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august 16,2002 ' 29 ADVICE lesbian, bi, trans and straight Everyone wel- . come! (11 am Sunday. 7 pm Thursday Bible c| study and prayer 1500 NE 49th S t. Vancouver • 360-885-9461 gmbear68@netzero.net.H 1 1/02) i Michael Servetus Unitarian p Universalist Fellowship, a home fo r the liberal religious spirit. (10 am Sunday. 4505 E P 18th St.. Vancouver 360-695-1891.) (11/02) Willamette Valley: Spirituality First Congregational Church, United Church of Christ is an open and affirming congregation offering worship and church school. Child care provided and wheelchair accessible (9 am Sunday learning hour. 10 am worship. 700 Marion St. NE. Salem. 503-363-3660.) ( 11/02) M om ingside United Methodist Church The Broadw ay Rose Theatre Com pany “brings to life” the gu ys of Forever Plaid through Aug. Marionberry Salon meets monthly in Salem for potlucks and discussion o f books touching on the les bian. gay or bi experience. (Cary 503-363-6036. manonberrysabn@aol. com .) (11 /0 2 ) Team Oregon organizes athletes to participate in the Gay Games Nov. 2-9, 2002, in Sydney, Australia. If you want to participate in the opening and closing events, you must be part of Team Oregon. (www. teamoregonusa com) (11 /02) SPIRITUALITY ......... " ' iiiiiw .............I " m »'» I mm » ' Ainsworth United Church of Christ is a multi racial, m ulticultural, open and affirm ing church. Sunday worship is at 10 am; church school fo r children runs concurrently. (2941 NE Ainsworth St. 503-284-8767. aucc@ teleport. com.) (11 /0 2 ) Anawim Community of gay men meets weekly for Chnstian meditation and prayer. (7.30 pm Thursday. 5 0 3 -2 8 1 0 7 2 2 .H U /0 2 ) Com passionate Heart Sangha plays host to weekly sittings in the Vipassana M editation Tradition at Flanders House. (7:30-9 pm Wednesday. 2926 NE Handers St. Jon 503-239-5539.) (11/02) Congregation Neveh Shalom an open and pro gressive Conservative Jewish synagogue, extends a warm welcome to all sexual minonties. Shabbat serv ices 8:15 pm Friday and 9 am Saturday. (2900 SW Peaceful Lane. 503-249-8831.) ( 11 /0 2 ) Congregation P'nai O r (Faces of Light) is a vibrant, egalitarian, Jewish Renewal congregation in Portland. M eets several times a month in various loca tions. (PO Box 42187. Portland. OR 97242-0187. 503-248-4500 www.pnaiorpdx.org.) (11/02) Dignity Portland meets fo r Mass on Sundays. (503-262-6947.) ( U m Eastrose Fellowship Unitarian Universal!st a wel coming congregation, offers Sunday service and children's religious education at 10:30 am. (1133 NE 181st Ave.. Gresham. 503-665-2628. eastrose@teleport.com .)(11 /02) Faith United Methodist Church is a welcoming community o f Christians in Troutdale that values and encourages all people in finding a place of belonging in the family o f God. Sunday worship at 10:15 am; Adult Education at 9 am; children and youth at 10:30 am. Wednesday Prayers 6-6:30 pm. (27400 SE Stark St. 503-661-4520.) (11/02) First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open and affirming liberal religious community offering a wide range of programs to nurture spiritual growth, community and social justice. Sunday service 10 am. (1011 SW 12th Ave 503-228-6389 www.firstuntananportland.org.) (11/02) First United Methodist Church of Portland a welcoming and reconciling congregation, believes no one is le ft out in God's family. Sexual m inority potlucks held monthly. (10.30 am Sunday 1838 SW Jefferson S t 503228-3195 www fum cpdx.org.) (11/02) Grace Space is a New Thought spiritual center dedi cated to offering ways to experience Spirit Sunday evening celebrations with Rev. Stephanie Torres, Conscious Breathing experiences, Chanting, Healing Services, M editation classes and a miracles study group. (5 pm Bridgeport Community Church. 621 NE 76th Ave 503-287-3216.H U /02) Integrity is a group of GLBT Episcopalians and friends Various locations throughout Oregon. (Bruce Mason. Regional D irector 503-286-9111 or brucepdxor@ attbi.com. www.integrityusa.org.H 1 1/02) Intorfaith Spiritual Cantor. Spintual directors from various world religious traditions are available for guidance, classes and retreats. (Second Floor. 3910 SE 11th Ave 503-233-2026. ext. 3 wwwmterfaithspintualcentercom.) ( 11 / 02 ) --- — ■„ ..„ ¡ a ,1 I I— la— -I i l , » » , ,, , | l , t tvi©ianOiri r « o C v w O in iiiu n iiy u n v iu o R fB t n o t iis i Church is a "house church," bringing gay and straight together (Daily prayer 7 2 0 am. Sunday gathering 5 pm 2116 NE 18th Ave 503-281 3697 www tearsoup.com /m etanoia.HU /0 2 ) A A a n Ite ia a W B T rO p O llM in ^ jtu ^ lia iv A li L /O lV I V lI lin ilj L /flllv ta il v T Portland Canter for Spiritual Growth in the Unity Church building invites you to celebrate your spintuality with the Revs. Casey and Berdell Moffett-Chaney. Liberal, practical; all are welcome. (5 pm Sunday service: 7.30-9 pm Monday Spiritual Principle Gab Group , 4-440 pm Sunday Rescuing the Bible from the Right Wing Discussion Group 4525 SE Stark Ave. 503-777-0727.) (11/02) Portland Church of Religious Science is a liber Metro: Spirituality - « ----- » - holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at 9 and 11 am. Sunday school for children is held during the 11 am worship service. (2400 NE Broadway. 503-281 -8868. info@mccportland. com. ) (1 1/02) D n a tliifiif r U t llfllttl al, open, progressive New Thought community welcom ing everyone to discover the spirit within. Change your thinking, change your life! (10 am Sunday meditation. 10 30 am service and ju n ior church. 6:30 pm Wednesday prayer circle. 3983 NE 112th Ave. 503-261 -0677.) ( U 102) Portland Radical Faeries meet twice a month with potlucks and circles at the full moon and the new moon. Open to all men seeking alternative spiritual growth and community. Coffee hours start 9:30 am Saturdays at 3 Friends Coffeehouse, 201 SE 12th Ave. (503-235-0826 0 tter@pce 2 .com.) (11/02) SisterSpirit offers women's spirituality celebrations, discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and classes. Schedule of events available. All women are welcome. (Suite 102, 3430 SE Belmont St. Mailing address: PO Box 9246, Portland, OR 97207. 503-736-3297. sistersp@ teleport.com .) (11/02) South minster Presbyterian Church is a chal lenging, supportive community that welcomes all peo ple. It is the first M ore Light Presbyterian Church in Oregon. Sunday school and nursery care. (10 am Sunday. 12250 SW Denney Road, Beaverton. 503-644-2073. staff@ southmin.com.) (11 /02) Gay and Lesbian Outreach (GALO ) of St. Philip Neri Catholic Church celebrates an affirm ing Mass followed by a social. (7:30 pm Friday. Paulist Center. 2408 SE 16th Ave. 503-231 -4955. ) (1 1/02) • St. Stephen's Episcopal Church has been wel coming all people since 1863. (12.10 pm Wednesday and 7 4 5 and W arn Sunday. Sunday school and child care at 10 am. Southwest 13th Avenue at Clay Street. 503-223-6424 ) ( 11/02) Waverly Heights Church (U C O is open and affirm ing with worship, children's school and child care. (W am Sunday 3300 SE Woodward S t 503 238 1337 www.waver1yucc.org.) (11 /0 2 ) W y'east Unitarian Universalist Congregation is an open and liberal religious community offenng inter- generational services and religious education for chil dren. It welcomes gay, lesbian, bi and trans members Nurtures spintual growth and promotes living by Unitarian Universalist principles (4 pm Sunday 3915 SE Steele St. 503-777-3704 www.wyeast.pnwd.uua.org.) (11/02) Zion United Church of Christ an open and affirming congregation, is open to gay, lesbian, bi. trans and heterosexual people who wish to worship in a Christ-centered, warm, caring, m ultiage/race/cultural faith community. (11 am Sunday. 2025 NE 23rd Ave.. Gresham 503665-8741.)U 1/02) Washington: Spirituality Abundant Life Center. A New Thought Community for spiritual awakening, transforming lives through love A safe place where children learn to embody spintual principles (10 am Sunday 10009 NE Nmth Ave., Vancouver. 360-573-2626.) (11 /0 2 ) is a reconciling congregation where everyone is welcome to participate in the full life o f the con gregation. (8.30 and 11 am Sunday. 3674 12th S t SE Salem. 5 0 3 36 4 -5 0 13 .H W 0 2 ) Sacred Sou ls honors all sacred paths, pro motes peace and strives to create an environment that supports and prom otes interfaith dialogue. M eets at the Oregon School o f Massage. (6 30-8 pm Sunday. 440 Ferry St. SE. Salem, wholhlth@aol.com. www sacredsouls. o rg ) (11 /0 2 ) YOUTH rnmmmmmmmmmmmmm Metro: Youth Flavors, a program of MultiQueer and Brother to Brother, is a social support group for sexual minority youth o f color 24 and younger. Meets every other Sunday for food and socializing. Regular events and activ ities. (Des 503-228-3892 or des@lmfamily org. Stephan 503-417-7991 o r hey_stephan@hotmail.com.) (11 /02) The Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network (G LSEN ) fights to end anti-gay bias in K-12 schools. (12700 SW N orth Dakota St.. Suite 180. *129. Tigard. OR 97223. 503-525-1177. glsen@glsenoregon org. www.glsenoregon.org.) (11/02) MultiQueer. a program of Love Makes a Family, pro vides advocacy to sexual minonty youth. Offers resources and support in the community and the school systems, with a focus on support for youth o f color. (Des 503-228-3892 des@lmfamily org.) (11/02) Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can t qualify fo r the Oregon Health Ran as well as needle exchange services that include those who inject hor mones. Can provide transitional housing for youth 20 and younger as well as for those HIV+ and younger than 23. Also plays host to V O IC E S (Voices of Individual and Community Empowerment from the Streets), a self- support group for queer youth Needs volunteers of all ages. (10 am-6 pm Monday-Friday. 1132 SW 13th Ave. 503-535-3801. www. outsidein. org.) (11 /02) Vanguard Youth Services, a program of Cascadia Behavioral HealthCare, offers support and recreation to gay, lesbian, bi and trans kjds 23 and younger. Programs include Clackam as County Sexual Minority Youth Connection (C O SM Y C ) provides opportuni ties for queer and questioning kids to get together for free, fun and supportive social activities. Also one-on-one support and referrals to Clackamas County service providers. (5 03-969-0060 cosmycyouth@yahoo.com ) Expression is a free art/expression support group in Gresham for queer youth Hang out and have fun every Friday! (Jonathan 503-872-9664. ext 28 ) Pride Project bnngs together Washington County queer and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social events Also information, referral and advocacy services in Washington County. (Molly 503-2605792. moHy@prideproiect org.) Sexual Minority Youth Recreation Center (SM YR C ) offers drop-in comput er access, pool tables and an informal place to hang out. Weekly youth support groups includes Trans Youth Group and Personal Deity Proxy (a creative group). (4-8 pm Monday and Wednesday. 4 pm-midrught Friday arid Saturday 2100 SE Belmont St. 503-872-9664 TTY 503-231 9286 www smyre org.) Youth HIV/STD Prevention Project provides fun and educational pro grams along with counseling and testing to queer youth in a friendly, relaxed environment (503-8729664 ) ( ! 1/02) Washington: Youth Triple Point offers education, support and advocacy to gay, lesbian, bi. trans and questioning youth in Vancouver, Wash M eets 6-8 pm Tuesdays m the base ment o f Youth House. 1112 Columbia St. in Vancouver (John 360-695 1325) (11/02) East Vancouver United Methodist Church. Reconciling, welcoming (10 am Sunday. 5701 M acArthur Btvd 360-693-4761 o u rcla rkco u n ty C olum bian co m /2 7 3 /.) (11 /0 2 ) First Congregational Church, United Church of Christ. Two Sunday services, traditional and "less traditional' in an open and affirm ing congregation (1220 NE 68th S t. Vancouver 360693 1476 vanucc@aol com J (1 1/02) God's Hofy Territory. A spmt hted worshp expen ence. seeking God fo r holiness and wholeness For gay. Willamette Valley: Youth Gay, Lesbian, Bi, Transgender and Questioning Youth Group for ages 13 to 18 offers support, infer nation and fun in Eugene Free, confidental. adult-facili tated (Drop n 4-6 pm Friday Amazon Community Center. 2 7 0 0 H *yardS t 541 684 3 4 6 6 )(1 1 /0 2 ) Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender Youth Group for ages 25 and younger meets every Monday in Eugene (5 pm Komorna Center. 1414 Kincaid St 541-346-1134 ) (1 1/02) Another think coming Are fantasies cheating? Age-old question answered. D ear M s . B ehavior : Is it OK to fanta size about other peo ple while making love to my partner of four years? I’m not cheat ing, am I? I mean, don’t fantasies about others help keep cou ples together? — Far, F af Away He’s not willing to compromise about it. He says: “If it's not worth it to you to give up anonymous sex for a few weeks to check it out with me, fine. Don’t have sex with me.” If I did agree to Joel’s terms and stopped having sex D ear F ar , F ar with others in order A way : to date him, wouldn’t You’re not giving it be dishonest? I’d be away much informa agreeing to be faith by M e ry l Cohn tion, are you? ful under false pre There’s probably no harm in making tenses, i.e., not because I love him but love to your partner while fantasizing just to get him to have sex with me. about someone famous, like, say, Sarah I don’t really understand the point. Michelle Gellar or Venus Williams or On the other hand, I guess there’s no even Russell Crowe, for that matter. harm in giving myself a rest for a few There’s not much chance that you’ll weeks. meet one of these people or that the I’m confused about whether it’s focus you place on these fantasies will wrong to agree to something I don’t harm your real-life relationship. really believe in. I’ve also considered But if you happen to have a real- telling Joel I’m not having sex with life crush on a friend anyone else but doing or co-worker, you what I want to do should try not to anyway since it won’t think about that per harm anyone. son while you’re in Besides, what if I bed with your partner. have sex with Joel Thinking of your and it sucks? What crush at the wrong should I do? time— the moment of — Tony orgasm, for exam ple— will only D ear T ony : enhance your feelings You’re making for that person and this way too compli create distance cated. If you find between you and your that sex with Joel partner. It’s not exactly “cheating,” sucks, don’t do it again. but having a private scenario— about It’s not like he’s asking you to sign tying up your next-door neighbor and up to have him be your only sexual licking honey off her breasts, for partner for life; he’s just asking you example— in your head while your not to have sex with others while you girlfriend’s face is between your thighs and he are being intimate. Here’s the might be an obstacle to feeling close. cool part: If you have sex with Joel O f course, you can always tell your once and don’t like it, you can blow partner what’s going on in your head, every racquetball player at your gym reciting what’s happening as if you’re the next day, if you want. reading subtitles on a movie screen. You don’t need to “believe in” his This could be sexy and help you stay premise or even pretend to think it’s a connected to your partner physically, good idea. The question is only emotionally and romantically. whether you’re willing to play by his rules. D ear M s . B ehavior : If you’re willing to check things What do you think of a man who out with Joel and give yourself “a rest” demands monogamy before even from your usual tricks, that’s fine. If being in a relationship? you’re not, that’s also OK. There’s 1 met Joel at the gym, and we’ve nothing wrong with passing up the had several dates that have, surprising opportunity to date Joel. ly, not resulted in sex. He is great and But don’t be a rat and pretend to sexy and smart, but he refuses to sleep be monogamous when you’re not just with me...unless 1 promise not to because you believe it “won’t harm sleep with anyone else while we date. anyone.” Ms. Behavior’s powers do I am capable of monogamy but not extend to clearing anyone’s karma. j n don’t see why I should agree to it with out knowing whether Joel is the one for me. (Isn’t sex one of the ways you © Meryl Cohn 2002 decide if someone is right for you?) Joel is not pushing for an emotion MERYL C ohn is the author of Do What al commitment before getting to I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay know me, but he insists on fidelity if and Lesbian Etiquette (Houghton our relationship becomes sexual. I Mifflin). Her Internet site is asked him if this is a fear-of-AIDS wmv.mshehavior.com. Send questions or issue, but he says no. correspondence to msbehaiior@aol. com. M s. Behavior What do you think of a m an who demands monogamy before even being in a relationship? $
