m unity and the school (D e s 503 -22 8-3892 des@ lm fam ily.org.)(11/02) Faith United Methodist Church is a w elcom ing com m unity of C hristians in Troutdale that values and Outside In operates a clinic for anyone w ho can't encourages all people in finding a place of belonging in qualify for the O regon Health Plan a s well a s needle the family of G od Su n day w orship at 10:15 am; Adult exchange services that include those w ho inject hor Education at 9 am; children and youth at 10 30 am. m ones. C an provide transitional housing for youth 20 W ednesday Prayers 6-6 30 pm. (2 7 4 0 0 S E Stark St. and younger a s well a s for those H IV + and younger than 5 0 3 -6 6 1 -4 5 2 0 ) (11/02) 23. A lso plays host to V O IC E S (V oices of Individual and Com m unity Em powerm ent from the Streets), a First Unitarian Church o f Portland is an open and self-support group for queer youth. N e e ds volunteers of affirming liberal religious com m unity offenng a wide all ages. (10 am -6 pm M onday-Friday 1132 S W 13th Ave. 503-53 5-3800 www outsidein.org.) (11/02) range of program s to nurture spiritual growth, com m unity and social justice. Su n d ay service 10 am. Vanguard Youth Sarvicas. a program of C ascadia (1011 S W 12th A ve 503-228-6389. w ww hrstunitananportland.org.) (11/02) Behavioral HealthCare. offers support and recreation to gay. lesbian, bi and trans kids 23 and younger. Program s include Clackamas County Saxuai Minority First United Methodist Church of Portland, a w elcom ing and reconciling congregation, believes no one is left out in G o d 's family. Sexual m inority potlucks held monthly. (10.30 am Sunday. 1838 S W Jefferson St. 503-228-3195. w ww .fum cpdx.org.)(\ 1/02) Youth Connection (C O S M Y Q provides opportuni The work of gay artist Mike Walsh is at Corvallis Arts Center through Oct. 30 evening celebrations with Rev. Stephanie Torres. C o n sc io u s Breathing experiences. Chanting. Healing Services. Meditation c la sse s and a m iracles study group. (5 pm. Bridgeport Com m unity Church. 621 N E 76th Ave. 5 0 3 2 8 7 -3 2 1 6 .H W 0 2 ) Integrity is a group of G L B T Episcopalians and fnends V an ou s locations throughout O regon. (Bruce M ason. Regional Director 5 0 3 -2 8 6 -9 1 1 1 o r brucepdx- oi@ attbi.com . www integntyusa org.) (1 1 /02) Interfaith Spiritual Center h o u se s spintual direc tors from vanous w orld religious traditions, w ho are available for guidance, c la sse s and retreats. (Se co n d Floor. 3 9 1 0 S E I Ith A ve 5 0 3 233-2026. ext. 3. www m terfaithspmtualcenter com. 2(11 /02) Meta no ia Peace Community United Methodist Church is a "h o u se church." bringing gay and straight together. (Daily prayer 7:20 am. Su n d a y gathenng 5 pm. 2 1 1 6 N E 18th A ve 5 0 3 281 3 6 9 7 w ww tearsoup. com /m etanoia. 2(11/02) Expression is a free art/expression support group in and 7:45 and 10 am Su n d a y Su n d a y sch o o l and child Gresham for queer youth Hang out and have fun every care at 10 am. Southw est 13th A venue at C la y Street. 503 -22 3-6424.) (11/02) Friday! (Jonathan 503 -87 29664. ext. 28.) Prido Projoct brings together W ashington County queer and Waeeriy Heights Church (UCC) is open and affirm ing with w orship, children's school and child care. questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social (1 0 am Su n d a y 3 3 0 0 S E W oodw ard S t 503 -23 8-1337 w ww w averfyucc org. 2(11 /02) in W ashington County (M olly 503-260-5792 mo4y@pndeproject.org.) Soxuai Minority Youth W y'east Unitarian Univarealist Congregation er access, pool tables and an informal place to hang out. is an open and liberal religious com m unity offering inter- generational se rvice s and religious education for chil W eekly youth support groups includes Trans Youth Group events. A lso information, referral and advocacy services Rocreotion Center (SM YR C ) offers drop-m com put and Personal Deity Proxy (a creative group) (4-8 pm dren. It w elcom es gay. lesbian, bi and trans members. M onday and W ednesday. 4 pm-cmdrughl Friday arid N urtures spiritual grow th and prom otes living by Unitarian U niversalist pnnciples. (4 pm Su n d a y Saturday 2 1 0 0 S E Belmont St. 503-872-9664. TTY 503-231 928 6 www smyre org.) Youth H IV/STD 3 9 1 5 S E Steele St. 503-77 7-3704 Prevention Projoct provides fun and educational pro gram s along with counseling and testing to queer youth m Zion United Church of Christ. an open and a friendly, relaxed environment (503-872-9664.) (1 1/02) affirm ing congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, bi, trans and heterosexual people w ho w ish to w orship in a Christ-centered, warm, caring, m ultiage/race/cultural faith community. ( I I am Su n d a y 2 0 2 5 N E 23rd Ave.. Metropolitan Community Church of Portland support and referrals to Clackam as County service com ing all people since 1863. (1 2 :1 0 p m W ednesday w w w w ye a stp n w d u u a .o rg.n i 1/02) G resham 5 0 3 -6 6 5 -8 7 4 1 )0 1 / 0 2 ) W ashington Youth Tripio Point offers education, support and advocacy holds ecum enical Su n day m orning w orship se rvice s at to gay, lesbian, bi. trans and questioning youth in 9 and 11 am Su n day school for children is held during Vancouver, W ash. M e e ts 6-8 pm Tuesdays in the b a se the 11 am w o rsh p service (2 4 0 0 N E Broadw ay 50 3 281 8 8 6 8 m fo@ m ccportland.com ) (11/02) Portland Center for Spiritual Growth in the Unity C hurch budding invites you to celebrate your spir ituality with the R e vs C a se y and BerdeH M offett Chaney. Liberal, practical, all are welcom e. (5 pm Sunday service: 7:30-9 pm M onday Spintual Pnnop le W ashington Sp iritu ality em body spintual principles. (IO a m Su n d a y 10006 N E Ninth A v e . Vancouver 3 6 0 5 7 3 2 6 2 6 )0 1 / 0 2 ) l a ii 5 0 3 -7 7 7 -0 7 2 7 .n \\ 1072) 5701 M acArthur B h d 3 6 0 6 9 3 4 7 6 1 ourclarkcounty Colum bian c o m / 2 7 3 / .)0 1/02) w f R i r v f t se t O C f w f i C R lb O R J f S f l l i (JWtn 3 6 0 3 9 5 -1 3 2 5 ) (11/02) Abundant U fa Canter is A N ew Thought G ab Group: 4-4 4 0 pm Su n d a y R escu in g the Bible from the Right W ing D iscu ssio n Group. 4 5 2 5 S E Stark A ve rO ^ O R n O ment of Youth H ouse. 1112 Colum bia St. in Vancouver Com m unity for spintual aw akening and transform ing lives through love. A safe place vAiere children learn to V an cou ver unnvQ meinuuivi v^nuren is reconciling and w elcom ing (1 0 am Su n day open, progressive New Thought commuraty welcom ing First C ongregational Church. United C hurch of everyone to discover the sprit withm C hange your ttsnk- ng. change your life' (10 am Sunday mediation. 10.30am Christ, h olds two Su n d ay services, traditional and "le ss traditional" in an open and afhm w ig congregation Lesbian steals girlfriend away to ru ral community D ear M s . B ehavior : My best friend, Emily, finally met the woman of her dreams, Patricia. I’ve met Patricia several times and have been shocked by her lack of charm. I know it can be hard for someone new to be accepted in a social circle, so I’ve tried not to be judgmental, but Patricia is truly hard to like. She’s gruff, self-centered and cheap. When my partner and I went to visit them, Patricia totally controlled the conversation, the videos we rent ed, and what time each person could shower. It also became clear that she controls Emily, their mutual finances and even the food they eat. Emily no longer eats “dead animals” and won’t drink alcohol any more. (She used to love lamb chops and martinis.) Even worse, Emily is moving with Patricia to a rural les bian community where they don’t know anyone. The new town is more affordable, accord ing to Patricia, but I think she’s taking Emily there so she can isolate her and keep her under control. Should 1 say anything to Emily? I cannot bear the thought of her being trapped on a farm in a town where she doesn’t know anyone with this big controlling loser. — Emily’s Last Hope W illamette Valley: Youth Gay, Losbian, Bi, Transgandor and Quaationing Youth Group for age s 13 to 18 offers support, information and fun in Eugene. Free, confidential, adult (Drop in 4-6 pm Friday Am azon Community Center. 2700 tilyard St 541-684-3466 H11/02) D ear E mily ’ s L ast H ope : You can try telling Emily how you feel, hut she probably won’t listen. If she’s in love, it’s like being under the influence of a powerful drug; you can’t change someone’s mind while she’s still high. Telling Emily that her new girl friend is a controlling loser too many times— more than once or twice— might alienate her and make it hard for her to run back to your welcoming bosom once she realizes her soul has indeed been snatched. Don’t despair, though. People often freak out when they realize they’ve been controlled. Sometimes they escape from their bossy partners abruptly and unexpectedly. Once the spell wears off (six months to two years, on average), Emily will probably find her way home to you and her beloved dead animals and martinis. Just make sure she stashes away enough money for bus fare before she leaves for the farm. facilitated Losbian, Gay. Bisoxuai, Transgandor Youth Group for a g e s 25 and younger m eets every M on day in Eugene (5 pm Kcmone Center. 1414 Kincaid St 541-346-1134.) (11/02) mother cried when I told her I was gay, which really hurt my feelings. But Mom went to therapy and quickly grew to accept me. The problem is that now she has gone to another extreme: Every time she meets someone she thinks might be gay, she tells them about me and how much she loves and accepts me. Last week, I got two phone calls because of my mother. One was from a man she met on a train. She thought he was cute and wanted to fix us up so he could help me decorate my apart ment! (She said he was dressed nicely so she was sure he’d have good taste.) He sounded like a total freak, and I refused to meet him. The second call was from Mom’s new female hair- cutter, who hap pened to be wearing a Melissa Etheridge shirt when she cut my mother’s hair. O f course, my mom asked if she was a lesbian and once the haircutter said yes, my mother gave her my phone number! I had nothing to say to this woman. I appreciate that my mother is proud of me and that she is overcom pensating because she feels guilty that she cried when 1 first told her. But I don’t like getting e-mail and phone calls from strangers. How can I make my mother stop? — Eric If she’s In love, It’s like being under the influence of a. powerful drug free, fun and supportive social activities. A lso one-on-one providers (503-969-0060. cosm ycyoulhQ yahoo com .) Grace Space is a N ew Thought spintual center dedi cated to offenng w ays to experience Spirit. Su n d ay ties for queer and questioning kids to get together for Soul snatcher D ear M s . B ehavior : I’m a 27-year-old gay man, and I • came out about six years ago. My D ear E ric : Tell your mother that you appreci ate her support but that giving out your number so freely leaves you open to being pursued by weirdoes, stalkers and people with bad taste in hair, art and theater. Explain that despite the message transmitted by popular culture, not all gay men are sweet and kind decora tors and not all lesbians are gentle folk singers. Send your mom news paper clippings about serial killers who prey on innocent homosexuals whose mothers accept them. And try to resist the temptation to post her phone number on a lesbian Web site, just to show her what it’s like out there. © Meryl Cohn 2002 M eryl C ohn is the author of Do What I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay and Lesbian Etiquette ( Houghton Mifflm). Her Internet site is www.msbehavior.com. Send questions or correspondence to mshehmnor@aol .com.
